Latest / Walking Manifestator Podcast- Aligning Mindset with Spirituality / 122: Who Do You Need to Become for the Blessing?
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- Alexa: What if God gave you the exact thing that you have been praying for overnight? Not the next year, not after you figured everything out, but literally overnight. What you actually know what to do with it. Because something happened to me recently that actually changed the meaning of what acting as if it already happened actually meant for me. And Let me just be very clear. I have heard that phrase before. I have understood, or I thought I understood that phrase before when people would say, well, you just need to act as if it's already yours. Act and how would you carry yourself and what would you do? And how would you treat others? And what would you do differently? Become the person that, you know, acts like the manifestation already happened before it actually happens, right? I've heard that before. Prepare for the blessing. But I actually got an opportunity to understand intellectually what this means, and I want to share the story because there's a huge difference between wanting something and actually having the capacity to hold something. And I really want you to understand the difference before I get into anything else. But you can want something, and it doesn't necessarily mean that you're ready for that something. Right? Like my kid, my oldest kid, he wants to drive. Does that mean that he's ready to drive? No, not by a long shot. He is not ready, okay? And There was a moment where yesterday I opened up one of my accounts where I invest into stocks. And that account has been steadily growing. You know, I first had roughly about a thousand, then it went up to like two, and then three, and then ten, and then like twenty, and then it got to the point where it reached over six figures, okay? And it fluctuates because of the market, of course, but steadily it's been over six figures. And then overnight it became a seven-figure account. Okay? Now, for that brief moment where my account, well, it was actually for a 24-hour period where my account turned into a seven-figure account before I did more research and figure out what was going on. Was it just going to go back to where it was originally? Should I sell? Should I keep the money? There was a a whole bunch of emotions that I was going through in that moment. Here's where I want you to focus if there's anything you take away from this conversation. In that moment where I saw the amount that hit my account I realized that there was one part of me that went into survival, one part of me that was like, this would be great. I can pay off some of the things that I need to pay off, some of my investments that I've done recently, and you know, I could free that money up. And then the other part of me, which was like, No, we need to invest more. Okay. And here's where I noticed a shift internally in me because even though there was such a large amount in my account, I didn't automatically do what I've done with other accounts that I have had. Whenever I've had a, you know. Double zeros in my commission checks that have come through when I've made, you know, $60,000 on one transaction, $100,000 in another transaction, $10,000 on a transaction. My mind knows what I'm doing with that money, okay? But seeing that many zeros happen overnight was like it I don't want to call it a shock on my nervous system because it wasn't like I was like excited like through the moon like my gosh I made it it it wasn't that feeling but it was a feeling of like I didn't feel prepared. I didn't feel like I actually knew what each of my steps should be Just like I typically know my nighttime routine, right? I know that at night I take off all my makeup, I s I exfoliate my skin, I make sure that I scrub for at least a minute, I make sure that I put my niacinamide, then I put my vitamins, then I put my creams, then I put my oils, and I really lather and I do all this stuff. Like I know what step comes after what. I know in the mornings that I have to get ready before I wake up my kids. I know that once I drop off my kids and I go to the gym, I stay in the parking lot for 30 minutes and I read. Right? Like there's certain things that I just know that I have to do. And when I saw that many zeros happen overnight. I wasn't quite ready for that. And this is where I had a huge mindset shift that really just like took a different perspective for me, which was Acting as if isn't just pretending, like it's not me telling you, like, act as if it's already yours and pretend and have fun with it. No, sometimes manifestation gets presented like you need to pretend that you're rich, you need to pretend that you've already succeeded, you need to buy things that you can afford because the abundant you would buy them. Ignore your current circumstances, don't Think about what's actually happening in your reality. And here's a mindset shift that I had. Acting as if is actually preparation. Preparation because you need to be able to tell me with such clarity what are the action steps that you need to take in order for you to make that happen. So if I told you overnight, hey, I have a million dollars that I want to transfer into your account, but the only caveat to that is that you need to tell me what exactly are you going to do with that? How would the version of you that is capable of managing a million dollars behave? Would you actually invest? Would you maybe start understanding a little bit more about taxes, right? Would you have to set up like a professional trust? Would you understand risk tolerance? Would you actually start getting more involved with okay, like what What change in my lifestyle? Am I just going to be impulsive and go and buy a house that I can't actually sustain long term because I don't actually realize how much taxes are going to be for that house? Right? Like just to give you a perspective, a million-dollar home, let me just give you some simple numbers here. But in Texas. Just to give you a rough idea, let's just say you're like, I buy a million-dollar home. If taxes are roughly about 2.75, you're roughly paying about $30,000 a year in just taxes alone. And they're probably a little bit more if I'm being very like conservative, that's what your number would be. But just think about that, right? So when you start realizing that, you recognize that it's not just Saying, yeah, like let me act as the person that has the business, let me act like the person that already has everything figured out. It's like, what game