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**BONUS EPISODE** Why Doing Less Will Help You Heal More · Healing Her Story with Riva Jean-Paul

• 1:37
  SPEAKER_00: Hello my love.
• 1:38
  SPEAKER_00: Welcome to today's episode of the Healing Her Story Podcast.
• 1:44
  SPEAKER_00: I am coming in today with a bonus episode.
• 1:49
  SPEAKER_00: This is a short, sweet, and powerful episode for you today that I wanted to slip in in this very last part of the cycle.
• 2:01
  SPEAKER_00: We are deep in the waning moon, this final stretch before the new moon and a new beginning.
• 2:09
  SPEAKER_00: This is a time to recharge, reflect, and re-evaluate.
• 2:15
  SPEAKER_00: And this is amplified with the Mercury retrograde that just happened yesterday at the time that this is being shared.
• 2:26
  SPEAKER_00: And so this week's episode, today's episode is more of a soft whisper than a loud teaching.
• 2:34
  SPEAKER_00: It's a gentle and loving invitation to consider what if doing more isn't what heals you?
• 2:45
  SPEAKER_00: What if doing less is?
• 2:49
  SPEAKER_00: So often women come to me in the thick of their healing journey, carrying early childhood trauma, attachment wounds, and years of stress, and they are doing everything.
• 3:02
  SPEAKER_00: They're in talk therapy, attending EMDR sessions, showing up to 12-step meetings, going to yoga retreats and plant medicine ceremonies, managing full-time jobs, raising children and supporting families.
• 3:16
  SPEAKER_00: They're checking all the boxes, showing up with the best intentions, and yet they're still exhausted, still dysregulated, still stuck in the same emotional loops.
• 3:30
  SPEAKER_00: And I can't help but wonder if all of that healing work has just become another way of overworking.
• 3:38
  SPEAKER_00: What if all of this doing, yes, even the spiritual healing, quote unquote good kind, is actually keeping your nervous system in the same patterns of performance, pressure, and hypervigilance that you're trying to heal from.
• 3:55
  SPEAKER_00: You might think, well, if I do more, then I'll heal more.
• 3:59
  SPEAKER_00: But this isn't the case.
• 4:01
  SPEAKER_00: One of the trauma-informed principles in which my work is deeply rooted in is that less is more.
• 4:10
  SPEAKER_00: Imagine your nervous system is like a soil after a long drought.
• 4:15
  SPEAKER_00: Pouring a flood of healing on top of it all at once might wash everything away, but giving it slow, steady nourishment drop by drop allows it to truly absorb and to then use that nourishment to rebuild and to grow and to repair and to heal.
• 4:43
  SPEAKER_00: So what does this look like when it comes to healing for ourselves?
• 4:50
  SPEAKER_00: Well, for me personally, it's really been narrowing down to what's essential.
• 4:57
  SPEAKER_00: And for me right now, that's monthly acupuncture.
• 5:01
  SPEAKER_00: I'm back in somatic therapy, going about once a month.
• 5:05
  SPEAKER_00: I'm also still continuing with my breath work sessions every other week.
• 5:10
  SPEAKER_00: I check in with my menstrual cycle coach and supervisor about once a month.
• 5:16
  SPEAKER_00: And for my daily practices, I'm just focusing on daily movement, hydration, eating nourishing meals and whole foods, and just being as present as I can with myself throughout the day.
• 5:31
  SPEAKER_00: And that's it.
• 5:33
  SPEAKER_00: I'm not in a rush to try the latest supplement or healing modality, though I definitely think about it and get excited about things from time to time.
• 5:43
  SPEAKER_00: I'm I've let go of this pressure to be everywhere, to do everything, to fix every wound.
• 5:52
  SPEAKER_00: And I've really learned to trust in consistency, in the natural rhythm and pace of my body and of my nervous system, and of the sacred simplicity that can come from just focusing on the essentials.
• 6:10
  SPEAKER_00: And it's been interesting to see this start to trickle down into my life as well.
• 6:15
  SPEAKER_00: I now have fewer friends, and I have a much deeper relationship with the people that I am in friendship with.
• 6:39
  SPEAKER_00: And as I've let go of those things, I've created more space for things that I truly love and that bring actual value to my life.
• 6:48
  SPEAKER_00: And as all of those other things have begun to change, I now have way less anxiety and I have way more joy and pleasure.
• 6:59
  SPEAKER_00: So I invite you to play with that in the coming weeks and in the coming cycle, and to get curious about how you can do less to create more.