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Lessons - Discovering Your Life’s Purpose | Kute Blackson - CEO of Blackson Group · Success Story with Scott Clary

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  How do you find clarity on that thing, that one thing that you're meant to do?
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  Because that is, if I even start to think about it, if I even start to say, oh, I don't
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  like my job or, you know, I don't like my relationship, that's fine.
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  I can understand that and I can be realistic with myself about that.
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  And then I think about the massive amount of things that I could do instead of the job
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  or all of that.
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  That's so vast.
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  Yeah, you're talking a bit about the theme around purpose now, you know, in terms of,
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  well, now you have to find your purpose.
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  You can't leave people here.
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  They're going to be stressed out.
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  They're going to be like, don't leave me in the, in the free fall.
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  Okay, so, so I have a perspective around this.
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  So I'm going to start, okay, I'm going to start a bit from the macro and then I'm going
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  to get very, very, very specific for people that will give them actionable things to what,
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  in terms of what to do.
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  So I'm going to start saying, first off, stop seeking your purpose.
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  Stop seeking your purpose.
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  The drive to find your purpose is actually taking you further away from trying to find
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  your purpose.
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  And many times the ego, who we think ourselves to be, our perceived sense of self and condition
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  self that we attach to, the ego, the ego's job is to reinforce its existence.
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  And so one of the ways that ego reinforces its existence is to seek and seek and seek and
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  seek and seek and seek and seek and seek and seek and find my purpose and never find.
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  And so there's a part inside of us that really doesn't want to find our purpose because
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  by not finding my purpose, I don't have to live my purpose and the seeking, the process
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  of seeking continues.
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  And so I say, stop trying to find your purpose.
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  On a spiritual level, number one, recognize that you are a soul.
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  You are a soul that incarnates into the human experience.
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  Your soul has incarnated and you're a soul having a human experience.
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  You may have heard that before.
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  You're a soul having a human experience and then the human experience you incarnate into
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  the human experience in order to learn to grow to evolve.
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  So to me, start seeing life, life itself is a school.
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  Life is an evolutionary school for the growth and evolution of your soul.
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  Life is a school for the evolution of your soul.
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  And as a result, then every situation, every experience, every relationship, everything
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  you go through is part of the curriculum for your soul's evolution so that you can realize
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  more of who you really are and so that you can learn those lessons and grow and come
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  into your most authentic self.
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  And if you start seeing yourself as a soul and understanding that are, if I'm a soul
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  and I'm here to grow, then the real purpose, the real ultimate purpose of life is to learn
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  the lessons, to grow, to evolve and become your authentic self and remember who you truly
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  are beyond your programmed condition self, to remember your essence, to remember your
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  identity, to remember that infinite spark, to remember your true potential and power
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  if that's the purpose of life.
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  Then your purpose isn't what you do, your purpose is the degree to which you are learning
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  and growing, no matter what you're doing.
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  You can be living your ultimate purpose, whether you're a trash collector, a formula
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  on race car driver, a podcaster, a stay at home mom, an author, an engineer, an electrician,
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  working at barista, working in Starbucks, that's what you do, you are not what you do,
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  your purpose on a deep spiritual level is about evolution.
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  In any moment, regardless of what you do, any moment, you can be living your purpose
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  so long as you're growing and evolving and learning and asking yourself, what is my
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  soul seeking to learn it in this experience?
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  What is my soul seeking to understand in this situation?
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  What is my soul attract this situation?
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  What is my soul attract this boss?
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  What is the classroom that I'm in right now in this experience?
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  And I think when we do that, we are growing, when we do that, we are living the true purpose
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  and when we do that, when we learn those lessons, we begin to transcend the experience and
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  we start attracting new experiences to us.
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  So your purpose can be lived every moment that you're growing, learning and evolving.
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  That's the bigger level.
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  Now on a human level, which is connected to your question, but I wanted to set a bigger
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  context to connect it to because I think we live on different levels as souls and human
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  beings.
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  On a human level, stop seeking your purpose instead.
