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Domestic Violence Red Flags And Safe Exit Steps · Regina Swarn Audio Series Presents

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SPEAKER_00: Hey there, I'm Regina Soren.
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SPEAKER_00: Welcome back to another episode of Regina Soren Audio Series Presents.
0:54
SPEAKER_00: This episode I'll be speaking on domestic violence.
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SPEAKER_00: Now I had a few guests that were going to come on, but at the last minute they were so afraid to talk about their life, I'll say.
1:15
SPEAKER_00: And one of them was so embarrassed that she didn't want to talk about it.
1:19
SPEAKER_00: And one of them, her story would have been just so great for people to hear.
1:25
SPEAKER_00: But the trauma of domestic violence and what it had cost her.
1:33
SPEAKER_00: I mean, it just really wrecked her mind.
1:37
SPEAKER_00: You know, psychologically, domestic violence will, even long after it happened, if you survive it.
1:46
SPEAKER_00: There's still things that you go through in the mind.
1:51
SPEAKER_00: Can I speak on domestic violence?
1:54
SPEAKER_00: Absolutely.
1:56
SPEAKER_00: You know, when I was a teenager, I did all kinds of crazy stuff.
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SPEAKER_00: I didn't recognize that it was domestic violence then.
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SPEAKER_00: Rape and all kinds of other stuff.
2:07
SPEAKER_00: But you know, I don't want to talk about me.
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SPEAKER_00: I want to talk about you.
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SPEAKER_00: And I want to just talk to the ladies out there, and the guys too who are going through that.
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SPEAKER_00: So pull your chair up.
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SPEAKER_00: Let's sit around.
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SPEAKER_00: Just imagine I'm sitting right there in front of you and we're having a conversation.
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SPEAKER_00: Just just just you and me.
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SPEAKER_00: Just imagine it being you, me, and I'm sitting there and we're talking.
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SPEAKER_00: And I'm listening to you.
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SPEAKER_00: Because it's all about listening to a person, giving them the opportunity to speak and to talk without over talking to them.
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SPEAKER_00: Let them talk for a change.
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SPEAKER_00: And that's what my podcast is all about is giving a person to tell their story.
2:58
SPEAKER_00: So if you're not here to tell your story, then I have to tell it.
3:04
SPEAKER_00: So I'm just gonna speak a little bit about domestic violence.
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SPEAKER_00: Contact me at swarmregen at gmail.com.
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SPEAKER_00: That's my last name, then my first name at gmail.com.
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SPEAKER_00: Visit my official website, ReginaSorin.com, and I will have a brand new website, second website this week, uh Regina Sworn Media Hub, yay, where you can check out my posters, my pictures, yes, my real pictures, my real posters, and my blog.
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SPEAKER_00: I will be vlogging at least once a week, maybe twice, all depends, but definitely once.
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SPEAKER_00: So you can check that check out my new website, my second website this week, Regina Sworn Media Hub.
4:03
SPEAKER_00: Yay! Okay, before you cure up, I said we're gonna have a chat and we're going to do that.
4:09
SPEAKER_00: Ladies, listen to me very carefully, and men too.
4:16
SPEAKER_00: If you are going through domestic violence right now, I want you to sit down for a moment if you're by yourself.
4:27
SPEAKER_00: Look up to heaven, just look up to like you're looking up to the Lord, look up and repeat after me, Lord, please help me out of this situation, Lord.
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SPEAKER_00: Help me.
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SPEAKER_00: I need you, help me out of this bad situation that I'm in.
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SPEAKER_00: Help me.
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SPEAKER_00: Now, as you all know, ladies, men too, or maybe you don't know, a lot of people lose their life when they are going around telling their their lover or their husband, I'm going to leave you.
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SPEAKER_00: That's when a lot of people lose their lives.
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SPEAKER_00: Right when you give take control back of your life, they feel like they're losing everything.
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SPEAKER_00: So your life at that point is in very, very much danger.
