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2. Resiliency - the key to being unstoppable. · The Impossible Life

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  Speaker 1: Buds. The question mentoring these students a question that I
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  Speaker 1: realize that every person is asking themselves, and that question
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  Speaker 1: is am I who I think that I am? Because
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  Speaker 1: we all think something of ourselves, we all but we
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  Speaker 1: want to know is it true? So that question brings
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  Speaker 1: a lot of people to Buds. And what's so cool
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  Speaker 1: is that budz answers that question for people. Buds really
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  Speaker 1: is a test of resiliency. There are people who walked
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  Speaker 1: into Seal training far more capable than me, with mountains
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  Speaker 1: of confidence, mountains of external stimuli that told them that
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  Speaker 1: you belong here until the until Bud's training, until the instructors,
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  Speaker 1: until their peers told them that they weren't.
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  Speaker 2: That's some possible.
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  Speaker 1: Let me tell you what I believe.
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  Speaker 2: What's your weakness is not your technique?
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  Speaker 3: Yes?
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  Speaker 2: Yes, don't think you.
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  Speaker 3: Know the Impossible Life podcast and yes, sitting on a
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  Speaker 3: Welcome to the Impossible Life podcast, where we say think
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  Speaker 3: distinguished co host or are you like the talent?
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  Speaker 2: I don't know what to call it? You, Garrett uncle back?
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  Speaker 3: Sure, okay, sweet, Yes, we nailed that one, all right, Garrett,
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  Speaker 3: So picking back up? Man.
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  Speaker 2: I think we talked about this a lot in episode one,
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  Speaker 2: and I think it's something that sounds like Star Wars
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  Speaker 2: episode one.
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  Speaker 1: I think, yeah, this will be a saga. It will
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  Speaker 1: be more than nine episodes.
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  Speaker 2: Oh man, Well, there we go. We're committed.
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  Speaker 3: But I think one of the things about you is
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  Speaker 3: we talked about what you've accomplished. Don't need to go
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  Speaker 3: into that again. You can listen to the first episode
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  Speaker 3: if you really want to hear it, but focusing specifically
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  Speaker 3: on being a Navy seal, and I think what I
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  Speaker 3: am very conscious of as a quote unquote mortal and
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  Speaker 3: normal human being. For lack of a better analogy, I
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  Speaker 3: know you hate that, but I think it's hilarious. Is
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  Speaker 3: it's easy, and it happens in a split second for
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  Speaker 3: someone to look at you and we see you on
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  Speaker 3: the other side of your victory. You ran through your crucible,
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  Speaker 3: you paid your price, and now you have a title
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  Speaker 3: that you all, you know, bear some weight. As far
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  Speaker 3: as being a Navy clo. I know it's a blessing anacurse,
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  Speaker 3: and we can talk about that another time, but I
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  Speaker 3: think it's easy. And what I want to explore is
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  Speaker 3: I think it's easy for a normal a person who
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  Speaker 3: hasn't done that to look at you and in a
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  Speaker 3: split second, without even being aware of what's happening in
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  Speaker 3: their thinking process, they just assume, well, look at Garrett,
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  Speaker 3: he must be super super athletic, super aggressive. He had
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  Speaker 3: this just he was just naturally, you know, had a
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  Speaker 3: stronger will power, and he had all these things and
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  Speaker 3: they ascribe all these attributes to you and they don't
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  Speaker 3: know they're doing that. But I think in the process
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  Speaker 3: of just making assumptions about why you were able to
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  Speaker 3: do what you were doing, they are giving a somewhat
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  Speaker 3: damning verdict of themselves and giving themselves an excuse to
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  Speaker 3: aim lower. And I don't think people realize that's happening,
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  Speaker 3: but we do it all the time with people when
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  Speaker 3: we're confronted with somebody that's achieved something that we either
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  Speaker 3: think is cool or we would love to have been
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  Speaker 3: able to do and don't think we can. And so
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  Speaker 3: you talk a lot about resiliency and being that being
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  Speaker 3: so key to what you've accomplished, and even so much
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  Speaker 3: as answering it as to what it is for the
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  Speaker 3: measure of a man.
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  Speaker 2: And you go into resiliency.
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  Speaker 1: So what is resiliency, Well, resiliency is a funny word.
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  Speaker 1: Most people aren't familiar with it or really think a
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  Speaker 1: lot about that. What is common to people, A common
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  Speaker 1: term is confidence. So we'll start there. Confidence is, hey,
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  Speaker 1: I've got you know, I hit a ball. I'm good.
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  Speaker 1: I feel good about hitting baseballs, like I'm confident in
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  Speaker 1: my baseball skills. I got up in front of my
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  Speaker 1: class and talked I'm confident in my speaking abilities until
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  Speaker 1: until then you then your confidence wanes a little bit. Right,
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  Speaker 1: So a lot of confidence is based off of external stimuli.
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  Speaker 1: Do people tell me I'm good or whatever the thing is,
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  Speaker 1: whether it's being able to hit a ball or speaking ability,
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  Speaker 1: whatever the thing is. I have confidence when external stimuli
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  Speaker 1: tells me that I do. I feel like I love,
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  Speaker 1: I'm good. I feel good about myself as far as
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  Speaker 1: like good looks when I look in the mirror, right
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  Speaker 1: and I like what I see? Yeah, that is confident.
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  Speaker 1: It's resiliency is so different.
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  Speaker 3: Nick.
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  Speaker 1: When I was growing up, I didn't like this, and
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  Speaker 1: you know what, it made me better. People called me
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  Speaker 1: arrogant all the time. My recruiter getting into the maybe
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  Speaker 1: he called me arrogant. I would say very often that, like,
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  Speaker 1: I know, this is what I know. I would tell
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  Speaker 1: people that, and people's response would so often would be
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  Speaker 1: well how do you know? And they would like, well,
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  Speaker 1: you're just so arrogant, you just believe this. Well that
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  Speaker 1: was looking back, it's so funny that that's what it
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  Speaker 1: was labeled. That resiliency was labeled as arrogance. And you
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  Speaker 1: know what, it can they can cross lines and we'll
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  Speaker 1: get into that maybe, but let's go, let's go to
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  Speaker 1: my recruiter for a second.
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  Speaker 3: You know.
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  Speaker 2: I told him, I said, here's what I'm going to do.
