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Raising Respectful Kids in a Culture that Hates Authority · Let's Ask the Mamas!

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  Speaker 1: We got a question for our American mamas. Dear mamas,
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  Speaker 1: how do you raise kids in a culture that hates authority?
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  Speaker 2: Well, let's ask our American mamas.
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  Speaker 3: Mama joining us Now we're American Mama's turn Ediville and
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  Speaker 3: Kimberly Burlason.
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  Speaker 1: So yeah, there's a lot of uh, you know, down
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  Speaker 1: with authority, and we're going to fight the cops, and
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  Speaker 1: we're gonna fight ice, and Donald Trump's a fascist and
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  Speaker 1: you can't trust anybody, and there is this this counter
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  Speaker 1: authority movement, counter authoritarian movement in the country. How do
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  Speaker 1: you raise kids when what they see on TikTok, what
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  Speaker 1: the cool kids are doing is out, you know, punching
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  Speaker 1: ice officers.
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  Speaker 4: Well, I definitely think it starts young. You start, you're
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  Speaker 4: the first authority figure in their life, and so you
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  Speaker 4: set the tone, you set the boundaries, you set the consequences.
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  Speaker 4: So it's all on you. I think it's all so
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  Speaker 4: important that you are able to say when you're wrong,
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  Speaker 4: you know, you let them. I know that our parents
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  Speaker 4: didn't give us a chance to even speak, you know,
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  Speaker 4: if we felt they felt like we had done something wrong,
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  Speaker 4: it was like, you know, do not speak. So we
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  Speaker 4: never felt like we were able to share our side
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  Speaker 4: of the story. Right, So I think it's important to
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  Speaker 4: let your kid do that made backfire later on because they'll,
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  Speaker 4: you know, a little argumentative. But I think it's important
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  Speaker 4: to also show them that there's a there's a way
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  Speaker 4: of handling. If you aren't happy with a coach or
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  Speaker 4: a teacher, there's a way to hear what's wrong, have
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  Speaker 4: your opinion, but also be respectful in your response. I'm
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  Speaker 4: seeing right now, there's no respect It's horrible. And we
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  Speaker 4: are the parent tape. What we do, how we act.
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  Speaker 4: You can't talk badly about your bosses. You can't talk
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  Speaker 4: badly about that your kid's teachers, you can't do that
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  Speaker 4: because they will mimic everything that you say and do.
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  Speaker 1: You said, we are the parent's tape a parent.
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  Speaker 4: Have you never heard that?
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  Speaker 1: Ever heard the phrase of the parent tape? What is that?
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  Speaker 4: A parent tape? Is the tape is how your actions
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  Speaker 4: are as a parent. Well, he replayed in a child's
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  Speaker 4: life for the rest of their life.
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  Speaker 1: Okay, So for gen zers who are going to be parents,
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  Speaker 1: you're you're the parent MP three.
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  Speaker 4: Exactly, You're the parents Spotify exactly right, exactly.
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  Speaker 1: Okay, yeah, but no, but that's that is true because
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  Speaker 1: you will hear you will hear your parents. Every time
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  Speaker 1: I go into a store, I still shove my hands
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  Speaker 1: into a pocket because I hear my mom. Put your
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  Speaker 1: hands in your pockets when I when I.
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  Speaker 2: Go into.
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  Speaker 1: I'm getting calls, you know, of people who think I
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  Speaker 1: should be on Medicare, and I'm not yet, but they're like,
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  Speaker 1: you should, You're you look old enough to be on Medicare.
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  Speaker 1: Shut up. But I still put my hands in my
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  Speaker 1: pockets when I go into a store because I hear
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  Speaker 1: my mom's voice.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah. Well, you know, I saw a video just this
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  Speaker 2: morning and it was a legal immigrant who got on
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  Speaker 2: there and he said, I was on X. He said, look,
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  Speaker 2: I've gotten a lot of hate for my support of
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  Speaker 2: ice and authority, the law officers in this country. A
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  Speaker 2: legal immigrant, Yeah, a legal one. And he said, and
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  Speaker 2: this is this is what I want to say, if
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  Speaker 2: you respect the law, respect authority. I've been pulled over twice,
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  Speaker 2: he said, I've been pulled over twice. And am I
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  Speaker 2: gonna sit there and go what why'd you pull me over?
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  Speaker 2: I've got brown skin, and maybe I taught funny, he said, No,
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  Speaker 2: I say, hi, officer, is everything okay, yes, sir, we
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  Speaker 2: just need to see your identification. I pull out my identification.
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  Speaker 2: I show it to him. He says, well, okay, thank
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  Speaker 2: you for that. Have a great day. He said. They
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  Speaker 2: are the authority, he said, and he also added some
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  Speaker 2: of the rules I wish could be changed with regard
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  Speaker 2: to the immigration laws. Until then, I have to go
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  Speaker 2: along with what is he said. I'm talking to all
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  Speaker 2: the other legal immigrants. If you love this country the
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  Speaker 2: way that I love this country, if you have assimilated,
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  Speaker 2: if you have done all the things you can do
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  Speaker 2: to come to this Promise Land, the very least you
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  Speaker 2: can do is respect the authority when they come around.
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  Speaker 4: Right.
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  Speaker 2: Well, it's kind of like with their kids. Okay, your
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  Speaker 2: teacher said that you did that, but you didn't do that.
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  Speaker 2: There's no reason to, you know, get your hands and
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  Speaker 2: a fist and say, I'm going to tell my parents
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  Speaker 2: and we're gonna you know, I'm gonna come and I'm
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  Speaker 2: gonna roll your house or roll it. What you do
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  Speaker 2: is say to your child, just say, well, that's not
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  Speaker 2: how it happened. I would like to talk to my
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  Speaker 2: parents and we can all talk about it. But when
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  Speaker 2: you bring in that anger and the hatred and that vitriol,
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  Speaker 2: it is going to make things ten times worse. And
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  Speaker 2: I thought that's brilliant. This legal immigrant is trying to
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  Speaker 2: teach everybody how to respond to authority. And it's the
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  Speaker 2: same exact rules that we should help teach our children
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  Speaker 2: when it comes to authority, whether you agree with them
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  Speaker 2: or not. Right, there's a decorum, there's a way to
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  Speaker 2: do this, there's a way to there's a way to
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  Speaker 2: disagree and have different sides of the story. How many
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  Speaker 2: of us have been a parent and had two of
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  Speaker 2: our children and four of our children come up, and
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  Speaker 2: they went through the same situation, but they have four
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  Speaker 2: different stories, right, So you have to allow the authority,
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  Speaker 2: allow the parents to handle it in the very best way.
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  Speaker 2: That's not only gonna make everybody feel like there's been justice,
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  Speaker 2: and sometimes you don't feel like that, but at the
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  Speaker 2: end of the day, you're still gonna love each other.
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  Speaker 2: You're gonna have times like this. But come to me,
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  Speaker 2: I'm older, I'm wiser. I make the rules. Your dad
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  Speaker 2: and I make the rules, so we're gonna help you
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  Speaker 2: get through it. That's how you handle it.
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  Speaker 1: So Susuly. What you're saying is you start young, you
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  Speaker 1: start from day one. This is how authority works.
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  Speaker 2: We are your authority.
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  Speaker 1: You model that. And then whether the world's doing it
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  Speaker 1: or not, as you say, it's the parent tape that's running.
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  Speaker 4: That's right.
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  Speaker 1: cliffand to ask the mama's button turned out of Kimberly
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  Speaker 1: Brothers and thank you so much, thank you,