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Ep 66 "DREAM CHASERS" · We Talk Back

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  Speaker 1: We're just two unapologetically black women with an opinion who
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  Speaker 1: talk back.
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  Speaker 2: What's up, y'all? It's your girl, AJ. Welcome to our
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  Speaker 2: new episode of We Talk Back.
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  Speaker 1: Okay, high energy.
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  Speaker 2: I see you, AJ.
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  Speaker 1: What's up? I like that about you today.
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  Speaker 3: Look, but my iron kind of low, though. My energy
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  Speaker 3: feel low today.
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  Speaker 1: Damn, well, you don't sound like it. You don't sound
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  Speaker 1: like how you feel it on the inside. Hey, y'all,
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  Speaker 1: it's me, Tam Bam. I love y'all. Welcome back. I'm
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  Speaker 1: glad to have you here today. How was your weekend, AJ?
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  Speaker 2: I ain't did nothing. Girl, okay, first of all, let
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  Speaker 2: me tell you how about my weekend went.
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  Speaker 1: All right. So....
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  Speaker 2: Ain't a motherfucking T, bitch. I was about to make
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  Speaker 2: up some shit to appease y'all motherfuckers. Make it up, bitch.
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  Speaker 1: I'm so sick of you saying I ain't did nothing.
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  Speaker 2: Girl, I'm granny pussy, okay?
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  Speaker 1: Okay, granny pussy. Granny, my granny go out more than that.
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  Speaker 1: Granny P. I be in the house, bitch. Girl, just
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  Speaker 1: make up some shit.
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  Speaker 2: We know.
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  Speaker 1: I see y'all. I'm in her close friends. I seen
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  Speaker 1: her popping pussy on the handstand this weekend in her
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  Speaker 1: close friends.
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  Speaker 2: I'm sorry.
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  Speaker 3: Girl, I wish I might.
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  Speaker 2: The last time I was on my head like that, bitch,
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  Speaker 2: I might have been 13. Now, I don't have my
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  Speaker 2: neck fucked up a couple times over the years, but.
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  Speaker 1: This bitch got a bad neck. And some grown men.
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  Speaker 1: And TMJ, like, that dome piece all.
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  Speaker 2: Fucked up, ain't it? Hell yeah. What the fuck you
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  Speaker 2: had going on? Girl, I had COVID again, bitch. Oh,
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  Speaker 2: I forgot. I had COVID again. Because you acting so
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  Speaker 2: alive today. Your ass was definitely dead over the weekend. Oh, goodness.
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  Speaker 1: I was dead over the weekend. I felt so bad.
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  Speaker 1: That shit had my head on. Motherfucking throb. Couldn't a
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  Speaker 1: leave help it? I took a leave.
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  Speaker 2: I smoked some crack.
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  Speaker 1: Nothing worked.
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  Speaker 2: I took anything and everything to try to knock that
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  Speaker 2: headache out, baby.
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  Speaker 1: I was on the bathroom floor. On the black room floor, okay?
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  Speaker 1: But I feel so much better today. I'm so happy
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  Speaker 1: to still be here with y'all. Because that COVID ain't
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  Speaker 1: no joke. Speaking of that. And he's still out here.
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  Speaker 1: Speaking of that, rest in peace to K-Slave, man. You
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  Speaker 1: saw that?
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  Speaker 2: Oh, yeah. You know, I didn't realize he was still
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  Speaker 2: in the hospital. They said he'd been in there for
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  Speaker 2: like four months.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: I wonder if he had any pre-existing health issues. That's
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  Speaker 2: crazy as hell, man.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, that's sad, man. He was only, what, 55 years old?
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  Speaker 2: Yep. Yep. Niggas dying who ain't never even died before, man.
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  Speaker 1: Every time.
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  Speaker 2: Every time. Shit is wicked.
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  Speaker 1: Shit is real wicked. I'm so grateful to still be here.
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  Speaker 1: God chose me to stay another day. Thank you.
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  Speaker 2: You know evil never dies.
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  Speaker 1: Evil never dies. Dang. Is that how.
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  Speaker 2: You feel about your girl? Look, that's why I'm behind
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  Speaker 2: this bitch talking about 95. Rocking and rolling.
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  Speaker 1: Because you evil?
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  Speaker 2: Is that why?
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  Speaker 1: Is that why?
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  Speaker 2: Yep.
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  Speaker 3: See, I don't claim that.
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  Speaker 2: I embrace my light and dark side, okay?
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  Speaker 1: Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: It is what it is.
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  Speaker 1: I embrace my light and darkness too, but I wouldn't
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  Speaker 1: consider myself evil. I can be evil though.
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  Speaker 2: That's what I'm talking about. Like, I'm happy as long
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  Speaker 2: as you don't fuck with me.
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  Speaker 1: Oh, goodness.
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  Speaker 2: What's going on, man? What's going on in stupid internet news?
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  Speaker 1: So I saw that there was a survey that was conducted.
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  Speaker 1: So it says that motherfuckers is tired of their face
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  Speaker 1: being on the internet, basically. So the survey was conducted
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  Speaker 1: by NordVPN.com. A little more than 1,000 people in the U.S.,
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  Speaker 1: 18 and older, were asked about how they felt about
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  Speaker 1: the Internet. And according to PCMag, more than half of
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  Speaker 1: the respondents said they would totally delete themselves off the
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  Speaker 1: Internet if they could. About 47% said they don't trust
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  Speaker 1: the Internet. And 18% said they wish the Internet never existed.
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  Speaker 1: And 8% said they don't use the Internet at all.
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  Speaker 1: How do you feel about that? You want to, you
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  Speaker 1: fuck with it?
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  Speaker 2: Listen, I'm on social media. Instagram is mainly what I'm on.
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  Speaker 2: Instagram and Clubhouse. I got off Facebook like 12 years ago. And,
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  Speaker 2: you know, they be fucking nosy. Always asking where I
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  Speaker 2: work at, where I go to school at. Like, if
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  Speaker 2: I log on there to go to Facebook Market or
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  Speaker 2: something like that. They just asking all these questions. And
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  Speaker 2: it's like, for real, Facebook is like the World Wide Web.
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  Speaker 2: And they just got everybody... in this damn web. Right.
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  Speaker 2: And I don't want to be in a web. Like,
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  Speaker 2: I remember when Facebook, not Facebook, MySpace, like, went away.
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  Speaker 2: I tried to log into MySpace to delete my pictures
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  Speaker 2: off that shit, and it wouldn't let me. It's as if,
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  Speaker 2: you know, once you put your image on these sites,
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  Speaker 2: they own it. Right.
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  Speaker 1: And you agree to that when you sign up.
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  Speaker 2: Exactly.
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  Speaker 1: And nobody ever reads the agreement.
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  Speaker 3: Everybody just scrolls and says, I just.
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  Speaker 2: Want to fuck with this.
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  Speaker 3: So I'm going to sign. Everybody else doing it.
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  Speaker 1: Everybody's doing it.
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  Speaker 2: Now, I try not to put my real name online.
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  Speaker 2: So I'll use aliases all the time when I'm signing
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  Speaker 2: up for shit. I got a junk play email that's
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  Speaker 2: not connected to me in no type of way. That
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  Speaker 2: shit is assigned to a fucking Google number. I'm not
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  Speaker 2: fucking with it. I don't like it. I don't like it.
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  Speaker 2: I don't want to be Google-able. But I guess at
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  Speaker 2: this rate, we don't got no choice.
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  Speaker 1: Much like how we said about ourselves, I take the
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  Speaker 1: good and the bad that comes with the internet. Because,
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  Speaker 1: I mean, it does provide a lot of goodness to
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  Speaker 1: the earth, too. Right?
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  Speaker 2: Does it? Yeah. I feel like for black people in particular, like,
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  Speaker 2: the internet was like the worst shit that could have
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  Speaker 2: ever happened to us. Because white people actually get to
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  Speaker 2: now see us and see how the fuck we are
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  Speaker 2: and be in our business without actually seeing us. And
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  Speaker 2: without actually being around us. So they know like now
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  Speaker 2: how to manipulate things based on the type of shit
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  Speaker 2: we put online. So I don't know, man. I don't
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  Speaker 2: like it. Girl. Girl, the powers that be. They be
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  Speaker 2: watching your ass, girl.
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  Speaker 1: The white man is infiltrating the black community with the
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  Speaker 1: information that we posted on.
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  Speaker 2: What y'all don't know is, look, what y'all don't know
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  Speaker 2: is the white man is actually.
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  Speaker 3: The black man. They just don't look like, I mean,
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  Speaker 3: they look like us, but they ain't us.
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  Speaker 1: I don't know what the fuck AJ talking about.
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  Speaker 2: Girl! Wait till I really get this conspiracy segment going.
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  Speaker 2: I'm about to put y'all on game.
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  Speaker 1: I just feel like for me, I know like if
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  Speaker 1: I ever became like for real famous, it's some shit
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  Speaker 1: they gonna pull up that I done tweeted or some
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  Speaker 1: shit I'm saying right now on this motherfucker.
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  Speaker 2: That's definitely going to get me in some hot water.
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  Speaker 2: I already know. And I'm going to be just like Nene.
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  Speaker 2: I said what I said.
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  Speaker 1: In 2022, you said that. Pick some crazy shit, and
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  Speaker 1: they're going to break me over the coals about it.
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  Speaker 1: I don't care, though.
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  Speaker 3: Cancel culture only lasts for like two weeks.
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  Speaker 2: You be all right.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: That shit lasts for two fucking weeks.
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  Speaker 3: The best thing you can do is just not respond. Okay,
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  Speaker 3: don't respond.
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  Speaker 2: Let the shit blow over and then come back like
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  Speaker 2: ain't shit happened. But it's always going to be that
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  Speaker 2: one motherfucker in the comments like, bitch, we ain't forget.
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  Speaker 1: Right, we ain't forgot about those allegations against you, bitch. Damn,
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  Speaker 1: that was three weeks ago, hoe. Kanye done did some
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  Speaker 1: shit else to pay attention to.
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  Speaker 2: No.
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  Speaker 3: Where the fuck is Kanye? I'm concerned about him.
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  Speaker 1: Girl, I'm glad he's taking a seat because people was
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  Speaker 1: getting mad at our content.
