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Difference Between Dating And Relationship ? · Blind But Now I See

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When I'm alone in my room. Man, I stay at the wall.
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In the back of my mind, I hear my conscious call telling me I
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need love. This is another episode of the blinde but I see podcasts.
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I'm your host FOBC No, theod Ray Charles Blond Poppy. If you nasty,
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I'm the love doctor today, the voice of the Disables, the official
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down Street, got the producer here, my dog Wolf locked in. Yeah,
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you know what I mean. They call me l L Blondeja. I'm
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that real one. You know I need love. I've been back in the
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gym working, so I'm gonna take the shirt or six pack and be showing
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you know what I mean. But today episode we're gonna talk about love and
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everything else. But this episode will be in a relationship stage. People hit
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me up like, oh, why you never talk about relationships. I go
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through all your podcasts and have relationships. They want they want the blonde doctor
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outside the love doctor. You know, like and R and B is my
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ship. I feel like I listen to more R and B than rap.
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But that's another story. Yeah, I love R and B. R and
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B is that it gets the move for the mood when you're in that love
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you don't know what to do them R and B songs hit different, makes
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you want to take a little piece here, piece there and put a little
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poem together. Senate, You know, I get creative every now and then.
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But what what is a relationship to you? A relationship? Can you
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know, Wolf get deep into it, like his responses and his tone of
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voice. People you feel like shit on the other end of that screen.
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But what's a relationship? Like, what do a relationship means to you?
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To me? A relationship? You know this is a that's the question,
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because sometimes this shit get triggered in this era that we live in in Sometimes
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niggas be like, well, what's dating? What relationships? But to me,
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your relationship is being mutually exclusive to an individual, to your partner,
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meaning I'm off the motherfucking market. Yeah, me and you. That's what
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that means. I mean, what is it? What does it mean to
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you? The relationship means I ain't a dog no more. I ain't a
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dog no more. I'm letting the balloons go, I'm pushing the women away.
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I'm opening up to you pretty much. Your mind be locked in,
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be standing on standing on one the call. We got one page, you
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know. So it's like, what's dating to you then? Because I think
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a lot of a lot of people get confused with dating it. They get
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confused all the time day. I mean, I can date you, I
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could date hug, I could they hud that a block and everything else.
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It's like it's respective, Like I feel like we're getting to know each other.
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I'm not committed to you right so in the inn in a dating I
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feel let me let me not say I oh no, no, let me
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fixed. You know what I'm saying because I was about to say say yeah,
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because I was about to say say, like, I owe no loyal
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to you, to you won't be dating. But I feel like early on
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dating, I feel like that's when you gotta show a person that you can
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be loyal to them. I get, I do get what you say it
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depends dating. It's like I'm sticking my feet in the water because dating doesn't
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necessarily meant to be in a relationship. Yeah, it's like we're getting to
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know each other. What I'm saying now, it's like what if I don't
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we don't we don't like end up on one page and were not compatible.
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It's like I wasted all these months dating you in a sense of where no,
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let me not say that, but that's like just being a dog and
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whatever the case a right back. You know, if this person gonna go
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far as you dating, I think that I don't think that dating necessarily entails
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that I even want to be in a relationship with you. To be honest,
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can you say dating is having fun? Yeah? I mean dating is
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literally like, Okay, I'm doing my thing. I'm somewhere out here minded
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my ben as oom spot one. You know what I mean, introduce myself
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and make it happen. I'm attracted to you, you know, I get
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to know you a little bit, and then I might there's things about you
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that make me interested enough to stick around, to keep rocking with you,
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right, to stick around, But there's some things that also make me think
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you know maybe this ain't really I got to stick around. I go,
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baby boy, you don't with you with our freak with other women town to
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town. That's like dating right there. I mean that's dating, but it's
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like and I feel like people get that mixed up, like we did what
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you want to actally think you're in a relationship. That's because they never you
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know, first of all, Like I think people, men and women,
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they kind of they kind of jump ship way too fast, like they jump
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in the water. They get around somebody they like, they energy, their
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charisma, and then they start making plans. They're like hold on, hold
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on. Like me, personally, I feel like before we in a relationship,
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you have to be my best friend. I feel like we gotta grow.
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I feel like we gotta grow a friendship first before any relationships. We
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have to understand each other. We have to speak the same language. You
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may not agree with me, but I feel like we can. You could
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understand where I'm coming from. Right. It's like it's I feel like a
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relationship is his job. I can't like it is. I can't I can't
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be doing I can't be putting fifty percent to make it work. And you
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only given me twenty percent, it's thirty percent on the table that's not being
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it's the field, so which means we're not going to work. And then
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it's like I'm not going to take up that other thirty percent and you give
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it twenty then it's like I'm doing overtime. I'm doing your work. So
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I feel like a relationship is like a contract. For sure, it can
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easily be broken for sure, then they get broken all the time. What
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qualification like, what is like important and mandatory to have in a relationship?
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I mean, listen, man, if I ain't learned nothing else being in
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New York City, everybody got different definitions of relationship. But if you're asking
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me a mandatory requirement, the most important requirement of them all is respect to
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me. Respect of a trust go hand in hand. I mean, yeah,
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you know, I kind of feel like, yeah, I kind of
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feel like they're kind of like one and the same, you know, But
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like respect is I gotta have the respect, Like I have a very small
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tolerance for lack of respect. You know what I mean that if you show
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me that you're capable of doing something that might potentially have my my emotions,
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not if I feel like my emotions are not safe with you if I feel
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like you know, obviously, when you're in a relationship, you give yourself
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to people physically, you know what I mean. So if I feel like
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physically not safe with you, you know what I mean in that intimate kind
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of way, definitely I'm out of here, you know what I mean.