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SPEAKER_00: So by all means, be careful.
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SPEAKER_00: This is the time that you have to move in silence, travel in silence.
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SPEAKER_00: Because you're being watched everything, your every move, your every moment.
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SPEAKER_00: They could even track your GPS on your car, as one case I was reading about.
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SPEAKER_00: Domestic violence is at an all-time high.
5:59
SPEAKER_00: We don't know what goes on behind closed doors in people's lives.
6:04
SPEAKER_00: We don't.
6:07
SPEAKER_00: And it's so sad to me.
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SPEAKER_00: I read of all the cases out there and about the poor girl that was pushed off of 15 stories with her baby.
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SPEAKER_00: I read about a guy who took out his entire family.
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SPEAKER_00: You know, I read so much and I cry because I can't really relate to that because I had a beautiful daddy.
6:38
SPEAKER_00: My dad, my father was a good man who treated our mom with the highest of respect.
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SPEAKER_00: So I never witnessed my dad beating on my mom.
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SPEAKER_00: I never witnessed that.
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SPEAKER_00: Oh my god, people are calling me.
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SPEAKER_00: I never witnessed that.
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SPEAKER_00: I never witnessed anything bad.
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SPEAKER_00: Ever.
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SPEAKER_00: Never.
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SPEAKER_00: My mom had the highest respect for my dad, and my dad had the highest respect for our mom.
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SPEAKER_00: Never a fight.
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SPEAKER_00: Never a drop down, drag me out fight.
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SPEAKER_00: I never seen my dad fist up against my mom's head.
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SPEAKER_00: I never seen my mom disrespect our father ever.
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SPEAKER_00: So I grew up in a beautiful, beautiful home.
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SPEAKER_00: My dad taught me you are special.
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SPEAKER_00: Baby, you are special.
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SPEAKER_00: Don't ever let any man, don't ever let anybody disrespect you.
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SPEAKER_00: My dad taught me that.
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SPEAKER_00: He said, You see how I treat your mom?
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SPEAKER_00: You see how your mom treat me?
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SPEAKER_00: We show each other respect.
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SPEAKER_00: They call each other mama and daddy.
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SPEAKER_00: They never call each other by their names.
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SPEAKER_00: So sweet.
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SPEAKER_00: But my daddy taught me, he said, don't ever be let anyone disrespect you.
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SPEAKER_00: Ever.
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SPEAKER_00: He said, if you ever sense that someone is trying to disrespect you, you gotta go in the beginning.
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SPEAKER_00: Don't wait till it's late.
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SPEAKER_00: Because there's gonna always be those red flags.
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SPEAKER_00: Sometimes we try to overlook it, ladies.
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SPEAKER_00: You know, the cursing you out and calling you the B word and the C words, you know, things like that.
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SPEAKER_00: Guys, you know what I'm talking about when you're you're when your woman disrespect you and fool around on you and in some cases hurt you, hit you, do things to you.
8:54
SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
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SPEAKER_00: Because she looks at you as a man, you're not gonna hit her back.
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SPEAKER_00: Especially if you're one of those good men.
9:00
SPEAKER_00: I'm talking about the good men now who goes through domestic violence as well.
9:06
SPEAKER_00: So, like I said, several people would not come on here and tell their story because they were embarrassed.
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SPEAKER_00: One lady told me she was so embarrassed, and one lady told me that she was just scared because she had all that trauma coming back to her.
9:20
SPEAKER_00: And then I understood that.
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SPEAKER_00: I understood it.
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SPEAKER_00: And again, when I was a teenager, guys, please forgive me with all the things coming through.
9:30
SPEAKER_00: When I was a teenager, I did a lot of crazy stuff.
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SPEAKER_00: I was very promiscuous, almost ended up in porno.
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SPEAKER_00: I mean, I was just I was just horror.
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SPEAKER_00: I'm just being honest with you.
