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Consistency Compounds- reaching BIG goals, by starting small · The Habit Lab

1:08
SPEAKER_00: We all have areas in our life we might feel stuck or overwhelmed.
1:12
SPEAKER_00: So join me, Jenna Zint, habit coach, teacher, and follower of Jesus as we go after little bits of better by building offensively small habits that create big impact.
1:23
SPEAKER_00: This is the Habit Lab Podcast.
1:31
SPEAKER_00: Hello.
1:32
SPEAKER_00: Welcome to Habit Lab.
1:34
SPEAKER_00: This is a big deal that I realized retroactively.
1:37
SPEAKER_00: My last episode was my hundredth episode, which is so cool.
1:41
SPEAKER_00: I didn't, I didn't actually know it.
1:44
SPEAKER_00: The platform that we use sent us an email being like, good job.
1:47
SPEAKER_00: And I was like, oh my gosh.
1:49
SPEAKER_00: But the cool part about that, so this is technically our hundred and first my hundred and first episode.
1:55
SPEAKER_00: Um, we it made me got get started thinking, my wheels turning about kind of the origin of the whole podcast is talking about habits.
2:04
SPEAKER_00: And of course, that's a way broader concept than just like habits to keep your house clean or your closet.
2:12
SPEAKER_00: Like if you've been here for a while of time, it's like hat like a lot of thought habits or habits that integrate these concepts of our faith into like, oh, where's the actual application?
2:22
SPEAKER_00: Like that between that abstract belief or theory and application to me, I'm like, oh, the regularly applying our the theology we believe, living out of our values, like all of that comes down to habit, which would just be like consistency um with action over time.
2:39
SPEAKER_00: So that being said, as I was thinking about that, I actually started tearing up when I got the email.
2:46
SPEAKER_00: I I I think I straight up cried actually.
2:49
SPEAKER_00: Let's let's be honest.
2:50
SPEAKER_00: When I got the email because I I was hit with how much of a testimony, me doing my own podcast for a hundredth episode is actually the testimony of the value of habits.
3:04
SPEAKER_00: And I was like, I'm gonna do, I'm gonna, it's gonna be a meta episode where we talk about the ep, the podcast in the podcast to point back to the concept of the podcast.
3:15
SPEAKER_00: It's like inception.
3:17
SPEAKER_00: Um, anyways, but my point about this is the reason I cried is because I I am shocked that I got to 100 episodes.
3:27
SPEAKER_00: If you had asked me, I actually really have forgotten when my whole habit journey started.
3:32
SPEAKER_00: I should go back and figure out the year because I don't remember if it's five years ago or six years ago.
3:38
SPEAKER_00: I think this is what happens when you get old enough, right?
3:40
SPEAKER_00: The years just blend together.
3:42
SPEAKER_00: Um so my heart's not to exaggerate, I just can't remember.
3:45
SPEAKER_00: But if you had told me, let's just say a decade ago, if you had told me a decade ago the version of my the version of myself that I would have successful, successfully done my own podcast for a hundred episodes over three years, and then I was gonna be the one to write the content, to fill, like you know, to record it, to be the editor, to upload it, to be my marketing person.
4:10
SPEAKER_00: I oh I still feel I feel so teary.
4:12
SPEAKER_00: I would have laughed because it would have been so far out of my reach with discipline and consistency.
4:19
SPEAKER_00: Like I had nothing, nothing in my life growing that showed me I could have dialed a consistency consistency to this level with this much like nuance and steps and being complicated, if you will.
4:30
SPEAKER_00: So um, the reason when I got the the email, it hit me so hard, was like, oh my gosh, like this is a milestone of who I've become.
4:42
SPEAKER_00: And this is not a brag on me.
4:44
SPEAKER_00: This really, to me, goes back to if I can do it, it is a testimony to the power of habit.
4:52
SPEAKER_00: Like, truly, never have there ever been a more clearer before and after of the power of habit.
4:58
SPEAKER_00: You know, like when people do before and after, like a workout program or I don't know, a new diet pill, I'm trying to think of, or a house renovation, and you love a shocking before and after.
