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Nanny 911 - Because Brats Are Not Born, They're Made · Other Peoples Parenting

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  Welcome
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  back
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  to
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  Other
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  people's
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  Parenting,
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  where
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  we
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  read
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  parenting
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  books
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  and
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  review
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  them
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  for
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  you.
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  I'm
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  Skylar
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  Hurwitz,
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  amateur
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  parent,
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  and
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  this
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  is
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  my
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  mom,
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  Karen
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  Quinn,
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  New
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  York
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  Times
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  best
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  selling
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  author
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  and
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  founder
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  of
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  Habit
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  Coach
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  and
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  Testing
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  Mom.
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  Hello,
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  mom.
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  Hello,
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  Skylar.
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  Today
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  we
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  will
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  be
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  reviewing
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  Nanny911.
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  You
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  might
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  be
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  familiar
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  with
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  their
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  very
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  popular
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  TV
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  show.
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  They
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  also,
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  FYI,
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  have
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  have
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  a
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  book,
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  teen.
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  On
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  a
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  scale
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  of
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  readability
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  from
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  scientist
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  to
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  parent,
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  what
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  would
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  you
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  rate
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  this
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  book?
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  Well,
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  from
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  scientist
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  to
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  parent,
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  it's
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  not
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  a
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  very
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  scientific
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  book.
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  So
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  you
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  don't
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  have
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  to
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  worry
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  about
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  there
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  being
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  too
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  many
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  charts
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  and
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  studies.
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  Actually,
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  there
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  are
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  very
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  few.
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  There
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  are
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  a
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  lot
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  of
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  pictures.
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  There
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  are
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  lots
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  of
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  pictures
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  pulled
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  directly.
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  From
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  their
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  TV
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  show.
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  That's
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  right.
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  They're
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  grainy,
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  they're
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  not
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  very
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  good.
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  They're
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  confusing.
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  They're
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  framed
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  really
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  strangely.
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  Yes,
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  yes,
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  all
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  of
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  the
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  above.
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  But
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  it's
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  a,
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  you
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  know,
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  it's
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  a
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  book
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  that
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  has
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  a
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  lot
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  of
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  good
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  nuggets
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  in
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  it,
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  but
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  you
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  kind
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  of
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  have
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  to
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  look
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  for
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  those
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  nuggets.
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  They're
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  not
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  quite
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  as
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  easy
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  to
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  find
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  as
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  I
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  might
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  have
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  liked.
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  But
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  it's
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  a
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  readable
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  book.
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  It
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  really
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  is.
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  Yes,
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  it
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  is
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  a
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  readable
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  book.
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  Right.
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  So
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  here
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  is
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  the
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  book.
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  I
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  will
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  put
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  it
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  over
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  here.
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  Ta
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  da.
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  To
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  be
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  admired.
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  To
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  be
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  admired
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  by
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  people.
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  These
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  are
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  the
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  two
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  nannies
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  who
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  star.
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  On
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  the
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  show,
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  Nanny
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  Deb
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  and
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  Nanny
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  Stella.
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  That's
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  right.
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  Right.
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  That's
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  right.
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  And
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  you
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  know,
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  it's
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  funny,
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  I
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  picked
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  this
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  book
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  because
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  I
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  kind
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  of
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  thought
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  it
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  would
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  be
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  a
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  little
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  bit
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  of
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  a
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  lark.
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  This
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  is
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  a
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  television
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  show
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  that
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  I
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  used
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  to
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  watch.
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  It's
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  the,
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  the
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  show's
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  over
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  20
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  years
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  old.
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  It
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  must,
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  the
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  book
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  must
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  have
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  come
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  out
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  towards
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  the
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  end
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  of
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  the
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  show's
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  run.
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  And
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  I
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  used
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  to
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  really
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  enjoy
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  was
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  a
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  lot
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  like
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  HGTV
• 1:49
  shows
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  that
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  I
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  watched
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  today
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  where,
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  you
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  know,
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  you
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  walk
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  with
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  hgtv,
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  you
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  walk
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  into
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  a
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  house,
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  it's
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  a
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  mess.
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  The
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  designer
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  comes
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  in,
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  fix
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  it,
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  there's
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  a
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  reveal,
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  they're
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  perfect.
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  The
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  house
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  looks
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  perfect.
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  It's
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  the
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  same
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  here.
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  The
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  family
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  is
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  a
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  mess.
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  Everything's
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  out
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  of
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  control.
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  The
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  nannies
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  come
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  in,
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  they
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  do
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  their
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  magic,
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  they
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  teach
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  the
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  parents
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  things,
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  and
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  next
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  thing
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  you
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  know,
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  the
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  kids
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  are
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  perfect.
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  And
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  it's
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  like
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  a
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  complete
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  redecoration
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  of
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  a
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  family.
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  Yes,
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  that's
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  what
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  it
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  is,
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  a
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  redecoration
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  of
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  a
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  family.
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  Indeed.
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  One
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  common
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  theme
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  I
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  noticed
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  both
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  from
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  the
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  book
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  and
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  from
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  the
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  few
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  episodes
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  I
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  watched,
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  is
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  that
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  there's
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  a
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  pattern.
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  And
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  that
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  pattern
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  is
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  typically
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  one
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  Parent,
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  typically,
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  the
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  mom
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  is
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  fully
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  invested
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  in
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  child
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  rearing
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  and
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  is
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  taking
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  on
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  all
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  the
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  stress,
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  all
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  of
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  the
• 2:42
  labor,
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  and
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  is
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  basically
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  deeply
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  unappreciated.
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  And
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  the
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  dad
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  sort
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  of,
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  like,
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  comes
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  in
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  and
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  out.
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  He's
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  like,
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  oh,
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  I.
• 2:52
  I
• 2:52
  would
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  rather
• 2:53
  be
• 2:53
  at
• 2:53
  work
• 2:54
  than
• 2:54
  disciplining
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  my
• 2:55
  child.
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  And
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  there's,
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  like,
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  a
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  child
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  swinging
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  from
• 2:58
  a
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  chandelier
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  and
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  another
• 3:00
  child,
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  like,
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  with
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  a
• 3:01
  samurai
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  sword
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  at
• 3:02
  the
• 3:03
  neck
• 3:03
  of
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  the
• 3:03
  family
• 3:03
  dog.
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  That's
• 3:04
  right.
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  And
• 3:05
  you're
• 3:05
  just
• 3:05
  like,
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  who
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  is
• 3:07
  this
• 3:07
  man
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  coming
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  in
• 3:09
  and
• 3:09
  out,
• 3:09
  this
• 3:10
  stranger
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  and
• 3:11
  this
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  poor,
• 3:12
  poor
• 3:12
  woman?
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  Get
• 3:13
  her
• 3:13
  a
• 3:14
  lawyer.
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  Well,
• 3:15
  yeah,
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  I
• 3:16
  mean,
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  I
• 3:17
  know.
• 3:17
  I
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  kind
• 3:18
  of
• 3:18
  thought
• 3:19
  the
• 3:20
  nannies
• 3:20
  didn't
• 3:20
  do
• 3:21
  the
• 3:21
  greatest
• 3:21
  job
• 3:21
  when
• 3:22
  it
• 3:22
  came
• 3:22
  to,
• 3:22
  like,
• 3:23
  talking
• 3:24
  to
• 3:24
  the
• 3:24
  father
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  about
• 3:26
  becoming
• 3:26
  more
• 3:26
  involved
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  and
• 3:27
  helping
• 3:27
  her.
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  I
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  think
• 3:28
  because
• 3:28
  they
• 3:28
  got
• 3:28
  the
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  sense,
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  and
• 3:29
  rightfully
• 3:30
  so.
• 3:30
  I
• 3:30
  got
• 3:31
  a
• 3:31
  similar
• 3:31
  sense
• 3:31
  that
• 3:31
  the
• 3:32
  fathers
• 3:32
  were
• 3:32
  simply
• 3:32
  not
• 3:33
  that
• 3:33
  invested.
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  And
• 3:34
  it's
• 3:34
  probably
• 3:35
  honestly
• 3:35
  just
• 3:35
  the
• 3:35
  fathers
• 3:36
  on
• 3:36
  this
• 3:36
  show.
• 3:37
  I
• 3:37
  know
• 3:37
  plenty
• 3:37
  of
• 3:37
  wonderful
• 3:38
  fathers
• 3:38
  who
• 3:38
  are
• 3:39
  very
• 3:39
  invested
• 3:39
  in
• 3:39
  rearing
• 3:40
  their
• 3:40
  children.
• 3:41
  These
• 3:41
  fathers,
• 3:42
  they
• 3:42
  all
• 3:42
  had
• 3:42
  such,
• 3:43
  like,
• 3:44
  funny
• 3:44
  jobs.
• 3:45
  Like,
• 3:45
  one
• 3:45
  was
• 3:46
  like,
• 3:46
  I'm
• 3:46
  a
• 3:46
  detective.
• 3:47
  I'm
• 3:48
  dealing
• 3:48
  with
• 3:48
  armed
• 3:49
  robberies
• 3:49
  and
• 3:50
  homicide.
• 3:50
  And
• 3:50
  it's
• 3:51
  easier
• 3:51
  than
• 3:52
  dealing
• 3:52
  with
• 3:52
  my
• 3:52
  kids
• 3:53
  at
• 3:53
  home.
• 3:53
  Well,
• 3:53
  yeah,
• 3:54
  their
• 3:54
  kids
• 3:54
  are
• 3:54
  a
• 3:54
  mess
• 3:55
  on
• 3:55
  this
• 3:55
  show.
• 3:56
  I
• 3:56
  think
• 3:56
  that
• 3:57
  they
• 3:57
  don't
• 3:57
  call
• 3:57
  the
• 3:57
  nannies
• 3:58
  on
• 3:58
  the
• 3:58
  show.
• 3:58
  And
• 3:59
  even
• 4:00
  in
• 4:00
  the
• 4:00
  book
• 4:00
  where
• 4:01
  they.
• 4:01
  The
• 4:01
  book
• 4:01
  is
• 4:01
  actually
• 4:02
  organized
• 4:03
  around
• 4:04
  a
• 4:04
  series
• 4:04
  of
• 4:05
  situations
• 4:06
  that
• 4:06
  became
• 4:07
  episodes
• 4:07
  of
• 4:08
  the
• 4:08
  show.
• 4:09
  And
• 4:09
  so
• 4:09
  they
• 4:10
  would
• 4:10
  review
• 4:10
  the
• 4:10
  situation
• 4:11
  and
• 4:13
  talk
• 4:13
  about.
• 4:14
  First,
• 4:14
  the
• 4:14
  nanny
• 4:15
  would
• 4:15
  come
• 4:16
  and
• 4:17
  watch
• 4:17
  the
• 4:17
  kids
• 4:18
  and
• 4:18
  the
• 4:18
  family
• 4:18
  in
• 4:19
  action,
• 4:20
  and
• 4:20
  then
• 4:21
  she'd
• 4:22
  observe,
• 4:22
  and
• 4:22
  then
• 4:23
  the
• 4:23
  next
• 4:23
  day
• 4:23
  they'd
• 4:24
  meet,
• 4:24
  and
• 4:24
  she
• 4:24
  would
• 4:25
  tell
• 4:25
  the
• 4:25
  parents
• 4:26
  what
• 4:26
  she
• 4:26
  observed,
• 4:28
  and
• 4:28
  she
• 4:28
  would
• 4:28
  start
• 4:29
  teaching
• 4:29
  them
• 4:29
  different
• 4:30
  lessons
• 4:30
  about
• 4:30
  how
• 4:31
  they
• 4:31
  needed
• 4:31
  to
• 4:32
  fix
• 4:32
  the
• 4:32
  problems
• 4:33
  that
• 4:33
  were
• 4:33
  going
• 4:33
  on.
• 4:34
  And
• 4:35
  what
• 4:35
  I
• 4:35
  noticed,
• 4:36
  and
• 4:36
  this
• 4:36
  is
• 4:36
  the
• 4:36
  first
• 4:36
  principle
• 4:37
  that
• 4:37
  comes
• 4:37
  out
• 4:38
  of
• 4:38
  the
• 4:38
  book,
• 4:38
  I
• 4:39
  kind
• 4:39
  of
• 4:39
  organized
• 4:39
  the
• 4:40
  notes
• 4:40
  by
• 4:40
  the.
• 4:41
  The
• 4:41
  nanny
• 4:42
  techniques
• 4:42
  that
• 4:43
  were
• 4:43
  used
• 4:43
  because
• 4:44
  I
• 4:45
  didn't
• 4:45
  know
• 4:45
  how
• 4:45
  else
• 4:45
  to
• 4:46
  organize
• 4:46
  it
• 4:46
  because
• 4:47
  it's
• 4:47
  so
• 4:47
  unorganized.
• 4:48
  My
• 4:48
  notes
• 4:49
  look
• 4:49
  like
• 4:49
  a
• 4:50
  murder
• 4:50
  manifesto.
• 4:51
  It
• 4:52
  was
• 4:52
  very
• 4:52
  hard
• 4:52
  to
• 4:52
  organize
• 4:53
  this
• 4:53
  because
• 4:55
  it's
• 4:55
  like
• 4:55
  the
• 4:56
  episodes
• 4:56
  are.
• 4:57
  So
• 4:57
  many
• 4:57
  things
• 4:57
  happen
• 4:58
  in
• 4:58
  the
• 4:58
  episodes.
• 4:59
  There's
• 4:59
  so
• 4:59
  many
• 4:59
  principles
• 5:00
  that
• 5:00
  you
• 5:01
  see
• 5:02
  where
• 5:02
  they
• 5:02
  give
• 5:02
  good
• 5:03
  advice,
• 5:03
  but
• 5:03
  it's
• 5:04
  just
• 5:04
  all
• 5:04
  over
• 5:04
  the
• 5:04
  map.
• 5:05
  But
• 5:05
  so
• 5:05
  I
• 5:05
  tried
• 5:06
  to
• 5:06
  organize
• 5:06
  it
• 5:06
  by
• 5:07
  principles.
• 5:07
  The
• 5:08
  first
• 5:08
  principle
• 5:09
  being
• 5:10
  that
• 5:10
  in
• 5:10
  almost
• 5:11
  every
• 5:11
  case,
• 5:11
  when
• 5:12
  a
• 5:12
  family
• 5:12
  is
• 5:13
  out
• 5:13
  of
• 5:13
  control,
• 5:13
  it's
• 5:14
  the
• 5:14
  parent's
• 5:14
  fault
• 5:15
  for
• 5:16
  not,
• 5:17
  you
• 5:18
  know,
• 5:18
  parenting
• 5:19
  well.
• 5:21
  So
• 5:21
  essentially,
• 5:22
  what.
• 5:22
  What
• 5:23
  they're
• 5:23
  saying
• 5:23
  is
• 5:23
  that
• 5:23
  a
• 5:23
  child's
• 5:24
  behavior
• 5:24
  reflects
• 5:25
  a
• 5:26
  parent's
• 5:26
  consistency,
• 5:27
  structure
• 5:28
  and
• 5:29
  communication
• 5:29
  skills.
• 5:30
  And
• 5:30
  if
• 5:31
  you
• 5:31
  want
• 5:31
  your
• 5:31
  child
• 5:31
  and
• 5:32
  your
• 5:32
  family
• 5:32
  to
• 5:33
  change,
• 5:33
  you
• 5:33
  have
• 5:34
  to
• 5:34
  change
• 5:34
  the
• 5:34
  way
• 5:34
  you're
• 5:35
  bringing
• 5:35
  them
• 5:35
  up.
• 5:37
  And
• 5:37
  so
• 5:38
  you
• 5:38
  need
• 5:38
  to
• 5:38
  be
• 5:38
  modeling
• 5:39
  calm
• 5:40
  and
• 5:40
  not
• 5:41
  shouting
• 5:41
  at
• 5:41
  your
• 5:42
  kids.
• 5:42
  Yeah.
• 5:42
  Or
• 5:43
  your
• 5:43
  partner.
• 5:44
  Parents
• 5:44
  need
• 5:44
  to
• 5:44
  back
• 5:45
  each
• 5:45
  other
• 5:45
  up.
• 5:46
  If
• 5:46
  one
• 5:46
  parent
• 5:47
  says
• 5:47
  one
• 5:47
  thing,
• 5:47
  the
• 5:48
  other
• 5:48
  parent
• 5:48
  needs
• 5:48
  to
• 5:49
  agree.
• 5:50
  And
• 5:50
  follow
• 5:51
  through
• 5:51
  is
• 5:51
  key.
• 5:52
  So
• 5:52
  many
• 5:52
  of
• 5:53
  these
• 5:54
  case
• 5:54
  studies
• 5:55
  in
• 5:55
  the
• 5:55
  book
• 5:55
  and
• 5:56
  on
• 5:56
  television,
• 5:57
  you
• 5:57
  hear
• 5:58
  parents
• 5:58
  threatening
• 5:59
  and
• 5:59
  not
• 6:00
  following
• 6:00
  through.
• 6:00
  You
• 6:01
  never
• 6:01
  threatened
• 6:01
  us.
• 6:02
  Well,
• 6:02
  and
• 6:02
  one
• 6:03
  of
• 6:03
  the
• 6:03
  points
• 6:03
  they
• 6:03
  make
• 6:04
  in
• 6:04
  this
• 6:04
  book,
• 6:04
  which
• 6:05
  I've
• 6:05
  always
• 6:06
  thought
• 6:06
  was
• 6:06
  true,
• 6:07
  is
• 6:07
  kids
• 6:08
  are
• 6:08
  like
• 6:08
  dogs.
• 6:10
  You
• 6:10
  have
• 6:10
  to
• 6:11
  train
• 6:11
  them.
• 6:12
  Lots
• 6:12
  of
• 6:12
  practice,
• 6:13
  repetition,
• 6:14
  consistency.
• 6:15
  And
• 6:16
  if
• 6:16
  you
• 6:17
  do
• 6:17
  that,
• 6:18
  then
• 6:18
  they
• 6:19
  will
• 6:19
  behave
• 6:19
  the
• 6:20
  way
• 6:20
  you
• 6:20
  trained
• 6:20
  them
• 6:21
  to
• 6:21
  behave.
• 6:21
  And
• 6:22
  I've
• 6:22
  always
• 6:22
  thought
• 6:23
  this,
• 6:23
  but
• 6:23
  I've
• 6:24
  always
• 6:24
  thought
• 6:24
  I
• 6:25
  should
• 6:25
  never
• 6:25
  say
• 6:25
  this
• 6:26
  because
• 6:26
  people
• 6:26
  would
• 6:26
  be
• 6:27
  so
• 6:27
  offended
• 6:27
  if
• 6:27
  I
• 6:27
  said
• 6:28
  children
• 6:28
  are
• 6:29
  like
• 6:29
  dogs.
• 6:30
  But
• 6:30
  you
• 6:31
  know
• 6:31
  what?
• 6:31
  They
• 6:31
  are.
• 6:32
  You
• 6:32
  have
• 6:33
  to
• 6:33
  teach
• 6:33
  them,
• 6:33
  just
• 6:34
  like
• 6:34
  you
• 6:34
  have
• 6:34
  to
• 6:34
  teach
• 6:34
  your
• 6:35
  puppy.
• 6:35
  The
• 6:35
  redirection
• 6:36
  principle
• 6:37
  is
• 6:37
  something
• 6:37
  I've
• 6:38
  applied
• 6:38
  to
• 6:38
  every
• 6:38
  puppy
• 6:39
  I've
• 6:39
  ever
• 6:39
  had
• 6:39
  in
• 6:40
  that,
• 6:40
  like,
• 6:40
  puppies
• 6:41
  are
• 6:41
  super
• 6:41
  mouthy
• 6:41
  when
• 6:42
  you
• 6:42
  first
• 6:42
  get
• 6:42
  them.
• 6:43
  And
• 6:43
  I
• 6:44
  noticed
• 6:44
  some
• 6:44
  people
• 6:45
  will,
• 6:45
  like,
• 6:45
  play
• 6:45
  with
• 6:46
  their
• 6:46
  hands
• 6:46
  in
• 6:46
  the
• 6:46
  dog's
• 6:47
  mouth.
• 6:47
  And
• 6:47
  you
• 6:47
  don't
• 6:48
  wanna
• 6:48
  do
• 6:48
  that.
• 6:48
  Cause
• 6:49
  that
• 6:49
  teaches
• 6:49
  the
• 6:49
  dog
• 6:50
  to
• 6:50
  bite
• 6:50
  and
• 6:51
  to
• 6:51
  nip.
• 6:51
  And
• 6:52
  so
• 6:52
  you
• 6:52
  always
• 6:52
  give
• 6:52
  them
• 6:53
  a
• 6:53
  toy
• 6:53
  or
• 6:53
  something
• 6:53
  that's
• 6:54
  okay
• 6:54
  to
• 6:55
  be
• 6:55
  chewed
• 6:55
  on.
• 6:55
  And
• 6:56
  redirection
• 6:56
  is
• 6:56
  a
• 6:57
  big
• 6:57
  principle
• 6:57
  in
• 6:57
  this
• 6:57
  book
• 6:58
  too.
• 6:58
  Yes.
• 6:58
  When
• 6:58
  a
• 6:58
  child
• 6:59
  is
• 6:59
  doing
• 6:59
  something
• 6:59
  that
• 7:00
  you
• 7:00
  don't
• 7:00
  want
• 7:00
  them
• 7:00
  to
• 7:00
  do,
• 7:01
  you
• 7:01
  give
• 7:01
  them
• 7:01
  something
• 7:02
  else
• 7:02
  to
• 7:02
  do.
• 7:03
  You
• 7:03
  don't
• 7:03
  punish
• 7:04
  them
• 7:05
  unless
• 7:05
  it's,
• 7:05
  like,
• 7:06
  dangerous
• 7:06
  to
• 7:06
  themselves
• 7:07
  or
• 7:07
  others.
• 7:07
  And
• 7:08
  you
• 7:08
  really
• 7:08
  need
• 7:08
  to
• 7:08
  hammer
• 7:09
  in
• 7:09
  that
• 7:09
  this
• 7:09
  is
• 7:09
  a
• 7:10
  no.
• 7:10
  No.
• 7:10
  Right,
• 7:11
  Right.
• 7:11
  Yeah.
• 7:12
  No,
• 7:12
  I
• 7:12
  think
• 7:13
  that
• 7:13
  is
• 7:13
  really
• 7:13
  true.
• 7:15
  And
• 7:16
  I
• 7:16
  think
• 7:16
  as
• 7:16
  parents,
• 7:17
  we
• 7:17
  sort
• 7:17
  of
• 7:18
  think
• 7:18
  our
• 7:18
  kids
• 7:18
  should
• 7:19
  know
• 7:19
  how
• 7:19
  to
• 7:20
  behave.
• 7:20
  But
• 7:21
  how
• 7:21
  will
• 7:21
  they
• 7:22
  know
• 7:22
  how
• 7:22
  to
• 7:22
  behave
• 7:22
  unless
• 7:23
  we
• 7:23
  teach
• 7:23
  them?
• 7:24
  They
• 7:24
  just
• 7:24
  got
• 7:25
  here.
• 7:25
  Yeah.
• 7:26
  They
• 7:26
  have
• 7:27
  no
• 7:27
  idea
• 7:27
  that
• 7:28
  they
• 7:28
  shouldn't
• 7:28
  be
• 7:29
  running
• 7:29
  around
• 7:30
  and
• 7:30
  screaming
• 7:31
  and
• 7:32
  that
• 7:32
  food
• 7:33
  goes
• 7:33
  in
• 7:33
  their
• 7:33
  mouth,
• 7:34
  not
• 7:34
  on
• 7:34
  the
• 7:34
  floor.
• 7:36
  You
• 7:36
  know,
• 7:37
  this
• 7:37
  is
• 7:37
  all
• 7:37
  new
• 7:37
  to
• 7:38
  them.