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It's respect. Respect is that, like I need. Respect is a big
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thing. I need my respect to be so concrete that like if I say
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jump, you say ho, Hi, Like, no matter if I tell
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you the sky is purple, you don't need to turn around the Scott's purple
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purple said. I said what I said, Like, that's what I need
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because that's what I give some respect, Trust, Yeah, love, loyalty,
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Yeah I mean yeah, I mean once you get the respect, because
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the thing about the respect is almost nobody's gonna give you that. Yeah,
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I feel it's quite because I feel like a lot of people respect me,
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but they didn't trust me. Okay, let's talk about that. Like they
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respect me as a man, they respect me for the things I've done for
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them, respect me for a lot of things, but they didn't trust me.
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Because it's like any given moment, a dog gonna be a dog m
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I feel and I ain't gone. This might be going over the world.
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I feel like a man should not get in a relationship unless he had twenty
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six Oh shit, I stand on that. Like what you thinking about that?
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This? This is my reasons why I feel that way, right,
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And it might sound crazy to a person, but I feel like you need
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to have twenty more sex ponders for the simple fact, twenty more sex partners,
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twenty more sex ponds. Oh. The simple fact is if a woman
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is fucking with a person that not experienced, eventually, he's going to wonder
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how certain things is, how certain women is for majority of man, Yeah,
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I feel I really feel that way. Like it's so much, it's
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three it's so many different things. Women is different shape, different texture,
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different size. Men is curious. But do you let me Okay, okay,
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I'm following you, but let me ask you this. Do you ever
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remember a time where you were so obsessed with the girl that it didn't matter
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what the other girls had? Back then, I was, I was so
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obsessed, but at the end of the day, I still was me What
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that means though, so, which means it's like all right, when I
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first got shot. Shout out to Tahani. She held it down in the
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hospital. She fed me, she washed me up. She made me feel
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like I'm still that same person. But me being me, I had to
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see a SnO was real. So Seno was texting girls. You know,
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it's still trying to figure out if I'm still that same the same guy,
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which is like, I got something good, So why is I'm doing this?
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But is that okay? So let's let's break that down though, Like
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did you do that? Because maybe you felt like before you tie it,
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before you tie the knot and you become all the way exclusive, maybe there's
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still some stones you left unturned, Like maybe there's still some things you want
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to experience. At that point in my life, it was nothing I did
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I need you to experience. I experienced it all. So oh so then
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why why then just being an asshole? Being an asshole, being an asshole?
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What does that mean? Though? Like, like now that I'm older
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the da age, I am in all that shit, I don't need it
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no more. Once you get like all right, I was twenty one,
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twenty two, I felt like I was still missing son. I mean it
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was girls. I want to touch girls, I want to get next to
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us a whole lot of shit, you feel me. But then and now
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I'm at the age I am. Some girls don't impress me. No more
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so you didn't. You hadn't had enough yet. You like you hadn't had
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your feel all the way I had enough, I didn't want enough. And
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it's like, is agreed? So it was it greed? Is agreed?
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Not like you have your kick and eat it too? Oh? Is it
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greed? Now? You know what I'm saying, Like at that time,
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that's kind of greed, right, because it's like you said you had enough,
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No, I didn't have enough. It was like I had enough but
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didn't have enough. It's like I wanted my kick and eat it too.
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It's like I want to go out there and have fun at the same time
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I wanted to come in the house to a good woman. Mm hmmm.
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It's not like you didn't have enough. You haven't had enough to me,
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It's like like you had some fun, but you hadn't had enough fun until.
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Because like when you say that a man should have twenty three sex partners,
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Like what you're saying is is like you should have enough, so why
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get it all out? Of your system. Yeah, so it's not like
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you did. You didn't have like your sister I did. What my life
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was a crazy life I did. I had a life that I can I
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can die and come back and still got a life behind it. So it
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was like it was a growing up being a man. Is oh you hit
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that? Are you the man? You got these many six onis? That's
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like that was like bought upon me like that that was the right thing to
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do, when really it wasn't. But then now like I'm the age I
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am. Now it's like I could talk to a female and it's like I
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get disgusted, quick fast, quick fast, little shit she say, turns
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me off? What's what's something a woman could do or say that? I
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turned see note off? Quick? Oh h you got money? Turn me
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off? Can you buy me? Turn me off? Can you buy me?
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It's crazy? I want to go here? Turn me off? Because
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like where you want to go it's it's it's a place that you ain't spend
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your own money. So why you want to go on my ticket? Makes
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sense? Don't make sense? Like I've been in good relationships. They didn't
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ask me for not and I gave it to them. They I'll go to
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the moves. We got the boot leg right here, and you be looking
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like damn you, like you really fucked a good time, a future up
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for somebody that just temporary. You can get yours off and feel good.
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But then she going to the next man. She going to the next man.
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She going to the next man. She's going to the next man.
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And it's like this one right here, she dedicated her life, she dedicated
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her body, she dedicated her soul, her financial and everything to her,
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and it's like the way stack. It's like a slap in her face.
