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How to Build Resilience (S5) S14:E4 · Inspirations for Your Life

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Ladies and gentlemen, this is Inspirations for Your
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Life.
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This is March 31st, 2026, and it is
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so great to be with everyone here today.
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Our topic is the master topic of owning
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your focus, but today's granular topic is series
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five, show 14, episode four, how to build
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resilience.
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The master topic is owning your focus, clarity,
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courage, and momentum, and this kind of parlays
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into that.
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So welcome, everyone.
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I am John C.
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Morley, serial entrepreneur, engineer, marketing specialist, video producer,
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podcast host, coach, passionate life-long learner, and
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yes, pretty soon, a published author.
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So today's episode of Inspirations for Your Life
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dives into resilience, teaching how to turn setbacks
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into momentum, sharpen focus under pressure, and consistently
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build strength through intentional action.
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Incidentally, guys, that's a lot about what my
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new book covers.
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I'm not gonna get into any more about
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that, but I will let you know that
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the book is gonna be dedicated to my
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parents actually on April 17th, and it will
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be available for purchase on the 18th, and
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it will be shipping on May 1st.
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Number one, guys, stress reveals strength.
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Difficulties highlight what you can handle.
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Yes, you can handle a lot.
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I don't know if you guys know that,
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but sometimes we put the gates up before
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we even have a chance to see what
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it is that we're doing, and we shut
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down before we actually have that opportunity.
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So I think that's a very important thing.
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Number two, guys, recovery fuels endurance.
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Taking time to restore energizes your patience.
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A lot of people don't take the time.
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They keep pushing and pushing and pushing, and
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then they're not where they wanna be because
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of, well, frustration, okay?
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Number three, guys, daily habits.
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Yes, daily habits, guys, build toughness.
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Small, consistent routines compound into strength.
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A lot of people don't realize that our
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small actions build us into something very, very
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strong and unstoppable.
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Number four, guys, are you ready?
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Number four is overcome setbacks.
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Intentionally face challenges with conscious effort.
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I think sometimes we hit a challenge and
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we don't realize that it's an opportunity for
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us to learn and not to get stopped.
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It's actually put there so that we can
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become a better version of our self.
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Number five, guys, learn from the obstacles that
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are presented before you.
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Each barrier teaches valuable lessons.
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And I think when we start to realize
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that it is about the lessons that we're
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learning, that's when I think we understand that
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there's hope, that there is possibility to what
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we're trying to achieve.
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Number six, guys, focus strengthens our resolve.
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Concentration deepens your ability to persist, right?
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And so when we're not persisting, it's usually
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because we've lost focus or because we become
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frustrated or a multitude of other things.
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But the core of the matter is that
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we've lost eye on the prize.
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We lost eye on where we're going.
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We took our eyes off the road, okay?
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Number seven, guys, number seven, adaptability multiplies impact.
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Adaptability multiplies impact.
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Flexing strategy enhances the results.
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So if we can be a little bit,
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let's say forgiving in one area, we'll find
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that we will enhance our results.
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And of course, the outcome.
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Number eight, guys, resilience creates freedom.
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It does.
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Because when we're resilient, we can bounce back.
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It's not the fact that we fell down,
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it's how many times we get back up.
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That's the most important thing.
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So resilience creates a very unique sense of
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freedom.
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Emotional strength allows independent action.
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Emotional strength.
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I'm not talking about your physical strength, how
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strong you are, if you can lift, you
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know, 50 pounds or 200 pounds or 500
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pounds.
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I'm not talking about that.
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I'm talking about your emotional strength.
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And your emotional strength is just as important
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as that brawn strength, right?
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Because if you don't have it up here,
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then all you're gonna be is somebody that
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just can, you know, lift and execute.
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But you're not gonna be somebody that's gonna
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really be intentional.
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And that's what we're about here, right?
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Number nine, guys, track progress daily.
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I think that's a very important one.
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Monitor the growth compounds because it will turn
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into a success.
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Now, not overnight, guys, not overnight.
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But I promise you, it will turn into
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success if you stay focused on where you
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are going.
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If you're not focused, well, guys, then you're
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gonna fall behind.
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You're gonna be fall behind.
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And by falling behind, that's gonna be a
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very big problem for a lot of people
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because they're not gonna realize the one thing.
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And that one thing, guys, is that you
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can go pretty far.
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But you have to first believe that you
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can go far.
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Number 10, guys, bounce back quickly.
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Rapid recovery maintains momentum.
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You fall down, get up.
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You need a minute or two, fine.
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Don't take a half hour, an hour to
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get back up.
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Because what happens is that sets into our
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mind a bias, like, oh, I'm so tired.
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Oh, I can't get up.
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Oh, I can't really have it.
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And you just let it weigh on you
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and it just kind of ties you down.