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SPEAKER_00: I did a lot of things that could have gotten me killed, but we're talking about different times.
9:50
SPEAKER_00: But I still could have gotten killed with the things I was doing, man.
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SPEAKER_00: Sleeping around and just didn't care, you know.
9:59
SPEAKER_00: And then I ran into this one guy who was just his name's Billy.
10:04
SPEAKER_00: White guy named Billy.
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SPEAKER_00: I loved him very much.
10:08
SPEAKER_00: He loved me.
10:10
SPEAKER_00: Had I followed down the path with Billy, because we fought each other.
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SPEAKER_00: I my dad told me don't let anybody hit me or disrespect me.
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SPEAKER_00: So if you hit me, I'm going to hit you back.
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SPEAKER_00: It's what it is.
10:22
SPEAKER_00: So I didn't want to live in that kind of relationship.
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SPEAKER_00: So I learned very early on as a teenager, oh that I went through rape and all that kind of stuff.
10:30
SPEAKER_00: I learned oh, I don't want to live the rest of my life like this.
10:34
SPEAKER_00: So when I turned 21 or whatever, I started doing things differently.
10:40
SPEAKER_00: So that was a young part of my life.
10:46
SPEAKER_00: But it doesn't take away from my mom and dad.
10:48
SPEAKER_00: They were great, great, great parents.
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SPEAKER_00: My mom taught us about the Lord.
10:56
SPEAKER_00: But me with my fast self out there, I'm the one that wanted to do all these things.
11:02
SPEAKER_00: And I paid, I paid the price.
11:05
SPEAKER_00: But I'm thankful to the Lord that I learned early on and did not get in a relationship after relationship.
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SPEAKER_00: Yeah, I could have gotten like done.
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SPEAKER_00: That's a lot of times that's what people do.
11:18
SPEAKER_00: They go from one bad relationship to the next.
11:21
SPEAKER_00: I do not approve men beating on women, and I do not approve women beating on men.
11:32
SPEAKER_00: Again, I just told you, I had the greatest, greatest parents.
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SPEAKER_00: My mom and dad was awesome.
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SPEAKER_00: I respected my dad.
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SPEAKER_00: My dad was a man of a very few words.
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SPEAKER_00: He didn't say a lot, but he had a lot of power.
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SPEAKER_00: Lots of power.
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SPEAKER_00: And people respected my dad.
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SPEAKER_00: They did.
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SPEAKER_00: But I never forget him say, don't ever settle for less.
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SPEAKER_00: Don't let a man disrespect you.
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SPEAKER_00: He said, if they start out cursing you out and calling you names, the B word, the C word, the whatever word, he said, you know, then that's a red flag.
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SPEAKER_00: And a lot of times we overlook that.
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SPEAKER_00: And sometimes we don't overlook it.
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SPEAKER_00: We just want to stay in a relationship.
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SPEAKER_00: A lot of times people want to be in relationships just to say, I got a man, I don't want to be by myself.
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SPEAKER_00: Good lord.
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SPEAKER_00: You're better than that.
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SPEAKER_00: I've seen a lot of women, they see guys and they say, Oh, he's so fine.
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SPEAKER_00: Breaks my heart.
12:43
SPEAKER_00: You're better than that, ladies.
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SPEAKER_00: A lot of times you got your kids involved in this stuff, and they end up losing their lives because of your horniness.
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SPEAKER_00: Wanting to be with a guy, wanting to be with somebody just to say I got somebody.
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SPEAKER_00: Forgetting that you are somebody, even if you are alone.
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SPEAKER_00: And eventually who murders you and your kids.
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SPEAKER_00: You know, in the beginning, it's so beautiful.
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SPEAKER_00: And it just breaks my heart how easy these women are to fall for these guys.
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SPEAKER_00: And then when you try to get away from them, they're not gonna let you do that.
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SPEAKER_00: So if you're out here looking for love, ladies, listen.
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SPEAKER_00: If you're out here looking for love, don't just settle.
