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DON'T Let HARD TIMES Change Who You Are! (S5) S44 E6 Thursday · Inspirations for Your Life

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Without any further ado, guys, let's get into
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the show for today.
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So don't let hard times change who you
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are.
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Series five, show 44, episode number six.
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That means we only have one more episode.
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That's tomorrow for the week of the MasterTopic,
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because we go Saturday through basically go Saturday
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through Friday.
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Welcome everyone once again to the ever popular
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inspirations for your life show.
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Have you ever faced a situation so difficult
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that, well, you barely recognize how you were
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responding?
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Maybe frustration made you impatient, disappointing, actually took
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you by surprise and shook your confidence.
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Or fear tempted you to abandon something you
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truly believed in your heart.
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So here's something important.
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Hard times don't have to turn into someone
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you're not.
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Today, exploring 30 powerful ways to stay resilient,
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protect your character, and keep moving forward without
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pretending life is always easy.
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Hey, everyone.
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I'm John C.
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Morley, serial entrepreneur.
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I'm an engineer.
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I'm a marketing specialist.
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I'm a video producer, podcast host, coach, professional
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keynote speaker, a graduate student at Montclair State
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University, a passionate lifelong learner.
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And now I'm so grateful to be a
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published author.
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Yes.
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Welcome everyone to series five, show 44, episode
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number six.
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So let's discover together how to remain strong
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without losing ourselves.
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So let's start right off with point number
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one.
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Number one is recognize when circumstances challenge your
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values because they're going to.
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It's easy to stand by your principles when
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everything is going well.
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Sure it is.
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But what happens when life becomes unfair?
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Your character is tested when doing the right
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thing becomes inconvenient at the moment.
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Okay?
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Don't let temporary pressure rewrite what you believe.
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So I'll give you an example.
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I was at an event the other night
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and it was an interesting event.
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It was some nice people, but I was
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talking to somebody who was in the middle
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of a conversation with someone.
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Okay.
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Literally, you know, we were talking and just
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getting to know each other.
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And out of the blue, this gentleman, I
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say gentleman, but really he wasn't a gentleman.
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He pulls him away.
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He says, excuse me, I got to grab
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him for a minute.
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We're in the middle of a conversation.
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Not like, hey, when you're finished, I need
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to grab him.
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It was very rude.
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Oh, I got to introduce you to a
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judge who really cares that you had introduced
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him to a judge.
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Right.
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You know, that was very rude behavior, but
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I didn't let that, um, let's say cement
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the evening.
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I said, okay, that's the way they want
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to be.
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I'm going to walk around, find somebody else.
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And I did.
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You know what I did?
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I talked to some of the people about
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my book and somebody actually bought my book
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and I autographed it and they are very
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happy.
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So just letting you know that you can
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make lemons, um, that you have and turn
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them into lemonade.
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So stop making permanent decisions from temporary frustration.
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It happens a lot.
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Have you ever wanted to quit something during
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a terrible day?
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We all have at one point in time,
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strong emotions can make temporary problems feel permanent.
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Give yourself time to think before making decisions
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that could affect your future.
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Number three, resilience doesn't mean pretending nothing hurts
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because that would be a lie.
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Being resilient doesn't mean walking around with a
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fake smile.
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Disappointment, sadness, and frustration are all real experiences
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and we shouldn't try to stuff them under
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a rug.
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Acknowledge what you're feeling at the moment while
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deciding how to move forward constructively.
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Right.
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I could have said, gee, this was nasty.
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He did this.
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And I could have let my whole evening
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go down.
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I'm like, no, this is the way this
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guy wants to be.
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No problem.
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I'm just going to move away and deal
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with people that are more in my energy
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pattern.
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So number four, guys, recognize when stress changes
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how you treat people.
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I've seen this an awful lot.
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Have you ever snapped at someone who didn't
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deserve it?
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Stress can spill into our conversations.
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Pay attention to your tone.