5:09
SPEAKER_00: This is that moment.
5:10
SPEAKER_00: Never would I ever have thought 10 years ago I could have been the kind of person that I could have done podcasts consistent enough, learned how to do all the ropes myself to make it to a hundred episodes.
5:20
SPEAKER_00: I'm like, wow, but when I started, I did not start with that overwhelming goal.
5:27
SPEAKER_00: And that's kind of the whole point of this episode.
5:29
SPEAKER_00: We're gonna talk about how consistency compounds with things you're doing.
5:33
SPEAKER_00: Where the idea of a lot of times, if I had said like my goal is to get to 100 episodes, I'm I was so overwhelmed with starting that I would have been like, let's just quit.
5:44
SPEAKER_00: Because I am un that is overwhelming.
5:47
SPEAKER_00: That I don't even know how to choose my intro song.
5:50
SPEAKER_00: I don't know how to get a logo, I don't know how to get up on Spuss.
5:53
SPEAKER_00: You know, like there was 10,000 steps in between not 10,000, but probably 30 steps in between me even pressing record for my first or like someone else being able to listen to press record to sorry, play, to listen to my first podcast episode.
6:08
SPEAKER_00: So then talking about a hundred episodes would have been entirely overwhelming.
6:13
SPEAKER_00: So that's one of the things I love about the concept of, you know, I mean, James Clear, such a good title to his book, Atomic Habits, but I always kind of jokingly call it starting offensively small is we often cannot handle looking at the big picture where the beauty of dialing in and just thinking the next thing, what's the next offensively small task, is not overwhelming you with where you're gonna be in three years.
6:40
SPEAKER_00: So again, it wouldn't have been inspiring to think, just think in three years, Jenna, you're gonna hit the hundred episode podcast.
6:48
SPEAKER_00: I I would have not been encouraged, I would have been discouraged, but all the work you would have done you would have done.
6:54
SPEAKER_00: Um, but the cool part is to start, because I like I literally was like, okay, it was I was a few years into my habit journey and I'm not super techie and the way my brain's wired with ADHD, goodness gracious, details are challenging.
7:07
SPEAKER_00: I could use my best effort to talk right.
7:11
SPEAKER_00: Did you hear me say bift right then?
7:13
SPEAKER_00: Um, I'm joking though.
7:14
SPEAKER_00: I could you well, that is a great example.
7:16
SPEAKER_00: I can use my best effort to be exacting or detail oriented or not make mistakes because I I have a heart to show up with excellence.
7:25
SPEAKER_00: I don't actually want to be sloppy.
7:27
SPEAKER_00: Oh, I feel a little teary, or um do things poorly or rush them, but how my brain is wired, I will proofread something or rethink or remind myself, and I just make, I just miss steps.
7:39
SPEAKER_00: And it's like can be so frustrating.
7:41
SPEAKER_00: So even that in itself would have been a natural barrier for me.
7:45
SPEAKER_00: It was a barrier for me when I start a podcast.
7:47
SPEAKER_00: I'm like, how the frickin' heck am I the girl who's not great at technology because there's so many nuances of how this could go awry, um, gonna do that.
7:55
SPEAKER_00: And I remember, uh, anyways, so I just instead of one of my tricks, which I'm doing a time management class right now, and I had him just do this for one of the weeks, for time management in offensively small, using the idea of make breaking things down to offensively small um tasks.
8:11
SPEAKER_00: It's not just habits.
8:13
SPEAKER_00: When you have an overwhelming project, my first step for myself, it's like how do you eat an elephant, is I break down, like I make a list and I break it down into 10-minute increments.
8:23
SPEAKER_00: So for instance, I'm gonna walk you through this using the example uh of me launching this podcast.
8:30
SPEAKER_00: Was I when I thought about, you know, I want to have three by October, I was like, nope, overwhelmed, flooded with a million things.
8:36
SPEAKER_00: I'm like, okay, what do I need to do before I could actually upload my first?
8:40
SPEAKER_00: So it was um, and then my limit is just 10-minute increments.
