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The Fears That Come Up When You're On The Edge Of That Next Level · Beyond Limits With Olivia Marie

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  SPEAKER_01: Hello, welcome back to the Beyond Limits podcast.
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  SPEAKER_01: Today, we are talking about the fears that come up when you are going to expand to your next level and really how to stop living underneath this ceiling that you set for yourself.
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  SPEAKER_01: And I actually just got off of a call with one of the incredible women who joined the Limitless Mastermind.
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  SPEAKER_01: And oh, I mean, she's so amazing.
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  SPEAKER_01: We were talking, we're already dismantling ceilings.
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  SPEAKER_01: I'm just like, just in our onboarding call, we're just dismantling ceilings already.
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  SPEAKER_01: Because here's the thing: most women, they already know that they want more.
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  SPEAKER_01: Right?
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  SPEAKER_01: You already know that you want more money, more freedom, more ease, more support, more impact, like just more life.
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  SPEAKER_01: And one of the hardest moments is when you realize that you are the one that's been keeping it at arm's length.
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  SPEAKER_01: You.
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  SPEAKER_01: It's always been you.
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  SPEAKER_01: You're the one keeping it outside of you.
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  SPEAKER_01: And you're not doing this consciously, but you're doing it through the conditions and the limitations and the waiting, right?
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  SPEAKER_01: Through all of the reasons why now is not the time, or I can't do this, or I'll wait till next year, or next season, or all of these things.
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  SPEAKER_01: All right.
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  SPEAKER_01: And once you see this, you can't unsee it.
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  SPEAKER_01: Once you see the ceiling that you're setting for yourself, you can't unsee it.
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  SPEAKER_01: Because from that moment forward, right, the question is no longer is this possible?
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  SPEAKER_01: The question becomes, how much longer am I willing to live under the ceiling?
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  SPEAKER_01: And the thing is, the ceiling is rarely what you think it is.
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  SPEAKER_01: A lot of women think their ceiling is money or strategy or audience size or time.
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  SPEAKER_01: Those are those are just symptoms.
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  SPEAKER_01: The real ceiling, it's never your funnel, your framework, the money, the the time, the audience size, the visibility.
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  SPEAKER_01: It's what your nervous system has decided is safe, safe to receive, safe to hold, safe to become.
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  SPEAKER_01: So then you'll create all these ceilings, like, oh, I need such and such audience size before I can make a million dollars.
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  SPEAKER_01: No, you do not.
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  SPEAKER_01: There are women who can get five likes on a photo and have them make a million dollars a month, and I'm not making this up.
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  SPEAKER_01: And I I try to always think of the biggest examples I can to like break your ceiling.
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  SPEAKER_01: But some of you think, oh, I need more visibility to make more money.
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  SPEAKER_01: No, you don't.
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  SPEAKER_01: You can be making a lot more money now.
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  SPEAKER_01: Is that any more followers?
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  SPEAKER_01: Oh, I need different people watching.
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  SPEAKER_01: No, you don't.
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  SPEAKER_01: Oh, I need more money before I can invest.
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  SPEAKER_01: No, you don't.
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  SPEAKER_01: Oh, I need to learn the this.
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  SPEAKER_01: I now need to learn how to yap.
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  SPEAKER_01: No, you don't.
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  SPEAKER_01: Need to remove the internal ceiling of what is safe to receive, hold, and become.
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  SPEAKER_01: And I was actually just speaking with a woman yesterday about this.
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  SPEAKER_01: She's like, Liv, I go up and then I go down.
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  SPEAKER_01: And I like I make money and the income comes down.
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  SPEAKER_01: I can't seem to hold it.
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  SPEAKER_01: It always what goes up comes down.
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  SPEAKER_01: And I was talking to her about this.
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  SPEAKER_01: I was like, yeah, because your nervous system has fear underneath it.
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  SPEAKER_01: It's not safe to hold it.
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  SPEAKER_01: I'm like, why?
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  SPEAKER_01: What's the fear?
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  SPEAKER_01: What's the truth?
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  SPEAKER_01: The ceiling is not, you don't need more strategy.
