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Hot Takes With the Murphman Episode 48 Managing Up · Military Broadcast Radio | MBR Talk

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  Bad bosses I've I've been lucky and I've had a lot of really
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  good ones. I've had some bad ones.
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  Yeah, but I I mean in my career. Since I'm only your career,
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  yeah. My 43 years of working, I
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  started at 14. If you want to go down to
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  volunteering my time at 12 years old in Safety Town and Girl
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  Scouts camp, well it was a Girl Scouts camp that let you go.
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  My brothers go in and I, I went in was a a mentor with them, you
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  know, and we have the the we had, you know, doing this since
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  I was 12 years old. So it's one of those things that
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  you just never know what's going to happen.
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  And I've had some pretty good luck with bosses.
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  So thank God that that I've had that.
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  And I will tell you, one of the things that I enjoyed was having
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  bosses that respected me but didn't expect me to do things
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  that I couldn't do. So they were very nice with me
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  on that aspect, you know, and I built a relationship with them
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  and I was able to to go out and build myself up because of the
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  bosses that I had. And that's what I want to talk
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  about today. So let's talk about that in our
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  statement called the Burning Question.
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  Today's burning question is what is managing up?
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  Is it A doing your boss's job for them?
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  Maybe it's B manipulating your boss to get what you want.
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  Could it be C proactively building a productive
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  partnership with your boss? Or is it D complaining to your
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  boss about problems? Let's kick it back to the Murph
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  man and Connor to see what the answer is.
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  Well, before we get to the burning question answer, veteran
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  Sock said. Depends on if the boss is hot.
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  No, it doesn't. Doesn't matter how attractive he
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  is, I'm not going to do anything with.
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  Him. Wow.
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  Yeah, so we talked about the burning question.
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  Doing the boss's job right. The best way to ask is what is
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  managing up doing your boss's job for them?
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  Manipulating your bosses to get what?
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  Hello. Are we good?
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  Yeah. OK.
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  I'm I'm in. We're good.
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  OK, sorry. So it's because you weren't on
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  on stage, that's why, OK. I wasn't that stage.
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  I don't. Know OK.
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  So now we're good. So I was good.
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  I was moving the script and then it touched the touchpad on the
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  computer and swiped out. I see what you're saying.
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  OK, yes. So what do you think the answer
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  is? I think it's CC.
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  Proactively building a productive partnership with your
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  boss? Yes, I, I agree with that.
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  It's one of those things that you, you want to have a
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  relationship with your boss. You want to be with them and
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  talking to them and seeing what's, what's going on, right.
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  I've had relationships with my bosses.
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  When I was in the Army, I was lower enlisted and I worked with
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  captains majors, Lieutenant colonel's on, on the regular.
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  And there was one time, I think it's so funny was when we were
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  in Somalia, we were in the back of a truck and we're driving
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  around and we get we're surrounded by buildings and
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  there's people poking their heads on like Dan Ayerson in the
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  American before we were lost as hell to the person driving.
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  I was going to kill him. By the way, that was Justin
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  negligence father. I was ready to kill him.
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  Literally, Not figuratively, literally.
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  And anyway, I'm in the back of the truck with a social worker,
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  all right? Just a straight up social
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  worker. He's an officer and they gave us
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  rifles. He didn't have a pistol like
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  he's trained on. He's like I said, get your rifle
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  lock and load, blah, blah. Get ready to shoot.
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  He's like, I don't even know how to use this.
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  I don't care right now. Just God damn, get ready to
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  shoot. You know, it wasn't about rank
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  with anyone I've ever worked with.
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  It was we had respect for each other that we could talk like
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  that to each other, you know, and I, I was able to enjoy doing
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  that because as we talked about this with other people, a lot of
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  things happened and we talked to the officers and, you know, I
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  took it upon myself to train a lot of the officer.
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  I told you. Like, one thing I was really
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  good at was all the social skills.
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  Even though I was medical personnel, my soldier skills
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  were awesome to the point where like in training at NTCI told
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  you I killed the tank. Yeah.
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  Yeah, because I know how to fire the weapons, you know, it's.
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  Yeah, that's that's how it works.
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  Well, when you're medical, your job is to save people, So it's
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  more focused on saving lives and taking them.
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  But I told myself, I don't know wherever I'm going to be, I
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  might need to do things like that.
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  So I learned how to do things in in training.
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  The guy next to me was quote UN quote wounded and he hands me
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  this weapon. It says kill the tank.
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  So I did, you know, and to me, it's just to me, it was a lot of
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  fun. I really enjoyed the military
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  and I wish I would have stayed in, but my marriage couldn't
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  handle any more divorce separations.
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  And eventually we got divorced anyway, so just stayed in.
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  It sucks, right? A little bit.
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  Yeah, a little bit. Four years later and it all went
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  to hell in a handbasket. You know, it's, it's one of
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  those things that you can't really explain to people who
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  haven't been part of it. It's, you know, you say, oh,
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  well, you know, yeah, you you want to save your marriage and
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  everything. It's not always that easy.
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  It's not always that easy, you know.
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  And as we do this, I want you guys to think about that and how
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  you relationship with your boss stacks up.
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  And we're going to talk about today's hot take.
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  Today's hot take is this Your boss is not your parent, your
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  friend, or your therapist. They are your most important
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  customer. Managing up is the strategic
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  practice of making their job easier so they can in turn
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  advocate for your success without feeling obligated.
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  Let's see how the Murph man has helped his boss's lives get
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  easier and in some cases, Carter.
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  Why did I say harder? Because I'm a pain in the butt,
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  right? But your boss is not your
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  parent, your friend, or your therapist.
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  They are your boss. They're going to tell you what
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  you need to do, what you need to change, and you need to do it.
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  That's the bottom line, right? But Managing Up talks about the
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  strategic practice of making their job easier so that they
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  can in turn, advocate for your success without feeling
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  obligated. You know, when you do something
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  for somebody, they're more apt to help you.
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  You know, one of the things, if you ever want anyone to help
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  you, the first thing you have to do is help them.
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  OK? Stephen Covey, one of the habits
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  that we talked about, the seven habits of highly affected
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  people, he talks about the emotional Piggy Bank, emotional
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  bank account. You can't take out of your bank
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  unless you put money in first, right?
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  OK, Same way with a relationship.
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  You have to put the money in, you have to put the effort in,
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  you have to put everything in before you try to take anything
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  out. And there's relationships that
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  I've talked to you about them in my life where people are just
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  taking, taking, taking, not giving anything.
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  At some point I just say, OK, that I'm done with you, right?
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  Yeah. I'm done that.
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  That's it. I'm done.
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  And before you know it, it happens.
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  I I get them out of my life and my life gets easier, right.
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  Yeah. You know, So you're not there to
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  be friends with your boss, but when you need them to advocate
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  for you, they are there. Right.
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  Yeah. Out to the point where I'll,
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  I'll give you the example of when your mom passed away, I, I
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  just couldn't be a counselor anymore.
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  I just, I couldn't for three months.
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  I was working my butt because I had lost a lot of time because
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  she was sick in the hospital and everything.
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  And I was trying to make up all that time.
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  And there was one day that I was driving back at 8:00 at night
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  from payments and I had to pick you up at daycare at 8:00.
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  I was going to be about 15 minutes late, maybe 20 minutes.
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  I called the daycare and tell them I'm sorry, I I got late.
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  You know, they're ready to go home.
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  Yeah. And it didn't happen often.
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  We made that very clear. So.
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  It was like 2 times probably. Yeah, but as I was driving, I'm
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  like, you were nine years old at daycare, your mom died three
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  months ago, and I'm out here working my butt off for what?
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  For money, the job. Well, I know that now, but
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  that's not the point. I asked to be released from
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  work, and my boss talked to my CEO and got me a severance plan,
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  a small little package of funds that I was able to use.
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  They paid for my vacation. They gave me an extra month's
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  salary. And they let me go, no questions
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  asked. Really.
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  And it it ruined our lives for a while.
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  I'm not going to lie. You know, I lost my job.
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  I ended up losing the car, end up losing the house.
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  You know, it is what it is. And I told you I'm back, baby,
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  Right? Yeah.
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  Yeah. But I could not do counseling
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  anymore. And my boss understood that.
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  She gave me the time I needed to be with my wife.
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  She gave me the time I needed to try to make up when I knew I was
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  going to make it. I cut my losses.
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  She let go of me. And it wasn't a horrible thing.
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  You know what I mean? Yeah.
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  It was like she understood the situation and she helped me.
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  So having that relationship with your boss sometimes helps in
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  ways you cannot ever imagine. But I'll tell you, we're going
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  to take a quick break. And when we come back, we're
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  going to talk about the different terms that we're going
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  to be using in today's episode in our segment called Laying
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  Down the Colds. Stay tuned.
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  It's time for a break. Hot takes with the Murph man
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  will return. After these messages.
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  I've been trying to change the videos up.
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  Yeah. But we'll talk about that on our
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  next break. So let's get to the laying down
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  the coals and talking about our terms for today.
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  Before we dig into today's show, let's clarify some of the key
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  terms we'll be using today while laying down the coals.
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  Managing up the process of consciously working with your
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  superior to obtain the best possible results for you, your
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  manager, and the organization. Communication styles.
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  Understanding whether your boss prefers quick updates via Slack,
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  formal weekly emails, or in person.
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  Check. Insurance.
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  Proactive support. Anticipating your manager's
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  needs and offering solutions before they have to ask all.
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  Right, so managing up the process of consciously working
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  with your superior to obtain the best possible results.
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  Communication styles. Understanding whether you boss
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  prefers quick updates to be a Slack formal weekly emails or in
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  person check. Insurance and productive
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  support. Anticipating your manager's
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  needs and offering solutions before they ask.
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  Let's talk about those real quick one by one.
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  When you have a boss that is busy, 90 to 95% of their time is
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  spent managing employee issues. You don't want to be part of
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  that, right? With every boss I've had, I have
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  a great relationship with them. But I can walk in, say you got a
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  SEC and they know it's more than a SEC because they know me and I
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  can sit there and I can talk to them about an issue real quick.
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  And we, we coming out. And what's the thing?
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  I always told you, when you have a problem, you have to come with
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  a solution. Very good.
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  So I walk in and here's what I want to do.
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  What do you think? And, you know, they'll say yes,
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  no, maybe so. Whatever, right?
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  But there's been times where I've walked in with bosses.
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  And I said, I am up to here with whatever's happening.
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  I cannot do this. I said something's gonna,
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  something needs to change, you know, and they'll tell me, well,
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  tough. I'm like, OK, yeah, that's the
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  way it is, all right? But at least they heard me out,
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  right? Yeah.
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  I had one boss that I, I had, I told you guys about it before
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  that I didn't like him. I, he was a jerk with me.
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  And one day he really set me off.
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  He triggered me. I went into my principal's
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  office and said, can I just sit in here before I kill somebody?
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  And she says, sure, walked out of the office.
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  She knew what it was. She walked out of the office and
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  just let me stay there until I chilled out, you know?
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  And again, we go back to that relationship with the boss,
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  right? You know, And if I'm wrong,
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  that's another thing. The hardest thing is to welcome
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  to someone and say we have a problem.
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  We need to talk about it. I really believe that if you sit
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  there and you talk to someone, you hash out your problem and
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  you move on. And that's the way it should be,
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  right? You should be able to just walk
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  up and say you're not doing this right.
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  We need to talk about this or I have, I have a concern about the
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  way you're doing this. There's certain phrases you got
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  to use. Of course, you can just walk us.
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  So you're screwing up. But as you sit there, right, and
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  you're talking to your boss and they're talking to you, don't
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  take it personally. You know, with that other boss I
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  told you I hated it was personal because I wasn't the one that
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  saw that, you know? Yeah, Like there was, there was
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  times when I I'd make a meeting that he had to be at and he
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  would blow me off. And then the person I was going
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  to meet with is like, what? What's going on?
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  I'm like, he didn't come. Like, I don't want to tell you.
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  One time I had a boss with the superintendent's public affairs
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  person and he blew them off. And she just hold on.
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  She calls him on his cell phone and says, why don't you at the
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  meeting? And he goes, oh, I I don't care.