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SPEAKER_00: And if you do find that special someone, please, if there's any red flags, because there's no such thing as I I didn't notice the red flags.
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SPEAKER_00: No, you know, you know someone curse you out and belittle you.
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SPEAKER_00: You know in the beginning.
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SPEAKER_00: Yes, you do, you know, but you want to overlook that because you want that man so bad.
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SPEAKER_00: Please, ladies, you're better than that.
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SPEAKER_00: You're better than that.
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SPEAKER_00: You know, personally, I myself am a very per a person that likes to dress modest.
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SPEAKER_00: When I go out and I see someone just with their body parts all hanging out, like one day a lot when I I don't go out a lot because I don't like to be out in public.
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SPEAKER_00: I just don't like to be out in a public place for too long.
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SPEAKER_00: That's just me.
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SPEAKER_00: Walmart, the mall.
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SPEAKER_00: Whatever I gotta do, I go do it and then I get back to my destination.
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SPEAKER_00: People say, Why do you do that?
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SPEAKER_00: You're living in fear.
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SPEAKER_00: No, I'm not.
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SPEAKER_00: It's just the way I've always been, it's the way I've always been, it's the way I've always been, guys.
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SPEAKER_00: And then that's just the way it is.
15:32
SPEAKER_00: But just be careful, guys.
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SPEAKER_00: Please, please be careful.
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SPEAKER_00: I know sometimes that we feel like we gotta have somebody.
16:08
SPEAKER_00: If you are in a relationship and you've gotten married, guys, guys.
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SPEAKER_00: I'm sorry about everybody calling me now.
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SPEAKER_00: Oh my god.
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SPEAKER_00: If you are in a relationship and you've already gotten yourself in a relationship, and then you notice that this person is not for you, then I'm telling you, you gotta pray really, really hard.
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SPEAKER_00: You gotta move, you gotta move with common sense.
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SPEAKER_00: You gotta move with you cannot let this person know.
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SPEAKER_00: Don't go around telling everybody, I'm gonna leave you, I'm gonna leave you, I'm leaving you.
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SPEAKER_00: Don't do that.
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SPEAKER_00: Please don't do that.
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SPEAKER_00: You can lose your life like that, ladies.
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SPEAKER_00: Men, you can lose your life.
16:57
SPEAKER_00: Like I say, sometimes you're already in the relationship.
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SPEAKER_00: Sometimes you are, and it's heartbreaking.
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SPEAKER_00: I know of people who are close to me who was searching for love online.
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SPEAKER_00: Although it was a Christian site.
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SPEAKER_00: And I I would I would always tell her, don't, don't do it, you know.
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SPEAKER_00: God will send you someone.
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SPEAKER_00: You pray and you just wait upon the Lord.
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SPEAKER_00: The Lord will send you that right person.
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SPEAKER_00: But don't just rush out, don't do that.
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SPEAKER_00: Please don't do it.
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SPEAKER_00: And I think of her very often because someone that was very close to me.
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SPEAKER_00: She ended up marrying a drunk.
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SPEAKER_00: She didn't know that before she got in the relationship.
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SPEAKER_00: What happened was it was another relationship that she was in that ended very bad, and our pastor was still alive at the time, so the two of us prayed that God bring her out of that, and God brought her out of that.
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SPEAKER_00: But on the rebound, it was the other guy who really she really wasn't interested in that much, but he was the second, he was number two.
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SPEAKER_00: Number one didn't work out, so she went on to number two.
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SPEAKER_00: And boy, oh boy, she married this guy, and then the guy hated me.
18:42
SPEAKER_00: She let me hurry the tape one day.
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SPEAKER_00: The guy she said he has a disdain for you, and she said, I got into the marriage, the guy was addicted to porn and didn't even sleep in the same room.
18:58
SPEAKER_00: But sometimes the Lord would intervene in our lives when we're in bad situations, and the Lord intervened in my sister's life.