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Apologize when necessary.
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And remember that other people shouldn't become targets
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for your frustration.
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Right.
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I'll give a perfect example.
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So I had a relative of mine pass
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away a few weeks ago.
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And it was frustrating, but I didn't take
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it out on other people.
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OK.
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A couple of things went by the wayside.
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I even sent an email the other day
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apologizing for something.
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And it's all taken care of now.
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And they said, oh, I'm very sorry for
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your loss or condolences.
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I said, thank you so much for your
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kindness and your condolences.
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I greatly appreciate it.
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And they sent me a smile back.
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So it's how you respond to things.
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Number five, a setback doesn't erase your efforts.
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Nope.
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Imagine working toward a goal and suddenly encountering
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a major obstacle.
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Does that mean everything was wasted?
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Nope.
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Absolutely not.
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Experience, knowledge, and personal growth don't disappear because
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one outcome suddenly just vanished.
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A lot of people think, oh, my gosh,
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I lost that.
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OK, I lost that person, or I lost
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an opportunity.
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So what?
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Go find another opportunity, right?
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Number six, acknowledge disappointment without surrendering.
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Oh, this is a real tough one.
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You can be disappointed and still believe in
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your direction.
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Give yourself permission to recognize what didn't work.
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Then ask, what can you learn?
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And what constructive next steps can I take?
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What action can I take?
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We all have good thoughts, right?
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And I teach and preach about thoughts every
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day.
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But thoughts don't move the needle.
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Thoughts don't get us successful.
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Thoughts are the primer, OK, that get things
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started.
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I'll give you an example.
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If you ever think of like a pump
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for a pool, in order to get the
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main water flowing, you have to put a
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little bit of water in there, right?
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So the pump can be primed.
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That's what the thoughts do.
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But if you don't take the action, if
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you don't put the extra water, which is
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what the action is, the pump stops.
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It goes dry.
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So if I have the intention, I have
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the thought, that's priming the pump, getting it
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running, OK?
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Now I need to take action so it
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keeps going.
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Number seven, guys.
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Maintain perspective during uncertainty.
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I know this is hard.
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When you're overwhelmed, one problem can seem bigger
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than your entire life.
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Ask yourself whether this situation will matter the
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same way a year from now.
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Perspective doesn't erase difficulties, but it helps us
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learn how to respond wisely.
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And I think that's the most important thing
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I want to share here in life, is
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we can't control how other people are going
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to respond, nor should we try.
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But when we change how we respond, guess
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what happens?
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Those people are like, huh, maybe I should
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try that, right?
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Not with everybody, but a good percentage of
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people are like that.
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Number eight, guys.
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Stop comparing your struggle to someone else's success.
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Social media shows achievements, celebrations, and exciting milestones.
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It rarely reveals every struggle behind them.
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Don't compare your difficult chapter with someone else's
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highlight reel.
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Your journey deserves its own timeline.
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So today being Thursday, it's a day in
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the life with John.
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I started doing filming in the morning.
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And how did I film?
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I filmed walking up the stairs, which is
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one of the hardest things here on campus.
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Some people call them the death stairs.
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They're not.
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But you're a little out of breath.
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And as I was filming, I was a
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little out of breath trying to keep my
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pace.
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Because going up those stairs is a lot.
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And trying to talk at the same time,
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which I normally don't do, requires a little
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bit of effort, and you do get out
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of breath.
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So I do share the stories that are
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going on in my life.
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I share the good times.
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I share the challenging times.
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Number nine, guys.
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Strength includes asking for support.
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Who said strong people must handle everything alone?
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Sometimes courage means asking for guidance, assistance, or
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even encouragement.
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Appropriate support can help you make better decisions.
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And it can even protect, guys, your well
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-being.
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That's interesting, right?
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Your well-being.
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And when you protect your own well-being,
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guess what happens?
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You start to want to protect other people's
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well-being.
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That's a very important thing.