• 7:38
  So
• 7:38
  it
• 7:39
  is
• 7:39
  our
• 7:39
  job
• 7:39
  as
• 7:39
  parents
• 7:40
  to
• 7:40
  train
• 7:40
  them.
• 7:41
  And
• 7:41
  that
• 7:41
  is
• 7:41
  what
• 7:42
  nannies.
• 7:42
  These
• 7:42
  two
• 7:43
  nannies
• 7:43
  come
• 7:43
  in
• 7:44
  and
• 7:44
  they
• 7:45
  bring
• 7:45
  order
• 7:46
  into
• 7:46
  a
• 7:46
  household.
• 7:47
  And
• 7:47
  they
• 7:47
  do.
• 7:47
  This
• 7:48
  is
• 7:48
  a
• 7:48
  fun
• 7:48
  show
• 7:48
  to
• 7:49
  watch.
• 7:49
  I
• 7:50
  recommend
• 7:50
  watching
• 7:50
  it.
• 7:51
  It
• 7:51
  is.
• 7:51
  And
• 7:51
  reading
• 7:52
  the
• 7:52
  book
• 7:52
  if
• 7:52
  you.
• 7:53
  If
• 7:53
  you
• 7:53
  want
• 7:53
  to
• 7:53
  get
• 7:54
  these
• 7:54
  principles.
• 7:54
  Yeah.
• 7:55
  Although,
• 7:55
  as
• 7:56
  I
• 7:56
  said,
• 7:56
  they
• 7:56
  are
• 7:56
  very
• 7:57
  much
• 7:57
  out
• 7:57
  of
• 7:57
  order.
• 7:58
  Very
• 7:58
  weirdly
• 7:59
  formatted
• 8:00
  book,
• 8:01
  but
• 8:01
  okay.
• 8:02
  Also,
• 8:03
  lots
• 8:03
  of
• 8:03
  Copy
• 8:03
  editing
• 8:04
  error.
• 8:05
  Oh,
• 8:05
  yeah,
• 8:05
  I
• 8:05
  noticed
• 8:06
  that.
• 8:06
  I
• 8:06
  noticed.
• 8:08
  Who
• 8:08
  types
• 8:08
  this
• 8:08
  up
• 8:08
  for
• 8:09
  you?
• 8:09
  No,
• 8:09
  I
• 8:09
  know.
• 8:10
  They
• 8:11
  did
• 8:11
  have
• 8:11
  some
• 8:11
  copy
• 8:12
  editing
• 8:12
  problems.
• 8:13
  Like
• 8:13
  a
• 8:13
  lot
• 8:13
  of
• 8:13
  things.
• 8:14
  I'd
• 8:14
  read
• 8:14
  it
• 8:14
  once
• 8:14
  and
• 8:14
  I'd
• 8:15
  go,
• 8:15
  hey,
• 8:15
  haven't
• 8:16
  I
• 8:16
  read
• 8:16
  that
• 8:16
  before
• 8:17
  somewhere
• 8:17
  else?
• 8:18
  Yes,
• 8:19
  yes,
• 8:19
  I
• 8:19
  have.
• 8:20
  I've
• 8:20
  read
• 8:20
  it
• 8:20
  twice
• 8:21
  now.
• 8:21
  But
• 8:22
  anyway.
• 8:22
  But
• 8:23
  one.
• 8:23
  Okay,
• 8:23
  so
• 8:23
  the
• 8:24
  first
• 8:24
  principle
• 8:24
  being
• 8:25
  parents
• 8:25
  are
• 8:25
  probably
• 8:26
  at
• 8:26
  fault
• 8:26
  if
• 8:27
  there's
• 8:27
  a
• 8:27
  problem.
• 8:28
  The
• 8:28
  next
• 8:28
  one
• 8:29
  is
• 8:29
  that
• 8:31
  parents,
• 8:31
  families
• 8:32
  should
• 8:33
  make
• 8:33
  together
• 8:34
  and
• 8:34
  post
• 8:35
  and
• 8:35
  then
• 8:35
  follow
• 8:36
  a
• 8:36
  set
• 8:36
  of
• 8:37
  rules
• 8:38
  that
• 8:39
  are
• 8:39
  very,
• 8:39
  very
• 8:39
  clear.
• 8:40
  These
• 8:40
  are
• 8:40
  the
• 8:40
  rules
• 8:41
  in
• 8:41
  our
• 8:41
  house.
• 8:43
  Five
• 8:43
  to
• 8:43
  ten
• 8:43
  rules,
• 8:44
  that's
• 8:44
  all
• 8:44
  you
• 8:44
  really
• 8:45
  need.
• 8:45
  Post
• 8:46
  them
• 8:46
  in
• 8:46
  a
• 8:46
  visible
• 8:46
  place
• 8:47
  and
• 8:48
  phrase
• 8:48
  them
• 8:48
  very
• 8:49
  positively,
• 8:49
  like
• 8:50
  use
• 8:50
  kind
• 8:51
  words
• 8:51
  as
• 8:52
  opposed
• 8:52
  to
• 8:52
  don't
• 8:53
  shout
• 8:53
  and
• 8:53
  scream
• 8:54
  and
• 8:54
  curse
• 8:54
  at
• 8:54
  your
• 8:54
  child.
• 8:56
  So
• 8:56
  that's
• 8:57
  the
• 8:57
  rule
• 8:57
  about
• 8:58
  rules.
• 8:58
  House
• 8:59
  rules.
• 8:59
  The
• 8:59
  rule
• 9:00
  about
• 9:00
  rules.
• 9:01
  Right
• 9:01
  now,
• 9:01
  kind
• 9:02
  of
• 9:02
  like
• 9:02
  we
• 9:02
  had
• 9:02
  house
• 9:03
  rules
• 9:03
  in
• 9:03
  our
• 9:03
  house.
• 9:04
  What
• 9:04
  were
• 9:04
  our
• 9:04
  house
• 9:04
  rules?
• 9:05
  We
• 9:05
  had
• 9:05
  none.
• 9:05
  Yeah.
• 9:06
  I
• 9:06
  was
• 9:06
  about
• 9:06
  to
• 9:06
  say,
• 9:06
  I
• 9:07
  don't
• 9:07
  recall
• 9:07
  a
• 9:07
  single
• 9:08
  rule.
• 9:09
  Well,
• 9:10
  I
• 9:10
  may
• 9:10
  have
• 9:10
  told
• 9:10
  you
• 9:11
  about.
• 9:11
  Rules,
• 9:12
  but
• 9:12
  I
• 9:12
  understood
• 9:13
  what
• 9:13
  rules
• 9:13
  were
• 9:14
  as
• 9:14
  a
• 9:15
  concept.
• 9:16
  But
• 9:16
  we
• 9:16
  didn't
• 9:17
  have
• 9:17
  any
• 9:17
  specific
• 9:18
  rules
• 9:18
  that
• 9:18
  we
• 9:19
  followed.
• 9:20
  No,
• 9:20
  no.
• 9:20
  And
• 9:21
  so
• 9:21
  I
• 9:21
  think
• 9:21
  it's
• 9:21
  actually
• 9:22
  a
• 9:22
  good
• 9:22
  idea
• 9:22
  to
• 9:23
  figure
• 9:23
  out
• 9:23
  what
• 9:23
  you're
• 9:24
  rules
• 9:24
  are
• 9:25
  in
• 9:25
  your
• 9:25
  home.
• 9:25
  We
• 9:26
  lived
• 9:26
  in
• 9:26
  a
• 9:26
  very
• 9:27
  abstract
• 9:29
  home.
• 9:29
  Which
• 9:29
  isn't
• 9:30
  good
• 9:30
  for
• 9:30
  kids,
• 9:31
  you
• 9:31
  know,
• 9:31
  obviously.
• 9:32
  Okay.
• 9:32
  But
• 9:32
  hey,
• 9:33
  listen.
• 9:33
  Yeah.
• 9:34
  Teach
• 9:34
  their
• 9:34
  own.
• 9:35
  Yeah,
• 9:35
  that's
• 9:36
  true.
• 9:36
  I
• 9:36
  mean,
• 9:36
  you,
• 9:36
  you
• 9:37
  guys
• 9:37
  did
• 9:37
  turn
• 9:37
  out
• 9:38
  okay.
• 9:38
  Thank
• 9:38
  God.
• 9:39
  But,
• 9:40
  you
• 9:40
  know,
• 9:40
  but
• 9:41
  maybe
• 9:41
  you
• 9:41
  would
• 9:42
  have
• 9:42
  been
• 9:42
  even
• 9:42
  better
• 9:42
  if
• 9:43
  I'd
• 9:43
  had
• 9:43
  rules.
• 9:44
  Maybe.
• 9:45
  I
• 9:45
  guess
• 9:45
  we'll
• 9:45
  never
• 9:46
  know.
• 9:46
  We'll
• 9:46
  never
• 9:46
  know
• 9:47
  anyway.
• 9:47
  Okay.
• 9:48
  Another
• 9:48
  thing
• 9:49
  that
• 9:49
  is
• 9:49
  a
• 9:50
  principle
• 9:50
  that
• 9:50
  the,
• 9:50
  the
• 9:51
  nannies
• 9:51
  say
• 9:51
  is
• 9:51
  that
• 9:52
  actions
• 9:52
  have
• 9:53
  consequences.
• 9:55
  And
• 9:55
  you
• 9:55
  have
• 9:55
  to
• 9:55
  have
• 9:56
  that
• 9:56
  system
• 9:56
  in
• 9:57
  place
• 9:57
  that
• 9:59
  when
• 9:59
  actions
• 10:00
  have
• 10:00
  logical
• 10:01
  consequences,
• 10:02
  that's
• 10:02
  when
• 10:03
  children
• 10:04
  learn
• 10:04
  to
• 10:04
  be
• 10:04
  accountable.
• 10:06
  So
• 10:06
  you
• 10:06
  have
• 10:06
  to
• 10:07
  teach
• 10:07
  your
• 10:07
  kid
• 10:07
  that
• 10:09
  every
• 10:09
  choice,
• 10:10
  good
• 10:10
  or
• 10:10
  bad,
• 10:10
  has
• 10:11
  an
• 10:11
  outcome.
• 10:12
  If
• 10:13
  your
• 10:13
  child
• 10:13
  does
• 10:14
  something
• 10:14
  and
• 10:14
  there's
• 10:14
  a
• 10:15
  bad
• 10:15
  consequence,
• 10:16
  you
• 10:16
  don't
• 10:16
  rescue
• 10:17
  them
• 10:17
  from
• 10:18
  that
• 10:18
  consequence.
• 10:19
  You
• 10:19
  have
• 10:19
  to
• 10:20
  make
• 10:20
  those
• 10:20
  consequences
• 10:21
  immediate,
• 10:23
  but
• 10:23
  also
• 10:24
  consistent
• 10:25
  and
• 10:25
  proportionate
• 10:26
  to
• 10:26
  what
• 10:26
  the
• 10:27
  child
• 10:27
  did.
• 10:28
  So,
• 10:28
  for
• 10:28
  example,
• 10:28
  if
• 10:28
  they
• 10:29
  break
• 10:29
  a
• 10:29
  toy,
• 10:30
  toy
• 10:31
  gets
• 10:31
  taken
• 10:31
  away.
• 10:32
  If
• 10:32
  they
• 10:32
  refuse
• 10:33
  to
• 10:33
  eat,
• 10:34
  you
• 10:34
  don't
• 10:34
  make
• 10:35
  them
• 10:35
  something
• 10:35
  else.
• 10:36
  You
• 10:36
  don't
• 10:36
  give
• 10:36
  them
• 10:37
  a
• 10:37
  snack,
• 10:37
  they
• 10:38
  just
• 10:38
  go
• 10:38
  hungry.
• 10:40
  So
• 10:41
  if
• 10:41
  you
• 10:42
  follow
• 10:42
  rules,
• 10:43
  you
• 10:43
  get
• 10:43
  more
• 10:43
  privileges,
• 10:44
  that
• 10:45
  sort
• 10:45
  of
• 10:45
  thing.
• 10:45
  So
• 10:45
  those
• 10:45
  are
• 10:45
  good
• 10:46
  consequences.
• 10:46
  Fair
• 10:47
  enough.
• 10:47
  What
• 10:47
  do
• 10:47
  you
• 10:48
  think
• 10:48
  about
• 10:48
  that?
• 10:49
  I
• 10:49
  mean,
• 10:49
  listen,
• 10:50
  you
• 10:50
  got
• 10:51
  to
• 10:51
  have
• 10:51
  an
• 10:51
  incentive
• 10:51
  to
• 10:52
  follow
• 10:52
  the
• 10:52
  rules,
• 10:52
  right?
• 10:53
  So
• 10:53
  there
• 10:53
  have
• 10:53
  to
• 10:54
  be
• 10:54
  consequences
• 10:55
  if
• 10:55
  you
• 10:55
  don't.
• 10:56
  Right.
• 10:56
  Otherwise,
• 10:57
  who
• 10:57
  would
• 10:58
  follow
• 10:58
  a
• 10:58
  rule?
• 10:59
  Right,
• 10:59
  right.
• 10:59
  You
• 10:59
  know,
• 11:00
  and
• 11:00
  I
• 11:00
  agree.
• 11:01
  Do
• 11:01
  you
• 11:01
  want
• 11:02
  to
• 11:02
  talk
• 11:02
  about
• 11:02
  the
• 11:02
  timeout
• 11:03
  technique
• 11:03
  that
• 11:03
  they
• 11:03
  teach
• 11:04
  in
• 11:04
  the
• 11:04
  book?
• 11:05
  Yeah.
• 11:05
  So
• 11:06
  they
• 11:06
  say
• 11:06
  to
• 11:07
  give
• 11:07
  a
• 11:07
  timeout
• 11:08
  every
• 11:08
  one
• 11:09
  minute
• 11:09
  for
• 11:09
  every
• 11:09
  year
• 11:10
  of
• 11:10
  the
• 11:10
  child's
• 11:10
  age.
• 11:11
  And
• 11:11
  it's
• 11:11
  typically.
• 11:12
  It's
• 11:12
  less
• 11:12
  of
• 11:13
  a
• 11:13
  punishment
• 11:13
  and
• 11:14
  more
• 11:14
  just
• 11:14
  in
• 11:14
  the
• 11:14
  interest
• 11:15
  of
• 11:15
  calming
• 11:15
  the
• 11:16
  child
• 11:16
  down
• 11:16
  and
• 11:17
  giving
• 11:17
  them
• 11:17
  a
• 11:17
  moment
• 11:18
  to
• 11:18
  cool
• 11:19
  off
• 11:19
  and
• 11:19
  reflect.
• 11:22
  You
• 11:22
  know,
• 11:23
  I
• 11:25
  personally,
• 11:26
  I
• 11:26
  don't
• 11:26
  know
• 11:26
  how
• 11:27
  effective
• 11:27
  timeouts
• 11:28
  are.
• 11:28
  All
• 11:28
  the
• 11:29
  children
• 11:29
  that
• 11:29
  I
• 11:30
  watched
• 11:30
  on
• 11:30
  the
• 11:30
  show
• 11:31
  were
• 11:31
  pretty
• 11:31
  hysterical
• 11:32
  throughout
• 11:33
  their
• 11:33
  entire
• 11:33
  timeout.
• 11:34
  I
• 11:34
  know.
• 11:35
  I
• 11:35
  don't
• 11:35
  know
• 11:35
  if
• 11:36
  that's
• 11:36
  a
• 11:36
  super
• 11:36
  effective
• 11:37
  thing
• 11:37
  to
• 11:37
  do,
• 11:38
  but
• 11:38
  I
• 11:39
  understand
• 11:40
  the
• 11:40
  idea
• 11:40
  behind
• 11:41
  it
• 11:41
  of
• 11:41
  teenage
• 11:42
  teaching
• 11:42
  a
• 11:42
  kid.
• 11:42
  Listen,
• 11:43
  like,
• 11:43
  I'm
• 11:43
  taking
• 11:43
  you
• 11:43
  out
• 11:44
  of
• 11:44
  this
• 11:44
  situation
• 11:44
  for
• 11:45
  a
• 11:45
  second,
• 11:46
  and
• 11:47
  you
• 11:47
  have
• 11:47
  to
• 11:47
  think
• 11:48
  about
• 11:48
  what
• 11:48
  you're
• 11:49
  doing.
• 11:49
  Although,
• 11:50
  like,
• 11:50
  are
• 11:50
  kids
• 11:51
  sentient
• 11:52
  enough
• 11:53
  to
• 11:53
  understand
• 11:54
  what
• 11:54
  a
• 11:54
  timeout
• 11:55
  means?
• 11:56
  Well,
• 11:56
  I
• 11:56
  think
• 11:57
  what
• 11:57
  they're
• 11:57
  trying
• 11:58
  to
• 11:58
  make
• 11:58
  you
• 11:59
  believe
• 11:59
  and
• 11:59
  it
• 12:00
  feel
• 12:00
  is
• 12:00
  that,
• 12:01
  you
• 12:01
  know,
• 12:01
  if
• 12:01
  you.
• 12:02
  If
• 12:02
  the
• 12:02
  kid
• 12:02
  gets
• 12:03
  used
• 12:03
  to.
• 12:03
  When
• 12:03
  they're
• 12:04
  out
• 12:04
  of
• 12:04
  control
• 12:05
  being
• 12:05
  brought
• 12:06
  into
• 12:06
  another
• 12:06
  room,
• 12:07
  just
• 12:08
  sit,
• 12:08
  relax,
• 12:09
  take
• 12:10
  a
• 12:10
  few,
• 12:11
  you
• 12:11
  know,
• 12:11
  six
• 12:11
  minutes,
• 12:12
  I'll
• 12:12
  be
• 12:12
  back
• 12:13
  for
• 12:13
  you.
• 12:13
  Calm
• 12:14
  yourself,
• 12:14
  and
• 12:15
  then
• 12:15
  you'll
• 12:15
  be
• 12:16
  able
• 12:16
  to
• 12:16
  join
• 12:17
  the
• 12:17
  family
• 12:17
  again.
• 12:18
  If
• 12:18
  they
• 12:18
  get
• 12:18
  used
• 12:19
  to
• 12:19
  that,
• 12:20
  I
• 12:21
  think
• 12:21
  then
• 12:22
  it.
• 12:22
  It
• 12:22
  could
• 12:23
  work.
• 12:24
  Certainly,
• 12:24
  like,
• 12:24
  at
• 12:25
  the
• 12:25
  end
• 12:25
  of
• 12:25
  the
• 12:25
  episode
• 12:26
  when
• 12:26
  there's
• 12:26
  a
• 12:27
  timeout,
• 12:27
  they
• 12:27
  seem
• 12:27
  to,
• 12:28
  like,
• 12:28
  go
• 12:28
  to
• 12:28
  timeout
• 12:29
  and
• 12:29
  not
• 12:29
  freak
• 12:29
  out.
• 12:30
  So
• 12:31
  maybe
• 12:31
  with
• 12:31
  practice
• 12:32
  they
• 12:32
  get
• 12:32
  better
• 12:33
  at
• 12:33
  it.
• 12:33
  I
• 12:33
  don't
• 12:33
  know.
• 12:33
  I
• 12:34
  don't
• 12:34
  know.
• 12:35
  I
• 12:35
  don't
• 12:35
  know.
• 12:35
  I
• 12:35
  don't
• 12:35
  know
• 12:36
  that
• 12:36
  I.
• 12:36
  I
• 12:36
  agree
• 12:37
  with,
• 12:37
  like,
• 12:37
  isolating
• 12:38
  a
• 12:38
  kid
• 12:39
  for
• 12:39
  anything.
• 12:40
  You
• 12:40
  know,
• 12:40
  personally,
• 12:41
  I
• 12:41
  think
• 12:41
  if
• 12:41
  that
• 12:41
  were
• 12:42
  me,
• 12:42
  I
• 12:42
  probably
• 12:42
  would
• 12:43
  have
• 12:43
  rebelled
• 12:43
  even
• 12:44
  more.
• 12:45
  Maybe.
• 12:46
  I
• 12:46
  mean,
• 12:46
  but
• 12:46
  I
• 12:46
  don't
• 12:47
  know.
• 12:47
  I.
• 12:47
  I
• 12:47
  remember
• 12:48
  I
• 12:48
  probably
• 12:48
  was
• 12:48
  putting
• 12:49
  time
• 12:49
  out
• 12:49
  a
• 12:49
  time
• 12:50
  or
• 12:50
  two
• 12:50
  as
• 12:50
  a
• 12:51
  kid.
• 12:51
  Yeah,
• 12:51
  you
• 12:51
  were.
• 12:52
  Oh,
• 12:52
  yeah.
• 12:52
  More
• 12:52
  than.
• 12:52
  I
• 12:53
  wonder
• 12:53
  how
• 12:53
  I
• 12:53
  handled
• 12:54
  it.
• 12:54
  Not
• 12:54
  well.
• 12:55
  I
• 12:55
  mean,
• 12:55
  kind
• 12:55
  of
• 12:56
  like
• 12:56
  these
• 12:56
  kids.
• 12:56
  You
• 12:57
  would.
• 12:57
  You
• 12:57
  were
• 12:57
  never
• 12:58
  happy
• 12:58
  when
• 12:58
  you
• 12:58
  were
• 12:59
  putting.
• 12:59
  No
• 12:59
  child
• 13:00
  is
• 13:00
  happy
• 13:00
  to
• 13:00
  be
• 13:00
  putting
• 13:01
  time
• 13:01
  out.
• 13:01
  Yeah.
• 13:01
  But
• 13:02
  I
• 13:02
  do
• 13:02
  think
• 13:02
  if
• 13:02
  you
• 13:02
  frame
• 13:03
  it
• 13:03
  correct
• 13:03
  correctly
• 13:04
  for
• 13:04
  the
• 13:04
  child
• 13:04
  and
• 13:05
  maybe
• 13:05
  if
• 13:05
  you
• 13:05
  put
• 13:06
  them
• 13:06
  somewhere
• 13:06
  where
• 13:07
  they're
• 13:07
  not
• 13:07
  like,
• 13:07
  isolated
• 13:08
  from
• 13:08
  the
• 13:08
  family,
• 13:09
  but
• 13:09
  they're
• 13:09
  sort
• 13:09
  of
• 13:09
  off
• 13:10
  by
• 13:10
  themselves.
• 13:10
  Just
• 13:11
  take.
• 13:11
  Take
• 13:11
  a.
• 13:12
  Yeah,
• 13:12
  yeah.
• 13:13
  And
• 13:13
  calm
• 13:13
  yourself
• 13:13
  while
• 13:14
  we.
• 13:15
  Then
• 13:15
  you
• 13:15
  can
• 13:15
  come
• 13:16
  back
• 13:16
  and
• 13:16
  play.
• 13:16
  But
• 13:17
  they
• 13:17
  do
• 13:17
  this
• 13:17
  all
• 13:17
  the
• 13:18
  time
• 13:18
  in
• 13:18
  the
• 13:18
  book.
• 13:18
  They
• 13:18
  do.
• 13:19
  Timeouts
• 13:20
  are
• 13:20
  big.
• 13:20
  Yeah.
• 13:21
  And
• 13:21
  then.
• 13:21
  And
• 13:21
  they
• 13:21
  give
• 13:21
  you
• 13:21
  all
• 13:22
  the
• 13:22
  steps
• 13:22
  of
• 13:22
  a
• 13:22
  timeout,
• 13:23
  like,
• 13:24
  whether
• 13:24
  you
• 13:24
  should.
• 13:24
  You
• 13:25
  put
• 13:25
  them
• 13:25
  there.
• 13:25
  And
• 13:25
  you
• 13:25
  don't
• 13:26
  talk
• 13:26
  to
• 13:26
  them.
• 13:26
  You
• 13:27
  don't,
• 13:27
  you
• 13:27
  don't
• 13:27
  like,
• 13:28
  tell
• 13:28
  them.
• 13:28
  You.
• 13:29
  Now
• 13:29
  think
• 13:29
  about
• 13:29
  this.
