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You're Looking at the Wrong Version of Yourself-Why the masterpiece isn't finished yet—and neither are you!! · The Black Sheep Leadership Podcast

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  SPEAKER_00: What's going on, everybody?
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  SPEAKER_00: I want to welcome you to the Black Sheep Leadership Podcast.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm your host, Athena Renee, and this is where the underdogs, the misfits, and the overlooked leaders come to turn pain into power so that they can build a life by design and leave a legacy behind.
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  SPEAKER_00: Now, if this is your first time tapping in, welcome in, family.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm so happy that you decided to stop by today.
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  SPEAKER_00: And if you back again, what's up?
• 0:50
  SPEAKER_00: What's up?
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  SPEAKER_00: I appreciate your presence.
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  SPEAKER_00: You already know what time it is.
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  SPEAKER_00: So let's do this quick vibe check.
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  SPEAKER_00: Because if you're easily offended, sensitive, entitled, still waiting on somebody to come save you or allergic to accountability, get your ass up out of here because this is not your safe space.
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  SPEAKER_00: So go ahead and tap out now.
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  SPEAKER_00: But if you're ready to think different so you can move different and level up, stay locked in.
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  SPEAKER_00: Because by the end of this episode, you're walking away with something that you can execute immediately.
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  SPEAKER_00: Now let's get to work.
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  SPEAKER_00: Today, we're talking about maybe you're looking at the wrong version of yourself.
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  SPEAKER_00: You know, one of the biggest mistakes that a black sheep can make is judging themselves too early.
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  SPEAKER_00: You know, one thing about a black sheep, we are our own worst critic, hands down.
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  SPEAKER_00: We want to perfect it before the public fry us, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: Because as a black sheep, people always have let you have it.
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  SPEAKER_00: They let you have it unfiltered.
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  SPEAKER_00: So you find yourself, you look at all of your mistakes because you want to perfect everything.
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  SPEAKER_00: You don't want to give them no room to say nothing.
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  SPEAKER_00: You look at your failures, you look at your setbacks, you start looking at different chapters of your life, and it hurts.
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  SPEAKER_00: And sometimes, as a black sheep, you start believing that that's the whole story.
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  SPEAKER_00: But I want to challenge you to think about what if you're looking at the wrong version of yourself?
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  SPEAKER_00: What if the reason life doesn't make sense right now is because you are judging an unfinished masterpiece.
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  SPEAKER_00: Listen, black sheep family, you must adapt the masterpiece mentality.
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  SPEAKER_00: Let's unpack it so you can understand why and how this fits perfectly, specifically for the black sheep, the rejects, the underdogs.
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  SPEAKER_00: Okay?
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  SPEAKER_00: See, a masterpiece is never created all at once.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's created layer by layer, stroke by stroke, cut by cut, season by season.
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  SPEAKER_00: And that's exactly how life works.
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  SPEAKER_00: The problem is, most people are evaluating their lives from one chapter, one season, one setback, one painful moment, and they forget to zoom out.
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  SPEAKER_00: Because when you zoom out of all of the everyday mundane details, you start to see the whole picture.
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  SPEAKER_00: You start to see the victories and the losses, you start to see the heartbreak and the lessons, you start to see the growth, the scars, and the wisdom.
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  SPEAKER_00: But what you must understand is it all belongs.
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  SPEAKER_00: Think about the mosaic.
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  SPEAKER_00: I discovered something called the mosaic principle.
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  SPEAKER_00: And think about it.
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  SPEAKER_00: The mosaic, if you are if you know about artwork, but the mosaic is created from broken pieces individually.
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  SPEAKER_00: Now, individually, they don't look valuable.
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  SPEAKER_00: I remember we were in the eighth grade, and I'll never forget my art teacher at that time.
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  SPEAKER_00: It was Mrs.
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  SPEAKER_00: Caruth.
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  SPEAKER_00: She was really cool, but she had us create mosaics.
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  SPEAKER_00: And mosaics are made from small pieces of any kind of material.
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  SPEAKER_00: That day we use magazines.
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  SPEAKER_00: So we would take a magazine page and we would just break it down in many pieces.
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  SPEAKER_00: Okay.
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  SPEAKER_00: And some of these pieces are chipped, cracked, oddly shaped, but when the artists put it back together again, it becomes something beautiful.