8:44
SPEAKER_00: So um one was decide what the name is.
8:46
SPEAKER_00: The other one was um maybe I'm just giving you some examples on this list, this original list, before I could even, you know, upload my first one.
8:54
SPEAKER_00: Um, one was let's see, decide the name.
8:58
SPEAKER_00: Oh, write the little blurb for my intro because I know I had to like do it, you know, like record it.
9:03
SPEAKER_00: Then I had to pick the music for my intro.
9:05
SPEAKER_00: Do you see how I could have could have combined these steps and it could have been make my intro, but I kind of jokingly tease that that's too big of a task for one thing.
9:16
SPEAKER_00: It's dishonest about how long it would take.
9:18
SPEAKER_00: It seems so simple, and then it could end up on your to-do list for forever.
9:21
SPEAKER_00: But the reality is it's like an hour task, uh maybe 45-minute task, um, maybe even more if there's emotions and dread and overwhelm attached to it.
11:16
SPEAKER_00: It could be a lot longer.
11:17
SPEAKER_00: But when I had it so simple, I could find success and we want that dopamine of crossing off the list.
11:22
SPEAKER_00: And it's also, it's almost like thawing us out from frozen overwhelm, like when a nervous system's like, no, that's too big.
11:29
SPEAKER_00: You're like, oh, actually, all you have to do is log on to the website and pick a song that you like good enough.
11:35
SPEAKER_00: And I did actually lower the standard while I was doing this.
11:38
SPEAKER_00: Instead of this being my favorite music ever or nailing the words to the intro, I lowered the standard.
11:45
SPEAKER_00: I was like, you have so many things you have to do.
11:47
SPEAKER_00: Let's actually shoot for good enough.
11:49
SPEAKER_00: We're not looking for sloppy, but I'm not gonna be let perfectionism add to the weight I'm already feeling of this project.
11:56
SPEAKER_00: So then um my again, I realize I'm talking about podcasts.
12:00
SPEAKER_00: This is truly applicable for any large project, is breaking it down to 10-minute tasks so you can check it off.
12:06
SPEAKER_00: And then I actually schedule those tasks.
12:08
SPEAKER_00: So I wouldn't say two hours to work on your podcast.
12:10
SPEAKER_00: I would actually intentionally list the 10, if I have two hours, that would be what is it, 10?
12:17
SPEAKER_00: That'd be 12 tasks that I could do from my list of, you know, of 30 before I could actually hit record.
12:26
SPEAKER_00: And I would actually schedule them out so that I can feel successful.
12:30
SPEAKER_00: And then also the flip side of the 10 minutes of getting realistic chunks and bite-sized and offensively small so you don't feel overwhelmed.
12:38
SPEAKER_00: The flip side is I can also then limit myself when either idealism or perfectionist tries to creep in.
12:44
SPEAKER_00: I purposely like, hey, you're actually only giving yourself 10 minutes.
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SPEAKER_00: I this song, you're not gonna like, it's not your music intro choice is not a headbanger, but it's good enough to match the vibe, and it's good enough for you to move on to the next task.
12:57
SPEAKER_00: So I actually lean into the limits of the 10 minutes to make myself move through them a little faster rather than perfectionism kind of like helping me or making me get my wheels stuck in the mud.
13:07
SPEAKER_00: Okay, so that was one big thing.
13:10
SPEAKER_00: The other big lesson for me with consistency compounding and and using my podcast as a of a almost like a deep dive into the components of all the habit work that is in here is that I initially I think I had a day, maybe the first year or so, I was like, I want to record on Tuesdays or I want to launch on Thursdays.
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SPEAKER_00: I think I was recording on Tuesdays.
13:34
SPEAKER_00: Um what did not happen over time was that I was able to keep that.
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SPEAKER_00: And what would have, if I was inflexible, one of the biggest learnings with consistency compounding is I say this all the time in my master course, which FYI, I'm gonna launch, everyone's been asking me.
13:50
SPEAKER_00: I'm gonna do one at the start of the year, so like in late January, so you can get on the interest list eventually.