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  I need you to drop. What?
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  You didn't come here right now. And then she tells me you can
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  leave. Yeah.
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  You know, sometimes there's always a bigger boss, you know,
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  And also, I don't believe in, like, personal vendettas and
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  stuff like that. Your bosses have a job to do.
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  And if you're not doing it, you need to be talked to.
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  Right. Yeah.
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  And if you're not doing that, then there's next escalations.
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  You have to move up and everything.
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  So think about that as we as we talk about this, because it's
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  not just good religion with your boss, it's also how to deal with
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  bats. And that's why we go get to the
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  communications titles. How do you communicate with your
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  boss? Do you drop in for one second
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  and say, hey, just a quick check in every day, right.
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  Or every time I go to the office, I walk in, see her.
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  Hey, I'm here. Anything going on that you need
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  to talk to me about? No.
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  Anything. No, I don't have anything.
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  All right, See you later. Go out and do my thing.
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  When there was something, if she need me to come into the office,
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  she'd call me and say, hey, Sean, I need to come into the
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  office. OK.
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  There was one time I want you to think about this.
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  We were in. We got a state grant to run the
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  runaway shelter, Right? And I was a counselor.
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  One day she's at the office and the FBI shows up looking for me
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  and she's like my secretary. She's a person.
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  Let me call my boss. Cause the boss, the boss comes
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  over. What's going on?
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  I'm looking for Sean Murphy. And she says, let me see where
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  he's at. Let me call him.
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  She calls me and she's like, Sean, the FBI is here to see
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  you. I'm like, Oh yeah, I'm, I'm
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  already on my way there early. Sean, when the FBI comes to the
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  building, you need to let me know these things.
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  Well, I was actually a witness in a, in a attack on the cop,
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  and I was the star witness and the FBI interviewed me and
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  everything. That's all it was.
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  It wasn't anything bad. There was another time that the
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  FBI came to the building because we had a father, one of the kids
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  who was wanted by Interpol. Seriously, like they were on the
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  run and the kid ran away from the father, came to the runaway
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  shelter and got the father arrested.
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  And she says my dad's wanted by Interpol.
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  Yeah. So FBI has been around a lot.
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  You know, in my life, there's this one time I had a kid who
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  came in and he talked about his dad flushed 4 bricks of
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  marijuana. Do you know what a brick is?
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  Yeah, right. They're not little bricks,
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  right? Yeah.
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  Good. Size 4 bricks of marijuana that
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  he was supposed to sell. And he flushes down the toilet
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  and the kid was like, they're going to kill me.
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  And he wasn't joking. He wasn't joking.
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  His father didn't understand that.
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  And they eventually went into Whitsec to where what sick
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  witness security, you know, like where they get a new identity
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  and leave town there. Yeah.
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  Yeah. Because it was turns out it was
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  like a huge bust. FBI involved, DEA.
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  It was it was crazy. Oh.
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  Wow. And you know, when I would
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  actually go to these meetings, like I had meetings with certain
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  organizations, they would be talking to me like I was one of
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  them. They they'd share information
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  with me because they knew I wouldn't share information.
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  They told me things. They give me a little bit
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  background story in the situation.
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  They give me a lot more detail than they probably should have.
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  But that's because of how I communicate with people, Right?
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  Yeah. And last but not least,
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  practical support, anticipating your manager's needs.
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  Well, if you know on Friday morning that your boss likes
• 23:24
  coffee, right? And we have a meeting on Friday
• 23:29
  morning. If you're if you're working at
• 23:32
  the shelter that day, you turn a pot of coffee on.
• 23:35
  That takes nothing, right? If you go to the meeting and
• 23:40
  your boss is gonna say I need to know how many clients they have,
• 23:43
  how often are you seeing them? What's your expected numbers for
• 23:45
  the month? Whatever, right?
• 23:47
  Yeah. You can't go.
• 23:47
  Oh, hold on. Let me.
• 23:50
  Let me, let me, let me. You already know what the
• 23:53
  meeting's about. You should go in there prepared,
• 23:55
  right? I was watching TikTok the other
• 23:58
  day and there's ACEO that talks about my first job in an
• 24:01
  interview is tell me about the company that you know, tell me
• 24:06
  about my company. Why would he do that?
• 24:12
  Tired. I don't know understand.
• 24:14
  If you want to work for me. You can understand what you're
• 24:17
  working for. Yeah.
• 24:19
  You want to know what it entails, right?
• 24:22
  Yeah. When I went to the the job
• 24:24
  interview at the at the runway shelter the first time, actually
• 24:29
  transitional center next door, the boss asked me, have you ever
• 24:33
  heard of this place? And I said, yeah.
• 24:37
  I said when I was 16 years old, I got in the car with some girls
• 24:42
  that we met and turns out the car was stolen and they drove it
• 24:44
  here. And they're like, you can take
• 24:46
  the car if you want. And we're like, no.
• 24:49
  And we left And she laughed. And she says you don't know how
• 24:53
  many times that has happened. Oh wow.
• 24:56
  Because these are people with issues, right?
• 24:59
  But that was my interview. She's like, what do you know
• 25:01
  about this place? I'm like, I, I know, I know the
• 25:03
  basic programs, but let me tell you a personal story.
• 25:07
  And I told her because it wasn't my fault.
• 25:08
  I was 16. I didn't know the car was
• 25:09
  stolen. But yeah, it just that question
• 25:16
  of why do you want to work here is one thing, but tell me about
• 25:19
  the company. What about the company makes you
• 25:21
  want to work here? You can't be like, oh, it's a
• 25:23
  good company because the people are nice and the company has
• 25:27
  right. Like, for example, when you went
• 25:29
  to your job at the theaters, you already knew what the theaters
• 25:32
  were. You already knew everything,
• 25:33
  right? Yeah.
• 25:34
  But if I was the boss, I would have asked you what makes you
• 25:36
  want to work for us. Popcorn.
• 25:39
  And that that's that's fair, right?
• 25:46
  But, you know, you're, you're 16.
• 25:48
  You don't have any idea what your job's going to be.
• 25:52
  Yeah. Like, I come to the movies here
• 25:53
  and people seem pretty cool and I think it'd be a fun place to
• 25:55
  work. Right?
• 25:57
  You. Know I I said something like
• 25:58
  that, yeah. You know, and then it was funny
• 26:01
  because you had a resume. Remember that?
• 26:03
  Yeah. And your boss was like, you have
• 26:04
  a resume and you're like, yeah, you had never worked before, but
• 26:10
  you had a lot of skills on there from your football team for your
• 26:12
  managing, from everything, right?
• 26:13
  Yeah. So little, little things like
• 26:18
  that throughout your whole career, whenever you're talking
• 26:21
  to your bosses and you're sitting there and you're, you're
• 26:23
  looking for a job or you're trying to change jobs or you're
• 26:28
  trying to do something different, excuse me, you're
• 26:32
  trying to do something different.
• 26:34
  Those little things matter in the long run because it's our
• 26:38
  first impression sometimes that that makes a big difference.
• 26:41
  And I told you, I walked out of a job interview one time where
• 26:44
  the person said their first answer, it was first question to
• 26:48
  me. The official, official question
• 26:50
  of the interview was, have you ever been told you gossip too
• 26:52
  much? And I said, you know, if you
• 26:58
  have a problem with gossip here and you're trying to find out if
• 27:02
  someone's a gossiper, that's not how you do it.
• 27:06
  I said, but that tells me I don't want to work for you.
• 27:09
  I said thank you for taking the time to see me today.
• 27:11
  And I got up and walked out like it was like, within two minutes.
• 27:15
  And yeah, they're just, you know, there's some places you
• 27:19
  got to get to act fast. You got to fire quickly.
• 27:22
  You got to get out quickly when you see something wrong.
• 27:25
  You know, I'll tell you what. Let me tell you a story about
• 27:27
  Chris because I tell people hearing a different story from a
• 27:31
  different point of view is important.
• 27:33
  So let's talk about Chris real quick in our segment called
• 27:35
  Story from the Fire. In today's story from the Fire,
• 27:47
  an employee, Chris, waits for his manager to assign him tasks
• 27:51
  and only speaks up when there's a problem.
• 27:54
  His colleague Alex, schedules a brief weekly check in, learns
• 27:58
  her boss's top priorities and proactively suggests ways to
• 28:02
  help. Alex is seen as a leader and is
• 28:05
  given more responsibility and better projects.
• 28:08
  That was a story from the fire, Murph.
• 28:11
  Man, are you feeling the heat? So you have Chris, who waits for
• 28:16
  someone to assign a, a task when there's a problem, right?
• 28:21
  Sit back and just wait for something to be told.
• 28:23
  Alex, on the other hand, is more proactive, schedules a brief
• 28:26
  weekly check in, learns her boss's top priorities and
• 28:29
  practically suggests ways to help.
• 28:33
  When, when we had employees at work that weren't doing their
• 28:35
  job, you know, I was always giving my boss input, you know,
• 28:40
  the perspective and she, you know, she counted on me for a
• 28:43
  lot of things. I was never officially the boss
• 28:46
  or what not, but everywhere I've gone, I've been that person.
• 28:52
  The boss can turn to me and say, what do you think we should do
• 28:54
  in this situation? And I'll say, well, here's what
• 28:58
  I would do, you know, And it's always something more harsh
• 29:01
  because I'm a jerk, right? But it gives them the
• 29:06
  perspective of, well, I don't, I, we don't need to go there
• 29:09
  yet, Let's do this. But it it gives them a direction
• 29:12
  of where they want to go, you know?
• 29:14
  Yeah. If you see a problem and you can
• 29:18
  fix it, or you have a suggestion to fix it, talk to the boss.
• 29:20
  The boss might say no that won't work because of X reasons, but
• 29:25
  it'll give us this idea to do right?
• 29:28
  Yeah. So you want to have that
• 29:31
  interaction with your boss, you want to talk about it, and you
• 29:34
  want to be able to build that relationship so that your
• 29:40
  opinion does matter. You're not just saying stupid
• 29:42
  things to be funny or whatever, you know, you're saying things
• 29:45
  that really matter because it affects you as a team member,
• 29:49
  right? And for example, if you're the
• 29:51
  boss, I already told you about 9095% of your time is taking
• 29:54
  care of employee issues. Where do you want to focus?
• 29:58
  Do you know what a bell curve is?
• 29:59
  No, a bell curve is this thing that looks like a bell, right?
• 30:03
  And the straight centers, the median, the exact center people,
• 30:07
  50% left, 50% right. And they're up here.
• 30:10
  And as you go down from 85 percent, right, you go to the
• 30:14
  top 15% and the top 2% and then the outlier is 1%, meaning good
• 30:20
  and bad. OK, cuz you're on both sides of
• 30:22
  the scale. If you're exactly in the center
• 30:28
  right, you're not good, you're not bad, you're not a problem.
• 30:31
  Or you're 2 standard deviations out, which means it's, it's
• 30:36
  further on the, the scale where there's less people.
• 30:39
  If you were a manager, who would you focus your time?
• 30:42
  I don't. Know on that person who's in the
• 30:46
  middle and trying to make them better with the one who's good
• 30:50
  and you really don't need to do too much for them.
• 30:54
  Who would you just focus your time?
• 30:57
  The person that's average, I would say.
• 31:00
  What if I told you it should be the opposite?
• 31:02
  On the good. People, yeah, because they're
• 31:05
  the ones setting the example. They're the ones who are your
• 31:08
  leaders on the team. And if you work with them, maybe
• 31:13
  not all the way at that, that two deviations, but you want to
• 31:16
  talk to the higher team 10, you know, top 15%.
• 31:19
  Yeah. Because if you work with them,
• 31:21
  they will get better because that's where they are and other
• 31:26
  people will be pulled as a team. If you have real true teamwork,
• 31:30
  you get pulled as a team. Now I can tell you when I worked
• 31:33
  with MHMR here with Thelma and Candy and I know you never met
• 31:38
  before. Yeah.
• 31:42
  We were the thank you. I thought you would since you.
• 31:49
  Clicked it. I how did I click it?
