Sunday Stroll 08 | The Ugly Truth About Grief, Guilt, And What We Don’t Say Out Loud.

Your Effin’ Love Story · Jul 19, 2026 · 15m

spent Friday in federal court, and the date of my next deadline—July 31st—hit me like a freight train. It’s the 27th anniversary of my son Malachi’s death. Most people want you to be "brave" or "romantic" about grief. They want you to pretend you had this perfect connection. The truth? I didn't know him. I was terrified. I was resentful. I was a young Black man in Ohio holding a dead infant and worried, above all else, that I was going to prison because no one would believe me. We don’t talk about that shit.

We don't talk about the guilt, the jealousy, or the fear that the "rules" of family…