13:55
SPEAKER_00: It does, it doesn't exist yet, but people have been asking, so I thought I would just like know.
13:58
SPEAKER_00: But in my mastery course, we talk about being stubborn about your goal.
14:02
SPEAKER_00: So one of my goals was regularly release a podcast.
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SPEAKER_00: I think for the first couple years I did it almost weekly.
14:07
SPEAKER_00: Um, but when the day of the week proved hard because I personally am not in fully in control of my schedule.
14:15
SPEAKER_00: I have open-ended things that like slots for coaching that people can sign.
14:20
SPEAKER_00: So maybe it looks like Thursday is open, but I'm unwilling to blow block off my coaching schedule because if someone needs Thursday instead of Tuesday and have a bunch of appointments, I need the money over the consistent admin of this free thing that I'm, you know, this free labor I'm doing, if that makes sense.
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SPEAKER_00: So I was like, okay, I actually had to let go of that standard.
14:38
SPEAKER_00: If I was gonna go, if I was gonna successfully hit consistency, I had to be more flexible about how I was gonna hit consistency than I was dogmatic about it being the same.
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SPEAKER_00: And I think sameness trips us up from consistency so much in habit building and and allowing consistency to compound, compound, mistaking the sameness or rigidness is often what derails us from the flexibility that's actually needed to match your real life to find consistency, which is like a mind-blowing concept that actually consistency is found in flexibility.
15:12
SPEAKER_00: The other thing I actually wanted to explain.
15:16
SPEAKER_00: So you probably have heard the term, like the phrase consistency compounds, which you know, again, not mine.
15:23
SPEAKER_00: I think though not everybody understands what that means.
15:27
SPEAKER_00: So I don't I I went to my degree is a business degree from college, so I had to take a lot of accounting and statistics and all the things.
15:36
SPEAKER_00: So um realizing that that might not have been lucky you, that might not have been your college experience.
15:42
SPEAKER_00: So consistent, like compound interest is where they get this term from.
15:47
SPEAKER_00: And what happens with compound interest is you're not just getting interest on the original amount, you get interest on the interest.
15:54
SPEAKER_00: So it's almost like instead of just growing marginally, it grows, it's like flatlined for a bit and then it takes off.
16:01
SPEAKER_00: It's almost like a J, if that makes sense.
16:04
SPEAKER_00: Like if you were to kind of flatten a little bit a J on a graph, um, where it's like slow until it majorly accelerates.
16:13
SPEAKER_00: And um, it would be like I would the it to think of compound interest how it works is say maybe you put a thousand dollars in an account year one, and then you don't add you don't add anything else.
16:26
SPEAKER_00: So you're not depositing anything else.
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SPEAKER_00: But you on this account you have a 10% compound interest, so that means every year you'll get 10 10 more.
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SPEAKER_00: So year one, you get a hundred extra bucks, and then year two, you get two hundred and ten dollars because you're not just getting 10% on the original a thousand, you now get 10% on the total amount, which included the interest from last year.
16:48
SPEAKER_00: So fast forward when this plays out, um, year one through five, uh year five, you have one thousand six hundred and eleven dollars.
16:55
SPEAKER_00: But then when you get to year 10, you notice that's I mean, that is a chunk in five years.
17:00
SPEAKER_00: You got 600 free bucks that you didn't do something, you know, to earn other than keep your money in the bank.
17:05
SPEAKER_00: Uh, but then year 10, you're up to over$2,500.
17:10
SPEAKER_00: So that is substantial.
17:12
SPEAKER_00: But then year 20, you're up to$6,700 because it's like that J.
17:17
SPEAKER_00: Like we said, it was minimum at first, and then it takes off upward because you're earning interest on the interest.
17:24
SPEAKER_00: So the more it accrues, the bigger the 10% piece of a pie you're getting back, if that makes sense.
17:30
SPEAKER_00: So that's what I want you to think of when consistency compounds.
17:33
SPEAKER_00: So for me, it felt slow and sluggish.
17:35
SPEAKER_00: Like whatever you're gonna start.