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  Speaker 1: I'm going to becoming Navy seal.
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  Speaker 2: This is what I want to do.
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  Speaker 1: I need you to write up the contract for me.
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  Speaker 1: It's a very matter of fact and very certain.
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  Speaker 2: And for people that don't know, how old are you
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  Speaker 2: at this point, thirty?
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  Speaker 1: No, I was nineteen in my recruiter's office, and I'm
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  Speaker 1: very matter of fact. I said, I know, this is
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  Speaker 1: what I'm supposed to do. You were a skinny kid.
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  Speaker 1: You're seeing you're about six two, is right. I'm six
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  Speaker 1: one By the time I was, I was skinny my
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  Speaker 1: freshman year. I was six to one my freshman year
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  Speaker 1: one hundred and thirty five or one hundred and forty
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  Speaker 1: five pounds, and then graduated high school sixty one about
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  Speaker 1: two hundred pounds.
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  Speaker 2: Oh okay, so you're a little bit more of it.
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  Speaker 1: No, I was. I was thicker. I was gonna by
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  Speaker 1: the time I left for Buds, I was one hundred
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  Speaker 1: and eighty five. I started leaning down because you had.
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  Speaker 2: To run so much. But that's not like huge by
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  Speaker 2: any stretch the imagination.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, I was. I was you know, there was nothing
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  Speaker 1: about my build necessarily that would make you think that
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  Speaker 1: I wasn't supposed to be a seal. But my recruiter
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  Speaker 1: had an experience, and he told me the stories of
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  Speaker 1: all the people that had come in his office and
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  Speaker 1: told him, well that they were going to be a
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  Speaker 1: seal and never and didn't make it. And he made
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  Speaker 1: sure that I knew all those people. And so he's
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  Speaker 1: looking at me and he gave me he's the words
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  Speaker 1: he said to me I'd heard so often, which was
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  Speaker 1: how how do you know? Because I would say I
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  Speaker 1: know that I'm supposed to do this, and then they
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  Speaker 1: would say, well, how do you know? And how do
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  Speaker 1: you know something? How do you know something if you
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  Speaker 1: haven't been told it, if you don't see it, if
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  Speaker 1: you don't have if you don't have the reflection, you
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  Speaker 1: don't have people telling you this is what you are,
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  Speaker 1: how would you know?
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  Speaker 3: I mean, I think that that's where it comes down
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  Speaker 3: to a belief, But I don't even know where you
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  Speaker 3: begin to develop something that's really hard to know.
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  Speaker 2: To believe is different, right.
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  Speaker 1: Yes, yes it is. What was really cool about the
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  Speaker 1: Buds program is the people that attracts is very interesting
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  Speaker 1: something I discovered when I was mentoring a bunch of
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  Speaker 1: young students, guys wanting to become seals and some of
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  Speaker 1: them later on in my military career. The free time
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  Speaker 1: I did have, I would spend time mentoring guys, and
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  Speaker 1: and mentoring those guys, I really learned a lot about
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  Speaker 1: the just the thought process of getting there. And I
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  Speaker 1: learned so much about myself and mentoring those guys. Something
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  Speaker 1: I discovered spending time with these guys on their path
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  Speaker 1: to becoming seals was that every man, and really every
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  Speaker 1: person is asking themselves the same question, and it is
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  Speaker 1: this question makes me think of the Matrix. It's the
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  Speaker 1: question that drives.
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  Speaker 2: You everything makes you thinking.
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  Speaker 1: I can say a lot of things do make me
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  Speaker 1: think of the matrix. There, yes, if behind you on
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  Speaker 1: the bookcase, there is a philosophy book book based off
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  Speaker 1: of the Matrix that I have read. So yes, I
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  Speaker 1: am a nerd on this topic. Rabbit Hole coming back buds.
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  Speaker 1: The question mentoring these students a question that I realized
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  Speaker 1: that every person is asking themselves, and that question is
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  Speaker 1: am I who I think that I am? Because we
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  Speaker 1: all think something of ourselves, we all but we want
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  Speaker 1: to know is it true. So that question brings a
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  Speaker 1: lot of people to Buds, and what's so cool is
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  Speaker 1: that Buds answers that question for people. Buds really is
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  Speaker 1: a test of resiliency. There are people who walked into
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  Speaker 1: seal training far more capable than me, with mountains of confidence,
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  Speaker 1: mountains of external stimuli that told them that you belong
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  Speaker 1: here until the until Bud's training, until the instructors, until
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  Speaker 1: their peers told them that they weren't. It was really
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  Speaker 1: interesting one of the and we're kind of jumping around
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  Speaker 1: and we'll bring it all back, but I'm right now.
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  Speaker 1: I'm just like, all these things are these thoughts are
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  Speaker 1: coming back to me, and I want to talk about
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  Speaker 1: them for a second. One of the things that really
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  Speaker 1: was striking in Buds when you're going through is peer reviews.
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  Speaker 1: And peer reviews you really like people tell you what
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  Speaker 1: they really think of you. And some guys who had
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  Speaker 1: resilience would like be bottom five or like really low
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  Speaker 1: on the list, and it would say, like, you know,
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  Speaker 1: guys don't think you're going to be a good CEO.
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  Speaker 1: Guys don't think they would want to work with you,
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  Speaker 1: and those some of those guys were like whatever, I
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  Speaker 1: don't care what any of y'all think, because I know
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  Speaker 1: who I am. And then there were other people who
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  Speaker 1: had been very talented, people who had once been highly rated,
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  Speaker 1: and then they got bottom five because you know, they
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  Speaker 1: did something dumb and they just broke them like they
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  Speaker 1: could never come back from it. And it's a lack
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  Speaker 1: of resiliency. So now let's talk about what resiliency is
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  Speaker 1: compared to confidence. So we know confidence comes from external stimuli.
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  Speaker 1: Where does resiliency come from, Well, resiliency comes from internal stimuli.
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  Speaker 1: And the last example that I want to give real quick.