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Number 10, recognize when you need rest.
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Have you noticed how problems or challenges just
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seem bigger when you're exhausted?
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Rest isn't an admission of defeat.
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Let's be very clear on that.
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Sometimes, stepping away, sleeping, or taking a short
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break gives you the fortitude, the clarity, to
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make a responsible decision later on.
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So don't kick yourself in the back and
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say, Oh my gosh, I took a break.
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So did a million other people.
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So did Einstein.
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So did a lot of other inventors and
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smart people.
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Number 11, stop making promises you cannot keep.
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Your attention is good, but don't burn yourself
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out.
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When life becomes stressful, it's tempting to promise
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everything just to satisfy everyone.
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You want to be a appeal pleaser.
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But really, you're just going to wind up
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disappointing people.
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And you're going to wind up disappointing yourself.
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And if you can't help yourself, you're going
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to be no good to anyone.
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But unrealistic commitments create additional pressure.
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Be honest about your capacity.
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A realistic promise is more valuable than an
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impressive one you cannot actually fill.
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Number 12, separate what you control from what
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you don't.
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You cannot control every delay, disappointment, or even
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other people's behaviors, I said.
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But you can influence your preparation, your communication,
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your response.
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And I got to tell you, 9 out
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of 10 times, it will affect somebody else's
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behavior.
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I had somebody a long time ago that
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was nasty.
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I didn't judge them.
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I just kept being kind and kind and
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kind to them for a few days.
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After a while, they changed their whole outlook.
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I'm like, Wow, is this the same person?
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I showed a little bit of kindness.
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Try it.
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It works miracles.
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Number 13, don't let fear change your principles.
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Fear can tempt you to compromise what matters.
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Before making a difficult choice, ask yourself, would
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I be proud of this decision when the
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pressure passes?
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Your values should guide you, especially when circumstances
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become uncertain.
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That takes power.
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That takes fortitude.
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That takes resilience.
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Number 14, one difficult experience doesn't define your
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future.
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One rejection doesn't mean every opportunity will disappear
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or that you'll be turned down every time.
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One failure doesn't mean you'll never succeed.
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Don't turn a painful experience into a prediction
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about your entire future.
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And I want to share something with a
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real interesting tip.
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Is that just because you appear to have
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failed, I want to let you know a
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secret.
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You haven't failed yet.
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You see, if you haven't given up yet,
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if you're still coming back to it, you
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haven't failed.
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True failure is when you've said, okay, I've
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had enough and you don't go back anymore.
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Even if you take a rest for a
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week or a month, I don't care, or
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longer.
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You haven't failed yet.
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You're recognizing something very important that many people
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don't understand and they have to learn a
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very hard way.
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The body needs rest.
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The body needs time.
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How many times have you written something?
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And then I did this with my own
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book.
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I went away from it.
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I came back and guess what?
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My block went away.
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Number 15.
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Number 15 talks about a point that I
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spend time harping on time and time again,
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but it is really the truth.
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Resilience.
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It grows to repeat effort.
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Now, resilience doesn't mean how tough you are.
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Resilience means the fact that if you get
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knocked down, you're going to keep getting back
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up.
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Resilience isn't something you magically acquire overnight, so
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don't think you will.
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It's developed through realistic actions repeated over time.
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Every constructive response helps you practice handling the
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next challenge with greater confidence.
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It's like you learn one lesson.
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You learn the next lesson.
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You can't go learn lesson 10 until you've
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learned lessons 1 through 9.
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You can't skip ahead.
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But when you master resilience, you change.
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Other people know you change.
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They're like, something's different about John.
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Something's different about Mike.
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Something's different about Sarah.
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Something's different about Megan.
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Number 16.
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Build routines that keep you grounded.
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There's a mouthful.
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When everything feels unpredictable in our world, which
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can happen, simple routines can create stability.
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Regular rest, managed planning, movement, and time for
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reflection can help you stay focused.