17:37
SPEAKER_00: I know that you're probably not starting a podcast.
17:39
SPEAKER_00: I mean, maybe you are.
17:40
SPEAKER_00: I probably actually have done five or six consults with people who are like, you're an average person and you did it, Jenna.
17:47
SPEAKER_00: Tell me how, tell me, give me some tips.
17:49
SPEAKER_00: Um, so if you're looking for average person standard thoughts on podcasts, apparently I'm your girl.
17:56
SPEAKER_00: Anyways, my point is this is applicable even if podcast isn't something on your radar or what you're trying to do.
18:02
SPEAKER_00: Um, but then outside of watching the consistency compounds, what's cool is it actually becomes easier because as you repeatedly do this thing, and you know, obviously I'm accruing more and more podcasts over time, but you develop more of a stamp stamina.
18:21
SPEAKER_00: So sometimes it can make it easier, usually it makes it easier.
18:23
SPEAKER_00: You developed more skills, so then it's faster.
18:27
SPEAKER_00: Um, often you end up enjoying it.
18:30
SPEAKER_00: Like honestly, if I didn't enjoy podcasting on some level, I wouldn't have continued after all this time, even though it is an effort and it requires discipline.
18:38
SPEAKER_00: But this is what's beautiful about consistency compounding.
18:42
SPEAKER_00: So maybe there's not a money factor with your habit that you're doing, but the awareness of it's no longer just a return on the investment.
18:51
SPEAKER_00: That term's called ROI.
18:53
SPEAKER_00: There's no longer just an ROI onto the original habit.
18:55
SPEAKER_00: You're actually growing all these other like fringe benefits that you then get to like benefit the fruit from.
19:01
SPEAKER_00: Does that make sense?
19:02
SPEAKER_00: So let's just say that, okay, consider someone who like maybe wants to walk for 10 minutes every day.
19:08
SPEAKER_00: That one feels a little low-hanging fruit.
19:10
SPEAKER_00: Um, again, offensively small, you want to get healthier, you want to move your body.
19:13
SPEAKER_00: Most people's first jump is go to the gym.
19:15
SPEAKER_00: And that is way too far, honestly, of a life change to find.
19:19
SPEAKER_00: I'd be shocked if most people can keep that up more than six months.
19:23
SPEAKER_00: I mean, if it if that's you, awesome.
19:25
SPEAKER_00: But I would say work your way up over years to that.
19:28
SPEAKER_00: Like if you're not moving at all right now, walking 10 minutes every day is by far your easier on-ramp to consistency.
19:36
SPEAKER_00: So, anyways, um, they're walking every day.
19:38
SPEAKER_00: First, obvious return on the investment, you know, like their compound effect would be 10 minutes of movement every day, which is gonna be great.
19:45
SPEAKER_00: There's actually shocking facts that if you walk after you eat, I think it was even for 10 minutes, like it dramatically decreases your glucose levels.
19:52
SPEAKER_00: Um, so there's benefits outside of just moving your body.
19:55
SPEAKER_00: But eventually other things start to happen, just kind of like I was saying, like thinking about stamina in this area, making walking easier, or maybe you're not winded as easier or or sorry, as quickly.
20:06
SPEAKER_00: Then maybe other things.
20:07
SPEAKER_00: You'll decide, you'll figure out which time of the day works best.
20:09
SPEAKER_00: So then maybe you picked, let's just say you picked noon at first, and then as you do it long enough, you're like, oh, this is unnecessarily hot and challenging.
20:17
SPEAKER_00: I'm gonna do 7 a.m.
20:19
SPEAKER_00: because I enjoy it so much more.
20:21
SPEAKER_00: It's not, I'm not sweaty going back to work.
20:23
SPEAKER_00: You find these tweaks when you do consistent long enough, you find edits to the actual habit itself that make it easier and more enjoyable.
20:29
SPEAKER_00: Hence, like I said, not limiting myself to a certain day I was gonna release the podcast.
20:34
SPEAKER_00: Um, maybe you'll discover certain routes are more enjoyable than others.
