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I Am A Spec You Must Hustle Hard To Take Care Of Me - Lady Seek Public Advise · DidiLawren

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  Hello and welcome back to my channel.
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  My name is Lorraine cod4 and this is Bounce It Lawrence here.
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  For today's episode, I want to talk about a message that has
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  been going on on social media. So let me just read this message
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  out before I talk about it and it says, I am a young girl and
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  currently in a relationship. But the thing is that my
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  boyfriend is not making the type of money needed to take care of
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  me. I am a speck.
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  I am good body and I am very. I am also very beautiful.
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  So I deserve the best in life. Hmm.
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  I expect my mom to pay all my bills, especially the bills that
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  is necessary to maintain the way I look since I am still in
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  school. I have given him the opportunity
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  and time to do everything necessary to make this money
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  since we have been together for a year.
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  For he is sticking to only his job and this is clearly not
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  enough. Please, what can I do to
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  motivate him to open his mind, Endless Possibilities to various
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  ways of making money fast in legals, thanks?
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  In the streets, I was kind of I was puzzled because this is
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  literally what I talked about in my last video.
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  When I was talking about women making money for themselves,
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  like, there are so many things you can do to make money, but
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  this generation especially this year who generation.
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  I don't want to put it out there, but according to her,
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  this guy has a job. He is working or she wants him
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  to do even open. His mind to endless possibility,
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  Yahoo Yahoo endless possibility, or different other things to to
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  hustle to get money apart from the job that he is doing.
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  And she wants him to open his mind.
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  He's asking for advice. She is literally seeking for
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  advice on what to tell her boyfriend on the endless
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  possibilities of what the boyfriend would do to make money
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  to take care of her. Because according to her, she
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  suspect she is. Z4.
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  She has beautiful body and she needs somebody to pay her bills
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  because she's in school. So these are the issues.
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  These are the issues that we have in Nigeria.
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  These are the issues that we have with, especially young
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  girls who are in school, who think I cannot do anything
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  because I'm in school and to be totally honest with you, a lot
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  of people have this kind of mindset is not of young adults,
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  or young. Girls who are still in school,
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  have this kind of mindset, they just think they're in school,
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  just to study pass have somebody to take care of them, not even
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  their families. Because most of these people are
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  saying all these things. If you come from a family that
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  is hardworking, that is successful.
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  I don't think you would have this kind of mindset.
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  I don't think so back then in school when you know, we have
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  like people who come from Rich homes, they are the ones that
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  even take care of. Boyfriends.
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  The other ones that, you know, spend money, that was, that will
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  take you out that you want. So, I don't think any person
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  coming from a rich home or coming from kind of an average
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  background, would have this kind of mindset.
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  It is always those who come from a humble background, who feel
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  that? I am beautiful.
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  I've got big boobs. I've got big ass.
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  I look like a Barbie. I miss baek, according to her.
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  Her. They think they can use their
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  body to get whatever they want. And in this situation, she
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  happens to fall in love with somebody who has a job doing
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  fine, but because she think she's a spec she think she
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  deserve certain kind of Lifestyle.
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  That's the boyfriend is not providing for her.
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  So she is kind of asking for advice on how to Endless
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  Possibilities on how to make money in Legos.
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  So she could go tell her boyfriend.
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  This kind of lady with this mindset who also graduate from
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  school and instead of looking for a job for herself, she will
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  actively be looking for a job for her boyfriend.
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  Should be looking for ways on how to make her boyfriend, get
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  more money. She'll be looking for funds to
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  fund her boyfriend's business and one of the reasons why this
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  is so like I talked about this in my last video is because
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  women, especially women in Africa, women in Nigeria, are
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  they will not actively go out there to make money on their
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  own. Let me give you an example.
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  A guy was talking about giving his analysis on funky, Akin,
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  delays relationship or why have relationship ended with JJC
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  skills. Are one of the reason he cited
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  was because she is very successful.
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  Like she had made her money before she met JJC.
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  So according to him, if she was not that successful, For and JJC
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  was the most successful and cheated on her according to him.
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  She would stay in that relationship and forgive him.
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  A manage that relationship but be call NGO and do whatever
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  comes with our relationship, but because she was already
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  successful before she met JJC. So that kind of made her.
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  Listen, I made my money before you, and I'm going to continue
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  making my money after you so that.
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  The analysis that he give. And I think this is what is
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  holding a lot of our young ladies back because they will
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  feel that like this one talking about, she suspect, she is
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  beautiful. She needs somebody to take care
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  of her. She is actively looking for ways
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  on how her boyfriend will make no money to take care of her.
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  She is going to go out there, get all those information, tell
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  her boyfriend owes information, whether he applies it or not,
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  that we don't Not no Bots. Let's see, she got all this
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  information. She gave it to a boyfriend and
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  the guy was like, you know what, I am happy with my job.
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  I am happy with the level that I am and I don't want to.
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  I don't need multiple streams of income as long as I'm paying my
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  bills. And she is thinking listen, we
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  can make all this other money. We can do this, we can do that.
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  And you know, he is not seeing that Vision.
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  So let's say she decided to apply all those information that
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  she is. He's learned to, you know,
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  invest and she stopped making money.
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  You, would you not be comfortable to say that?
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  Okay? Because she, she, that's what
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  does information told her boyfriend.
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  He refused to apply those things.
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  She applied it on herself, she made money became successful,
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  would you say why would he now marry her?
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  Because she has now made money before and he is still where he
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  is. So, I think this is one of the
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  reasons why people Young ladies, who wants to go out there and
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  struggle for themselves. They just want to sit down and
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  get somebody to take care of them.
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  Because let's say, you go out there even make this money.