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  Speaker 2: People was all in our reviews like, another Kanye day?
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  Speaker 2: As if everybody wasn't reporting on Kanye.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, but we was going ham on Kanye. I mean,
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  Speaker 1: I hope he's okay. It was fun.
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  Speaker 2: It was a lot going on.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, but the sad part is somebody's mental break was
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  Speaker 1: fun for our show.
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  Speaker 2: I don't think Kanye was having a mental break. No,
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  Speaker 2: I really don't. No, I don't think so. I don't
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  Speaker 2: think he was having a mental break, but did you
• 8:45
  Speaker 2: see Shaquille O'Neal was on that podcast, The Pivot. And
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  Speaker 2: you know, a couple of weeks, this damn Channing, what's
• 8:54
  Speaker 2: his name? Channing Crowder. Channing Crowder was the guy who
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  Speaker 2: said that Russell Wilson was a square, right? So now
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  Speaker 2: this week, They have Shaquille O'Neal on and he asked
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  Speaker 2: Shaquille O'Neal about his divorce from Shawnee O'Neal. And to me,
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  Speaker 2: it just sounded like he was trying to give Shaquille
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  Speaker 2: O'Neal an out. You know what I'm saying? As if
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  Speaker 2: this is the type of man who doesn't take accountability
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  Speaker 2: for shit.
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  Speaker 1: Right.
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  Speaker 3: You know what I'm saying?
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  Speaker 2: He was basically like, well, it was two people in
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  Speaker 2: a marriage, right? Like that wasn't all on you. And
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  Speaker 2: Shaquille O'Neal corrected him and said, you know what? No,
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  Speaker 2: it was on me because she was a good woman.
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  Speaker 2: She took care of my kids, even handled the business
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  Speaker 2: aspect of our lives. And I was fucking up, period.
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  Speaker 2: He took accountability. And that's what, and I'm not saying
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  Speaker 2: like women don't be coming with their bullshit because everybody
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  Speaker 2: has their thing, right? But what he said was he
• 9:45
  Speaker 2: wasn't protecting her. He wasn't protecting her. He wasn't protecting
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  Speaker 2: their vows. And I'm pretty sure protecting her, he means
• 9:52
  Speaker 2: like mental, mentally. Like you keep going through shit with
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  Speaker 2: a man Why am I supposed to stay? At what
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  Speaker 2: point do women leave right and he just was taking
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  Speaker 2: accountability for it like we know.
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  Speaker 1: That I'm sure Shani heard that and was like finally motherfucker.
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  Speaker 2: They friends though you see what I'm saying like he
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  Speaker 2: said that on several occasions like they good they friends
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  Speaker 2: like half their kids grown people now you know what
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  Speaker 2: I'm saying so what do they have to fret about
• 10:18
  Speaker 2: yeah But I'm.
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  Speaker 1: Sure, well, he probably said it to her already. I'm
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  Speaker 1: sure if he said it to the world, he's made
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  Speaker 1: those words to her.
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  Speaker 2: I like Shaq for that.
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  Speaker 1: Me too. I respect it. But it's always in hindsight
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  Speaker 1: that men see this kind of thing, you know? When
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  Speaker 1: they no longer got access to you. Not just men, people.
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  Speaker 1: We always see the error of our ways in hindsight,
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  Speaker 1: not in the moment. I don't want to just put
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  Speaker 1: that on men. Accountability. I can look back and be like, damn,
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  Speaker 1: you did that? Ew.
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  Speaker 2: Girl, get your shit together.
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  Speaker 1: You know?
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  Speaker 2: Shame.
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  Speaker 1: I'm here for Shaq. Shout out to Shaq, man. Oh!
• 11:06
  Speaker 1: May the Stallion dropped a new song at Coachella. it's
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  Speaker 1: called Use a Bitch and it samples Jodeci and Wu-Tang's Freakin'
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  Speaker 1: You remix. Did you hear that shit? Did y'all hear
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  Speaker 1: that shit?
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  Speaker 2: I heard it.
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  Speaker 3: You know, I like that for the young girls, okay?
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  Speaker 1: I like that for me in the gym when I'm
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  Speaker 1: trying to do these squats.
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  Speaker 2: In the gym.
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  Speaker 1: In these squats. Or when I'm mad.
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  Speaker 3: I like fuck nigga anthems.
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  Speaker 2: I do, but then I'm too fucking old for that shit.
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  Speaker 1: Why? You don't have to live by it. You just
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  Speaker 1: have to enjoy it while it's playing.
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  Speaker 2: Hey, look, I'm about to get deep again. The frequency
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  Speaker 2: of that fucking music can have you fucked up out here.
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  Speaker 1: Oh yeah, because yesterday, ooh, my attitude was bad. I
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  Speaker 1: woke up and I heard that song and I played
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  Speaker 1: it like three times. And you the bitch. Like I
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  Speaker 1: was all in the mirror, like pointing at the mirror
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  Speaker 1: and shit. Like fake flexing yourself. Fake flexing on a
• 12:03
  Speaker 1: nigga in the mirror. My energy was really, my frequency
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  Speaker 1: was low early in the day yesterday. That's the truth.
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  Speaker 2: You was acting stank.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, I had a stank ass attitude.
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  Speaker 2: I don't want to be like that.
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  Speaker 1: That's how I was. I ain't going to lie. But
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  Speaker 1: that song did have me like, I got my squat
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  Speaker 1: on yesterday. And I was like, I'm going to kill
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  Speaker 1: these hoes this summer. Well, I was squatting to that shit.
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  Speaker 2: Hey, look, I definitely be a whole drug dealer thing.
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  Speaker 2: Fucking drive-by type nigga when I'm in the gym.
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  Speaker 1: Right, listening to music. You don't have to live it.
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  Speaker 1: And that's the problem with young people. They don't know
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  Speaker 1: how to separate the music from their reality.
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  Speaker 2: It's just like TV.
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  Speaker 1: You watch a movie. You see Denzel talking about Pelican
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  Speaker 1: Bay ain't got shit on me. You don't want to
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  Speaker 1: go outside and shoot up a neighborhood because you see that, right?
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  Speaker 1: So why do we let the music influence us so much?
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  Speaker 2: I don't know. Because it's the frequency of the music.
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  Speaker 2: That's just what it is. It's just the actual fucking.
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  Speaker 1: Frequency coming through. The medium.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, I guess.
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  Speaker 3: It's the medium.
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  Speaker 2: Coming through the speakers. Yeah. That shit going to change
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  Speaker 2: your damn mood.
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  Speaker 1: It did. It really did that for me, but I
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  Speaker 1: enjoy every minute of it. But I did last night,
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  Speaker 1: I had to put on Indiaree and Erykah Badu to
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  Speaker 1: elevate my vibration.
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  Speaker 2: For real. Who the hell was she talking to in
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  Speaker 2: that song? What grown mag you calling the bitch mag?
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  Speaker 1: Who you think? I think it's still Tory Lanez. You
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  Speaker 1: think she was talking about him?
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  Speaker 3: But she said she kept taking Plan B pills.
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  Speaker 2: Well, okay, let's not assume the song's about anybody, but
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  Speaker 2: she was saying that shit with a lot of force.
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  Speaker 3: She had some shit to get off her damn chest.
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  Speaker 1: Nah, she said, this song is very, and I quote,
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  Speaker 1: this song is very motherfucking personal to me, and it's
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  Speaker 1: to whom it may the fuck concern, and I really
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  Speaker 1: feel like my ladies will fuck with me on this one,
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  Speaker 1: so drop that shit.
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  Speaker 2: You saw, oh boy.
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  Speaker 1: First off, fuck your bitch in the clique. That's how
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  Speaker 1: she came in there.
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  Speaker 2: You saw Tory Lanez in the damn club with all
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  Speaker 2: her damn enemies, basically.
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  Speaker 1: On purpose.
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  Speaker 2: Just whack.
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  Speaker 3: How y'all clicking up against a woman?
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  Speaker 2: Right.
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  Speaker 3: Is she bigger than all them?
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  Speaker 2: Make her probably Donkey Kong them niggas. That's the problem.
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  Speaker 2: Y'all got to team up to beat her. Shame. What
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  Speaker 2: about this guy who.
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  Speaker 1: On purpose. They did that.
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  Speaker 2: That wasn't a coincidence. Hell yeah. They probably called each
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  Speaker 2: other like, yeah, man. And then when we get there,
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  Speaker 2: we're going to take a photo op. We're going to
• 14:40
  Speaker 2: do a photo op. Yeah, you fucking right, photo op.
• 14:43
  Speaker 1: Right. Photo op. Tori, make sure you spray the top
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  Speaker 1: of your head in because we're going to get the
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  Speaker 1: whole thing.
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  Speaker 2: Let me stop.
• 14:54
  Speaker 1: Let me stop ball shaming him.
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  Speaker 2: I like bald heads. Me too. I'm sorry. I'm sorry, Tori,
• 15:01
  Speaker 2: about the bald head. How about light-skinned Keisha? Light-skinned Keisha
• 15:03
  Speaker 2: say she is leaving y'all bitches if she's in the
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  Speaker 2: club mid-turnup and her man call.
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  Speaker 3: You ain't with that?
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  Speaker 2: Girl, what if you meet the man of your fucking
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  Speaker 2: dreams and he just working late one night or, you know,
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  Speaker 2: out late? Like, he may not be out, right? But...
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  Speaker 2: all night in the club like you want to get
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  Speaker 2: back to him and he hit you up and be
• 15:26
  Speaker 2: like all right i'm heading home now where you at
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  Speaker 2: you ain't.
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  Speaker 1: Leaving so okay on a case by case basis but
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  Speaker 1: she said anytime if that nigga call her she leaving.
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  Speaker 2: No that's my man that's my man.
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  Speaker 1: And that's good but girl don't.
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  Speaker 2: Leave i'm out i'd be like okay if you that
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  Speaker 2: bitch that's gonna leave every time Yeah, I've never done that.
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  Speaker 1: When you mad, don't call me about that nigga. Don't
• 15:51
  Speaker 1: call me because you mad at the next time.
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  Speaker 3: What you doing?
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  Speaker 1: I want to get out. No, bitch, fuck you.
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  Speaker 2: Where's your man?
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  Speaker 1: Stay your ass at home with him. Bitter tonight.
