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If confidence is a myth then why is my ugly a*s married · Papa Gut

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  When you're an ugly like myself, I just want to say confidence is
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  not saving your life. Whoa, he's really not even that
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  unattractive. Let these motherfuckers try to
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  tell you that all you got to do is be confident.
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  Don't be delusional when you're a genetic experience.
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  Dude this is crazy that somebody added that this would say hi.
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  I guess they didn't edit anything.
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  AI doesn't OK anyway. Experiment gone wrong like
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  myself. It's no amount of confidence in
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  the world that's going to make these women want you.
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  Listen, here's the thing, OK? And this is what I this is what
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  really made me want to like talk about this is you guys don't
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  know what confidence means, OK? You guys have no idea what
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  confidence means. You guys think that confidence
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  means, hey, like Johnny Bravo, remember that old show I'm old
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  as where you just have the balls to cold approach women?
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  You're super confident, you know, maybe you have a lot of
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  money or you're, you know, you're like, oh, hey, what's up
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  girl? You have some swagger to you,
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  maybe swagger. I don't know.
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  That's not really what confidence is, man.
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  Confidence is really just the confidence to keep going and
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  just keep cold approaching. Like when I was on when I was
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  still dating and I was really just like around, like I was on
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  Tinder, OK, Cupid, plenty of Fish.
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  Those were the ones that I was on and I would just fucking.
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  I was just hitting up the girls all the time.
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  You just like swipe on every girl.
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  It didn't matter what the IT didn't matter.
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  I'm just swiping. I want to get, I wanted girls
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  and 95% of the time they wouldn't even swipe back on me,
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  probably even more than that, right?
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  But then sometimes they would and then you start talking to
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  them and then like maybe 50 to 90% of the time you'd fail.
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  But then every once in a while you would get a girl or a couple
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  girls, you would, you would get the talking.
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  It would go well, you'd meet up, you know, usually if a girl
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  would meet up with me, they would have to me and we would
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  have, you know, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah.
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  And that's what confidence is. Confidence is like not, is not
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  getting beaten down when you get rejected 99% of the time, which
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  is just the struggle of men. That's it.
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  You know, it's just your struggle of men in your, in your
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  head. You just have to reconstruct
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  your mentality to be the type of confident that is like, oh, if I
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  fail, it's OK. And you have to not be ashamed
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  to fail. Like that's another thing,
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  especially nowadays, people, we live in a society where like, if
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  you were, if something's, if you're embarrassed, Oh my God,
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  who cares? You feel a little silly, you
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  feel a little embarrassed. Who cares if you, you're, you're
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  being a little goofy and people don't like it.
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  Who gives a fuck about that? You know, that's a big part of
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  it. And that's what I think that
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  these young men really need to embrace in their mentality more
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  than anything else is like the right type of confidence.
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  Like the right type of confidence, like I said, is not
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  the Johnny Bravo. Like, oh, I'm a really confident
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  guy. I'm going to walk up to the
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  right type of confidence is the Johnny Bravo where you just keep
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  cold approaching women even when they reject you.
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  Now, you don't want to be too pushy.
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  You don't want to harass a woman.
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  You know, you don't want to be too pushy.
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  But, you know, instead of being like, instead of asking one
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  woman 10 times, which is in, you know, once, you know, it means
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  no, ask 10 women one time. You know, that's kind of what
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  it's about. I mean, it's like one of those
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  things where you have to be try to be painfully optimistic
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  through your failures. That's really a big thing more
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  than anything else. I think that's a good point,
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  too. Yeah.
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  We mistake confidence for arrogance.
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  Yeah. You don't need to be a head.
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  So a lot of things there. There's another thing, too, that
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  I feel, I know I'm rambling at this point, but there's another
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  thing too, is that, like, I think that young virgin men
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  think that they deserve more than they do.
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  And I'm not saying that to be rude.
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  When I was a virgin, I was, I was attracted to women that were
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  like way out of my league. And I couldn't even explain to
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  you why, but like, I thought that I, I was, I deserved more
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  than I did. And then eventually you finally
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  start talking to girls and you know, maybe they're more on your
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  level and all of a sudden you're like, Oh, I got to meet up with
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  the girl. Even if it doesn't go well, you
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  got to that step. It's it's like, Oh, I did it.
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  So it's less uncomfortable the next time, you know, but that's
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  another thing too. Maybe try to girls or go out
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  with girls that are below your what you feel is below your
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  attractiveness level, even if it actually is.
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  You know, what's the worst case scenario you get with them?
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  They're really nice to you. You know, maybe you get get one
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  in. You shouldn't be trying to take
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  advantage of them or anything, but I mean, maybe you can, you
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  know, maybe you can get through some of those confidence
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  Breakers. Oh, you have, you know, once or
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  twice and all of a sudden you're starting to feel a little bit
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  more confident. Just don't lie to them and and
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  mislead them on on your intentions.
