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Scheduling Fun & Self Care For A Better Life · Candid Coach Conversations

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  Hey everyone, have you ever thought about creating something and then thought,
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  gosh, I don't know where to start or I don't know if anybody will want it?
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  If so, today's episode is for you.
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  I'm Kimberly Boyd, Founder of Live Life Fully,
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  and I have with me today the amazing Shuntá Montgomery,
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  Certified Live Life Fully Coach Good morning!
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  Yay, good morning, good morning,
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  how are you?
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  Doing great. Glad to be here with you today.
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  I'm so curious, first of all, before we even get started here,
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  what are you most excited about in life right now?
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  What am I most excited about? ~
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  Yeah.
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  so many things to finally
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  Be at a place of internal joy,
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  not necessarily focusing on outward joy,
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  just enjoying myself and the space that I've created for me.
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  I love that. Internal joy. I'm writing that down.
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  Speaking of joy, have you ever seen the movie Joyful Noise?
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  I have, I believe. It reminds me
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  With Sally.
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  of Sister A. Okay, probably not then.
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  I'm thinking of Sister A.
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  Okay. Yeah. It came out I don't know however many years ago,
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  but of course my hero, Dolly Parton ~
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  think so. She
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  she's in a church, right? Singing?
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  Yes, it's so good. Yeah. I think I went three
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  I think I've seen it.
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  in a row. I couldn't get enough.
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  You want to go
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  see it three three times in a row?
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  Yes.
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  Yeah, ~ yeah. we have ~ lost the gems
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  Yes, we have. We have for sure.
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  So but go see Joyful Noise or pull it up and watch it somehow.
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  I don't even know where to watch it now.
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  I love the fact that you
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  We'll figure it out.
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  brought up internal joy. I've I think that well,
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  part of finding internal joy and thinking about wanting to start something,
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  not sure if it's the right thing,
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  not sure if anybody's gonna want it.
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  And so
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  I think those two things go together,
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  really. And I wanted to talk with you and for you to share with us,
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  because I know you created this digital planner,
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  which is phenomenal. And if you want to,
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  if you will, walk us through like how did you come up with that idea?
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  What struck you, like what made it important to you to have a digital planner,
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  to create the digital planner,
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  and then to have it out there.
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  Tell us about it.
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  Well, for me digital because I always lose my paper.
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  Or if not lose it, it's not where I need it when I need it.
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  And so I do still carry both the digital and paper.
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  However, whenever I can't find my paper or ~ it's not available,
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  I always have my digital as a backup.
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  ~
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  So I love it.
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  Okay, so tell us about the digital planner.
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  Like what are some key features at this digital planner that you've created?
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  Because I mean it's for sale. People can buy it.
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  So what are some key features about
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  Yeah.
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  it that make it unique?
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  Well, another thing that I like about the digital planner is it's a all-in-one.
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  And that was important to me because a lot of times you'll get a planner,
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  you'll get a budget planner, then you'll have meal planner,
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  you maybe have like your thoughts and goals,
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  then they have a book planner,
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  and this digital planner has all of that.
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  And it has hyperlinks so you don't have to like do a lot of scrolling.
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  You can go back to the home screen,
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  click on a hyperlink, and it'll take you directly to your meal planning,
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  or it'll take you directly to your budget planner.
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  And ~ yeah, so I love that. And you can add as many pages as you need.
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  So it's something that is customizable according to you,
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  where you can add pages if you need more for budget,
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  or you can ~
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  use the ones that's there. You could take away or just ignore a page
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  if you don't need it. You're not a budget planner.
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  You use QuickBooks or something.
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  So I love that about it.
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  Okay, so customizable to the person.
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  So if I decided to buy this planner,
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  I would have all these options that you've created to include in my planner.
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  So if I said, well, what's important to me in an all-in-one is a daily prompt
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  for journaling, my schedule, meal prepping or planning for the week,
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  and a grocery list. Then I would be able to like pull those pages
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  and put them together and have my planner,
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  and then there it is.