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And we do not want that, guys.
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Number 11, consistency reinforces confidence.
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CRC, consistency reinforces confidence.
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The consistency allows us to feel a certain
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way, especially when things are happening in a
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positive direction.
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So daily effort, guys, solidifies the belief in
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yourself of who you are and where you're
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going.
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I think that's another big challenge for a
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lot of people is they don't realize that
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it's where you're going.
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It's great to know where you are right
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now, but it's also important to understand where
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you're going.
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And if you don't understand where you're going,
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guys, that can be a very, very big
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problem, again, for a lot of people.
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I'm not saying it may stop you, but
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it may stop a lot of people.
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And so if we're cognizant and we're aware
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of these things and we are proactive, then
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we're gonna be at the top of our
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game all the time.
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Number 12, guys, set boundaries for energy.
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Protect focus by defining the limits.
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So limits are boundaries.
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They're there to protect us, they're there to
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protect others, but not just protection.
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They control our energy, right?
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And they allow us to be able to
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stay within certain parameters so we don't become
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frustrated.
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I think that's a big one for a
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lot of people is they don't realize that
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when frustration sets in, we have to have
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a way to combat that.
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I think that's a very, very important thing
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to definitely understand.
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We have to know how to combat that.
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And if we know how to combat that,
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then our life really changes quite a bit.
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Number 13, guys, embrace challenges deliberately.
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Choosing difficulty strengthens mastery.
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Choosing difficulty.
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So wise person once told me, John, do
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what's the hardest thing first.
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Because when you do, it'll give you that
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feeling of euphoria that you can basically do
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the next thing, which is gonna be easier
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than the hardest thing, right?
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Number 14, guys, reflection sharpens resilience.
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At the end of your day, do you
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take time to think about what it is
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that you're doing, or do you just move
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on and be like, well, that happened, so
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what?
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When we reflect, we look at the good
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that happened, and we look at the things
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that we could improve to make today a
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better day.
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Now, we're not gonna go back and change
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it, but tomorrow we could have an even
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better day.
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And I think that's an important thing is
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that we can learn from our experiences.
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We can learn from our challenges, because even
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these challenges that are hitting us over the
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head day in and day out can be
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our greatest teachers to help us overcome the
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obstacles of life.
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Thinking on the past events improves future responses.
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I don't tell you to think about the
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events so you can harp on them, so
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that you can beat yourself up, so that
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you can put yourself down to the ground.
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No, I tell you this so that you
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can be aware of them.
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And so next time when those patterns, let's
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say, arise, you're like, oh, I get this,
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now I know why this is happening, I
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know what's going on here, I know why
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this is transforming, I know it, I get
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it.
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That's a very important thing, guys.
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And the more that you realize that, the
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more that understanding and the more that changing
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things will make a very, very big difference
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in your life.
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Number 15, guys, patience strengthens judgment.
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Waiting wisely prevents costly mistakes.
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But many people don't wanna wait.
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They get impulsive.
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Like, we have to do this now, now,
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now, now, now.
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Like, you're at the supermarket or you're at
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a store and you see stuff at the
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register.
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You don't need that stuff.
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But because of the way they've impulse marketed
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to you, you're like, oh, I'm definitely gonna
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do that, right?
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But is it something you really need?
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Probably not.
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But the impulse buy gets us to do
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it.
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So I tell you to be cognizant of
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impulse decisions.
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Impulse decisions are usually wrong.
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That's different from gut decision.
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This gut is not the same thing, okay?
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Impulse means I'm taking it because of something
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here that's going on.
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A gut happens with a slow feeling.
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That this is the right thing to do,
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right?
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So as I said, it's important to know
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this and to understand and prevent the costly
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mistakes that can arise around you, all right?
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Number 16, guys, recovery prevents burnout.
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Yes, it does, guys.
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Rest ensures sustainable progress.
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You know, a lot of times you wanna
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keep going, wanna keep going, wanna keep going,
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the problem with keep going is that by
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doing this, we don't give ourselves a break,
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right?
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If you run an engine nonstop, what's gonna
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happen?
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That engine's gonna burn out.
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You need to give everything a break.
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You even need a break.
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If you're running, you're walking, you need a
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break, right?
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So there's nothing wrong with stopping and taking
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a break.
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Absolutely nothing wrong with that.
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What some people do though, is they push,
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push, push, push, push until they're forced to
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take a break, right?
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Not on their own choosing.
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Something happens to them, they get hurt or
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what have you.
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And if we understand that shift between what
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could cause burnout and what could give us
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a reset, can give us a great burst
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of energy and a lot more creativity so
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we can actually move forward.
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Number 17, guys, reframe difficulties as lessons.
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Change perspective to uncover opportunity.
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There's so many different things out there.
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And when we just change the perspective, change
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the angle just a little bit, we become,
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well, unstoppable.