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  But you know, something to think about, young man.
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  A woman would sit here and say, oh, it's about confidence, It's
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  that. I mean, it is that is true,
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  though it is the level of truth that.
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  If that was the case, why do women date who are attractive?
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  Who aren't confident? Do you not?
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  That just doesn't exist. There's no attractive guy that
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  doesn't have confidence and if there is it's like barely
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  existent. I don't know if he I wonder how
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  he categorizes confidence. How?
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  Much is in this world that are attractive that are not
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  confident, but they still get hell of woman they.
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  No, that's not doesn't exist. I don't know what does.
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  What does confidence mean to this person?
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  Still get hell of play. It's because it's about their
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  look. It all comes down to looks.
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  It's. Yeah.
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  And then they get confidence because they have an interaction
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  with the world that because they have good looks, they get things
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  easier when it comes to like women, like they have better
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  interactions with women, even if they get let down, it's usually
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  nicer because they are more attractive, they're more
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  appealing. So they have the confidence to
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  cold approach or approach a woman in general or the
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  confidence to, you know, I guess be the be themselves more.
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  And they don't know if a be to yourself is the right thing but
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  like they feel able to feel comfortable in public.
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  I don't know what the fuck this guy's talking about.
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  The same way they try to say oh it's about personality but we
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  all know that's bullshit. It's not bullshit.
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  Because look at how much attractive *** there is out
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  there who have terrible fucking personalities.
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  They're. Yeah, and they're usually going
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  for girls that are like as attractive as they are, which
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  terrible personalities, right. They usually it's funny because
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  like if you're if you're fat, usually fat guys are funnier
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  because you have to have more of a personality, right?
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  That's why I'm super funny. Guys, you have to develop more
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  of a personality than if you're not fat, you need something else
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  going for you as like a, a plug, right?
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  But like you or you feel you're ugly, you need to work on your
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  personality, make things that are more interesting about
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  yourself. Like, yeah, that is true.
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  It is about personality, but it's also about finding somebody
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  in your sphere. Like, you know what I mean?
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  If you're like a fat guy and you want to date somebody, try a fat
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  girl you know. Also try showering.
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  You know, hygiene's very important to it.
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  Too true. Literally pieces of shit, but
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  they could still get all the women in the world.
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  Attractive *** don't need confidence because they're.
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  They still have it. He doesn't understand.
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  What confidence is it? Looks alone is what gets them
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  through the door, so if you're a hitty.
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  Yeah, and it builds confidence. Yes ass *** like myself just
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  know no amount of confidence is saving your ass.
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  Don't be fucking delusional and don't embarrass yourself.
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  That's that. That's what I'm saying.
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  Don't be, don't embarrass yourself.
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  That's the biggest problem. That's how these young men are
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  getting radicalized, because they think if they try and they
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  fail, that it's embarrassing for them.
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  And so they don't want to try and they don't want to fail.
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  And then they continue to get radicalized and like they they
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  act like they're the biggest victim in the world,
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  unfortunately. Like, yeah, a more attractive
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  guy physically is cool. It would make it things easier.
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  But you know what? Everybody's a collection of
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  goods and bads, Right? But you saying that, you saying
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  that thing is what is killing your mentality because you've
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  decided you don't want to be embarrassed.
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  If you are not willing to feel embarrassment, then you will
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  never succeed at anything because you're never going to
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  fucking try. And you're going to be like a
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  failure just farting around all the time and nobody's really
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  going to want to be around you and you're going to be
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  depressing. You know, I, I, I understand
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  what it's like to feel embarrassed and not do things
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  'cause you think it'll be embarrassing.
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  But you got to get to a point where you start to take a deep
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  breath and coach yourself through it and just say fuck it,
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  I'm going to do the embarrassing thing.
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  It's really not that bad. You know, like, I used to be
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  super embarrassed of like dancing when I'd go to a
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  wedding. So I just wouldn't.
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  So now I get drunk and I danced and my wife likes it.
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  I dance like shit, but she loves it, She appreciates it.
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  That's what you need, you know. It is not about no fucking
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  confidence or having a good personality.
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  It all comes down to looks and even.
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  And also like the way that you talk about yourself, it's like
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  very depressing and it makes people not want to be around
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  you. I'm not saying that to shit on
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  this kid. I'm saying that so that you
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  understand, like from an informative perspective, like
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  people will not want to be around you if you talk like this
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  about yourself. It's exhausting.
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  It's exhausting to be around somebody who talks like this
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  about themselves. If it was about confidence when
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  you're an ugly honey badger, built that.
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  Bro stop this bitch like myself. It's nothing on your face to be
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  fucking confident about. I don't have a single feature to
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  be confident about because I know I look like straight dog
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  shit. He really doesn't.