• 13:30
  You
• 13:30
  just,
• 13:30
  you're
• 13:30
  quiet,
• 13:31
  you
• 13:31
  put
• 13:31
  them
• 13:31
  there.
• 13:32
  You
• 13:32
  walk
• 13:32
  away
• 13:32
  and
• 13:33
  you
• 13:33
  say
• 13:33
  you've
• 13:33
  had
• 13:33
  six
• 13:33
  minutes.
• 13:34
  Minutes.
• 13:35
  There's
• 13:35
  a
• 13:35
  timer.
• 13:36
  They
• 13:36
  can
• 13:36
  watch
• 13:36
  the
• 13:37
  time
• 13:37
  tick,
• 13:38
  which
• 13:39
  actually,
• 13:39
  I
• 13:39
  think
• 13:39
  that
• 13:39
  element
• 13:40
  is
• 13:40
  good
• 13:40
  because
• 13:40
  I
• 13:41
  think
• 13:41
  kids
• 13:41
  don't
• 13:42
  understand
• 13:43
  indefinite
• 13:44
  periods
• 13:44
  of
• 13:44
  time.
• 13:45
  Right.
• 13:45
  And
• 13:46
  that
• 13:46
  probably
• 13:46
  causes
• 13:46
  a
• 13:46
  lot
• 13:46
  of
• 13:47
  stress
• 13:47
  if
• 13:47
  they
• 13:47
  don't
• 13:48
  know
• 13:48
  how
• 13:48
  long
• 13:48
  they're
• 13:48
  going
• 13:49
  to
• 13:49
  be
• 13:49
  there
• 13:49
  in
• 13:49
  time
• 13:50
  out.
• 13:50
  Yeah,
• 13:51
  I
• 13:51
  agree.
• 13:52
  They
• 13:53
  also
• 13:53
  have,
• 13:54
  again,
• 13:54
  they
• 13:54
  use
• 13:55
  this
• 13:55
  a
• 13:55
  lot.
• 13:55
  A
• 13:56
  reward
• 13:57
  system.
• 13:57
  The
• 13:58
  marble
• 13:58
  jar.
• 13:58
  The
• 13:59
  marble
• 14:00
  jar.
• 14:00
  I
• 14:01
  like
• 14:01
  that.
• 14:01
  Marble
• 14:01
  jar.
• 14:02
  Who
• 14:02
  cares
• 14:02
  about
• 14:03
  marbles?
• 14:03
  That's
• 14:04
  what
• 14:04
  I
• 14:04
  was
• 14:04
  thinking.
• 14:04
  I
• 14:05
  was
• 14:05
  thinking
• 14:05
  they
• 14:05
  should
• 14:05
  make
• 14:06
  like
• 14:06
  a
• 14:06
  quarter
• 14:07
  jar.
• 14:07
  Yeah.
• 14:08
  Like
• 14:08
  put
• 14:08
  quarters
• 14:09
  in
• 14:09
  there.
• 14:09
  I
• 14:09
  wanted
• 14:10
  to
• 14:10
  get
• 14:10
  rich.
• 14:10
  I
• 14:10
  know.
• 14:11
  That's
• 14:11
  what
• 14:12
  I
• 14:12
  care
• 14:12
  about,
• 14:12
  marbles.
• 14:13
  Well,
• 14:13
  but
• 14:14
  the
• 14:14
  marble
• 14:14
  represents,
• 14:15
  like
• 14:16
  you've
• 14:16
  done
• 14:16
  something
• 14:17
  good.
• 14:17
  When
• 14:17
  the
• 14:17
  child
• 14:18
  does
• 14:18
  something
• 14:18
  good,
• 14:19
  you
• 14:19
  want
• 14:19
  to
• 14:19
  give
• 14:19
  them
• 14:19
  a
• 14:19
  tangible,
• 14:20
  visible
• 14:21
  reward.
• 14:21
  And
• 14:22
  they
• 14:22
  can
• 14:22
  watch
• 14:22
  their
• 14:23
  jar
• 14:24
  fill
• 14:24
  up
• 14:24
  with
• 14:25
  marbles.
• 14:25
  And
• 14:25
  when
• 14:26
  it
• 14:26
  gets
• 14:26
  filled
• 14:26
  up,
• 14:27
  they
• 14:27
  get
• 14:27
  a
• 14:28
  special
• 14:28
  reward.
• 14:29
  And
• 14:29
  now
• 14:29
  this
• 14:29
  is
• 14:29
  supposed
• 14:30
  to
• 14:30
  be
• 14:30
  a
• 14:30
  reward
• 14:30
  system,
• 14:31
  but
• 14:31
  they
• 14:31
  also
• 14:32
  say
• 14:32
  you
• 14:32
  can
• 14:32
  use
• 14:32
  it
• 14:33
  as
• 14:33
  a
• 14:33
  penalty
• 14:33
  system
• 14:34
  if
• 14:35
  they're
• 14:35
  bad.
• 14:35
  So
• 14:35
  the
• 14:36
  marbles
• 14:36
  get
• 14:36
  removed
• 14:37
  and
• 14:37
  they
• 14:37
  get
• 14:38
  really
• 14:38
  upset
• 14:38
  when
• 14:39
  that
• 14:39
  happens.
• 14:39
  High
• 14:39
  stakes.
• 14:40
  I
• 14:40
  know.
• 14:41
  Don't
• 14:42
  take
• 14:42
  my
• 14:42
  marble.
• 14:45
  But
• 14:46
  honestly,
• 14:46
  I
• 14:46
  was
• 14:46
  thinking,
• 14:47
  like,
• 14:47
  my
• 14:47
  first
• 14:48
  thought
• 14:48
  was
• 14:48
  I'd
• 14:48
  rather
• 14:49
  have
• 14:49
  like
• 14:49
  a
• 14:49
  dollar
• 14:50
  jar.
• 14:51
  You
• 14:51
  know,
• 14:51
  like
• 14:52
  you
• 14:52
  could,
• 14:52
  you
• 14:52
  know,
• 14:52
  kids
• 14:53
  start
• 14:53
  to
• 14:53
  understand
• 14:54
  money.
• 14:54
  Like,
• 14:55
  but,
• 14:55
  but
• 14:55
  I.
• 14:56
  Opportunity
• 14:56
  to
• 14:57
  teach
• 14:57
  kids
• 14:57
  the
• 14:57
  value
• 14:57
  of
• 14:58
  a
• 14:58
  dollar.
• 14:58
  Right.
• 14:59
  Like
• 14:59
  if
• 14:59
  you
• 14:59
  fill
• 15:00
  the
• 15:00
  jar
• 15:00
  up
• 15:00
  with
• 15:01
  dollar
• 15:01
  bills,
• 15:01
  we'll
• 15:02
  go
• 15:02
  shopping,
• 15:02
  we'll
• 15:03
  get
• 15:03
  a
• 15:03
  toy.
• 15:03
  But
• 15:04
  it's
• 15:04
  also
• 15:04
  an
• 15:05
  opportunity
• 15:05
  to
• 15:05
  teach
• 15:05
  them
• 15:06
  interest.
• 15:07
  Well,
• 15:07
  that's
• 15:08
  true.
• 15:08
  The
• 15:08
  longer
• 15:08
  your
• 15:09
  money
• 15:09
  is
• 15:09
  there,
• 15:09
  extra
• 15:10
  money
• 15:10
  gets
• 15:11
  added.
• 15:11
  It
• 15:11
  doesn't
• 15:12
  earn
• 15:12
  interest
• 15:12
  in
• 15:13
  the
• 15:13
  jar,
• 15:14
  but
• 15:14
  I
• 15:14
  guess
• 15:14
  more,
• 15:15
  more
• 15:15
  dollars
• 15:15
  get
• 15:16
  added.
• 15:16
  Savings.
• 15:17
  Savings.
• 15:17
  It's
• 15:18
  good
• 15:18
  for
• 15:18
  savings.
• 15:19
  Right,
• 15:19
  but.
• 15:20
  And
• 15:20
  think
• 15:20
  how
• 15:20
  mad
• 15:21
  they
• 15:21
  would
• 15:21
  get
• 15:21
  if
• 15:21
  you
• 15:21
  took
• 15:21
  a
• 15:22
  dollar
• 15:22
  away
• 15:23
  anyway.
• 15:24
  In
• 15:24
  sense.
• 15:25
  Exactly.
• 15:25
  Also
• 15:26
  because
• 15:26
  I
• 15:26
  feel
• 15:26
  like
• 15:27
  kids
• 15:27
  think
• 15:27
  dollars
• 15:28
  are
• 15:28
  worth
• 15:28
  a
• 15:28
  lot
• 15:28
  more
• 15:29
  than
• 15:29
  they're
• 15:29
  actually
• 15:29
  worth.
• 15:30
  Maybe.
• 15:31
  Yeah.
• 15:32
  Well,
• 15:32
  anyway,
• 15:33
  I.
• 15:33
  I
• 15:33
  don't
• 15:33
  know.
• 15:33
  I
• 15:34
  thought.
• 15:34
  I
• 15:34
  actually
• 15:34
  like
• 15:35
  the
• 15:35
  idea
• 15:35
  of
• 15:35
  a
• 15:35
  reward
• 15:36
  system
• 15:36
  like
• 15:37
  that.
• 15:38
  But
• 15:38
  I
• 15:38
  swear
• 15:38
  I
• 15:39
  think
• 15:39
  I
• 15:39
  put
• 15:39
  money
• 15:39
  in
• 15:40
  it
• 15:40
  because
• 15:40
  I
• 15:40
  think,
• 15:41
  who
• 15:41
  cares
• 15:41
  about
• 15:41
  marbles?
• 15:43
  No,
• 15:43
  thanks.
• 15:44
  Maybe
• 15:44
  that
• 15:44
  says
• 15:45
  something
• 15:45
  about
• 15:45
  me.
• 15:46
  Are
• 15:46
  you.
• 15:47
  I
• 15:47
  don't
• 15:48
  know.
• 15:49
  Another
• 15:49
  principle
• 15:50
  of
• 15:50
  this
• 15:50
  book
• 15:51
  which
• 15:51
  is
• 15:51
  really
• 15:51
  big,
• 15:52
  comes
• 15:52
  up
• 15:52
  a
• 15:52
  lot.
• 15:53
  Routines
• 15:53
  and
• 15:54
  structure.
• 15:54
  Yes.
• 15:56
  Parents
• 15:56
  Are
• 15:56
  taught
• 15:57
  that
• 15:57
  you
• 15:57
  have
• 15:57
  to
• 15:57
  have
• 15:58
  like
• 15:58
  an
• 15:58
  organized
• 15:58
  daily
• 15:59
  routine
• 16:00
  and
• 16:00
  a
• 16:00
  schedule
• 16:00
  that
• 16:01
  kids
• 16:01
  know
• 16:02
  so
• 16:02
  they
• 16:02
  know
• 16:03
  when
• 16:03
  everything's
• 16:04
  going
• 16:04
  to
• 16:04
  happen
• 16:05
  and
• 16:05
  you
• 16:05
  follow
• 16:06
  the
• 16:06
  schedule
• 16:07
  and
• 16:07
  dinner
• 16:08
  is
• 16:08
  on
• 16:08
  the
• 16:09
  schedule
• 16:09
  and
• 16:09
  it's
• 16:10
  non
• 16:10
  negotiable.
• 16:11
  It's
• 16:12
  a
• 16:12
  place
• 16:12
  where
• 16:12
  families
• 16:13
  come
• 16:13
  together
• 16:14
  at
• 16:14
  the
• 16:14
  end
• 16:14
  of
• 16:14
  the
• 16:14
  day
• 16:15
  to
• 16:15
  talk.
• 16:16
  And
• 16:16
  they
• 16:17
  say
• 16:17
  that
• 16:18
  this
• 16:18
  predictability
• 16:19
  of
• 16:19
  routine
• 16:21
  limits
• 16:21
  kids
• 16:22
  from
• 16:22
  acting
• 16:23
  out.
• 16:23
  Interesting.
• 16:24
  I
• 16:24
  feel
• 16:24
  like
• 16:24
  that's
• 16:25
  a
• 16:25
  consistent
• 16:25
  thing
• 16:25
  we've
• 16:25
  seen
• 16:26
  in
• 16:26
  a
• 16:26
  lot
• 16:26
  of
• 16:26
  parenting
• 16:27
  books
• 16:27
  where
• 16:27
  this
• 16:27
  idea
• 16:28
  that
• 16:28
  dinner
• 16:28
  as
• 16:29
  a
• 16:29
  family
• 16:29
  is
• 16:30
  really
• 16:30
  important
• 16:31
  and
• 16:31
  that
• 16:31
  everybody
• 16:32
  has
• 16:32
  to
• 16:32
  prioritize
• 16:33
  it.
• 16:34
  And
• 16:35
  I
• 16:35
  mean,
• 16:36
  maybe.
• 16:37
  I
• 16:37
  don't
• 16:37
  know,
• 16:38
  I
• 16:38
  don't
• 16:38
  know
• 16:39
  that
• 16:39
  it.
• 16:39
  I
• 16:40
  would
• 16:40
  love
• 16:40
  to
• 16:41
  be
• 16:41
  able
• 16:41
  to.
• 16:41
  Do
• 16:41
  that
• 16:42
  with
• 16:42
  my
• 16:42
  family.
• 16:42
  Is
• 16:42
  it
• 16:43
  realistic
• 16:43
  for
• 16:43
  every
• 16:44
  family?
• 16:45
  I
• 16:45
  don't
• 16:46
  know.
• 16:46
  I
• 16:46
  don't
• 16:46
  think
• 16:47
  it
• 16:47
  is
• 16:47
  for
• 16:47
  every
• 16:47
  family
• 16:48
  every
• 16:48
  day.
• 16:49
  But
• 16:49
  I
• 16:50
  do
• 16:50
  think
• 16:50
  it.
• 16:51
  You
• 16:51
  know,
• 16:52
  there's
• 16:52
  a
• 16:52
  lot
• 16:52
  of
• 16:52
  research
• 16:53
  about
• 16:53
  how
• 16:53
  good
• 16:54
  family
• 16:55
  dinners
• 16:55
  are
• 16:55
  for
• 16:56
  everybody
• 16:56
  in
• 16:57
  a
• 16:57
  family.
• 16:58
  And
• 16:59
  so
• 16:59
  I
• 16:59
  would
• 16:59
  say
• 17:00
  if
• 17:00
  you
• 17:01
  can
• 17:01
  do
• 17:01
  it
• 17:02
  several
• 17:02
  days
• 17:02
  a
• 17:02
  week,
• 17:05
  it's
• 17:05
  probably
• 17:05
  a
• 17:06
  really
• 17:06
  good
• 17:06
  thing
• 17:06
  to
• 17:07
  do.
• 17:07
  You
• 17:07
  know,
• 17:08
  your
• 17:09
  father
• 17:09
  always
• 17:09
  worked
• 17:10
  later
• 17:10
  and
• 17:11
  it
• 17:11
  was
• 17:11
  then
• 17:12
  you
• 17:12
  wanted
• 17:12
  to
• 17:12
  eat
• 17:13
  like
• 17:13
  at
• 17:13
  5
• 17:13
  or
• 17:13
  6.
• 17:13
  He
• 17:14
  was
• 17:14
  on
• 17:14
  Barcelona
• 17:15
  time.
• 17:15
  He
• 17:15
  always
• 17:15
  was.
• 17:16
  And
• 17:16
  so,
• 17:17
  yeah,
• 17:17
  so
• 17:17
  anyway,
• 17:18
  it
• 17:18
  was
• 17:18
  hard
• 17:19
  to
• 17:19
  do
• 17:19
  family
• 17:19
  dinners,
• 17:20
  but.
• 17:21
  And
• 17:22
  the
• 17:22
  other
• 17:22
  problem
• 17:23
  we
• 17:23
  had,
• 17:23
  and
• 17:23
  again,
• 17:24
  this
• 17:24
  would
• 17:24
  not
• 17:24
  happen
• 17:24
  in
• 17:25
  a
• 17:25
  nanny
• 17:25
  911
• 17:26
  house,
• 17:27
  was
• 17:27
  that
• 17:27
  everybody
• 17:28
  ate
• 17:28
  different
• 17:28
  things
• 17:29
  because,
• 17:30
  you
• 17:30
  know,
• 17:31
  we
• 17:31
  all
• 17:31
  had
• 17:31
  different.
• 17:31
  We
• 17:32
  all
• 17:32
  liked
• 17:32
  different
• 17:32
  things.
• 17:33
  Yeah.
• 17:34
  What,
• 17:34
  what
• 17:35
  nanny
• 17:35
  911,
• 17:36
  you
• 17:36
  would
• 17:37
  all
• 17:37
  eat
• 17:37
  the
• 17:37
  same
• 17:38
  food
• 17:38
  and
• 17:38
  that.
• 17:39
  I
• 17:39
  think
• 17:39
  that
• 17:39
  is
• 17:39
  the
• 17:39
  right
• 17:40
  approach.
• 17:41
  Yeah,
• 17:41
  that's
• 17:41
  what
• 17:41
  I
• 17:41
  would
• 17:41
  like
• 17:42
  to
• 17:42
  try
• 17:42
  and
• 17:42
  do
• 17:43
  eventually.
• 17:44
  So
• 17:44
  you're
• 17:44
  planning
• 17:45
  on
• 17:45
  it?
• 17:45
  Yeah,
• 17:45
  I
• 17:46
  think
• 17:46
  so.
• 17:46
  I
• 17:47
  mean,
• 17:47
  I
• 17:47
  think
• 17:48
  it
• 17:48
  gives
• 17:48
  you
• 17:48
  an
• 17:48
  opportunity
• 17:49
  to
• 17:50
  understand
• 17:50
  day
• 17:51
  to
• 17:51
  day
• 17:51
  what's
• 17:51
  going
• 17:51
  on
• 17:52
  with
• 17:52
  your
• 17:52
  kids,
• 17:52
  you
• 17:53
  know,
• 17:53
  and
• 17:53
  it's
• 17:54
  like,
• 17:54
  I
• 17:55
  don't
• 17:55
  know,
• 17:55
  it
• 17:55
  sounds
• 17:55
  like
• 17:55
  a
• 17:55
  nice
• 17:56
  thing
• 17:56
  to
• 17:56
  kind
• 17:56
  of
• 17:56
  remember.
• 17:57
  Oh
• 17:57
  yeah.
• 17:58
  You
• 17:58
  know,
• 17:59
  and
• 17:59
  it
• 17:59
  teaches
• 18:00
  kids
• 18:00
  to
• 18:00
  talk
• 18:01
  and
• 18:01
  share
• 18:01
  their
• 18:02
  opinion
• 18:03
  and
• 18:03
  they
• 18:03
  feel
• 18:04
  listened
• 18:04
  to.
• 18:06
  Yeah,
• 18:06
  no,
• 18:06
  I
• 18:06
  would
• 18:07
  agree.
• 18:07
  I
• 18:07
  think
• 18:07
  that's
• 18:08
  great.
• 18:08
  And
• 18:08
  I
• 18:08
  think
• 18:09
  routine
• 18:09
  is
• 18:09
  good
• 18:10
  for
• 18:10
  young
• 18:10
  kids.
• 18:11
  I
• 18:11
  agree
• 18:11
  with
• 18:11
  that.
• 18:12
  It's
• 18:12
  one
• 18:12
  of
• 18:12
  the
• 18:12
  first
• 18:13
  things,
• 18:13
  like
• 18:13
  when
• 18:13
  they
• 18:13
  start
• 18:14
  nursery
• 18:14
  school,
• 18:15
  first
• 18:15
  thing
• 18:15
  they
• 18:15
  do
• 18:15
  is
• 18:16
  make
• 18:16
  a
• 18:16
  schedule
• 18:17
  so
• 18:17
  the
• 18:17
  kids
• 18:18
  know
• 18:18
  what
• 18:18
  to
• 18:18
  expect
• 18:19
  during
• 18:20
  the
• 18:20
  school
• 18:20
  day.
• 18:21
  I'm
• 18:21
  trying
• 18:22
  to
• 18:22
  implement
• 18:22
  a
• 18:22
  schedule
• 18:23
  right
• 18:23
  now
• 18:23
  I
• 18:23
  have
• 18:23
  an
• 18:23
  almost
• 18:24
  four
• 18:24
  month
• 18:24
  old
• 18:25
  and
• 18:25
  I'm
• 18:26
  trying
• 18:26
  to
• 18:26
  figure
• 18:26
  out,
• 18:27
  I'm
• 18:27
  trying
• 18:27
  to
• 18:27
  get
• 18:27
  her
• 18:28
  to
• 18:28
  eat
• 18:28
  at
• 18:28
  the
• 18:28
  same
• 18:29
  time
• 18:29
  and
• 18:29
  nap
• 18:29
  at
• 18:29
  the
• 18:30
  same
• 18:30
  time.
• 18:30
  But
• 18:30
  Every
• 18:31
  day
• 18:31
  she's
• 18:31
  so
• 18:31
  different
• 18:31
  and
• 18:32
  in
• 18:32
  such
• 18:32
  a
• 18:32
  different
• 18:32
  mood.
• 18:33
  Today
• 18:34
  I
• 18:34
  got
• 18:34
  her
• 18:34
  to
• 18:34
  nap
• 18:35
  for
• 18:35
  an
• 18:35
  hour
• 18:35
  in
• 18:36
  the
• 18:36
  morning,
• 18:36
  and
• 18:36
  then
• 18:36
  she
• 18:36
  woke
• 18:37
  up,
• 18:37
  Woke
• 18:37
  up
• 18:38
  incensed.
• 18:39
  So
• 18:39
  I
• 18:39
  fed
• 18:39
  her
• 18:40
  because
• 18:40
  I
• 18:40
  was
• 18:40
  like,
• 18:41
  well,
• 18:41
  this
• 18:41
  will
• 18:41
  definitely
• 18:41
  calm
• 18:42
  her
• 18:42
  down.
• 18:43
  And
• 18:43
  like,
• 18:43
  I
• 18:43
  could
• 18:44
  not
• 18:44
  calm
• 18:44
  her
• 18:44
  down
• 18:44
  otherwise.
• 18:45
  So
• 18:45
  I'm,
• 18:46
  I'm
• 18:46
  still
• 18:46
  like,
• 18:47
  well,
• 18:47
  she's
• 18:48
  young.
• 18:48
  She
• 18:49
  is.
• 18:49
  You
• 18:49
  know,
• 18:49
  she
• 18:49
  won't
• 18:50
  remember
• 18:50
  this.
• 18:50
  You
• 18:51
  know,
• 18:51
  that's
• 18:51
  what,
• 18:51
  that's
• 18:52
  what
• 18:52
  you
• 18:52
  can
• 18:52
  make
• 18:53
  yourself
• 18:53
  feel
• 18:53
  good
• 18:53
  about.
• 18:54
  That
• 18:54
  she
• 18:55
  won't.
• 18:55
  Right.
• 18:56
  So,
• 18:56
  no,
• 18:56
  I,
• 18:57
  I
• 18:57
  would
• 18:57
  say
• 18:57
  that
• 18:57
  is,
• 18:58
  is
• 18:58
  she
• 18:59
  won't
• 18:59
  remember.
• 18:59
  But,
• 18:59
  but
• 19:00
  you,
• 19:00
  you.
• 19:00
  It
• 19:00
  is
• 19:01
  hard
• 19:01
  to
• 19:01
  get
• 19:01
  them
• 19:02
  on
• 19:02
  a
• 19:02
  schedule.
• 19:02
  Yeah.
• 19:03
  And,
• 19:03
  and
• 19:04
  especially
• 19:04
  when
• 19:04
  they're
• 19:04
  babies.
• 19:05
  So
• 19:05
  that's
• 19:06
  gonna
• 19:06
  take
• 19:06
  a
• 19:06
  lot
• 19:06
  of
• 19:06
  work.
• 19:07
  The
• 19:07
  next
• 19:07
  one
• 19:07
  was
• 19:08
  calm,
• 19:08
  direct
• 19:09
  communication,
• 19:10
  no
• 19:10
  confrontation.