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  Yes, and then you would duplicate that for each month.
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  my gosh. Yeah, that's incredible.
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  So how has it helped you? Like have you always been a planner
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  It is. It's amazing. I'm sorry,
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  what was that?
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  have you always been a planner kind of girl or a calendar kind of girl?
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  Yes and no. I've always
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  Yeah.
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  tried to have a planner because it's a great idea to know things.
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  and the no part is I lose it, I don't stick to it,
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  ~ I can't find it, or it's not like when I'm doing my planning,
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  it's not available. So yeah, I think the digital part made it more reliable for me.
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  So like
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  If I don't have my paper, I still love my paper just because I like
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  to write things down and I can always see it.
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  But my digital is my backup when I'm not with my paper copy.
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  Yeah, I love that. So,
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  I also ~ keep both and 'cause you're right,
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  it's so helpful and I don't always want to carry around my big planner.
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  So I did run into a problem one time and I'm wondering if you ever well,
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  I'd have been one more than one time,
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  actually. I had not updated my digital planner to match my paper planner.
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  And of course I double booked myself.
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  So has that ever happened to you?
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  Yes.
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  good.
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  I was like, just make you feel better.
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  okay, good. Because so what I've changed after that happened,
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  maybe more than once, I was like,
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  what in the world am I gonna do?
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  And so and I'd love to hear what you do,
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  how you've remedied that. For me,
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  I plan and prepare on Sundays.
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  And so I'll make sure everything matches on Sundays so that I am in sync
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  and won't double book.
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  What have you done to remedy that?
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  Have so I have a work planner schedule thing of my jig.
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  And that work planner gets everything.
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  It's synced
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  Mm-hmm.
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  to all emails. And so any event that comes up,
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  it's synced to that. And so that's my go-to that I check,
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  and that's what I check for my digital planner and my paper planner
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  to ensure that everything is equal and
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  Mm-hmm.
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  both.
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  In the same place.
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  Awesome. Okay, so do you pick a day of the week that you do that or
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  it just happens automatically for you?
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  I'm loving the automatic. ~ not sure how long that would take me to figure out.
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  yes.
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  Okay, so it's automatic. That's great.
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  yes, you sync your calendars to now not to my planner,
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  it's not there yet. I'm working on that where you'll be able to actually sync your
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  calendar and it'll just pull from your calendar.
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  but the digital planner that I have created is not there and
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  the digital planner I've created is not there yet.
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  However, ~ that's why I like the work scheduler because I've synced my personal,
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  my work and my ~
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  my coaching planner, they all go to that schedule and they
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  Beautiful.
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  all post things that I'm doing.
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  And they
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  Okay.
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  they literally would not allow you to double book.
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  You you literally have to click on ignore and double book.
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  So I love that.
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  Okay.
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  So the planner that you've created,
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  it really is about keeping your life in check,
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  keeping your life in sync, deciding what is important to you to track
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  or to journal about or to schedule.
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  And then
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  you could also
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  ~ yes.
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  take your work calendar, although your work calendar doesn't sync with this planner
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  you've created yet, I'm assuming you could plug it in on your own manually.
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  Yes.
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  Absolutely.
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  Beautiful.
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  Absolutely. And it's easier 'cause it's electronic and so it just
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  can seamlessly move over. You can customize it
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  Good. So
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  where you can add your own pictures and ~ things like that.
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  So it's really a fun calendar.
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  You don't have to buy the stickers.
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  You don't have to buy They come with it.
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  Yeah. Well you you gotta go get You gotta go to like
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  Pinterest and things and go get But yeah,
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  you can add stickers and customize it.
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  So cool. Okay, and I know that it is available on the website,
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  like in the shop for LLFully.com which I'm super excited about.
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  And thinking about planners. So I want to shift a little bit
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  and thinking about planners and what you find to be important in terms of planners.
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  And I guess specifically what I'm wondering is we talk about work schedules,
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  and of course, we put all of the stuff for work on our schedule and we have
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  it and we know and
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  So we don't forget, and what about fun?