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  He looks fine. I think that like, you know,
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  listen, I'm not trying to fucking throw my hat into the
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  ring on hairstyles too much, especially, you know, he's a
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  black guy. I don't know too much, you know,
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  but I mean, I feel like I've been in places where I, I didn't
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  used to comb my beard and it looks like shit.
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  And so maybe, you know, I would get a haircut and comb it as it
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  comes back in. Keep the sideburns a little
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  better shape. I don't know if you shower or
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  not Do that shower. I don't know if you are you
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  scrub yourself with, I would say doctor squash 'cause I love
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  that. I love exfoliating with that,
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  but they won't give me a sponsorship.
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  What the fuck, dude? Come on.
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  What the Hell's the matter with you guys, you fucking asshole?
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  There's things that you can do, but he looks like a normal dude.
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  It's really a mentality. Like you're fucking depressing,
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  man. Like you're super depressing.
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  That's one of the fucking problem.
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  People don't want to be around somebody who's like really
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  mentally depressing. And I get it.
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  Like, I understand being in a rut and feeling like you getting
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  the shit beating out of you, but you know, you got to, If you're
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  going to do this, you have to dress emo.
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  That's your only option is to just dress like a complete emo,
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  right? I don't know, man.
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  I'm just saying, look at me. I'm ugly as fuck too.
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  I'm fat as hell. I got a fucking wife.
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  I'm happy I'm successful, you know?
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  So I'm not hearing all that bullshit about, oh, all you got
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  to do is have confidence and that's not fucking working when
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  you're ugly as fuck. Because when you're ugly as
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  fuck, it doesn't matter if you're confident.
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  These women are still not going to want your punk ass when
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  you're an ugly *** like. That's crazy.
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  I don't know, man. I think that it's just a lack of
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  understanding what it means to be confident.
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  And that's again, that's what like happened with the red pill.
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  They kind of like made you not understand what confidence was.
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  So the red pill confidence is when you act like a fucking Dick
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  headed piece of shit. That's not what confidence is
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  like. Confidence is more about just
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  kind of like rolling through the punches.
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  Let's see what the some of the other ones are.
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  Since a kid I knew it was absolutely over for my ugly ass.
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  That's what I'm saying, man. That's what I'm saying.
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  Like since you were a kid, like what does that mean?
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  How old is a kid? You know, like are were are you
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  talking about like when you were like 5 or 6?
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  It's because to me, I, I can't take these AI fucking things.
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  These are killing me. It's ridiculous if you're like a
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  young man and you're 8 and you already think you're ugly, like
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  you're fucking absolutely dog shit cooked because you have a
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  mentality. Like when people talk about
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  personality being like a, a really big driver, like it is
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  true. I it's just like a big, a really
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  positive personality traded for people is to not be fucking
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  miserable to be around. Like, if people don't want to be
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  around you, you're not going to get any girls.
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  For a lot of people, you start as friends.
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  And realistically, the best marriages, in my opinion, are
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  the marriages where you're like, best friends with your partner.
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  So if you're not fun to be around as a friend, you're not
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  going to get any fucking pussy. Or I should say, you're not
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  going to get a girlfriend. I shouldn't be so crude, right?
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  Like, you have a lot of potential.
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  Yeah. You're your own biggest OP, you
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  know, you have a lot of potential, but you're so
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  miserable. And I guarantee you if this guy
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  has friends, it's probably just going to be other miserable
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  people that are just like, really upset and they feel like
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  they don't look attractive enough, you know?
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  I knew that no matter what I say or what I do, these women are
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  always going to view me as a square ass Buster and.
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  I love black people. Unusual piece of shit and a lame
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  ass *** who's just nothing. I know that my presence alone
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  makes these bitches skin crawl. I.
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  I don't think it's true dude. Unless you don't brush your
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  teeth, man. Know that if these women got the
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  opportunity, they'd flick a booger at my punk ass just
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  because I'm a *** who's trash. That's crazy, brother you have.
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  So you have a lot of self-confidence problems.
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  Just look at my punk ass. A 22 year old bum ass bitch who
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  still lives with his parents. A *** who got nothing going on.
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  That's like everybody, by the way.
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  It's like so hard to move out right now.
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  So, I mean, you're not really behind the game on this, son.
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  Why would any bitch want anything to do with my
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  ridiculous ass? I'm not no cool *** I'm not no
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  desirable man. I'm a *** who's not enough and a
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  *** who will never be enough. And that's on Josephine Baker's
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  grave. I know I make these women want
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  to throw up, and that's how it's always going to be.
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  Since a kid I knew. I don't know, man.
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  I feel like, I feel like you. I don't know.
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  You're you're, you're, you're, you are your biggest fucking
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  enemy at this point, man. That's the fucking problem.