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SPEAKER_00: He intervened, he intervened.
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SPEAKER_00: Never forget it, and I couldn't understand it at the time.
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SPEAKER_00: I said, God, why?
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SPEAKER_00: You know, this is the person that I am closest to.
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SPEAKER_00: Why?
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SPEAKER_00: She was my partner, singing partner.
19:29
SPEAKER_00: We made records together.
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SPEAKER_00: The Lord spoke to my heart.
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SPEAKER_00: He said, because I took her out of that situation.
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SPEAKER_00: So a lot of people say, What do you mean God gave her breast cancer?
19:42
SPEAKER_00: No, I didn't say that.
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SPEAKER_00: I just say God took her out of that situation because the Lord know my sister got that kind of heart where she would have stayed there, and she deserved so much better.
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SPEAKER_00: No, it wasn't physical, it was verbal.
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SPEAKER_00: Yeah, the name calling, you know, when a person gets drunk, they turn into a whole nother person, and she let me hurt tapes where this guy was just disrespecting her.
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SPEAKER_00: Disrespecting me, talking about me, because he knew and know I'm the closest to her, and he knows how she lived, she would have eventually got out of it.
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SPEAKER_00: But God said, No, no, no, no, no.
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SPEAKER_00: So I know a lot of you are gonna hear this and say, Well, you mean God gave her breast cancer and took her out?
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SPEAKER_00: I I'm not gonna say what God did.
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SPEAKER_00: I just know that God she's in a better place now, she's with the Lord.
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SPEAKER_00: I didn't understand that at the time.
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SPEAKER_00: I did not understand it.
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SPEAKER_00: No, I do.
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SPEAKER_01: Oh Jesus.
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SPEAKER_00: I just I know sometimes we feel like again there's no hope.
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SPEAKER_00: There's nobody else for me.
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SPEAKER_00: Or sometimes we feel like we need to be with somebody.
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SPEAKER_00: We gotta have somebody.
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SPEAKER_00: I know I keep saying the same thing over.
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SPEAKER_00: But ladies, you're better than that.
22:15
SPEAKER_00: Don't let someone sweet talk you, sugar talk you, hey baby, you're cute, hey baby, you're pretty.
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SPEAKER_00: Don't fall for that.
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SPEAKER_00: Don't do that, please.
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SPEAKER_00: If you see any of the red flags I'm talking about, any of them in the beginning, if someone in the beginning you're dating them, and you and they snap at you and say something mean to you and call you the B-word, you better get out of that relationship quickly.
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SPEAKER_00: Because from that point it's gonna just go down.
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SPEAKER_00: Domestic violence is at an all-time high, ladies.
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SPEAKER_00: All time high.
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SPEAKER_00: Think of your children.
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SPEAKER_00: Think of your babies.
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SPEAKER_00: Think of your family.
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SPEAKER_00: I've seen people take not just the girlfriend or the wife out, but take out the whole family.
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SPEAKER_00: Babies.
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SPEAKER_00: Please for God's Pray and pray hard if you're trying to get into a relationship.
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SPEAKER_00: Pray and pray hard.
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SPEAKER_00: Don't just settle for anything in anybody.
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SPEAKER_00: See that happen.
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SPEAKER_00: Just to say you got somebody.
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SPEAKER_00: I personally am against it looking for people online.
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SPEAKER_00: Now that's just me.
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SPEAKER_00: It's very successful for many, many, many people.
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SPEAKER_00: It is, it really is.
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SPEAKER_00: But for a lot of people, it's not.
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SPEAKER_00: A lot of people have lost their life out here searching on these lines for people.
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SPEAKER_00: You don't know what you're getting.
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SPEAKER_00: You don't know what's behind that computer wall.
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SPEAKER_00: You don't know what's out there.
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SPEAKER_00: People using not their picture, but using someone else's pictures.
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SPEAKER_00: You don't know what you're getting into.