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  Speaker 1: I know I keep teasing the last example I want
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  Speaker 1: to give real quick of resiliency before we kind of
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  Speaker 1: define it and give people handles to put on it
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  Speaker 1: and bring it into their own lives. There's a really
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  Speaker 1: cool interview of Elon Musk. This was from a few
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  Speaker 1: years ago, and he's sitting there with the guests. He's
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  Speaker 1: sitting there with the host, and the host is talking
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  Speaker 1: about Neil Armstrong and some of the other people that
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  Speaker 1: Neil Armstrong is a personal hero for Elon Musk, and
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  Speaker 1: Neil Armstrong had said, like, hey, privatization of space travel
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  Speaker 1: is not the way, and you can tell he's like
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  Speaker 1: on the edge of tears. To have your hero tell
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  Speaker 1: you like, I want to be like this person. I
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  Speaker 1: want this person to applaud me. I want this person
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  Speaker 1: to be proud of what I've done, and for that
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  Speaker 1: person to look at you and tell you like what
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  Speaker 1: you're doing is wrong, and then to continue on top
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  Speaker 1: of that. It brings me back to a quote from
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  Speaker 1: Rudyard Kipling's poem If There's so many things in there,
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  Speaker 1: but one of them is if you could lose it
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  Speaker 1: all on a game of toss and begin again. That
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  Speaker 1: is the test. To lose everything, or to have no
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  Speaker 1: external stimuli, to have nothing that tells you that you
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  Speaker 1: are enough, that you are capable, but to go for
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  Speaker 1: it anyways. Where that comes from is within yourself. What
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  Speaker 1: do you believe, not what do other people say? What
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  Speaker 1: do you say about yourself? And what I decided at
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  Speaker 1: a young age was even when in eighth grade, I
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  Speaker 1: was six' one one hundred and thirty five, pounds super
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  Speaker 1: like overly curly hair that looked like an afro BECAUSE
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  Speaker 1: i was transitioning through. PUBERTY i was so, pale uncoordinated
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  Speaker 1: at the, time and hadn't really become athletic yet and
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  Speaker 1: people put me in so many boxes and all of
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  Speaker 1: THEM i, said that's not, me that's not. TRUE i
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  Speaker 1: know WHO i. AM i know Who i'm going to,
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  Speaker 1: become even THOUGH i can't see. It SAID i Know
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  Speaker 1: i'm going to be. THIS i Know i'm going to be.
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  Speaker 1: That that's WHO i said THAT i. Was So resiliency
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  Speaker 1: starts with who do you say that you? Are and
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  Speaker 1: that's the hardest thing for people because they don't want
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  Speaker 1: to define. That they want other people to define. Them
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  Speaker 1: it's scary to look into yourself and try to pull
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  Speaker 1: out who AM i going to?
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  Speaker 3: Be, oh massively. WOW i think the thing that's interesting
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  Speaker 3: about that question, is you, KNOW i don't think many
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  Speaker 3: people if you said who are? You that's a hard you,
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  Speaker 3: know you watch people stumble through their intros in business
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  Speaker 3: settings or whatever it, is or the question that SOMETIMES
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  Speaker 3: i get as a marketing consultant with, people you, know
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  Speaker 3: within our, consultancy people will be, like what's your? Superpower
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  Speaker 3: AND i hate that, question even THOUGH i have it
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  Speaker 3: an answer to. It it's just it's not something that
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  Speaker 3: people ask a. Lot and what you're talking about sounds
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  Speaker 3: like who do you say you? Are, well everybody's saying
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  Speaker 3: something about who they are all the, time, right everybody
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  Speaker 3: has self, talk BUT i don't think a lot of
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  Speaker 3: people are really aware of. IT i, mean you, said
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  Speaker 3: you said a stat on self talk to me when
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  Speaker 3: we've we've talked about, this because we've talked about this.
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  Speaker 2: Before do you remember what that.
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  Speaker 1: Was, well there's a lot of stats on self. Talk you,
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  Speaker 1: know there's stats that would tell you people talk to
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  Speaker 1: themselves at two hundred or four, hundred eight, Hundred and
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  Speaker 1: there's another say that says two thousand words per minute
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  Speaker 1: that people talk to themselves. Good the word the word
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  Speaker 1: count is not significant. SIGNIFICANT i don't talk the. Fastest
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  Speaker 1: there's people that talk faster than. Me there's people that
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  Speaker 1: talk less words permanent than. Me you don't look at
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  Speaker 1: a speaker or the value of audible content by a word.
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  Speaker 1: Count so it doesn't really matter how many words per
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  Speaker 1: minute you. Speak what matters is that you do and,
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  Speaker 1: yes and it is happening all the. Time it's not
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  Speaker 1: just a conversation with. Yourself so there's times when you're
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  Speaker 1: like just talking with yourself trying to air out a.
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  Speaker 1: Thought there's other times where you are really speaking and
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  Speaker 1: this gets into a, deeper a deeper, Topic, nick where
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  Speaker 1: who you are is connecting to your brain and you
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  Speaker 1: can start telling YOURSELF i am, enough or you can
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  Speaker 1: start telling YOURSELF i am not, enough, Right and that's
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  Speaker 1: what where people get law the reason people struggle with, Resiliency,
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  Speaker 1: Nick and you could this is kind of, metaphorical but
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  Speaker 1: you could look at it this. Way people are afraid
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  Speaker 1: of the. Dark and what DO i mean by? That
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  Speaker 1: when you look into the space and an unknown space
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  Speaker 1: that's dark and you can't see what's in. THERE i
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  Speaker 1: mean if we went outside at night and we're looking
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  Speaker 1: into a, shadow what you if you keep staring at
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  Speaker 1: it long, enough what people are going to imagine is something,
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  Speaker 1: dark something that would hurt. Them people are afraid to
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  Speaker 1: walk into that. Space we have so much, dark unexplored
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  Speaker 1: space within ourselves and people don't want to go in.
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  Speaker 1: There they just want somebody to tell them what's in.
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  Speaker 1: There and you have to, decide, LIKE i am going
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  Speaker 1: to discover WHO i am And i'm going to define
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  Speaker 1: WHO i. Am i'm not going to wait for other
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  Speaker 1: people to tell it to. Me so resiliency really comes down, to,
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  Speaker 1: like what are your core beliefs about yourself and what
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  Speaker 1: are you going to? Decide and that comes from an
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  Speaker 1: even deeper belief that you have the ability to do.