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  SPEAKER_00: And that's your life.
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  SPEAKER_00: The things you thought disqualified you, it might be the very thing that is giving your story meaning.
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  SPEAKER_00: The heartbreak, the betrayal, the rejection, the failure, those pieces matter.
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  SPEAKER_00: They matter.
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  SPEAKER_00: Now let's talk about the sculpture.
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  SPEAKER_00: The sculpture perspective.
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  SPEAKER_00: Michelangelo famously created some of the most admired sculptures in history.
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  SPEAKER_00: And the cool thing about it is Michelangelo he did the sculptures back between 1500 and 1600.
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  SPEAKER_00: And we are still marveled at his work today.
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  SPEAKER_00: See, people would look at a block of marble, normal sculptors and artists, and they would just see a rock.
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  SPEAKER_00: But Michelangelo looked at the same block and saw the masterpiece inside.
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  SPEAKER_00: And that's how the creator sees you.
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  SPEAKER_00: He sees the flaws.
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  SPEAKER_00: But you think of it as flaws.
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  SPEAKER_00: The creator actually sees it as potential.
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  SPEAKER_00: You see mistakes, the creator sees it as preparation.
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  SPEAKER_00: You see delays, the creator sees it as development.
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  SPEAKER_00: And the sculpture wouldn't become beautiful without the pressure, without chiseling, without pieces being removed.
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  SPEAKER_00: That's a part of the process.
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  SPEAKER_00: And this is why we have to respect the process.
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  SPEAKER_00: You know, everybody wants the masterpiece.
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  SPEAKER_00: When you hear about these different art shows, everybody wants the masterpiece.
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  SPEAKER_00: But the masterpiece is the finished product.
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  SPEAKER_00: See, nobody talks about the chiseling.
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  SPEAKER_00: Everybody wants the finished product.
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  SPEAKER_00: They want the sculpture.
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  SPEAKER_00: But nobody talks about the chiseling.
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  SPEAKER_00: Nobody talks about the hammer.
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  SPEAKER_00: Everybody wants the harvest.
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  SPEAKER_00: Nobody talks about the seasons underground.
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  SPEAKER_00: But the growth happens in the dark.
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  SPEAKER_00: The masterpiece happens when nobody else is watching.
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  SPEAKER_00: Development happens in private.
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  SPEAKER_00: And many black sheep quit because they don't respect the process.
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  SPEAKER_00: There is another form of art from Japan called kinsugi.
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  SPEAKER_00: Kinsugi is an ancient Japanese practice where broken pottery isn't just thrown away, it's repaired.
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  SPEAKER_00: But here's the beautiful part they don't try to hide the cracks, they fill the cracks with gold.
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  SPEAKER_00: Think about that for a second.
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  SPEAKER_00: The very thing that was broken now becomes the most valuable part.
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  SPEAKER_00: The fracture becomes the feature.
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  SPEAKER_00: The fracture becomes the main character.
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  SPEAKER_00: Think about that.
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  SPEAKER_00: The scar becomes the story, the wound becomes the wisdom.
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  SPEAKER_00: And that's exactly what the creator does with black sheep.
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  SPEAKER_00: Many of us have been broken, betrayed, and rejected.
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  SPEAKER_00: Some of us have gone through things we wouldn't wish on anybody.
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  SPEAKER_00: But when those experiences are healed correctly, they become gold.
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  SPEAKER_00: The thing that almost broke you becomes the thing that helps somebody else.
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  SPEAKER_00: The thing that hurt you becomes the thing that teaches you.
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  SPEAKER_00: The thing that embarrassed you becomes the thing that gives you empathy.
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  SPEAKER_00: The crack didn't ruin the master priest.
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  SPEAKER_00: The cracks increased its value.
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  SPEAKER_00: And maybe, just maybe, the parts of yourself that you've been trying to hide and you've been upset about it and you're ashamed of it.
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  SPEAKER_00: Just maybe those are actually the parts the creator wants us to use most.
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  SPEAKER_00: The painting is still being painted.
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  SPEAKER_00: Your life is a masterpiece.
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  SPEAKER_00: The mosaic is still being assembled.
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  SPEAKER_00: And the cracks, the cracks are being filled with gold.
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  SPEAKER_00: Black sheep.
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  SPEAKER_00: Stop judging yourself by one character.