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But a lot of times it's just a
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subtle pivot.
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It's not like we're changing the entire direction.
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And it's these subtle nuances that we can
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respond to that can affect the success and
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quality of our lives, right?
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Number 18, guys, daily wins compound.
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They sure do.
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Celebrate small achievements to build power.
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And one thing you're gonna know about is
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that power builds even more each time.
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That feeling you get when you've done something
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right, and then you do it again, it
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keeps compounding.
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It's like this endless loop, but it's a
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positive endless loop that gets you to understand
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and to keep getting that pat on the
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back from the dopamine that releases in your
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brain.
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That's very, very powerful, guys.
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Number 19, guys, stay committed to growth.
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Long-term focus beats the short-term distractions.
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Hands down, it does.
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Number 20, guys, resilience enhances problem-solving.
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Strength under pressure improves decisions.
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And I think a lot of people don't
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realize the fact that when we have strength,
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we have more of a sense of calmness.
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We can make the decisions from a higher
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point when we're not being led, or we're
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not, let's say, making a decision that's impulse
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-driven.
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I think those are very important things for
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us to understand.
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The difference between a decision we make because
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of gut and a decision we make because
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of an impulse.
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Very important.
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Number 21, guys, flexibility builds opportunity.
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You know, when somebody is flexible, I don't
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care whether it's with their schedule or with
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their other options or what they do, they've
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got more possibilities for opportunity.
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And so adjusting an approach opens new paths.
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But a lot of people, whether they're coming
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out of school or they've been in grad
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school, they're set on one way and they
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don't wanna change.
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And because they're inflexible, well, they break bridges,
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and not literally bridges, but speaking about bridges,
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if bridges weren't flexible, bridges didn't sway with
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the wind, right?
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A little bit.
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The bridge would break, right?
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And I think this is an important piece
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for us to reflect on right now, is
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that when we're flexible in life, just like
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a structure needs to be flexible, or it
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could collapse and not be very stable.
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If we're flexible in life, then we can
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get lots of opportunities.
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If we're not flexible, it's like we shut
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out the world.
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We shut out the potential opportunity that could
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be there, right?
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We said before, our thoughts create our opportunity.
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Number 22, guys, small adjustments sustain effort.
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Small little pivots, small little micro changes.
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These tiny changes basically maintain our momentum.
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You know, if we think about sailing for
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a moment, because I love to sail.
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When we sail, if we shift the weight
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just a tiny bit, that can really affect
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the trajectory of not only where the boat's
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going, but also the speed at which it's
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going.
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When we move the weight, we're able to
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get the boat a little more on a
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heel, and thus less of the boat is
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in the water, so creating less drag.
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So that's another reason for us to be
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flexible.
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Some of the people I know say, oh,
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it's gotta be this way, this way, it's
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gotta be all this whole way, and if
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it's not, I'm not interested.
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What you're doing is telling the universe, okay,
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I don't want this.
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If it doesn't come in a red box,
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I don't want it, which is a bad
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attitude.
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Number 23, guys, resilient mindset multiplies outcomes.
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I'll just say it again.
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A resilient or a flexible mindset multiplies outcomes.
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So mental toughness magnifies results in our lives,
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and so mental toughness doesn't mean that you're
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nasty.
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Mental toughness doesn't mean you're rude to people.
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Mental toughness means that you are protecting your
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boundaries, and you're not letting people walk over
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you.
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That's a big point of what mental toughness
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means, and when people know that we're a
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mentally tough person, they won't try anymore to
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press our buttons.
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That's important.
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Number 24, guys, maintain calmness under pressure.
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I know that that's virtually impossible.
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I don't care what kind of emergency situation
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you're in.
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Everyone's got their blood raising because, oh my
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gosh, what's gonna happen?
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Maintain calm under pressure.
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Composure ensures clear thinking.
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So the composure ensures clear thinking, and when
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that happens, it's like, oh, I get it.
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Now I understand, all right?
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Number 25, resilience preserves momentum.
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Bounce back, and you'll keep going forward in
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that direction.
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People sometimes don't bounce back for a couple
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of reasons.
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One, they claim they need more time.
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I'm tired.
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They're afraid that if they bounce back, they
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may be successful.
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They're afraid that if they bounce back, they
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may have to become accountable.
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Oh, wow, isn't that a shock?
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Number 26, guys, observe patterns for improvement.
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Insight drives strategic action.
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So life is all about patterns, whether we're
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talking about technology, whether we're talking about personalities,
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they're all part of patterns.
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Everything around us is a pattern, from nature
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to human beings to even the cycles of
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life.
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Everything is a pattern, and once we understand
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the pattern, we can actually move forward.
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But discovering or decoding a pattern is something
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that a lot of people wrestle with their
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entire life.