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  SPEAKER_01: You don't need that.
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  SPEAKER_01: Like her messaging is great.
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  SPEAKER_01: Her branding is fine.
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  SPEAKER_01: Like, that's not it.
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  SPEAKER_01: She's like, oh, I'm the fears with my kids.
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  SPEAKER_01: She's like, I'm scared that if I make all this money, something bad will happen to them.
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  SPEAKER_01: Like something bad will happen to them, and I won't be there because I'll be in the business.
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  SPEAKER_01: I'm like, okay, well, that's that's what it is.
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  SPEAKER_01: That that's your cap.
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  SPEAKER_01: That's what's capping you.
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  SPEAKER_01: It's not your Instagram bio that we need to change and refine.
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  SPEAKER_01: It's not anything else.
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  SPEAKER_01: It's not the offer.
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  SPEAKER_01: It's not even the price point.
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  SPEAKER_01: Right?
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  SPEAKER_01: It's that fear.
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  SPEAKER_01: And that fear will trump anything.
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  SPEAKER_01: That fear is a primal response, so it's gonna prioritize children over money.
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  SPEAKER_01: So it's gonna be like, no, I'm not taking more money because that's gonna come at the cost of my kid.
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  SPEAKER_01: And no mother's nervous system, even if you consciously think, oh, that's not gonna happen.
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  SPEAKER_01: If you unconsciously believe that, it will always put the brakes on money.
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  SPEAKER_01: Like, so that's it.
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  SPEAKER_01: So that's what you need to rewire.
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  SPEAKER_01: And until you do that, you will always be limited.
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  SPEAKER_01: The money will never either won't come or it won't stick, it won't start compounding.
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  SPEAKER_01: You'll go up and down and up and down.
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  SPEAKER_01: You won't be able to maintain and sustain it because your nervous system believes it is not safe.
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  SPEAKER_01: Right.
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  SPEAKER_01: So whether your fear is around being a mom or something that happens with motherhood and your ability to make a lot of money.
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  SPEAKER_01: Actually, a lot of my close proximity clients or moms, even the client I just got off a call with, is becoming a mom.
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  SPEAKER_01: But even if you're not a mom, there's other fears about being misunderstood.
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  SPEAKER_01: What more eyes or more visibility, more money means in terms of your marriage, how that's going to shift things.
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  unknown: Right?
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  SPEAKER_01: This is how women create so many ceilings for themselves.
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  SPEAKER_01: And then they create these hoops, right?
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  SPEAKER_01: And it sounds responsible because it's coming from logic.
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  SPEAKER_01: When I have a bigger audience, I'll, when I've made more money, then I'll join the mastermind.
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  SPEAKER_01: When I've worked harder, then I can do this.
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  SPEAKER_01: When I feel more confident, then I can.
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  SPEAKER_01: Once I've taken this certification, then I can.
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  SPEAKER_01: Once I know more, once I've built the funnel, once I've learned this thing, once I've fixed myself, once I've healed this, once I've, oh my God.
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  SPEAKER_01: Notice anytime we say when I blank, all these ceilings, you're creating all these ceilings for yourself.
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  SPEAKER_01: Why?
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  SPEAKER_01: And the real cost of the ceiling, right?
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  SPEAKER_01: The biggest part of the tragedy of this is not even that the ceiling exists.
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  SPEAKER_01: The biggest tragedy is that you believe in the ceiling.
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  SPEAKER_01: And you believe in it so much that you start calling the ceiling reality.
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  SPEAKER_01: You stop questioning the ceiling.
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  SPEAKER_01: And this is where I've seen so many powerful women.
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  SPEAKER_01: I'm like, what is going on?
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  SPEAKER_01: What are you doing?
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  SPEAKER_01: They create the ceiling, and then someone posts, like, your Instagram is dead if you do not revive it and do this reset.
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  SPEAKER_01: Comment reset to get the reset now.
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  SPEAKER_01: And I'm like, I'm looking at people who've, what?
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  SPEAKER_01: What are you doing?
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  SPEAKER_01: So it's not even that you create these ceilings, but you're bought into the ceiling.