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So I feel like and another thing, like relationships is I feel like best
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friends definitely have to be like it has to be a mandatory thing. I
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agree at the end of the day. It's like, if it's all serious
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best friends, we gotta play as best friends. I got to be able
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to come and talk to you about anything you shouldn't be mad at. If
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it's all anything but being a best friend, the foundation is anything like even
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if it's sex, it's like, oh, like, we got great chemistry
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sexually, but then it's like that's not strong enough to save y'all when the
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storm come. Sex and not everything like the percentage of what you think sex
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is important to a relationship. Back in the days, I would tell you
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one hundred percent. Yeah, what is it now? Way less? I
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think sex. Sex is twenty percent of a relationship. Yeah, trust,
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love, loyalty like loving a person mentally, physically, financially, and everything
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else. I feel like all I should come before sex. Yeah. It's
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so interesting how when you're young, like you prioritize like all of these different
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things that don't matter, like even even like even like let's think about like
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your son he in school right here, in high school, right high school
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here, high school, high junior high. So you think about like what
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kids might be saying. You know, how we were kids, kids were
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saying things, you want to everything moving. You know, the the kids
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are saying, they talking. Some kids are saying they have sex already talking.
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They they're way more advanced than us, right right, I'm trying to
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be like political about it, but yes, you know, and then it's
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like it's so easy to to get influenced or you know, it's just easy.
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And then it's like you grow up to become our everything is on this
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I mean, right, and that makes it it's right. We just have
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to sneak to seapoint on bro. We have everything. They had the Internet
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on them like trash ass internet bro, and back in the days to get
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on the internet, we use that that nobody couldn't be on the phone right
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otherwise the house Internet ain't gonna work. But now, just like these kids,
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like what they don't understand is you get older and you realize, like,
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you know what, when I was growing up, everybody in school,
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all the boys in school, thought like I got I need the girl with
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the fattist ass with the biggest titties and listen, popular, popular, you
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know what I mean, the quickest to give it up, you know,
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and listen you like what you like, You're attracted to what you're attracted to.
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But like what you just said a moment ago, like if you have
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to break it down, like we're looking at a human being one hundred percent
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and you're breaking off different pieces of the pot to what's needed to have a
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sustainable relationship sex, it's not gonna be a big percentage of that pot.
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It's just not because it's not. No, I get off just by knowing
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that you did for me, right support, that's all. Yeah, before
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I wanted to popping girl. Naw, I like the boring girl now.
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Yeah. I like the girl that is not in competition with me. I'm
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not the girl that's trying to get in my pocket. I like the girl
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that sit there and said, baby, it's okay, I got it.
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How many women out here now that you're doing that? And it's like I
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didn't appreciate that shit before. I appreciate it now though, But it's like
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I might have to go through hell to get it back. I don't think
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you have to go through hell. I gotta go to hell to get it
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back. I know how, Bro, she's different, she's different. Oh
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so you know you know who this girl is already there when I got shot.
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I feel like that's my soul mame. Hmmm. Do you think she's
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gonna listen to this? She listen to my podcast, So she listening to
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What's What's something that you will you will want her to hear? Sure?
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I told every day i'n sorry she don't. She ain'tn't be waiting for that
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ship though, But what do you think it's gonna take for her to finally
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like come around to seeing that you know what it is? Well? Her
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is deeper before the sis best friends before anything. So it's like we shared
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a lot of ship with each other. We were there for each other.
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It's like I depend on you, I count on you. I broke that
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trust, so now it's like to get that trust back. It is hard
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because how do I know you ain't gonna do the to me again. I
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was that vulnerable to put my life in my like my emotions meant to be
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physical and everything into your hands, right, and you hurt that, right,
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So it takes a lot of trust. They get that back and shop
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the trust might never even get back like that because you always gonna have that.
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I open the saying, say, damn, do I want to take
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this chance? I'm really going to do this. Yeah, but it's kind
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of like you said in the previous episode, like to hold onto something,
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you can't be whole yourself, you can't heal. So at some point it's
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like, well, you kind of gott to let go if you ever want
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to, like especially like if you don't plan on getting away from me,
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never seeing me again, then I'm gonna be around, so we might as
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well make it work the best way. Yeah, I ain't gonna where right,
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So then let's like her dough is my daughter, right, so well
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going, so that's okay. Then her brother is my best friend. I'm
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going literally going nowhere. But she though a good job, ignored me,
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though she got she got to prove the point. You know what, No
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I get text her, she text, I say something, she will leave
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me on sing I text she ain't scared to hang up on me and out
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of that ship. Right the whole time. She really loves you and miss
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you. Yeah, but at one point I do understand it, right,
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I'm like why, Like damn, I'm telling you I changed this, then
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the third but it's like just because you change, I'm suppoted to take you
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back. Well, because you change, I'm supposed to believe in you.
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That's real. So like I understand both sides. Before I didn't. I'm
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like, yo, what the fuck you treat me like I'm a monster?
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Wol this that and the third. But it's like, okay, cool,
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look what I really did. That's real. Like she's somewhat put her life
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on Pauls when I went in, when I went blind. So it's like
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that wasn't enough for you, nigga, than what is right? I wanted
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the money, the money and the car, the cars and the host.
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But it's not it's not worth it. Though it's not. I got be
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in the clubs every week and I stock at these girls. It's like,
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I like that boring girl that's home, that's listening to the Bible, that's
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not watch I appreciate those You're gonna be listening to the Bible with her.