• 19:12
  I
• 19:12
  feel
• 19:12
  like
• 19:12
  confronting
• 19:13
  a
• 19:13
  toddler
• 19:14
  is
• 19:14
  probably
• 19:14
  a
• 19:14
  very
• 19:15
  futile
• 19:16
  task
• 19:17
  because,
• 19:18
  like,
• 19:19
  they're
• 19:19
  not
• 19:19
  operating
• 19:20
  on
• 19:20
  logic.
• 19:21
  No,
• 19:21
  no.
• 19:22
  Well,
• 19:23
  she
• 19:23
  tells
• 19:23
  you
• 19:24
  how
• 19:24
  to
• 19:24
  talk
• 19:24
  to
• 19:25
  a
• 19:25
  child.
• 19:25
  And
• 19:26
  I
• 19:26
  think
• 19:26
  this
• 19:26
  is
• 19:26
  really
• 19:27
  important
• 19:27
  because,
• 19:28
  you
• 19:28
  know,
• 19:29
  a
• 19:29
  lot
• 19:29
  of
• 19:29
  times
• 19:30
  in
• 19:30
  the
• 19:30
  show
• 19:31
  I
• 19:31
  saw
• 19:32
  the
• 19:32
  parent
• 19:32
  would
• 19:33
  be
• 19:33
  screaming
• 19:34
  at
• 19:34
  the
• 19:34
  kids
• 19:34
  the
• 19:35
  back
• 19:35
  of
• 19:35
  the
• 19:35
  kid's
• 19:35
  head.
• 19:36
  Oh,
• 19:36
  my
• 19:36
  God.
• 19:36
  And,
• 19:36
  and
• 19:37
  a
• 19:37
  kid
• 19:37
  is
• 19:37
  not
• 19:38
  gonna
• 19:38
  listen
• 19:38
  or
• 19:39
  hear
• 19:39
  you
• 19:39
  when
• 19:39
  you're
• 19:39
  screaming
• 19:40
  at
• 19:40
  the
• 19:40
  back
• 19:40
  of
• 19:40
  their
• 19:40
  head.
• 19:41
  So
• 19:42
  nannies
• 19:42
  have
• 19:43
  these,
• 19:43
  this
• 19:43
  technique
• 19:44
  where
• 19:44
  they
• 19:44
  get
• 19:45
  down
• 19:45
  at
• 19:45
  the
• 19:46
  child's
• 19:46
  eye
• 19:46
  level.
• 19:47
  They
• 19:48
  use
• 19:48
  a
• 19:48
  very
• 19:48
  low
• 19:49
  calm
• 19:49
  tone.
• 19:51
  They
• 19:51
  say
• 19:51
  things
• 19:52
  like,
• 19:52
  I
• 19:52
  need
• 19:53
  you
• 19:53
  to
• 19:53
  clean
• 19:53
  up
• 19:54
  right
• 19:54
  now
• 19:55
  as
• 19:55
  opposed
• 19:55
  to
• 19:55
  clean
• 19:56
  up
• 19:56
  your
• 19:56
  room.
• 19:57
  You
• 19:57
  know,
• 19:58
  it's
• 19:58
  like
• 19:58
  that.
• 19:58
  Yeah.
• 19:59
  It
• 19:59
  gives
• 19:59
  the
• 19:59
  kids
• 19:59
  like
• 19:59
  a
• 20:00
  sense
• 20:00
  of
• 20:02
  like,
• 20:02
  someone
• 20:02
  needs
• 20:03
  something.
• 20:03
  I
• 20:04
  need
• 20:04
  you
• 20:04
  to
• 20:05
  do
• 20:05
  this.
• 20:05
  Yeah,
• 20:06
  right.
• 20:07
  And
• 20:07
  they,
• 20:07
  and
• 20:07
  they,
• 20:08
  if
• 20:08
  the
• 20:08
  child's
• 20:08
  upset
• 20:09
  for
• 20:09
  any
• 20:09
  reason,
• 20:10
  acknowledge
• 20:10
  their
• 20:10
  feelings
• 20:11
  before
• 20:11
  you
• 20:12
  get
• 20:12
  mad
• 20:12
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• 20:12
  them
• 20:12
  for
• 20:13
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• 20:13
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• 20:14
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• 20:15
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• 20:16
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• 20:16
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• 21:35
  any
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  parent.
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  That
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  another
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  point
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  they
• 21:37
  made
• 21:37
  in
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  the
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  book
• 21:37
  was
• 21:37
  that
• 21:37
  like
• 21:38
  every
• 21:38
  kid's
• 21:38
  gonna
• 21:39
  lose
• 21:39
  it
• 21:39
  sometimes.
• 21:40
  No
• 21:40
  child
• 21:40
  is
• 21:41
  level
• 21:41
  headed
• 21:42
  all
• 21:42
  the
• 21:42
  time.
• 21:42
  As
• 21:43
  a
• 21:43
  parent
• 21:43
  you
• 21:44
  have
• 21:44
  to
• 21:44
  learn
• 21:45
  to
• 21:45
  accept,
• 21:46
  accept
• 21:47
  it
• 21:47
  and
• 21:47
  deal
• 21:48
  with
• 21:48
  it.
• 21:48
  You
• 21:49
  know,
• 21:49
  you
• 21:49
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• 21:49
  panic,
• 21:50
  you
• 21:50
  can't,
• 21:51
  you
• 21:52
  know,
• 21:52
  bargain
• 21:52
  with
• 21:52
  them,
• 21:53
  you
• 21:53
  can't
• 21:55
  demand
• 21:56
  that
• 21:56
  they
• 21:56
  calm
• 21:56
  down.
• 21:58
  You
• 21:58
  know,
• 21:58
  it's
• 21:59
  just,
• 21:59
  you
• 21:59
  gotta
• 22:00
  just
• 22:00
  deal
• 22:00
  with
• 22:00
  it.
• 22:00
  That's
• 22:01
  right.
• 22:01
  Well,
• 22:01
  well,
• 22:02
  yeah.
• 22:02
  And,
• 22:04
  and
• 22:04
  they
• 22:04
  tell
• 22:05
  you
• 22:05
  not
• 22:05
  to
• 22:05
  over
• 22:06
  explain
• 22:07
  to
• 22:07
  your
• 22:07
  young
• 22:07
  child
• 22:08
  that,
• 22:08
  that
• 22:09
  if
• 22:10
  you're
• 22:10
  over
• 22:10
  explaining,
• 22:11
  you
• 22:11
  know,
• 22:12
  don't
• 22:12
  do
• 22:13
  this
• 22:13
  because
• 22:14
  it's
• 22:14
  not
• 22:14
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• 22:15
  to
• 22:15
  your
• 22:15
  sister
• 22:16
  when
• 22:16
  you
• 22:16
  take
• 22:16
  her
• 22:16
  stuff.
• 22:17
  Yeah.
• 22:17
  Your
• 22:18
  child
• 22:18
  will
• 22:18
  not
• 22:18
  even
• 22:18
  understand
• 22:19
  that.
• 22:19
  It's
• 22:20
  like,
• 22:20
  I
• 22:20
  need
• 22:20
  you
• 22:21
  to
• 22:21
  put
• 22:21
  your
• 22:21
  sister's
• 22:22
  things
• 22:22
  down
• 22:23
  and,
• 22:23
  and
• 22:23
  play
• 22:23
  with
• 22:24
  your
• 22:24
  own
• 22:24
  toys
• 22:25
  because
• 22:25
  she's
• 22:25
  upset.
• 22:26
  Leave
• 22:26
  it
• 22:26
  at
• 22:26
  that.
• 22:27
  Yeah,
• 22:27
  you
• 22:27
  know,
• 22:27
  simple.
• 22:28
  Yeah,
• 22:28
  they
• 22:29
  do
• 22:29
  actually
• 22:29
  also
• 22:29
  though
• 22:30
  they
• 22:30
  mentioned
• 22:31
  from
• 22:31
  when
• 22:31
  your
• 22:31
  children
• 22:32
  are
• 22:32
  really
• 22:32
  little,
• 22:32
  you
• 22:32
  should
• 22:33
  tell
• 22:33
  them
• 22:33
  everything.
• 22:33
  You
• 22:34
  should
• 22:34
  explain
• 22:34
  to
• 22:35
  them
• 22:35
  in
• 22:35
  the
• 22:36
  sense
• 22:36
  of
• 22:36
  like
• 22:36
  what
• 22:36
  you
• 22:37
  are
• 22:37
  doing.
• 22:37
  Like
• 22:37
  kids
• 22:38
  don't
• 22:38
  like
• 22:39
  surprises,
• 22:40
  you
• 22:41
  know,
• 22:41
  so
• 22:41
  like,
• 22:41
  and
• 22:41
  you
• 22:42
  always
• 22:42
  emphasize
• 22:43
  this,
• 22:43
  you
• 22:43
  should
• 22:43
  tell,
• 22:43
  talk
• 22:44
  to
• 22:44
  your
• 22:44
  kids
• 22:44
  all
• 22:45
  the
• 22:45
  time.
• 22:45
  Right.
• 22:46
  Because
• 22:46
  it
• 22:46
  helps
• 22:46
  with
• 22:46
  their
• 22:46
  verbal
• 22:47
  skills.
• 22:48
  But
• 22:48
  also
• 22:49
  when
• 22:49
  they
• 22:49
  have
• 22:49
  an
• 22:49
  understanding
• 22:50
  of
• 22:50
  what's
• 22:50
  going
• 22:50
  on.
• 22:51
  Like
• 22:51
  say
• 22:51
  you're
• 22:51
  changing
• 22:52
  their
• 22:52
  diaper.
• 22:52
  Say,
• 22:52
  okay,
• 22:53
  I'm
• 22:53
  changing
• 22:53
  your
• 22:54
  diaper.
• 22:54
  This
• 22:55
  is
• 22:55
  a
• 22:55
  wipe.
• 22:55
  It's
• 22:56
  cold.
• 22:57
  Oh,
• 22:58
  this
• 22:59
  is
• 22:59
  a
• 22:59
  new
• 22:59
  pair
• 23:00
  of
• 23:00
  pajamas
• 23:00
  because
• 23:01
  you
• 23:01
  barfed
• 23:01
  all
• 23:01
  over
• 23:02
  your
• 23:02
  other
• 23:02
  ones.
• 23:03
  That's
• 23:03
  okay.
• 23:04
  Yeah.
• 23:05
  Like
• 23:05
  giving
• 23:05
  them
• 23:05
  a
• 23:06
  play
• 23:06
  by
• 23:06
  play
• 23:06
  is
• 23:06
  helpful
• 23:07
  for
• 23:07
  kids
• 23:08
  because
• 23:08
  they
• 23:09
  like
• 23:10
  to
• 23:10
  be
• 23:10
  included
• 23:10
  and
• 23:11
  they
• 23:11
  like
• 23:11
  to
• 23:11
  understand
• 23:12
  what's
• 23:12
  going
• 23:12
  on.
• 23:13
  Right.
• 23:13
  And
• 23:14
  I
• 23:14
  think
• 23:14
  they
• 23:14
  understand
• 23:15
  more
• 23:15
  than
• 23:15
  you
• 23:15
  think
• 23:15
  they
• 23:16
  understand.
• 23:16
  Yeah.
• 23:18
  And,
• 23:18
  and,
• 23:19
  and
• 23:19
  you're
• 23:19
  including
• 23:19
  them.
• 23:20
  I
• 23:20
  think
• 23:20
  that
• 23:20
  you're
• 23:20
  right.
• 23:21
  I
• 23:21
  think
• 23:21
  that's
• 23:21
  good.
• 23:22
  I,
• 23:22
  I've
• 23:22
  always
• 23:22
  been
• 23:23
  one
• 23:23
  to
• 23:23
  say
• 23:23
  talk
• 23:24
  to
• 23:24
  your
• 23:24
  child
• 23:24
  a
• 23:25
  lot.
• 23:25
  That's
• 23:25
  the
• 23:25
  best
• 23:25
  thing
• 23:26
  you
• 23:26
  can
• 23:26
  do.
• 23:26
  Yeah.
• 23:28
  So
• 23:28
  also
• 23:29
  in
• 23:29
  this
• 23:29
  book
• 23:29
  they
• 23:30
  have
• 23:30
  the
• 23:30
  respect
• 23:30
  rule.
• 23:31
  Yes.
• 23:32
  She
• 23:32
  says
• 23:32
  if
• 23:32
  you
• 23:33
  don't
• 23:33
  respect
• 23:33
  your
• 23:33
  children.
• 23:34
  Your
• 23:34
  children
• 23:35
  won't
• 23:35
  respect
• 23:35
  you.
• 23:37
  So
• 23:37
  that
• 23:37
  means
• 23:37
  you
• 23:37
  as
• 23:38
  a
• 23:38
  parent,
• 23:38
  need
• 23:39
  to
• 23:39
  use
• 23:39
  respectful
• 23:39
  language
• 23:40
  when
• 23:40
  you
• 23:40
  talk
• 23:40
  to
• 23:41
  your
• 23:41
  child.
• 23:42
  And
• 23:42
  you
• 23:43
  insist
• 23:43
  on
• 23:43
  respect
• 23:44
  from
• 23:44
  your
• 23:45
  child.
• 23:45
  Like,
• 23:46
  you
• 23:46
  teach
• 23:46
  them
• 23:46
  to
• 23:47
  be
• 23:47
  polite,
• 23:47
  to
• 23:48
  say
• 23:48
  hello,
• 23:49
  goodbye,
• 23:50
  thank
• 23:51
  you,
• 23:51
  I'm
• 23:51
  sorry.
• 23:52
  Things
• 23:52
  like
• 23:53
  that.
• 23:54
  You,
• 23:54
  as
• 23:54
  a
• 23:54
  family
• 23:55
  need
• 23:55
  to
• 23:55
  treat
• 23:56
  each
• 23:56
  other
• 23:56
  with
• 23:56
  respect,
• 23:57
  treat
• 23:57
  your
• 23:57
  spouse
• 23:58
  or
• 23:58
  partner
• 23:59
  with
• 23:59
  respect.
• 24:00
  Then
• 24:01
  you
• 24:01
  should
• 24:01
  have
• 24:02
  weekly
• 24:03
  family
• 24:04
  rituals,
• 24:05
  like
• 24:05
  Sunday
• 24:05
  dinner
• 24:06
  or
• 24:06
  whatever.
• 24:06
  Is
• 24:06
  a
• 24:07
  good
• 24:07
  family
• 24:07
  ritual
• 24:07
  for
• 24:08
  you,
• 24:09
  that
• 24:09
  these
• 24:09
  respect
• 24:10
  rules
• 24:10
  mean
• 24:11
  a
• 24:11
  lot
• 24:11
  to
• 24:11
  kids.
• 24:12
  Yeah.
• 24:12
  I
• 24:13
  feel
• 24:13
  like
• 24:13
  respect
• 24:13
  is
• 24:13
  such
• 24:13
  a
• 24:14
  vague
• 24:14
  concept
• 24:15
  for
• 24:15
  kids.
• 24:15
  You
• 24:16
  know,
• 24:16
  they
• 24:17
  just.
• 24:18
  Maybe
• 24:18
  they
• 24:19
  understand
• 24:19
  it
• 24:20
  in
• 24:20
  practice,
• 24:21
  but
• 24:21
  they
• 24:21
  don't
• 24:22
  really
• 24:22
  understand
• 24:22
  it
• 24:22
  in
• 24:23
  theory.
• 24:23
  Like,
• 24:23
  they
• 24:23
  know
• 24:24
  what
• 24:24
  it
• 24:24
  feels
• 24:24
  like
• 24:25
  to
• 24:25
  feel
• 24:25
  respected,
• 24:26
  but
• 24:27
  it's
• 24:27
  harder,
• 24:28
  I
• 24:28
  think,
• 24:28
  for
• 24:28
  them
• 24:28
  to
• 24:29
  give
• 24:29
  it
• 24:29
  because
• 24:30
  it's
• 24:30
  more
• 24:30
  abstract.
• 24:31
  For
• 24:31
  them.
• 24:32
  It
• 24:32
  is
• 24:32
  an
• 24:32
  abstract
• 24:33
  idea.
• 24:33
  So
• 24:34
  I
• 24:34
  think
• 24:34
  that
• 24:35
  the
• 24:35
  way
• 24:35
  you
• 24:36
  deal
• 24:36
  with
• 24:36
  that
• 24:36
  is
• 24:37
  you
• 24:37
  teach
• 24:37
  them
• 24:38
  from
• 24:38
  a
• 24:38
  young
• 24:38
  age
• 24:39
  to
• 24:39
  do
• 24:40
  things
• 24:40
  like
• 24:40
  say
• 24:41
  thank
• 24:41
  you,
• 24:42
  to
• 24:42
  say
• 24:42
  please,
• 24:43
  and
• 24:43
  you
• 24:43
  make
• 24:44
  it
• 24:44
  a
• 24:44
  habit.
• 24:44
  Yeah.
• 24:45
  And
• 24:45
  they
• 24:45
  don't
• 24:46
  even
• 24:46
  have
• 24:46
  to
• 24:46
  know
• 24:47
  that
• 24:47
  that
• 24:47
  is
• 24:47
  a
• 24:47
  show
• 24:48
  of
• 24:48
  respect
• 24:48
  necessarily.
• 24:50
  They
• 24:50
  don't
• 24:50
  need
• 24:50
  the
• 24:50
  wise.
• 24:51
  Yeah.
• 24:51
  Just
• 24:51
  do
• 24:52
  it.
• 24:52
  Yeah.
• 24:53
  What
• 24:53
  do
• 24:53
  you
• 24:53
  say?
• 24:54
  Thank
• 24:54
  you.
• 24:55
  What
• 24:55
  do
• 24:55
  you
• 24:55
  say?
• 24:56
  I'm
• 24:56
  sorry.
• 24:57
  I
• 24:57
  mean,
• 24:57
  you
• 24:57
  know,
• 24:58
  you
• 24:58
  have
• 24:58
  to
• 24:58
  just
• 24:59
  teach
• 24:59
  them
• 24:59
  those
• 24:59
  things
• 25:00
  and
• 25:00
  make
• 25:00
  them
• 25:00
  habits,
• 25:01
  and
• 25:01
  then.
• 25:02
  And
• 25:02
  if
• 25:02
  they
• 25:03
  see
• 25:03
  that's
• 25:03
  how
• 25:04
  you
• 25:04
  as
• 25:04
  a
• 25:05
  parent
• 25:05
  interact
• 25:06
  with
• 25:07
  your,
• 25:07
  you
• 25:07
  know,
• 25:08
  with
• 25:08
  other
• 25:08
  people,
• 25:09
  then
• 25:10
  they'll
• 25:10
  model
• 25:10
  it
• 25:11
  as
• 25:11
  well.
• 25:11
  Yeah.
• 25:12
  And
• 25:13
  then
• 25:13
  chores.
• 25:14
  I
• 25:14
  thought
• 25:14
  they
• 25:14
  made
• 25:14
  an
• 25:15
  interesting
• 25:15
  distinction
• 25:15
  of
• 25:16
  chores
• 25:17
  that
• 25:17
  are
• 25:17
  expected
• 25:17
  of
• 25:18
  you
• 25:18
  and
• 25:18
  then
• 25:18
  chores
• 25:19
  that
• 25:19
  are
• 25:19
  worthy
• 25:19
  of
• 25:19
  an
• 25:20
  allowance.
• 25:21
  I
• 25:22
  feel
• 25:22
  like
• 25:22
  we
• 25:22
  didn't
• 25:23
  really
• 25:23
  do
• 25:23
  chores.
• 25:25
  No.
• 25:25
  And
• 25:25
  I
• 25:25
  look
• 25:26
  back
• 25:26
  on
• 25:26
  how
• 25:26
  I
• 25:27
  brought
• 25:27
  you
• 25:27
  up,
• 25:27
  and
• 25:28
  that's
• 25:29
  something
• 25:29
  I
• 25:29
  really
• 25:29
  regret.
• 25:31
  Um,
• 25:31
  I
• 25:32
  did
• 25:32
  not
• 25:33
  do
• 25:33
  a
• 25:33
  good
• 25:33
  job
• 25:33
  with
• 25:33
  that
• 25:34
  because
• 25:35
  remember
• 25:36
  how
• 25:36
  messy
• 25:36
  your
• 25:36
  room
• 25:37
  was?
• 25:37
  Oh,
• 25:37
  my
• 25:37
  God,
• 25:38
  it
• 25:38
  was
• 25:38
  so
• 25:39
  messy.
• 25:39
  And
• 25:39
  I
• 25:39
  allowed
• 25:40
  it.
• 25:40
  And
• 25:41
  I
• 25:41
  would
• 25:41
  just
• 25:41
  come
• 25:42
  in
• 25:42
  and
• 25:42
  clean
• 25:42
  it
• 25:43
  for
• 25:43
  you.
• 25:43
  No
• 25:43
  one
• 25:44
  cleaned
• 25:44
  it.
• 25:44
  Well,
• 25:45
  eventually,
• 25:45
  my
• 25:46
  method
• 25:46
  of
• 25:46
  cleaning
• 25:47
  my
• 25:47
  room
• 25:47
  was
• 25:48
  shoving
• 25:48
  everything
• 25:49
  into
• 25:49
  my
• 25:49
  closet
• 25:50
  until
• 25:50
  it
• 25:50
  was
• 25:51
  piled
• 25:51
  higher
• 25:52
  than
• 25:52
  my
• 25:52
  head.
• 25:53
  Right.
• 25:53
  But
• 25:53
  I
• 25:54
  couldn't
• 25:54
  see
• 25:54
  the
• 25:54
  mess.
• 25:55
  Therefore,
• 25:56
  there
• 25:56
  was
• 25:56
  no
• 25:56
  mess.
• 25:57
  Right.
• 25:57
  Right.
• 25:58
  No,
• 25:59
  I
• 25:59
  was
• 25:59
  not.
• 25:59
  Good.
• 25:59
  I
• 26:00
  should
• 26:00
  have.
• 26:01
  And
• 26:01
  I
• 26:01
  remember
• 26:01
  talking
• 26:02
  to
• 26:02
  my
• 26:02
  own
• 26:02
  mother
• 26:03
  about
• 26:03
  it,
• 26:03
  and
• 26:03
  she
• 26:03
  said,
• 26:04
  well,
• 26:04
  maybe
• 26:05
  Skylar's
• 26:05
  not
• 26:05
  cleaning
• 26:06
  up
• 26:06
  her
• 26:06
  room
• 26:06
  because
• 26:06
  maybe
• 26:07
  she
• 26:07
  doesn't
• 26:07
  know
• 26:07
  how
• 26:08
  and
• 26:08
  you
• 26:09
  need
• 26:09
  to
• 26:09
  teach
• 26:09
  her
• 26:10
  how.
• 26:11
  And
• 26:11
  you
• 26:11
  need
• 26:12
  to
• 26:12
  maybe
• 26:13
  make
• 26:14
  a
• 26:14
  list
• 26:14
  of
• 26:14
  all
• 26:14
  the
• 26:15
  steps
• 26:15
  she
• 26:15
  has
• 26:16
  to
• 26:16
  take
• 26:16
  to
• 26:16
  clean
• 26:16
  a
• 26:17
  room
• 26:17
  and
• 26:17
  make
• 26:17
  a
• 26:18
  picture
• 26:18
  of
• 26:18
  what
• 26:18
  it
• 26:18
  looks
• 26:19
  like.
• 26:19
  Clean.
• 26:19
  God,
• 26:20
  Bless
• 26:20
  Grandma
• 26:20
  Sherry.
• 26:21
  I
• 26:21
  know
• 26:21
  she
• 26:22
  was
• 26:22
  giving
• 26:22
  me
• 26:22
  all
• 26:23
  this
• 26:23
  good
• 26:23
  advice,
• 26:23
  which
• 26:24
  I
• 26:24
  didn't
• 26:24
  follow.