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  Speaker 1: That because most people think that their life is, fixed
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  Speaker 1: that who they are is, fixed that they don't have
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  Speaker 1: any ability to write their own. Story i'm as smart
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  Speaker 1: AS i am because that's the way that it. Is
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  Speaker 1: and it's a lack of personal. Accountability it's a lack
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  Speaker 1: of personal. Responsibility most people's deepest fear isn't just a
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  Speaker 1: public speaking or being afraid of the, dark but it's
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  Speaker 1: a fear of. Inadequacy it's a fear of, What, yeah
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  Speaker 1: what IF i give all THAT i? Have what IF
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  Speaker 1: i give one hundred percent and still? Fail and they
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  Speaker 1: wouldn't know what to do at that point because most,
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  Speaker 1: people and this is we're going way deep, Now, nick
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  Speaker 1: because most people measure themselves by their, accomplishments not by
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  Speaker 1: who they. Are to mastery to know, yourself that is
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  Speaker 1: a great supreme accomplishment and resiliency will get you. There
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  Speaker 1: but most people don't want to do that because they
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  Speaker 1: are afraid to really test. Themselves buds attract so many
• 15:20
  Speaker 1: people because it is such a great, test and people
• 15:23
  Speaker 1: are asking themselves DO i know WHO i, am and
• 15:26
  Speaker 1: they come to buds to find the.
• 15:27
  Speaker 3: Answer, man you went exactly. Where so we've talked about,
• 15:33
  Speaker 3: this or maybe we. HAVEN'T i love cognitive behavioral. Therapy
• 15:36
  Speaker 3: it's something THAT i put a lot of weight into
• 15:39
  Speaker 3: AND i love reading about.
• 15:40
  Speaker 2: It so there's my kind of nerdy.
• 15:41
  Speaker 1: STUY i do.
• 15:42
  Speaker 3: Too and what you talked, them it's funny that we've
• 15:43
  Speaker 3: never covered that. Before what you touched on right, there
• 15:47
  Speaker 3: the challenge of. Resiliency And Tony robbins's a guy that
• 15:50
  Speaker 3: we both have immense respect for and he's been a
• 15:53
  Speaker 3: huge blessing and to help shape me in my life
• 15:56
  Speaker 3: From afar and he, says you, know people basically only
• 15:59
  Speaker 3: have two. Fears number one is that they're not, enough
• 16:02
  Speaker 3: and number two is that because they're not, enough they
• 16:03
  Speaker 3: won't be. Loved AND i think that is such a
• 16:05
  Speaker 3: beautiful way to sum it.
• 16:06
  Speaker 2: Up and you touched on, it AND i didn't.
• 16:08
  Speaker 1: Know that he says that that people have these two.
• 16:10
  Speaker 1: Fears but that's absolutely.
• 16:11
  Speaker 3: True oh, Yeah and that's, why as you, WERE i
• 16:13
  Speaker 3: was so glad that you went where you did because
• 16:16
  Speaker 3: the challenge of resiliency is you're, right you're facing that
• 16:18
  Speaker 3: abyss of, OKAY i have to be prepared to find
• 16:23
  Speaker 3: out THAT i could fail and if your outcome base
• 16:26
  Speaker 3: that is a very very hard thing to.
• 16:28
  Speaker 1: Do let me relate this to something that guys experience
• 16:31
  Speaker 1: in buds is kind of like an example of. Resiliency
• 16:34
  Speaker 1: WHAT i call it is the unknown distance. Run so
• 16:38
  Speaker 1: there's runs and. Buds there's runs in life right where
• 16:42
  Speaker 1: you know how far away the finish line, is and
• 16:44
  Speaker 1: then there are other runs that you don't know how
• 16:46
  Speaker 1: far away the finish line. Is so in buds you
• 16:48
  Speaker 1: have four mile timed, runs you know how far that,
• 16:50
  Speaker 1: is and people know what they're capable, of and people
• 16:53
  Speaker 1: will come into that run with confidence versus there are
• 16:57
  Speaker 1: other runs and buds that are not meant to be
• 16:59
  Speaker 1: time that are not meant to be can you run
• 17:02
  Speaker 1: this far this? Fast there are other runs that we're
• 17:05
  Speaker 1: going to take off running and we'll see who's still.
• 17:07
  Speaker 1: Here and what's the crazy part Is, Nick none of
• 17:11
  Speaker 1: those runs and, like as far as the pace and
• 17:13
  Speaker 1: the conditioning level really took more effort than what like
• 17:17
  Speaker 1: or ability than it took to pass a four mile
• 17:20
  Speaker 1: at the times that were, Required but it tested guys
• 17:23
  Speaker 1: in a different. Way there were guys Who i'm sorry.
• 17:26
  Speaker 3: To jump, in but for, reference for those of us
• 17:28
  Speaker 3: who haven't been THROUGH, buds and that's pretty much all of,
• 17:31
  Speaker 3: us what is a four mile timed? Run BECAUSE i
• 17:34
  Speaker 3: think in my, MIND i think you guys are just,
• 17:36
  Speaker 3: like if you're not doing five minute, miles you're out
• 17:38
  Speaker 3: of The, Navy and that's obviously not the.
• 17:39
  Speaker 1: Case, yeah it's not five minute, miles but you are
• 17:42
  Speaker 1: in pants and boots on the beach In cornado four.
• 17:45
  Speaker 1: Miles the times start at thirty two minutes right at
• 17:48
  Speaker 1: the end Of. Buds by third, PHASE i believe the
• 17:51
  Speaker 1: last time gate is twenty eight, minutes so seven minute miles.
• 17:54
  Speaker 2: At the, end, okay which is.
• 17:56
  Speaker 3: Good but there's a lot of high school kids out
• 17:58
  Speaker 3: there that are going seven minute.
• 17:59
  Speaker 1: MILES i tell, you that's achievable by ninety five to
• 18:02
  Speaker 1: ninety nine percent of, people, Right like a five minute
• 18:05
  Speaker 1: mile is not achievable by.
• 18:06
  Speaker 3: Everybody, YEAH i just want to give some context for
• 18:08
  Speaker 3: people who haven't been THROUGH, buds which is pretty much.
• 18:10
  Speaker 3: Everybody so you're saying that this four so you're running
• 18:13
  Speaker 3: at a slower pace than even the eight minute pace
• 18:16
  Speaker 3: that you guys.
• 18:16
  Speaker 2: Do for four.