20:38
SPEAKER_00: Like where Erin and I, we really we started our marriage lab, we had guests on the podcast at first.
20:43
SPEAKER_00: Sorry, I was thinking more routes.
20:45
SPEAKER_00: I didn't actually finish that thought.
20:46
SPEAKER_00: It was with walking that was the example of like, oh, actually, when I walk to the left, there's some dogs and it's not fun.
20:52
SPEAKER_00: I feel a little stressed.
20:54
SPEAKER_00: When we walk to the left out of our driveway, our our um some of our neighbors have a camera that's like, you are being recorded.
21:01
SPEAKER_00: Hello.
21:01
SPEAKER_00: And it startles me every time.
21:03
SPEAKER_00: So I would prefer to walk to my right, and that's where the river's at, anyways.
21:07
SPEAKER_00: Uh, but finding these little tweaks that the habit itself, you're still walking 10 minutes, but it's now more enjoyable when you do it this way.
21:14
SPEAKER_00: So for us, we enjoyed um having with our marriage lab having people interviewing people, but the quantity of effort to pull that off and map all of our schedules and set aside the time and not be flexible because now someone else is involved.
21:27
SPEAKER_00: We had to, if we're gonna consistently keep doing our marriage podcast, we had to like kind of taper off having guests because that made it exponentially harder to execute this habit.
21:36
SPEAKER_00: Um, then another benefit is gaining confidence.
21:39
SPEAKER_00: So if you're on this walk, you're like, oh, look at me, I can follow through.
21:42
SPEAKER_00: Not just confidence that I can walk 10 minutes, which dear Lord, I hope, I hope that is true for most of us.
21:48
SPEAKER_00: Um, but this idea of like following through.
21:51
SPEAKER_00: And that's where the tears came for me when I got the email was like, oh my gosh, I'm the kind of person that can do something they have no clue how to do that takes a lot of technical effort and time for years, and everybody's like it's a public muscle.
22:04
SPEAKER_00: I'm growing, and I did it.
22:06
SPEAKER_00: Wow, I'm that kind of person.
22:07
SPEAKER_00: Like it was this confident boost, and then it makes you start looking forward to your walks.
22:12
SPEAKER_00: So one of the things, big shifts for me was um, this sounds so silly, but in the offensively small uh adjustments that made the habit so much easier was instead of sitting down and waiting to think about what I want to have, I have a note in my phone and I'm constantly adding ideas, scriptures for those ideas, or references.
22:31
SPEAKER_00: So when I sit down to do a podcast, even though it's on my calendar, I might not have something in the moment, but I have truly have like 30 notes of potential ideas, and I have folders on my document in my Google Doc.
22:44
SPEAKER_00: Like I just had to make all these little on-ramps that support the habit being easier as I did it more consistently.
22:51
SPEAKER_00: So it's almost like you can't know.
22:53
SPEAKER_00: And sometimes people want to do that work up front, but really trying it on and test driving it and then figuring out what's worth your effort to make it easier and decrease your barriers to entry is the best way.
23:03
SPEAKER_00: Just start, start with good enough.
23:05
SPEAKER_00: Um, yeah, so then the idea of how consistency compounds is the original habit, which going back to this example of walking 10 minutes, it starts produce other things that are so much more enjoyable and fruitful than just the original basic habit itself.
23:24
SPEAKER_00: And those little things start adding up.
23:26
SPEAKER_00: Like, for instance, you guys know that I do actually walk at least 10 minutes every day around my neighborhood.
23:31
SPEAKER_00: And some of the things I love is the daylight.
23:34
SPEAKER_00: Now my kids come with me.
23:35
SPEAKER_00: It feels connecting with Aaron.
23:37
SPEAKER_00: Definitely, that's how I connect with the Holy Spirit the best.
23:40
SPEAKER_00: I've actually started to get to know my neighbors.
23:42
SPEAKER_00: We'll have casual conversations a bit while I as much as we want.
23:45
SPEAKER_00: All of us kind of are looking for alone time, but we'll say hi and I've got to know where people live because of it.