• 16:06
  Speaker 2: My man. You said that was pick-me behavior. I felt
• 16:11
  Speaker 2: like it was giving pick-me, like, But she already picked, though.
• 16:15
  Speaker 2: She wouldn't be with her man who picked her.
• 16:17
  Speaker 1: She wouldn't, like, just not have an identity because you
• 16:21
  Speaker 1: got a man. You don't have an identity outside of
• 16:24
  Speaker 1: your man. Like, you can't be with your friends and
• 16:27
  Speaker 1: solidify that relationship. That relationship is important. I feel like
• 16:31
  Speaker 1: my friendships are just as important as my relationship with
• 16:34
  Speaker 1: my man.
• 16:35
  Speaker 2: Absolutely.
• 16:36
  Speaker 1: So I don't want to, you know, I don't know.
• 16:41
  Speaker 1: You know, I ain't got no man. Maybe if I
• 16:43
  Speaker 1: get a nigga, I might change my mind, bitch.
• 16:45
  Speaker 2: I don't know. Yeah, we might not even see your ass, bitch.
• 16:46
  Speaker 2: You getting a super healthy relationship. Right.
• 16:48
  Speaker 3: Ain't nobody going to see that.
• 16:50
  Speaker 1: But anybody, like, honestly, when you're in a super healthy relationship,
• 16:54
  Speaker 1: you spend a lot of time with that person anyway
• 16:56
  Speaker 1: outside of your friends. So once you do come with
• 16:59
  Speaker 1: your friends, I'm not going to just up and leave
• 17:01
  Speaker 1: because you call and.
• 17:02
  Speaker 2: Tell them what you're doing. I ain't having fun without you.
• 17:05
  Speaker 1: Nigga, well, turn on something on the TV. I'll be back.
• 17:13
  Speaker 3: I like to be on the couch with a man
• 17:14
  Speaker 3: me too I.
• 17:15
  Speaker 1: Love that but if I choose to be with my
• 17:16
  Speaker 1: friends then that's where I'm at till it's done because
• 17:19
  Speaker 1: they're important in my life too and she talking about
• 17:23
  Speaker 1: I guess alright if you in the club too y'all
• 17:25
  Speaker 1: bitches don't come with no dick though I can't Ashley
• 17:28
  Speaker 1: I already told you.
• 17:29
  Speaker 2: It's not a problem I do not want to make
• 17:33
  Speaker 2: love in the club with a bitch.
• 17:37
  Speaker 1: Why you got to make love all the time? Let
• 17:39
  Speaker 1: that nigga go to sleep. He'll be there when you
• 17:41
  Speaker 1: get there. No. Wake him up when you get home.
• 17:46
  Speaker 1: Let him cater to you. When I come home late,
• 17:49
  Speaker 1: tap you on your shoulder, you roll over. Let that
• 17:53
  Speaker 1: nigga do that.
• 17:54
  Speaker 2: All right, y'all.
• 17:55
  Speaker 3: Let's pay some bills.
• 17:55
  Speaker 2: We'll be right back. Okay, we done talking about men
• 18:03
  Speaker 2: for the day, y'all.
• 18:04
  Speaker 1: I'm done talking about men for this week.
• 18:07
  Speaker 2: I thought you said you was done for 2022.
• 18:09
  Speaker 1: I said I was done having sex for 2022.
• 18:12
  Speaker 2: Oh, you getting all meals, though.
• 18:18
  Speaker 3: Calling all meals.
• 18:19
  Speaker 1: No, I'm just chilling, for real. I don't want to...
• 18:23
  Speaker 1: I mean, I feel like I have to talk about
• 18:25
  Speaker 1: their ass again since I got this show, but I
• 18:27
  Speaker 1: ain't got to fuck with them. Period. That's it. That's it.
• 18:32
  Speaker 1: I need a break. Let's talk about something outside of
• 18:35
  Speaker 1: these niggas. And let's talk about chasing your dream. We
• 18:41
  Speaker 1: all got a dream. Especially, I feel like, as Americans,
• 18:44
  Speaker 1: we are afforded a life where we get to dream.
• 18:47
  Speaker 1: Some places, I don't even know kids that talk about
• 18:49
  Speaker 1: having dreams or, you know, shit like that. So, I
• 18:55
  Speaker 1: found this list of 10 mistakes to avoid when chasing
• 18:59
  Speaker 1: your dream. And I think this is something good to
• 19:01
  Speaker 1: share with our listeners, right?
• 19:05
  Speaker 2: Yeah, hell yeah. Because we all here chasing dreams.
• 19:09
  Speaker 1: Right.
• 19:09
  Speaker 2: Right now.
• 19:10
  Speaker 1: So the first thing is letting discouragement overwhelm you. Now,
• 19:17
  Speaker 1: I know I've done that, where I feel like somebody
• 19:22
  Speaker 1: will like, try to play whatever I'm talking about or
• 19:25
  Speaker 1: what I think about, or like say somebody already doing that.
• 19:29
  Speaker 1: Like I want to start this bread company, bitch. Everybody's
• 19:32
  Speaker 1: selling bread.
• 19:33
  Speaker 2: You know, not. They don't got this bread.
• 19:36
  Speaker 1: That's the attitude you have to have. But I have
• 19:39
  Speaker 1: had like been discouraged by some, something simple as that.
• 19:47
  Speaker 1: Something somebody said or they're, inability to think big. Have you?
• 19:53
  Speaker 1: Of course.
• 19:54
  Speaker 2: Yeah. You know, I've been writing a book literally for
• 19:56
  Speaker 2: a decade.
• 19:58
  Speaker 1: And, you know, I have my intro. I got a
• 20:00
  Speaker 1: couple of chapters written.
• 20:02
  Speaker 2: And anytime like I have sent something to somebody, if
• 20:06
  Speaker 2: they don't respond in a certain way, I get discouraged.
• 20:08
  Speaker 1: Right. Yeah, little shit like that.
• 20:10
  Speaker 2: I'm like, is it not good?
• 20:10
  Speaker 1: Well, get in your head.
• 20:12
  Speaker 2: Yes. I'm like, damn, is it not good? Right. You
• 20:17
  Speaker 2: ain't read what I read? I thought it was fire. Right.
• 20:19
  Speaker 1: Like, what the fuck? But we got to stop doing
• 20:23
  Speaker 1: that shit. Don't let discouragement overwhelm you. It's a part
• 20:27
  Speaker 1: of the process. So it says, take the risk. Are
• 20:31
  Speaker 1: you going to be scared?
• 20:32
  Speaker 2: Yes.
• 20:32
  Speaker 1: You'll be petrified. Remember, it's not going to be a
• 20:36
  Speaker 1: straight path. Take many steps and be consistent with your work.
• 20:40
  Speaker 1: Even if you don't reach the goal you've set, you'll learn, grow,
• 20:43
  Speaker 1: and perhaps even find new opportunities through the process of
• 20:47
  Speaker 1: stretching yourself. Believe in yourself and the possibility of your
• 20:50
  Speaker 1: dreams coming true without letting discouragement rob you of the
• 20:54
  Speaker 1: faith you have in yourself. Boom. So number two, denying
• 20:59
  Speaker 1: your current situation. Hold on, let's go back to one.
• 21:02
  Speaker 2: Because, you know, sometimes people be having more faith in
• 21:05
  Speaker 2: me than I actually have in myself.
• 21:07
  Speaker 1: And that's okay.
• 21:08
  Speaker 2: And that motivates me.
• 21:09
  Speaker 1: And that's okay, too. And that's great to have those kind.
• 21:11
  Speaker 2: Of people in your face.
• 21:12
  Speaker 3: Like, people think I'm a superhuman sometimes.
• 21:14
  Speaker 2: I be like, yeah, that's me. And then in real life,
• 21:17
  Speaker 2: I'm like, man, I'm fucking lazy. And hold on, I
• 21:21
  Speaker 2: missed a little piece. They said something about being consistent.
• 21:24
  Speaker 2: That's my problem. Consistency.
• 21:26
  Speaker 1: That's a lot. You're not alone. There's a lot of
• 21:30
  Speaker 1: us in that boat. It's definitely a level.
• 21:32
  Speaker 3: Look, I'm being honest with myself and y'all today, y'all.
• 21:34
  Speaker 1: Yeah, me too.
• 21:35
  Speaker 2: Fuck it.
• 21:36
  Speaker 1: Number two, denying your current situation. If your current situation
• 21:42
  Speaker 1: is not ideal, don't live in denial. If you do,
• 21:46
  Speaker 1: you won't be able to deal with the obstacles you're
• 21:48
  Speaker 1: currently facing. Doing nothing won't change your situation or bring
• 21:52
  Speaker 1: you any closer to your dreams. Before long, you will
• 21:55
  Speaker 1: hit the wall and crash and possibly fall into a depression. Ooh.
• 22:00
  Speaker 2: Boom. Girl, who the fuck they talking to? You.
• 22:06
  Speaker 1: Me. Everybody listening. All right. Instead, accept the situation you're
• 22:10
  Speaker 1: in and work towards changing it. You have more power
• 22:14
  Speaker 1: than you realize. Trust and believe in yourself. However small
• 22:19
  Speaker 1: the change happens, be grateful.
• 22:22
  Speaker 2: Yes.
• 22:23
  Speaker 1: Gratitude. That's the number one thing.
• 22:26
  Speaker 2: Yep. Yeah, the work is the process. You know, people
• 22:31
  Speaker 2: always be waiting for the finishing product, but the finish
• 22:34
  Speaker 2: is actually the process while you're going through it.
• 22:37
  Speaker 1: Right.
• 22:38
  Speaker 2: You know what I'm saying? It's no ending.
• 22:39
  Speaker 1: Right.
• 22:40
  Speaker 2: The whole shit is a process.
• 22:41
  Speaker 1: It's the journey, yeah.
• 22:43
  Speaker 2: Yes.
• 22:44
  Speaker 1: So, three, dwelling on the past.
• 22:48
  Speaker 2: That's my problem.
• 22:49
  Speaker 1: I live there.
• 22:49
  Speaker 2: Me too. Listen to this.