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If I got to, I would. If I got to I got to,
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I would because these girls that had pussy battling, thongs, out shaking
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ass doing all this, and I don't want that do I want my girl
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represent me like that right out here showing the rest of the world what's supposed
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to be for me? What? Oh you do talk giving a nigga enough
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conversation just to get a drink. Nah, that's definitely not it. I
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don't. I don't like that ship. Yeah. I feel like relationships is
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definitely important, Like it's definitely good to have. I don't want to be
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old nobody to hold. Yeah, I want to get old with a person
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where when my balls drop, you're still there with me. I mean everything,
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Y know, my bull drop, you got to stringholding enough for me
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to make me feel like when your titds at your knees. Baby, I'm
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your support. Don't worry like I want that to grow all together. We
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got great hair together. He's watching our grandkids grow together, like be there
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like every everybody should want that. And that's what you're gonna get, bro,
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simply because that's what you want. You know, they say, those
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who those who seeks your fine. I want to do live shows on baby
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get a baby. She backstage support, she's selling my merch. Well,
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I'm on stage. I want that ship. When I came across stas,
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I think you should talk about this on your podcast, check your email.
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That's when you know you really locked in, because it's like you may not
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feel my dream going work, but you're gonna support that dream. It's harder
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for people don't want to dream, people don't want to work, people want
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to finish product. Yeah, I want somebody that's gonna go through the stages
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with me and tell me what it is that's real. I mean you feel
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like you found that person, yeah, just just just a matter of her
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deciding that she ready to be that person. How many moses to come a
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part in the red seat? Do you feel like you're still on your good
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behavior duty. Yeah, yeah, I change my life completely. How much
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longer do you think you need to be on your good behavior duty? Like
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a far As with her? Yeah? When I say good behavior, I
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ain't doing it for her, I'm doing it for myself. True. So
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like my good behavior is just having more ls for myself, not accepting anything
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in all bullshit. I believe in energy, so it's like for me to
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keep sharing my energy with people that's not worth it. I'm selling myself short
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as a person. I'm taking away from myself. So it's like I learned
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control. How important is energy? Now that you don't you don't have one
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of your sens? Sens is how important is energy? Energy? Energy is
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everything because your energy got to really be positive and be on point for me
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to feel comfortable to lay next to you, to feel comfortable, to being
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a setting with you, to knowing that you're not here to set me up,
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knowing that you got you here for good. I need to know that
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you're here for good attention, it's good reasons because why it's like I can't
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see. So I'm putting my whole life in your hands to move with me,
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to be my eyes. That's big. So It's like energy is definitely
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a thousand. The energy is off, you won't I won't call you,
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I won't text. It's just like you should just get awkward, wading off
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the walls. Energy is big, a big heat in my life. Yeah.
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Energy gotta be perfect. Energy gotta be right. I love I love
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your energy. So I tell you I love the energy. I tell you
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I love your energy. Yeah, everything else gonna come natural. Yeah for
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sure. I mean it's like, once you got the energy is good,
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it's like, yeah, we can It's nothing we can't do at this point.
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As long as the energy is genuine, it's authentic, and it's real.
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Yo, I'm tiny Tonny Smith, got good energy. Shout out Tony
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Smithy Smith, come on the podcast. Oh I tried to get on the
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first season when I was talking about getting shot. Oh, she she is
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not coming at all. What you never know one day, you never know,
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right, energy little ship like should text me to be great on purpose
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and then she leave you on scene sometimes n when now she is she may
22:52
her conversated talk. It's just when I start talking about relationships and all that,
22:55
I get left on seeing everything else. We tapped in. We talked
22:59
on the phone, this, that, and the third and it's like sometimes
23:02
I'd be like, I don't want the relationship. I just want my best
23:03
friend. Yeah that's real, bro, somebody I could just come in like,
23:07
Yo, guess what I did this podcast today? Oh, she gonna
23:10
listen to it. But back then, it's like the feelings was different.
23:12
Yeah, that's real all the way, bron. And then I mean,
23:17
she opened the doors for me to even be in her daughter life. So
23:19
it's like, yeah, and you appreciate that, Oh yeah, what I
23:25
was there for prom graduations, conversated like she trusts me. She trusts me
23:30
enough to put her doughter in my hands. That shit is a blessing.
23:33
Yeah. So it's like, I mean, it's I'm trusted that she's not
23:37
evenna hurt her daughter. But I guess her her she ain't trying, she
23:41
said nah. And I say this, and I could talk about this on
23:44
the podcast no matter what woman listening to, whatever the case may be.
23:47
I feel comfortable with my skin and sin and say I know who I sold
23:49
me it is. I'm comfortable to sit and say like a lot of these
23:53
girls are just surround it's a money grab. People see me with celebrities.
23:57
They saying the first thing that came it's such as sssfool, And then they're
24:00
trying to get next to me. Or you're in a club, you a
24:04
big deal, like you walking, you're standing on line, you skipping lines,
24:07
DJ shoying you out, people like that. Alon, I'm like,
24:11
no, I want to get my money and go home and lay next to
24:12
good energy. I know you ain't been nowhere. I know I ain't tripping
24:18
over none. I know I like that shit. It's important stop playing girl
24:23
to come on home. But yeah, that shit is. But what you're
24:30
looking for? Are you looking for a relationship? Are you in a relationship?
24:36
Are you looking for a relationship? What's going on with I'm not looking
24:41
for a relationship right now. I think the most important thing to me,
24:45
bro, really is I gotta, I gotta, I gotta make a change.
24:48
Like I'm in an interesting point in my life where I like my job.
