165 | Why Can't I Be Kind to Myself? How to Tell the Difference Between You and a Part of You (IFS Series Part 2)

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Why can't I be kind to myself? Is that me talking, or is that a part of me?

For most of my adult life I thought the loudest voice in my head was me. It wasn't. And I only found out because my coach kept stopping me mid-sentence to say that's a part.

Part 2 of a 3-part series.

We cover:

What "blended" means, and the moment I realized my entire life had been run by parts I couldn't see

Why your Holy Spirit Led Self isn't something you build. It's already there, and it was…