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Small habits often support us during our biggest
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challenges.
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And I think that's something that a lot
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of people, they forget.
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They don't realize that it's that challenge that
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is making them into a success.
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It's that challenge that's starting to mold them
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into a resilient person.
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See, the challenges help shape our character, which
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is what we do in private.
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Then, the character is what, let's say, rolls
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over.
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And what people see in public, that is
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our reputation.
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So character is what's in private.
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Reputation is what's in public.
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So what we work on privately filters through
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publicly.
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Number 17.
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Stop, stop, stop taking frustration out on others.
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There's no reason for it.
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Just because you're having a difficult day or
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moment, doesn't mean everyone around you deserves to
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experience it.
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I'm going to give you an example.
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So I was at school.
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I'm always at school, but I was at
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school.
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And there was an advisor.
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I'm not going to mention their name out
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of respect.
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And I was finishing taking a test, and
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I had a question for them.
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So I went to their office, and I
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knocked on them.
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They had like a glass, you know, window,
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and then they had a door.
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There was a student there, and they weren't
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talking.
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They were just doing something, maybe taking a
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test, whatever.
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But they weren't talking to him, so I
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just knocked on the glass very quietly, and
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I said, and they got back to me
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really nasty.
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I'm going to meet him.
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Like, who the heck are you?
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So I let that roll off my back,
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but also I say to myself, I'm not
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going to subject myself to that again.
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So if I'm around that person, I'm not
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going to confide in them.
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I'm not going to ask for advice.
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I'm not going to share something unless they
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come back and share something with me first.
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You don't need to be a friend to
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everyone, okay?
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That's Disney.
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That's the fairytale world.
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The truth is you need to be practical.
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You need a few friends.
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You don't need a million, okay?
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Number 18, communicate your needs before pressure builds.
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That's all about the concept of being proactive,
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right?
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I talk about planning for a fire.
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I hope you guys never have one, but
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you should make sure that your smoke detectors
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work.
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You should make sure you have at least
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an evacuation plan to go to different places.
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You know the general rules.
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Stop, drop, and roll.
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You feel doors before you open them.
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You have a fire extinguisher.
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You know the amount of time.
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If this doesn't work, you know when to
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call 911.
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You don't call 911 from your house.
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You leave your house and call 911.
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So many people I know will call 911
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because, oh, my gosh, you're going to call
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911.
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I was watching a documentary the other day.
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It was very interesting.
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And, unfortunately, the car had gone into the
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water.
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And, you know, you're like, oh, my gosh,
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what do I do?
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First thing that you need to do, just
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to let you know, and like a little
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tip here, is you need to roll down
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the windows before your power goes out.
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If it's gone out, you should have a
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window break, either on your key chain or
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somewhere close, not in the glove compartment, but
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somewhere like very close to the console.
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Take it, crack your window, get the water
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in, get, you know, if there are any
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miners in the car, make sure you loosen
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their belts.
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Get everybody out of the car quickly.
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Because you only have about a minute and
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a half if you're going to make it
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alive.
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I'm just being honest.
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So I thought I would share that with
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you.
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And so if you proactively think about that,
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I'm not saying I want that to happen
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to you, but now that you know what
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to do, it's a lot easier if it
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happens because you've at least planned for it.
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Hopefully you'll never need it.
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So people can't always recognize when they're overwhelmed.
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That's why they go through burnout.
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Speak up before frustration and burnout turn into
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resentment.
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A respectful conversation about what you need can
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prevent misunderstandings and unnecessary conflict.
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Do you know the number one reason people
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wind up in court?
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Misunderstandings.
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That's all it is.
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I see so many restraining orders and people
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going to court all for just a petty
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misunderstanding between an ego clash.
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Number 19.
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Know when to change your strategy.
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Just like they do in baseball, football, basketball.
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Persistence is valuable.
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But repeating something that isn't working isn't always
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wise.
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What did Einstein say?