• 18:17
  Speaker 1: Miles, yeah but it may be an eight minute pace
• 18:19
  Speaker 1: for eleven or twelve.
• 18:20
  Speaker 3: Miles, right, okay, okay so you guys may stick with
• 18:23
  Speaker 3: that four mile pace or.
• 18:25
  Speaker 1: And there's other ways to create. Pain you. Know sometimes
• 18:28
  Speaker 1: we'll run for a couple of miles and then there's
• 18:30
  Speaker 1: going to be like a beat down or get wet and,
• 18:32
  Speaker 1: sandy and then we'll keep. Running but here's what here's
• 18:35
  Speaker 1: What jack's people up standing at The you, know the
• 18:39
  Speaker 1: hardest thing about a thing is not doing the. Thing
• 18:41
  Speaker 1: it's the anticipation of the. Thing and so the, form
• 18:43
  Speaker 1: the hardest part of the form mile time run is
• 18:45
  Speaker 1: standing there waiting for the four mile time run to.
• 18:47
  Speaker 1: Start right once you're in, it it feels. Different, well
• 18:50
  Speaker 1: the anticipation pain before the four mile time run is.
• 18:54
  Speaker 1: Small the anticipation pain before the unknown distance run is
• 18:59
  Speaker 1: as big is your. Imagination and that's what crushes most
• 19:02
  Speaker 1: people because they're, wondering, like how bad could this possibly?
• 19:05
  Speaker 1: Be and they put they look at the. Instructor and
• 19:09
  Speaker 1: some of the instructors who would lead the unknown distance
• 19:11
  Speaker 1: runs were really good, runners but they would look at
• 19:13
  Speaker 1: them and be, like, man those guys can run insanely
• 19:15
  Speaker 1: fast and faster than. Me and, yeah some of those
• 19:18
  Speaker 1: guys were great, runners BUT i would look at them
• 19:19
  Speaker 1: and just know that they're. HUMAN i also knew THAT
• 19:21
  Speaker 1: i was one of the slowest runners in the class,
• 19:23
  Speaker 1: anyways and just, said you know, What i'm still gonna be.
• 19:25
  Speaker 1: Here i'm just gonna keep. Going and SO i KNEW
• 19:28
  Speaker 1: i was already signed up for. Pain but other guys were,
• 19:30
  Speaker 1: SAYING i don't know If i'm, enough and the unknown
• 19:33
  Speaker 1: distance run would break them in the same way that
• 19:35
  Speaker 1: a lack of resiliency, does because they're not willing to,
• 19:38
  Speaker 1: Test they're not willing to look into the dark and
• 19:41
  Speaker 1: see what's in. There they don't know how to go
• 19:43
  Speaker 1: over that. LINE i had guys in my class quit
• 19:46
  Speaker 1: who could run twice as fast as, me guys who
• 19:48
  Speaker 1: were amazing, runners and they. Would some of those guys
• 19:51
  Speaker 1: quit on unknown distance, runs not because they couldn't keep
• 19:54
  Speaker 1: pace with the, class but because in their mind they
• 19:56
  Speaker 1: made it into something bigger than it.
• 19:58
  Speaker 3: Was man and throw away all that because buds is
• 20:01
  Speaker 3: what week or hell week's week.
• 20:03
  Speaker 2: Five, yeah and that's what we were talking. About the unknown.
• 20:05
  Speaker 1: Distance, well, well there's unown distance runs all throughout.
• 20:08
  Speaker 2: First oh, There oh, okay, OKAY i didn't know that. Right,
• 20:10
  Speaker 2: See i'm learning man for. Soon IF i if they
• 20:12
  Speaker 2: start allowing old dudes and The navy, seals, Man i'm
• 20:14
  Speaker 2: ready from this.
• 20:14
  Speaker 1: Podcast thank you're a little past the age.
• 20:16
  Speaker 2: Waiver, okay there was no need to go. There you
• 20:18
  Speaker 2: could have humored.
• 20:19
  Speaker 3: Me but, anyways uh, So, SO i, mean so that's
• 20:24
  Speaker 3: insane to see that guys would walk. AWAY i, mean
• 20:26
  Speaker 3: so you're saying that a guy might walk away at
• 20:28
  Speaker 3: like four miles or five miles in which is which
• 20:32
  Speaker 3: is crazy because they've already run how Many how many
• 20:33
  Speaker 3: miles do you run In Hell?
• 20:34
  Speaker 1: Week In Hell, week you'll run over two hundred miles
• 20:37
  Speaker 1: and so on that same, topic you can talk about
• 20:41
  Speaker 1: guys quitting in strange circumstances to make, it to help
• 20:44
  Speaker 1: just to get To hell. Week you're a tough, dude,
• 20:46
  Speaker 1: Right you've already been through four weeks of first. Phase
• 20:49
  Speaker 1: they're a tough dude just to get. There you're you're not.
• 20:52
  Speaker 1: Weak and there are lots of guys who quit in
• 20:56
  Speaker 1: the first twenty four hours Of hell. Week and you
• 20:59
  Speaker 1: could look at everything that happens in the first twenty
• 21:01
  Speaker 1: four hours of hell week and, say how is this
• 21:03
  Speaker 1: really any harder than what you've already done in the
• 21:05
  Speaker 1: last four? Weeks and, this and now we're going to
• 21:07
  Speaker 1: talk about something else that relates to, this which is
• 21:10
  Speaker 1: how people. Quit this is where people. Quit In, Buds,
• 21:13
  Speaker 1: nick people will, Quit so take the take like a
• 21:19
  Speaker 1: good athlete or somebody that you, know and they can make.
• 21:22
  Speaker 2: It through one day At.
• 21:23
  Speaker 1: Buds but where people quit, is you, know when you
• 21:26
  Speaker 1: finally finish that, evening the instructors are done messing around
• 21:29
  Speaker 1: with you at like seven or, eight then you have
• 21:31
  Speaker 1: all this other you, know stuff that they tell you
• 21:33
  Speaker 1: you got to clean and, do and then you go
• 21:35
  Speaker 1: clean your personal stuff and then your class oic musters
• 21:38
  Speaker 1: you and tells you what you, know it's basically midnight
• 21:41
  Speaker 1: at this, point and tells you what the schedule is
• 21:43
  Speaker 1: for the next. Day and we, have you, know the
• 21:45
  Speaker 1: next evolution for day two starting at four in the.