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  SPEAKER_00: Stop defining yourself by one season.
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  SPEAKER_00: And let's stop focusing on what's broke and start appreciating what's becoming.
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  SPEAKER_00: Because you're not broken.
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  SPEAKER_00: You're being crafted, you're being refined.
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  SPEAKER_00: Because what you must keep in mind is that the creator does not waste pain.
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  SPEAKER_00: He does not waste anything you've been through, he turns it into a part of your life masterpiece.
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  SPEAKER_00: Now let's get into these three action moves that you can execute right now.
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  SPEAKER_00: Number one, stop calling yourself broken.
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  SPEAKER_00: Replace that word with in progress.
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  SPEAKER_00: Because that's the truth.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I know some of you like, I don't call myself broken, but black sheep.
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  SPEAKER_00: We ain't gonna do it around other people.
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  SPEAKER_00: We might not just be out in the public walking around with our heads down, but if you are, hold your head up.
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  SPEAKER_00: But it's those inner voices.
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  SPEAKER_00: See, that's why I said a lot of times for the black sheep, I said that the inner, the enemy is sometimes the inner me.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's the inner me.
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  SPEAKER_00: That's why I said that we are our own worst critic.
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  SPEAKER_00: See, because it's not what other people say about you.
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  SPEAKER_00: Yes, words can hurt, but what do you say to yourself?
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  SPEAKER_00: And black sheep, when you at home and you frustrated and you upset because you messed something up.
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  SPEAKER_00: You know, I literally was talking to a young lady that um she came out of, she was really had a um a gambling addiction and went into bad debt.
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  SPEAKER_00: She now has an 800 credit score.
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  SPEAKER_00: She helps elderly people, I mean, really living a good life, okay?
• 11:03
  SPEAKER_00: And she made a mistake where basically she had her IM, her instant messenger on her computer.
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  SPEAKER_00: She had it on mute and forgot to turn it back on while she was at an appointment or after the appointment.
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  SPEAKER_00: And she was downing herself out about it.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm talking about she was down in the dumps because people needed her.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I'm like, listen, with everything you've overcame, look at the life you're living.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I understand black sheep, you know, we want to we go above and beyond for people.
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  SPEAKER_00: That's just who we are.
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  SPEAKER_00: That's just who we are.
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  SPEAKER_00: And when we make a mistake in our own lives, we come down on ourselves hard.
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  SPEAKER_00: But let me tell you something.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's not failure.
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  SPEAKER_00: You're not broken, you're in progress.
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  SPEAKER_00: Tell yourself that I'm in progress.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm in progress.
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  SPEAKER_00: Even if you feel like nothing is going on, because listen, we all face it.
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  SPEAKER_00: I had some of the craziest the last several weeks has just been crazy.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's just been a whirlwind.
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  SPEAKER_00: Why?
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  SPEAKER_00: Because life is life.
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  SPEAKER_00: I don't care what you got going on, life is life.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I had to pull it back together again.
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  SPEAKER_00: I had to look at my own teachings because I practice what I preach now.
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  SPEAKER_00: But guess what?
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  SPEAKER_00: At the end of the day, we're all human.
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  SPEAKER_00: And sometimes you have to be able to encourage yourself, specifically as a black sheep.
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  SPEAKER_00: You gotta be able to encourage yourself.
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  SPEAKER_00: You may not have a partner, and if you do, the partner may not understand where you're coming from.
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  SPEAKER_00: You gotta be able to give yourself that self-talk that you need.
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  SPEAKER_00: And it starts with saying, I'm in progress.
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  SPEAKER_00: But here's another one because as black sheep, sometimes we realize that we've wasted so much time with people and we like, man, I'm about it.
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  SPEAKER_00: I gotta get after it.
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  SPEAKER_00: I don't have time to be playing.
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  SPEAKER_00: We always talking about all gas, no breaks, and I'm 100% with you.
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  SPEAKER_00: But guess what?
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  SPEAKER_00: Life will slow you down.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I was having a moment where I was just tired.
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  SPEAKER_00: I mean, I'm one of those people that I like, I don't want to waste any more time.
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  SPEAKER_00: I've wasted too much time.
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  SPEAKER_00: You know?
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  SPEAKER_00: It's like sometimes you have these flashbacks about how you believe in everybody else but yourself, and then you're not where you want to be, and all of these different things.