• 22:51
  Speaker 1: Holding on to a painful past will fill you with
• 22:54
  Speaker 1: doubts when you're trying to pursue your dreams. You won't
• 22:58
  Speaker 1: be able to handle obstacles that arise, and you'll spend
• 23:01
  Speaker 1: your energy on worries and regret. You'll be afraid to
• 23:05
  Speaker 1: make decisions because of past experiences. You'll hold yourself back
• 23:10
  Speaker 1: from claiming opportunities when they arise. So let the past
• 23:14
  Speaker 1: be gone, but cling to the good memories. And when
• 23:17
  Speaker 1: things are rocky, look at the past and smile. Let
• 23:20
  Speaker 1: the bad be a learning experience. Let learning produce growth
• 23:23
  Speaker 1: and let growth bring you closer to your goal.
• 23:28
  Speaker 2: So I am, and I can admit this, I am
• 23:32
  Speaker 2: a bit pessimistic. I dwell on the past.
• 23:40
  Speaker 1: Bitch, I remember one.
• 23:41
  Speaker 3: Day I was on the phone with my friend and
• 23:42
  Speaker 3: she was like.
• 23:44
  Speaker 2: I'm like asking for feedback on the shit that I'm talking, right?
• 23:47
  Speaker 2: And she was like, you know, you've told me this
• 23:49
  Speaker 2: like a lot of times. Because in order to tell
• 23:52
  Speaker 2: you the current situation, I got to go back and
• 23:55
  Speaker 2: tell you all the shit, you know, in chronological order.
• 23:57
  Speaker 1: That's how I got to this place, right?
• 23:59
  Speaker 2: Yes, how I got to this place. But what you're
• 24:01
  Speaker 2: doing is, if it's trauma that you're experiencing during this conversation,
• 24:05
  Speaker 2: you're reliving it over and over again. So don't not
• 24:10
  Speaker 2: not talk about it. You got to talk about the things.
• 24:13
  Speaker 2: But You got to forgive yourself. If you got to
• 24:15
  Speaker 2: forgive somebody else, do that. My problem, I do hold grudges.
• 24:19
  Speaker 2: And I know that about myself. I be holding grudges.
• 24:22
  Speaker 2: But I feel like I'm working on it. I have
• 24:27
  Speaker 2: released a lot of anguish behind certain situations because I
• 24:31
  Speaker 2: did feel like it was hindering me. And that's a
• 24:35
  Speaker 2: fucking process too.
• 24:36
  Speaker 1: Right.
• 24:36
  Speaker 2: Because, you know, maybe I wanted to smack a motherfucker
• 24:38
  Speaker 2: and I didn't get the opportunity to. Now I'm mad
• 24:40
  Speaker 2: about it still. Out of all the examples you could
• 24:46
  Speaker 2: have just used, that was the one you chose. I
• 24:49
  Speaker 2: regret not smacking that nigga. It wasn't about a man, okay? Look, wink, wink,
• 24:57
  Speaker 2: what the fuck?
• 24:59
  Speaker 1: So, I read something yesterday about letting... The past hurts
• 25:06
  Speaker 1: of your life. Just be like water between your fingers.
• 25:09
  Speaker 1: And once it rolls through, it's gone forever. You can't
• 25:12
  Speaker 1: bring it back. And just let it go.
• 25:14
  Speaker 2: Yeah, I think people, period, we need to be more
• 25:17
  Speaker 2: like water. Yeah. And just flow. And just move. And just,
• 25:22
  Speaker 2: you know, shit.
• 25:23
  Speaker 1: Shit gonna happen.
• 25:24
  Speaker 2: Right. Roll with the punches. Like, literally.
• 25:26
  Speaker 1: I think we as black people roll with the punches
• 25:28
  Speaker 1: more than anybody, though. You don't think so?
• 25:31
  Speaker 2: Yes.
• 25:31
  Speaker 1: But probably not as far as our mental.
• 25:32
  Speaker 3: It'd be too many fucking punches, man.
• 25:34
  Speaker 1: Our mental health is concerned. We probably could do better.
• 25:37
  Speaker 3: But we also laugh at things.
• 25:39
  Speaker 2: Yeah. So that's a little stressful.
• 25:40
  Speaker 1: But people trying to take laughter away from you. Like,
• 25:44
  Speaker 1: you can't laugh. You are not allowed to laugh at
• 25:47
  Speaker 1: anybody else's problems. But the shit be funny sometimes. Like....
• 25:55
  Speaker 2: If we can't, like, that's what made... I know I
• 25:57
  Speaker 2: laugh at all shit. I don't got no business laughing
• 25:59
  Speaker 2: at all the time.
• 26:00
  Speaker 1: I mean, that's a part of life. I mean, you know,
• 26:03
  Speaker 1: it's just not funny when it's your go, right? When
• 26:07
  Speaker 1: they be talking like... Because I know, like, right here
• 26:08
  Speaker 1: on my temple, my edges is kind of thin right here.
• 26:11
  Speaker 1: And when niggas make edges jokes, I be mad at them.
• 26:14
  Speaker 2: Well, fuck you, motherfucker. I bet your mama bald-headed too, bitch. Jesus.
• 26:20
  Speaker 2: All that.
• 26:23
  Speaker 1: And then that ain't funny. No Ed shaming. Then no
• 26:26
  Speaker 1: Ed shaming, right? But when it's something else, when we
• 26:29
  Speaker 1: talk about like a nigga is impotent and somebody cutting
• 26:33
  Speaker 1: jokes about that, I be in there like, that nigga
• 26:36
  Speaker 1: dick don't rise. You don't laugh as hard as hell. Yo,
• 26:46
  Speaker 1: you're so stupid.
• 26:48
  Speaker 2: Okay, let me relax.
• 26:50
  Speaker 1: Number four, we can't take shit serious.
• 26:52
  Speaker 2: Like, I don't want to. Yeah, me neither. I'm childish, okay?
• 26:57
  Speaker 1: For life.
• 26:59
  Speaker 2: Procrastinating, number four. Let me say that again for y'all. Girl,
• 27:02
  Speaker 2: why are they talking about me like that?
• 27:04
  Speaker 1: Procrastinating. Procrastinating.
• 27:07
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 27:10
  Speaker 1: For y'all in the back. Procrastinating.
• 27:13
  Speaker 3: I don't even do the shit I be wanting to do.
• 27:16
  Speaker 1: Right.
• 27:18
  Speaker 2: It's really bad when you don't do shit that you
• 27:21
  Speaker 2: actually want to do.
• 27:23
  Speaker 1: You're not alone. It's a lot of us.
• 27:24
  Speaker 2: All right.
• 27:25
  Speaker 1: So it says time wasted cannot be recovered. It's just
• 27:28
  Speaker 1: like a river. Once you touch the water flowing past you,
• 27:32
  Speaker 1: it will never flow back towards you again. Do what
• 27:35
  Speaker 1: you're supposed to do when it's supposed to be done.
• 27:38
  Speaker 2: Okay. So at the beginning of this year, I was saying,
• 27:47
  Speaker 2: I'm going to do what I say I'm going to do, right?
• 27:51
  Speaker 2: Because when somebody asks something of me, I always show
• 27:53
  Speaker 2: up for them. Like, no matter what it is, like,
• 27:56
  Speaker 2: I mean, if I don't want to do some shit,
• 27:57
  Speaker 2: I don't have, no is a complete statement. I'm not
• 27:59
  Speaker 2: scared to tell anybody no. But I usually show up
• 28:02
  Speaker 2: for other people before I show up for myself. So
• 28:04
  Speaker 2: what if you do that for yourself, though? Whatever you
• 28:07
  Speaker 2: say you're going to do, do it.
• 28:09
  Speaker 1: Right.
• 28:09
  Speaker 2: That's how you get things done daily.
• 28:11
  Speaker 1: Right.
• 28:12
  Speaker 2: Even if, you know, maybe you need to write it down. Like,
• 28:14
  Speaker 2: I feel like I might need to start writing down
• 28:17
  Speaker 2: things I need to do. That's what I was going
• 28:18
  Speaker 2: to tell you. I'm going to start updating our calendar
• 28:20
  Speaker 2: so we can have actual goals.
• 28:23
  Speaker 1: And prioritize it.
• 28:24
  Speaker 2: Yeah. Exactly. Like, that's how we're going to get to
• 28:28
  Speaker 2: our goals. Writing them down. Seeing them.
• 28:31
  Speaker 3: Visualizing them. You know, even if you got to do a.
• 28:34
  Speaker 2: This is the first year I ever did a vision board.
• 28:37
  Speaker 2: Why are you always finishing my damn sentences?
• 28:40
  Speaker 1: Because I'm in your head.
• 28:44
  Speaker 2: This is the first year I ever did a vision board,
• 28:46
  Speaker 2: and I got it as a screensaver on my phone.
• 28:49
  Speaker 2: However unrealistic it may be, whatever you want in life,
• 28:53
  Speaker 2: put that shit on the goddamn board.
• 28:54
  Speaker 1: Who decides what's unrealistic for you but you?
• 28:59
  Speaker 2: Dog let me tell you what the fuck on there.
• 29:04
  Speaker 1: I do have some unrealistic shit on my damn why
• 29:07
  Speaker 1: do you feel like it's unrealistic you what's the nigga
• 29:10
  Speaker 1: from Lovecraft country the actor oh that the one with
• 29:16
  Speaker 1: the real wide nose that nigga fine as hell yes
• 29:20
  Speaker 1: he on your vision board who says you can't have
• 29:23
  Speaker 1: him bitch Look, I.
• 29:25
  Speaker 2: Could probably have him or someone that looks like him.
• 29:27
  Speaker 2: Jonathan Majors. Yes, Jonathan Majors. I want him.
• 29:31
  Speaker 1: I think he's in a movie with, um he's in
• 29:35
  Speaker 1: this movie with coming out with um Michael Michael B.
• 29:40
  Speaker 1: Jordan bitch both of them in a movie together I
• 29:44
  Speaker 1: yes I like him better than Michael yeah he was
• 29:47
  Speaker 1: out there with his shirt off and I don't know
• 29:49
  Speaker 1: what was going on but I knew that I was
• 29:51
  Speaker 1: gonna see that movie as soon.
• 29:52
  Speaker 2: As it came out oh he just looks so godly
• 29:55
  Speaker 2: and like He just looked like so manly. Yes, he
• 29:59
  Speaker 2: looked so masculine and manly. I just know God is
• 30:03
  Speaker 2: real when I look at him. He got on that.