• 21:48
  Speaker 1: Morning so we as a class are meeting at three
• 21:51
  Speaker 1: thirty and it's midnight right. Now what happens is people
• 21:54
  Speaker 1: say not THAT i can't do this again, Tomorrow they
• 21:57
  Speaker 1: SAY i can't do this for one hundred and seventy
• 21:58
  Speaker 1: nine more, days and so that's where people. Quit and you,
• 22:01
  Speaker 1: know when you're doing the unknown distance, run it's not
• 22:04
  Speaker 1: THAT i have to keep this pace for. FOREVER i
• 22:06
  Speaker 1: just have to keep this pace for right. Now but
• 22:08
  Speaker 1: people quit because they, say, well what IF i, can't
• 22:10
  Speaker 1: and then they and then they eliminate themselves, Anyways so
• 22:13
  Speaker 1: resiliency is all starts with a way of thinking that
• 22:17
  Speaker 1: SAYS i, Can Like Henry ford, says whether you think
• 22:20
  Speaker 1: you can't or you think you, can't you're. Right. YEAH
• 22:23
  Speaker 1: i was fortunate enough to hear that very young in,
• 22:25
  Speaker 1: life AND i believed. It some people hear that quote
• 22:28
  Speaker 1: and say that's, stupid, right those people don't have very much, resiliency.
• 22:31
  Speaker 2: And they're, Right, yeah they're. Right it is stupid for.
• 22:34
  Speaker 1: Them so it's self, fulfilling self.
• 22:37
  Speaker 2: Fulfilling it's.
• 22:37
  Speaker 3: Beautiful, SO i, mean there's so much there and that's.
• 22:41
  Speaker 3: Phenomenal AND i love that we're talking about going to
• 22:44
  Speaker 3: the core of who a person is BECAUSE i think
• 22:45
  Speaker 3: that's a very personal topic THAT i don't feel a
• 22:48
  Speaker 3: lot of.
• 22:48
  Speaker 1: People nobody wants to be told. That nobody wants to
• 22:51
  Speaker 1: be told, that, really what you're capable of has to
• 22:53
  Speaker 1: do with who you say that you are and what
• 22:56
  Speaker 1: you believe about. Yourself people want to people want to, say,
• 22:59
  Speaker 1: WELL i can't be this because nobody gave me.
• 23:02
  Speaker 3: That so the onus look in the mirror That that's
• 23:05
  Speaker 3: what's tough about this is that you take absolute ownership
• 23:09
  Speaker 3: for everything in your, life and and that is a very.
• 23:11
  Speaker 1: CHALLENGING i didn't give myself a lot of. Mercy. NICK
• 23:14
  Speaker 1: i kind of backed myself like into a corner with
• 23:17
  Speaker 1: going Into buds Because i'm, like, MAN i have everything
• 23:19
  Speaker 1: that IF i, fail it's totally on. Me. Yeah, Yeah
• 23:22
  Speaker 1: i'm not like one of the guys who is blind
• 23:25
  Speaker 1: and climbed To Mount everest or has no legs and
• 23:27
  Speaker 1: Climbed Mount. Everest like you, know if you fail on,
• 23:29
  Speaker 1: that no one's going to like beat you up about.
• 23:31
  Speaker 1: It like IF i had failed At, BUDS i deserve
• 23:33
  Speaker 1: to get beat up about it BECAUSE i had everything
• 23:35
  Speaker 1: that was required right to begin.
• 23:38
  Speaker 3: And you knew, that and that, WELL i think that's
• 23:39
  Speaker 3: an incredible thing because you were told that you, didn't
• 23:42
  Speaker 3: but you knew that you. Did so let's put this
• 23:44
  Speaker 3: back in my. Shoes i'm too old.
• 23:45
  Speaker 2: To join The. Navy.
• 23:46
  Speaker 3: Seals so you, know while you've crushed my dream on this,
• 23:49
  Speaker 3: PODCAST i will eventually get over it BECAUSE i have.
• 23:51
  Speaker 3: Resiliency AND i never have told Myself i'm an Ify,
• 23:54
  Speaker 3: Seal but IF I i do want to develop more
• 23:57
  Speaker 3: resiliency BECAUSE i, see.
• 23:58
  Speaker 1: Well here's let me let me something real. Quick some,
• 24:01
  Speaker 1: people like people would be uncomfortable making a statement like
• 24:05
  Speaker 1: where if you said and people think, like, oh you
• 24:06
  Speaker 1: can't say that in front Of, Garrett like you defend.
• 24:08
  Speaker 1: It if you, said like right, now LIKE i THINK
• 24:10
  Speaker 1: i could have made it through. Buds other people, like
• 24:12
  Speaker 1: well you. Can't you, know you don't know. That you
• 24:14
  Speaker 1: can't say. That it's exactly HOW i felt at nineteen years,
• 24:16
  Speaker 1: Old like if you said that right, Now, GARRETT i
• 24:19
  Speaker 1: THINK i could make it through. Buds you are entitled
• 24:22
  Speaker 1: to think. That, Yeah like it doesn't even matter IF
• 24:24
  Speaker 1: i agreed with you or. Not, right you can think. That,
• 24:26
  Speaker 1: Yeah and at NINETEEN i was LIKE i can't think,
• 24:28
  Speaker 1: this AND i had everyone trying to tell me you
• 24:30
  Speaker 1: can't think that.
• 24:31
  Speaker 2: Way but that's the empowering.
• 24:32
  Speaker 3: Thing so if somebody out there realizes the, value AND
• 24:35
  Speaker 3: i hope they, DO i, mean you've talked about it at,
• 24:37
  Speaker 3: length and it is tied to core. Values how do
• 24:40
  Speaker 3: we go from? It you, know it's, resiliency it's self.
• 24:43
  Speaker 3: Talk we've touched on those ARE i feel like those
• 24:45
  Speaker 3: are the two key parts of what we're talking about.
• 24:47
  Speaker 3: Here how does someone go from, MAN i never heard
• 24:50
  Speaker 3: of this TO i need to develop this BECAUSE i
• 24:53
  Speaker 3: realize the value of what this is going to bring
• 24:55
  Speaker 3: to my.