• 31:52
  Oh, good mouse. I was like I was.
• 31:55
  Even. Sorry about that.
• 31:56
  That's. Funny.
• 31:57
  So Candy, some and I were the top three producers in the
• 31:59
  company. Everyone was producing 70 to 80
• 32:02
  hours. We were producing 103 to 120.
• 32:05
  OK, OK. The con, the competition with
• 32:08
  Thelma, Candy and me was so funny because we would be happy
• 32:11
  with each other by just one, you know what I mean?
• 32:15
  We were 25% better than the company, right?
• 32:22
  Between the three of us, we did. What's the math here?
• 32:28
  4 employees work. So technically we were an extra
• 32:32
  employee among the three of us. That's how much work we were
• 32:35
  doing. OK, if not 2 employees and the
• 32:42
  team we were on had six people, right?
• 32:47
  When our numbers would come out, the other three people would be
• 32:49
  like, how do you do it? And we'll be like when we do
• 32:51
  this, this, this, this, this. And then one year, one year, one
• 32:55
  month we had an employee make 85 hours and almost 90.
• 33:00
  She was so happy. Like she's like, I got my hours
• 33:02
  up. I'm like, all right, not do that
• 33:03
  every month, right? She couldn't keep up the effort.
• 33:09
  And we were like, how can we help you?
• 33:10
  Because we, we saw that she wanted to do better.
• 33:13
  We tried to pull along with us and said, how can we help you,
• 33:17
  right? Yeah, how can we help you?
• 33:19
  And it's one of those things that when you talk about this,
• 33:24
  you you look at it and you say, OK, if you focus on the higher
• 33:29
  employees, they will do better and they'll pull you in.
• 33:32
  OK, That's, that's what you want to do.
• 33:38
  Excuse me. And if you're really working on
• 33:39
  all of these issues with the lower people, you need to cut
• 33:43
  them off, get new people because that's.
• 33:46
  It's not getting anywhere. Yeah.
• 33:48
  How many? Nobody wants to fire anybody.
• 33:50
  But how long do you have to go with somebody before you
• 33:53
  actually get rid of the poison? Right.
• 33:57
  I'll tell you what. Let's talk about those
• 34:00
  actionable steps we can take in our segment called the Heat Map.
• 34:12
  The heat map will show you where to focus your efforts for the
• 34:15
  most impact. Make it your job to understand
• 34:18
  your manager's goals, priorities, and pressures.
• 34:22
  This allows you to align your work with their needs.
• 34:25
  Ask your manager directly what's the best way for me to keep you
• 34:29
  updated on my work? This sets clear expectations.
• 34:33
  When you encounter a problem, bring it to your manager with at
• 34:36
  least one potential solution. Be a problem solver, not a
• 34:39
  problem spotter. Let's see how the Murph man and
• 34:43
  Connor help their bosses. All right, make it your job to
• 34:47
  understand your manager's goals, priorities, and pressures.
• 34:50
  It allows you to align your work with their needs.
• 34:53
  Ask a manager directly What's the best way for me to keep
• 34:57
  updated on my work and also be a problem solver, not a problem
• 35:03
  spotter. You know, I'm a problem spotter,
• 35:08
  but I'm also the problem solver. I see a problem, I bring it up
• 35:12
  and I talk about it and I, I give suggestions.
• 35:16
  You know, when you're at work and there's problems and you got
• 35:24
  to fix it, you got to be proactive and you got to fix it.
• 35:28
  There was times where I saw something that I could influence
• 35:31
  and I influenced, I changed it and probably went away.
• 35:34
  You know, I didn't have to go get approval for nothing.
• 35:40
  You know, I just I took care of it and a lot of the team I
• 35:43
  worked with, we're that kind of person.
• 35:44
  We took care of problems. When we go to my boss and say,
• 35:48
  Hey, we had a problem with this, she would talk about it and she
• 35:51
  would say, like, what can we do? What are the options?
• 35:53
  What can you change? What can you do?
• 35:55
  So here's what I would like to do.
• 35:56
  I already have a solution. I told her the solution and I
• 35:59
  said, I don't know, would that work?
• 36:01
  And she said no, that because of this and this, but how about we
• 36:03
  change this and this Fine, I'll do it.
• 36:05
  And that the afternoon I was doing, you know, have solutions
• 36:15
  help your boss with that because your different perspective
• 36:18
  you've seen the the number six right.
• 36:22
  Yeah. Yeah, you're looking like I'm an
• 36:23
  idiot. Hold on.
• 36:25
  If I draw a number six right here between you and me, what
• 36:30
  number are you going to see? 9.
• 36:33
  But we're seeing the same exact thing.
• 36:36
  So perspective changes perception because your bosses
• 36:42
  up here, they don't really see what they're doing.
• 36:45
  Right. And one of the stories that I
• 36:46
  like about in the military, they talk about the ranks.
• 36:48
  They talk about a field. That's where all the soldiers
• 36:51
  are. Then they have a fence with one
• 36:52
  rung. That's your Lieutenant.
• 36:54
  Second Lieutenant. Yeah.
• 36:55
  Then you have a fence with two runs.
• 36:57
  That's your captain. And then you have a Maple Leaf,
• 37:00
  which is your major, and that's a Maple tree.
• 37:02
  Then you have the Colonel, which is an oak leaf.
• 37:04
  And that's a taller tree. Eventually get a Colonel who's a
• 37:07
  bird higher up and flying around and seeing the whole
• 37:10
  battlefield, right? And then you have a general in
• 37:13
  the sky. You know how the as you go up
• 37:17
  the ladder, you see more, but you also lose touch with the
• 37:19
  lower people. If you focus on that and you ask
• 37:26
  yourself, like, what do you do right?
• 37:31
  If you can bring that perspective to your boss and
• 37:33
  say, hey, I have this problem, what can we do to fix it?
• 37:37
  What can we do to change it? What, you know, whatever.
• 37:40
  And they said, OK, we'll see what we can do.
• 37:43
  You know, like I had, I didn't have an office where I worked at
• 37:46
  and I had to like, go to places to eat or restaurants and work
• 37:51
  on my stuff or go home and work on it, you know, after hours.
• 37:54
  And it was very difficult. So my boss talked to housing and
• 37:58
  got me an office at the housing department.
• 38:01
  And I was able to go over there and I did all those things
• 38:03
  right. And what's nice about it is I
• 38:06
  was able to have an office in a community that needed the help,
• 38:12
  and I had an office to do my work right.
• 38:16
  Everybody wins. So sometimes when you have a
• 38:20
  problem and you don't have a solution, you know, but you're
• 38:24
  trying to solve it, and your boss comes up with an idea, you
• 38:26
  give them the idea because there's like, you know, where
• 38:29
  can I be that I can service people but still have an office.
• 38:33
  I haven't paid for anything. And the Housing Authority pulled
• 38:37
  through and they took me in and worked with him for about a year
• 38:39
  and a half or two years. So they need the office.
• 38:42
  And you know what, one thing that happened there was pretty
• 38:45
  funny. I'm in my office and there's an
• 38:49
  officer doing the class or a meeting or something in the
• 38:52
  other office and I hear his Taser go off and I don't know if
• 38:59
  you know what time now. I mean, it wasn't the Taser that
• 39:01
  shot the arrows. It was the the Taser that, you
• 39:05
  know, it's the little. Isn't it with arrows?
• 39:08
  No, they take that off and they have a Taser.
• 39:10
  Oh, so I hear the laser activate and usually what do you hear
• 39:15
  when cops are reactivating a laser?
• 39:17
  They they say Taser. And Taser, Taser, Taser.
• 39:20
  Right. OK.
• 39:21
  I didn't hear that. I didn't know what was going on.
• 39:24
  I ran into his office thinking someone was attacking him or
• 39:27
  something. And he was just showing people
• 39:31
  how it worked. So one of the kids wanted to see
• 39:33
  how it worked. And he's like, what are you
• 39:35
  doing? I'm like, I heard your Taser and
• 39:37
  I hear any warning. He started laughing.
• 39:39
  So after the meeting, he goes over to me.
• 39:41
  He goes, I'm so sorry. He says most people would hear a
• 39:44
  Taser be like, what's that? I forget who, who's in the
• 39:48
  office across the hall from me, you know?
• 39:51
  Yeah. And I'm like, yeah.
• 39:54
  That's all, honey. And, and one of the things like
• 39:57
  I tell people I'm not great with weapons or anything.
• 39:59
  When I was in the army, I was an expert marksman.
• 40:00
  I would hit 40 out of 40. Again, we go back to soldier
• 40:03
  skills, right? And that's the reason I love
• 40:05
  this next song. It's called Adios Amigo by the
• 40:09
  Alexander, the world's longest sniper shot.
• 40:12
  Then we're going to break him right back.
• 40:14
  It's time for a break. Hot takes with the Murph man
• 40:16
  will return after these. Messages.
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• 40:29
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• 45:14
  All right, we are back from break.
• 45:16
  I deal with something the world's longest sniper shot
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  Dallas Alexander. Check out his channel on
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  Spotify. I forgot to hit return.
• 45:29
  All right, this to your our segment called where you're
• 45:34
  going to get burned. It's those pitfalls you might
• 45:37
  have as you try to deal with some of these actions that we're
• 45:40
  talking about managing up. Let's talk about where you'll
• 45:51
  get burned. These are some common pitfalls.
• 45:55
  Avoiding your manager. Proactive communication builds
• 45:58
  trust. Don't only talk to them when
• 46:00
  there's a crisis. Surprising your boss with bad
• 46:03
  news at the last minute? Deliver bad news early so they
• 46:07
  have time to help. Complaining about problems
• 46:09
  without offering solutions. I wonder what kind of solutions
• 46:13
  can the Murph man and Connor come up with?
• 46:19
  All right, so we have the segment where you're going to
• 46:22
  get burned avoiding your manager.
• 46:25
  OK? Proactive communication builds
• 46:27
  trust. Don't only talk to them when
• 46:29
  there's a problem. That's why I tell parents, you
• 46:33
  want to be able to have a parent that comes in and talks to their
• 46:40
  kid. Not only something is wrong, but
• 46:44
  when something's good too, you can't be all negative.
• 46:46
  That's the whole thing with the boss surprising your boss, the
• 46:49
  bad news at the last minute. You know, What do you think,
• 46:54
  Connor? Should you tell your boss you're
• 46:55
  looking for a job? Oh yeah.
• 46:59
  But then if you don't get it, what happens?
• 47:02
  Well, that's why I'm just looking, right?
• 47:04
  Not saying I got one, I'm just looking.
• 47:06
  Right. But he's going to say or she's
• 47:08
  going to say you're not putting effort in here because you're
• 47:10
  looking for another job or your attitudes change since you look
• 47:14
  for a job, you know they're going to start getting negative
• 47:16
  with you. OK, then.
• 47:17
  If they're getting negative, then that's not a good thing.
• 47:21
  The good bosses don't. Yeah, no, we can talk or
• 47:24
  something not try to affect the job you have right now.
• 47:30
  And if they if they do, then honestly leave or.
• 47:34
  If you're trying to but you can't always just leave.
• 47:38
  What are they acting like that? Then I would leave.
• 47:41
  All right, yeah. Would you go without going to
• 47:44
  another job? That's my whole point.
• 47:45
  You got to get another job 1st and in the meantime, it's going
• 47:48
  to be hell. Now real quick, Connor wasn't
• 47:51
  paid into the chat. For those of you who are asking
• 47:53
  questions, let me let me address this real quick.
• 47:55
  Because it wasn't loading, so sorry, but it's because I was
• 47:59
  looking and it still showed like, you know, when you join a
• 48:03
  live, it only shows like Connor joined the live and then
• 48:07
  whatever the automated message is and then yeah, I had to get
• 48:11
  out of it and then go back in and then I just saw like 50 plus
• 48:15
  chat. I'm like, oh wow.
• 48:18
  So what's your major? That's one of the questions
• 48:20
  they're asking. Computer science.
• 48:22
  Computer science that already answered.
• 48:28
  Sorry, I was on my phone texting my personal chat.
• 48:33
  Yeah, Computer science at YouTube.