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The definition of insanity is doing the same
19:45
thing over and over again and expecting different
19:46
results.
19:47
You're not insane, but why are you doing
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the same thing over and over again?
19:49
It's not going to give you different results.
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Sometimes the strongest decision is to adjust your
19:53
approach.
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Like I said, we're on a live campus
19:55
here.
19:55
Sometimes they have little vehicles going around.
19:58
We have an ambulance next to me.
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People might walk by me.
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Although I'm by this closed diner here, nobody's
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really going to walk behind me here, but
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you never know what's going to happen, so
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I'll just let you know that.
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Number 20.
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Patience doesn't mean accepting harm.
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Being patient doesn't require tolerating harmful behavior or
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unhealthy conditions.
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You can remain respectful while establishing boundaries and
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protecting yourself.
20:23
Resilience includes knowing when change is necessary as
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well as how to bounce back, how to
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keep getting up.
20:30
Number 21.
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Progress isn't always immediately visible.
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Have you ever worked hard without seeing results?
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We all have.
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Progress may be happening through learning, preparation, or
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improved judgment.
20:44
Don't assume nothing is changing simply because the
20:47
outcome hasn't appeared in a tangible form.
20:51
Maybe that's a relationship.
20:52
Maybe that's money.
20:53
Maybe that's a skill.
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Keep at it.
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Very important.
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Number 22.
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Keep commitments within your capacity.
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What does that mean?
21:03
Your integrity matters, especially during difficult periods of
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your life.
21:07
Rather than promising more than you can deliver,
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set realistic expectations.
21:12
Consistency builds trust.
21:14
Responsible commitments protect your energy.
21:18
That's a key, guys.
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A real key.
21:20
Just like I shared a key about how
21:22
to get out of an emergency if your
21:24
car ever went under the water.
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Number 23.
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Don't let criticism erase your confidence.
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The other night when I got some criticism
21:33
about having to pull me awake to see
21:37
something more important, one person's criticism doesn't cancel
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everything you've accomplished.
21:43
Consider feedback.
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Then learn from what's useful.
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Remember the growth you've already achieved.
21:52
Throw away the hurt, the pain, the discomfort,
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and keep the lesson.
21:59
Your confidence should be grounded in reality, not
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controlled by every opinion.
22:04
That's what's wrong with a lot of people
22:05
today.
22:06
They're reacting to the opinion and the emotion.
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Oh my gosh, this is what happened last
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time.
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Don't go there.
22:12
What did I learn?
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You touch a stove and it's hot?
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You pull your hand away, right?
22:16
You touch a stove, you pull it back,
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right?
22:17
You touch and you pull it right back.
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You learn.
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Don't touch something hot.
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Now you're more aware.
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Number 24.
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Recover from mistakes without constant self-blame.
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No need to blame yourself.
22:29
Everyone makes mistakes in our life.
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I'll make more.
22:32
You'll make more.
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And we'll keep learning.
22:37
The important question is what happens next and
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learn from it.
22:42
Replying with the same mistake and replying in
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your head or in person doesn't work endlessly.
22:52
And it doesn't automatically make you wiser.
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It just makes you more frustrated.
22:57
Number 25.
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So we have, looks like we have an
23:00
airplane around here.
23:01
You may not be able to see it.
23:02
He's right there in the sky.
23:04
That's where we get a little bit of
23:05
noise.
23:06
Number 25.
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Compassion matters more during the hard times.
23:10
It's easy to be kind when life feels
23:14
comfortable.
23:15
But you can remain compassionate.
23:17
When you're exhausted or you're even disappointed a
23:20
little bit, small acts of understanding can protect
23:23
relationships or remind you of the person you
23:26
want to be.
23:27
And there's a motorcycle and somebody who's got
23:29
a muffler that probably needs to be fixed.
23:32
Number 26.
23:34
Stop expecting full capacity every day.
23:38
Some days, you'll accomplish more than others.
