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The Daily Mess Are Bosses Victims At Work Plus How To Deal With The Emotion · Arroe Collins Like It's Live

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  Speaker 1: your exploration. HET's me that question guy. Yeah, always asking
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  Speaker 1: questions because it's really fun when you start digging in
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  Speaker 1: for answers. This week's question, do business leaders choose to
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  Speaker 1: be the victim during battles and office chaos? Plus how
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  Speaker 1: much emotion is actually pulled into a moment when the
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  Speaker 1: boss does feel like the victim. My name is Arrow.
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  Speaker 1: I'm the daily Writer, a silent wolf. I stand on
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  Speaker 1: the sideline say do nothing but watch, listen, study, then activate.
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  Speaker 1: I call it the Daily Mess because it's a chronological
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  Speaker 1: walk through an everyday world. It is my morning writing
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  Speaker 1: and as a receiver of thoughts and ideas, we all
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  Speaker 1: as people tend to throw things to the side because
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  Speaker 1: we are convinced that we're going to deal with it
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  Speaker 1: later on. Well, when a subject arrives inside of me,
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  Speaker 1: I know it's time to dig in. It's still keeping
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  Speaker 1: that daily journal, but by doing the research, the picture
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  Speaker 1: becomes clearer. This is the daily mess. Do some bosses
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  Speaker 1: choose to be the victim during battles or chaos at
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  Speaker 1: the office? Yeah, it's called victim stance. It's less about
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  Speaker 1: a conscious choice than coping with the pressure of the
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  Speaker 1: everyday world. Victim stance. When things get messy, missdeadlines, layoffs,
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  Speaker 1: and unclear directions, victim stance. Things to look for, Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: a little something to take note of if you or
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  Speaker 1: your boss are pulling off a moment of victim stance.
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  Speaker 1: Number one deflection self protection. Instead of owning the chaos,
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  Speaker 1: the department head or decision maker blames those above him
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  Speaker 1: or her. It acts as a shield, you know, to
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  Speaker 1: protect their identity and their competent leadership. Number two learned behavior.
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  Speaker 1: Leaders who find absolutely no guilt in passing the buck,
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  Speaker 1: and so many of them see this as being something
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  Speaker 1: that's completely normal. Number three lack of control. Upper upper
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  Speaker 1: managers are making the decisions and the team lead feels powerless, frustrated,
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  Speaker 1: and defenseless. That means emotion. So that's the next question
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  Speaker 1: coming up next. How much emotion is actually pulled into
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  Speaker 1: the scene of a boss that claims to be the victim. Hey,
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  Speaker 1: welcome back to the daily mess. How much emotion is
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  Speaker 1: actually pulled into the scene of a boss that is
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  Speaker 1: claiming to be a business victim. Another clear sign is
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  Speaker 1: emotional acceleration, in other words, the exposure as it unveils
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  Speaker 1: a leadership gap. This is usually associated with business leaders
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  Speaker 1: who endlessly feel uncertain. This leads to frustration, defensiveness, and
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  Speaker 1: the infamous why is this happening to me? Victim stance.
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  Speaker 1: Here's a trigger for employees when the top dog uses
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  Speaker 1: phrases such as there's nothing we can do about this.
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  Speaker 1: What a strong in control leader would say, here's what's
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  Speaker 1: out of our control. Plus here's what we can do next.
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  Speaker 1: Oh hell yes. Employees know the difference. If this is
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  Speaker 1: your boss, put your focus on getting solutions as well
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  Speaker 1: as clarity. You've got to ask questions like what is
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  Speaker 1: the priority here? And do all you can to document
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  Speaker 1: every bit of this chaos, because if you don't it's
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  Speaker 1: going to turn into confusion later. All of this is
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  Speaker 1: completely natural. Yeah, when the pressure is on, some retreat,
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  Speaker 1: others grow forward. Hi'm Harrol and that's the daily mess.