• 13:17
  SPEAKER_00: And I said, you know what?
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  SPEAKER_00: Uh a video popped up on YouTube, and it was talking about in Italy, there's an Italian saying, and it goes, it says, Dolce far niente.
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  SPEAKER_00: Dolce far niente.
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  SPEAKER_00: And that means the sweetness of doing nothing.
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  SPEAKER_00: Listen, y'all, it shook me to my core because I had seen it another time and I zoned past it.
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  SPEAKER_00: I was like, doing nothing.
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  SPEAKER_00: Oh no, that's not for me.
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  SPEAKER_00: So when I came back to it when I was having a really low moment, and I looked at the video because it looked so peaceful, you know, and when I read more into it, I didn't read the full article the last time.
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  SPEAKER_00: See what I'm saying?
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  SPEAKER_00: We have to make sure we're getting all the details.
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  SPEAKER_00: If we zoom out, we can see the bigger picture of everything, family.
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  SPEAKER_00: But check this out.
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  SPEAKER_00: So when I decided to take time and look at it and finish looking at what it meant, the video and everything, the sweetness of doing nothing.
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  SPEAKER_00: But check this out, do say far niente, it's the sweetness of doing nothing.
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  SPEAKER_00: But the last line is this not having the pressure of being productive, enjoying the now, enjoying where you're at right now.
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  SPEAKER_00: And when I tell you guys, listen, I took two whole days and just relaxed.
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  SPEAKER_00: I was so glad it rained and stormed, and I hope anyone, anybody, um, I hope everyone was safe because I did see in the Midwest, which is the area that I'm from, there was a lot of tornadoes and things like that.
• 14:50
  SPEAKER_00: So I hope that everybody is safe.
• 14:52
  SPEAKER_00: But we had so much rain, and you know, when it rains, it is really relaxing.
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  SPEAKER_00: But I just want to say it to the black sheep family: respect that process.
• 15:02
  SPEAKER_00: Heal yourself, your mouth, your words can heal you.
• 15:05
  SPEAKER_00: You're not broken, you're in progress.
• 15:07
  SPEAKER_00: But this is another one that I came with when I thought about the uh Italian saying for not feeling the pressure of being productive.
• 15:17
  SPEAKER_00: I'm I'm buffering.
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  SPEAKER_00: Sometimes you're buffering.
• 15:20
  SPEAKER_00: It's okay to buffer a little bit.
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  SPEAKER_00: Think about the GPS when that thing starts buffering because it's trying to figure it out.
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  SPEAKER_00: But guess what?
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  SPEAKER_00: When it's time to get back on track, it gets right back on track.
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  SPEAKER_00: It gets right back on track.
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  SPEAKER_00: So don't be afraid to just enjoy life day by day.
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  SPEAKER_00: And you know, I really had to put myself in a place of gratitude.
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  SPEAKER_00: This is also why they say write down things every day to make you grateful.
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  SPEAKER_00: And even if you don't write them down, think about them.
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  SPEAKER_00: Because we're literally about to go on a seven-day retreat less than five days away.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I said, I've worked so hard, so many different things have come and gone and changed, and life is always life.
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  SPEAKER_00: But I'm grateful that I can actually do those things.
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  SPEAKER_00: When I got in my bed, it felt so good.
• 16:08
  SPEAKER_00: I said, Lord, I'm grateful that I'm laying in the bed.
• 16:11
  SPEAKER_00: I remember I had to, I was staying in a roaming house trying to meet payroll, trying to put all my money in the business.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I had some crazy roommates.
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  SPEAKER_00: They weren't at peace because they weren't building anything.
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  SPEAKER_00: Number two, respect your season.
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  SPEAKER_00: Listen to me, y'all.
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  SPEAKER_00: Stop comparing your season 30 to somebody else's.
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  SPEAKER_00: Stop comparing your season three to somebody else's season 30.
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  SPEAKER_00: But listen, it's not even about anybody else, but don't get me wrong, comparison is the thief of joy.
• 16:44
  SPEAKER_00: Because you don't know what people got going on to maintain what they got.
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  SPEAKER_00: Remember, I don't care if you are a believer or not, to whom much is giving, much is required.
• 16:56
  SPEAKER_00: To whom much is given, much is required.