23:50
SPEAKER_00: But then the thing I hadn't thought about is how much I've actually learned about nature because I'm walking the exact same path for years through all the seasons.
23:59
SPEAKER_00: We're like, oh, now it's caterpillar season.
24:01
SPEAKER_00: And last spring we knew it was coming.
24:03
SPEAKER_00: And when it did, we it's like we upgraded our awareness and we brought home a couple caterpillars and we made terrariums.
24:08
SPEAKER_00: And then because of trying to feed these, keep these caterpillars alive, we learned all about, and then we went out on our trail and we collected what they ate and we learned so much.
24:16
SPEAKER_00: And then when we saw them at different parts on the trail, there was this dose of joy of like, oh, watch that.
24:21
SPEAKER_00: I felt like I was part of something bigger than myself.
24:23
SPEAKER_00: Which, if you had told me years ago, that 10 minutes of walking would have made me nerdy, excited, and joyful, and feel connected to my town's ecosystem.
24:33
SPEAKER_00: Like that was not on my radar.
24:35
SPEAKER_00: But I'm like, oh, look at these consistency compounding effects of habits.
24:40
SPEAKER_00: So that is that's where I want you to leave.
24:43
SPEAKER_00: I will, I'll probably.
24:44
SPEAKER_00: Oh, the last thing I want to say though the thing that people take away, the my hope is that you take away either a big project or something you feel overwhelmed.
24:52
SPEAKER_00: You're like, hey, look, it doesn't have to be perfect.
24:54
SPEAKER_00: I can be flexible.
24:55
SPEAKER_00: I'm meant to edit to make it easier, to make it more enjoyable as I go.
25:00
SPEAKER_00: The original habit does not have to be the one that I die on the hill to actually count as consistency.
25:06
SPEAKER_00: I rather figure out how to move my body 10 minutes every day than say, I'm gonna walk from here to the end of the street.
25:12
SPEAKER_00: I have permission to walk another direction, you know, all the things.
25:15
SPEAKER_00: Um but what people, I think where people underassume or value consistency compounding is relational equity.
25:23
SPEAKER_00: So maybe you have a painful dynamic in a relationship.
25:26
SPEAKER_00: A lot.
25:26
SPEAKER_00: I mean, we talk so much about marriage.
25:27
SPEAKER_00: So I'm just gonna say marriage because I'm in the middle of doing my wives' course.
25:31
SPEAKER_00: Where we just finished week three, and it's going so good, you guys.
25:34
SPEAKER_00: It's just so cool.
25:35
SPEAKER_00: It feels like every week before the class and after the class, I'm like, okay, Holy Spirit, I'm giving you all the credit because these are literally the lessons over the last five years that you've been like, hey girl, what you doing over here?
25:47
SPEAKER_00: Or hey, sweetie, that's not what mercy looks like.
25:50
SPEAKER_00: Hey, ooh, okay, let me come sit down.
25:53
SPEAKER_00: We have some conversations to have.
25:55
SPEAKER_00: And I'm just, you know, redistributing some of those lessons, and it's been wonderful.
25:59
SPEAKER_00: There's 30 women who are doing it with me.
26:01
SPEAKER_00: And one of my favorite uh testimonies is every week so far, somebody's had to have their camera off because the Holy Spirit's moving on them so strongly, they said they're crying too hard.
26:12
SPEAKER_00: They're like, I just want to be in this moment, but I'm gonna listen.
26:14
SPEAKER_00: I'm like, okay.
26:15
SPEAKER_00: Um, but what I was bringing this back to consistency compounding is the relational component, whether it's trust or actually being soft in your marriage, or um weeding out offense, or weeding out contempt, or weeding out the bitterness and re literally switching almost like the pH balance is what I think about, like the ecosystem of your marriage or the culture of your marriage.
26:39
SPEAKER_00: It is a long, slow game.
26:42
SPEAKER_00: So many people get discouraged when their spouse doesn't notice because those first like reps, maybe it's even the first like six months of reps, cost you so much and it does not feel like it's working, but you have to remember the J-sh-shaped curve where now, five years in, absolutely it has changed the culture of my marriage.