• 24:55
  Speaker 1: Life, Yeah so if we want to make it, real
• 24:57
  Speaker 1: tangible for, people it starts with. Awareness you need to
• 25:00
  Speaker 1: have an awareness of what resiliency. Is and it's not
• 25:02
  Speaker 1: just confidence on. Steroids. Right it starts with who do
• 25:06
  Speaker 1: you say that you?
• 25:06
  Speaker 3: Are?
• 25:06
  Speaker 2: What self? Talk? What?
• 25:08
  Speaker 1: Yeah and what do you believe about? Yourself? Right self
• 25:10
  Speaker 1: talk influence is that self talk is not your. Identity
• 25:13
  Speaker 1: self talk influence is your, identity and we'll talk more
• 25:16
  Speaker 1: about that and other, episodes but it starts with who
• 25:19
  Speaker 1: do you say that you? Are that is the core of.
• 25:21
  Speaker 1: Resiliency so at, first it's, awareness knowing what resiliency is and, deciding,
• 25:25
  Speaker 1: HEY i want to have. Resiliency if you want to have,
• 25:27
  Speaker 1: it you need to determine that you want to have, it,
• 25:30
  Speaker 1: Right and that's so it starts with awareness and understanding it.
• 25:33
  Speaker 3: Right so let's say THAT, i you, know decide WHO
• 25:37
  Speaker 3: i am AND i, go you know, What i'm a
• 25:38
  Speaker 3: turd Because i've had you talked about confidence and it
• 25:41
  Speaker 3: coming from the. Outside for a lot of, PEOPLE a
• 25:43
  Speaker 3: lot of people have grown up not having people that
• 25:46
  Speaker 3: believed in. THEM i, MEAN i was very fortunate that
• 25:48
  Speaker 3: my parents growing up telling ME i could do anything
• 25:49
  Speaker 3: and that they love. ME a lot of people will
• 25:51
  Speaker 3: come from terrible. Backgrounds so if you, have if you're
• 25:55
  Speaker 3: if you stop and you get this awareness you're talking,
• 25:57
  Speaker 3: about and you, Realize, MAN i believe leave a bunch
• 26:00
  Speaker 3: of things about myself that if someone else said them about,
• 26:03
  Speaker 3: Me i'd want to punch them in the. Face but
• 26:05
  Speaker 3: ACTUALLY i say it to myself all the. Time where
• 26:07
  Speaker 3: do you begin to you, know where do you go from?
• 26:09
  Speaker 3: There BECAUSE i think there are there are a lot
• 26:11
  Speaker 3: more people in.
• 26:12
  Speaker 1: THAT i feel like a really great MAD tv sketch
• 26:15
  Speaker 1: From Bob newhart where he just, says stop. IT i
• 26:18
  Speaker 1: tell people, like if you're saying negative things about, yourself stop.
• 26:21
  Speaker 1: It if you're not believing positive things about, yourself stop.
• 26:24
  Speaker 1: It you're not helping. Anyone you're making yourself you are relieving.
• 26:29
  Speaker 1: Yourself you'd rather sit with the pain of poor performance
• 26:34
  Speaker 1: than the pain of. Inadequacy they don't Want people don't
• 26:36
  Speaker 1: want to challenge, Themselves and it's WHY i like to challenge.
• 26:39
  Speaker 1: PEOPLE i THINK i am WHERE i am at this
• 26:41
  Speaker 1: point in my life BECAUSE i lean into the. CHALLENGE
• 26:44
  Speaker 1: i seek. CHALLENGES i want to be. Tested people who
• 26:47
  Speaker 1: don't want to be tested won't become very much like
• 26:50
  Speaker 1: resiliency starts WITH i want.
• 26:52
  Speaker 2: THAT i want to be that, way, Right, SO i,
• 26:55
  Speaker 2: mean it's as simple as.
• 26:56
  Speaker 3: That it's a, decision right to stop what you're leaving
• 27:00
  Speaker 3: about yourself and what you're saying right, then so now
• 27:02
  Speaker 3: what you got to replace it with? Something you can't
• 27:03
  Speaker 3: just leave?
• 27:04
  Speaker 1: It so the next, step, so, okay you've decided to
• 27:06
  Speaker 1: quit calling yourself a loser And i'm going to call
• 27:09
  Speaker 1: myself a. Winner and then you go out there and
• 27:12
  Speaker 1: you try to be a winner and you fail. Again
• 27:14
  Speaker 1: and that's most people's journey on. Resiliency, WELL i Guess
• 27:17
  Speaker 1: i'm not that right because they thought it was as
• 27:19
  Speaker 1: easy as WELL i said it, right and, no it
• 27:21
  Speaker 1: doesn't work that. Way if you believe, it then it
• 27:24
  Speaker 1: doesn't matter what happens, Anyways like if you know that
• 27:28
  Speaker 1: you are, capable if you know who you, are even
• 27:31
  Speaker 1: when you get external stimuli that says differently you, can
• 27:34
  Speaker 1: doesn't change your. Belief that, is how do you hold
• 27:37
  Speaker 1: on to a belief that everyone says you're, wrong that
• 27:39
  Speaker 1: what's going on around you says you're. Wrong you HAVE i,
• 27:42
  Speaker 1: mean it is just a core. Belief and then as
• 27:44
  Speaker 1: you continue to hold on to, that and you keep
• 27:46
  Speaker 1: pressing and you keep, pushing then you'll prove. It most
• 27:49
  Speaker 1: people give up just, before you, know on that unknown distance.
• 27:52
  Speaker 1: Run they give, up not at the point of. Failure
• 27:55
  Speaker 1: they give up at the point of, discomfort.
• 27:57
  Speaker 3: Right AND i, think you, know going back to a
• 27:59
  Speaker 3: tone another Great Tony robbins, quote he, says the moment
• 28:02
  Speaker 3: of decision is where true life change. Happens And i'm
• 28:05
  Speaker 3: listening to you talk about, that And i'm getting chills
• 28:07
  Speaker 3: Because i'm thinking about the person who's trying to change.
• 28:09
  Speaker 3: It And i'm so glad you touched on the failure
• 28:11
  Speaker 3: because it's not like you listen to this podcast and
• 28:14
  Speaker 3: now you know.