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  People are still going to bash, you, people are still going to
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  tell you. Why are you doing all these
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  things? And on the flip side this is why
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  Yahoo Yahoo internet fraud is rampant in Nigeria because you
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  see a lot of people there working maybe after school.
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  You just Steny fifty or a hundred thousand in your
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  starting salary and a lot of young ladies who look at you,
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  like, you are a failure, you're not doing anything, you need to
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  go out there, you need to do. You need to buy bangs this.
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  Push them to do a whole lot of things.
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  These push them to do internet fold.
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  Yahoo Applause, organ harvesting selling their kidneys doing it
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  like in Zimbabwe. Now they're selling tools cotton
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  of there. Forced to sell to make money.
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  So people are no longer patients to follow due process to make
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  money. Our young ladies are no longer,
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  you know, aspiring to become successful because you see those
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  ones that are successful, they call them prostitute, they say
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  everything, especially when you are beautiful and successful.
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  That is a bad combination because they will think there
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  must be somebody behind you like this lady.
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  Now, according to her, she suspect She's got beautiful
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  body. So let's take for instance that
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  she got all this information about how to make money Legos.
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  She told her boyfriend and then he saying, I don't have time to
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  get into all these things. I am not interested as she
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  decided to apply those things for herself.
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  She became successful. Using those information that she
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  got my dear, she still expect. She still have body good body.
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  And then people look at her like it must be.
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  Elijah behind it. The must be man.
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  That is sponsoring you. They must be man.
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  That is bankrolling you. So, how where do we go from
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  here? Because the young ladies are
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  pressuring young men to get more money because we're in the age.
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  Were by iPhone, is being released on a daily basis.
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  People want to use the latest technology people want to try
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  the latest cause people want to look good.
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  So and all these things cost money, Money.
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  So, if you just end in salaries thinking, okay, this is what I'm
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  going to use to maintain my life.
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  How do you even start to manage that in a situation whereby?
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  We're telling how young ladies or we appear to be telling our
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  young ladies not to be successful because if you're
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  successful, then Amanda knows approach you because of your
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  success. How do we, where do we go from
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  here? So, the question now is Do we
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  allow our young ladies to pressure, our main to make money
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  so that they can take care of them that aspects, you know,
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  God, beautiful body. Do we?
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  Allow young lady to go out there.
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  Get information on how to make money on how to have multiple
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  streams of income and tell our young men and expect them to
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  apply those things. Is that the expectation or are
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  we saying that? That even as a young lady, you
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  could get all this information, tell your boyfriend or tell your
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  husband or tell your man, but also apply those things to
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  yourself and be successful. Do is that we're saying.
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  Because at the end of the day, if you look at the steam, if it
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  is the man that apply those things and become successful,
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  the society will not have a problem with that, the society
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  will not from not that. But if it was a young lady that
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  did all those things got all those information.
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  Play this information and started making money.
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  Our society will have a problem with it.
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  This message got a whole lot of backlash.
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  They said, why don't you go out there and make money for
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  yourself? Why don't you go out there and
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  get money for expect? If you want to drive Ben's, go
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  out there. Get a job do this and do that
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  and get money for the same Society.
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  If she go out there, get this money by the Bears, by whatever
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  she wants to do take care of her spec, the seams Society will
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  come and you know, bash her and say we cannot marry you, because
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  you're successful. How do we balance these things?
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  So that people will understand that, okay?
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  Even if you're in a relationship, even if you're in
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  school, you can still do so many things to make money.
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  There are so many like I was talking about her business.
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  There are so many people who are sitting down making weeks.
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  Like sometimes I sit down Instagram and I look at these
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  things and I'm like, wow, especially when you're in
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  school. You know, you can be in school
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  and in know you for making hair you can be the best, you know,
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  supplying has. Let's see, we won't ever so many
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  things. Like the endless possibilities
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  of things that you can do, especially when you are in
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  school because you have the audience and once you're in
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  school and people know you for certain things, the sky is your
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  starting point. So don't just take because
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  you're in school, you're studying, you cannot do anything
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  and then your pressure during your boyfriend to go out there
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  to whatever he has to do to maintain your spec.
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  Who do we blame? Do we blame the girl for at
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  least trying to get a boyfriend to do other things to make money
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  so that he can take care of her? Or do we blame the men for
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  thinking? They have to marry somebody who
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  is not successful so that they can be the man.
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  Of the house and the ladies understanding that they don't
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  want to be the one to be successful.
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  So they are putting pressure on them to be successful.
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  Honestly, I just think everybody should do what they want to do.
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  If you think you're in a relationship and the person is
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  not kind of costly the way you want him to hustle.
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  My sister, one horse to Guam, make money, get all those
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  information and apply it for yourself.
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  If the because one thing I realized is some people have
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  their Peak and if you meet them at their Peak and you you're
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  thinking that is your starting point, then you're going to have
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  problem because no matter how you try to push that person that
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  person will not because they are, they are pig like this, I
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  have arrived and then you're looking at them saying, what I
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  accepted you, because this is my starting points.
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  So if you have the kind of You see that you move on with your
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  life and try to make money for yourself by yourself, to take
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  care of yourself, take care of your own steak.
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  Oh, you go and look for somebody who has the money that you don't
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  have to pressure that to do all those things for you naturally,
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  naturally. So be a long and short story is,
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  we should just stop putting pressure on each other.
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  If a woman is Making money and being successful.
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  We should not look as her in any kind of way because of she is
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  the one making money. And if it is the man that is
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  comfortable to make those money and take care of his family, but
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  is also. All right, there's nothing wrong
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  with it. Thank you very much for watching
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  today's episode, please like like, like and share.
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  Thank you very much. Bye.
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  Bye.