• 48:37
  And setting cyber security. All right, we have conference to
• 48:42
  hear the elders concerns for the youth.
• 48:44
  That's good. JD sweet.
• 48:45
  You know, it's you, you need to have mentors out there, right,
• 48:50
  such as our our our boss right now H trained.
• 48:58
  He's a great mentor. He does amazing stuff.
• 49:00
  He had a mentor, Mr. Bennett that he talks about.
• 49:03
  You know, mentors are are very, very important.
• 49:10
  I appreciate that. Thank you for everything we do.
• 49:13
  Nexus or the creator? Nexus.
• 49:16
  Sorry. And then let's see what else
• 49:19
  we're meeting. Broadcast beaker.
• 49:28
  He's sleepy. Cassie.
• 49:32
  Cassie's sleepy. That's funny.
• 49:34
  Oh, yeah. Hopefully you're more woken up.
• 49:36
  Not you've been listening to us. Let's see.
• 49:38
  What else Connor, what's your major they're monitoring?
• 49:43
  Good morning. Good morning, JJ Sweet.
• 49:46
  I appreciate all you guys comments.
• 49:47
  I really do Sorry's Congress phone wasn't uploading
• 49:51
  correctly. So we got them finally on the
• 49:53
  chat on our laptops. So we're able to do that.
• 49:57
  Thank you for the rosy Annette. I really appreciate that and
• 50:01
  it's OK to tell your boss things aren't working for you.
• 50:03
  It is that that is very true, JJ.
• 50:06
  It is very true that you can. You have to talk to your boss,
• 50:11
  OK, You have to. It's if it's not working for
• 50:14
  you, same way I say fire quickly, quit quickly.
• 50:19
  All right, all right, so let's talk about our next segment, our
• 50:24
  heat Shields. Those are things that will help
• 50:25
  you prevent getting burned. Here are your heat Shields
• 50:38
  you're managing up. Heat shield is the solution
• 50:41
  oriented partnership. The biggest heat source is
• 50:44
  misalignment between your work and your manager's priorities.
• 50:49
  Deploy this shield by only bringing a problem to your boss
• 50:52
  if you also have a clear, documented suggestion for a
• 50:55
  solution. This proactive shield shows
• 50:58
  ownership, signals that you are a partner, and protects your
• 51:01
  manager from unnecessary stress. What do you think, Connor?
• 51:05
  When you had a problem, did you come up with a solution when
• 51:07
  talking to the boss? No, not, not, Not really.
• 51:14
  No. I didn't have any problems with
• 51:17
  the boss, no. Not with the boss.
• 51:19
  Did you ever talk to your boss about problems and did you have
• 51:22
  solutions about them? No did.
• 51:24
  You ever talk to your boss about problems?
• 51:26
  Yeah, some stuff with like other coworkers or like customers, but
• 51:31
  I didn't have a solution to it. I just kind of addressed it to
• 51:33
  him just like, hey, this, you know, this kind of what's
• 51:36
  happening. Just want to let you know.
• 51:38
  OK. And we're back to the cleaning
• 51:40
  theaters. So just making them aware of
• 51:42
  stuff. We talked about that, right?
• 51:44
  Yeah. The biggest heat source that we
• 51:49
  talk about is misalignment between your work and your
• 51:51
  managers priorities. Bringing the problem to your
• 51:56
  boss and having a solution is not helping anybody.
• 51:59
  That's going to take more of their time.
• 52:01
  Even if your solution sucks. Giving them a solution.
• 52:05
  This practice shield shows ownership and signals that your
• 52:07
  partner and protects your manager from unnecessary stress.
• 52:11
  Cuz your boss is gonna have stress no matter what, right?
• 52:15
  They're gonna have stress. So.
• 52:18
  Oh, JJ, she sent us a singing mushroom.
• 52:22
  Thank you. Thank you.
• 52:24
  Yes. Thank you.
• 52:25
  You know, as as we do this, OK, as you talk to your boss, as you
• 52:34
  deal with issues and as you come up with solutions, it builds
• 52:39
  rapport, it builds relationships, increases
• 52:41
  communication, all all that stuff, right.
• 52:43
  But one thing it also does is it gives you the experience of
• 52:48
  being a manager and what you have to do when you have a boss
• 52:54
  that tells you, my boss is telling me to do this, I don't
• 52:57
  know how to do it. Can you help me?
• 53:00
  Yeah, that's what I do, right. But sometimes you're like, why
• 53:04
  would he want you to do that? Or why would she want you to do
• 53:06
  that? Like that's just stupid.
• 53:09
  Oh, he he has this, he has this. And I'm like, that's not going
• 53:13
  to work, you know, from someone in my perspective, well, we have
• 53:18
  to do it. That's stupid, but we have to do
• 53:24
  it. You got to do it.
• 53:25
  And that's the way it is, right? That's what I mean, a job is,
• 53:30
  let's see, JD talks about running a summer youth program
• 53:32
  that got kids ready for college prep and the work.
• 53:34
  That's awesome. That is awesome.
• 53:37
  You know that that's what this podcast is about, JJ, is we have
• 53:46
  the experience as a parent, as a counselor, as an educator, as a
• 53:50
  student, and we try to share that with everybody because I
• 53:53
  talk about all different perspectives, right?
• 53:56
  Yeah, as a counselor, as a as a educator, all the different
• 54:01
  perspectives, what I try to give you, you know, and 25 years of
• 54:05
  experience teaching at the college, this is my 26th.
• 54:08
  So wow, Yeah, pretty cool. A lot of years in this and I've
• 54:13
  been doing counseling cells, 19 years old and I just celebrated
• 54:16
  a 57th birthday. Happy.
• 54:19
  Belated birthday. Well, thank you.
• 54:20
  But what's that 19? What's 57 -?
• 54:25
  1938, Yeah, Yeah. OK. 38 years of psychology,
• 54:34
  counseling, teaching. That's a lot of experience.
• 54:39
  Oh, and 30 years. No, I lied. 25 years of marriage
• 54:46
  to two different women, but 25 years of marriage, 19 years as a
• 54:50
  dad. Lots of experience here, right?
• 54:53
  And that's why I started this podcast.
• 54:55
  I want to share with you guys and I want to talk with you.
• 54:56
  So hey, JJ, let me reach out to you and maybe we can get on the
• 55:00
  show and talk about some stuff if that's cool with you, You
• 55:03
  know, so good and you're you got it.
• 55:07
  You told me to. I'll message you, JJ, and let
• 55:11
  you know. Maybe we can get together and do
• 55:13
  something. OK, let's see here.
• 55:16
  I'm going to follow you there, all right?
• 55:19
  And let me go to your page. OK?
• 55:24
  I did that. I followed you.
• 55:26
  And you know, you guys follow us and add us.
• 55:29
  We'd be happy to to talk to you. All right.
• 55:32
  Oh, JJ, she followed us. Yay.
• 55:33
  Right on. Thank you for the follow.
• 55:37
  Yes, thank you. Sorry, I don't know.
• 55:39
  You want me to say something? No.
• 55:41
  Followed us or followed MBR? OK.
• 55:45
  Just want to make sure. Maybe she just followed MBR but.
• 55:49
  That's what I was asking. Yeah, well, she followed the
• 55:51
  host. So MBR.
• 55:54
  Well, I don't know if we're the host.
• 55:56
  Gigi, who did you decide? Who did you follow, pure hot
• 55:58
  takes or MBR? Because you can follow both.
• 56:01
  I just I'm curious we're that's a good point.
• 56:04
  Who's the host? I think MBR.
• 56:07
  Well, follow the the Murph man at Pure Hot Takes and we
• 56:10
  definitely can do that. OK, so MBR, Yeah, she answered.
• 56:15
  Yeah. She's part of the Baddies club.
• 56:19
  All right, I got to know more about these baddies clubs.
• 56:25
  You know, I'm, I'm, I'm 57 years old.
• 56:27
  You know, your definition of baddie and my definition of
• 56:29
  baddie might be very different. But then again, it might be the
• 56:32
  same. So you never know, right?
• 56:34
  Yeah. What about you, Connor?
• 56:35
  Do you have a definition of baddies?
• 56:39
  No ATV show. What TV show daddies?
• 56:44
  OK. That's all, Yeah.
• 56:47
  What's it about? It's a one of those.
• 56:56
  What is it like live? Like, you know, like the
• 57:00
  Kardashians or something. Whereas like, live and the
• 57:03
  cameras follow like the life of someone.
• 57:07
  Yeah, it's kind of like that, but it's just a group of girls.
• 57:11
  And I don't know what the whole point of the show is, but they
• 57:15
  get angry at each other and they just fight and argue with each
• 57:20
  other. That's it.
• 57:22
  I've never seen it. I've seen one episode probably.
• 57:25
  Episodes on TV or shows on TV have deteriorated.
• 57:29
  I swear to God. Do you remember the movie
• 57:31
  Idiocracy? Yeah, I think so, yeah.
• 57:36
  The one where the guy comes back 5500 years later in the future
• 57:44
  and they're all stupid. Yeah, and he's the smartest guy
• 57:46
  on the planet, right? The people who were smart and
• 57:50
  couldn't have babies. And you have the idiots who have
• 57:52
  20 babies, you know. Yeah.
• 58:00
  The shows are just getting more stupid every year.
• 58:04
  OK, what do you think is the stupidest reality TV show out
• 58:06
  there? Reality show, that's what's
• 58:08
  called. I don't really watch any, but I
• 58:13
  don't know. I don't know any reality shows.
• 58:21
  That's one thing I don't look up.
• 58:23
  Well, you, you know The Bachelor, Love Island.
• 58:27
  You watch Love Island, right? Yeah, I wouldn't.
• 58:30
  Well, I guess it's a reality show, but it's not.
• 58:34
  But. It is, you know, dating.
• 58:38
  Let me just digress here real quick.
• 58:40
  Dating somebody OK to to to date someone nowadays you you can't
• 58:47
  just walk up to them. I'll tell you right now, I know
• 58:49
  you're not in that dating feel like I am, all right.
• 58:54
  Definitely not. Yeah, I'm remembering the chat,
• 58:57
  JC. Just we're facing problems like
• 58:59
  bosses and Idiocracy is a great movie.
• 59:06
  I lost what you thought that was reading what she wrote.
• 59:09
  Love. Love how we are.
• 59:13
  Different. Oh yeah.
• 59:14
  You know, I go online and I, I'm on chats and I'm meeting people
• 59:19
  or whatever, you know, and everyone's like, I want to get
• 59:21
  married. I'm like OK.
• 59:25
  In like 5 years. Well, I'm talking to you.
• 59:27
  I, I. Tell people like, I'm 57, I
• 59:29
  don't want to get married again, so that's your goal.
• 59:33
  Not me. I'm not your person, I said.
• 59:36
  At the same time though, why do you need to talk about marriage?
• 59:44
  Benefits. People only do it for that.
• 59:47
  You know, I'm, I'm single by choice.
• 59:50
  We're not single. You know, I have a friend.
• 59:52
  I see, but what I mean is I'm not married, right?
• 59:59
  I'm not married because I, my life needs to get in order a
• 1:00:03
  little better before I can even bring anyone into this house or
• 1:00:06
  move in with them or whatever we choose to do right?
• 1:00:08
  You got to go to college. You got to get the hell out of
• 1:00:09
  the house, right? There's.
• 1:00:11
  So much more that has to happen before I, I feel comfortable
• 1:00:13
  having a relationship like that. But then I'm like, I don't want
• 1:00:18
  to be in a relationship right now that where someone's at the
• 1:00:21
  house all the time. I I like my privacy.
• 1:00:24
  I like my free time. I like to be able to get up and
• 1:00:26
  go whenever I want. Yeah.
• 1:00:28
  You know, your mom and I, we had a great, great, great
• 1:00:31
  relationship. We got to do all that.
• 1:00:33
  I'd say, hey, you know, my friends call me.
• 1:00:35
  You want to go, you want to go with me?
• 1:00:36
  She's like, no go. That's OK.
• 1:00:38
  Sometimes she would go, sometimes she wouldn't.