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  SPEAKER_00: You know, around the holiday season, um, I tend to pick up on, well, I don't even want to say I pick up on volunteering because I really volunteer throughout the year.
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  SPEAKER_00: But there's a particular group that I used to volunteer with a lot around the holiday time.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I'll never forget this one is where we were washing homeless people um hair and everything and grooming them up.
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  SPEAKER_00: And so I'm just talking to them, and everything is cool.
• 17:24
  SPEAKER_00: And the one girl, she showed me how she had a hatchet.
• 17:26
  SPEAKER_00: It was like a mini axe.
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  SPEAKER_00: And the one guy, you know, I was serving them food, we were washing their hair, and we're just all talking and having a good time.
• 17:33
  SPEAKER_00: And so I asked them, the one girl, I just because she was so cool, and I mean, nothing was she was alright, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: Because, you know, you meet all different types of homeless people, right?
• 17:43
  SPEAKER_00: If you're out there doing humitarian efforts.
• 17:46
  SPEAKER_00: And so this particular girl, I could just tell she had family that probably wanted her to come home, but you never know, right?
• 17:51
  SPEAKER_00: But I said, girl, I said, why do you stay out here?
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  SPEAKER_00: What is going on with you?
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  SPEAKER_00: And she told me, I don't want the stress of having a lot of stuff.
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  SPEAKER_00: I said, What you mean?
• 18:02
  SPEAKER_00: She said, I don't want the stress of paying rent and having a car and going to work and all these different things.
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  SPEAKER_00: She said, I like this, living off the land.
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  SPEAKER_00: So listen to me, y'all.
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  SPEAKER_00: You can be staying in an extended stay hotel.
• 18:18
  SPEAKER_00: You can be living in a car right now.
• 18:20
  SPEAKER_00: That's all right.
• 18:21
  SPEAKER_00: But guess what?
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  SPEAKER_00: To whom much is given, much is still required.
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  SPEAKER_00: Because on that day I learned any level, any amount of leveling up and getting off the ground.
• 18:32
  SPEAKER_00: If you come from the bottom like me and you say, you know what, I'm so low, I gotta come up.
• 18:37
  SPEAKER_00: Any effort or or desire, I should say, to come up, it's gonna add a little bit of responsibility to it.
• 18:44
  SPEAKER_00: It's gonna add a little bit to it.
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  SPEAKER_00: What am I saying?
• 18:47
  SPEAKER_00: Respect the season you're in.
• 18:50
  SPEAKER_00: Don't worry about what other folks got.
• 18:52
  SPEAKER_00: You know, a lot of people they see the light in you, so of course they're gonna put it in your face.
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  SPEAKER_00: A lot of people, they insecure.
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  SPEAKER_00: Of course, they're gonna brag about what they got.
• 19:00
  SPEAKER_00: But guess what?
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  SPEAKER_00: It might look good on the outside, but you don't know what they got at home.
• 19:06
  SPEAKER_00: You don't know how the bills are piling up.
• 19:08
  SPEAKER_00: They got all those cars, they got five dogs running around in the big yard.
• 19:12
  SPEAKER_00: You don't know what doctor bills they got, you don't know what vet bills they got.
• 19:16
  SPEAKER_00: You don't know.
• 19:18
  SPEAKER_00: Okay?
• 19:19
  SPEAKER_00: So just enjoy and respect the season you're in and just get all the knowledge that you can because that's what I'm doing, family.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm not telling you something that I'm not doing.
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  SPEAKER_00: I promise you that.
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  SPEAKER_00: Okay.
• 19:29
  SPEAKER_00: Number three, zoom in on your campus, on your canvas.
• 19:36
  SPEAKER_00: Zoom in on your canvas.
• 19:38
  SPEAKER_00: Now is the time to focus in on your life, dreams, and desires.
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  SPEAKER_00: Listen, when you start to think about your life as a masterpiece and as a black sheep, we're always helping somebody else out.
• 19:49
  SPEAKER_00: We always clapping for everybody.
• 19:51
  SPEAKER_00: You ever notice that?
• 19:52
  SPEAKER_00: Man, black sheep, think about Robin Williams.
• 19:54
  SPEAKER_00: I always think about Robin Williams, man.
• 19:57
  SPEAKER_00: I just sometimes, you know, you wish you could talk to people.
• 20:00
  SPEAKER_00: Listen to me, y'all.