24:52
I love my job. My job is great. I'm in the city
24:56
and my dreams. But I can't do this forever though, you know what
24:59
I mean, Like this is perfect for right now, yeah, but this
25:02
is at some point, this is not going to be sustainable. Thirty one
25:06
thirty one. You know what I mean. So what I'm looking for is
25:11
the next thing, you know, and I think the next thing is something
25:14
that God is going to rest you reveal to me, you know what I
25:17
mean. I feel like that's what I'm looking for the next day, for
25:18
the next thing, you know, like going on vacations, experience new things,
25:25
laughing, memory, like creating more memories. Yeah, I need to
25:29
tell them about you know. So when it comes to relationships, it's not
25:33
a it's not a priority to me right now, you know, it's really
25:36
not. I mean, you know, I want whatever God wants bro To
25:40
be honest with you, like, it's not a priority to me. But
25:41
if it's landing it, if you're laying in front of me, I'm gonna
25:44
take it absolutely because I never know if it's gonna come back around again for
25:49
me to get blessed. Absolutely. I mean, meantime, I'm definitely gonna
25:52
focus on what I got going on. Yeah, for sure. You know
25:55
what what I believe is that if you focus on your purpose and you focus
25:59
on your mission, right like you know, me and you we we we
26:03
know what we want, yeah, and we do it for a higher purpose
26:07
than ourselves. You know what I mean. I want to take my family,
26:10
you know, So I think that because of that, that's all we
26:12
gotta do. And I think that like everything else is falls in line with
26:15
that mission. That's what I believe. Do you believe in the right person
26:19
wrong time? Now you made a chemic crusher your soul mad, but it
26:23
just was at the wrong time. Nah. I mean I think that.
26:30
I think God works in mysterious ways, as they say, And there's a
26:34
Bible verse that says, lean not to your own understanding and trust in all
26:40
the ways that I do right. And that's an interesting Bible verse because sometimes
26:42
it be some shit going on, Like God, I don't understand this one,
26:45
you know what I mean? Like that's I remember when I was I
26:48
was in junior high and there was this girl in my life, and you
26:52
know how I go, Like when you was in love, even though you
26:55
become way older, you still remember how that made you feel. And even
26:59
to this day, like I think to myself, like, dang, I
27:00
think I might have really met my wife when I was like fourteen, but
27:03
it was not the right situation for so many reasons, Like I don't even
27:08
recognize who that person has become today, you know what I mean, I
27:11
don't even agree with who that person has become today, And so then you
27:15
ask yourself, like, was that the right person at the wrong time?
27:18
Like, I don't think so, you know, I think I had like
27:19
an immense level of passion, which just comes with youth, because when you're
27:23
young, you haven't had reality come through and like kind of change your perspective
27:27
on things, you know what I mean. So you just fit you do
27:30
everything with like immense passion. You know, you listen to music with passion,
27:34
and then you eventually get to a point where you're like, Okay,
27:37
I'm playing this music is played out, But then in the beginning you love
27:40
it. Same thing with girls, Like you meet a girl, you got
27:41
nothing but your youthful love to give, just nothing but that whatever you think,
27:48
literally think about her. You know, if y'all break up or she
27:51
cheat on you or something, you're gonna cry, You're gonna literally you know,
27:53
all that type of stuff. But then you get older though, you
27:56
know what I mean. So I don't think I believe in right girl,
28:00
wrong time. I think the right girl comes at the right time period.
28:03
I just think it's just that simple. You know what I mean. I
28:06
believe in the wrong person the wrong time. Yeah, I had the right
28:08
person. She just had me at the wrong time of my life. She
28:12
had me when I I when I first got shot, just trying to figure
28:17
it out. She had me at that time. So I'm still try to
28:19
figure out who the fuck I am and everything else. But now that I
28:22
know who I am, I feel like I could be the man that she
28:25
needs. She's boring the fuck it. We both don't need to be late.
28:30
We don't. Oh she might say, Oh, I'm bored. I'm
28:34
boring. Oh, I don't want to do nothing. It's a balance.
28:37
Cool, So we can make it work. Make it work. I get
28:41
you on my level, I can get on yours. Man. We went
28:42
to Puerto Rico. We really didn't do much, but I have fun.
28:45
We have fun because it's that time I had with my friend, my best
28:49
friend. So it's like, they don't get no better than that, right,
28:52
you feel me and I feel like a relationship. Man, if you
28:59
got that good one in there, it ain't worth it, ain't it ain't
29:03
worth losing your house for a hotel. No, definitely not, definitely not.
29:10
Niggas be losing their house for hotels and that's some sad ship, real
29:14
sad, that's real and it's like hotel is not it? My brother?
29:17
Come on, that's why it's called a hotel cause the whole my town.
29:18
It was like, why are you risking a whole hotel for a house,
29:23
my brother? Some people lose, some people wanting to lose their family for
29:27
something that's just for the moment, my brother. If gonna do anything,
29:32
she's gonna tell and they ain't gonna tell them my watch because I'm squeaky clean.
29:36
I'm ready to share location. I'm ready to share my location. That's
29:41
where you're at with it? What you know how the commercial keep you hit
29:44
Me Now? Good baby, I'm turning on Ralph Avenue. Keep you hit
29:48
me now? Hello? You called me? Oh I thought you called me.
29:53
I missed the call for a minute, Like that's the ultimate love though,
29:56
yeah, because not for not it's really nothing out here in these streets
29:59
no more. I mean, anybody will literally tell you that it's not not
30:03
the diseases at all time. Ship niggas is dying over women niggas is dying.