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  Like fun activities or relationships.
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  Yeah. so I definitely put my fun activities on my calendar.
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  I put fun activities with friends,
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  with family, so much so to where I have set a repeating schedule
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  for my so the f the most famous one because it's the first one that I
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  did was Tay Day. And Tay Day is my day that I have with my daughter.
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  ~ and every four so I use her birth date which is the fourteenth
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  and so every fourteenth of the month I have said that's Tay Day and so
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  we may not get that exact date every month because it may fall on
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  a Wednesday and we're busy or something,
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  but either before or after we're gonna connect and we're gonna do something.
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  Well I've taken it a step further and so I have a Tay Day,
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  I have a twins day
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  I have a D Day, which is Devon.
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  So that's the fourth of the month.
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  And then my husband has a day.
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  So aside from our date nights or aside from my time that we have together,
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  because those may or may not happen,
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  but I wanted to be intentional and make sure that at least once a month
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  I was intentional with spending time with these people.
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  Now more time could be spent with them,
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  but I wanted to ensure that these
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  ~ this specific once a month was my intention that I said.
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  And so I I believe it was Brendon Burchard that said if it's not
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  on your calendar then it must don't matter to you.
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  And so I started putting people on my calendar that I think that I want
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  to be intentional with spending time with.
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  So yes.
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  And I love that
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  that you've planned it. Like you know the fourteenth of every month is gonna
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  be a dedicated day or at least a block of time for of that day with Tay,
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  like with your daughter. And then the fourth,
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  like I love that you know that in advance because wow,
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  you can schedule around that, like you're deciding in advance what's important
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  to you.
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  Yes, absolutely. I have my ~ my my hair appointments,
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  my nail appointments, my massage appointments,
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  I have spending time with friends appointments.
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  so yeah, today is a big deal. I mean,
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  planning these important dates are a big deal,
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  whether it be with family or with myself,
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  because I believe that planning time to spend one myself is just as important.
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  And so I put myself in my calendar.
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  Okay, tell us more about that,
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  like planning time with yourself,
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  that it's important. Tell us more about that.
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  I'd love to hear more.
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  ~ so I'm intentional with my time when I plan for myself.
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  So whether it be getting my hair done,
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  most of the time when I'm getting my hair done,
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  I if I know that I'm gonna be under the dryer,
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  I'll take a book because I wanna read,
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  getting my nails on. Not too much you can do with getting your nails done.
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  However, I'm
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  Yeah.
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  I'm I'm intentional with those times and like those are like you know,
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  I set those up and I want to have those times for myself.
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  I haven't got
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  I haven't gotten to the point where I just been I ~ added quiet time
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  on the calendar. Actually I have.
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  I have I haven't done it which I need to get better at doing,
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  but I have a five o'clock alarm that goes off and that's for me to spend time with
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  myself and to journal. And ~ I wanna get into
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  a stretching routine because you know you're getting older so you need
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  to take care of your body and then
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  spending time with God. Like I w I wanna be purposeful in that and
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  so that's gonna be part of my journal time and my morning routine time.
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  Okay, I love that you have this five is I'm assuming five PM or five AM?
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  Five PM?
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  That was actually five AM. ~ I probably need to bring
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  Just kidding.
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  it down to like five thirty. Like na naturally I'll roll lower at five,
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  but I can get out of the bed naturally at five thirty.
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  Okay. So I love that you have the alarm like this quiet time,
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  time with yourself, time with the Lord,
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  and at five thirty. So yes, you have it on the alarm and then going back
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  to the whole digital planner or the work,
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  because it could be considered like part of your work.
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  It's gonna prepare you for the day.
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  ~
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  Mm-hmm.
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  is it on that? Like do you have it written down?
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  You know, I don't have it on that and I don't have it written down.
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  That that's what it is. It's just it's on my calendar on my phone and
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  it goes off and it pops up that it's a journal time.