• 1:00:39
  One time I went to Ron's studio, I got out of class at like 9:30
• 1:00:45
  or 10:00 at night and I called her saying what's up by and see
• 1:00:48
  Ron at 3:00 in the morning. She calls me, are you OK?
• 1:00:52
  I was like, oh, damn, I didn't like, I'm still here with Ron.
• 1:00:55
  We're, you know, sitting down, talking with his friends and
• 1:00:57
  everything, drinking a couple of beers, whatever, you know.
• 1:01:01
  And one guy goes, oh, you ha ha, your wife's checking in on you.
• 1:01:05
  And my brother says you understand that when he got
• 1:01:07
  here, he was on the phone telling her, hey, I'm going to
• 1:01:09
  come visit Ron for a little bit. It's been 5 hours.
• 1:01:13
  Wow, five hours. All right, and she waits till
• 1:01:17
  3:00 in the morning to call him because if we went to the club,
• 1:01:19
  the club's closed. You should be home by now,
• 1:01:22
  right. There was one time I was driving
• 1:01:24
  home from the UTEP UT football game and I witnessed an
• 1:01:26
  accident, went over, rendered aid, whatever cops took my
• 1:01:30
  statement. And at that moment, your mom
• 1:01:32
  calls and they're like I said, can you talk to my wife, let her
• 1:01:36
  know that I'm not in trouble, you know, because you can hear
• 1:01:39
  the sirens of the ambulance and everything, right?
• 1:01:41
  Like really close. And he's like, no, you know,
• 1:01:44
  your husband helped out with whatever.
• 1:01:48
  I'll never find anyone like her again.
• 1:01:50
  And I I don't compare relationships to her, but I had
• 1:01:54
  what I wanted and I'm not going to find anything like that.
• 1:01:58
  You know what I mean? She truly was my best friend.
• 1:02:00
  I do miss her a lot. You know, losing this policy can
• 1:02:06
  be difficult, but losing a best friend is even harder.
• 1:02:08
  So we've been talking about this managing up and everything.
• 1:02:12
  Let's talk about some of those questions we need to reflect on
• 1:02:15
  and to determine if we're going to be doing this right or not.
• 1:02:18
  So let's look at some of the Afterburn questions.
• 1:02:29
  In today's Afterburn, here are some questions for you to
• 1:02:31
  reflect on. What does my manager value most
• 1:02:35
  in an employee? How can I make my manager's job
• 1:02:38
  easier this week? Is my current communication with
• 1:02:41
  my boss effective? What could I change?
• 1:02:44
  We all know the Murph Man is not perfect.
• 1:02:47
  What questions would you reflect on Murph Man All?
• 1:02:53
  Right. So the questions what does my
• 1:02:55
  manager value most in an employee?
• 1:02:59
  You know, sometimes you have managers that want someone that
• 1:03:02
  works, works, works and has no relationships with anybody, no
• 1:03:05
  friends, no nothing, right? Sometimes they want someone that
• 1:03:09
  is more social and more accepting because like I told
• 1:03:11
  you, I've had the two employees. I've had the one employee who
• 1:03:14
  had a very private life, very friendly, very good, you know,
• 1:03:18
  but did not socialize with us. Then we had another employee
• 1:03:22
  that worked with us. That was just weird.
• 1:03:25
  Nobody really wanted to talk to her, OK.
• 1:03:30
  And for whatever reason that happened, OK, we had these two
• 1:03:37
  different kind of employees. So I can tell you, I don't want
• 1:03:40
  someone to be my best friend, but I do want someone to
• 1:03:45
  interact with me at work. You know, that's what I really
• 1:03:48
  care about. You don't have to be friends
• 1:03:50
  with me, but interact with me, you know?
• 1:03:53
  Yeah. Like one of my my friends at
• 1:03:55
  work, we just started the school year and she quit.
• 1:03:58
  She got another job. And I sent her a message
• 1:04:00
  yesterday and she even asked me until this morning at 8:00.
• 1:04:06
  That's not bad. Almost a day.
• 1:04:09
  Not even a day. Right, but she didn't even look
• 1:04:13
  at messages yesterday. OK, then you announce you're
• 1:04:16
  leaving and you don't even talk. Well, did she?
• 1:04:22
  She put a meme out on the meme chat.
• 1:04:24
  Like last minute and just leave. Well, I don't know, I asked her.
• 1:04:27
  Is this your last day? And she just wrote back with the
• 1:04:28
  hand away. Whatever, but.
• 1:04:32
  I don't know. You know, she's a very friendly
• 1:04:34
  and everything, but then when she left, she just doesn't deal
• 1:04:36
  good with separation, I guess. I don't know.
• 1:04:39
  So what ends up happening is I didn't get to say goodbye.
• 1:04:43
  It is what it is, right? Yeah, maybe she didn't.
• 1:04:45
  She wanted to just like leave and get out of it.
• 1:04:48
  No about anything. There was one employee we had
• 1:04:50
  that was very difficult. I liked her.
• 1:04:54
  I didn't have an issue with her. Some people did, but I made an
• 1:05:00
  effort to be friendly with her, right.
• 1:05:06
  And even like when you know, someone in her family passed
• 1:05:09
  away, you know, from a condolences and everything, they
• 1:05:11
  meant it. You know, I don't think anyone
• 1:05:14
  else messaged her. That's pretty sad, little you
• 1:05:19
  know. Maybe that's what she loved.
• 1:05:21
  She didn't really make connections.
• 1:05:24
  I don't know why she loved. I just know how to take over the
• 1:05:26
  class. You don't need someone to be the
• 1:05:31
  friend of everybody, but you need someone who's social at
• 1:05:33
  work, that's friendly at work. You don't have to carry a
• 1:05:37
  relationship outside of work, but friendly at work.
• 1:05:39
  And that's why I tell bosses you have to have them.
• 1:05:41
  You know, like, for example, you and I, I'm your dad.
• 1:05:45
  I'm your friend. What's more the priority for me,
• 1:05:49
  Dad, you know that, right? And, you know, you can come and
• 1:05:54
  talk to me about anything. I might get angry because if you
• 1:05:58
  lie to me or. But if you were to come up to me
• 1:06:00
  right away as something happens, my attitude's very different
• 1:06:04
  versus you lying to me later on. Yeah, OK.
• 1:06:09
  But we can talk about everything all day long.
• 1:06:11
  Like we tell people we go to restaurants and we eat.
• 1:06:14
  No one knows why we don't talk at dinner.
• 1:06:20
  They just see us on our phones. Well, we've been driving around
• 1:06:23
  doing things for like 3 or 4 hours and that's actually our
• 1:06:26
  break from each other. Yeah, on the way to the
• 1:06:28
  restaurant is when we talk, but every time we're always like
• 1:06:31
  this. At the restaurant.
• 1:06:33
  Yeah, just playing games, watching TikTok, whatever.
• 1:06:36
  Yeah, sometimes. Sometimes we make small talk.
• 1:06:39
  Sometimes. What would you consider a small
• 1:06:41
  talk with me? Well, like at the restaurant,
• 1:06:44
  just like finishing up what we talked about or just hey, so you
• 1:06:49
  see TikTok, whatever. You know what's up with the
• 1:06:51
  weather? Yeah.
• 1:06:52
  Yeah, what brand is your microwave?
• 1:07:00
  What brand is my way? You're stupid, dude.
• 1:07:04
  You don't understand friendly banter, JJ Sweet disease.
• 1:07:07
  Being socially awkward. Conversations are friendly.
• 1:07:09
  So hard. Are so hard because you're
• 1:07:12
  masking. OK, let me tell you, we all
• 1:07:17
  have. I I look at ourselves as
• 1:07:19
  diamonds in the rough. OK, you've heard of that term
• 1:07:20
  before. When you pull a diamond out of
• 1:07:23
  the dirt, it's all misshapen. It's not really been bright or
• 1:07:26
  anything. It's actually, you know, you
• 1:07:27
  have to chop away at it and you've got to get to the
• 1:07:29
  diamond. We all have a different facet
• 1:07:33
  that we present to different people.
• 1:07:34
  Facet. Yeah, that is the face of a
• 1:07:36
  diamond aside. So inside you're that diamond.
• 1:07:44
  OK, we got to just flame overhead.
• 1:07:47
  Yeah, we live by airport. Sorry guys.
• 1:07:50
  No, like the flame. Like over to the house.
• 1:07:52
  Like literally, that's why it's so loud.
• 1:07:55
  You know, we are in a soundproof room, so to speak.
• 1:07:58
  Well, I know, I know, but it's still.
• 1:08:02
  Well, well, I don't know. Yeah.
• 1:08:05
  We, we have like the door open and stuff, you know?
• 1:08:07
  Yeah, we. Have the because it was really
• 1:08:09
  hot last night. Anyway, so you have these facets
• 1:08:12
  of your life, right? Everyone sees a different side
• 1:08:15
  of you, OK? And you choose who you want to
• 1:08:18
  show your real self self true. And I'll give you an example of
• 1:08:21
  this. I use this in Graduate School.
• 1:08:24
  There's a wall between you and someone else.
• 1:08:27
  Can we agree on that? Oh, yeah.
• 1:08:29
  When you meet someone, right, there's a wall.
• 1:08:32
  Well, you get a brick and you remove it.
• 1:08:35
  When you tell something personal about yourself so they can see
• 1:08:37
  through the wall to you, sometimes you start pulling out
• 1:08:40
  a brick. It's like, oh, no, no, no,
• 1:08:43
  they're not ready for that brick.
• 1:08:44
  Let's plug this one over here. Right as you talk to the person,
• 1:08:53
  over time that wall comes down or the halls get holes, get big
• 1:08:56
  enough. Maybe they don't see their whole
• 1:08:57
  life, but they see everything. And like I, I've met people that
• 1:09:07
  I had an instant attraction too. And I don't mean like attraction
• 1:09:11
  sexually or romantically. I mean I felt instantly
• 1:09:16
  comfortable with them. OK, You don't have the energy to
• 1:09:20
  pretend. So don't pretend.
• 1:09:24
  You know, you don't have to pretend that.
• 1:09:27
  That's the whole point. Be genuine, you know, don't,
• 1:09:31
  don't, don't be a bitch. Don't be a jerk, right?
• 1:09:35
  But be real, be unique. Be yourself.
• 1:09:39
  Don't just sit there and say, hey, I don't want to talk to
• 1:09:43
  you, you know, don't be like that.
• 1:09:45
  But so, you know, right now I'm not.
• 1:09:47
  I don't want to be doing this, you know, but at the same time,
• 1:09:51
  you can sit there and you can say, hey, listen to this, all
• 1:09:54
  right, talk to me about this and I'm moving on as you do it
• 1:10:01
  before you know it, guess what, you either get rid of the person
• 1:10:05
  or you become president. When, when you don't like
• 1:10:10
  somebody, trust your gut instinct and you can say just no
• 1:10:16
  one walk away. You know, it depends if you're
• 1:10:18
  at work or where you are. Of course the the situation
• 1:10:21
  dictates that. But as you sit there and you,
• 1:10:27
  I'm trying to think how I can put this when you're interacting
• 1:10:34
  with somebody, how much you want to share is up to you.
• 1:10:38
  If you have someone who's being nosy, tell them to go to hell,
• 1:10:42
  right? If you have someone that's
• 1:10:43
  genuinely interested in you, take the time to get to know
• 1:10:46
  them. But you don't have to be friends
• 1:10:49
  immediately. But but there's a big butt, and
• 1:10:54
  it's not just my butt in the room.
• 1:10:55
  It's the big butt that says trust your first instinct.
• 1:11:02
  Trust it. OK, if you're always socially
• 1:11:06
  awkward, if you're always hard to talk to people and
• 1:11:10
  everything, OK, that's fine. But trust your gut.
• 1:11:15
  And one of the things I'll tell you is there's a book called All
• 1:11:19
  the Places you go by Doctor Seuss, right?
• 1:11:22
  I love that book and it it talks about how they play games and
• 1:11:27
  sometimes you'll be the winningest winner of all, except
• 1:11:31
  when you don't because sometimes you'll play lonely games, two
• 1:11:37
  games you can't win because you play against you.