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  SPEAKER_01: You build your identity around these ceilings.
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  SPEAKER_01: You build your life around it, your goals, who you are.
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  SPEAKER_01: You stop asking what you're capable of, and you start operating under all these limitations.
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  SPEAKER_01: Like, oh, now you need to do this.
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  SPEAKER_01: Oh, now you need to do this.
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  SPEAKER_01: You forget that at the core of it, you are a limitless human.
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  SPEAKER_01: And you start making these decisions from fear.
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  SPEAKER_01: Now I'm not anti-skill set.
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  SPEAKER_01: I like skill sets.
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  SPEAKER_01: For example, I have learned the skill set in Claude.
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  SPEAKER_01: I know how to use Claude co-work.
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  SPEAKER_01: I know how to build skills.
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  SPEAKER_01: I can I can do that.
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  SPEAKER_01: But none of it's coming from fear.
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  SPEAKER_01: It's like, oh, this feels expensive.
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  SPEAKER_01: Okay.
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  SPEAKER_01: But not because I think that I need something outside of me.
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  SPEAKER_01: Not because I've created a limitation or a ceiling.
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  SPEAKER_01: And people will do this in the most subtle, subtle ways.
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  SPEAKER_01: Oh, I can't do that until I've done that.
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  SPEAKER_01: Oh, I can't launch the thing until I've that.
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  SPEAKER_01: Well, I can't write the book yet because I need this.
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  SPEAKER_01: Oh, I can't do that.
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  SPEAKER_01: I need this.
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  SPEAKER_01: No.
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  SPEAKER_01: But why do you do it?
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  SPEAKER_01: Like this is where most women get stuck.
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  SPEAKER_01: Because you think you want the ceiling gone, but really the ceiling is protecting something underneath.
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  SPEAKER_01: That's why removing the ceiling feels scary.
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  SPEAKER_01: Because if the ceiling disappeared, you'll make more money.
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  SPEAKER_01: If the ceiling disappears, you will outgrow old identities.
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  SPEAKER_01: If the ceiling disappears, you might disappoint people.
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  SPEAKER_01: You might piss people off.
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  SPEAKER_01: You might become more powerful than you're used to.
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  SPEAKER_01: You might discover you're capable of far more than you've allowed yourself to be.
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  SPEAKER_01: So it's quote unquote protecting you by keeping you small.
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  SPEAKER_01: But the thing you were most afraid of is a thing that's going to change your life.
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  SPEAKER_01: That's how you know it's right.
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  SPEAKER_01: That's not a sign that it's wrong.
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  SPEAKER_01: It's a sign that it's right.
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  SPEAKER_01: Think about it.
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  SPEAKER_01: The opportunities that change your life feel scary.
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  SPEAKER_01: The decisions that change your life feel scary.
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  SPEAKER_01: The investments that change your life feel scary.
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  SPEAKER_01: The relationships that change your life feel scary.
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  unknown: Right?
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  SPEAKER_01: The move, the business, the leap, all of it.
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  SPEAKER_01: Because your system doesn't just react to danger, right?
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  SPEAKER_01: It reacts to change.
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  SPEAKER_01: So the bigger the change, the bigger the edge.
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  SPEAKER_01: But so many women misinterpret the feeling.
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  SPEAKER_01: They think, oh, this feels scary.
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  SPEAKER_01: Maybe it's not right.
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  SPEAKER_01: Instead of, this feels scary because I can feel who I'll have to become if I say yes to this.
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  SPEAKER_01: Right?
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  SPEAKER_01: That's really what it is.
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  SPEAKER_01: Your brain is a prediction machine.
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  SPEAKER_01: So it likes to keep the status quo.
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  SPEAKER_01: It likes to keep you quote unquote safe and it likes to keep you where you are.
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  SPEAKER_01: That's why it's not scary to buy something surface level.
• 10:35
  SPEAKER_01: Oh, here, steal my 10 Instagram hooks that are going viral right now.
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  SPEAKER_01: That doesn't feel scary.
• 10:40
  SPEAKER_01: Yeah, you can do that.
