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Break Your Negative Thinking: Take Control of Your Mind Today · Motivation Mindset Podcast

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  Speaker 1: One question that I get asked all the time. How
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  Speaker 1: was I able to stay positive and motivated in what
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  Speaker 1: was certainly the worst time in my life when I
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  Speaker 1: lost them with money, I lost my freedom, I lost
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  Speaker 1: my children for a time. My wife bought them down right,
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  Speaker 1: and I said, you know, I think about it. I said,
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  Speaker 1: you know, here's the secret. When I was in jail
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  Speaker 1: and those moments, you know, and the worst moments of
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  Speaker 1: all were at night gun when you're in your bunk
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  Speaker 1: and people were sleeping, You're alone with your thoughts and
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  Speaker 1: you could just really get negative. And the answer was
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  Speaker 1: is that in bed, when I was alone with my thoughts,
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  Speaker 1: I would close my eyes and I would visualize the
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  Speaker 1: faces of my two children, and I closed my I
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  Speaker 1: I'd see their faces, and I knew I would let
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  Speaker 1: them down so badly, cause them so much pain. And
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  Speaker 1: I said, there was nothing I won't do. There's no
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  Speaker 1: length I won't go with the food for these kids
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  Speaker 1: that their dad can do it right, that Dad's going
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  Speaker 1: to come back even better than before.
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  Speaker 2: And it was all.
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  Speaker 1: About proved my children that you could come back from failure,
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  Speaker 1: that you could make the world right. I could be
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  Speaker 1: an example, making proud of me, and that was my
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  Speaker 1: It was all about my kids. And that's the secret
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  Speaker 1: your wand it's never about you.
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  Speaker 2: You need somebody wealthy. Their family at one point was
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  Speaker 2: not wealthy.
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  Speaker 1: And then the one shows up, the one, one person
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  Speaker 1: shades the.
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  Speaker 2: Family tree forever in my family out of the one.
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  Speaker 2: And it wasn't because I wanted it or I hoped
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  Speaker 2: for it. I fought for it.
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  Speaker 3: I want to win it.
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  Speaker 2: I want to fight for my family. I want my
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  Speaker 2: mom and dad proud of me. I want my kids
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  Speaker 2: proud of me. I want me proud of me. I
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  Speaker 2: want to look at the mayor and be helping me
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  Speaker 2: with the man. I look back at it that he
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  Speaker 2: gave it everything, that he went for it.
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  Speaker 3: That is you. That is you, that no one can
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  Speaker 3: do it for you but you. And even though you
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  Speaker 3: face disappointments, even though you will experience some setbacks.
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  Speaker 2: It goes with the territory.
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  Speaker 3: You must understand that.
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  Speaker 2: But here's the truth.
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  Speaker 3: Most people's threa can be bossed.
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  Speaker 1: With enough failure, with enough rejection, they will sell their dreams.
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  Speaker 4: They can't sell fighting.
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  Speaker 3: They can get a little bit, but when it gains
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  Speaker 3: one of you out ther pone so by.
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  Speaker 2: The dreams that you're having.
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  Speaker 1: It's not working.
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  Speaker 2: For me, and they're willing to win as buyable.
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  Speaker 5: You can fight it, but if you decide it by
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  Speaker 5: wail cannot be bobed.
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  Speaker 2: I don't care how.
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  Speaker 5: Long it's say you can't fight this du that I'll
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  Speaker 5: pep fighting for my family.
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  Speaker 2: I go what I'm gonna change my family dream forever.
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  Speaker 2: That's your decision to start.
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  Speaker 5: Now.
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  Speaker 2: You need to go cheat the light and you not
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  Speaker 2: be bothered.
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  Speaker 4: When people die or people get sick, when something happens
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  Speaker 4: in your life. If all you're doing it for is
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  Speaker 4: a car and a house, that can stop you.
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  Speaker 5: But if you're doing it for your mom, for your siblings,
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  Speaker 5: for your family, for your community, and.
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  Speaker 2: Nothin can stop you.