• 30:08
  Speaker 1: Big old white bell pepper nigga nose.
• 30:10
  Speaker 2: Ooh, I love it!
• 30:12
  Speaker 1: I'm proud as hell.
• 30:16
  Speaker 2: Yeah, but I got that grown man on my goddamn
• 30:19
  Speaker 2: vision board.
• 30:22
  Speaker 1: I don't see the problem. I don't see what's unrealistic.
• 30:24
  Speaker 1: He's just another human being.
• 30:26
  Speaker 2: Thank you, Fran.
• 30:28
  Speaker 1: All right. So let's hit the next one. Neglecting your body.
• 30:33
  Speaker 1: Don't forever forget to take care of your body. Treat
• 30:37
  Speaker 1: it like a temple. If you don't, you will get
• 30:40
  Speaker 1: sick mentally and physically. And this will prevent you from
• 30:43
  Speaker 1: working towards your goal. However hard you work and take
• 30:47
  Speaker 1: time off to exercise. And don't forget to eat healthy foods.
• 30:51
  Speaker 1: Don't starve yourself. Don't forget to pray. It'll nourish your
• 30:56
  Speaker 1: soul and give you inner peace. Take care of your bodies, guys,
• 31:00
  Speaker 1: you know?
• 31:00
  Speaker 2: Exactly. So, I mean, I feel like all of these
• 31:03
  Speaker 2: things kind of run together. I know we're only on
• 31:05
  Speaker 2: the fifth topic anyway. But buy some nice gym clothes.
• 31:10
  Speaker 2: If you're trying to lose weight and you want to
• 31:12
  Speaker 2: go to the gym, buy some nice gym clothes. That
• 31:15
  Speaker 2: kind of motivates you to go to the gym when
• 31:16
  Speaker 2: you're looking good in the gym too. Like, it's just,
• 31:20
  Speaker 2: you know.
• 31:21
  Speaker 1: Yeah, I agree.
• 31:21
  Speaker 2: Don't be up in there with that big stretched out
• 31:23
  Speaker 2: white t-shirt.
• 31:23
  Speaker 1: Old t-shirt on.
• 31:25
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 31:25
  Speaker 1: But you know what? If that's all you got to wear, bitch,
• 31:27
  Speaker 1: go in there and get in shape and whatever you
• 31:29
  Speaker 1: got to. Oh, that too.
• 31:31
  Speaker 2: Yeah, that too.
• 31:32
  Speaker 1: But if you can get you some cute stuff, get
• 31:34
  Speaker 1: you some cute stuff. That do make you feel better.
• 31:39
  Speaker 1: But I definitely done been in Planet Fitness. I got
• 31:41
  Speaker 1: in the best shape of my life in a big
• 31:43
  Speaker 1: ass Planet Fitness t-shirt. I made sure I was covered up.
• 31:46
  Speaker 1: I didn't even want to be bothered by nobody.
• 31:49
  Speaker 2: Girl, I remember one time I was so serious about
• 31:51
  Speaker 2: my goddamn health. I was wearing those, like the plastic.
• 31:55
  Speaker 1: I can't stand the rain.
• 31:57
  Speaker 2: Yes. Bitch, I was in there sweating. Getting extra fine.
• 32:01
  Speaker 2: And what happened after you get extra fine? You fucking
• 32:04
  Speaker 2: stopped doing all the shit. Fat again. You stopped doing
• 32:07
  Speaker 2: all the things that led you to getting extra fine.
• 32:10
  Speaker 1: Because it has to be a lifestyle change and that's
• 32:12
  Speaker 1: the hard part. Yep.
• 32:16
  Speaker 2: Yep. So take care of your diet. Make sure you're
• 32:19
  Speaker 2: eating the right foods. I know. Listen.
• 32:21
  Speaker 1: And introduce that shit to your kids early, man. So
• 32:24
  Speaker 1: they grow up with it already as a lifestyle because
• 32:28
  Speaker 1: I wasn't raised in no household where people was exercising.
• 32:32
  Speaker 2: Yeah. So then now when you get to be an adult,
• 32:34
  Speaker 2: it's like a real like reset thing.
• 32:36
  Speaker 1: Yeah. You got to reset.
• 32:37
  Speaker 2: And it's hard.
• 32:39
  Speaker 3: What was I about to say about the diet?
• 32:42
  Speaker 2: So, yeah, I don't eat meat like that.
• 32:43
  Speaker 1: Right.
• 32:44
  Speaker 2: So y'all see chicken is like, what? How much chicken?
• 32:47
  Speaker 2: Like $ 50 a pack now? Y'all niggas don't want to
• 32:49
  Speaker 2: stop eating meat yet?
• 32:50
  Speaker 1: Nope.
• 32:53
  Speaker 2: Lamb chops, like $ 60.
• 32:54
  Speaker 3: What else y'all be eating?
• 32:56
  Speaker 2: Them oxtails, all that bullshit.
• 32:58
  Speaker 1: Oxtails high as fuck right now, too. I was like,
• 33:02
  Speaker 1: $ 28 for a box of oxtails, bitch?
• 33:06
  Speaker 2: Hamburger meat. All that stuff is expensive, man.
• 33:09
  Speaker 1: I got an oxtail meal from this restaurant. It was
• 33:11
  Speaker 1: $ 28 from the Jamaican spot. That was a lot. Half
• 33:16
  Speaker 1: a box of rice? Half the box is full of
• 33:19
  Speaker 1: motherfucking beans and rice. And three art sales on there
• 33:23
  Speaker 1: for $ 28. I'm like, man, y'all tripping.
• 33:25
  Speaker 2: I'm planning on starting me a garden soon.
• 33:28
  Speaker 1: Oh, that'd be nice.
• 33:29
  Speaker 2: Where are you, Jodi, mama, from, baby boy? I don't
• 33:34
  Speaker 2: know if y'all have been paying attention to logistics, like
• 33:37
  Speaker 2: the truckers and stuff like that. paying attention to what's
• 33:40
  Speaker 2: going on with Mexico and stuff. Have you noticed that
• 33:42
  Speaker 2: your fruits and vegetables be going bad real fast? That's
• 33:45
  Speaker 2: because they probably been sitting on a highway in a
• 33:47
  Speaker 2: fucking truck for a week before it even got to
• 33:49
  Speaker 2: your local grocery store. So we about to be at
• 33:52
  Speaker 2: the point where we need to be growing our own food.
• 33:55
  Speaker 2: So I've been looking for like a local, like somebody
• 34:00
  Speaker 2: I could buy like seedlings, like was kind of already sprouted.
• 34:06
  Speaker 3: Because I mean, I've never, I can't make shit grow.
• 34:09
  Speaker 2: I'm going to just be honest.
• 34:10
  Speaker 3: And I really be trying because I feel like it's.
• 34:12
  Speaker 2: On a real live. My mama makes shit grow. You
• 34:16
  Speaker 2: make shit grow. And I feel like it's her. Shut up.
• 34:18
  Speaker 2: You so damn stupid.
• 34:22
  Speaker 3: Not in that way.
• 34:22
  Speaker 2: Yes, I could definitely make it grow.
• 34:25
  Speaker 1: I can grow hair. Except for in that spot right there.
• 34:28
  Speaker 1: I can grow other people hair. But my plant, I
• 34:32
  Speaker 1: bought me a money plant.
• 34:33
  Speaker 2: That shit is dead.
• 34:37
  Speaker 3: Whole Foods got them on sale right now.
• 34:39
  Speaker 2: Oh, I'm going to go buy another one. That's where
• 34:41
  Speaker 2: I got the first one from. Yeah, but I want
• 34:42
  Speaker 2: to get me some seedlings, man. I want to get
• 34:44
  Speaker 2: me some seedlings and start a little garden. That's nice.
• 34:47
  Speaker 2: Take your vitamins.
• 34:49
  Speaker 1: Yeah, take your vitamins.
• 34:50
  Speaker 3: Get a multivitamin.
• 34:50
  Speaker 1: Sea moss is good for your body.
• 34:52
  Speaker 2: Chlorophyll.
• 34:53
  Speaker 1: How do you feel about... I do chlorophyll.
• 34:56
  Speaker 2: Me too.
• 34:57
  Speaker 1: I do chlorophyll. Black seed oil.
• 34:59
  Speaker 2: Yeah. I do black seed oil. Yep.
• 35:01
  Speaker 1: What about collodio silver? I don't know if I'm saying
• 35:04
  Speaker 1: that right.
• 35:05
  Speaker 2: Yeah, I haven't purchased any of that.
• 35:07
  Speaker 1: I do. I do use that, but it's iffy.
• 35:10
  Speaker 2: I don't know a lot about it.
• 35:12
  Speaker 1: Someone told me to start taking it and I trust her.
• 35:14
  Speaker 2: So I did. So last, well, not last week, two
• 35:17
  Speaker 2: weeks ago, I did go get some Botox or Dysport, whatever,
• 35:22
  Speaker 2: in my forehead and it didn't fucking take. It did.
• 35:25
  Speaker 1: But I did go.
• 35:26
  Speaker 2: No, it didn't.
• 35:27
  Speaker 3: Like, you can't see me for.
• 35:28
  Speaker 1: Real, girl. I just saw you the other day.
• 35:31
  Speaker 2: Well, it's back regular now, so it didn't take. All
• 35:34
  Speaker 2: I got is two extra pimples on my damn forehead.
• 35:36
  Speaker 2: But the last vitamin I bought was MSM. Y'all can
• 35:39
  Speaker 2: go research this. It's real good for your joints, your hair,
• 35:42
  Speaker 2: your skin. It helps with the elasticity in your skin.
• 35:48
  Speaker 2: It's a good vitamin to add to your regimen.
• 35:53
  Speaker 3: Just to put that out there.
• 35:55
  Speaker 1: MSM. MSM. Mama, Sierra, Mama.
• 36:01
  Speaker 2: Okay.
• 36:01
  Speaker 1: Got it. I'm going to check that one out. Thank
• 36:03
  Speaker 1: you for that tidbit. All right, back to our list.
• 36:07
  Speaker 1: Number six, waiting for help to chase you.
• 36:10
  Speaker 2: I don't like asking for help. No, no.