• 10:41
  SPEAKER_01: Well, you know what does feel scary?
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  SPEAKER_01: Removing internal ceilings.
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  SPEAKER_01: You know what does feel scary?
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  SPEAKER_01: Realizing that you can make as much money as you want to make.
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  SPEAKER_01: That's why coming into my world and doing the internal work feels like more of an edge because your nervous system knows it's going to change.
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  SPEAKER_01: It predicts change.
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  SPEAKER_01: That's what it does.
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  SPEAKER_01: It's it's self-fulfilling.
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  SPEAKER_01: It will always predict ahead of you.
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  SPEAKER_01: And it will always try to choose the path that it feels like it can predict.
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  SPEAKER_01: So when it's predicting and it's going to fear that things are going to change, it's because on the other side of that is the biggest transformation.
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  SPEAKER_01: So the thing you actually feel like, oh my God, this is going to change everything.
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  SPEAKER_01: The thing you feel the most fear about is because that's where your biggest transformation is.
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  SPEAKER_01: That's where your 100X is.
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  SPEAKER_01: It's not in, of course, you're not going to feel fear of like learn Claude AI.
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  SPEAKER_01: That's not scary.
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  SPEAKER_01: But when you understand this, when you understand your brain is a prediction machine and it doesn't like change, then you know it's always going to quote unquote fear the thing that is going to give it the biggest amount of change.
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  SPEAKER_01: Right?
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  SPEAKER_01: It knows, oh, when I stop living underneath the ceiling and I actually decide to become the limitless woman, I don't just make more money, I become someone new.
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  SPEAKER_01: Right?
• 12:17
  SPEAKER_01: That's why the energetics, the internal work feels like an edge for so many women.
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  SPEAKER_01: Because it's not another strategy, it's not another funnel, it's not another content framework.
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  SPEAKER_01: It's an invitation to remove the internal ceilings you've organized your entire life around.
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  SPEAKER_01: And the part of you that knows that if those ceilings come down, your entire life would change.
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  SPEAKER_01: Your business changes, your relationship with money changes, your relationship with yourself changes.
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  SPEAKER_01: That's why it feels so big, not because it's wrong, because that's the part of you that knows it matters.
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  SPEAKER_01: You already know how much it matters.
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  SPEAKER_01: You already know that that's what you need to do.
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  SPEAKER_01: That's why it feels big.
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  SPEAKER_01: That's where the fear is coming from.
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  SPEAKER_01: It's not even the fear of like what if it doesn't work.
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  SPEAKER_01: It's actually the fear of what if it works?
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  SPEAKER_01: Of what if life gets easier?
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  SPEAKER_01: Oh, more opportunities are gonna come.
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  SPEAKER_01: Oh, I'm gonna make a lot more money.
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  SPEAKER_01: Oh, I'm gonna start compounding big money.
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  SPEAKER_01: Oh, I'm gonna step into my power.
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  SPEAKER_01: Oh, I'm gonna be the most convicted woman on the internet.
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  SPEAKER_01: Oh, I'm gonna be all that I can.
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  SPEAKER_01: Ooh, I'm gonna be fully expressed.
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  SPEAKER_01: Oh my god, I'm actually gonna have the freedom to choose whatever I want to do.
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  SPEAKER_01: Ooh, if I want to renovate the kitchen, ooh, if I want to help family members who are sick, ooh, if I want to pay for this, ooh, if I want to donate here, ooh, if I want to do right?
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  SPEAKER_01: It's you're actually no longer gonna be allowed to tell yourself I can't, because you've actually met the woman underneath the ceiling.
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  SPEAKER_01: This is huge.
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  SPEAKER_01: All of that fear underneath you is actually pointing you to the right thing.
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  SPEAKER_01: But then women make excuses and they justify, I want you to think about what excuses you're telling yourself.
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  SPEAKER_01: It's not the right time, it's an excuse.
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  SPEAKER_01: Oh, I need such and such, I need to do this.
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  SPEAKER_01: No, an excuse.
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  SPEAKER_01: You're just capping yourself.
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  SPEAKER_01: Right?