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  Speaker 4: Who cannot be broken when you have an intrinsic goal
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  Speaker 4: when you're doing it.
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  Speaker 2: Because you value it, when you're doing it because you
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  Speaker 2: can't when you're.
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  Speaker 5: Doing it because it represents who you are. When this
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  Speaker 5: internal nothing can stop you. When you leave this room,
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  Speaker 5: you can't talk with every single thing. I don't care
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  Speaker 5: where you come from, I don't care what's your background.
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  Speaker 5: Is the everbody fools you if you will on the
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  Speaker 5: ground on Monday.
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  Speaker 2: If you will on the ground, will to can stop you.
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  Speaker 5: I don't have to accept the life that was given
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  Speaker 5: to me.
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  Speaker 2: I can create my own reality.
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  Speaker 6: This paradigm concept is pretty powerful. To be able to
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  Speaker 6: shape your future, you have to be willing and able
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  Speaker 6: to change the paradigm. Now you see, we're all able,
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  Speaker 6: but we're not all willing. We're not all willing to
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  Speaker 6: study the same thing over and over.
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  Speaker 2: And over and over and over and over and again.
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  Speaker 2: I mentioned about till goldfiring. He he came to see me.
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  Speaker 6: He'd heard about me, and he phoned and he wanted
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  Speaker 6: to come and see me. That was twenty years ago.
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  Speaker 6: Every time I'm doing a seminar.
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  Speaker 2: He's here. I tell him to take a book and
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  Speaker 2: study this book. He studies it.
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  Speaker 6: I was talking to him yesterday and I was telling
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  Speaker 6: him about this one piece of literature I'm reading. I
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  Speaker 6: had it on my phone, so I sent it to him.
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  Speaker 6: I have no question in my mind he will study
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  Speaker 6: that little piece of literature. He didn't quite know why
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  Speaker 6: I was tell him to do it, but he found
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  Speaker 6: out it worked, so he never stopped.
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  Speaker 2: He just kept doing it. And that's the way it
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  Speaker 2: was with me. What you have to do is totally illogical.
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  Speaker 2: Logic stops most people. See.
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  Speaker 6: It was logic to stop people trying to figure out
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  Speaker 6: how to fly. The Wright brothers were being totally illogical.
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  Speaker 6: You're going to find that logic stops most people. It's
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  Speaker 6: illogical to keep reading the same book over and over
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  Speaker 6: and over again relative to the way we've been trained. Well,
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  Speaker 6: if we've got it right, our results are always under construction.
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  Speaker 2: Always we should forever be trying to improve. I don't
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  Speaker 2: care how good you get at it. You can get better.
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  Speaker 2: Better is the next word. I love it.
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  Speaker 6: Do no matter how well you're doing, you can do better.
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  Speaker 6: Now there's the question you gotta ask yourself, are you ready?
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  Speaker 6: Am I really ready?
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  Speaker 2: You see, when Ray give me that book, I was ready. Now,
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  Speaker 2: if you had to ask me if I'm ready, I
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  Speaker 2: wouldn't have known. But I really wanted to change. I
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  Speaker 2: was so sick of live the way I was living.
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  Speaker 2: I wanted to change. I wanted to change all kinds
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  Speaker 2: of things.
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  Speaker 6: As he told me, he said, you can change your environment.
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  Speaker 6: I didn't consciously and deliberately change who I was mixing with,
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  Speaker 6: but I automatically did. I started to mix with a
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  Speaker 6: totally different group of people. We're attracted to people that
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  Speaker 6: are much like ourselves, and if we want to change,
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  Speaker 6: we've got to start surrounding ourselves with the different people.
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  Speaker 6: Charlie tremendous Jones was a great speaker. Good man, God,
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  Speaker 6: I like that guy. He's gone now. But he said, houstaphone.
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  Speaker 2: Truman's Bob, how are you? And he was a wild
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  Speaker 2: man when he's speaking.
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  Speaker 6: He said, we are the product of the books we
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  Speaker 6: read and the people we associate with.
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  Speaker 2: Simple rule, And he's right. Well that you have to
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  Speaker 2: ask yourself, am I ready?