23:41
That's part of being human.
23:42
Adjust your expectations when necessary without abandoning your
23:47
full responsibilities that are aligned and linked to
23:49
your core values.
23:51
Sustainable effort matters more than constantly pushing beyond
23:55
your limits.
23:56
Number 27.
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Flexibility protects long-term goals.
24:00
A roadblock doesn't always mean the journey is
24:02
over, it's ended.
24:04
Sometimes you need a different route.
24:05
You need a different vehicle, a different method.
24:07
A revised timeline or another method because staying
24:10
committed to your purpose while remaining flexible allows
24:14
you to analyze it, change, and then be
24:17
able to reach it.
24:18
Number 28.
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Identify what is testing you right now.
24:22
Things are, and that's what's helping you learn.
24:25
Let's make this personal, guys.
24:26
What situation is currently testing your patience right
24:29
now?
24:29
Confidence or even your integrity?
24:31
Name the challenge clearly.
24:33
Understand what you're facing is just the first
24:36
step toward choosing a constructive response and that'll
24:39
help you learn and that'll help you eventually
24:41
reach your goal.
24:42
Number 29.
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Choose a response that reflects your values.
24:45
Now ask yourself this question.
24:47
What action would reflect your values?
24:54
Maybe having a difficult conversation, taking a break,
24:56
setting a boundary, or continuing a manageable step
24:58
at a time.
24:59
Choose that thought for the action intentionally.
25:03
And number 30.
25:04
Stay resilient without losing your integrity.
25:07
Here's what I want you to remember today.
25:10
Resilience isn't about refusing to change.
25:12
It's about adapting your approach while protecting your
25:16
principles.
25:17
Hard times may challenge your plans, but they
25:19
don't have to change your character.
25:22
What do they always say?
25:23
Tough times will pass, but tough people never
25:27
do.
25:29
The tough times will go away, but the
25:31
tough people will stand through the storm.
25:34
So the closing challenge for this Thursday.
25:40
Identify one difficult situation you're facing.
25:43
Then choose one constructive action that protects your
25:46
values while respecting your current limits.
25:49
You don't need to solve everything today.
25:51
No read for that.
25:52
You need to make your responsible choices now.
25:57
Remember, difficult circumstances may test your patience, confidence,
26:01
and determination, but they don't get to decide
26:05
who you become.
26:08
Stay resilient, stay compassionate, and keep your integrity
26:12
intact.
26:12
I think that's the most important thing.
26:14
And I forgot before we started the show
26:15
today, today's Thursday, I want to give you
26:17
a referral to J.D.'s in Oakland, New
26:22
Jersey.
26:23
So J.D.'s Deli and Grill, they've been
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around for a while.
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They're at 400 Rampo Valley Road.
26:30
Suite 3, Oakland, New Jersey, 2010.
26:35
Their website is www.j.d.del.com.
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That's it.
26:46
They have lots of great food, sandwiches, they
26:48
do catering, and the reason I'm reaching out
26:50
to them today is I'm hoping they'll check
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out BelieveMeAchieved.com and also Jason Academy.
26:56
Visit the site and go to contact us
26:58
and let me know that you'd like to
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host me.
27:01
I'll do a show live there.
27:02
I'll do a live author talk, a Q
27:07
&A, and an author signing for those that
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would like to get my book.
27:10
Ladies and gentlemen, I'm John C.
27:12
Morley, and this has been another powerful, amazing
27:14
episode of The Inspiration Show, your live show.
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Stay inspired, keep growing, and remember ladies and
27:35
gentlemen, hard times may change your circumstances, but
27:39
you get to choose how you respond.
27:44
That's a big lesson for today.
27:47
When we choose that, we can choose a
27:50
different path.
27:51
We can learn, we can grow, and yes,
27:54
we can reach our success.
27:55
Have a great one, everyone, and I'll see
27:56
you guys next time.
27:57
Be well, everyone.
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Bye.