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Season 2 - Episode 301 - Setting the day up for less stress · Good Morning From The Chicken Coop!

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  Welcome to the Good Morning From the Chicken Coop Podcast with
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  Kim Johnson, your creative strategist and mastermind set
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  coach. Filled with inspiration,
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  distinctions, perspectives, and possibilities, we help you to
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  cultivate a mindset that leads you to create the best version
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  of yourself you could ever imagine.
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  Join Kim every morning from one of her favorite happy places,
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  her chicken coop along with all her chickens.
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  Hey, good morning from the chicken coop everybody.
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  So today we are talking about stress reduction, which is
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  intrinsically tied to being. Filled with more energy.
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  When you reduce your stress, your energy levels go up.
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  So as you can imagine, one of the byproducts of being very
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  stressed out all the time for many people is that they get
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  really tired. They just want to sleep.
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  They want to go to bed, they want to hide out from the world,
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  they want to put on jammies and just go to bed.
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  And that's a natural response because BED is a place where
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  we're supposed to go and feel completely safe because when you
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  sleep, you're completely vulnerable, like anything can
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  happen at that point in time. So you're in a state of complete
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  trust and vulnerability. That's why it's so important for
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  us to have this, this idea of stress reduction coming in when
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  we sleep. So first and foremost, I'm going
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  to say this. Stress reduction is personal for
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  everybody. As to how to reduce it, I'm
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  going to give you some ideas here, but you have to really
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  know what your trigger points are.
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  And the first part of this exercise is figuring out what
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  stresses you out during the day so that you can say, how can I
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  eliminate this now, years ago when my kids were little?
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  I had this whole thing about getting out of the house in the
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  morning because getting them to school, being on time, you know,
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  if you're late for school and you're not in the carpool line
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  at a certain time and they're even 2 minutes late to get to
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  the room, the schools just have this whole thing about really
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  taking it out on the child as well as the parents.
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  And it's just awful. It's it's not.
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  It's just not cool and it's not the way I wanted to spend my
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  days. But getting the kids out of the
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  house in the morning is a huge stressor for a lot of people.
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  So I had to figure out how to eliminate that in my life.
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  And one strategy that we had was, you know, my daughter who
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  would change her mind on what she was going to wear 17 times,
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  Would you have to pick your clothes the night before that
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  and they are out and you may not change them.
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  If you change them, then there's a you take a gem out of the gem
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  jar because she would get gems in her jar that she could use as
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  currency to buy things as a reward.
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  But the gem jar was very important to her.
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  It didn't work at all with my son, but it worked with my
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  daughter. And she would put her clothes
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  out, make sure it's all done because that was a big stressor
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  with her, because she wanted to change her clothes all the time,
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  and she always had her backpack ready and everything.
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  I didn't even have to think about that.
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  My son was like that. But that was the problem with
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  him. He couldn't get his backpack
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  together. He couldn't figure out where his
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  stuff was. He was always running around in
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  circles trying to figure things out.
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  And I had to make sure that I was on point with him saying,
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  hey, listen, here's what has to happen.
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  You need to make sure that you've got your backpack put by
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  the door. OK, Is it done?
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  Is it done? Wear your shoes.
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  He can be like the absent minded professor and setting yourself
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  up like that is an important thing in your world.
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  So if you can, start thinking about what are the buttons that
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  push you. And you start saying, OK, I know
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  that if I'm going to start my day off, well, I have got to go
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  through and look, how are these other people tied into my
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  stress? Because if we have families,
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  they are tied into our stress. So we have to look at what can I
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  do to push that away, What can I do to change that dynamic?
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  Then look at yourself and say, well, what am I doing to
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  contribute to this? Am I causing this because I'm
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  pushing the snooze button? One, it's really not healthy.
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  To push the snooze button because you're taking yourself
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  into this place of like, OK, I'm awake and then now instead of
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  getting right up when it goes off, which is your intention,
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  you set the alarm for that time. Your intention is get up at that
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  time. And you know this falls back
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  into the rules of don't lie to yourself.
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  If you really want to get up at a certain time, get up at that
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  time. If you know that you're hitting
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  the button with the intention of saying, OK, and for I wake up
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  and then for 10 minutes I'm going to lay here and meditate
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  and then I'm going to get up, Great, That's fine.
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  But make sure you stay aligned with the intention so that you
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  don't add stress to your morning, because then you're
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  lying to yourself before you even get your butt out of bed.
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  Also, think about what you're doing in yourself to not be
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  prepared before you go to bed. There's so much of the stress in
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  the day that takes place before you even go to bed.
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  Are you not ready? Do you not know what you're
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  going to wear? Do you not know what your
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  outcomes are for the next day? Therefore you're struggling to
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  figure out what am I even going to do?
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  And then you get led by the phone, the emails and all the
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  context of things that are coming at you blindly, the text
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  messages. And then you're just not being
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  thoughtful about what you're doing.
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  You're being reactive and being in reaction is never healthy.
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  Because it's it it it always causes stress because you feel
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  like, oh, now the house is on fire and I got to go and my
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  heads on fire I got to go. So think about this.
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  Write down all the stress points, the buttons, all the
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  things that are making you go off the rails, and then set a
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  plan in place. Remember, this is this talk
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  Today is supposed to help you initiate awareness on it so you
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  can go fix it. Really.
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  Look at the night before, Look at the morning and look at what
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  am I doing so that when I go out into my day, I've already set
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  myself up to be able to deal with the stress that may come.
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  But I'm really making it a stress free time.
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  OK my friends, I hope you have a blessed day and I will see you
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  tomorrow. Bye.