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  SPEAKER_00: A lot of times, people that are always smiling and cheering everybody else up, those are some of the saddest people around.
• 20:09
  SPEAKER_00: Like Kevin Hart said, laugh at my pain.
• 20:13
  SPEAKER_00: Right?
• 20:14
  SPEAKER_00: I even had a saying, I'm a laugh to keep from crying.
• 20:18
  SPEAKER_00: Seriously.
• 20:19
  SPEAKER_00: And listen, when you see people that's always smiling and happy, sometimes those folks are carrying some of the heaviest battles.
• 20:28
  SPEAKER_00: But they made up in their mind, I'm gonna smile anyway.
• 20:33
  SPEAKER_00: You know why?
• 20:34
  SPEAKER_00: Because being mad and sad and upset, being bitter, it costs more energy.
• 20:42
  SPEAKER_00: It costs more energy.
• 20:44
  SPEAKER_00: And I'm gonna tell you something.
• 20:46
  SPEAKER_00: Don't get me wrong, black sheep.
• 20:47
  SPEAKER_00: I know we've been through a lot, and sometimes we just get tired of smiling and cheesing.
• 20:52
  SPEAKER_00: Listen, feel free to go in your peaceful environment.
• 20:55
  SPEAKER_00: I don't care if it's a closet, I don't care if it's the backseat of your car, I don't care if you put a blanket over your head.
• 21:03
  SPEAKER_00: Feel free to go into your space where you can escape or just really recalibrate and cry if you need to.
• 21:13
  SPEAKER_00: Scream if you need to.
• 21:16
  SPEAKER_00: Think out loud if you need to.
• 21:19
  SPEAKER_00: You don't have to feel like you gotta smile all the time.
• 21:22
  SPEAKER_00: But one thing about it, Black Sheet, I'ma always tell you this: don't never let them see you cry.
• 21:26
  SPEAKER_00: Don't never let them see you sweat.
• 21:28
  SPEAKER_00: Why?
• 21:28
  SPEAKER_00: Because people in the world they see more in you than you see in yourself, and sometimes they just waiting on you to crumble.
• 21:37
  SPEAKER_00: It ain't everybody, it's not everybody, but we not taking notes and names.
• 21:42
  SPEAKER_00: Okay?
• 21:43
  SPEAKER_00: So everybody has their moment where they need to recalibrate, but do it in private.
• 21:48
  SPEAKER_00: But here's what I want you to understand about this last action move.
• 21:52
  SPEAKER_00: You can understand where you need to recalibrate at better, and what you need to do better when you zoom in on your own.
• 22:00
  SPEAKER_00: Dreams and desires.
• 22:01
  SPEAKER_00: As black sheep, we just want to be that missing piece that we never had.
• 22:04
  SPEAKER_00: We want to be the support, the loyalty.
• 22:06
  SPEAKER_00: We want to show them what love looks like, what authenticity looks like.
• 22:09
  SPEAKER_00: And guess what, guys?
• 22:10
  SPEAKER_00: These people suck our energy dry and they gone.
• 22:13
  SPEAKER_00: And we back alone again.
• 22:16
  SPEAKER_00: And it sucks.
• 22:17
  SPEAKER_00: I know.
• 22:18
  SPEAKER_00: I know.
• 22:19
  SPEAKER_00: I experience it too.
• 22:21
  SPEAKER_00: Right?
• 22:22
  SPEAKER_00: But what I want you to understand is when you keep your mind on your mission, though, stay focused on your mission.
• 22:29
  SPEAKER_00: Because trust and believe me.
• 22:32
  SPEAKER_00: One thing about it, in due time, you're going to have everybody that you need to have around you.
• 22:39
  SPEAKER_00: Your energy is too potent.
• 22:41
  SPEAKER_00: And even the people that came and sucked you dry and left like energy vampires, they're going to remember you.
• 22:46
  SPEAKER_00: And I'm going to tell you something too.
• 22:47
  SPEAKER_00: They're going to, they're never going to forget.
• 22:50
  SPEAKER_00: Why?
• 22:50
  SPEAKER_00: Because people think you're replaceable.
• 22:53
  SPEAKER_00: See, you can find another person, of course you can.
• 22:55
  SPEAKER_00: But you can't replace energy.
• 22:59
  SPEAKER_00: And it's unfortunate that with black sheep, people don't miss what they had until we gone.