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  SPEAKER_01: The women who change their lives become unwilling to negotiate with their own potential.
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  SPEAKER_01: Because once you see where you're capping yourself and you see that you are the ceiling, it's nothing outside of you, you'll reach this moment where living beneath your potential, right?
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  SPEAKER_01: Living underneath this ceiling becomes more painful than removing it.
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  SPEAKER_01: And that's the moment everything changes.
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  SPEAKER_01: You realize, oh, this is it's actually so much more painful, it's so much more agonizing to stay small and stay where I'm at than to actually step into the fact that I'm a limitless human.
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  SPEAKER_01: The biggest things that'll change you are supposed to feel big.
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  SPEAKER_01: They're supposed to feel edgy.
• 15:09
  SPEAKER_01: But if you want a life and business beyond your wildest dreams, if you want something that's I'm not even gonna say 1%, I'm gonna say the 0.1% because 1% is even small.
• 15:19
  SPEAKER_01: 1% I think is only 250,000, I think.
• 15:24
  SPEAKER_01: Let's see, 1%.
• 15:28
  SPEAKER_01: I'll see.
• 15:29
  SPEAKER_01: So I can give you uh 1%, 293.
• 15:35
  SPEAKER_01: That's small.
• 15:42
  SPEAKER_01: You're not fearing that it's not gonna work, you're not fearing the investment, you're not fearing any of that.
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  SPEAKER_01: It's like you know the woman you'd become on the other side.
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  SPEAKER_01: You know everything will change.
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  SPEAKER_01: And the nervous system, even when the change is good, we'll resist it.
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  SPEAKER_01: But if you don't listen to it, if you don't allow yourself, you'll end up in this agony.
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  SPEAKER_01: And I've seen too many women in this agony of they're frustrated, they're tired, they're exhausted, they want more, but they're unwilling to be that woman, to remove the ceiling.
• 16:22
  SPEAKER_01: And so they they keep trying to satisfy it with these surface level fixes, but it doesn't quite, it doesn't quite get there because all those solutions that you're looking for are limited.
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  SPEAKER_01: And I made a powerful post on this the other day when I talked about, you know, you could be making a lot more money right now, but you've attached conditions to receiving it.
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  SPEAKER_01: This is what you do.
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  SPEAKER_01: It's how much support you're allowing yourself, how much ease, how much pleasure, how much love, how much success, how much life.
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  SPEAKER_01: And you're delaying the goodness.
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  SPEAKER_01: When I achieve more, I can do it, when my audience is bigger, when my branding is better, when my website is finished, when my funnels are built, when I'm hitting X income per month, when I've worked hard enough, when I've proven myself, when I've fixed my when I've healed, all of that same noise we are talking about.
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  SPEAKER_01: So you keep preparing, refining, learning, tweaking, optimizing, waiting, all while pushing what you actually want further away.
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  SPEAKER_01: And then you wonder why you're frustrated or you keep hitting a ceiling because the ceiling is not external, it is internal.
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  SPEAKER_01: Because every new condition you create moves the goalpost.
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  SPEAKER_01: It was always your system trying to protect itself against the experience that comes with it.
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  SPEAKER_01: The experience of actually being so much more supported, so seen, so taken care of, so loved.
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  SPEAKER_01: Because you no longer create these limits for yourself, and you finally decide that you were ready to stop living underneath the ceiling.
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  SPEAKER_01: So I want you to think of what this is bringing up in you, what the fears are coming up.
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  SPEAKER_01: Because like I said, once you see the ceiling, you can't unsee it, and you're like, oh my god, I am the only reason there's a limit, which is perfect.
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  SPEAKER_01: Because once you change that, everything else you do works exponentially better.
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  SPEAKER_01: So if this sparked something in you, and you're like, Liv, it's time for me to join the limitless mastermind.
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  SPEAKER_01: Then send me the word limitless on Instagram, and we'll just have a chat, make sure you're the great fit, and if not, I'll direct you to something else in my world that is the fit for you.
• 18:52
  SPEAKER_01: So you can stop capping yourself, and you can finally realize that you can be, do, and have anything you want without friction and without limits.