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  So now what the hell do I do?
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  Okay, you can sit there and just try and figure out your purpose from the side lines, but
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  life doesn't work that way.
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  That is another can be another strategy of the ego to avoid.
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  Instead, move in the direction, if you look, I don't know, okay, fair enough, but don't
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  just sit there, move in the direction of what lights you up, move in the direction of
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  what turns you on, move in the direction of what's
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  sets your soul on fire, move in the direction of what brings you joy.
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  Just move in the direction.
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  You don't have to know where it's going to end up.
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  You don't have to know where you're going to get to exactly where you need to be because
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  there's an intelligence inside of your soul that knows it knows.
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  So just go in the direction of like, I feel joy here, I feel the liveliness here.
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  I don't know where this is going to lead me.
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  I don't even know how I'm going to make money, but at least start navigate rather than
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  just sitting and going, I don't know.
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  And then 10 years go by, go in the direction, stop moving in the direction.
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  You start moving in the direction of what makes you most alive, the liveliness is a sign.
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  The liveliness is a navigation, the liveliness is a radar that pulls you.
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  So as you start going in the direction, take a step.
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  You take a step, then what you'll find is life reveals to you another step.
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  You take another step, you lean in, life reveals to you another step.
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  You lean in, life reveals to you another step.
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  And often your purpose gets revealed to you in the process of taking a step and living
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  life itself.
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  What will often happen is 10 years from now, 20 years from now, 5 years from now, 3 years
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  from now, you look around and you're like, holy moly, I'm, I'm living my, I lived into
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  my purpose.
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  I could not have planned this purpose, but I lived into it, but you lived into it because
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  you want on the sideline trying to figure it out because the journey that you go on,
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  you take a step, the journey that you go on in that big step, as you take the step
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  you grow, as you take the step you evolve, as you take the step you expand, as you take
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  the step you're conscious of the shift.
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  And as you learn, grow and evolve, you become more ripened, you become more ready for
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  the next step.
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  Stop trying to figure out your purpose from the sidelines, you take the step.
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  And then I would say question number one, okay, what do I love, what turns me on, what
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  brings me joy, moving that direction.
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  For me as a kid, we lived behind my father's church, we didn't have a lot of money, we
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  lived behind my father's church.
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  My bedroom was so small, you could barely put a one single person bed in it and walk
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  in the room.
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  I had all of these big dreams, so as a kid I would sneak inside my father's church in
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  the middle of the night, 8 p.m., 9 p.m., it's 10 p.m., and every day I often don't talk
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  about this, but every day.
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  Imagine this kid, 11, 12-year-old kid, I would speak, Scott, I would speak to the empty
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  chairs.
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  I would give seminars for two hours a night, an hour a night, I would give seminars
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  to the empty chairs, imagining, right, imagining I was inspiring people from around the world,
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  I was inspiring people in the US for free, you know, for me.
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  That's what lit me up, that's what turned me on, that's what brought me joy.
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  I would do that for free, I'm done it for free, I get paid now.
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  But it didn't matter, so when you find that joy, going that direction, you don't have
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  to know the how, so what turns me on, what sets me on fire, what do I love?
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  Number two, but that's not enough.
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  You have to ask yourself, let's make it more practical, what specific skills do I have?
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  What specific, I love Formula One racing, okay, this is one of them, I love it.
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  But I'm never going to be Lewis Hamilton in this lifetime.
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  I'm not going to, it's not going to happen.
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  The kid is, the dude has been doing that stuff for he's 37 years old since he was like three,
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  okay, and so it takes a level of actual competence and skill to be able to perform.
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  That's a reality.
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  But if we look in our lives, so many people say to me, I don't know what skills I have,
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  just look at your life, look at every shitty job you've been through.
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  Sometimes the jobs that you have, that you need to work in,
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  sometimes the jobs that present themselves to you, they're not your purpose.
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  But sometimes you put that because there's a necessary skill that you're meant to learn
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  in that job, and you're going to need that piece of the puzzle, that skill, to be able
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  to, to be the person who's able to then fully fulfill your purpose.