• 1:11:41
  That's that sentence to me is so interesting because you can't
• 1:11:48
  always win because you're playing against you, right?
• 1:11:54
  Well, technically you're in your own head.
• 1:11:57
  If you are playing against you, someone has to win, right?
• 1:12:01
  So technically, wouldn't you win every time?
• 1:12:03
  Well, but that would also mean you would also be losing.
• 1:12:07
  So. In order to have a win win,
• 1:12:10
  someone has to lose. That's you both have to lose
• 1:12:12
  something. OK.
• 1:12:14
  But what I mean is I'll, I'll give you an example.
• 1:12:18
  Your mom, OK, Your mom was beautiful.
• 1:12:21
  She she was way out of my league.
• 1:12:24
  She liked younger guys, blonde haired, blue eyed, attractive,
• 1:12:29
  athletic, you name it. Everything I'm not, she liked.
• 1:12:35
  And the first day I met her, it was just like AI couldn't I
• 1:12:39
  liked her so much. She was just such a cool chick,
• 1:12:41
  you know, and we became friends and we, you know, I date other
• 1:12:45
  people. And one day I liked her.
• 1:12:48
  And, you know, before, you know, we started dating, it just, you
• 1:12:50
  know, friendship grew. But she was way out of my
• 1:12:54
  league. And when I would tell people
• 1:12:56
  that I liked her, they would look at me like you're stupid,
• 1:12:59
  like you had no chance. Like look at the kind of guy
• 1:13:01
  she's like, I'm like, I don't know.
• 1:13:04
  It does. It doesn't.
• 1:13:04
  Hurt to try. And.
• 1:13:06
  Where should he say he's not right?
• 1:13:08
  Exactly, So I can tell you right now that I've dated and married
• 1:13:16
  out of my league with your mom. She she was way out there and
• 1:13:22
  everyone knew the side of me has been a jerk and unfriendly
• 1:13:27
  because I just don't put up with people's drama.
• 1:13:28
  Right when we got married, people will tell her, Are you
• 1:13:32
  sure you want to marry him? And she's like, you don't know
• 1:13:33
  how he is behind closed doors because she saw the real me,
• 1:13:37
  right? And she saw the real me when
• 1:13:45
  other people did it. And yes, Connor is my kid.
• 1:13:49
  Yes. Yeah, he is my kid.
• 1:13:51
  He is my father. So you see how ugly I am and see
• 1:13:54
  how ugly he is. Yeah.
• 1:13:55
  He got my traits, not his mom's. Yeah, yeah.
• 1:14:00
  You know what? You know what thing you did get
• 1:14:02
  from your mom? My skin color.
• 1:14:05
  Your hairy, your hair. She was very hairy.
• 1:14:10
  Really. Yeah, she was going to be her
• 1:14:12
  own type, I told you, and she went and had it waxed.
• 1:14:16
  It's like, oh, what the hell was that?
• 1:14:18
  I don't think, I don't know. Dude, you're Chewbacca.
• 1:14:23
  You are Chewbacca all right. I'm more like a a gremlin.
• 1:14:30
  Is that what they're called? No.
• 1:14:32
  Let's find out. Yeah, good job she just spilled
• 1:14:37
  water all over the floor. Whatever, go on the gremlin.
• 1:14:43
  Oh, like one of those little fur balls.
• 1:14:46
  Oh, before they become. Yeah, OK.
• 1:14:48
  Before they. He's a Mogwai, the gremlin's
• 1:14:52
  after water. Oh, I thought they were just
• 1:14:56
  that, and then, Oh well, no. They're Mogwai's.
• 1:15:00
  And then they go to Gremlin, yeah. 3 rules, don't feed them
• 1:15:02
  after midnight, don't get them wet and I was the third one.
• 1:15:09
  Everybody, if anybody's seen it, there's no, I don't know.
• 1:15:15
  It's wrong talking about your mom's beard.
• 1:15:17
  She didn't have a beard. I said.
• 1:15:18
  She had a mustache. There's a difference.
• 1:15:19
  No bright lights. No bright lights.
• 1:15:22
  That's right. I remember.
• 1:15:24
  No, she didn't have a beard. She was just, she was hairy.
• 1:15:26
  I mean, it just, it is what it is.
• 1:15:29
  And well, let me, let me, let me let me rephrase that, OK?
• 1:15:33
  She wasn't hairy all the time after during her cancer
• 1:15:36
  treatments. Yeah, during her cancer
• 1:15:37
  treatments, she had to take medication for menopause, which
• 1:15:40
  changed her hormones and everything.
• 1:15:41
  And she started getting very hairy.
• 1:15:44
  It it wasn't because she was a hairy person.
• 1:15:46
  Let me let me clarify that. But I was telling Connor she
• 1:15:49
  actually went and got waxed one day because she thought that's
• 1:15:52
  how you got rid of facial hair. Did it hurt?
• 1:15:55
  It hurt. She was all like red and cherry.
• 1:15:58
  It was, it was funny and I'm like, what are you doing?
• 1:16:01
  So I don't want to shave. I'm like, well, you can get an
• 1:16:04
  electric razor that shaves you better than almost as good as
• 1:16:07
  you're on your lips. So you just rub it over.
• 1:16:08
  You don't have to worry about keeping your goatee lined up or
• 1:16:10
  whatever. Just shave yourself.
• 1:16:12
  I bought her a razor and you know, the hardest thing I ever
• 1:16:15
  had to do this is this is something completely off
• 1:16:17
  subject, but a subject sort of was when she started having her
• 1:16:21
  hair loss. I shaved her head.
• 1:16:24
  That was the hardest thing I ever had to do.
• 1:16:27
  Let's take off her hair. And after she went through
• 1:16:30
  treatments and got better and started growing her hair back
• 1:16:32
  and everything, that's when the hormones kicked in and she
• 1:16:35
  started having all this beard stuff.
• 1:16:37
  Yes. Bless her, please.
• 1:16:39
  You know. But yeah, the The thing is, she
• 1:16:43
  was out of my league. If I like something, I just do
• 1:16:47
  it. That's, for example, Christmas
• 1:16:49
  presents or birthday presents. Do I need anything?
• 1:16:55
  No. If I need something, I buy it.
• 1:16:56
  Right? Yeah, the Grumps.
• 1:16:58
  He gave me a watch. That was nice.
• 1:17:00
  That was a nice walk. It is a nice watch.
• 1:17:02
  I don't use watches right, You don't because my wrists are very
• 1:17:07
  thick and it's hard to find watches that fit me.
• 1:17:11
  Well. And her watch fit me perfectly.
• 1:17:15
  I. Wonder where she got it from?
• 1:17:19
  I don't know. I don't know actually.
• 1:17:20
  I mean, literally, I put it on. It wasn't tight, it wasn't
• 1:17:22
  loose. It wasn't everything because I,
• 1:17:24
  I had to watch that was bigger, that had.
• 1:17:30
  I've lost weight. So the rings were loose, you
• 1:17:33
  know. So I don't know how she did it,
• 1:17:35
  but she found it perfectly for me.
• 1:17:39
  This is a father and son show. Yeah.
• 1:17:42
  Sweet rope it is. It is.
• 1:17:45
  That's why I started, because of him.
• 1:17:47
  You know, he didn't realize the whole first year of our episodes
• 1:17:50
  was all about him going through college.
• 1:17:53
  Remember when I told you that you never realized it?
• 1:17:56
  What like our whole first episode starting off with you in
• 1:18:01
  college was to prepare you for college and the challenge you
• 1:18:04
  would face along the way, like talking to your teachers during
• 1:18:06
  midterms. Yeah, it's true if.
• 1:18:09
  It's all me to give you advice because you don't listen to me.
• 1:18:13
  So by doing it here, I was able to tell you things that you
• 1:18:17
  normally wouldn't. Listen to me.
• 1:18:18
  Yeah, never heard of that. You can just say listen to your
• 1:18:21
  advice. Start a podcast.
• 1:18:24
  Never heard of that. Right.
• 1:18:27
  Start a podcast. Start a podcast.
• 1:18:29
  Yeah, no one listens to you. You know, and what what's funny
• 1:18:32
  is when I wrote this just so you guys know I have 68 episodes
• 1:18:36
  that I pre wrote because my favorite number 69 excess hero
• 1:18:39
  is born and I want to do something special with the
• 1:18:41
  episode. But kind of asked me what do we
• 1:18:44
  do after that? I said I don't know, start over.
• 1:18:49
  Day one of college. Right, so I'm like, how are we
• 1:18:56
  going to handle that? So we'll talk about that later.
• 1:18:57
  But Joe, don't talk about my beer.
• 1:19:03
  Just that's funny. So just you don't have a beard,
• 1:19:15
  you. Ain't got no beard.
• 1:19:17
  And he's still not listening. No, he's not right.
• 1:19:20
  You know, I, I tell him he is so contradictory to me.
• 1:19:26
  Anything I say, he always has the opposite point of view.
• 1:19:29
  Not always. Some stuff, yes.
• 1:19:31
  Mostly, mostly, mostly. You're always contradicting me.
• 1:19:35
  Even my friends have pointed out to you like, why do you do that?
• 1:19:37
  Because I do it for a reason. What's the reason you think I'm
• 1:19:41
  wrong? Sometimes, but sometimes you
• 1:19:44
  could be wrong. I never said I wasn't wrong.
• 1:19:46
  Well, I know. But that's why I that's like one
• 1:19:49
  of the only reasons I, you know, talk with my and argue, not
• 1:19:54
  argue but have different perspective on it.
• 1:19:57
  A. Perspective is one thing.
• 1:19:59
  You, you straight up say no, that's not right, No, and
• 1:20:03
  sometimes. Sometimes I'm right, but it's
• 1:20:06
  just. OK, let me ask you a question.
• 1:20:08
  On a percentage basis, if you would have listened to my
• 1:20:10
  percentage, a certain percentage of my advice, what percent do
• 1:20:17
  you think you look back on and say, damn, he was right?
• 1:20:23
  Well, 80%. 80% because I mean, imagine if you would have just
• 1:20:27
  listened to me the first time, right?
• 1:20:31
  Still 80%, still 80%. I'll tell you what, we're going
• 1:20:36
  to take a quick break, you guys. We will be back.
• 1:20:40
  Question authority is, is OK, you know, but when you're trying
• 1:20:44
  to get someone advice and everything and they don't take
• 1:20:46
  it, you're like, oh, well, you know, you can't.
• 1:20:47
  You can take a horse to water, but you can make them drink.
• 1:20:50
  And hindsight is always 2020. But even then, he still says I'm
• 1:20:53
  only 80% right. All right, you guys, we'll take
• 1:20:58
  a quick break and we'll be right back after these messages.
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  updated. All right, we are back now.
• 1:25:47
  I was monitoring the chat over the break and did she brought up
• 1:25:56
  a comment. She said the hot thing and just
• 1:26:04
  tell him not to touch the hot thing.
• 1:26:05
  He's doing it. I have no idea what hot thing
• 1:26:09
  she's talking about. What's so funny?
• 1:26:18
  You know when you're a baby and you're younger, your parents
• 1:26:21
  tell you don't touch the stove because it's hot, or don't touch
• 1:26:24
  this because it's hot, or don't touch my vape because it's
• 1:26:27
  hotter, don't touch my joint because it's hot, or whatever.
• 1:26:31
  OK. And then your little kid going
• 1:26:33
  to touch the stove and you burn yourself.
• 1:26:36
  But I told you don't, right? That's what she's referring to.
• 1:26:39
  But my thing is, I tell people, you don't learn anything until
• 1:26:46
  you have a personal consequence, right?
• 1:26:49
  So it doesn't matter what you do if you don't learn it and you
• 1:26:56
  can still touch the fire more than once and get burned.
• 1:27:01
  Like like for example, I told, I told Connor, you know, you're
• 1:27:04
  not 420 friendly. Yeah.
• 1:27:07
  And I was like, I don't know what that is.
• 1:27:10
  I thought it was like 365 like a year and like 1/4 of a year.
• 1:27:16
  I had no idea what you were talking about. 420 friendly is
• 1:27:20
  when you're either smoke or do edibles and you use marijuana,
• 1:27:31
  you smoke marijuana, you know, you're friendly.