• 23:05
  SPEAKER_00: Because they just think we average.
• 23:08
  SPEAKER_00: They think we're regular, smagular.
• 23:10
  SPEAKER_00: But when we close that door and start focusing in on our own stuff, our dreams and desires, they mess around and find out that this is not that.
• 23:20
  SPEAKER_00: So as you're focusing and zooming in on your life and staying focused on your process, I want you to think about the details, the colors, the locations.
• 23:27
  SPEAKER_00: Where do you want to be?
• 23:29
  SPEAKER_00: The goals, the timeline.
• 23:30
  SPEAKER_00: When do you want to do it?
• 23:32
  SPEAKER_00: The journey.
• 23:33
  SPEAKER_00: Think about your journey, the retrospect, and how you're going to do it better.
• 23:37
  SPEAKER_00: And think about your future journey, the things that you've learned.
• 23:40
  SPEAKER_00: And your future.
• 23:41
  SPEAKER_00: Stay future focused.
• 23:43
  SPEAKER_00: See, we learn from our past, but we don't live there.
• 23:45
  SPEAKER_00: Stay future focused.
• 23:46
  SPEAKER_00: Because trust and believe me, my friend.
• 23:48
  SPEAKER_00: In the end, when you stay focused on your mission, trust me, everything is going to work out the way it should.
• 23:54
  SPEAKER_00: Think about it as a painting on the wall when people walk by to admire your work and your life contribution.
• 24:00
  SPEAKER_00: Think about your life as a painting, right?
• 24:02
  SPEAKER_00: When people walk by and see your work and life contribution, like Michelangelo, your life will be admired by people for generations to come.
• 24:12
  SPEAKER_00: But here's what most people miss the goal isn't just getting the life you want, the goal is to become the person that's capable of keeping it, growing it, protecting it, multiplying it.
• 24:25
  SPEAKER_00: That's what that journey was all about.
• 24:27
  SPEAKER_00: That's why I told you guys you are in process.
• 24:29
  SPEAKER_00: You're processing, you're buffering, you want to try, you're trying to figure out the right way.
• 24:35
  SPEAKER_00: When you look at your past, it's not failures.
• 24:37
  SPEAKER_00: Those are life lessons and wisdom.
• 24:39
  SPEAKER_00: Why?
• 24:40
  SPEAKER_00: Because when you get to where you're going, it's not about just getting it.
• 24:43
  SPEAKER_00: You got to be able to keep it as a black sheep.
• 24:45
  SPEAKER_00: You know you're going to be pissing people off.
• 24:47
  SPEAKER_00: They're going to come for you.
• 24:48
  SPEAKER_00: I don't care if you say you want to build a well for fresh water for somebody in a third water, a third world country.
• 24:54
  SPEAKER_00: I don't care if you say you want to build a shelter, somebody coming for you.
• 24:59
  SPEAKER_00: So you got to be able to apply all the wisdom so that you can protect it, continue to multiply it, right?
• 25:06
  SPEAKER_00: And grow it.
• 25:07
  SPEAKER_00: And that's where all of the processing comes from.
• 25:09
  SPEAKER_00: Why?
• 25:10
  SPEAKER_00: Because anybody can get lucky.
• 25:11
  SPEAKER_00: Look at the people that win the lottery.
• 25:13
  SPEAKER_00: And look at the percentile of how many people go right back to the same very life they had.
• 25:17
  SPEAKER_00: See, very people, very few people are prepared.
• 25:20
  SPEAKER_00: And your life journey is the work of art that will prepare you.
• 25:25
  SPEAKER_00: See, that's a completely different perspective, my black sheep family.
• 25:29
  SPEAKER_00: You're not a mistake.
• 25:30
  SPEAKER_00: You're not behind, you're not disqualified, and you're definitely not finished yet.
• 25:34
  SPEAKER_00: The masterpiece is still being painted.
• 25:37
  SPEAKER_00: The sculpture of your life is still being carved, and the mosaic is still being assembled.
• 25:42
  SPEAKER_00: A masterpiece in progress is what you are.
• 25:45
  SPEAKER_00: Because the creator doesn't waste pain, he turns it into the pieces of your masterpiece.
• 25:54
  SPEAKER_00: Until next time, my friend, keep in mind information is everywhere, and execution is rare.