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SPEAKER_00: Someone could have an agenda and be the perfect person that you're looking for.
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SPEAKER_00: And then when you get into the relationship, you see then that oh my god, I made a mistake.
24:44
SPEAKER_00: Yeah, I've seen a lot of people put themselves out there.
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SPEAKER_00: They say everything that they want, the kind of guy they want, da da da.
24:51
SPEAKER_00: And someone out there on the other end is fixing themselves up to be that perfect guy just for you.
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SPEAKER_00: But inside of them, there's a raging bull.
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SPEAKER_00: A maniac.
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SPEAKER_00: Ready to take you out.
25:14
SPEAKER_00: But in the beginning, they're gonna be sweet, they're gonna be everything you wanted.
25:18
SPEAKER_00: Cook you dinner, do all those things, uh, bring your breakfast and bed, maybe even pay a few of your bills.
25:27
SPEAKER_00: But they got an agenda because you put yourself out there, they've already checked you out and found out what kind of person you are.
25:39
SPEAKER_00: Checked out your account, your bank account, checked out everything about you, and then you let these people move in with you.
25:48
SPEAKER_00: You have control of everything.
25:50
SPEAKER_00: Some of you got kids living there, and some of the older women, God, it bothers me about them too.
25:57
SPEAKER_00: You know, I'm talking to the younger women, the younger men, but then you got the older women that's doing this stuff.
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SPEAKER_00: Feeling like you gotta have you somebody as well.
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SPEAKER_00: If your marriage is over, it didn't work, or your husband died or passed away.
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SPEAKER_00: Don't just jump yourself right into something, ladies, older women.
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SPEAKER_00: I'm talking to you as well.
26:25
SPEAKER_00: Just because a guy tells you, oh, you're looking good, ooh mama, you look good.
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SPEAKER_00: Woo wait.
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SPEAKER_00: And you better run as fast as you can.
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SPEAKER_00: Stop falling for these people that's telling you you're looking good.
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SPEAKER_00: Stop that! I wanna scream it.
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SPEAKER_00: Stop it! Stop falling for that.
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SPEAKER_00: Just got someone tell you you look good and start pumping your head up.
26:54
SPEAKER_00: Don't you already know that you look good?
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SPEAKER_00: Do you need someone to tell you that?
27:00
SPEAKER_00: Darn it, do you need that?
27:05
SPEAKER_00: All I can think about is the words that my dad said to me.
27:08
SPEAKER_00: All I could think about was what my dad said to me.
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SPEAKER_00: How beautiful I am, what a great person I am.
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SPEAKER_00: That's all I could think about.
27:24
SPEAKER_00: Oh Jesus.
27:29
SPEAKER_00: My heart breaks.
27:31
SPEAKER_00: You guys just don't know my heartbreaks really bad.
27:34
SPEAKER_00: I don't know why they have a domestic violence month.
27:37
SPEAKER_00: Domestic violence should be every month.
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SPEAKER_00: 12 months every out of the year should be domestic violence month because it is happening.
27:47
SPEAKER_00: There is no month that someone hasn't gotten murdered because of a domestic violence, and people like to say, oh, it was just their mental health.
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SPEAKER_00: I don't you know what that's probably true, but the devil and the demons are at an all-time high, and I call that devil time, demon time.
28:13
SPEAKER_00: So, yes, you can call it domestic violence, but I call it demon time.
28:17
SPEAKER_00: You could call mental health mental health, I call it demon time, devil time, which is why you need to pray.
28:26
SPEAKER_00: See, a lot of people don't they overlook the most important part.
28:30
SPEAKER_00: Uh you need to pray.
28:31
SPEAKER_00: If you're gonna get into a relationship, you need to pray about it.
28:35
SPEAKER_00: Don't just jump into it, and sometimes you have to pray really hard.
28:39
SPEAKER_00: I mean, I mean, not a little bit.
28:42
SPEAKER_00: Sometimes you have to fast and pray.