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So knowing what a pattern is and recognizing
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that pattern and how to act when that
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pattern rears its head is a very key
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success strategy in life, just being honest.
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Number 27, guys, discipline reinforces recovery.
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Recovery, very simple.
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Structured effort enhances endurance.
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Structured effort enhances endurance.
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So it kind of builds a framework for
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us, right?
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If we have a framework, we could stay
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within a framework.
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The simplest thing I can give you is
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a coloring book.
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So in a coloring book, you have lines.
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You probably remember paint by number or marker
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by number.
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When a part of the chart has numbers,
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it keeps us within there.
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Red might be blue, red might be two,
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blue might be six, and we have to
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keep that color within that area.
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So as we have to use a thicker
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pen, a thinner pen, you get the idea,
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right?
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So this is key, guys, for success.
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Number 27, guys, discipline reinforces recovery.
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Structured effort enhances the endurance.
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All right, number 28, guys, endurance grows quietly.
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Strength develops steadily with time.
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So it grows behind the scenes.
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And as that's happening, strength is also building
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its way.
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But a lot of you are like, oh
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my gosh, I can't do this.
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Number 29, guys, focus on solutions.
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Energy spent resolving issues creates results.
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Energy spent complaining about issues just creates more
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problems, more challenges, more frustration.
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Number 30, guys, strength sustains progress.
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Inner power fuels continuous advancement.
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So that inner power, that dopamine release that
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we're getting when we do something great, it
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fuels us to be even better than we
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were before.
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You know, if you asked me even 10
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or 15 years ago, do we have our
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own motivation?
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I would have said kind of, until I
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learned about the dopamine.
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The dopamine's like this natural personal back-tapper,
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right?
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It gives us the pat on the back
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and a complete euphoric feeling that goes along
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with the pat on the back.
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And the best is it keeps happening over
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and over and over again each time that
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we create that positive act.
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That's powerful, guys.
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So now you know that patting yourself on
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the back is great.
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I know that people do it too, but
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when you do it to yourself and you
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get that euphoric feeling from the dopamine release
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in your brain and body, it's like, whoa.
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You ever been on a roller coaster?
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It's like that dip in the roller coaster,
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right?
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And then, whoa, whoa, whoa.
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Like, you know, oh, down, right?
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Wee-hee.
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Then people, people scream, right?
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So I think these are important things to
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realize as we think about resilience, resilience.
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Now, according to my good friends at Merriam
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-Webster, this is what they have to say
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about it.
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Resilience.
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So now, the ability of something to return
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to its original size and shape after being
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compressed or deformed.
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We could think about, let's say, one of
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those beanbag stress balls.
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And if you squeeze that stress ball and
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you hold it, you'll notice it gets some
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indents from your finger or wherever you're pressing
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it.
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But then the fact that it returns back
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to its original square or circle or triangle
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or whatever shape it was in, the fact
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that it can return back to that in
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literally seconds to under a minute, that's resilience.
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Do we bounce back to the state we
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were in before we were interrupted?
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Let me see if I can give an
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example.
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So you're with your friends, and maybe one
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of them actually took you down a peg.
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Maybe it was something that wasn't justified.
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But do you allow that to continue to
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take you down, or do you bounce back
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to where you were before the comment came
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out?
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I think that's the real thing about today
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is do you bounce back?
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If you don't bounce back, my question is
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why don't you bounce back?
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Are you scared?
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Are you not sure how to come back
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with resilience?
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Are you not sure what has to happen?
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Are you not sure of how resilience can
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actually make a true difference in your life?
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Are you?
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And if you're not, then I think you've
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got some work to do, just being honest
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there.
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I think that's a very, very important thing.
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Guys, in closing, I do wanna invite you
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to catch the full episode of Inspirational Your
26:31
Life, this one here, or any other one,
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which you guys can do 24 hours a
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day by visiting believemeachieve.com.
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You know, we've made this really easy for
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road on many popular podcast networks.
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Your intention, okay, will help fuel the discipline
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to keep you motivated because motivation fades, okay?
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Discipline becomes something that's part of you, something
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you can't change unless you want to, but
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it just takes you in a way, it
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says, I have to do this.
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If I don't, then, you know, I'm not
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gonna like let myself do something else, right?
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That's the real name of the game.
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If I had to give you like a
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main name, somebody was to manipulate you, and
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then suddenly a few hours later or a
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day later, you pop back.
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And it doesn't just mean shape, as Meredith
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Webster said, it also means the characteristic of
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your mind and your body.
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Maybe because of what somebody said, you're feeling
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really terrible, but then for you to be
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able to just turn around, twist it back,
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that's resilience.
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Ladies and gentlemen, I'm John Simorley, serial entrepreneur.
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This has been inspirations for your life.
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I'll catch you guys real soon.
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Have a great one, everyone and be well.