• 26:25
  She
• 26:25
  had
• 26:25
  so
• 26:25
  much
• 26:26
  faith
• 26:26
  in
• 26:26
  me.
• 26:26
  The
• 26:27
  truth
• 26:27
  is,
• 26:27
  I
• 26:27
  just
• 26:27
  didn't
• 26:27
  want
• 26:28
  to
• 26:28
  clean
• 26:28
  my
• 26:28
  room.
• 26:29
  Well,
• 26:29
  and
• 26:30
  you
• 26:30
  had
• 26:30
  adhd,
• 26:31
  and
• 26:31
  organization
• 26:31
  was
• 26:32
  always
• 26:32
  a
• 26:33
  problem
• 26:33
  for
• 26:33
  you.
• 26:34
  Yeah,
• 26:34
  so.
• 26:35
  But
• 26:35
  that's
• 26:35
  no
• 26:35
  excuse.
• 26:36
  I
• 26:36
  still
• 26:36
  should
• 26:37
  have
• 26:37
  taught
• 26:37
  you
• 26:37
  how.
• 26:38
  And
• 26:38
  eventually
• 26:38
  you
• 26:38
  did
• 26:39
  learn
• 26:39
  how,
• 26:40
  but.
• 26:41
  Well,
• 26:41
  I
• 26:41
  learned
• 26:41
  how
• 26:42
  when
• 26:42
  I
• 26:42
  lived
• 26:43
  on
• 26:43
  my
• 26:43
  own
• 26:44
  because
• 26:44
  I
• 26:45
  realized,
• 26:45
  like,
• 26:46
  no
• 26:46
  one's
• 26:47
  going
• 26:47
  to
• 26:47
  do
• 26:47
  this
• 26:47
  for
• 26:47
  me
• 26:48
  if
• 26:48
  I
• 26:48
  don't
• 26:48
  do
• 26:49
  this.
• 26:49
  Like,
• 26:49
  it
• 26:49
  piles
• 26:50
  up
• 26:50
  so,
• 26:50
  so
• 26:50
  fast.
• 26:51
  And
• 26:51
  now
• 26:52
  I
• 26:52
  am
• 26:52
  compulsively
• 26:53
  clean.
• 26:54
  That's
• 26:54
  right.
• 26:54
  You
• 26:54
  are.
• 26:55
  Yeah.
• 26:55
  It's,
• 26:55
  like,
• 26:56
  crazy.
• 26:56
  Like,
• 26:56
  I
• 26:57
  can't
• 26:57
  function
• 26:58
  unless
• 26:58
  everything
• 26:59
  is
• 26:59
  where
• 26:59
  it
• 26:59
  belongs,
• 27:00
  which
• 27:01
  is
• 27:01
  probably
• 27:01
  its
• 27:01
  own
• 27:02
  issue.
• 27:02
  Well,
• 27:03
  yeah,
• 27:03
  but
• 27:04
  it's.
• 27:04
  It's
• 27:04
  good.
• 27:04
  It's
• 27:05
  good
• 27:05
  that
• 27:05
  you.
• 27:05
  You
• 27:06
  signed.
• 27:06
  You
• 27:06
  got
• 27:06
  over
• 27:06
  it.
• 27:07
  But.
• 27:07
  But
• 27:07
  I
• 27:08
  should
• 27:08
  have
• 27:08
  helped
• 27:09
  by.
• 27:10
  By
• 27:11
  teaching
• 27:11
  you
• 27:12
  early
• 27:12
  on
• 27:12
  to
• 27:13
  put
• 27:13
  things
• 27:13
  away,
• 27:13
  to
• 27:14
  keep
• 27:14
  things
• 27:14
  organized.
• 27:15
  And
• 27:15
  I
• 27:15
  should
• 27:15
  have
• 27:17
  made
• 27:17
  you
• 27:17
  guys
• 27:17
  do
• 27:18
  certain
• 27:18
  chores
• 27:18
  in
• 27:18
  order
• 27:19
  to
• 27:19
  earn
• 27:19
  an
• 27:19
  allowance.
• 27:20
  I
• 27:20
  didn't
• 27:20
  do
• 27:20
  that.
• 27:21
  And,
• 27:21
  I
• 27:22
  mean,
• 27:22
  I
• 27:22
  wish
• 27:22
  I'd
• 27:22
  read
• 27:22
  this
• 27:23
  book
• 27:23
  years
• 27:23
  ago
• 27:23
  because
• 27:23
  there's
• 27:24
  so
• 27:24
  much
• 27:24
  I
• 27:25
  would
• 27:25
  have
• 27:25
  done
• 27:25
  differently.
• 27:26
  There's
• 27:26
  lots
• 27:26
  of
• 27:26
  rules
• 27:27
  and
• 27:27
  things
• 27:28
  I
• 27:28
  could
• 27:28
  have
• 27:28
  done
• 27:28
  to
• 27:28
  make
• 27:29
  a
• 27:29
  more
• 27:29
  orderly
• 27:29
  house.
• 27:30
  Yeah.
• 27:30
  I
• 27:30
  honestly
• 27:31
  preferred
• 27:31
  the
• 27:31
  show
• 27:31
  to
• 27:32
  the
• 27:32
  book.
• 27:32
  The
• 27:33
  show
• 27:33
  is.
• 27:33
  Just
• 27:33
  watching
• 27:34
  this
• 27:34
  stuff
• 27:34
  in
• 27:34
  practice
• 27:35
  is
• 27:35
  so
• 27:35
  much
• 27:36
  easier
• 27:38
  because,
• 27:38
  again,
• 27:38
  the
• 27:39
  book
• 27:39
  was
• 27:39
  chaotic.
• 27:40
  Yeah,
• 27:40
  the
• 27:40
  book
• 27:41
  was
• 27:41
  really
• 27:41
  chaotic.
• 27:41
  It
• 27:42
  was
• 27:42
  chaotic
• 27:42
  in
• 27:42
  the
• 27:42
  way.
• 27:42
  It
• 27:42
  was
• 27:42
  organized,
• 27:43
  and
• 27:43
  it's
• 27:43
  chaotic
• 27:44
  in
• 27:44
  the
• 27:44
  way.
• 27:45
  In
• 27:45
  just
• 27:45
  the
• 27:46
  ideas
• 27:46
  and
• 27:47
  their
• 27:47
  examples.
• 27:47
  They
• 27:48
  give
• 27:48
  you
• 27:48
  so
• 27:48
  many
• 27:49
  conversations.
• 27:50
  Right.
• 27:51
  Sample
• 27:51
  conversations.
• 27:53
  And
• 27:53
  I'm
• 27:53
  just.
• 27:54
  Honestly,
• 27:55
  I
• 27:55
  skipped
• 27:55
  a
• 27:56
  lot
• 27:56
  of
• 27:56
  those
• 27:56
  because
• 27:56
  I
• 27:56
  was
• 27:57
  like,
• 27:58
  yeah,
• 27:58
  it's
• 27:59
  easier.
• 27:59
  To
• 27:59
  watch
• 27:59
  it
• 27:59
  being
• 28:00
  played
• 28:00
  out
• 28:00
  on
• 28:01
  television
• 28:01
  than
• 28:02
  it
• 28:02
  is
• 28:02
  to
• 28:03
  say,
• 28:03
  here's
• 28:03
  a
• 28:03
  picture
• 28:04
  of
• 28:04
  it
• 28:04
  and
• 28:04
  here's
• 28:05
  what
• 28:05
  they
• 28:05
  were
• 28:05
  saying.
• 28:06
  It's
• 28:06
  like
• 28:07
  each
• 28:07
  one
• 28:07
  was
• 28:07
  kind
• 28:07
  of
• 28:07
  a
• 28:08
  case
• 28:08
  study,
• 28:09
  but
• 28:10
  it
• 28:10
  was
• 28:10
  easier
• 28:10
  to
• 28:11
  watch.
• 28:11
  The
• 28:11
  book
• 28:11
  was
• 28:12
  like
• 28:12
  300
• 28:12
  pages.
• 28:13
  Could
• 28:14
  have
• 28:14
  been
• 28:14
  100
• 28:14
  pages.
• 28:15
  Right.
• 28:16
  Especially
• 28:16
  if
• 28:16
  it
• 28:16
  been
• 28:17
  more
• 28:17
  organized.
• 28:18
  It
• 28:18
  would
• 28:18
  have
• 28:18
  been
• 28:19
  better.
• 28:19
  Well,
• 28:19
  it
• 28:19
  was,
• 28:19
  because
• 28:20
  everything
• 28:20
  was
• 28:20
  said
• 28:20
  to
• 28:21
  you
• 28:21
  three
• 28:21
  separate
• 28:22
  times.
• 28:22
  Right.
• 28:23
  Mixed
• 28:23
  into
• 28:23
  a
• 28:24
  case
• 28:24
  and
• 28:24
  say,
• 28:25
  okay,
• 28:25
  we
• 28:25
  got
• 28:25
  it.
• 28:25
  Thanks.
• 28:26
  Well,
• 28:26
  well.
• 28:26
  And
• 28:26
  what
• 28:26
  we're
• 28:27
  trying
• 28:27
  to
• 28:27
  show
• 28:27
  now
• 28:27
  is
• 28:28
  these
• 28:28
  are
• 28:28
  the
• 28:28
  things
• 28:28
  we
• 28:29
  learned
• 28:29
  which
• 28:29
  were.
• 28:30
  Do
• 28:30
  this.
• 28:31
  Do
• 28:31
  this.
• 28:31
  Like
• 28:32
  the
• 28:32
  family
• 28:32
  meeting,
• 28:33
  which
• 28:33
  we
• 28:33
  never
• 28:34
  had
• 28:34
  as
• 28:34
  a
• 28:34
  family,
• 28:35
  but
• 28:35
  we
• 28:36
  had
• 28:36
  such
• 28:36
  different
• 28:36
  schedules.
• 28:37
  Right.
• 28:38
  Well,
• 28:38
  they.
• 28:38
  They
• 28:39
  talk
• 28:39
  about
• 28:39
  having
• 28:39
  a
• 28:40
  weekly
• 28:40
  check
• 28:40
  in
• 28:41
  every
• 28:42
  week
• 28:42
  where
• 28:42
  you
• 28:42
  talk,
• 28:43
  you.
• 28:43
  Look
• 28:43
  at
• 28:43
  the
• 28:43
  rules.
• 28:44
  Again,
• 28:44
  not
• 28:44
  only
• 28:44
  did
• 28:44
  we
• 28:45
  not
• 28:45
  have
• 28:45
  Rules.
• 28:45
  We
• 28:46
  would.
• 28:46
  We
• 28:46
  never
• 28:46
  had
• 28:46
  a
• 28:47
  meeting
• 28:47
  about
• 28:47
  the
• 28:47
  rules.
• 28:48
  We
• 28:48
  didn'.
• 28:48
  No,
• 28:49
  but
• 28:49
  it's
• 28:49
  to
• 28:49
  talk
• 28:49
  about,
• 28:50
  are
• 28:50
  our
• 28:50
  rules
• 28:50
  working?
• 28:51
  Should
• 28:52
  we
• 28:52
  change
• 28:52
  them?
• 28:53
  Are
• 28:53
  non
• 28:53
  existent
• 28:54
  rules
• 28:54
  working?
• 28:55
  Well,
• 28:56
  but
• 28:56
  yeah,
• 28:57
  to
• 28:57
  me,
• 28:57
  if
• 28:57
  you
• 28:57
  have
• 28:58
  the
• 28:58
  rules,
• 28:58
  that's
• 28:58
  good
• 28:59
  enough.
• 28:59
  But
• 29:00
  I
• 29:00
  feel
• 29:00
  like
• 29:01
  we
• 29:02
  didn't
• 29:02
  need
• 29:02
  rules.
• 29:03
  No,
• 29:04
  we
• 29:04
  did.
• 29:05
  We
• 29:05
  should
• 29:06
  have
• 29:06
  had
• 29:06
  rules.
• 29:06
  There
• 29:07
  should
• 29:07
  have
• 29:07
  been
• 29:07
  some
• 29:07
  spelled
• 29:08
  out
• 29:08
  rules.
• 29:08
  Maybe,
• 29:09
  but
• 29:09
  like,
• 29:09
  what
• 29:10
  would
• 29:10
  they
• 29:10
  have
• 29:10
  been?
• 29:10
  If
• 29:11
  you
• 29:11
  could
• 29:11
  go
• 29:11
  back
• 29:11
  and
• 29:12
  give
• 29:12
  us
• 29:12
  rules,
• 29:12
  what
• 29:12
  would
• 29:13
  they
• 29:13
  be?
• 29:14
  Clean
• 29:14
  your
• 29:14
  room,
• 29:16
  do
• 29:16
  your
• 29:16
  chores.
• 29:17
  Our
• 29:17
  chores.
• 29:18
  We
• 29:18
  didn't
• 29:18
  have.
• 29:18
  Well,
• 29:19
  treat
• 29:20
  each
• 29:20
  other
• 29:20
  with
• 29:20
  respect.
• 29:21
  Me
• 29:21
  and
• 29:21
  Sam
• 29:22
  were
• 29:22
  buddies.
• 29:22
  Well,
• 29:23
  yeah,
• 29:23
  but
• 29:24
  I
• 29:24
  mean,
• 29:24
  it
• 29:25
  would
• 29:25
  have
• 29:25
  been
• 29:26
  easier
• 29:26
  to
• 29:26
  enforce
• 29:27
  rules
• 29:28
  if
• 29:28
  they
• 29:28
  were
• 29:28
  actually
• 29:28
  written
• 29:29
  down.
• 29:30
  You
• 29:30
  know
• 29:30
  what
• 29:30
  I
• 29:30
  mean?
• 29:30
  I
• 29:31
  think
• 29:31
  that's
• 29:31
  what
• 29:31
  she's
• 29:32
  trying
• 29:32
  to
• 29:32
  say
• 29:32
  is
• 29:33
  that
• 29:33
  if
• 29:34
  they're
• 29:34
  written
• 29:34
  down.
• 29:35
  Decide
• 29:35
  on
• 29:36
  like
• 29:36
  a
• 29:36
  family
• 29:37
  constitution.
• 29:38
  Yes,
• 29:38
  exactly.
• 29:40
  And
• 29:40
  if
• 29:40
  your
• 29:41
  kids
• 29:41
  are
• 29:43
  veering
• 29:43
  outside
• 29:43
  of
• 29:44
  that,
• 29:44
  you
• 29:44
  can
• 29:44
  say,
• 29:45
  it's
• 29:45
  in
• 29:45
  our
• 29:45
  constitution.
• 29:46
  It's
• 29:46
  in
• 29:46
  our
• 29:46
  constitution.
• 29:47
  Yeah,
• 29:47
  you.
• 29:48
  It's
• 29:48
  right
• 29:48
  here.
• 29:48
  You
• 29:49
  have
• 29:49
  to
• 29:49
  do
• 29:49
  this.
• 29:49
  I
• 29:50
  mean,
• 29:50
  it
• 29:50
  gives
• 29:50
  you
• 29:50
  a
• 29:50
  little
• 29:50
  bit
• 29:51
  more
• 29:51
  backup
• 29:52
  because
• 29:52
  kids
• 29:53
  like
• 29:53
  authority
• 29:54
  and
• 29:54
  if
• 29:54
  it's
• 29:54
  written
• 29:54
  down,
• 29:55
  they
• 29:55
  think
• 29:55
  there's.
• 29:56
  If
• 29:56
  there's
• 29:57
  some
• 29:57
  authority
• 29:57
  there.
• 29:57
  It's
• 29:58
  like
• 29:58
  it.
• 29:58
  Look,
• 29:58
  it's
• 29:59
  in
• 29:59
  our
• 29:59
  posted
• 30:00
  rules.
• 30:01
  You
• 30:01
  cannot
• 30:01
  do
• 30:02
  this.
• 30:02
  It's
• 30:02
  on
• 30:02
  the
• 30:03
  wall.
• 30:03
  That's
• 30:03
  right.
• 30:04
  You
• 30:04
  must
• 30:05
  follow
• 30:06
  the
• 30:06
  posted
• 30:06
  rules.
• 30:07
  I
• 30:07
  actually
• 30:07
  think
• 30:08
  that
• 30:08
  works
• 30:08
  with
• 30:08
  a
• 30:09
  lot
• 30:09
  of
• 30:09
  kids.
• 30:09
  I'm
• 30:10
  sure
• 30:10
  it
• 30:10
  does.
• 30:10
  Yeah.
• 30:11
  Yeah.
• 30:11
  So
• 30:11
  it's
• 30:12
  like,
• 30:12
  this
• 30:12
  isn't
• 30:12
  my
• 30:12
  rule.
• 30:13
  This
• 30:13
  is
• 30:13
  the
• 30:14
  wall
• 30:14
  rule.
• 30:15
  It's
• 30:15
  the
• 30:16
  rule
• 30:16
  and
• 30:16
  we
• 30:16
  must
• 30:16
  follow
• 30:17
  it.
• 30:17
  Yeah.
• 30:18
  No,
• 30:18
  and
• 30:19
  so
• 30:19
  I
• 30:19
  do
• 30:19
  think
• 30:19
  that
• 30:19
  works
• 30:20
  with
• 30:20
  kids.
• 30:20
  And,
• 30:20
  you
• 30:21
  know,
• 30:21
  so
• 30:21
  it's
• 30:22
  like,
• 30:22
  sorry,
• 30:22
  there's
• 30:23
  nothing
• 30:23
  I
• 30:23
  could
• 30:23
  do.
• 30:24
  The
• 30:24
  rule.
• 30:24
  That's
• 30:25
  right.
• 30:25
  And.
• 30:26
  And
• 30:26
  you
• 30:26
  know,
• 30:26
  so
• 30:26
  if
• 30:27
  a
• 30:27
  kid
• 30:27
  is
• 30:27
  misbehaving
• 30:28
  and
• 30:28
  they
• 30:28
  have
• 30:28
  to
• 30:28
  go
• 30:28
  into
• 30:29
  timeout,
• 30:29
  it's
• 30:30
  like
• 30:30
  it's.
• 30:30
  It's
• 30:30
  not
• 30:30
  me.
• 30:31
  It's
• 30:31
  the
• 30:32
  rules.
• 30:32
  See?
• 30:32
  The
• 30:32
  rules.
• 30:33
  You're
• 30:33
  not
• 30:34
  following
• 30:34
  it.
• 30:34
  Yeah,
• 30:35
  yeah.
• 30:35
  No,
• 30:35
  it
• 30:35
  gives
• 30:36
  you
• 30:36
  a
• 30:36
  little
• 30:36
  bit
• 30:36
  of
• 30:37
  backup
• 30:37
  authority.
• 30:38
  Yeah,
• 30:39
  yeah,
• 30:39
  I
• 30:39
  think
• 30:39
  that's
• 30:39
  good.
• 30:40
  Well,
• 30:40
  listen,
• 30:40
  I'm
• 30:41
  probably
• 30:41
  gonna
• 30:41
  need
• 30:42
  it.
• 30:42
  I
• 30:42
  think
• 30:42
  you
• 30:42
  should
• 30:43
  add
• 30:43
  that
• 30:43
  into
• 30:43
  your
• 30:44
  home.
• 30:45
  Well,
• 30:45
  if
• 30:45
  my
• 30:45
  daughter
• 30:45
  is
• 30:46
  anything
• 30:46
  like
• 30:47
  me,
• 30:48
  I'm
• 30:48
  gonna
• 30:48
  need
• 30:48
  all
• 30:48
  the
• 30:49
  backup
• 30:49
  I
• 30:49
  can
• 30:49
  get.
• 30:50
  That's
• 30:50
  right.
• 30:50
  That's
• 30:51
  right.
• 30:51
  Okay.
• 30:52
  They
• 30:53
  say,
• 30:53
  don't
• 30:53
  make
• 30:53
  promises
• 30:54
  you
• 30:54
  can't
• 30:54
  keep.
• 30:55
  And
• 30:55
  that
• 30:55
  is
• 30:55
  a
• 30:56
  recurring
• 30:56
  theme
• 30:57
  in
• 30:57
  the
• 30:57
  book.
• 30:58
  That
• 30:58
  if
• 30:58
  you
• 30:59
  threaten
• 30:59
  or
• 31:00
  promise,
• 31:00
  either
• 31:01
  way,
• 31:01
  you
• 31:01
  must
• 31:01
  follow
• 31:02
  through.
• 31:02
  Promising
• 31:03
  something
• 31:03
  to
• 31:03
  a
• 31:03
  toddler
• 31:04
  is
• 31:04
  terrifying
• 31:05
  because
• 31:05
  they
• 31:05
  never
• 31:06
  Forget.
• 31:06
  They
• 31:06
  don't.
• 31:07
  They
• 31:07
  never
• 31:08
  forget.
• 31:09
  Huh?
• 31:10
  Do
• 31:10
  you
• 31:10
  remember
• 31:11
  the
• 31:11
  time.
• 31:12
  This
• 31:12
  is
• 31:12
  a
• 31:12
  good
• 31:12
  example
• 31:13
  of
• 31:13
  this.
• 31:13
  Where.
• 31:14
  Of
• 31:14
  course
• 31:14
  I.
• 31:14
  I
• 31:14
  know
• 31:15
  you're
• 31:15
  going
• 31:15
  to
• 31:15
  remember
• 31:15
  this.
• 31:16
  You
• 31:16
  were
• 31:16
  a
• 31:17
  little
• 31:17
  kid,
• 31:17
  and
• 31:19
  we
• 31:19
  were
• 31:20
  walking
• 31:20
  up.
• 31:20
  We
• 31:20
  were
• 31:21
  taking
• 31:21
  one
• 31:21
  of
• 31:21
  our
• 31:22
  Sunday
• 31:22
  night
• 31:22
  walks,
• 31:23
  and
• 31:23
  we
• 31:23
  were
• 31:23
  going
• 31:24
  uptown
• 31:24
  to
• 31:25
  the
• 31:25
  Upper
• 31:25
  west
• 31:26
  side
• 31:26
  to
• 31:26
  have
• 31:26
  dinner,
• 31:27
  and
• 31:28
  you
• 31:28
  decided
• 31:29
  you
• 31:29
  wanted
• 31:29
  some
• 31:29
  grape
• 31:30
  soda.
• 31:31
  And
• 31:31
  you
• 31:32
  saw.
• 31:32
  You
• 31:32
  said,
• 31:32
  grape
• 31:33
  soda.
• 31:34
  And
• 31:34
  I
• 31:34
  said,
• 31:35
  no,
• 31:36
  you
• 31:36
  cannot
• 31:36
  have
• 31:36
  grape
• 31:37
  soda
• 31:39
  because
• 31:40
  we're
• 31:40
  about
• 31:40
  to
• 31:41
  eat
• 31:41
  dinner.
• 31:42
  And
• 31:42
  so
• 31:42
  I.
• 31:43
  But
• 31:43
  then
• 31:43
  you
• 31:44
  started
• 31:44
  screaming
• 31:45
  and
• 31:45
  having
• 31:45
  a
• 31:45
  tantrum
• 31:46
  over
• 31:46
  the
• 31:46
  grape
• 31:47
  soda.
• 31:47
  It
• 31:47
  was
• 31:47
  like,
• 31:48
  grape
• 31:48
  soda.
• 31:49
  How
• 31:49
  many
• 31:50
  miles?
• 31:51
  Well,
• 31:51
  all
• 31:51
  the
• 31:51
  way
• 31:52
  uptown,
• 31:52
  you
• 31:52
  were
• 31:53
  screaming,
• 31:54
  grape
• 31:54
  soda.
• 31:55
  Grape
• 31:55
  soda.
• 31:56
  And
• 31:57
  I
• 31:57
  kept
• 31:57
  saying,
• 31:57
  no,
• 31:58
  no.
• 31:58
  Cause
• 31:58
  I
• 31:58
  remembered
• 31:59
  I
• 31:59
  must
• 31:59
  have
• 31:59
  watched
• 32:00
  an
• 32:00
  episode
• 32:00
  of
• 32:00
  Nanny911.