30:08
And please don't blow my if you see me with your girl in the
30:11
club. Please don't blow my head off. Just tell your girl to move,
30:15
to back off, to move. I don't want So it's like,
30:19
why would I risk that when I know I'm walking in the house to's something
30:22
I know that's mine. You think it's really that few good people left women?
30:26
Yeah, yeah it is. I'll be around a couple of them and
30:30
I'm like, all right, this is good women, just they just being
30:33
fucked up predicaments with niggas. There's a lot of good women out here,
30:37
bro, which with fucked up niggas are scarring them. To be honest,
30:41
you know you know something. Yeah, I've seen it for myself, and
30:45
like they call me, it's like, I'm a man. So it's like
30:48
I really don't want to touch on people relationships, whatever the case may be,
30:52
because I'd be cool with both partners, right. So it's like the
30:55
only thing I can do is just really be And I'm like, yo,
30:57
you know what it is already, so you don't need me to clarify that
31:00
for you to do it. Leave if you know you're not getting your worth
31:04
none of that shit, and you just keep waiting that one day that he
31:07
just gonna do better. Then it's like I don't need to tell you that,
31:11
you know what, do what you got to do. But I feel
31:12
like it's I know, like a good ten women right now that got fucked
31:17
them niggas, but good me too. That's good and it's like, damn
31:22
me too. It's tough, bro. But you know what though, it'd
31:25
be interesting because they go back to the very very very beginning of this conversation
31:29
where you were saying, you know, I think that niggas should at least
31:32
be with like twenty three women before they like get it out the system before
31:34
you waste a woman time. I think a lot of guys that get into
31:37
a relationship with the woman. First of all, I think us as men.
31:42
I think I think society has socialized all of us in the wrong way
31:48
in the sense of like we was taught music, like I mean, come
31:52
on, yeah, because like think about it, Like you from New York,
31:55
I'm from Texas. But one thing we share in common the music.
31:57
The music talk hose come on, come on, dif the area, come
32:02
on, like they normalized that ship. The music taught us the same thing,
32:07
and we so were born. I think this is we think it is,
32:09
so then we're willing to risk. It ain't fun unless the homies have
32:14
something. It's like you go back to all the hits, is like,
32:16
quit it. Come on, you know what I mean, give it to
32:19
me, Give me that funk that sweek that like we normalized, like this
32:22
is how it's supposed to be. Jay Z I love girls, girls matter
32:28
fact, even like this is a ball oh a song, cry I listen
32:31
to that shit? How did I know you was playing sick in me?
32:35
I know a way a nigga living was whack. But you don't get a
32:37
nigga back like that. I'm a man of proud. You won't do no
32:39
ship like that. You won't just pick up believing niggas sick like that.
32:43
You don't throw away what we had just like that. I was just fucking
32:45
them girls. I was gonna get right back. Come on, you can't
32:49
turn it like Hope was speaking some shit on it and I'm like, damn.
32:52
It was like and I saw im like damn, I expect you to
32:54
sit there and say, I feel like I'm ready. And that's the thing,
32:59
Like we we get socialized and programmed and then it not only is it
33:01
reinforced through the music, but it's reinforced through the homies that we that we
33:06
saw around TVs, TVs everything. It's just that generation thing. So sometimes
33:12
I think, you know what a lot of niggas problem be. Like a
33:14
lot of time a nigga get a girl and let's just say, let's just
33:20
say she don't got the biggest ass, so she don't got the biggest nothing,
33:22
you know what I mean. You see that thing walk past you,
33:24
and you see it like you see a whole cherokee looking like you know what
33:29
I mean, And then you think, and then this is the thing you
33:30
would drop everything just to have it. It's not even that you don't you
33:34
don't respect the girl who just want to like you just want to experience that.
33:37
But but you experiencing that though, it's the risk potentially make you lose
33:43
everything with that girl though, And what when you can sit there and say,
33:45
man, I'm happy in my relationship. She may not have the biggest
33:47
ass, the biggest breast off of some fat artists bigger than every woman that's
33:52
walking on this earth for some fat we're talking about some some booty meat bro.
33:54
Yeah, and I fall short of that because I love it. But
34:00
no, I know just now not how to say no, it ain't not
34:02
to say no, not a pass on it now because now you know me
34:05
not worth the heart, It's not worth it the soft but it's not worth
34:10
it. I know how to thank God. I can't see it to turn
34:13
back and around and looking at I don't know if it's an area I'm good
34:16
with it, but I definitely have I definitely have control over that ship now.
34:22
So it's like she ain't worth it. Man. I want somebody to
34:25
grow old way. I want somebody I know my kids is comfortable around.
34:29
I want somebody I can trust to a point. I know, like even
34:34
if I'm I wake up in that morning I'm not feeling good, You're gonna
34:37
give me the courage to strength to get about that bad. You will give
34:39
me that push that I need. Give me that one hundred percent. A
34:43
lot of people don't have that ship. Most people are like a lot of
34:45
shit. Like I hear like, as long as I as long as my
34:49
mother loved me, I never got a love of woman. That ship is
34:51
not real. It's not real. Whoever said that, please Whatley. As
34:57
long as my mother loved me, I never got a love of woman.