• 1:27:32
  That's what it means. And a lot of people have to get
• 1:27:35
  high to, to interact with people, you know, and I, I just,
• 1:27:38
  I don't like that personally. You know, we don't do drugs.
• 1:27:41
  I'm OK with drugs. I I'm OK with people doing
• 1:27:43
  edibles. I'm looking with people doing
• 1:27:44
  drugs like near me but. But I will tell you there's
• 1:27:49
  there's two kinds of marijuana. You have sativas and indica.
• 1:27:52
  And sativa is the more aggressive psychological effects
• 1:27:55
  like hallucinations and everything.
• 1:27:57
  Really. I thought sativa was more
• 1:27:59
  relaxing and just. Maybe I have it backwards, Look
• 1:28:02
  it up real quick. Let's see.
• 1:28:05
  OK, forensics help me out. Yeah, we're true.
• 1:28:07
  We're not 420 friendly so. Well, I I tried when I tried
• 1:28:16
  what? All right, so what's sativa?
• 1:28:22
  Sativa, OH Energizing, stimulating, reduced anxiety,
• 1:28:27
  increased creativity, increase focus.
• 1:28:30
  And indica. Relaxing relief of pain,
• 1:28:32
  decreases nausea, increases appetite, better sleep.
• 1:28:35
  So OK, I'm thinking indica. OK.
• 1:28:38
  OK. So there's also what they call
• 1:28:40
  hybrids, a little bit of both, right?
• 1:28:44
  We call it gardening. The The thing is, when you have
• 1:28:49
  an edible, you have an edible that you eat, like a cookie or
• 1:28:54
  something. That cookie has a dose.
• 1:28:57
  OK, What's a cookie? A cookie with marijuana in it
• 1:29:01
  has a dose. It's an edible.
• 1:29:02
  OK, You eat it. You can have gummy bears.
• 1:29:05
  Now, if I give you, you know what a regular gummy bear looks
• 1:29:07
  like, right? Oh, yeah.
• 1:29:08
  OK. If I give you a gummy bear with
• 1:29:09
  an edible in it, how would you eat it?
• 1:29:14
  Open the package. And they shove the whole eat it
• 1:29:17
  do even though the dose of the gummy bear.
• 1:29:20
  No. You're supposed to like bite the
• 1:29:22
  head off and save it, wait a couple of hours, see the
• 1:29:27
  reaction and then say, OK, I can eat 2 parts of the teddy bear
• 1:29:32
  and you got to try it. I had a friend of mine who came
• 1:29:35
  from Colorado. He had some edibles and he gives
• 1:29:38
  it to a friend of mine and she, she grabbed all three, all three
• 1:29:41
  gummy bears and just popped them in her mouth and ate them.
• 1:29:45
  And she tells me, hey, your friend gave me some edibles.
• 1:29:48
  I'm like, oh really? What did he give you all the,
• 1:29:49
  the gummies? Oh, and I said, where are they?
• 1:29:52
  She was, I ate them already. And I said, you need to call
• 1:29:57
  your work and call in sick tomorrow.
• 1:29:58
  Right now. You're not going to work
• 1:30:01
  tomorrow. She was like, what?
• 1:30:04
  I'm like, you know, I, I don't know the dose.
• 1:30:07
  I went to the guy and he says they're 30 milligrams.
• 1:30:08
  So he, you know, she had never done edibles.
• 1:30:10
  It's like good or how much is that a?
• 1:30:14
  100 milligrams is what people who use it regularly take
• 1:30:19
  because they're with the high tolerance to it.
• 1:30:21
  She took 101st time. Wow.
• 1:30:26
  Yeah, and she wasn't doing good the next day, or she was fried
• 1:30:30
  or she didn't go to work and you know, so.
• 1:30:37
  You know, sometimes not even like for edibles or anything I I
• 1:30:41
  just have my ADHD. I get a gummy bear.
• 1:30:44
  You know you like part of the ear or part of the legs.
• 1:30:47
  It was like nibble out of. It but regular, not edible.
• 1:30:50
  Yeah, no regular. Yeah, OK.
• 1:30:52
  I'm just like, because, you know, you said like, bite the
• 1:30:54
  head off and keep it. Yeah.
• 1:30:56
  Just like regularly I. Would you're practicing if you
• 1:30:59
  ever do edibles? How do you?
• 1:31:01
  No but H was telling JDS weed and he says I really love how
• 1:31:06
  you interact. I sent her a message personally
• 1:31:07
  and told her thank you for that. I didn't do it in here in the
• 1:31:09
  chat and she just counter opposes.
• 1:31:11
  Makes his dad work for it. Yes, yes he does.
• 1:31:14
  I. Thought she meant hot thing like
• 1:31:16
  are you mean or are? You mean?
• 1:31:19
  Arguing I I was going to say argument.
• 1:31:22
  What do you mean? What do you mean?
• 1:31:27
  A meme? Are you mean, Sorry, it sounds
• 1:31:32
  like we're high, but we're not. This is just being stupid.
• 1:31:34
  All right. Real quick, just we have a
• 1:31:36
  segment that we talk about technology is colored digital
• 1:31:39
  infernal. Let's talk about that real
• 1:31:41
  quick, and we'll be right back. Digital platforms are key to
• 1:31:52
  streamlining communication based on your boss's style.
• 1:31:56
  Use Asana or Trello to create a shared in progress board that
• 1:32:00
  your manager can check asynchronously, removing the
• 1:32:03
  need for daily interruptive status updates.
• 1:32:06
  Always use e-mail or Slack to send a weekly win slash blocker
• 1:32:10
  summary, ensuring your manager is constantly informed of your
• 1:32:13
  contributions and any roadblocks before your scheduled check in.
• 1:32:17
  Let's talk about Connor's favorite subject, AI and
• 1:32:20
  technology. Speaking of technology.
• 1:32:29
  Every time, on breaks or on videos.
• 1:32:33
  I I told Connor check the tray and he says what are you talking
• 1:32:35
  about? That's the taskbar.
• 1:32:36
  I'm like, no, the taskbar is the bottom part of it and the tray
• 1:32:40
  is to the right. So look.
• 1:32:42
  But if you click on the arrow up, see also the pops up.
• 1:32:47
  Still part of the taskbar. No.
• 1:32:49
  I'm saying that's the taskbar because the arrow is for icons
• 1:32:55
  that are not shown on the taskbar.
• 1:32:57
  I know there's still room on our taskbar to show it.
• 1:32:59
  See, this is the contradictory stuff I'm talking about.
• 1:33:02
  This is the bullshit that he no that I talked about.
• 1:33:05
  He says the bottom bar is taskbar, but then the right side
• 1:33:08
  of the taskbar is a tray. The whole thing is a taskbar.
• 1:33:12
  You say the whole thing is a taskbar.
• 1:33:14
  Yes. Watch this Is there a difference
• 1:33:21
  between taskbar and tray? Now remember he's a computer
• 1:33:27
  science major. Yes, the tray, officially called
• 1:33:30
  the Notification Area System Tray is a lot, just a smaller
• 1:33:33
  part of the entire taskbar. The taskbar is the whole bar and
• 1:33:36
  the tray sits in the corner of it.
• 1:33:38
  Still part of the taskbar. But it's not the taskbar, it is
• 1:33:41
  the tray. It is, and Louis said It's part
• 1:33:43
  of the taskbar. It's a smaller part of the
• 1:33:45
  taskbar. It's the quarter part of the
• 1:33:46
  taskbar. Connor, the tray is just a small
• 1:33:51
  part. The taskbar.
• 1:33:53
  The taskbar is the. Whole a taskbar, it was small,
• 1:33:56
  it was small. Part of it.
• 1:33:57
  It doesn't matter the tray 1% black and black.
• 1:34:00
  Then white, white. Don't let me start on that.
• 1:34:05
  You listen this you're doing this.
• 1:34:09
  I need this. OK, www.zipit.com, right?
• 1:34:16
  The tray has an official term for the notification area.
• 1:34:21
  Yes, but. It's hold on, it's called.
• 1:34:24
  I said it's the tray in the taskbar.
• 1:34:32
  It's not the taskbar in the taskbar.
• 1:34:34
  That means it's a separate component altogether because you
• 1:34:37
  can turn off your sys tray, but you can turn off notifications.
• 1:34:40
  It's different than a taskbar. Well, no, you could take off the
• 1:34:44
  apps. Yeah, you can mute them.
• 1:34:46
  Do you turn it off? Right, it's your notifications,
• 1:34:49
  but the sys tray or the the tray or the notification area is part
• 1:34:53
  of but not not called taskbar because it's a different
• 1:34:59
  component altogether. I never said it was called the
• 1:35:01
  taskbar, I'm just saying it's in the taskbar.
• 1:35:04
  It is in the taskbar, but it's it's not the taskbar.
• 1:35:06
  It has a different name for it. How is it in the taskbar but
• 1:35:10
  it's not the taskbar? The taskbar includes that like
• 1:35:13
  I'm trying to. OK.
• 1:35:14
  Yes. So that it's still part of it.
• 1:35:17
  If it's in a category, but it's a topic, it's still in the same
• 1:35:20
  category. Is it not candy?
• 1:35:22
  Is it not candy? Is it not Nerds?
• 1:35:24
  Is it not? Nerds, right?
• 1:35:26
  The candy nerds. What are the candy nerds?
• 1:35:29
  Nerds candy. I don't know.
• 1:35:30
  No, what are the nerds? Pink.
• 1:35:32
  Purple. What's considered the nerds?
• 1:35:36
  The the thing inside it, The Little Rock Like candy.
• 1:35:42
  Candy. Yes.
• 1:35:42
  Those are the nerds, yes, You have a nerd rope, right?
• 1:35:48
  You have nerds on a rope. I I've never seen this.
• 1:35:52
  I don't know, but yeah. OK, well, you've seen in nerd
• 1:35:54
  clusters the little candy gummy things covered in Nerds.
• 1:36:00
  It's Nerd cluster. That's the whole thing made-up
• 1:36:03
  of the gummy and the nerds. Yeah, called the nerd cluster.
• 1:36:09
  You have the task bar with the task tray.
• 1:36:12
  In the bar which is. Look, they're laughing at you.
• 1:36:18
  You. Can't tell me I'm wrong.
• 1:36:21
  You can't tell me I'm wrong. OK.
• 1:36:22
  All right, JJ, I'd love your interaction.
• 1:36:26
  Choose one. Is notification and trade the
• 1:36:29
  same thing? I mean notification and test
• 1:36:31
  bar. You're saying something
• 1:36:33
  completely different, John, And I'm telling you something and
• 1:36:37
  you're like, yes, it's part of this.
• 1:36:38
  It's OK, But what I'm saying is not what you're saying we.
• 1:36:41
  Won't block you, but is Connor right?
• 1:36:45
  We're both right or am I right? We're both right.
• 1:36:48
  I think we're both right. Let's see what she says.
• 1:36:52
  Let's see if she answers. All right, while we're doing
• 1:36:55
  that, let's talk about our digital infernity.
• 1:36:58
  Did we replay it? We did, right?
• 1:37:00
  Yeah. OK, got it.
• 1:37:02
  All right. Use the signal trail to create a
• 1:37:04
  shared in progress board with your manager.
• 1:37:07
  She you know if your manager uses a different program, great
• 1:37:11
  because you know whatever you use, but your boss needs to be
• 1:37:15
  able to look at it and go this is where they are in their
• 1:37:17
  projects. For my business, we use click
• 1:37:19
  up. You go in there and you have
• 1:37:21
  projects. You can see where the status is.
• 1:37:23
  If Connor's part of the team, he can go in there and he can
• 1:37:24
  update his portion of it and you can see the tasks they're being
• 1:37:28
  done. OK, click UPS, it's free.
• 1:37:30
  Use it also use e-mail or select to send a weekly when or blocker
• 1:37:37
  summary, ensuring your manager is constantly informed of your
• 1:37:40
  contributions that any roadblocks before scheduling a
• 1:37:43
  check up. So basically giving them a heads
• 1:37:45
  up I. Was right.