• 36:15
  Speaker 1: Most people don't. So knock on doors. Will doors be
• 36:19
  Speaker 1: shut on you? Sure. More than you can count. Sometimes
• 36:22
  Speaker 1: we ask for help anticipating getting in our way. Sorry,
• 36:26
  Speaker 1: it doesn't work that way. If doors close, go in
• 36:29
  Speaker 1: through the window. If that means changing the course of
• 36:32
  Speaker 1: your plan, please do so. Change will not mean losing
• 36:36
  Speaker 1: your dream. So, y'all, don't be afraid to need help.
• 36:42
  Speaker 1: Because you never know who might want to support your
• 36:45
  Speaker 1: shit and help you get to the next level.
• 36:48
  Speaker 2: Yep.
• 36:49
  Speaker 1: Number seven. Taking it personally when people judge you. That
• 36:56
  Speaker 1: one is huge for me.
• 36:59
  Speaker 2: I don't be giving a fuck.
• 37:00
  Speaker 1: Not just random people. People you love. Yeah. It's the
• 37:05
  Speaker 1: people I care about or their opinions I feel like
• 37:07
  Speaker 1: I care about. That's when I be feeling the way.
• 37:10
  Speaker 1: Even though I love all y'all listening to the show.
• 37:14
  Speaker 1: If one of y'all motherfuckers in the comments like, Tam
• 37:17
  Speaker 1: Bam is fucking stupid and I hate what she has
• 37:20
  Speaker 1: to say, I'd be like, Bitch, I don't care.
• 37:26
  Speaker 2: I don't care, hoe.
• 37:30
  Speaker 1: But it is someone that I admire, I love, and
• 37:34
  Speaker 1: they pass judgment on me.
• 37:35
  Speaker 2: I do take it very personally.
• 37:38
  Speaker 1: So it says here, They will judge you by how
• 37:41
  Speaker 1: you look, what you eat, how you live. When people judge,
• 37:46
  Speaker 1: it has more to do with their own fears and
• 37:48
  Speaker 1: insecurities than you. Turn a deaf ear to these judgments.
• 37:52
  Speaker 1: Feel proud of the journey you're taking.
• 37:56
  Speaker 2: Okay, I got a quick story. So a couple weeks ago,
• 38:01
  Speaker 2: my ex sent me a text message and he said,
• 38:05
  Speaker 2: I saw an old picture of you today. Man, I'm sorry. Like, what?
• 38:14
  Speaker 2: It's a whole long ass message. But essentially what he
• 38:17
  Speaker 2: was saying was to me, how I interpret it. You
• 38:21
  Speaker 2: saw an old picture of me. At that point, I
• 38:24
  Speaker 2: had been chunky AJ, skinny AJ, whatever.
• 38:29
  Speaker 3: You know what I'm saying?
• 38:30
  Speaker 2: So basically, you're using that image to justify how I
• 38:36
  Speaker 2: responded in the past to you being nasty to me?
• 38:40
  Speaker 2: As if I had the problem? When somebody says crazy
• 38:43
  Speaker 2: shit to you, it definitely has more to do with
• 38:46
  Speaker 2: them than you.
• 38:47
  Speaker 1: All the time. He said, I saw a picture of you.
• 38:51
  Speaker 2: I'm sorry. Yeah. He said, I'm sorry, man. As if
• 38:55
  Speaker 2: he didn't understand why I would trip about certain things,
• 38:58
  Speaker 2: it was because of this fucking fat picture?
• 39:01
  Speaker 3: You know how many skinny pictures I got?
• 39:03
  Speaker 2: How many fat pictures I got? What are we talking about?
• 39:07
  Speaker 2: I was so confused by it. And look, but listen,
• 39:11
  Speaker 2: but you know, I'm always on a diet. I'm always
• 39:14
  Speaker 2: like trying to be as conscious as I can about
• 39:17
  Speaker 2: my health.
• 39:18
  Speaker 3: That same, like maybe not that same day.
• 39:20
  Speaker 2: A couple of days later, you drove down here and
• 39:22
  Speaker 2: drop chocolate on my, on my porch.
• 39:25
  Speaker 1: Why are you trying to sabotage me?
• 39:27
  Speaker 2: Like you dropped all the chocolate shit I like. Chocolate
• 39:30
  Speaker 2: covered almonds. Those little chocolates with the gold shit around it. Like,
• 39:36
  Speaker 2: why the fuck would you bring that after telling me
• 39:38
  Speaker 2: that you saw a fucking fat picture of me somewhere?
• 39:41
  Speaker 1: Girl, I wouldn't eat nothing from that nigga.
• 39:44
  Speaker 3: Girl, I've been fucking tearing them almonds up, bitch.
• 39:50
  Speaker 1: So that's the thing.
• 39:51
  Speaker 2: You always say you on a diet. You ain't always
• 39:53
  Speaker 2: on a diet.
• 39:55
  Speaker 3: And that's what I'm saying.
• 39:56
  Speaker 2: Like, I feel like he was trying to sabotage me
• 39:58
  Speaker 2: because the flesh is weak. And in my part, I
• 40:04
  Speaker 2: love sweets. I love, love, love fresh baked goods and chocolate.
• 40:08
  Speaker 1: AJ be eating his dessert. I don't know. It's not American.
• 40:11
  Speaker 2: I don't know where the fuck she gets this from.
• 40:13
  Speaker 1: But it looked like a fucking football with a line
• 40:17
  Speaker 1: of icing down the middle, right?
• 40:19
  Speaker 2: What the fuck is that? Where is that from? It's
• 40:23
  Speaker 2: from the Asian market in Charlotte, from Super G Mart.
• 40:26
  Speaker 2: They got an Asian bakery in there. Girl, that stuff
• 40:29
  Speaker 2: is so good.
• 40:29
  Speaker 1: Girl, you know all the motherfucking facts.
• 40:32
  Speaker 2: All the good fat shit. I love it.
• 40:38
  Speaker 3: Listen, I love bread, man.
• 40:40
  Speaker 2: That's a problem. I feel like I started eating more bread.
• 40:42
  Speaker 2: When I stop eating meat. That's very common, though. Because
• 40:45
  Speaker 2: you know, like, a lot of people who are vegans
• 40:48
  Speaker 2: or vegetarians, they are on the thicker side because they
• 40:51
  Speaker 2: eat more carbs to substitute for what they're probably missing
• 40:55
  Speaker 2: with meat. Yeah, so I took that text very personally, child.
• 40:59
  Speaker 2: It fucked my whole weekend up. Don't let that nigga
• 41:01
  Speaker 2: fuck your weekend up. My whole weekend, girl. Like, I'm just,
• 41:06
  Speaker 2: I woke up feeling like I'm that bitch. And then
• 41:09
  Speaker 2: I get, like, a damn long-ass fucking text message. Yeah.
• 41:13
  Speaker 1: But I feel like what you're doing right now is
• 41:16
  Speaker 1: number eight. And that's what I'm about to cut you
• 41:19
  Speaker 1: off so you can hear it. Number eight, dwelling on
• 41:23
  Speaker 1: the negative. It is impossible to only focus on the positive,
• 41:28
  Speaker 1: but dwelling on the negative all the time is like
• 41:30
  Speaker 1: a bomb waiting to explode. Your thoughts will hold you
• 41:34
  Speaker 1: hostage from making progress and your mind will be filled
• 41:37
  Speaker 1: with doubt. Allow yourself to feel the negative. Cry if
• 41:42
  Speaker 1: you have to, but don't let it take over you.
• 41:45
  Speaker 1: Releasing your negative feelings will leave you at peace and
• 41:48
  Speaker 1: you will be able to focus on the positive, even
• 41:50
  Speaker 1: in tough times. A positive attitude will help you decide
• 41:54
  Speaker 1: the best strategy for achieving your goals. So let that
• 41:58
  Speaker 1: nigga roll like the water between your fingers. Fuck him
• 42:01
  Speaker 1: and everything he had to say about you and your
• 42:03
  Speaker 1: old pictures. Fuck them old pictures, however you look. You
• 42:07
  Speaker 1: look like how you look right now. You find this
• 42:09
  Speaker 1: hell friend. Period.
• 42:11
  Speaker 2: Period.
• 42:14
  Speaker 1: My mama said stop saying period.
• 42:17
  Speaker 2: Why?
• 42:17
  Speaker 1: She said stop saying that.
• 42:21
  Speaker 2: Period. But meditation. That's what I got out of that.
• 42:29
  Speaker 2: Meditation will help you not dwell on negative things. Because
• 42:32
  Speaker 2: your mind just be so clear. And you know when
• 42:35
  Speaker 2: a negative thing does come. I guess it's like really,
• 42:39
  Speaker 2: like you have to really practice. You have to really
• 42:41
  Speaker 2: practice dodging negative shit.
• 42:43
  Speaker 1: Right.
• 42:44
  Speaker 2: You know what I'm saying? Like, may it just be like, okay,
• 42:47
  Speaker 2: out of a day, right, you got two negative things.
• 42:49
  Speaker 2: If you just discarded and ignored one of them, you
• 42:52
  Speaker 2: did good.
• 42:53
  Speaker 1: Right.
• 42:54
  Speaker 2: Okay, you did good.
• 42:55
  Speaker 1: But if you find a way to focus on all
• 42:58
  Speaker 1: the positive things that happen, I don't know how we
• 43:00
  Speaker 1: let the negative shit be more important than the positive
• 43:03
  Speaker 1: shit that happens to us.
• 43:04
  Speaker 2: I think it's because, I think it's just this realm
• 43:07
  Speaker 2: that we're on. This world is negative. The world we're
• 43:10
  Speaker 2: living in is negative. So I think when you have
• 43:13
  Speaker 2: negative thoughts, they manifest quicker because we're in a negative
• 43:17
  Speaker 2: fucking universe. Like shit is negative in this world.
• 43:19
  Speaker 1: See, I don't feel that way.
• 43:21
  Speaker 2: I don't, I mean, I do.
• 43:22
  Speaker 1: I feel like there's a lot of negative in this world,
• 43:24
  Speaker 1: but I feel like equally there is goodness in this world.
• 43:27
  Speaker 1: And that's what I focus on. I don't focus on that.
• 43:30
  Speaker 1: I don't get, you know, there's a lot of good people.