27:00
SPEAKER_00: But that's why you have to pick offensively small, even in these relational things.
27:03
SPEAKER_00: Do not get discouraged.
27:05
SPEAKER_00: What's the what's the expression?
27:06
SPEAKER_00: Don't despise the day as a small beginning.
27:08
SPEAKER_00: Pick small enough relational habits that you can consistently do them, even if you don't see these ROIs that feel dramatic off the bat, you have to think long term, like almost like cash that promise in.
27:20
SPEAKER_00: And I think of it too, like with the Lord, because some of those habits and relationships cost more than I would say walking for 10 minutes does or whatever other habit over here.
27:30
SPEAKER_00: I'm like, ooh, that one costs so much more.
27:33
SPEAKER_00: Um, but I think of them like, okay, Lord, if love never fails, and these are all investments like sowing seeds of love, then that promise combined with behavior scientists, what they've found to be true about how our brain changes and rewires, these effort, this effort I'm putting in cannot fail.
27:52
SPEAKER_00: Maybe it's not the timeline.
27:53
SPEAKER_00: Maybe I'd like quick fix, maybe I'd like him to notice in a month, six months, but I'm in a long game and I'm actually taking that promise of these seeds of love cannot fail.
28:02
SPEAKER_00: So these little bitty habits will change the culture and I will experience a compounding uh effect because consistency compounds, but it's probably not gonna be in my timeline.
28:11
SPEAKER_00: You know, like the the example I gave you was five-year mark and then the 10-year mark and then the 20-year mark, but that's why you have to go to offensively small so you don't freeze or get overwhelmed when you think of those numbers.
28:21
SPEAKER_00: You're like, I'm just thinking about the next day.
28:23
SPEAKER_00: I'm just thinking about the next time I execute my habit.
28:25
SPEAKER_00: I'm not thinking about I have to do this for 20 years.
28:28
SPEAKER_00: I'm like, nope.
28:29
SPEAKER_00: If I'd thought about trying to get to episode 100, I would have quit.
28:33
SPEAKER_00: That being said, sometimes I don't realize how fast I'm talking.
28:36
SPEAKER_00: Did you guys hear me go?
28:38
SPEAKER_00: It's just because I like you guys and I'm excited.
28:41
SPEAKER_00: Um, I have a huge favor to ask.
28:43
SPEAKER_00: I have dipped in my, I took the summer off to be with my kiddos, and my view, my downloads have literally are a third of what they used to be.
28:51
SPEAKER_00: So to celebrate my hundredth episode, I'm actually giving away a month of free coaching, which I'm gonna do one, uh an initial call, and then we're gonna do 10-minute check-ins.
29:01
SPEAKER_00: It's about$140 value for this package.
29:04
SPEAKER_00: The there's two ways to enter.
29:06
SPEAKER_00: You can um share on your stories uh episode or yeah, one of my episodes that you've liked and just tag me in it.
29:14
SPEAKER_00: You actually could do that as many days as you want, and that would count as an entry.
29:18
SPEAKER_00: That would just be wonderful for more exposure.
29:20
SPEAKER_00: And the second one, though, if you don't want to do something public, um, you could just write a review on my podcast.
29:26
SPEAKER_00: That would be both of those are so helpful to help uh get my numbers back to where I guess it's not even about numbers.
29:34
SPEAKER_00: It does feel like there's bigger purpose knowing that it's hitting people versus like, oh yeah.
29:44
SPEAKER_00: It's it tests that theory, like, yes, it is enough for the night, you know, one.
29:48
SPEAKER_00: If there's not 99 and there's one person, God, like, okay, that's worth it.
29:51
SPEAKER_00: And I also think this is part of the algorithm, and we could actually flip it.
29:55
SPEAKER_00: So I'm just asking you to help me if you'd consider celebrating consistency compounding over here by sharing some podcast episodes online or with friends, and uh in order to win a chance to get a month-free coaching with me.
30:09
SPEAKER_00: Okay, thanks everybody.