28:45
SPEAKER_00: Don't eat something for to six o'clock if you're on medication.
28:52
SPEAKER_00: I'm not a doctor now.
28:53
SPEAKER_00: I'm telling you these things, I'm not a doctor, but this is just not here.
28:58
SPEAKER_00: Fast and pray before you're going into a relationship.
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SPEAKER_00: I mean, really do it, and don't fast and pray with the person that you're with, do it on your own because they could be saying, Oh yeah, I'm fasting too.
29:10
SPEAKER_00: Ladies, stop falling for these things, people telling you that you you're cute and you're pretty, and stop falling for that.
29:18
SPEAKER_00: Please.
29:20
SPEAKER_00: If you don't already know that you're cute, something's wrong.
29:28
SPEAKER_00: It hurts my heart.
29:32
SPEAKER_00: I mean, there's somebody right now, I'm sure, just being taken out, murdered, because someone got mad at them and didn't want nobody else to have them.
29:43
SPEAKER_00: If they could not have them, they wasn't gonna let anybody else have them.
29:47
SPEAKER_00: So they'd take them out, take them out, take themselves out, take a kid out, they don't care.
29:55
SPEAKER_00: Just please be careful.
29:58
SPEAKER_00: Like I said, 12 months a year is domestic violence month, not just one little month.
30:06
SPEAKER_00: Just be careful, P, please, God, please, please be careful.
30:13
SPEAKER_00: I just want to come on today and talk to you and tell you you're beautiful.
30:19
SPEAKER_00: Guys, that's going through that.
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SPEAKER_00: You're amazing, you're handsome, you're wonderful.
30:25
SPEAKER_00: Don't settle for some woman cheating on you and belittling you and calling you names.
30:33
SPEAKER_00: Don't do it.
30:37
SPEAKER_00: You're better than that.
30:40
SPEAKER_00: Stop rushing into these relationships.
30:45
SPEAKER_00: Stop it.
30:48
SPEAKER_00: If you're in a relationship and you already got into it, please move with wisdom in silence.
31:00
SPEAKER_00: Be careful, watch your words, watch what you say, watch your actions.
31:07
SPEAKER_00: Yeah, watch the things you say.
31:09
SPEAKER_00: Don't go around packing bags.
31:11
SPEAKER_00: I'm gonna move, I'm gonna do this.
31:12
SPEAKER_00: That is a dangerous time to do that.
31:15
SPEAKER_00: Because when they feel like they're not gonna have any more control over you, that is the most dangerous time when you get ready to leave.
31:23
SPEAKER_00: Because they feel then they're losing control of you.
31:30
SPEAKER_00: So travel in silence, do not go and do these things and make a big stink about it.
31:37
SPEAKER_00: Get online, I'm leaving him.
31:40
SPEAKER_00: Oh my god, I've seen that happen.
31:42
SPEAKER_00: People get online talking about what they're gonna do, and I'm in a hated, heated argument, getting angry, talking about what I'm gonna do.
31:53
SPEAKER_00: That's a dangerous time to do that.
31:55
SPEAKER_00: Very dangerous.
31:58
SPEAKER_00: You really need to be praying.
31:59
SPEAKER_00: I mean hard.
32:00
SPEAKER_00: If you ever had a relationship with God, if you don't have one with God, get a relationship with the Lord.
32:06
SPEAKER_00: Please.
32:10
SPEAKER_00: Because getting online, telling everybody your business, talking about you're gonna leave and what you're gonna do is a very dangerous thing to do, and it's not wisdom.
32:21
SPEAKER_00: You gotta use wisdom, ladies.
32:25
SPEAKER_00: Men, you gotta use wisdom.
32:29
SPEAKER_00: I can tell you this this is very passionate to me.
32:31
SPEAKER_00: It breaks my heart.
32:34
SPEAKER_00: I thank God that I learned as a teenager not to settle for less.