• 43:33
  Speaker 1: I like, you are a great person. Do you know that?
• 43:38
  Speaker 2: Sometimes.
• 43:39
  Speaker 1: More times than not, you're a great person.
• 43:42
  Speaker 2: Thank you, friend. You too.
• 43:45
  Speaker 1: No, I've been meditating and I really feel like I
• 43:48
  Speaker 1: be opening up my third eye, y'all. Now, I wasn't
• 43:50
  Speaker 1: going to tell y'all this because I ain't want y'all,
• 43:52
  Speaker 1: y'all know y'all be like, bitch, you ain't got but
• 43:54
  Speaker 1: two eyes. But I really do be like, I be
• 43:57
  Speaker 1: feeling like, like this. Oh, I be, it make me.
• 44:01
  Speaker 2: Euphoria?
• 44:01
  Speaker 1: Yeah, it makes me cry. I'll be in there and
• 44:04
  Speaker 1: I'll have, you know, my eyes closed and I'll just
• 44:07
  Speaker 1: be sitting and I'll even have like the sounds from outside.
• 44:10
  Speaker 1: Just whatever. It's maybe not so much music, but. Just
• 44:14
  Speaker 1: whatever is around me can just be whatever it is.
• 44:17
  Speaker 1: And I really be feeling like I have this white
• 44:20
  Speaker 1: light that starts shining really, really brightly over me. No lie, y'all.
• 44:25
  Speaker 1: I be feeling it. And it'll just feel like, even
• 44:28
  Speaker 1: if there's a light in the room, maybe, I don't
• 44:30
  Speaker 1: know because my eyes are closed, but it feel like
• 44:32
  Speaker 1: it just got so much brighter for whatever reason. Yeah.
• 44:34
  Speaker 2: And you start seeing, without dark, you wouldn't know what
• 44:38
  Speaker 2: light is. And that's what you're seeing.
• 44:39
  Speaker 1: What do you mean?
• 44:42
  Speaker 3: Without the darkness, you wouldn't even know what light is.
• 44:45
  Speaker 2: Right. So with your eyes closed like that and you
• 44:47
  Speaker 2: seeing that white light, like that's the healing.
• 44:51
  Speaker 1: And I can see it and it just gets so
• 44:53
  Speaker 1: bright and overwhelming. And then like everything that I hear
• 44:56
  Speaker 1: is like it exists and it don't exist at the
• 45:00
  Speaker 1: same time. Like I don't even know how to describe it,
• 45:03
  Speaker 1: but it's just so euphoric. And I'll be like so
• 45:06
  Speaker 1: overwhelmed with gratitude and just so overcome with gratefulness. And
• 45:11
  Speaker 1: I just start crying and shit. Shit is magical. So
• 45:16
  Speaker 1: if y'all don't meditate, y'all should start.
• 45:19
  Speaker 2: For real. It's hard for people to meditate. It's hard
• 45:22
  Speaker 2: to get out your thoughts with your eyes closed. Just
• 45:24
  Speaker 2: do five minutes a day. Start with one minute. And literally,
• 45:27
  Speaker 2: you don't even have to close your eyes sometimes.
• 45:29
  Speaker 3: Like sometimes I don't even close my eyes to meditate.
• 45:31
  Speaker 2: My eyes be wide open.
• 45:32
  Speaker 1: Right.
• 45:33
  Speaker 3: And just like, but my brain is focused.
• 45:37
  Speaker 1: I typically have my eyes closed every time. I don't
• 45:39
  Speaker 1: think I've ever had that. That exact feeling that I'm
• 45:43
  Speaker 1: talking about, I've only felt it three times in my life.
• 45:45
  Speaker 1: And every time I felt it, my eyes were definitely closed.
• 45:50
  Speaker 1: But I know like, wait, monks, they definitely meditate with
• 45:53
  Speaker 1: their eyes open too. Yep.
• 45:56
  Speaker 2: And they do chants. Have you ever tried doing chants
• 46:00
  Speaker 2: and stuff like that? You can download them on Apple
• 46:01
  Speaker 2: Music and stuff.
• 46:02
  Speaker 1: The only chant I ever do is when I'm mad
• 46:05
  Speaker 1: at a nigga, I'll be like, Nam-myoho-renge-kyo.
• 46:07
  Speaker 2: Nam-myoho-renge-kyo.
• 46:08
  Speaker 3: But you think that's going to curse him or something?
• 46:10
  Speaker 1: I don't know. That's just how I've seen Tina do it.
• 46:12
  Speaker 1: I'll be like, girl, you're fucking, I'm about to get
• 46:14
  Speaker 1: struggled up to punch you in your shit in just
• 46:17
  Speaker 1: a minute.
• 46:17
  Speaker 2: But that's not what that's for.
• 46:18
  Speaker 1: No, I'm joking.
• 46:19
  Speaker 2: You're so damn stupid. Numb your whole radio and kill
• 46:24
  Speaker 2: all you niggas. Dummy.
• 46:33
  Speaker 1: All right, number nine. Comparing yourself to others. This is
• 46:38
  Speaker 1: another huge one. Let me say it again.
• 46:40
  Speaker 2: That's social media right there, boy.
• 46:42
  Speaker 1: Comparing yourself to others. Comparison leads to jealousy and envy.
• 46:48
  Speaker 1: It can kill friendships if it's not tame. Celebrate the
• 46:51
  Speaker 1: success of others instead of being jealous. Let them know
• 46:54
  Speaker 1: you admire them. Turn the focus on what you have
• 46:58
  Speaker 1: instead of what you don't have and be grateful for it.
• 47:01
  Speaker 2: So with social media culture and all that stuff, it's
• 47:04
  Speaker 2: really easy for people to slip into the comparison mode.
• 47:07
  Speaker 1: Right.
• 47:08
  Speaker 3: You know what I'm saying? Like you comparing your life
• 47:10
  Speaker 3: to somebody else's.
• 47:12
  Speaker 1: Right. But not even... Go ahead.
• 47:15
  Speaker 2: I get motivated. I guess... When you see somebody doing well,
• 47:19
  Speaker 2: either you're going to hate on it or you're going
• 47:21
  Speaker 2: to appreciate it and be inspired. I'm going to be
• 47:24
  Speaker 2: the latter. I'm always inspired when I see somebody else
• 47:27
  Speaker 2: doing better than me or doing something like I'm aspiring
• 47:30
  Speaker 2: to do. I'm motivated by that all the time.
• 47:34
  Speaker 1: I'm motivated when I see people doing better than me,
• 47:36
  Speaker 1: but instead of feeling jealousy or envy, sometimes I feel
• 47:40
  Speaker 1: like I'm not doing enough or I'm not enough. That's
• 47:44
  Speaker 1: what I feel. I don't necessarily feel like... why does
• 47:48
  Speaker 1: she have that instead of me? Like, I don't feel
• 47:50
  Speaker 1: that shit. I'll just, you know, I'll just feel like,
• 47:55
  Speaker 1: have this bad feeling about myself, like, hmm, why am
• 48:00
  Speaker 1: I not enough? I felt, I don't feel like that now,
• 48:03
  Speaker 1: but I felt that way, like, when I see somebody
• 48:05
  Speaker 1: having something that I want that I don't have yet.
• 48:08
  Speaker 1: I don't never feel like, fuck her with her.
• 48:13
  Speaker 2: Nah, man, when I see somebody, it's always confirmation for
• 48:16
  Speaker 2: me that I can do that too. That's just all
• 48:19
  Speaker 2: it is. It's confirmation for me that it can be done.
• 48:22
  Speaker 1: Right. Now, but when I was younger, I would doubt.
• 48:27
  Speaker 1: That's what would happen when I compared myself to others.
• 48:30
  Speaker 1: It would be self-doubt instead of jealousy and envy. Not
• 48:34
  Speaker 1: so much no more.
• 48:35
  Speaker 2: Yeah, stop comparing yourself to people, especially Instagram people. Y'all
• 48:38
  Speaker 2: don't know what the hell these people, these celebrities got
• 48:40
  Speaker 2: going in real life. Because a lot of that shit
• 48:41
  Speaker 2: only can be real. Yeah, they living in debt. You
• 48:44
  Speaker 2: know what I'm saying? They're living off credit cards. There's
• 48:46
  Speaker 2: nothing wrong with that shit. I don't want to put
• 48:47
  Speaker 2: nothing in my personal name either. But they're not living
• 48:51
  Speaker 2: what y'all see. A lot of them are on the gram,
• 48:55
  Speaker 2: keeping up with the Joneses to dress up for y'all ass.
• 48:57
  Speaker 1: And the gram life is more important than their real
• 49:00
  Speaker 1: actual existence. Yeah. And that's not cool. Listen, I've definitely,
• 49:04
  Speaker 1: and y'all bitches done did this before too. Y'all have
• 49:07
  Speaker 1: been out with someone. And y'all just sitting there, it's boring.
• 49:11
  Speaker 1: And when they pull out their phone and start recording,
• 49:14
  Speaker 1: you like, hey, yeah. Like you having a good time,
• 49:18
  Speaker 1: but you really ain't. As soon as the camera go away,
• 49:20
  Speaker 1: y'all go back to not doing shit.
• 49:22
  Speaker 3: As soon as my man call. My man, my man.
• 49:27
  Speaker 3: As soon as my nigga call him out.
• 49:31
  Speaker 2: Like Keisha. Yes, don't do that. Comparison is a dream killer. Yes.
• 49:39
  Speaker 3: And it's really detrimental to your mental health.
• 49:41
  Speaker 1: Right. You are enough. Your dreams are good enough. What
• 49:45
  Speaker 1: you want to be is good enough. If you want
• 49:48
  Speaker 1: to fuck with that nigga Majors, the Majors nigga, you
• 49:52
  Speaker 1: can fuck with him if you want. You can have
• 49:55
  Speaker 1: everything you want.
• 49:57
  Speaker 3: No, I'm not saying I can't fuck with that nigga.
• 49:59
  Speaker 3: I know it's attainable, but will I ever run.
• 50:01
  Speaker 2: Into this nigga?
• 50:02
  Speaker 1: Manifest it.
• 50:05
  Speaker 2: He on the board. And like along with this fucking
• 50:09
  Speaker 2: oceanfront mansion.
• 50:10
  Speaker 1: Right. And you can have that too.