• 32:02
  And
• 32:02
  I
• 32:02
  think
• 32:02
  I
• 32:03
  saw
• 32:03
  an
• 32:03
  episode
• 32:03
  where
• 32:04
  they
• 32:04
  say,
• 32:04
  if
• 32:04
  you
• 32:04
  say
• 32:05
  no,
• 32:05
  you
• 32:05
  have
• 32:06
  to
• 32:06
  stick
• 32:06
  with
• 32:06
  it.
• 32:06
  So
• 32:07
  I
• 32:07
  was
• 32:07
  determined
• 32:08
  to
• 32:08
  stick
• 32:08
  with
• 32:09
  it.
• 32:09
  That
• 32:09
  was
• 32:09
  the
• 32:09
  hill
• 32:09
  you
• 32:10
  were
• 32:10
  going
• 32:10
  to
• 32:10
  die
• 32:10
  on.
• 32:10
  I
• 32:10
  was
• 32:11
  going
• 32:11
  to
• 32:11
  die
• 32:11
  on
• 32:11
  that
• 32:11
  hill.
• 32:12
  And
• 32:12
  we
• 32:12
  went
• 32:12
  all
• 32:12
  the
• 32:12
  way
• 32:12
  and
• 32:13
  finally
• 32:13
  we
• 32:13
  said,
• 32:13
  well,
• 32:14
  we're
• 32:14
  not
• 32:14
  going
• 32:14
  to
• 32:14
  go
• 32:14
  to
• 32:14
  dinner
• 32:15
  because
• 32:15
  you
• 32:15
  can't
• 32:16
  relax
• 32:17
  about
• 32:17
  the
• 32:17
  grape
• 32:17
  soda.
• 32:18
  So
• 32:18
  we
• 32:19
  turned
• 32:19
  around
• 32:19
  to
• 32:19
  go
• 32:19
  back
• 32:20
  and
• 32:20
  New
• 32:20
  Yorkers
• 32:21
  were
• 32:21
  shouting
• 32:21
  at
• 32:22
  us,
• 32:22
  give
• 32:22
  the
• 32:22
  kids
• 32:23
  some
• 32:23
  grape
• 32:23
  soda,
• 32:24
  for
• 32:24
  God's
• 32:25
  sakes.
• 32:25
  Because
• 32:26
  you
• 32:26
  were
• 32:26
  screaming
• 32:27
  so
• 32:27
  loud.
• 32:28
  I
• 32:28
  was
• 32:28
  persistent,
• 32:29
  and
• 32:29
  that
• 32:30
  persistence
• 32:30
  has
• 32:30
  paid
• 32:31
  off.
• 32:31
  I
• 32:31
  know,
• 32:32
  I
• 32:32
  know.
• 32:32
  But
• 32:33
  it's
• 32:33
  like
• 32:33
  I
• 32:33
  stuck
• 32:34
  it
• 32:34
  to
• 32:34
  my
• 32:34
  guns
• 32:35
  on
• 32:35
  that.
• 32:35
  And
• 32:35
  you
• 32:35
  did
• 32:36
  not
• 32:36
  get
• 32:36
  the
• 32:36
  grape
• 32:36
  soda.
• 32:37
  I
• 32:37
  didn't.
• 32:37
  Although
• 32:38
  you
• 32:39
  guys
• 32:39
  probably
• 32:39
  could
• 32:39
  have
• 32:39
  gone
• 32:39
  out
• 32:40
  to
• 32:40
  dinner.
• 32:41
  I
• 32:41
  could
• 32:41
  have
• 32:41
  fallen
• 32:42
  asleep.
• 32:42
  I
• 32:42
  don't
• 32:43
  know.
• 32:43
  You
• 32:43
  were
• 32:43
  screaming
• 32:44
  so
• 32:44
  loud.
• 32:45
  But
• 32:45
  it.
• 32:45
  But
• 32:45
  there
• 32:46
  you
• 32:46
  go.
• 32:46
  It's
• 32:46
  like
• 32:46
  I
• 32:46
  stuck
• 32:47
  to
• 32:47
  my
• 32:47
  guns.
• 32:47
  I
• 32:48
  felt
• 32:48
  good
• 32:48
  about
• 32:48
  myself.
• 32:49
  Good.
• 32:49
  I'm
• 32:50
  glad.
• 32:51
  I'm
• 32:51
  glad
• 32:51
  you
• 32:51
  did.
• 32:51
  I
• 32:52
  mean,
• 32:52
  I
• 32:52
  didn't
• 32:52
  get
• 32:52
  my
• 32:52
  dinner.
• 32:53
  That
• 32:53
  night,
• 32:53
  but
• 32:54
  listen,
• 32:55
  a
• 32:55
  small
• 32:55
  sacrifice
• 32:56
  to
• 32:56
  make.
• 32:57
  Yeah.
• 32:57
  For
• 32:57
  a
• 32:57
  point
• 32:58
  proven.
• 32:58
  I
• 32:58
  made
• 32:59
  up.
• 32:59
  I
• 32:59
  made
• 32:59
  the
• 32:59
  point.
• 33:00
  If
• 33:00
  you
• 33:00
  scream
• 33:01
  and
• 33:01
  don't
• 33:02
  listen
• 33:02
  to
• 33:02
  me
• 33:02
  and
• 33:03
  you
• 33:03
  know
• 33:03
  you're
• 33:04
  gonna.
• 33:04
  You're
• 33:04
  not
• 33:04
  getting
• 33:04
  dinner.
• 33:05
  And
• 33:05
  that
• 33:05
  was
• 33:05
  that.
• 33:06
  The.
• 33:06
  Well,
• 33:06
  you're
• 33:07
  not
• 33:07
  getting
• 33:07
  dinner.
• 33:08
  Well,
• 33:08
  I
• 33:08
  didn't
• 33:08
  get
• 33:08
  it
• 33:08
  either.
• 33:09
  We
• 33:09
  had.
• 33:09
  None
• 33:09
  of
• 33:09
  us
• 33:10
  did.
• 33:10
  Okay.
• 33:11
  Okay.
• 33:12
  So
• 33:12
  the
• 33:12
  last
• 33:12
  parting
• 33:13
  bit
• 33:13
  of
• 33:13
  advice
• 33:14
  is
• 33:14
  that
• 33:16
  love
• 33:16
  and
• 33:17
  discipline
• 33:18
  makes
• 33:18
  for
• 33:18
  a
• 33:18
  happy
• 33:19
  home.
• 33:21
  Discipline
• 33:21
  without
• 33:22
  love
• 33:22
  is
• 33:23
  harsh.
• 33:23
  And
• 33:23
  love
• 33:24
  without
• 33:24
  discipline
• 33:25
  is
• 33:25
  chaos.
• 33:26
  Another
• 33:27
  one.
• 33:27
  You
• 33:27
  like
• 33:28
  that?
• 33:28
  That's
• 33:28
  a
• 33:28
  good
• 33:29
  one,
• 33:29
  right?
• 33:30
  Strikes
• 33:30
  you.
• 33:31
  I
• 33:31
  know.
• 33:32
  Get
• 33:32
  you
• 33:32
  right
• 33:32
  here.
• 33:34
  I
• 33:34
  know.
• 33:35
  But
• 33:35
  this
• 33:35
  is
• 33:35
  what
• 33:36
  you
• 33:36
  need.
• 33:38
  So
• 33:38
  what
• 33:38
  did
• 33:39
  you
• 33:39
  think,
• 33:39
  in
• 33:39
  general
• 33:40
  of
• 33:41
  the
• 33:41
  messages
• 33:41
  in
• 33:42
  the
• 33:42
  book?
• 33:42
  Well,
• 33:42
  I
• 33:42
  Thought
• 33:42
  the
• 33:43
  messages
• 33:43
  were
• 33:43
  good.
• 33:43
  The
• 33:44
  book
• 33:44
  itself,
• 33:46
  I
• 33:47
  could
• 33:47
  have
• 33:47
  lived.
• 33:47
  Without,
• 33:48
  to
• 33:48
  be
• 33:48
  honest
• 33:48
  with
• 33:48
  you.
• 33:49
  I
• 33:49
  would
• 33:49
  say
• 33:49
  the
• 33:49
  show
• 33:50
  over
• 33:50
  the
• 33:50
  book,
• 33:51
  100%.
• 33:52
  Right.
• 33:53
  I
• 33:53
  would
• 33:53
  honestly
• 33:54
  say
• 33:54
  that
• 33:54
  in
• 33:55
  most
• 33:55
  cases,
• 33:57
  you
• 33:57
  know,
• 33:58
  just
• 33:58
  because.
• 33:58
  Especially
• 33:59
  for
• 33:59
  parenting
• 33:59
  books,
• 34:00
  because
• 34:00
  when
• 34:00
  you
• 34:00
  can
• 34:00
  watch
• 34:00
  something
• 34:01
  demonstrated,
• 34:02
  it's
• 34:02
  just
• 34:03
  easier.
• 34:03
  It's
• 34:03
  easier
• 34:04
  to
• 34:04
  understand.
• 34:04
  It's
• 34:05
  easier
• 34:05
  to
• 34:05
  absorb.
• 34:07
  But
• 34:07
  the
• 34:08
  ideas
• 34:08
  were
• 34:08
  good.
• 34:09
  And
• 34:10
  these
• 34:10
  women
• 34:10
  are
• 34:11
  clearly
• 34:11
  very
• 34:11
  experienced.
• 34:12
  They've
• 34:12
  worked
• 34:12
  with
• 34:12
  a
• 34:13
  number
• 34:13
  of
• 34:13
  kids.
• 34:14
  They
• 34:14
  sort
• 34:14
  of
• 34:15
  have
• 34:15
  an
• 34:15
  idea
• 34:15
  of
• 34:16
  what
• 34:16
  generally
• 34:17
  works
• 34:17
  for
• 34:17
  most
• 34:18
  kids.
• 34:19
  Obviously,
• 34:19
  there
• 34:19
  are
• 34:20
  outliers
• 34:20
  that
• 34:20
  are
• 34:20
  more
• 34:21
  difficult.
• 34:22
  Again,
• 34:22
  the
• 34:22
  thing
• 34:23
  I
• 34:23
  kind
• 34:23
  of
• 34:23
  keep
• 34:23
  coming
• 34:24
  back
• 34:24
  to,
• 34:25
  both
• 34:25
  in
• 34:26
  terms
• 34:26
  of
• 34:26
  these
• 34:26
  stories
• 34:27
  and
• 34:28
  in
• 34:28
  terms
• 34:28
  of
• 34:28
  the
• 34:29
  show,
• 34:30
  is
• 34:31
  this
• 34:31
  idea
• 34:32
  of
• 34:32
  a
• 34:32
  default
• 34:33
  parent,
• 34:34
  which
• 34:34
  is
• 34:34
  often
• 34:35
  the
• 34:35
  mom.
• 34:35
  And
• 34:36
  what
• 34:36
  I
• 34:36
  mean
• 34:36
  by
• 34:36
  default
• 34:37
  parent
• 34:37
  is
• 34:38
  one
• 34:38
  parent
• 34:38
  who
• 34:39
  is
• 34:39
  expected
• 34:40
  to
• 34:40
  manage
• 34:41
  the
• 34:41
  kid.
• 34:42
  The
• 34:42
  kid
• 34:42
  is
• 34:42
  always
• 34:43
  in
• 34:43
  their
• 34:43
  care
• 34:44
  unless
• 34:44
  specifically
• 34:45
  stated
• 34:47
  that
• 34:47
  the
• 34:47
  other
• 34:47
  parent
• 34:48
  is
• 34:48
  going
• 34:48
  to
• 34:48
  take
• 34:48
  some
• 34:49
  time
• 34:49
  or
• 34:49
  responsibility
• 34:50
  for
• 34:50
  the
• 34:50
  kid
• 34:51
  and
• 34:51
  it
• 34:51
  is
• 34:51
  convenient
• 34:52
  for
• 34:52
  the
• 34:52
  other
• 34:53
  parent.
• 34:53
  Whereas
• 34:54
  again,
• 34:55
  one
• 34:55
  parent,
• 34:55
  most
• 34:55
  often
• 34:56
  the
• 34:56
  mom,
• 34:56
  is
• 34:57
  responsible
• 34:58
  for
• 34:58
  the
• 34:59
  kids.
• 34:59
  Well,
• 35:00
  that's
• 35:00
  what
• 35:00
  we
• 35:00
  saw
• 35:00
  in
• 35:01
  this
• 35:01
  show.
• 35:01
  Yeah,
• 35:01
  in
• 35:02
  this
• 35:02
  show.
• 35:02
  But
• 35:02
  I
• 35:02
  think
• 35:02
  that's
• 35:03
  a
• 35:03
  dynamic
• 35:04
  that.
• 35:04
  Unless
• 35:04
  you
• 35:05
  have
• 35:05
  a
• 35:05
  real.
• 35:06
  A
• 35:06
  conversation
• 35:07
  about
• 35:07
  it
• 35:07
  before
• 35:08
  you
• 35:08
  have
• 35:08
  kids.
• 35:08
  But
• 35:08
  then
• 35:09
  again,
• 35:09
  once
• 35:09
  the
• 35:09
  kids
• 35:09
  arrive,
• 35:10
  because
• 35:10
  it's
• 35:10
  so
• 35:11
  hard
• 35:11
  to
• 35:11
  know
• 35:12
  what
• 35:12
  kind
• 35:12
  of
• 35:12
  a
• 35:12
  dynamic
• 35:13
  is
• 35:13
  gonna
• 35:13
  take
• 35:13
  place
• 35:13
  in
• 35:14
  your
• 35:14
  home
• 35:15
  when
• 35:15
  the
• 35:16
  kid
• 35:16
  actually
• 35:16
  gets
• 35:17
  there.
• 35:19
  And
• 35:19
  I
• 35:19
  was
• 35:19
  really
• 35:19
  struck
• 35:20
  by
• 35:20
  that.
• 35:20
  I
• 35:20
  was
• 35:21
  like,
• 35:21
  man,
• 35:22
  these
• 35:23
  moms
• 35:23
  on
• 35:23
  this
• 35:24
  show
• 35:24
  have
• 35:25
  it
• 35:25
  really
• 35:25
  hard.
• 35:26
  Right.
• 35:27
  They're
• 35:27
  not
• 35:27
  getting
• 35:27
  a
• 35:27
  lot
• 35:27
  of
• 35:28
  support
• 35:28
  or
• 35:28
  help.
• 35:28
  No.
• 35:29
  And
• 35:29
  they're
• 35:29
  often
• 35:30
  moms
• 35:30
  of
• 35:31
  multiple
• 35:31
  kids.
• 35:32
  Every
• 35:32
  episode
• 35:33
  I
• 35:33
  watched,
• 35:33
  there
• 35:33
  was
• 35:34
  at
• 35:34
  least
• 35:34
  two,
• 35:35
  sometimes
• 35:35
  five
• 35:36
  kids.
• 35:37
  Yeah,
• 35:37
  yeah.
• 35:37
  And
• 35:38
  you're
• 35:38
  just
• 35:38
  like
• 35:40
  this
• 35:40
  woman,
• 35:41
  this.
• 35:41
  Who
• 35:42
  is
• 35:42
  equipped
• 35:43
  to
• 35:43
  manage
• 35:43
  this
• 35:44
  level
• 35:44
  of
• 35:44
  stress.
• 35:45
  Right,
• 35:46
  right.
• 35:46
  Well.
• 35:46
  And
• 35:46
  that's
• 35:46
  why
• 35:47
  there
• 35:47
  needs
• 35:47
  to
• 35:47
  be
• 35:48
  rules
• 35:48
  and
• 35:48
  techniques,
• 35:49
  I
• 35:49
  suppose,
• 35:49
  is
• 35:50
  that
• 35:50
  if
• 35:51
  you're
• 35:51
  just
• 35:51
  being
• 35:51
  freewheeling
• 35:52
  and
• 35:53
  screaming
• 35:54
  at
• 35:54
  this
• 35:54
  one,
• 35:54
  that
• 35:54
  one.
• 35:55
  I
• 35:55
  mean,
• 35:55
  that's
• 35:55
  why
• 35:55
  you
• 35:56
  do
• 35:56
  need
• 35:56
  structure.
• 35:57
  You
• 35:57
  do
• 35:57
  need
• 35:57
  boundaries.
• 35:58
  Yes.
• 35:59
  I
• 35:59
  wish
• 35:59
  it
• 35:59
  could
• 35:59
  be
• 35:59
  different.
• 36:00
  I
• 36:00
  think.
• 36:00
  I
• 36:01
  wish
• 36:01
  that
• 36:01
  the
• 36:01
  fathers
• 36:02
  were
• 36:02
  in
• 36:02
  this,
• 36:03
  in
• 36:03
  the
• 36:03
  show
• 36:03
  at
• 36:03
  least,
• 36:04
  and
• 36:04
  in
• 36:04
  real
• 36:04
  life.
• 36:04
  I
• 36:05
  mean,
• 36:05
  I
• 36:05
  hope
• 36:06
  everybody
• 36:06
  is
• 36:07
  contributing
• 36:07
  and
• 36:07
  helping,
• 36:09
  but
• 36:10
  you
• 36:10
  really
• 36:11
  do
• 36:11
  need
• 36:11
  structure.
• 36:12
  I
• 36:12
  mean,
• 36:12
  you
• 36:12
  can
• 36:12
  see
• 36:12
  why.
• 36:13
  And
• 36:13
  what
• 36:13
  happens
• 36:14
  when
• 36:14
  you
• 36:14
  don't
• 36:15
  have
• 36:15
  it
• 36:15
  all
• 36:15
  hell
• 36:16
  breaks
• 36:16
  loose.
• 36:16
  It
• 36:16
  really
• 36:17
  does.
• 36:17
  I
• 36:17
  mean,
• 36:18
  you
• 36:18
  know,
• 36:18
  I
• 36:18
  don't
• 36:19
  think
• 36:19
  our
• 36:19
  house
• 36:20
  looked
• 36:20
  like
• 36:21
  any
• 36:21
  of
• 36:21
  those
• 36:21
  houses
• 36:22
  most
• 36:23
  of
• 36:23
  the
• 36:23
  time.
• 36:23
  Sam
• 36:23
  and
• 36:24
  I
• 36:24
  were
• 36:24
  pretty
• 36:24
  civilized.
• 36:25
  Right.
• 36:25
  There
• 36:25
  were
• 36:25
  moments
• 36:26
  you
• 36:26
  both
• 36:26
  had
• 36:26
  bad
• 36:27
  moments,
• 36:27
  but
• 36:28
  not
• 36:28
  like
• 36:28
  what
• 36:29
  we
• 36:29
  Saw
• 36:30
  in
• 36:30
  these
• 36:30
  families.
• 36:31
  Yeah.
• 36:31
  Yeah.
• 36:32
  But,
• 36:32
  you
• 36:32
  know,
• 36:32
  one
• 36:33
  of
• 36:33
  the
• 36:33
  things
• 36:33
  I
• 36:33
  did
• 36:33
  notice
• 36:34
  and
• 36:34
  I
• 36:34
  wrote
• 36:35
  some
• 36:35
  of
• 36:35
  this
• 36:35
  down,
• 36:35
  is
• 36:35
  they.
• 36:36
  They
• 36:36
  did
• 36:37
  give
• 36:37
  you
• 36:38
  how
• 36:38
  to
• 36:38
  deal
• 36:39
  with
• 36:40
  specific.
• 36:40
  So
• 36:40
  many
• 36:41
  situations.
• 36:42
  And
• 36:42
  so
• 36:42
  that
• 36:43
  can
• 36:43
  make
• 36:43
  the
• 36:43
  book
• 36:44
  helpful
• 36:44
  for,
• 36:44
  you
• 36:45
  know,
• 36:45
  like
• 36:45
  at
• 36:45
  the.
• 36:46
  End
• 36:46
  of
• 36:46
  the
• 36:46
  book,
• 36:46
  there's
• 36:47
  an
• 36:47
  alphabetized
• 36:49
  explanation
• 36:50
  of
• 36:50
  different
• 36:50
  situations
• 36:51
  of
• 36:52
  what
• 36:52
  you
• 36:52
  do
• 36:52
  for
• 36:52
  X,
• 36:52
  Y,
• 36:52
  and
• 36:52
  Z.
• 36:53
  I
• 36:53
  like
• 36:53
  the
• 36:53
  potty
• 36:54
  training
• 36:54
  one
• 36:54
  because
• 36:55
  I'll
• 36:55
  be
• 36:55
  honest,
• 36:56
  I'm.
• 36:56
  I
• 36:57
  have
• 36:57
  no
• 36:57
  idea.
• 36:58
  Right.
• 36:58
  How
• 36:59
  to
• 36:59
  potty
• 36:59
  train
• 36:59
  a
• 37:00
  kid.
• 37:00
  And
• 37:00
  they
• 37:01
  tell
• 37:01
  you
• 37:01
  not
• 37:01
  to
• 37:01
  do
• 37:02
  it.
• 37:02
  They
• 37:02
  give
• 37:02
  you
• 37:02
  step
• 37:03
  by
• 37:03
  step.
• 37:03
  Like,
• 37:04
  here's
• 37:04
  an
• 37:04
  example.
• 37:05
  How
• 37:05
  to
• 37:05
  say
• 37:06
  no
• 37:06
  without
• 37:06
  saying
• 37:07
  no
• 37:07
  all
• 37:07
  the
• 37:07
  time.
• 37:07
  Because
• 37:08
  they
• 37:08
  said
• 37:08
  if,
• 37:08
  you
• 37:09
  know,
• 37:09
  in
• 37:09
  most
• 37:09
  homes,
• 37:11
  you're
• 37:11
  constantly
• 37:11
  saying
• 37:11
  to
• 37:12
  your
• 37:12
  kid,
• 37:12
  no,
• 37:12
  don't
• 37:12
  do
• 37:13
  that.
• 37:13
  Stop.
• 37:13
  Don't
• 37:14
  do
• 37:14
  that.
• 37:14
  So
• 37:15
  they're
• 37:15
  saying,
• 37:15
  instead
• 37:16
  of
• 37:16
  saying
• 37:16
  no
• 37:17
  all
• 37:17
  the
• 37:17
  time,
• 37:18
  only
• 37:18
  use
• 37:19
  no
• 37:19
  when
• 37:19
  you're
• 37:19
  indicating
• 37:20
  danger
• 37:21
  or
• 37:22
  stop
• 37:22
  when
• 37:22
  you're
• 37:23
  indicating
• 37:23
  danger
• 37:24
  ahead
• 37:24
  for
• 37:24
  the
• 37:24
  child.
• 37:25
  Otherwise,
• 37:26
  if
• 37:26
  your
• 37:26
  kid's
• 37:26
  biting
• 37:27
  another
• 37:27
  child,
• 37:28
  you
• 37:28
  say
• 37:28
  to
• 37:28
  that,
• 37:28
  you
• 37:29
  pull
• 37:29
  them
• 37:29
  away
• 37:29
  and
• 37:29
  you
• 37:30
  say,
• 37:30
  it's
• 37:30
  not
• 37:30
  okay
• 37:31
  to
• 37:31
  hurt
• 37:31
  someone
• 37:31
  else.
• 37:33
  So
• 37:33
  if
• 37:33
  you
• 37:34
  know,
• 37:34
  you
• 37:34
  don't
• 37:34
  say
• 37:35
  no,
• 37:36
  don't
• 37:36
  bite
• 37:36
  them.
• 37:37
  You
• 37:37
  say
• 37:37
  it's
• 37:37
  not
• 37:38
  okay
• 37:38
  to
• 37:38
  do
• 37:38
  that,
• 37:38
  or
• 37:39
  no,
• 37:39
  don't
• 37:39
  take
• 37:39
  the
• 37:40
  toy
• 37:40
  away.