32:41
SPEAKER_00: I went through a lot of stuff as a teenager because I was a hot, a little hot girl, you know.
32:47
SPEAKER_00: Pretty hot.
32:51
SPEAKER_00: But thank god when I got in my twenties, 20, 21, those words of my dad came back to me.
33:00
SPEAKER_00: Don't settle for less.
33:03
SPEAKER_00: And I didn't from that point to this one.
33:11
SPEAKER_00: You're better than that.
33:13
SPEAKER_00: You're better than someone telling you, hey, you're pretty, hey baby, what's up?
33:19
SPEAKER_00: I don't believe in men not working, laying around not working, and the girlfriend and the wife is out working, and you laying home doing nothing.
33:27
SPEAKER_00: I don't believe in that.
33:31
SPEAKER_00: If you're a man, get up and work.
33:34
SPEAKER_00: Work.
33:35
SPEAKER_00: If you're able bodied to work, work.
33:39
SPEAKER_00: If you're able to.
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SPEAKER_00: Not let the wife or the girlfriend do everything.
33:45
SPEAKER_00: And again, ladies, come on, stop it.
33:47
SPEAKER_00: You're better than that.
33:48
SPEAKER_00: Why are you doing this?
33:51
SPEAKER_00: Pray, please pray.
33:53
SPEAKER_00: The most important thing to do before getting into any relationship is to pray.
34:02
SPEAKER_00: And I mean seek God like you've never stopped him before.
34:07
SPEAKER_00: Like you never stopped him before.
34:14
SPEAKER_00: I'm Richina Soran.
34:17
SPEAKER_00: Thank you so much for listening, guys.
34:20
SPEAKER_00: I this breaks my heart to have to speak about these things.
34:25
SPEAKER_00: Domestic violence.
34:27
SPEAKER_00: Totally breaks my heart.
34:30
SPEAKER_00: In the worst way.
34:32
SPEAKER_00: Breaks my heart.
34:35
SPEAKER_00: So I'm asking you out there to please be careful.
34:46
SPEAKER_00: Travel in silence.
34:48
SPEAKER_00: Move in silence.
34:49
SPEAKER_00: Be careful.
34:52
SPEAKER_00: Always pray.
34:54
SPEAKER_00: Seek God.
34:56
SPEAKER_00: If you're in a bad place right now, in a bad relationship.
35:02
SPEAKER_00: Take that time to get to know God if you don't know God.
35:07
SPEAKER_00: I mean, really, really get to know God and pray and ask God to lead you and guide you out of that domestic violence situation if you are in one right now.
35:18
SPEAKER_00: Don't try to go out and do it on your own.
35:21
SPEAKER_00: Don't get on Facebook and all these social media accounts saying what you're going to do.
35:28
SPEAKER_00: Move with the wisdom and move in silence.
35:34
SPEAKER_00: Not making a big show of what you're gonna do.
35:38
SPEAKER_00: Don't do that.
35:39
SPEAKER_00: Again, I say do not do that.
35:46
SPEAKER_00: I said to myself, I'm not gonna cry while I'm speaking about this, and I've held up pretty well.
35:53
SPEAKER_00: So while I'm still holding up, I'm gonna end this.
36:01
SPEAKER_00: I got to.
36:08
SPEAKER_00: My heart breaks, and I pray for those who are suffering due domestic violence right now.
36:14
SPEAKER_00: Those who've lost their life.
36:16
SPEAKER_00: I pray for your families.
36:19
SPEAKER_00: Pray for your children.
36:24
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36:26
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36:29
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36:33
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36:35
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36:40
SPEAKER_00: Regina Sworn, you can contact me.
36:43
SPEAKER_00: I swear in Regina.
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SPEAKER_00: Oh Lord.
36:48
SPEAKER_00: And gmail.com.
36:49
SPEAKER_00: Sworn Regina at gmail.com.
36:52
SPEAKER_00: Thank you so much for listening.
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SPEAKER_00: May God bless you all.