35:00
While they did not say that, she did one of his songs. I
35:01
must see what song it was, because ever since I heard that shit,
35:05
I was running with that please find that ship. But at the end of
35:07
the night, it's like, Okay, when my mother's and the bad with
35:10
her husband, I'm in the bad by myself. Oh god, oh god,
35:16
I'm sick. Listen to that line, and the thing is about music.
35:21
This would be so fucked up about hip hop music. These niggas be
35:23
growing themselves. So you'll listen to a song that was recorded like three years
35:27
ago, and this nigga, he don't even feel that way no more,
35:30
but you still but that's still your song though, even this should go way
35:34
back. Donelle Jones, I just left my baby girl a message said I
35:40
won't be coming home. I'd rather be your whole time. He in love
35:45
with another of it. See you know, I'm like, yo, I've
35:49
been singing that shit all week. They say when you love someone, you
35:52
just don't treat them bad. What the fuck? Yeah, bro, Nah,
35:57
this should have been influencing us our whole life. Yeah we're sick,
35:59
bro. We so we lost sight of our morals and our eyes because then
36:01
you think about it like this, like respectfully, but like when we think
36:05
about like our grandmothers, our grandfathers. Wasn't being like, you need to
36:09
have them cakes, you know what I mean? And if you don't,
36:12
Yeah, but our grandfathers were saying that. But how many grandfathers had kids
36:15
on the side, A lot of them, nigga, not listen, not
36:21
just it's on the side, families who across the city. Man, you
36:25
and your sister the same age, look just like you'd be like, oh,
36:30
hell no, this is true. So like, where do this shit
36:31
stem from. It's still social it's still socializing though it's socializing how we've been
36:37
socialized. But then it's a lack of discipline because there is something in you
36:40
that if it goes unchecked, it will run a muck right, And it's
36:44
lust. Yeah, because even talking to the og my grandfather, I mean,
36:49
he's born in South Carolina, he said that said when he came to
36:52
New York, he's seen so many different women, different size, different race,
36:57
different color. He lost his mind. He didn't know what was No,
37:00
that's nuts, because you're running it like it's different from down south,
37:04
you in the woods. And then women be like women like help niggas in
37:07
such a way like when women. When a good woman coming to a man
37:10
life, she tremendously changes life. So then a nigga got the audacity to
37:15
go somewhere and be like, oh it's mad flavors. You just forget,
37:17
you forget, you forgot, you forgot the one that really changed your life.
37:21
Nigga, if it wasn't for me, you be in jail. I
37:23
guess how had good relationships? I was fucked over. Honestly, say,
37:25
my baby mother is one. My my fiance too, m hm. Fucked
37:31
over a couple of other good girls. I fucked over that that was good
37:35
women in my life. That I should have just let go, let them
37:37
go and just find somebody else. I didn't no harm, but it was
37:40
like I was selfish. You wanted your cake and to eat it too.
37:45
And it wasn't even kick and eat it too. It was just selfish because
37:47
I wanted it. Like I used to get erased over wanting ship that I
37:52
felt like I couldn't get. But when I accomplished that shit, I don't
37:55
want it. Are Yeah, now you keep that ship. I don't want
38:00
it. Yeah, let me get somebody else go. I don't want to
38:04
just scar nobody life. That's man. I don't want to scarre nobody.
38:08
Now you're talking. See that's the thing that's when you when you really transition
38:12
from a boy to the man man, because now you understand it's not about
38:15
what I'm what I could do, it's not about what I'm capable of.
38:19
It's about what I don't want to do to you out of respect for you
38:22
as a black woman, as a woman, as a woman, you know
38:24
what I mean. Because it's like I fuck, I do something to you
38:29
and then and now you want to carry that hurt to the next man.
38:31
You don't carry that hurt to the next man or to the next woman.
38:34
Now you now you're educating women improperly with negativity because speaking from you to take
38:38
every relationship as the one that you just got to I don't want to be
38:42
part of that. I want to see you smile. I don't want to
38:44
see no, I don't want to see you crying and that that guy like
38:47
whatever, No, I want to see you smile. Now. Ye Like
38:51
to a point, I'm that much comfortable to sit and say like the women
38:54
that I hurt that won't give me another chance of saying fuck me whatever,
38:59
I can open doors to them to walk down the hole to get m I
39:02
feel like I owe them that much. I owe them that much. So
39:07
Tony, I'm like, I'm so comfortable with myself right now to know like
39:13
the way my life is, I could open the doors for you to walk
39:15
down the aisle to be happy because because I ain't the one that hurt you,
39:21
I ain't the one that's hurting you no more. But yeah, I
39:23
would love to be the nigga in the front. So you saying that that
39:29
you love them so much that even if what's best for them isn't picking you,
39:34
that you'll still support them. I open the doors. Wow, open
39:37
up by wedding gift and everything. Having a kid, I'd be at your
39:40
baby shower with a gift. I had my chance. I fucked it up.
39:45
So it's like, who am I to sit in be better over and
39:49
I support you because even though we do not together, we still got this
39:52
friendship, don't we. So I'm gonna be there. I'm gonna be that
39:55
friend that opened the doors and let you walk down the aisle. I'm gonna
39:59
be a friend that walk up to you and get you a hug and kissing
40:00
your cheek and say you look beautiful. You know what, bro, that
40:06
is, I can be that that is fuck. I don't even know what
40:12
to say, but that that is probably the most selfless thing I have ever
40:17
heard a man say in my entire life. That's like I can go to
40:22
your husband and tell you you did a good job and don't and not trying
40:25
to throw shade behind it. I really mean that, shit, you did
40:29
a good one. I ain't gonna be one on a better nigga that said,
40:31
oh you did a good one. I let this one escape. Shit's
40:35
better on a fucking way. But i'ma be the one that says, say
40:37
you did a good job that you guys say evidently for her to say I
40:43
do, I mean, and this something good that you put into her.
