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- Your Average Delton: Hey guys, welcome back to Your Average Delton ----. This is the space where we discuss real life, real loss, and the things that we carry that most people never see. No filters, no pretending, just truth. Now, guys, this is a short snippet. I've had this on my mind, so I want to make sure I talk to you about one thing that I want you to do. Don't become the person that says, I wish I had. Those words usually come after it's too late. Too late after someone passes, someone life has changed, too late, an opportunity has disappeared. Regret often isn't about what we did. Most of the time, it's about what we didn't do. Think about this for a moment. Just think about the people who shaped your life. A mentor, a teacher. A coach, a grandparent, an aunt, uncle, an old friend, a coworker, someone who believed in you before you even believed in you. their influence is still part of your today. You know, we tell ourselves, I'm gonna make that phone call. I'm gonna make it next week. I'm gonna make it when things slow down. I'm gonna make it after the holidays, when it gets less busy. But the thing is, we rarely get less busy. And days become months, months become years, and we're just not making the effort to make the call. And there's no sinister reason for that. There's nothing we're doing wrong. Life just gets complicated. And so we start to just put things off till tomorrow. You know, in a previous life, we gave everybody what we called around to it. Little round circles so that they could go out and get things done because they were always waiting, I'm gonna get around to it. Go get yourself around to it. And let's start, let's go home today, make that phone call. You know, five minutes matters, ten minutes matters. Even if you talk to someone for 20 minutes. There are those folks that we know how long it's gonna take when we call them. The five-minute phone call, the 10 minutes, there are some people we call that take an hour and two hours. So those sometimes are the most important conversations. The ones that we're rehashing, and life is good, and it's a conversation both ways. Don't wait until it's too late. And I'm gonna tell you a couple of things that I've waited till it's too late, and that's why this is weighing on me. And maybe today isn't the day for a conversation. That's okay. Send a text. Send an email. Say, you know what, I've been thinking about you. You've been on my mind lately. I'd love to catch up. When you get 15 to 20 minutes, let's plan a call. We plan everything else in our lives. Our schedules are booked with something. it's important that we find time to make time. ⁓ Once reached out, you've already broken the silence. So before today ends, think about one person, just one. Someone who helps shape your life, someone ⁓ you've meaning to call, ⁓ reach to. ⁓ Don't for the perfect time. Don't wait for a special occasion. Don't wait until you wish you had. I'm gonna tell you, I played golf with a couple of guys, and they were all older than I am, and I decided to reach out. And this is what started this process for me. Two of the guys are doing fine, they've been busy, retired now. And then one of the guys was a retired vet ⁓ principal. I reached out to him, he had fallen and broken his hip, so he was in a vet hospital, so I went over to find him. My bride and I went over, and what we found was a young man sitting in a wheelchair in front of the TV. Catatonic really. no one there. And I wish I had reached out two months, three months, six months earlier. I could have had that last conversation, but I just waited too long. We have those people throughout our lives that we go through that we just wait too long. This is just a quick note to say, don't let that be you. Also, it happens to all of us. It's happened to me, and it's happened to me more than once. But I'm really making an effort to say, I'm gonna make that time, I'm gonna make that phone call on. Drive from point A to point B. I'm gonna make that phone call. I'm gonna stop and find five minutes where I can go outside. I'll go outside and putt a little bit so I can have a conversation with somebody. I'm gonna find time when I'm starting laundry. If I started laundry. But we've got to go and say, make the time. It's important. It's something that you're gonna be glad you did. Don't wait. So tonight, when you get home. whatever that time is, and you have five minutes, think about the people who shaped your life. Doesn't matter how long it's been, doesn't matter if you have to re-find their phone number, doesn't matter what the it is. Go make it happen. Reach out and call somebody. Guys, thanks for listening. This is Your Average Delton Out. ⁓