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  Yes. So I don't know, and that's part of what I love about coaching
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  is working with somebody and hearing something that they want to do
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  and coming up with something that maybe they've thought about and haven't done
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  it or have never thought about it before.
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  I say that because when working with my coach,
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  I'll have a lot of alarms on my phone.
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  Like alarms to remind me. The important ones are the ones that I have
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  on my actual calendar. Cause the alarms
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  Yeah.
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  are great. Help me remember.
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  But I and I do better when I have it on my calendar.
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  So I don't know, maybe that'll
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  Yeah.
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  work.
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  Yeah, so I d ~ definitely ~ will write it on my calendar so that it could
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  be much more of a ~ a remi a a reminder and a task that I do accomplish.
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  ~ I know I had like a seven thirty alarm to do duolingual,
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  but I've and I've steered away from that because I wasn't learning from that.
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  ~
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  Wow.
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  I
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  think I know more than duolingo.
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  So I'm like, I'm over that. I gotta find another Spanish ~ program.
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  So if there's one out there, please let me know.
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  ~ however, I've been challenged
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  Okay. Yeah. Put it in the chat.
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  yes. I've been challenged by my business coach to post a fortune cookie every
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  morning. And I have been doing it,
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  I've been I've posted
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  Consistently every day since I was challenged,
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  I would like to post it more in the morning versus ~ it's eight o'clock
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  at night and I'm remembering to post it or it's noon,
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  I got some free time, let me post it.
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  and actually I am going to work on where I can actually put it on my schedule to do
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  a week to two weeks out and then schedule that and then I don't have
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  to post every morning. But what I can do every morning for that time is come
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  up with some more and put those on the schedule so I have a recurring schedule.
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  I love that idea. Like front loading yourself and having a bank to pull from.
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  Yes. Yes.
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  I love that.
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  Yes.
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  Yeah, that's great. You're gonna become a scheduling queen.
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  Yes. I love it. Like it it just seems like s it runs smoother when
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  you know what you're doing and where you're going.
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  I didn't always used to be like this.
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  I used to, let's go here, let's go there and that was me and I would go
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  and then my work wouldn't get done or you know,
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  I was living my life according to other people's schedule and
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  They didn't plan, so I didn't plan and it was like,
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  Ugh, we just, you know, flying by the seat of our pants,
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  essentially. And now I like it like,
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  ~ I was talking to my husband the other day and I we were going over
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  the schedule actually 'cause he wants to be in sync with my schedule.
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  And so he wants to know when to take off,
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  when not to take off. And so,
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  I was I was giving him the I was like October third is our retreat and this
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  and that and I was telling him,
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  you know, all the dates in October,
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  all the dates in November, all the dates in December.
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  Okay.
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  And then I was like, I have 2027 retreat scheduled,
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  if you want that as well. He was like,
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  You got twenty twenty seven? I was like,
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  Yeah, he's like, I'm good. We live we we're up to December,
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  we're good.
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  Yes. I was thinking when you started talking about October,
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  I was like, Yeah, you better say Damien,
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  buckle up, buddy. It's gonna be a quick wrap.
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  We have a lot of events up.
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  ~ exactly.
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  I was like, we are busy and I I was able to tell my daughter that,
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  you know? And so she was like,
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  Every weekend, Mom and she was like,
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  Halloween I was like, Nope, we don't have Halloween.
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  And so she was like, Okay, so can I get on your schedule for Halloween?
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  my gosh, so the message is if you want to have a weekend with Shuntá,
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  you better call today.
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  Yes,
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  No.
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  and I love that.
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  me too. I think it is so important.
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  I have a a friend. she used to always say,
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  Kimberly, you work so hard. And I'm like,
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  Yeah. And she's like, and you play hard too.
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  And I'm like, Yeah. I think it's so important
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  Exactly.
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  to work and play hard. I do.
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  ~
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  And to schedule
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  that play.
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  Yes. Yeah, and a heads up, tell Damian Yes,
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  twenty twenty seven is planned for the big events and we're about
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  to start planning twenty twenty eight.