• 37:41
  You
• 37:41
  say
• 37:42
  no,
• 37:43
  or
• 37:43
  you
• 37:43
  don't
• 37:43
  say
• 37:43
  no.
• 37:44
  You
• 37:44
  say
• 37:44
  no,
• 37:45
  do
• 37:45
  not
• 37:45
  say
• 37:45
  no.
• 37:46
  It's
• 37:46
  the
• 37:46
  thing
• 37:46
  that
• 37:46
  you
• 37:47
  want
• 37:47
  to
• 37:47
  say,
• 37:47
  but
• 37:48
  you
• 37:48
  say,
• 37:50
  we
• 37:50
  don't
• 37:50
  play
• 37:50
  with
• 37:51
  each
• 37:51
  other's
• 37:51
  toys
• 37:52
  without
• 37:52
  asking.
• 37:53
  So
• 37:53
  you
• 37:53
  just
• 37:54
  steer
• 37:54
  away
• 37:54
  from
• 37:55
  the
• 37:55
  word
• 37:55
  no.
• 37:56
  So
• 37:56
  you're
• 37:56
  not
• 37:57
  saying
• 37:57
  no
• 37:57
  constantly.
• 37:58
  Yeah.
• 37:59
  So
• 37:59
  that's
• 38:00
  an
• 38:00
  example
• 38:00
  of
• 38:00
  where
• 38:01
  that
• 38:01
  was
• 38:01
  just
• 38:01
  a
• 38:01
  little
• 38:02
  example,
• 38:02
  but
• 38:03
  it's
• 38:03
  like
• 38:03
  they
• 38:03
  have
• 38:04
  a
• 38:04
  way
• 38:04
  to
• 38:04
  deal
• 38:04
  with
• 38:05
  everything.
• 38:05
  Yes.
• 38:06
  Like,
• 38:06
  yeah,
• 38:06
  all
• 38:06
  of
• 38:07
  them.
• 38:07
  Tantrums
• 38:07
  in
• 38:08
  public,
• 38:10
  how
• 38:10
  to
• 38:10
  help
• 38:10
  your
• 38:11
  child
• 38:11
  deal
• 38:11
  with
• 38:11
  their
• 38:11
  feelings,
• 38:12
  how
• 38:12
  to
• 38:12
  stop
• 38:12
  kids
• 38:13
  from
• 38:13
  whining,
• 38:14
  how
• 38:14
  to
• 38:15
  handle
• 38:15
  allowances,
• 38:16
  how
• 38:16
  to
• 38:16
  handle
• 38:16
  bedtime
• 38:17
  routine,
• 38:18
  how
• 38:18
  to
• 38:18
  handle
• 38:18
  burping,
• 38:19
  cheating,
• 38:20
  clinging
• 38:21
  comfort,
• 38:21
  objects
• 38:21
  you
• 38:22
  can
• 38:22
  see.
• 38:22
  This
• 38:22
  is
• 38:22
  in
• 38:22
  an
• 38:23
  alphabetical
• 38:23
  order.
• 38:24
  Fear
• 38:24
  of
• 38:24
  the
• 38:24
  dark,
• 38:25
  getting
• 38:25
  dressed,
• 38:25
  hitting,
• 38:26
  kicking,
• 38:26
  pinching,
• 38:27
  homework,
• 38:27
  blah,
• 38:28
  blah,
• 38:28
  blah.
• 38:28
  It
• 38:28
  goes
• 38:28
  on
• 38:29
  and
• 38:29
  on,
• 38:29
  every
• 38:30
  situation.
• 38:31
  It
• 38:31
  made
• 38:31
  me
• 38:31
  realize
• 38:32
  most
• 38:32
  kids
• 38:33
  go.
• 38:33
  Through
• 38:33
  a
• 38:33
  violent
• 38:34
  phase.
• 38:35
  Well,
• 38:35
  not
• 38:36
  all
• 38:36
  kids.
• 38:36
  Well,
• 38:36
  I
• 38:36
  don't
• 38:37
  know,
• 38:37
  maybe
• 38:37
  just
• 38:37
  the
• 38:37
  kids
• 38:38
  on
• 38:38
  this
• 38:38
  show.
• 38:38
  It
• 38:38
  seemed
• 38:38
  like
• 38:39
  there's
• 38:39
  a
• 38:39
  lot
• 38:39
  of
• 38:39
  hitting.
• 38:40
  Yeah.
• 38:40
  There's
• 38:41
  a
• 38:41
  lot
• 38:41
  of
• 38:41
  biting.
• 38:42
  Yeah.
• 38:43
  Yeah.
• 38:43
  Well,
• 38:43
  that
• 38:44
  does
• 38:44
  happen
• 38:44
  because
• 38:45
  when
• 38:45
  kids
• 38:46
  don't
• 38:46
  know
• 38:46
  how
• 38:46
  to
• 38:46
  use
• 38:46
  their
• 38:47
  words
• 38:47
  to
• 38:48
  get
• 38:48
  their
• 38:48
  point
• 38:48
  across.
• 38:49
  And
• 38:49
  when
• 38:49
  you're
• 38:49
  little,
• 38:51
  we're
• 38:51
  animals.
• 38:52
  I
• 38:52
  mean,
• 38:52
  let's
• 38:52
  face
• 38:53
  It.
• 38:53
  We
• 38:53
  are
• 38:53
  little
• 38:54
  animals,
• 38:54
  you
• 38:54
  know,
• 38:55
  and
• 38:55
  children
• 38:55
  are,
• 38:55
  too.
• 38:55
  Before
• 38:56
  they've
• 38:56
  been
• 38:56
  trained,
• 38:57
  like,
• 38:58
  as
• 38:58
  they
• 38:58
  said,
• 38:59
  children
• 38:59
  are
• 39:00
  like
• 39:00
  animals.
• 39:00
  You
• 39:01
  have
• 39:01
  to
• 39:01
  train
• 39:01
  them,
• 39:02
  you
• 39:02
  know?
• 39:02
  Did
• 39:03
  they
• 39:03
  say
• 39:03
  that?
• 39:03
  Yes,
• 39:04
  it's
• 39:04
  in
• 39:04
  the
• 39:04
  book.
• 39:04
  I
• 39:05
  missed
• 39:05
  that
• 39:05
  one.
• 39:05
  That's
• 39:05
  what
• 39:06
  I
• 39:06
  was
• 39:06
  talking
• 39:06
  about.
• 39:06
  That's
• 39:07
  what
• 39:07
  I
• 39:07
  was
• 39:08
  talking
• 39:08
  about
• 39:08
  was
• 39:09
  that
• 39:09
  a
• 39:09
  child
• 39:09
  is
• 39:10
  like
• 39:10
  an
• 39:10
  animal
• 39:11
  that
• 39:11
  you
• 39:11
  need
• 39:11
  to
• 39:12
  train
• 39:13
  and,
• 39:13
  you
• 39:14
  know,
• 39:14
  you
• 39:14
  need
• 39:14
  to
• 39:14
  teach
• 39:14
  them
• 39:15
  you
• 39:15
  don't
• 39:15
  bite,
• 39:16
  just
• 39:16
  like
• 39:16
  you've
• 39:16
  had
• 39:16
  to.
• 39:16
  I
• 39:17
  had
• 39:17
  to
• 39:17
  teach
• 39:17
  my
• 39:17
  dog
• 39:18
  not
• 39:18
  to
• 39:18
  bark
• 39:19
  all
• 39:19
  the
• 39:19
  time.
• 39:19
  He
• 39:20
  still
• 39:20
  hasn't
• 39:20
  learned
• 39:20
  it,
• 39:21
  but
• 39:21
  I.
• 39:22
  Don'T
• 39:22
  think
• 39:22
  you
• 39:22
  can
• 39:22
  train
• 39:22
  dogs
• 39:23
  out
• 39:23
  of
• 39:23
  that.
• 39:24
  Really?
• 39:24
  Yeah,
• 39:24
  I
• 39:25
  think
• 39:25
  especially,
• 39:25
  like,
• 39:25
  if
• 39:26
  somebody
• 39:26
  comes
• 39:26
  to
• 39:26
  the
• 39:26
  door,
• 39:27
  they're
• 39:27
  just
• 39:27
  gonna
• 39:27
  bark.
• 39:28
  Right.
• 39:28
  But
• 39:28
  I.
• 39:29
  I
• 39:29
  don't
• 39:29
  like
• 39:29
  him
• 39:29
  barking
• 39:30
  at
• 39:30
  children
• 39:31
  as
• 39:31
  we're
• 39:32
  walking
• 39:32
  down
• 39:32
  the
• 39:32
  street.
• 39:32
  He
• 39:33
  does
• 39:33
  that.
• 39:33
  He
• 39:33
  barks
• 39:34
  at
• 39:34
  children.
• 39:34
  I
• 39:35
  don't.
• 39:35
  It's
• 39:35
  like,
• 39:35
  stop
• 39:36
  it
• 39:36
  already.
• 39:36
  I
• 39:36
  mean,
• 39:37
  it's
• 39:37
  because
• 39:37
  he
• 39:37
  wants
• 39:38
  to
• 39:38
  play
• 39:38
  with
• 39:38
  them.
• 39:38
  Yeah,
• 39:39
  that's
• 39:39
  what
• 39:39
  it
• 39:39
  is.
• 39:39
  But
• 39:39
  the
• 39:40
  kids
• 39:40
  don't
• 39:40
  know.
• 39:40
  Yeah.
• 39:41
  And
• 39:41
  they're
• 39:41
  like,
• 39:42
  granted,
• 39:42
  he's
• 39:42
  like
• 39:42
  three
• 39:43
  pounds,
• 39:43
  but
• 39:43
  still.
• 39:44
  Right,
• 39:44
  right.
• 39:45
  Yeah.
• 39:45
  But
• 39:46
  anyway,
• 39:46
  so.
• 39:46
  But
• 39:47
  I
• 39:47
  do
• 39:47
  think,
• 39:47
  you
• 39:47
  know,
• 39:48
  training
• 39:48
  kids,
• 39:50
  you
• 39:50
  know,
• 39:50
  they
• 39:50
  do
• 39:50
  say
• 39:50
  when
• 39:51
  they're
• 39:51
  little,
• 39:51
  if
• 39:51
  you
• 39:51
  can
• 39:52
  just
• 39:52
  train
• 39:52
  them
• 39:53
  into
• 39:53
  all
• 39:53
  these
• 39:54
  habits,
• 39:54
  they'll
• 39:55
  be
• 39:55
  better
• 39:55
  off.
• 39:56
  You'll
• 39:56
  be
• 39:56
  better
• 39:56
  off.
• 39:57
  They'll
• 39:57
  be
• 39:57
  better
• 39:57
  off.
• 39:58
  Yeah.
• 39:58
  And
• 39:58
  it's
• 39:58
  gonna
• 39:58
  suck
• 39:58
  while
• 39:59
  you
• 39:59
  do
• 39:59
  it.
• 39:59
  Yeah.
• 40:00
  But
• 40:01
  I
• 40:01
  also
• 40:01
  didn't
• 40:01
  realize,
• 40:02
  you
• 40:02
  know,
• 40:02
  kids
• 40:03
  aren't
• 40:03
  supposed
• 40:03
  to
• 40:03
  have
• 40:03
  pacifiers
• 40:04
  after
• 40:05
  six
• 40:05
  months.
• 40:06
  Well,
• 40:07
  no,
• 40:07
  I
• 40:07
  don't
• 40:07
  think
• 40:07
  that's
• 40:07
  necessarily
• 40:08
  true.
• 40:08
  Or
• 40:09
  like
• 40:09
  a
• 40:09
  year.
• 40:09
  They
• 40:09
  say
• 40:10
  at
• 40:10
  the
• 40:10
  year
• 40:10
  mark,
• 40:10
  you're
• 40:11
  supposed
• 40:11
  to
• 40:11
  take
• 40:11
  them
• 40:11
  away.
• 40:12
  At
• 40:12
  least
• 40:12
  that's
• 40:12
  according
• 40:13
  to
• 40:13
  them,
• 40:13
  because
• 40:14
  their
• 40:14
  teeth.
• 40:15
  Teeth
• 40:15
  can
• 40:15
  fall
• 40:16
  out.
• 40:17
  Really?
• 40:17
  I
• 40:18
  don't
• 40:18
  know.
• 40:18
  Well,
• 40:18
  it
• 40:18
  can
• 40:18
  cause
• 40:19
  dental
• 40:19
  problems.
• 40:20
  Yeah,
• 40:20
  that's
• 40:20
  what
• 40:20
  they're
• 40:21
  saying.
• 40:21
  They're
• 40:21
  saying
• 40:21
  bottle
• 40:22
  rot.
• 40:22
  Which.
• 40:22
  What
• 40:23
  is
• 40:23
  that?
• 40:23
  Oh,
• 40:24
  that's
• 40:24
  when
• 40:24
  you
• 40:24
  fall
• 40:25
  asleep
• 40:25
  with
• 40:25
  the.
• 40:26
  With
• 40:26
  the
• 40:26
  passive.
• 40:27
  With
• 40:27
  the
• 40:27
  bottle
• 40:28
  in
• 40:28
  your
• 40:28
  mouth
• 40:29
  and.
• 40:29
  And
• 40:30
  the
• 40:30
  milk,
• 40:30
  like,
• 40:31
  spilling
• 40:31
  out
• 40:31
  that.
• 40:32
  That
• 40:32
  they
• 40:32
  were
• 40:32
  saying,
• 40:33
  you
• 40:33
  know,
• 40:33
  you
• 40:33
  need
• 40:33
  to
• 40:33
  not
• 40:34
  let
• 40:34
  your
• 40:34
  child
• 40:34
  go
• 40:35
  to
• 40:35
  sleep.
• 40:35
  And
• 40:35
  dentists
• 40:36
  will
• 40:36
  tell
• 40:36
  you
• 40:36
  that.
• 40:37
  Yeah.
• 40:37
  Don't
• 40:37
  let
• 40:37
  your
• 40:37
  child
• 40:38
  go
• 40:38
  to
• 40:38
  sleep
• 40:38
  with
• 40:38
  a
• 40:39
  bottle
• 40:39
  in
• 40:39
  their
• 40:39
  mouth
• 40:40
  because
• 40:40
  it'll.
• 40:41
  It'll
• 40:42
  rot
• 40:42
  their
• 40:42
  teeth.
• 40:43
  Yeah.
• 40:44
  So
• 40:44
  that's.
• 40:44
  You
• 40:44
  don't
• 40:45
  want
• 40:45
  that
• 40:45
  to
• 40:45
  happen.
• 40:45
  Oh,
• 40:46
  my
• 40:46
  God.
• 40:46
  I'm
• 40:46
  so
• 40:47
  sad
• 40:47
  at
• 40:47
  the
• 40:47
  thought
• 40:47
  of
• 40:47
  my
• 40:48
  child
• 40:48
  getting
• 40:48
  teeth.
• 40:49
  Oh,
• 40:50
  no,
• 40:50
  it's
• 40:50
  okay.
• 40:50
  You
• 40:51
  want
• 40:51
  her
• 40:51
  to
• 40:51
  have
• 40:51
  teeth.
• 40:52
  I
• 40:52
  know.
• 40:52
  Eventually.
• 40:52
  I
• 40:52
  don't
• 40:53
  want
• 40:53
  her
• 40:53
  to
• 40:53
  be
• 40:53
  toothless
• 40:54
  for
• 40:54
  her
• 40:54
  whole
• 40:54
  life.
• 40:55
  Right.
• 40:55
  Like,
• 40:55
  it's
• 40:56
  okay.
• 40:57
  I
• 40:57
  know.
• 40:57
  She'll
• 40:57
  be
• 40:58
  cute
• 40:58
  when
• 40:58
  her
• 40:58
  teeth
• 40:58
  are
• 40:58
  coming
• 40:59
  in
• 40:59
  too.
• 40:59
  I
• 40:59
  know.
• 41:00
  She'll
• 41:00
  be
• 41:00
  sad.
• 41:01
  No,
• 41:01
  no.
• 41:01
  She'll
• 41:02
  get
• 41:02
  to
• 41:02
  bite.
• 41:02
  She'll
• 41:02
  get
• 41:02
  to
• 41:03
  eat
• 41:03
  food.
• 41:03
  It's
• 41:04
  good.
• 41:04
  It's
• 41:04
  solids.
• 41:05
  It's,
• 41:05
  it's,
• 41:05
  it's.
• 41:06
  A
• 41:06
  whole
• 41:06
  new
• 41:06
  world
• 41:06
  will
• 41:06
  open
• 41:07
  up
• 41:07
  for
• 41:07
  her.
• 41:08
  I
• 41:08
  know.
• 41:09
  I
• 41:09
  just
• 41:09
  want
• 41:09
  her
• 41:09
  to
• 41:09
  stay
• 41:10
  tiny.
• 41:10
  I
• 41:11
  know.
• 41:11
  I
• 41:12
  know.
• 41:12
  But
• 41:12
  anyway,
• 41:13
  I,
• 41:13
  I,
• 41:13
  you
• 41:13
  know,
• 41:14
  I
• 41:14
  think
• 41:14
  that
• 41:16
  I
• 41:16
  really
• 41:16
  felt
• 41:17
  like
• 41:17
  the.
• 41:17
  It
• 41:18
  is
• 41:18
  not
• 41:18
  the
• 41:18
  most
• 41:19
  well
• 41:19
  organized
• 41:20
  book.
• 41:21
  They
• 41:22
  could
• 41:22
  have
• 41:22
  used
• 41:22
  an
• 41:22
  editor.
• 41:23
  They
• 41:23
  really
• 41:23
  needed
• 41:24
  an
• 41:24
  editor.
• 41:24
  I,
• 41:25
  I
• 41:25
  think
• 41:25
  that
• 41:25
  I
• 41:25
  don't
• 41:26
  know
• 41:26
  who
• 41:26
  edited
• 41:26
  this
• 41:27
  book,
• 41:27
  but
• 41:27
  they
• 41:27
  did
• 41:27
  not
• 41:28
  put
• 41:28
  it
• 41:28
  together
• 41:28
  in
• 41:28
  any
• 41:29
  kind
• 41:29
  of
• 41:29
  an.
• 41:29
  Or
• 41:29
  one
• 41:29
  of
• 41:30
  the
• 41:30
  children.
• 41:30
  One
• 41:30
  of
• 41:31
  the
• 41:31
  enterprising
• 41:32
  children.
• 41:32
  I
• 41:32
  don't
• 41:33
  know.
• 41:33
  Whoever
• 41:33
  did
• 41:33
  it
• 41:35
  could
• 41:35
  have
• 41:35
  been
• 41:35
  better.
• 41:35
  Could
• 41:36
  have
• 41:36
  been
• 41:36
  better.
• 41:36
  But,
• 41:36
  but
• 41:37
  lots
• 41:37
  of
• 41:37
  good.
• 41:38
  If
• 41:38
  you,
• 41:38
  if
• 41:39
  you're
• 41:40
  looking
• 41:40
  for.
• 41:41
  How
• 41:41
  do
• 41:41
  I
• 41:42
  handle
• 41:42
  this?
• 41:42
  How
• 41:42
  do
• 41:42
  I
• 41:43
  handle
• 41:43
  this?
• 41:43
  It's
• 41:44
  like
• 41:44
  an
• 41:44
  encyclopedia.
• 41:45
  It
• 41:45
  is.
• 41:45
  At
• 41:46
  the
• 41:46
  end.
• 41:46
  Yeah.
• 41:47
  With
• 41:47
  lots
• 41:47
  of
• 41:48
  how
• 41:48
  to
• 41:48
  do
• 41:48
  this,
• 41:48
  how
• 41:49
  to
• 41:49
  do.
• 41:49
  Yeah.
• 41:49
  Yeah.
• 41:50
  They
• 41:50
  lay
• 41:50
  it
• 41:50
  out
• 41:50
  pretty
• 41:50
  clearly,
• 41:51
  which
• 41:51
  I
• 41:51
  appreciated
• 41:52
  because
• 41:52
  I
• 41:52
  love
• 41:53
  a
• 41:53
  step
• 41:53
  by
• 41:53
  step
• 41:53
  method.
• 41:54
  I'll
• 41:54
  be
• 41:54
  curious
• 41:55
  to
• 41:55
  see
• 41:55
  if
• 41:55
  you
• 41:55
  go
• 41:55
  back
• 41:56
  to
• 41:56
  this
• 41:56
  as
• 41:56
  your
• 41:57
  daughter
• 41:57
  gets
• 41:57
  older.
• 41:58
  Me
• 41:58
  too.
• 41:59
  I
• 41:59
  don't
• 41:59
  know
• 42:00
  what.
• 42:00
  It's
• 42:00
  so
• 42:00
  funny.
• 42:01
  I
• 42:01
  have
• 42:01
  all
• 42:01
  these
• 42:01
  ideas
• 42:02
  of
• 42:02
  things
• 42:02
  I'm
• 42:02
  gonna
• 42:02
  do
• 42:03
  to
• 42:03
  raise
• 42:03
  my
• 42:03
  child,
• 42:03
  and
• 42:04
  I
• 42:04
  know
• 42:04
  as
• 42:04
  soon
• 42:04
  as
• 42:05
  I
• 42:05
  get
• 42:05
  to
• 42:05
  those
• 42:05
  stages,
• 42:06
  I'm.
• 42:07
  It's
• 42:08
  all
• 42:08
  gonna
• 42:08
  go
• 42:08
  out
• 42:08
  the
• 42:08
  window.
• 42:09
  No,
• 42:09
  it
• 42:09
  shouldn't.
• 42:10
  I
• 42:10
  hope
• 42:11
  it
• 42:11
  doesn't
• 42:11
  because,
• 42:11
  you
• 42:12
  know,
• 42:12
  you
• 42:12
  want
• 42:12
  to
• 42:12
  do
• 42:13
  the
• 42:13
  best
• 42:13
  thing
• 42:13
  for
• 42:13
  your
• 42:14
  kid.
• 42:14
  But,
• 42:15
  you
• 42:15
  know,
• 42:15
  I
• 42:16
  just,
• 42:16
  like,
• 42:17
  I
• 42:17
  also,
• 42:18
  I
• 42:18
  don't
• 42:18
  want
• 42:18
  to
• 42:19
  make
• 42:19
  her
• 42:19
  mad.
• 42:20
  Like,
• 42:20
  even
• 42:20
  now
• 42:21
  when
• 42:22
  she's
• 42:22
  super
• 42:23
  upset,
• 42:23
  I
• 42:24
  will
• 42:24
  do
• 42:24
  anything
• 42:25
  to
• 42:25
  calm
• 42:26
  her
• 42:26
  down,
• 42:26
  even
• 42:26
  if
• 42:27
  I
• 42:27
  know
• 42:27
  it
• 42:27
  might
• 42:27
  not
• 42:28
  be
• 42:28
  the
• 42:28
  best
• 42:28
  thing
• 42:28
  for
• 42:28
  her,
• 42:29
  you
• 42:29
  know,
• 42:30
  and
• 42:30
  it's
• 42:30
  just.
• 42:31
  You're
• 42:31
  gonna
• 42:31
  have
• 42:31
  to
• 42:32
  get
• 42:32
  tougher.
• 42:32
  You're
• 42:33
  really
• 42:33
  gonna
• 42:33
  have
• 42:33
  to
• 42:33
  get
• 42:33
  tougher
• 42:34
  because
• 42:35
  you
• 42:35
  have
• 42:35
  to
• 42:35
  think,
• 42:36
  like,
• 42:36
  if
• 42:36
  I
• 42:36
  do
• 42:36
  the
• 42:37
  hard
• 42:37
  work
• 42:37
  now,
• 42:39
  it'll.
• 42:40
  She'll
• 42:40
  be
• 42:41
  such
• 42:41
  a
• 42:41
  much
• 42:41
  easier
• 42:42
  child
• 42:42
  to
• 42:43
  handle
• 42:43
  later.
• 42:44
  Yeah.