40:46
Wow, and not just sex but just her feeling like she could trust you.
40:50
Right, I don't know, right for stepping doing the job that I
40:53
that I was ready to do. Sure, you need a DJ. I
40:57
might have my DJ DJ for your fucking wedding. Yeah, niggas need resources
41:00
like I got resource what you need? You need a spot? I got
41:02
a couple of spots here the numbers them. Why? Because I want you
41:06
to be happy. You being happy guess what makes me happy? Because you
41:09
know what, see you smile, that's like, that's so that's not it's
41:14
not a lot of people that's so selfless and so powerful because it's like,
41:16
even if I can't get my way, I still want you to have a
41:22
lot of people are here. Fuck my baby mother, this stuff that boh
41:24
not me. Yeah, I mean my baby mother get on my nerves.
41:28
But I want her to be happy right all the way. If she was
41:31
to come to me yo, this, that, and the third by the
41:32
man, I'm gona give it the best advice at the end of the day,
41:35
while her happiness gonna pull over into my child, right, So why
41:39
I don't want her to be happy, especially if she got a good man
41:43
that's giving helping her make right decisions and everything else. Guess what is helping
41:47
me out? Because guess what ship maybe that nigga can tap it's fucking pocketing
41:52
the bottom joys with So it's like you just one family and it's like it's
41:58
girl, like my daughter graduates prom and it's like it was me. It
42:04
was my ex my daughter in the middle, her father on the other side
42:07
with his other child. We all took a picture piece that's grown as fuck.
42:13
Bro, they don't get no more grown than that. Her father is
42:15
a DJ. That that DJ at my parties, And it's like, what
42:21
why be beefing over this ship? For at the end of the day,
42:23
we all we all love one thing, right, So like what is we
42:27
tripping over? So relationships is more than just what niggas think. It is
42:31
the sex aspects and everything else. And I feel like every month, I
42:35
feel like it's important that every month or once a week to really sit down
42:40
and talk about what could be done better. I started laying that should just
42:45
keep building and building and building. And when it's out of control, then
42:46
it's like, oh, I cheat it because this, Oh I'm leaving because
42:50
of this. If you I feel like we had this conversation once a week,
42:53
I feel like a lot of relationships would be way more better than what
42:57
it is. No, baby, I feel like you could ain't up a
43:00
little bit more? Or baby, can you put your stuff away? Maybe
43:02
you know you're a little too junkie woo woo. And it's like I told
43:06
you this ship week at the week for the past three years, you add
43:08
that shit fifty two times three fifty two times three years and that's how many
43:14
times I kept telling you about this shit and it's like you ain't making no
43:15
changes. So it's like you really didn't give a fuck about this relationship.
43:19
Right, it's selfish things. But if I see you trying to do better,
43:22
then it's like, all right, maybe our talks is doing. It's
43:25
working. Yeah, extend some grace. Yeah, relationships is work. It's
43:30
a job sometimes going to put over time to really get the outcome that you're
43:34
looking at that big payday and that's marriage and kids and building the future and
43:39
everything else. Man, the fucking love doctor. Man, listen with that
43:45
being after bro, I mean, I'm like, I'm speaceless. You you
43:46
you the love doctor. You taught you taught me some shit just now for
43:50
real. And that's I learned all this from the women that I heard,
43:53
and this is all they wanted. So if y'all think your relationship didn't mean
43:59
shit and mean something, because I learned a lot because I went back and
44:01
I looked at every relationship I fucked over, think about what can I did
44:05
better? How can I did it better? How can I broke up if
44:07
I wanted to, if I didn't want to be there? Because oh you
44:10
don't want to be with a person who just ignored them and all that ship.
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That shit is corny. I tell them, like, y'all, I
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feel like I'm not the man for you. I feel like you could do
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better, and give them reasons why I don't just leave them on scene and
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none of that shit. Don't give a fuck about their feelings. That's a
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corny shit. That's that's some corny shit. I'm the first to tell you
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that ship it's corny. If he did it again, how well, I
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definitely did. People are gonna love this one. Live you home relationships,
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bring it closer, bring it tighter. It's nothing out here in this world.
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Don't don't lose your house for no hotel. Don't trade in your whole
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box of treasure for a fucking down. It's more out there to it.
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Live life, enjoy going vacations, and just be full of love. I'm
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the fob seeing at the official blind stepper and I always step big the dut
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The love doctor is here and one more thing. Leave a rating and leave
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a review. Oh yeah, leave a review. Give me with your insight
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what you think about it. Fucking send your questions to Blomber. I C
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NYC at gmail dot com. You will answer it on the show. You
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can even dm blahbaana c NYC on Instagram. We will answer questions and everything
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else live on the show. And oh yeah, I got some shit.
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Be putting together with August. You might be doing your first live show in
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Brooklyn. Oh yeah yeah outside now I mean Halfway Up podcast, the Block
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BACI podcast. We might be coming together do this live show in the heart
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of the Style in Brooklyn. Be giving away book bags and all that.
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Putting it together right now, More information coming soon. You taking over this
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ship with But until next week, don't step unless we gonna step, big
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Blonde Stepper, please,