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  Yes.
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  Mm.
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  And more events in twenty twenty seven.
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  Yeah, more are gonna be posted,
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  yes. Which is so exciting. ~
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  Yes.
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  have you found okay, so thinking about scheduling and living by a calendar
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  or living by the clock, you know,
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  I've been I've coached people who have given me pushback on that.
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  They're like, you know, I don't wanna live by a calendar.
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  I don't wanna live by a schedule and be so regimented and so routine.
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  And I'm like, yeah, I hear you.
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  I and
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  but what I do love is how when they put these little pieces on their calendar,
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  such as journaling. They want to journal,
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  they talk about that. Like I want to journal,
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  eventually I want to write a book one day.
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  Okay, fantastic. What time is gonna work best for you?
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  Like you know your schedule, so that you gotta think about like what time
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  is the best time of day for me to sit down and journal,
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  or for me to sit down and write a book,
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  or
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  So color a picture, whatever it is.
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  Think about what it is. So putting those little pieces and then fast forward several
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  weeks and they're like, okay, so here's what I've got to do,
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  and I've got to go to the grocery store.
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  So I'm gonna go to the grocery and they start planning.
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  It's like this natural thing that has started happening through the coaching.
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  And I'm like, Yes. And for me,
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  I don't think it's living by that calendar and being so regimented
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  and not being able to enjoy.
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  I don't know about you, Shuntá,
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  but for me, I'm like, it brings so much more freedom to my life to know these
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  are the commitments I've made to myself,
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  these are the commitments I've made to others,
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  and here's all this space that I can do or be or whatever.
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  What about you?
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  Yeah.
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  Yes. Excuse me. I love that. I I too was not a fan of scheduling
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  and planning and all that jazz.
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  however I love it because I tend to hold myself to be more accountable
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  to being where I say I'm going to be when I say
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  Hmm.
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  I'm gonna be it. And I think that that has helped me with friendships and
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  you know, relationships and businesses because I'm able to say I can do this,
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  I can't do that. And so, you know,
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  having a volunteer hat, having friends,
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  having family, trying to, you know,
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  start a business and do all these things,
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  knowing what's on my schedule and when I can do something and when
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  I can pencil something is pencil something in.
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  it's made the difference in planning better and showing up better and I
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  can show up even more fuller because I know,
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  you know, what hat I'm putting on and how I wanna show up.
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  So
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  I love it.
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  my gosh.
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  Yes. You that's such a good point that you can show up and be even more present
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  because you know you don't have that little thing,
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  whatever it is, words, running in the back of
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  Yeah.
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  your mind of my gosh, I really want to be here,
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  but I've got my laundry to do.
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  I need to I need to do charting.
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  I need to schedule client calls.
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  You don't have all that running in the background.
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  You're so right about
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  Yeah.
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  that. Like knowing
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  You can't be more fully present.
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  And I love what you said about you want to be and do what you say you're gonna
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  be and do, and show up and do all that.
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  I love that because I think that goes to speaks to deeper connection
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  and authenticity and integrity.
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  I love it.
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  Yeah. I as well.
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  So
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  good. my gosh, Hante, thank you so much for sharing and thank you
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  for creating the digital planner so that people can find a little nugget that they
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  want to work on and put it on their schedule and not to live by the clock
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  or live by the calendar. Rather,
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  expand and have more freedom in your life.
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  Yes, it's a guide.
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  Yes, love it. So
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  Yeah.
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  good. Thank you so much, Shante,
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  for being on today. And I hope you and everyone else have a beautiful afternoon.
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  See you.
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  Thank you. You as well.
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  ~ what were we gonna say?
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  I said you as well. You have a grand day too.
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  ~ thank you, thank you, thank you.
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  Thank
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  you. Okay, everybody, thank you so much for joining Candid Coach Conversations.
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  I'm Kimberly Boyd. We are all wishing you a beautiful day.
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  And remember, live life fully and love every moment.