plan do you have to make that reality come true if it happened overnight? Now, the second thing I want to get into is God can give you the seed, but we still need to prepare the soil. So This is where I'm gonna give you a phrase from the Bible, right? In Luke 14, 28, it speaks about someone wanting to build a tower first, but counting the cost to determine whether they can actually complete that tower. And I love it because faith is. and preparation are not opposites like I can have all the faith in the world that I'm going to be like the most fit person in the world. But if I'm like eating ice cream every night before I go to bed and watching the Big Bang Theory and you know never doing any exercise. Like I can have all the faith in the world, but God is like, My daughter, I am not gonna make you fit. Like you're eating like a slob. What would Like natural common sense is going to be against you, right? Like, that's not gonna happen. So, this is really where we need to have a plan so that we can also do the things that God is trying to prepare for us, but we are also preparing our soil. If God answered your prayer tomorrow, like ask yourself. Could your current habits that you have right now protect that prayer that was answered or could they destroy it? And let me give you like a more practical example of this. Like if let's say you've been single for a while and you've just been like, I was talking up with a friend about this the other day. We were talking about how once you work on yourself, like you no longer just want a relationship just because you wanna have a relationship and you don't want to go to the movies by yourself. Like It's so much deeper than that. You're at a point where it's like, are you like actually the person that's going to add to my life? Like, are you someone that is going to make me happier? Is someone that's going to make me more stable? Is someone that brings like your own joy to the mix? Or are you just gonna drain me? Because if you are, then I'm not interested in that. And I think that. That goes hand in hand with maybe the example that I'm giving you right now, which is maybe you want that girl that's like the perfect person for you, right? Or you want that guy that's like the perfect guy for you. But are you the version of you that is required for you to hold that blessing? That godly woman that you want in your life, that godly man that you want in your life, that Powerhouse that is hungry to take on the world with you by your side. Like, are you that person? Are you energetically that person that can also sustain that relationship? Because if the answer is no, then chances are you're not going to get it because you're still not a vibrational match to that person. And this is why I thought this story was so important for me to share because When I had that realization where overnight I just saw that many zeros in my stock account, I was like, my gosh. And then I when I my emotions were down, my adrenaline came back down, I had that realization with where I was like, I wasn't ready like I am for my nighttime routine. That means I need to get more crystal clarity on how I need to continue to work on myself. To be the person and the vessel that can hold that blessing. Now, the next thing I want to get into is your self-image, okay? Because it goes much deeper than just money. And this is where your beliefs come into play. We've talked about neuroscience in this kind in this conversation that we've had, and neuroscience teaches us that there's neuroplasticity. Neuroplasticity basically says that we are able to rewire the way that we think about things, the way that we perceive things. Okay, so if you grew up with a mindset of people always leave me, right? Or everything is always harder for me. And everything is just so difficult, everybody else is like growing, and I'm just like falling behind, then suddenly. You meet someone that is emotionally going to give you that energetic right back to you. Someone that is going to leave, someone that is going to be flaky, someone that is going to test you. And this is where I had a realization the other day too. I was making a TikTok video and It's like, what if, and I'll keep using the example of like a relationship, this could be applicable to a new job, a new business you want to start, a new friendship you want to embark on, a new whatever it is. But think about it. If you're in a situation where you're asking, right? Like, God, like I want this person. I really want this relationship. And God has been keeping you single single for like five years. Let's just throw a crazy number out there. and you found yourself, right? Like you genuinely feel happy with you, with who you are. You genuinely feel excited to spend time with you. Like I remember there was a time where I would be embarrassed to go eat by myself. Now I could really care less. Like I'm like, I don't care. Like I enjoy time with me. I enjoy going and taking myself to the movies. I enjoy going and having lunch by myself. I enjoy going on a stroll to the park by myself. Like for the majority of the times the strolls of the park are with my kids to be fair. But I enjoy my free time by myself. And there was a time where I couldn't say that. And here's the crazy part. What if God is looking at you like, if I give you that relationship because you still haven't found that foundation and that determination to stay true to this new version that you have found yourself to be. If I bring that relationship, what if you forget who you really are all over again and you lose yourself in this relationship? And that was such a big realization for me because I was like, that can be the case for everything. What if God's not giving you that next opportunity, that next blessing, that next whatever it is for you? Because he's like, no, I can't. You're not ready for it because you're gonna lose yourself. I can't give you that job because you're still not ready, because your ego still gets in the way, and it's gonna sabotage that blessing that I need to keep keeping you in the fire a little bit longer to keep redefining you. Now, the last things that I want to get into right now is our nervous system can confuse what's familiar with safety. And When it comes to like our hunting and gathering times, okay, when we had to go and hunt our food. If we saw a black cave and that cave looked scary and freaky, we would simply say, I'm not going in there. There's a tiger in there, there's a bear in there, there's a something in there that's going to eat me. So therefore, I'm not gonna go in there. Now we do that in our