• 28:15
  Speaker 1: En, yeah just, hey you, know go wear A t
• 28:17
  Speaker 1: shirt that says you're a winner and tell everyone you're
• 28:19
  Speaker 1: you're a, winner and then now everything you do will
• 28:21
  Speaker 1: be a. Success not the.
• 28:22
  Speaker 3: Case but you've got to be stubborn about being first
• 28:26
  Speaker 3: of all, aware, like, hey, wait this is one of
• 28:28
  Speaker 3: those situations where NOW i have to be.
• 28:29
  Speaker 1: Somebody you may have all the resiliency and believe that
• 28:32
  Speaker 1: you're a, winner and you may go on for ten
• 28:34
  Speaker 1: years and keep. Failing at that point you need to, Realize,
• 28:38
  Speaker 1: OKAY i have the core belief of being a, winner
• 28:40
  Speaker 1: but what AM i?
• 28:41
  Speaker 2: Missing right then you start looking at your.
• 28:43
  Speaker 1: Strategy but if you still have that, sense, yeah you're
• 28:45
  Speaker 1: gonna change You what AM i? Missing AM i missing?
• 28:47
  Speaker 1: Other is there equipment THAT i? Need is there knowledge
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  Speaker 1: THAT i? Need you're gonna find. It but with that
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  Speaker 1: resilient mindset you'll find. It. Right but if you don't
• 28:55
  Speaker 1: have that resilient, mindset you'll just say, no it's not
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  Speaker 1: meant for. Me you, know IF i, had IF i
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  Speaker 1: had failed my first time AT, buds it would not have.
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  Speaker 1: Changed and there's a lot so there is some luck
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  Speaker 1: involved IN, Buds LIKE i could have gotten injured and
• 29:06
  Speaker 1: just got dismissed from. TRAINING i failed pool comp and
• 29:09
  Speaker 1: they decided to keep me where they. KICKED i think
• 29:11
  Speaker 1: there were twelve of us that failed pool comp and
• 29:13
  Speaker 1: nine of them they. Booted it kept me and a couple.
• 29:15
  Speaker 1: OTHERS i could have gotten booted and it would have
• 29:18
  Speaker 1: Taken and there are guys that come. Back Michael Mansur
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  Speaker 1: medal Of honor winner jumped on a, grenade saved his team's.
• 29:24
  Speaker 1: Life he quit his first time AT. Buds most people
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  Speaker 1: don't know. That, wow what do you? But and so
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  Speaker 1: he was twenty five years old on their first deployment
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  Speaker 1: when he did. That he had. Failed he's probably nineteen
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  Speaker 1: or twenty his first time AT. Buds because you go
• 29:35
  Speaker 1: to the fleet for a few, years you come. Back
• 29:37
  Speaker 1: i'm sure somebody will correct me on the right. Details
• 29:39
  Speaker 1: but then he went on and did. That so the
• 29:43
  Speaker 1: POINT i was making, was even IF i had made
• 29:45
  Speaker 1: it my first, time if you have, resiliency you're going to, say,
• 29:47
  Speaker 1: well that's not. Me you, know even THOUGH i, Failed
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  Speaker 1: i'm not a. Failure.
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  Speaker 2: RIGHT i love.
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  Speaker 3: That, Well we're going to dive more in on future
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  Speaker 3: episodes into self talk for. SURE i would say for everybody,
• 29:57
  Speaker 3: listening take your takeaways if you're into that sort of,
• 30:00
  Speaker 3: thing and we'll cover Takeaways i'm sure another time as,
• 30:02
  Speaker 3: well BECAUSE i know you're big on those is.
• 30:05
  Speaker 2: Who do you say you? Are and what is the
• 30:07
  Speaker 2: self talk? Saying what are you saying to?
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  Speaker 3: YOURSELF i think if you can answer those two questions for,
• 30:12
  Speaker 3: yourself you might start going down a whole new path
• 30:15
  Speaker 3: of developing.
• 30:16
  Speaker 1: Resiliency, yeah what what do you believe about? Yourself? Nick
• 30:19
  Speaker 1: that's where it. Starts if you don't believe that you
• 30:22
  Speaker 1: have a, destiny you're not going to have. One if
• 30:24
  Speaker 1: you don't believe that you're, capable you're.
• 30:26
  Speaker 3: Not.
• 30:27
  Speaker 2: NO i love.
• 30:27
  Speaker 3: That, well, guys we're going to wrap there for pod.
• 30:30
  Speaker 3: Too if you want to get in touch with, us
• 30:34
  Speaker 3: you can Follow garrett On instagram At garrett uncle, back
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  Speaker 3: which is a weird last. Name you can check the
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  Speaker 3: to subscribe to. Us we are going to have more for.
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  Speaker 3: You we appreciate you, guys, watching, listening or whatever you're.
• 30:47
  Speaker 1: Doing going to tell you WHAT i, Believe, NICK i
• 30:48
  Speaker 1: don't believe that it's a weird last.
• 30:51
  Speaker 2: Name you.
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  Speaker 1: KNOW i used to think, that and then now WHAT
• 30:53
  Speaker 1: i know is that it's such a unique class. Name
• 30:56
  Speaker 1: WHEN i was, YOUNG i was, like, yeah it is,
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  Speaker 1: weird people, like you, know make jokes about. It but
• 31:00
  Speaker 1: you know what people don't. Do they don't forget my.
• 31:02
  Speaker 2: Name, well that's, true and they probably also don't know much,
• 31:04
  Speaker 2: right so you know that's. Great. NOW i also have
• 31:07
  Speaker 2: a non common last, name but it's you, know you
• 31:09
  Speaker 2: can spell, it so it's so common that people don't
• 31:12
  Speaker 2: spell it. Right but, whatever all, Right Uncle buck and, SURFACE.
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  Speaker 1: I don't make pancakes for the.
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  Speaker 2: SHOVEL i don't even know what that.
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  Speaker 1: Means that's an Uncle buck, Joke, OKAY i MADE i
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  Speaker 1: made my FIRST i made my first joke on the,
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  Speaker 1: podcast and you missed.
• 31:24
  Speaker 2: It Uncle. Buck, well, uh yeah it sucked If i'm being.
• 31:28
  Speaker 2: Honest all, Right, Well i'm looking forward to seeing your jokes,
• 31:31
  Speaker 2: improve And i'm looking forward to diving more in uh next, time.
• 31:34
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