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  And I, I always tell people when you're working a job, even if you hate to do it with
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  ultimate excellence, when you do that job with excellence, then you're able to extract
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  the skill you become more, but you're able to extract the skill that gives you part
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  of the ingredient to prepare you for your purpose.
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  So look at all of the jobs, all of the situations, all of the experiences, all of the traumas,
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  all of the breakups, all of the failures that you've been through.
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  And look at what specific tangible skills that you learn.
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  Those skills are going to be a part of your purpose and can point you in the direction
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  of perhaps what you're meant to do lies.
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  Number three, what unique gifts do you have that you're able to solve a unique problem?
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  Another way of asking that is, what is the unique problem that you're able to solve
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  for yourself?
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  I always tell people don't, when you think of what to do, don't simply focus on how do
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  I make the most money.
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  You might make money, but often you'll be miserable, and if you're miserable, you'll sabotage
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  it.
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  If you're miserable, it won't sustain.
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  I work with so many people, one-on-one in groups, small groups, large groups, billionaires
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  that have made so much money, but they don't feel any purpose, don't feel any connection,
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  and they end up sabotaging what they've created, or they end up not having the motivation
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  to continue.
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  So I always tell people, don't focus on money.
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  Instead, realize that money is a byproduct of adding value, and when you add value, you
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  add value by solving someone's pain, someone's problem, or someone's challenge.
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  So when you're able to denounce yourself in question number three, what is the pain problem
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  or challenge that I'm uniquely able to solve based on my gifts, based on my skills?
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  Because when you solve someone's pain problem or challenge, your being of true service
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  and money is just a byproduct of being of service.
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  Number four, I would invite people to really think about on a practical level, which group
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  of people do I feel a connection to?
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  Which group of people do I feel an affinity to?
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  Maybe you feel a connection to the teenage pregnant girls, maybe you feel a connection
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  to the physically challenged, maybe you feel a connection to the elderly, maybe you feel
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  a connection to, you know, fill in the whales, maybe who went, maybe you feel a connection
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  to the group of souls, people, but you feel a connection to will often also might, it
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  might point you in the direction of where your service and where your purpose or what
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  you're meant to do and where you're meant to share your gifts, where that lies.
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  You don't have to know where you're going to end up, but that can start giving you a
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  directional navigation in terms of where to go and don't wait.
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  Look at Oprah.
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  There's no way Oprah could have planned her life.
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  Yeah, I'm going to plan at this age, this is going to happen.
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  And by the time I'm 30, 40, 50, 50, 50 years old, 60 years old, I'm going to be the most
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  powerful media mogul woman in the world.
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  You can't plan, billionaires, you can't plan that, but she loved communication.
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  She loved communication.
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  She didn't sit on the sideline until she was a bit in there.
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  She loved communication.
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  So she became a newscaster, as she became a newscaster, she had too much compassion.
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  So she would cry while reading the news.
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  This wasn't a good thing to do.
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  And so they fired her.
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  They gave her a job.
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  I think it was on a talk show in Baltimore, it might not be Baltimore, but I think it was
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  Baltimore on a single station.
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  Now her compassion and her sensitivity was able to be married with her love for communication
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  and the most compassionate she was for people.
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  The most successful I showed the king, boom, syndication, boom, number one show, boom,
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  25 years later, Oprah.
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  Look at Obama.
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  I mean, how does Obama love him or hate him is irrelevant to me?
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  But look at Obama.
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  How does this guy age 19 go?
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  Yeah, I'm going to be president of the United States, but he started somewhere and that
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  led him.
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  And so I really believe that if you follow your soul, follow the nudging, follow the nudging,
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  it doesn't always have to make sense.
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  If you follow that nudging of your soul, your soul has an intelligence, it will guide you
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  and you will, that's when you will often end up.
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  Say you will often end up when you allow your soul to guide you, will be beyond what
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  your mind can manufacture and create on its own.