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  Speaker 3: You can't develop in manifest your greatness.
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  Speaker 2: You can't be a high achiever if you.
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  Speaker 3: Don't feel good. Take care of yourself. So I'm taking
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  Speaker 3: care of me, and you know what. It takes the
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  Speaker 3: edge off your life.
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  Speaker 2: It helps you to manage things.
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  Speaker 3: Rather than allowing them to manage you. Gives you more
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  Speaker 3: personal power to deal with stuff.
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  Speaker 2: Take care of you.
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  Speaker 3: Now, here's something else I suggest for you.
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  Speaker 7: Become aware of what your needs are and develop compassion
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  Speaker 7: towards yourself despite.
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  Speaker 2: Your human defects.
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  Speaker 7: Develop compassion for yourself despite.
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  Speaker 2: Your human defense.
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  Speaker 3: You will never be perfect.
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  Speaker 2: Hello, you will never be perfect. You're human.
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  Speaker 3: You've made a lot of mistakes. You've done a lot
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  Speaker 3: of dumb, stupid things. Guess what You're not through yet.
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  Speaker 2: You got to do some more. Hurry up and get
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  Speaker 2: it over with. Is that right?
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  Speaker 3: Got to learn to be gentle with yourself.
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  Speaker 2: Make it all right.
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  Speaker 3: What you don't know, mistakes that you make, it's okay.
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  Speaker 3: Handle it.
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  Speaker 7: Learn from the experience. Decide that you are going to
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  Speaker 7: whatever you become involved in. To be upfront, to be
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  Speaker 7: true to yourself. Are you getting what you need out
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  Speaker 7: of it? And be upfront with people and tell them
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  Speaker 7: what you need from them. Don't assume that they know.
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  Speaker 7: Don't say I thought you knew. No, tell people upfront,
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  Speaker 7: here's what I need from this in order for this
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  Speaker 7: to work for me. Be upfront with your stuff. Tell
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  Speaker 7: them upfront so they are not surprised later on, so
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  Speaker 7: your feelings.
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  Speaker 2: Aren't hurt later on.
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  Speaker 3: See if they tell you upfront, they can't do it
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  Speaker 3: now you know you can keep on stepping.
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  Speaker 2: But tell people upfront, here's what I want in order
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  Speaker 2: for me to play this game with you.
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  Speaker 3: If you're gonna dance, this is what I gotta get
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  Speaker 3: out of it.
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  Speaker 2: See if you don't take care of your knee.
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  Speaker 3: Guess what, you will always have that nagging song in
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  Speaker 3: the back of your mind said, when do I get mine?
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  Speaker 3: What am I gonna start enjoying this and we're gonna
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  Speaker 3: have a good time together? Do I get any utles
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  Speaker 3: out of this at all? You just start asking that question.
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  Speaker 3: Everybody's happening having a good time, but you, They said, well,
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  Speaker 3: we thought you were happy. How could you think that way?
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  Speaker 3: You weren't saying anything. Well, I'm saying something now.
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  Speaker 2: I hope you got that.
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  Speaker 3: See, we're taught to be quiet and not speak up
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  Speaker 3: for ourselves, not to be selfish. If you don't take
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  Speaker 3: care of you, who do you think is gonna take
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  Speaker 3: care of you. Who's gonna look out for you better.
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  Speaker 2: Than you will? No one, No one's gonna do that.
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  Speaker 2: You got a business, No one's gonna take care of
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  Speaker 2: your business better than you.
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  Speaker 3: Nobody, nobody. Anything you want to do in life, you've
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  Speaker 3: got to take ownership of it and say, hey, I'm
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  Speaker 3: gonna make this happens. Be willing to venture out and
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  Speaker 3: do something that you have fantasize about doing, and you
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  Speaker 3: know you probably won't be good at it, But do
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  Speaker 3: it anyhow, case in point, I have always wanted to
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  Speaker 3: see I've always wanted to do that. I'm gonna sing
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  Speaker 3: a song. If I don't do nothing but just a
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  Speaker 3: few lines, chances are over you