life. We do that with everything that we have going on, whether it's a new friendship, that you're very afraid to reach out to someone. Like I recently started going to a new gym now that I moved, and like my psyche, the side of me that wanted to keep me safe was like, Don't say hi to people. Like, why? Like, don't try to talk to these people. And then the other side of me was like, Why did you say you wanted to move closer to this area to make new relationships, new friendships that are That's part of what you said you wanted to come and do. So get out there and do it. So I just started talking to people. I didn't care if they perceived me as weird. I didn't care if they perceived me as like, why is this girl talking to me? I randomly say something and now I know a few people at the gym and I'm like, hey, I know you. Hey, what's going on? That right there is what our brain does. It deems anything that it doesn't recognize as unfamiliar. Therefore, I am going to DIE. And we need to rewire ourselves to understand that that's not true. So if we want something new in our life, the new reality is something that you need to understand is going to feel unfamiliar. But that doesn't mean that it's unsafe. That doesn't mean that you can't do it. Now, something that I've seen as well when it comes to this familiarity and safety. Stop asking what do I want? Okay, because here's something that I want you to write down. It's not just about what do I want, it's who do I need to become to be able to hold what I'm asking God to bless me with. Who do I need to become? Because This is where you need to do the work, right? If you're praying for a hundred clients, okay, do you have the systems that are going to serve a hundred clients? Let's say you're asking for a million-dollar business. Okay, can you actually tell me if you have SOPs? Like, do you have standard operating procedures that are going to help you manage the business for all the employees? And do you know how to read financials or do you have someone that's going to help you with the financial statements? Do you know how to handle criticism? Do you know how to make difficult decisions? Right? This is where We start really understanding, okay. Well, I want a relationship. Okay, do I know how to communicate? Do I know how to receive love? Do I know how to apologize when I did something that wasn't necessarily the best way of doing it? Once you can actually understand this, this is really where you are expanding. Your capacity to receive that blessing. So the last thing I'm going to leave you with is what I want to call the blessing capacity exercise. Okay. So I want you to write down these questions and I want you to answer them on your own private time so that you can really journal and dig deeper. Number one, what exactly are you asking for? Like what is the thing that you're praying to God to bless you with? Number two, Who would I need to become to sustain that blessing? Okay, number three, what skills would that version of me already possess? Like what skills, what is the one thing that I need to really get crystal clear at? And honestly, I'll give you a pro tip. I heard this from one of my coaches. Don't overwhelm yourself. Don't try and do like 10 skills because it's just gonna be very overwhelming. For me, one of the skills that I really wanna just get really great at is communication. Like I just wanna be the best that I possibly can. So I watch videos on Communication, I read so that I can actually do my very best to articulate my thoughts a little bit better. I'm doing things that are helping me with my communication. So write something down that can actually help you when it comes to those skills. Now, number four, what habits, beliefs, or environments would that person have to outgrow? That's the part right there that it's going to feel uncomfortable because I'm telling you, the people that you're with right now, the crowd that you are running with right now, aren't always they can be right, but they're not always going to be the same crowd that you're going to take to the next season. And that is something that many people are just not willing to sacrifice. But just ask yourself: like, is it really worth it? Like I remember my kid when we were going to move, he was a bit sad about the fact that we were going to move. And obviously as a mom, like it's heartbreaking for him to have to leave the friends that he's had. He's been there for, you know, since kinder and There was a part of me that didn't want to make that move because I was afraid. And then the other part of me was like, Alexa, we need to do this. We need to just get with the program and it's going to be for the best for him. And you know what's so sad is that some of the friends that he thought were like his best friends, like one in particular that comes to mind, which the little kid came to our house, and when it was his birthday, like I took him out to like celebrate with us. My son texted him, letting him know, like, hey, you know, I just want you to know that you're like my best friend and I want to stay in touch and you know, like I I really value your friendship. And the little kid, literally crickets, didn't reply to him. And of course it broke my Heart as a mom. Of course it did. But why am I sharing this with you? Because we sometimes make more out of something than it really is. Like my kid right now, he's gonna get over it eventually, and he's gonna be fine. And I've talked to him about the value of finding real friends that actually care about you, and he's meeting new kids at his new school, and little by little he's warming up to them. But sometimes you need to outgrow certain people, and you're just too afraid. And the fifth one is what can I begin practicing today before my manifestation arrives? This is where you're no longer saying, like, God, when is it going to come? And now you start asking, God, how can I prepare? Okay. Once you can understand that. I'm telling you, everything continues to change. I have some workbooks in our school community that can help you with some of the frameworks that we've talked about today. So feel free to click on the show notes and join the school community. But if you take anything from this conversation, let it be that we need to stop asking God, when are you going to bless me? And we just need to really understand. Who do we need to become in order for us to be able to hold that blessing? So if nobody's told you this, remember that you are loved, you are worthy, and you can absolutely manifest anything you want. All right, I'll talk to you guys on the next one.