• 50:13
  Speaker 3: And Barbados because that's where I'm going.
• 50:16
  Speaker 2: And you can have that too. Yeah, I'm going to
• 50:18
  Speaker 2: have that.
• 50:19
  Speaker 1: And anybody listening, you can have the things you want too.
• 50:22
  Speaker 1: Just go get it. I believe in you. All right,
• 50:25
  Speaker 1: number 10. Trying to get approval for your dream. Your
• 50:30
  Speaker 1: dream is a vehicle and you're the driver. Don't let
• 50:33
  Speaker 1: the passengers map the road for you. Stop trying to
• 50:37
  Speaker 1: win over the people who don't believe in you and
• 50:39
  Speaker 1: criticize you. Only seek help from those who support your
• 50:43
  Speaker 1: mission and encourage you because they will cheer you along
• 50:46
  Speaker 1: the way.
• 50:48
  Speaker 2: That's period.
• 50:50
  Speaker 1: Oh, let me finish this. Hold fast to your dream.
• 50:53
  Speaker 1: Gear up to fight the storms. Keep the banner shining.
• 50:57
  Speaker 1: Never give up and never get in. Stand up and
• 51:00
  Speaker 1: face that fear, baby. Your dream is counting on you.
• 51:03
  Speaker 1: Do you believe you can pursue it? And as long
• 51:07
  Speaker 1: as you can believe it, you can have it.
• 51:09
  Speaker 2: Y'all, this is written by a black woman, Ann Davis
• 51:12
  Speaker 2: from tinybuddha.com.
• 51:14
  Speaker 1: Right. Thank you, Ann Davis. This was a dope little
• 51:17
  Speaker 1: article for us to share with our listeners.
• 51:19
  Speaker 3: Yeah, I'm going to reread it later because you can't
• 51:21
  Speaker 3: read neither.
• 51:23
  Speaker 1: I bet y'all read that good. Did y'all understand? Y'all listen.
• 51:27
  Speaker 2: Hit us up if y'all think Tam read that good
• 51:29
  Speaker 2: because she be getting on my ass. Listen, I can
• 51:31
  Speaker 2: admit that I can't fucking read.
• 51:33
  Speaker 1: Girl, we still be on three right now.
• 51:36
  Speaker 2: Wake up your motherfucking ass.
• 51:39
  Speaker 1: I don't even know if I got a dream no
• 51:41
  Speaker 1: more waiting on AJ to read this shit.
• 51:42
  Speaker 2: Let me tell you, but if I sit down and
• 51:45
  Speaker 2: write some shit, baby, you're going to think, you're going
• 51:48
  Speaker 2: to think, I don't know, whoever wrote that shit, you're
• 51:50
  Speaker 2: going to think somebody for real wrote this job. I
• 51:52
  Speaker 2: got time to concentrate.
• 51:53
  Speaker 1: Well, if y'all couldn't understand what the fuck I said,
• 51:56
  Speaker 1: then y'all could go read it y'allself at tinybooter.com. And
• 52:01
  Speaker 1: the article is 10 Mistakes to Avoid When Chasing Your
• 52:04
  Speaker 1: Dream by Ann Davis. Y'all check it out.
• 52:07
  Speaker 2: Or y'all can go look back at it when you
• 52:09
  Speaker 2: feeling discouraged. Yeah.
• 52:12
  Speaker 3: I mean, we all can, to see this put into words.
• 52:17
  Speaker 2: Is dope.
• 52:18
  Speaker 1: Right. Right.
• 52:18
  Speaker 2: Because these are all the, all the things, the, the
• 52:22
  Speaker 2: mental language, the different procrastinating, all these different things we
• 52:25
  Speaker 2: go through, but you don't really put a label on
• 52:27
  Speaker 2: it when we're doing it.
• 52:28
  Speaker 1: Right.
• 52:29
  Speaker 2: But this makes you, each time you read something, I
• 52:34
  Speaker 2: just thought about what the hell I'm doing.
• 52:36
  Speaker 1: Right. And your own life that aligns with that. Yeah, absolutely. Absolutely.
• 52:40
  Speaker 2: A lot of changes. A lot of changes can be made.
• 52:44
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 52:45
  Speaker 3: I know I'm full of shit.
• 52:46
  Speaker 2: I've been working on it.
• 52:47
  Speaker 1: Yeah, we all are.
• 52:49
  Speaker 2: We all full of shit. And look, the first step
• 52:54
  Speaker 2: to recovery is admitting that shit. Okay. That's why I
• 52:57
  Speaker 2: can definitely be full of shit.
• 52:59
  Speaker 1: Dang, I wanted to say Future said that he's not toxic.
• 53:02
  Speaker 1: It's the women that he was dating. You seen that?
• 53:06
  Speaker 3: Yeah, he said they were all toxic towards him.
• 53:11
  Speaker 1: And that's what I thought about the first step. Admitting
• 53:15
  Speaker 1: the problem. It ain't everybody else now. They might have
• 53:19
  Speaker 1: a hand in it.
• 53:20
  Speaker 3: Seven other women?
• 53:21
  Speaker 1: They might have a hand in it, but God damn it.
• 53:23
  Speaker 2: Where is the accountability? If y'all don't know what we're
• 53:27
  Speaker 2: talking about, just right quick, this is so off topic
• 53:30
  Speaker 2: from all this great shit we just shared.
• 53:32
  Speaker 3: And here we go, ending the great shit and talking.
• 53:34
  Speaker 1: About a nigga right quick. Yeah, let's not even talk.
• 53:36
  Speaker 2: About that nigga. No, I want to talk about it
• 53:37
  Speaker 2: right quick. Fuck that.
• 53:39
  Speaker 1: No, I want to talk about that nigga next week.
• 53:41
  Speaker 2: Because, you know, I love to hate future ass. But
• 53:44
  Speaker 2: the one word that stuck out, so he did an
• 53:48
  Speaker 2: interview with Julia Fox, right? The one word that stuck
• 53:51
  Speaker 2: out was girl. She asked him if he wanted more kids.
• 53:55
  Speaker 2: And he said, yeah, if I get married, I want
• 53:58
  Speaker 2: like three more because I've never had more than one
• 54:01
  Speaker 2: child with the same girl. The same, he's childish. He's
• 54:08
  Speaker 2: just childish. The same girl. I mean, that may not
• 54:12
  Speaker 2: be a big thing, but it's a woman. These are
• 54:14
  Speaker 2: grown women lives you playing with. The kids are girls.
• 54:18
  Speaker 2: These are grown adult women. You're a grown adult man.
• 54:23
  Speaker 2: Making these fucking childish ass mistakes over and over again.
• 54:27
  Speaker 1: Maybe he thinking he a boy. Maybe he thinking he's
• 54:29
  Speaker 1: only speaking in terms of gender and not. But there's
• 54:32
  Speaker 1: probably like some underlying shit to that.
• 54:36
  Speaker 2: And that's what I'm picking up on. Are you picking
• 54:38
  Speaker 2: up what I'm dropping? Because that's exactly what I'm saying.
• 54:42
  Speaker 2: Like he needs to grow up. That's just it. There's
• 54:44
  Speaker 2: no way y'all think we want a future of a
• 54:48
  Speaker 2: Russell Wilson type man. No way.
• 54:52
  Speaker 1: But there are women who might. But I don't think
• 54:55
  Speaker 1: in a serious way, right?
• 54:57
  Speaker 2: How old is that young girl he was dating? She's
• 54:59
  Speaker 2: a young girl. Yes. She's in her early 20s. You
• 55:04
  Speaker 2: know what I'm saying?
• 55:04
  Speaker 1: I'm so proud of her for not getting pregnant by him.
• 55:08
  Speaker 1: And who else? The one before that. The one that's
• 55:11
  Speaker 1: with Michael B. Jordan now.
• 55:13
  Speaker 2: Yeah, like these are young women.
• 55:15
  Speaker 1: They getting smarter though.
• 55:17
  Speaker 2: These are young women. You know, grow up. Stand up.
• 55:22
  Speaker 2: You weak in the knees. Stand up. So now just
• 55:29
  Speaker 2: to get back on topic, y'all. I think everybody should
• 55:33
  Speaker 2: check out this article. Me and Tam, we just wanted
• 55:36
  Speaker 2: to do something a little bit different aside from talk
• 55:38
  Speaker 2: about these niggas. We still ended up talking about these niggas.
• 55:40
  Speaker 2: But it's cool.
• 55:40
  Speaker 3: I got a lot of these men.
• 55:44
  Speaker 2: But we got a lot of goals we're trying to
• 55:46
  Speaker 2: share for the show, for our personal lives.
• 55:49
  Speaker 3: And I feel like for us, this article.
• 55:52
  Speaker 2: It helps us with business and it helps us in
• 55:54
  Speaker 2: our personal life as well.
• 55:55
  Speaker 1: Yeah, definitely hit home. And I hope it hit home
• 55:57
  Speaker 1: for some of y'all too. And I hope it helps
• 55:59
  Speaker 1: you to be motivated and encouraged to go reach these goals,
• 56:04
  Speaker 1: ladies and gentlemen.
• 56:06
  Speaker 2: Yes. Check your diet. Check your mental health. Check your thoughts.
• 56:11
  Speaker 2: Get them thoughts together, man.
• 56:13
  Speaker 1: Meditate. Pray.
• 56:14
  Speaker 2: Eat clean. You are what you thinketh. Mm-hmm. And you
• 56:21
  Speaker 2: are what you eat. And you are who you beat.
• 56:24
  Speaker 2: So watch the penis that you're consuming too.
• 56:27
  Speaker 1: All of that. Yes, Sadie.
• 56:29
  Speaker 2: So listen, if you guys enjoyed this episode, please tune
• 56:32
  Speaker 2: in every Thursday on the iHeartRadio app or wherever the
• 56:35
  Speaker 2: fuck you get your podcasts at. This is your co-host,
• 56:37
  Speaker 2: AJ Holiday 2.0. Holla.
• 56:40
  Speaker 1: And it's me, OfficialTayMam on Instagram. Y'all follow me, please.
• 56:44
  Speaker 1: I love y'all. See y'all next time.
• 56:46
  Speaker 2: God willing. Deuces.
• 56:47
  Speaker 1: Bye.