• 42:44
  So,
• 42:45
  you
• 42:45
  know,
• 42:45
  it's,
• 42:46
  it's,
• 42:46
  it's
• 42:47
  hard.
• 42:47
  I
• 42:47
  mean,
• 42:47
  being
• 42:48
  a
• 42:48
  parent
• 42:48
  is
• 42:48
  hard.
• 42:48
  There's
• 42:49
  a
• 42:49
  lot
• 42:49
  you
• 42:49
  have
• 42:49
  to
• 42:50
  do.
• 42:50
  It
• 42:50
  is
• 42:50
  hard.
• 42:51
  I
• 42:51
  know.
• 42:51
  I'm
• 42:52
  sorry.
• 42:52
  I
• 42:52
  mean,
• 42:52
  no,
• 42:53
  it's
• 42:53
  great.
• 42:53
  It's
• 42:54
  honestly
• 42:54
  fabulous,
• 42:55
  but
• 42:55
  it's
• 42:55
  hard.
• 42:56
  It
• 42:56
  is.
• 42:57
  It's
• 42:57
  really,
• 42:57
  you
• 42:58
  know,
• 42:58
  it's
• 42:58
  the
• 42:58
  most.
• 42:59
  Probably
• 42:59
  the
• 43:00
  most
• 43:00
  meaningful
• 43:01
  thing
• 43:01
  I
• 43:01
  will
• 43:01
  ever
• 43:02
  do.
• 43:02
  But
• 43:03
  stakes
• 43:03
  are
• 43:04
  high.
• 43:05
  Yes
• 43:05
  and
• 43:05
  no.
• 43:06
  I
• 43:06
  mean,
• 43:06
  it's.
• 43:07
  It.
• 43:07
  The
• 43:07
  stakes
• 43:07
  are.
• 43:07
  There
• 43:08
  are
• 43:08
  so
• 43:08
  many
• 43:08
  people
• 43:08
  in
• 43:08
  the
• 43:08
  world.
• 43:09
  Some
• 43:09
  can
• 43:09
  be
• 43:09
  horrible.
• 43:10
  No,
• 43:10
  no,
• 43:11
  the
• 43:11
  stakes
• 43:11
  are
• 43:12
  high.
• 43:12
  But
• 43:12
  just
• 43:12
  remember
• 43:13
  that
• 43:13
  if
• 43:13
  you
• 43:14
  make
• 43:14
  mistakes,
• 43:16
  the
• 43:16
  child
• 43:17
  will
• 43:17
  be
• 43:17
  okay.
• 43:17
  And
• 43:17
  look
• 43:18
  at
• 43:18
  what.
• 43:18
  Look
• 43:18
  at
• 43:18
  us.
• 43:19
  We
• 43:19
  did
• 43:19
  not
• 43:20
  post
• 43:20
  house
• 43:20
  rules.
• 43:21
  We
• 43:22
  did
• 43:22
  not
• 43:23
  do
• 43:23
  a
• 43:23
  lot
• 43:23
  of
• 43:23
  the
• 43:23
  things
• 43:24
  that
• 43:24
  are
• 43:24
  in
• 43:24
  this
• 43:24
  book
• 43:25
  that
• 43:25
  I
• 43:25
  should
• 43:26
  have
• 43:26
  done.
• 43:26
  And
• 43:26
  looking
• 43:27
  back,
• 43:27
  I
• 43:27
  think
• 43:27
  I
• 43:28
  should
• 43:28
  have
• 43:28
  been
• 43:28
  a
• 43:28
  stricter
• 43:29
  parent.
• 43:29
  I
• 43:29
  wish
• 43:29
  I
• 43:30
  had
• 43:30
  been.
• 43:31
  I
• 43:32
  just
• 43:32
  didn't
• 43:32
  have
• 43:32
  it
• 43:32
  in
• 43:32
  me.
• 43:33
  It's
• 43:33
  not
• 43:33
  my
• 43:33
  personality,
• 43:34
  you
• 43:34
  know?
• 43:35
  Yeah,
• 43:35
  neither
• 43:35
  did
• 43:35
  dad.
• 43:36
  Neither
• 43:36
  of
• 43:36
  us
• 43:37
  did.
• 43:37
  Yeah.
• 43:38
  So.
• 43:38
  But.
• 43:39
  But,
• 43:39
  you
• 43:39
  know,
• 43:40
  you
• 43:40
  guys
• 43:40
  turned
• 43:40
  out
• 43:40
  great,
• 43:41
  so.
• 43:41
  Well,
• 43:42
  I
• 43:42
  think
• 43:42
  in
• 43:42
  some
• 43:42
  ways,
• 43:43
  the
• 43:44
  expectation.
• 43:44
  We
• 43:45
  sort
• 43:45
  of
• 43:45
  knew,
• 43:45
  like,
• 43:46
  you
• 43:46
  guys
• 43:46
  weren't
• 43:47
  gonna
• 43:47
  be
• 43:47
  strict,
• 43:47
  so
• 43:48
  we
• 43:48
  had
• 43:48
  to
• 43:48
  make
• 43:48
  judgment
• 43:49
  calls,
• 43:49
  often
• 43:49
  on
• 43:50
  our
• 43:50
  own,
• 43:50
  and
• 43:51
  we
• 43:51
  understood
• 43:51
  that
• 43:52
  the
• 43:52
  consequences
• 43:52
  would
• 43:53
  belong
• 43:53
  to
• 43:53
  us
• 43:53
  because
• 43:53
  you
• 43:54
  were
• 43:54
  not
• 43:54
  the
• 43:54
  type
• 43:55
  of
• 43:55
  parents
• 43:55
  that
• 43:56
  would
• 43:56
  come
• 43:56
  and
• 43:56
  intervene.
• 43:57
  So
• 43:58
  I
• 43:58
  think
• 43:58
  in
• 43:58
  a
• 43:58
  way,
• 43:59
  that's
• 43:59
  kind
• 43:59
  of
• 43:59
  valuable
• 44:00
  because
• 44:00
  we're
• 44:00
  like,
• 44:00
  well,
• 44:00
  if
• 44:01
  I
• 44:01
  do
• 44:01
  this
• 44:01
  and
• 44:02
  people
• 44:02
  get
• 44:02
  pissed,
• 44:03
  they're
• 44:04
  gonna
• 44:04
  be
• 44:04
  pissed
• 44:04
  at
• 44:04
  me,
• 44:05
  and
• 44:05
  I'm
• 44:05
  gonna
• 44:06
  have
• 44:06
  to
• 44:06
  deal
• 44:06
  with
• 44:06
  the
• 44:06
  fallout.
• 44:07
  And
• 44:08
  I
• 44:08
  think
• 44:08
  I'd
• 44:08
  rather
• 44:09
  not
• 44:09
  do
• 44:09
  that,
• 44:10
  you
• 44:10
  know,
• 44:10
  I
• 44:10
  hope
• 44:11
  so.
• 44:12
  Like
• 44:12
  I
• 44:12
  said,
• 44:12
  looking
• 44:13
  back,
• 44:13
  I.
• 44:14
  I
• 44:14
  realize
• 44:15
  now
• 44:15
  how
• 44:15
  much
• 44:15
  stricter
• 44:16
  I
• 44:16
  should
• 44:16
  have
• 44:16
  been,
• 44:16
  and
• 44:17
  I'm
• 44:17
  sorry
• 44:17
  for
• 44:18
  that.
• 44:18
  And
• 44:18
  I
• 44:19
  would
• 44:19
  have
• 44:19
  benefited
• 44:20
  from
• 44:20
  a
• 44:20
  book
• 44:21
  like
• 44:21
  this
• 44:21
  and
• 44:21
  from
• 44:22
  all
• 44:22
  of
• 44:22
  this
• 44:22
  direction,
• 44:23
  which
• 44:24
  I
• 44:24
  didn't
• 44:24
  even
• 44:25
  know
• 44:25
  was
• 44:25
  out
• 44:25
  there
• 44:26
  when
• 44:26
  I
• 44:26
  was
• 44:26
  raising
• 44:27
  kids.
• 44:27
  God,
• 44:27
  there
• 44:28
  are
• 44:28
  so
• 44:28
  many
• 44:28
  parenting
• 44:29
  books,
• 44:29
  is
• 44:29
  what
• 44:29
  I'm
• 44:30
  realizing
• 44:30
  as
• 44:31
  we
• 44:31
  embark
• 44:31
  upon
• 44:31
  this
• 44:32
  journey.
• 44:33
  And
• 44:33
  everybody
• 44:33
  has
• 44:34
  such
• 44:34
  disparate
• 44:34
  ideas,
• 44:35
  and
• 44:36
  everyone
• 44:36
  believes
• 44:37
  so
• 44:38
  sincerely
• 44:39
  that
• 44:39
  if
• 44:39
  you
• 44:39
  don't
• 44:40
  follow
• 44:40
  their
• 44:40
  ideas,
• 44:41
  that
• 44:41
  your
• 44:41
  children
• 44:42
  will
• 44:42
  become
• 44:43
  homicidal
• 44:43
  maniacs.
• 44:45
  And
• 44:45
  I'm
• 44:45
  like,
• 44:46
  is
• 44:46
  that
• 44:47
  true?
• 44:47
  Well,
• 44:47
  you
• 44:47
  know,
• 44:48
  what
• 44:48
  this
• 44:49
  is
• 44:49
  giving
• 44:49
  me
• 44:50
  good
• 44:51
  perspective
• 44:51
  on
• 44:51
  in
• 44:52
  looking
• 44:52
  at
• 44:52
  all
• 44:52
  these
• 44:52
  parenting
• 44:53
  books
• 44:53
  is
• 44:53
  that
• 44:54
  there
• 44:54
  are
• 44:55
  many
• 44:55
  ways
• 44:55
  to
• 44:56
  raise
• 44:56
  a
• 44:56
  child.
• 44:57
  And.
• 44:59
  I
• 44:59
  never
• 44:59
  even
• 45:00
  had
• 45:00
  a
• 45:00
  philosophy
• 45:01
  about
• 45:01
  it,
• 45:02
  about
• 45:02
  what
• 45:02
  my
• 45:02
  concept
• 45:03
  was
• 45:03
  for
• 45:04
  raising
• 45:04
  my
• 45:04
  kids.
• 45:04
  I
• 45:05
  just
• 45:05
  kind
• 45:05
  of
• 45:05
  jumped
• 45:05
  in
• 45:06
  and
• 45:06
  did
• 45:06
  it
• 45:06
  without
• 45:07
  thinking.
• 45:08
  I
• 45:08
  think
• 45:08
  it
• 45:08
  is
• 45:08
  helpful
• 45:09
  to
• 45:09
  think
• 45:09
  about
• 45:09
  what
• 45:10
  you
• 45:10
  want
• 45:10
  to
• 45:10
  do.
• 45:11
  Be
• 45:11
  intentional,
• 45:12
  Be
• 45:13
  a
• 45:13
  little
• 45:13
  more
• 45:13
  intentional
• 45:14
  than
• 45:14
  I
• 45:14
  was,
• 45:15
  and.
• 45:17
  But
• 45:17
  there's
• 45:17
  lots
• 45:18
  of
• 45:18
  good
• 45:18
  ideas
• 45:19
  out
• 45:19
  there,
• 45:20
  and
• 45:20
  there's
• 45:20
  good
• 45:21
  direction,
• 45:22
  and
• 45:22
  I
• 45:23
  would
• 45:23
  want
• 45:23
  to
• 45:23
  take
• 45:23
  it,
• 45:24
  you
• 45:24
  know,
• 45:24
  now,
• 45:25
  I
• 45:25
  mean,
• 45:25
  I'm
• 45:25
  so
• 45:25
  glad,
• 45:26
  like,
• 45:26
  here
• 45:26
  you
• 45:26
  have
• 45:26
  a
• 45:27
  baby,
• 45:27
  you
• 45:27
  have
• 45:28
  a
• 45:28
  chance
• 45:28
  to
• 45:28
  look
• 45:28
  at
• 45:28
  all
• 45:29
  these
• 45:29
  different
• 45:29
  ways
• 45:30
  of
• 45:30
  raising
• 45:30
  your
• 45:30
  child
• 45:31
  and
• 45:32
  pick
• 45:32
  what
• 45:32
  you
• 45:33
  think
• 45:33
  is
• 45:33
  the
• 45:33
  Right
• 45:34
  way.
• 45:34
  And
• 45:34
  no
• 45:34
  matter
• 45:34
  what,
• 45:35
  she's
• 45:35
  going
• 45:36
  to
• 45:36
  turn
• 45:36
  out
• 45:36
  fine.
• 45:37
  Yeah,
• 45:37
  she
• 45:37
  will.
• 45:38
  She
• 45:38
  will.
• 45:38
  You
• 45:38
  have
• 45:39
  to
• 45:39
  be.
• 45:40
  She's
• 45:40
  a
• 45:40
  good
• 45:40
  kid.
• 45:41
  I
• 45:41
  know.
• 45:41
  And
• 45:41
  she
• 45:42
  will
• 45:42
  be
• 45:42
  a
• 45:42
  good
• 45:42
  kid
• 45:43
  when
• 45:43
  she
• 45:43
  grows
• 45:43
  up
• 45:43
  because
• 45:43
  she
• 45:44
  has
• 45:44
  good
• 45:44
  parents.
• 45:44
  I
• 45:44
  feel
• 45:44
  like
• 45:45
  everybody
• 45:45
  says
• 45:45
  that
• 45:45
  about
• 45:46
  their
• 45:46
  kid,
• 45:46
  especially
• 45:47
  after
• 45:47
  their
• 45:47
  kid
• 45:48
  does
• 45:48
  something,
• 45:48
  like,
• 45:48
  really
• 45:49
  stupid.
• 45:49
  He's
• 45:50
  a
• 45:50
  good
• 45:50
  kid.
• 45:50
  He'll
• 45:51
  be
• 45:51
  okay.
• 45:51
  Yeah,
• 45:51
  it's
• 45:51
  like
• 45:52
  it's
• 45:53
  your.
• 45:53
  You
• 45:53
  hope.
• 45:54
  Yeah,
• 45:54
  yeah,
• 45:55
  yeah.
• 45:55
  And
• 45:55
  if
• 45:55
  not.
• 45:56
  Yeah,
• 45:57
  maybe
• 45:57
  I'll
• 45:58
  have
• 45:58
  another
• 45:58
  one.
• 45:58
  Yeah,
• 45:59
  well,
• 45:59
  you
• 46:00
  know,
• 46:00
  you
• 46:00
  got
• 46:00
  to
• 46:00
  get
• 46:00
  it
• 46:00
  right
• 46:00
  at
• 46:01
  least
• 46:01
  once.
• 46:01
  Yes,
• 46:02
  exactly.
• 46:03
  Exactly.
• 46:04
  So,
• 46:04
  okay,
• 46:04
  so
• 46:05
  is
• 46:05
  your
• 46:05
  recommendation
• 46:06
  to
• 46:06
  read
• 46:06
  the
• 46:07
  book?
• 46:07
  Is
• 46:07
  your.
• 46:08
  What
• 46:08
  was.
• 46:08
  No,
• 46:08
  my
• 46:09
  recommendation
• 46:09
  is
• 46:10
  to
• 46:10
  watch
• 46:10
  the
• 46:10
  show.
• 46:11
  What?
• 46:11
  Do
• 46:11
  you
• 46:11
  like
• 46:11
  the
• 46:11
  show?
• 46:12
  Do
• 46:12
  not
• 46:12
  read
• 46:12
  this
• 46:12
  book.
• 46:13
  This
• 46:13
  book
• 46:13
  is
• 46:14
  mayhem.
• 46:15
  And
• 46:16
  what
• 46:16
  about
• 46:16
  at
• 46:16
  the
• 46:17
  end,
• 46:17
  the
• 46:17
  encyclopedia?
• 46:18
  If
• 46:18
  you
• 46:18
  truly
• 46:19
  feel
• 46:19
  like
• 46:19
  you
• 46:19
  need
• 46:20
  the
• 46:20
  encyclopedia,
• 46:22
  get
• 46:22
  it.
• 46:23
  But
• 46:24
  again,
• 46:25
  you
• 46:25
  know,
• 46:26
  a
• 46:26
  lot
• 46:27
  of
• 46:27
  these
• 46:27
  concepts
• 46:27
  are
• 46:28
  things
• 46:28
  you
• 46:28
  are
• 46:29
  pretty
• 46:29
  common
• 46:29
  sense.
• 46:30
  I
• 46:30
  felt
• 46:31
  really.
• 46:32
  I
• 46:32
  don't
• 46:32
  know,
• 46:32
  some
• 46:33
  of
• 46:33
  them,
• 46:34
  you
• 46:34
  know,
• 46:34
  I
• 46:34
  mean,
• 46:35
  maybe
• 46:35
  not
• 46:35
  some
• 46:35
  of
• 46:35
  the
• 46:36
  instructional
• 46:36
  ones,
• 46:37
  but
• 46:39
  I
• 46:39
  don't
• 46:39
  know,
• 46:39
  I
• 46:39
  feel
• 46:40
  like
• 46:40
  if
• 46:40
  you
• 46:40
  have
• 46:40
  a
• 46:40
  decent
• 46:41
  enough
• 46:42
  gut
• 46:42
  instinct
• 46:43
  as
• 46:43
  a
• 46:43
  parent,
• 46:43
  you
• 46:44
  know,
• 46:44
  a
• 46:44
  lot
• 46:44
  of
• 46:45
  this
• 46:45
  stuff,
• 46:45
  it's
• 46:46
  so
• 46:46
  many
• 46:46
  of
• 46:46
  these
• 46:47
  things
• 46:47
  are
• 46:47
  just
• 46:47
  confirmation
• 46:48
  that.
• 46:49
  Yeah,
• 46:50
  you
• 46:50
  thought
• 46:50
  that.
• 46:51
  Go
• 46:51
  ahead.
• 46:51
  That's
• 46:52
  right.
• 46:52
  Go
• 46:52
  do
• 46:52
  it.
• 46:53
  Well,
• 46:53
  and
• 46:54
  I
• 46:54
  think
• 46:54
  you.
• 46:54
  You
• 46:54
  do
• 46:55
  need
• 46:55
  to
• 46:55
  trust
• 46:55
  yourself
• 46:56
  as
• 46:56
  a
• 46:56
  parent.
• 46:56
  Yeah,
• 46:57
  that
• 46:57
  seems
• 46:57
  to
• 46:57
  be
• 46:57
  a
• 46:57
  big
• 46:58
  thing,
• 46:58
  right?
• 46:59
  Trust
• 46:59
  yourself.
• 47:00
  Yeah,
• 47:00
  but.
• 47:00
  But
• 47:00
  it.
• 47:01
  But
• 47:01
  I
• 47:01
  think
• 47:01
  the,
• 47:01
  the.
• 47:02
  The
• 47:03
  at
• 47:03
  the
• 47:03
  end,
• 47:04
  where
• 47:04
  she.
• 47:04
  The
• 47:04
  encyclopedia,
• 47:06
  alphabetical
• 47:06
  order,
• 47:07
  how
• 47:07
  to
• 47:07
  handle
• 47:07
  everything.
• 47:08
  That
• 47:08
  was
• 47:08
  kind
• 47:08
  of
• 47:08
  nice.
• 47:08
  That
• 47:09
  was
• 47:09
  nice.
• 47:09
  Yeah.
• 47:10
  Only
• 47:10
  thing
• 47:11
  worth
• 47:11
  buying
• 47:11
  the
• 47:11
  book
• 47:11
  for
• 47:11
  to
• 47:12
  be
• 47:12
  totally.
• 47:12
  You
• 47:12
  can
• 47:12
  get
• 47:12
  it
• 47:13
  used,
• 47:13
  and
• 47:13
  it's
• 47:14
  not
• 47:14
  expensive.
• 47:14
  If
• 47:14
  you
• 47:14
  get
• 47:15
  a
• 47:15
  used
• 47:15
  copy.
• 47:16
  Get
• 47:16
  it
• 47:17
  used.
• 47:18
  If
• 47:19
  you're
• 47:19
  gonna
• 47:19
  get
• 47:19
  it
• 47:20
  and
• 47:20
  watch
• 47:20
  the
• 47:20
  shows.
• 47:21
  Joe's
• 47:21
  kind
• 47:21
  of
• 47:21
  watching.
• 47:21
  Yeah,
• 47:22
  the
• 47:22
  show's
• 47:22
  fun.
• 47:22
  The
• 47:23
  show's
• 47:23
  fun.
• 47:23
  And
• 47:24
  you'll
• 47:24
  think
• 47:25
  my
• 47:25
  house
• 47:25
  is
• 47:26
  so
• 47:26
  quiet
• 47:27
  and
• 47:27
  calm
• 47:27
  and
• 47:28
  peaceful
• 47:28
  compared
• 47:28
  to
• 47:29
  these
• 47:29
  people.
• 47:30
  You'll
• 47:30
  feel
• 47:30
  very
• 47:31
  superior.
• 47:31
  God,
• 47:31
  these
• 47:32
  people.
• 47:32
  These
• 47:33
  poor
• 47:33
  people.
• 47:33
  I
• 47:34
  know.
• 47:34
  God.
• 47:35
  I
• 47:35
  also
• 47:35
  feel
• 47:35
  like
• 47:36
  most
• 47:36
  of
• 47:36
  them
• 47:36
  have
• 47:36
  had,
• 47:36
  like,
• 47:37
  seven
• 47:37
  kids
• 47:38
  in
• 47:38
  three
• 47:39
  years.
• 47:39
  Right.
• 47:40
  And
• 47:40
  I'm
• 47:40
  just
• 47:40
  like,
• 47:40
  oh,
• 47:41
  my
• 47:41
  God,
• 47:41
  it's
• 47:41
  hard.
• 47:42
  You
• 47:42
  poor
• 47:42
  woman.
• 47:43
  Yeah.
• 47:43
  Take
• 47:44
  a
• 47:44
  nap.
• 47:45
  Yeah,
• 47:45
  well,
• 47:46
  they,
• 47:46
  they.
• 47:46
  There's
• 47:47
  real
• 47:47
  transformation
• 47:48
  from
• 47:49
  the
• 47:49
  beginning
• 47:49
  to
• 47:49
  the
• 47:49
  end,
• 47:50
  and
• 47:50
  that's
• 47:50
  fun
• 47:50
  to
• 47:50
  watch.
• 47:50
  The
• 47:51
  nannies
• 47:51
  are
• 47:51
  so,
• 47:52
  like,
• 47:52
  kind
• 47:52
  and
• 47:53
  wise.
• 47:53
  They
• 47:54
  are.
• 47:54
  They're
• 47:54
  very
• 47:54
  wise.
• 47:55
  They're
• 47:56
  very
• 47:56
  wise.
• 47:56
  Again,
• 47:57
  things
• 47:57
  that
• 47:57
  don't
• 47:58
  really
• 47:58
  come
• 47:58
  through
• 47:58
  in
• 47:58
  the
• 47:58
  book.
• 47:59
  Book,
• 47:59
  but
• 47:59
  come
• 47:59
  through
• 48:00
  in
• 48:00
  the
• 48:00
  show.
• 48:01
  Yeah,
• 48:01
  it
• 48:02
  does.
• 48:03
  Well,
• 48:03
  anyway,
• 48:04
  thanks
• 48:04
  for
• 48:04
  joining
• 48:04
  us
• 48:05
  for
• 48:05
  this
• 48:06
  fabulous
• 48:06
  episode
• 48:06
  about
• 48:07
  Nanny
• 48:07
  91
• 48:08
  1.
• 48:08
  And
• 48:08
  we
• 48:08
  hope
• 48:09
  to
• 48:09
  see
• 48:09
  you
• 48:09
  next
• 48:10
  week
• 48:10
  or
• 48:10
  hear
• 48:10
  you.
• 48:11
  Well,
• 48:11
  we
• 48:12
  can't
• 48:12
  hear
• 48:12
  you,
• 48:12
  but
• 48:13
  you
• 48:13
  can
• 48:13
  hear
• 48:13
  us.