• 1:37:48
  Said the same thing but differently.
• 1:37:50
  OK, all I was saying was OK no, it's in the taskbar and you were
• 1:37:54
  saying something completely different.
• 1:37:56
  All I said is in the taskbar yes or no all.
• 1:37:58
  Right, she says. See.
• 1:37:59
  But I'm talking to you, I'm talking to you.
• 1:38:01
  I'm talking to. You, I said.
• 1:38:02
  You're you're. But we have this whole argument.
• 1:38:04
  But I'm saying you're right and. Now, right you after you Googled
• 1:38:08
  it and all that, Yeah. Which is, but we're saying the
• 1:38:11
  same thing differently, and I'm saying yes, and you're still
• 1:38:13
  arguing the point with me, Connor.
• 1:38:15
  'Cause you were wrong, you were right.
• 1:38:17
  But wrongs, Yeah, I've been telling you.
• 1:38:20
  And I said we had a whole argument.
• 1:38:21
  For both, right? We're the perspective #6 #9
• 1:38:24
  right? It's the same thing.
• 1:38:26
  That does not clarify into this. I Connor, I swear, sometimes
• 1:38:33
  you're just so funny, you know? All right, so technology.
• 1:38:39
  Technologia. Technologia, it's out there, you
• 1:38:50
  guys, there's so many things you can use out there.
• 1:38:52
  You know, it's click up is something I'm learning how to
• 1:38:57
  use. There's various different
• 1:39:00
  things. There's Zapier, there's just a
• 1:39:02
  million different products out there that you can buy.
• 1:39:04
  Never heard of? Anything click Up is, well,
• 1:39:05
  because you don't use them. Click Up is free and I use that
• 1:39:08
  one and it can incorporate an entire team.
• 1:39:12
  You can actually have like emails.
• 1:39:16
  It can read all of your emails. You just set the accounts in
• 1:39:18
  there and reads all of your emails, but they get forwarded
• 1:39:21
  there. Now I don't know if you know
• 1:39:22
  this or not, but if you forward an e-mail, it doesn't stay in
• 1:39:25
  your e-mail box. It gets put in this other one.
• 1:39:29
  OK, so when you forward an e-mail, you have to check the
• 1:39:32
  box to leave it in the original e-mail and it sends a copy to
• 1:39:35
  you. So little things like that,
• 1:39:38
  really. Yeah, I thought Forward was just
• 1:39:40
  like you get an e-mail and you just send it to someone else.
• 1:39:43
  No, like if I have my phone forwarded to you.
• 1:39:46
  Yeah. And I get a phone call, it
• 1:39:47
  doesn't ring on my phone. It just goes straight to you.
• 1:39:49
  I have no record of anyone calling me so you need to make
• 1:39:54
  sure you check off that little portion of that that says please
• 1:39:57
  keep in the original e-mail. And as we're talking here, you
• 1:40:01
  know you have the the technology of texting e-mail programs like
• 1:40:10
  Slack and click up. There's there's no reason to not
• 1:40:14
  communicate with your boss. OK sharing a message like group
• 1:40:20
  chats. I hate group chats because.
• 1:40:22
  You were here the other day when the my Spanish group chat was
• 1:40:25
  going off. Yeah.
• 1:40:26
  How? How?
• 1:40:27
  Bing Bing, Bing. Bing literally, that's how fast
• 1:40:29
  it was. He's not being funny.
• 1:40:31
  That's how fast it was. And I was like I'm in like 5
• 1:40:35
  group chats and that I don't think I've seen it anybody text
• 1:40:40
  that fast like holy, how many people do you have in that group
• 1:40:45
  chat? 90 OK, so that kind of makes.
• 1:40:48
  Sense one person has the question, nine people reply and
• 1:40:50
  then person #3 replies to person #5 and then #2 replace #9 and
• 1:40:56
  the whole thread is like screwed because you don't know who's
• 1:40:58
  replaying the what. You know what I mean?
• 1:41:01
  Like for example, we were doing training this week and they're
• 1:41:03
  like, what region are we? And I answered and that's the
• 1:41:08
  answer, right? The next person writes, oh, I
• 1:41:11
  did not know that. Or the next person.
• 1:41:13
  Where'd you find that information or the next?
• 1:41:16
  Like, I don't know, I just know. So at some point I was told it
• 1:41:19
  was this and that's the district, you know.
• 1:41:24
  Oh, that's cool. You know, I, I, you know, I've
• 1:41:27
  been, I'm in region 19. That doesn't matter.
• 1:41:30
  Like, you know, respect the group chat, the group.
• 1:41:34
  Chat for a reason. Yeah, but try to keep it on
• 1:41:37
  topic, OK? That technically is on topic.
• 1:41:42
  Technically, but let me ask you a question on Friday night when
• 1:41:43
  you're about to go out with your friends and you have 5 friends
• 1:41:45
  in the chat or how many you have in your chat.
• 1:41:47
  I don't know, right Yeah. And someone says where do you
• 1:41:49
  want to go tonight? And five people get 5 different
• 1:41:51
  answers. One of you should do a poll and
• 1:41:59
  say OK I was. Gonna say do a poll, but we we
• 1:42:02
  talk about it and be like, well, this place.
• 1:42:04
  No, because of this. This.
• 1:42:06
  Yeah. All right.
• 1:42:13
  When I say like, where do you want to go eat, right?
• 1:42:17
  One of the best questions you can ask somebody, don't ask,
• 1:42:21
  what do you feel like going to go eat tonight?
• 1:42:23
  I hate that question. Do you know how I ask it?
• 1:42:26
  So you remember. I don't know, I.
• 1:42:29
  Think do I ever say Where do you want to go eat?
• 1:42:33
  No. What do you feel like eating?
• 1:42:34
  Yeah. What do you feel like eating?
• 1:42:36
  Even though I say burgers, there's like 20,000 joints.
• 1:42:39
  Oh, OK, but that narrows it down.
• 1:42:42
  To what? There's more burger places than
• 1:42:44
  any other, like fast food restaurant.
• 1:42:46
  OK, but like we can do Italian, Mexican, Chinese, right?
• 1:42:49
  Same burgers eliminates all those.
• 1:42:52
  Oh yeah. So it it narrows it.
• 1:42:54
  Down everything everything about like fast food, then it'll it'll
• 1:42:58
  just be burgers. Oh, then the next question is,
• 1:43:00
  do you want to sit down and eat, or do you want to get it to go?
• 1:43:02
  We used to sit down in a rush, in a fast.
• 1:43:04
  Way you can, but that's the next question, right?
• 1:43:06
  Yeah. OK, so now we have a restaurant
• 1:43:08
  you can go sit at or or take away.
• 1:43:11
  You can go to Chili's and take out, but I'm not going to order
• 1:43:13
  a burger and Chili's and not sit there, you know what I mean?
• 1:43:15
  Yeah, they kind. Of so asking this one question.
• 1:43:18
  Your answer's always burgers. You need to meet JJ.
• 1:43:23
  Hey, JD, real quick, what area of the country are you?
• 1:43:26
  We're in El Paso. Anyway, asking the question,
• 1:43:31
  what do you feel like eating narrows down a lot of the issues
• 1:43:35
  and improvements, a lot of arguments with couples, OK.
• 1:43:40
  Because it narrows it down automatically.
• 1:43:42
  You know, someone can tell me. I don't know where I want to go.
• 1:43:46
  OK, What do you feel like eating?
• 1:43:48
  I want some tacos. OK.
• 1:43:51
  Do you want flautas or do you want tacos?
• 1:43:52
  Do you want meat? Do you want chicken?
• 1:43:53
  Do you want? OK.
• 1:43:56
  Because, see, I eat a lot and I know where to go.
• 1:43:59
  Right? And I tried new restaurants just
• 1:44:01
  to try them, right? Yeah.
• 1:44:06
  We went to this restaurant over there in front of UMC one day.
• 1:44:08
  We haven't been back. We didn't hate it, but we just
• 1:44:11
  tried it. So now we know what it's like,
• 1:44:12
  you know? Yeah.
• 1:44:13
  And it's Mexican food in El Paso, almost all the same except
• 1:44:16
  when you try me News or something.
• 1:44:19
  Pacific Northwest. She's out in Washington.
• 1:44:21
  Always rainy and cloudy over there.
• 1:44:25
  I love that. I love that.
• 1:44:26
  I've never heard of you guys getting floods.
• 1:44:28
  So that's that's a nice thing about that.
• 1:44:29
  I love the weather. Colorado is also really cool for
• 1:44:32
  me. I lived there for four years.
• 1:44:34
  Yeah. We want.
• 1:44:35
  I want to eat Well, yeah. Take some away, guys.
• 1:44:39
  But we don't have the Tornadoes. I don't say we don't have the
• 1:44:41
  earthquakes, but we've had earthquakes.
• 1:44:44
  We live by mountains. You.
• 1:44:44
  Know, yeah, we also had a explosion one block over and we
• 1:44:50
  also we thought it was an earthquake.
• 1:44:52
  Had floods. We've had floods, I.
• 1:44:53
  Saw it on TikTok. You said it, you mentioned it
• 1:44:56
  the same day to me. And later on, I see someone like
• 1:44:59
  in a kayak, literally just I'm like, oh, OK, I'm like.
• 1:45:03
  Lake Piedras, right? There might be water on the
• 1:45:05
  roadway. There was water from the
• 1:45:07
  spaghetti bowl all the way to Cotton.
• 1:45:09
  Like the bridge to go up on Cotton.
• 1:45:10
  That whole area was a lake, a lake.
• 1:45:13
  It was huge. You know, spaghetti bowl Donnie.
• 1:45:15
  Right on the beach, right on tsunami zone, Yeah.
• 1:45:17
  Oh yeah, dude. Yes, you know, I see this.
• 1:45:21
  We don't have to worry about that either.
• 1:45:23
  Thank God. You know, tsunamis is not
• 1:45:25
  something I think of when I think of a place to live.
• 1:45:27
  I think of like, if you don't like the rain, you don't like
• 1:45:29
  the cloud, you don't like the snow, don't go to Washington.
• 1:45:31
  If you like hiking and stuff like that and your 420 friendly,
• 1:45:33
  go to Washington. What would you do?
• 1:45:35
  And if you like Starbucks? If there's a nice place, but
• 1:45:38
  then it's just there's a tsunami coming you.
• 1:45:43
  Mean that's the only risk. Yeah, but you didn't know about
• 1:45:46
  it till you bought the house after.
• 1:45:49
  Well, if you live on the beaches, there's a tsunami.
• 1:45:51
  I mean, I'm. Not the beach, but like in a
• 1:45:53
  city that you know. Well, if you have a beach in the
• 1:45:55
  city, you have to expect tsunamis.
• 1:45:57
  That's just a given. Well, True.
• 1:45:59
  True. Right.
• 1:46:03
  True. OK, so that's why you got 8
• 1:46:11
  minutes to get to higher ground. Not always 8 minutes, Not always
• 1:46:14
  8 minutes. You sometimes you have 30
• 1:46:16
  minutes. Like somewhere.
• 1:46:18
  Tsunamis. You can have a torn earthquake
• 1:46:21
  in Russia, right off the border of Russia and it takes 2 1/2
• 1:46:23
  hours to get to you. Sometimes you can have one right
• 1:46:26
  off the beach and you have no warning so.
• 1:46:28
  Isn't 8 minutes the warning? No, that's.
• 1:46:30
  OK. Is it when you first see it?
• 1:46:32
  No, it depends on where the earthquake is that causes
• 1:46:35
  tsunami. The further away it is, the more
• 1:46:37
  time you have. But if you have one right there
• 1:46:39
  on the beach or close to the beach, you have a minute.
• 1:46:45
  Well, I mean would. Yeah, you're not going to see
• 1:46:49
  one. What a tsunami by the beach.
• 1:46:50
  Be as big since it's right there closer to ground.
• 1:46:54
  No, it's not about being big. Listen, if you're further away,
• 1:46:58
  it travels like a sun wave and. Well, yeah, and then it gets
• 1:47:01
  bigger as it goes. If it's by the beach, if it's.
• 1:47:04
  Closer to the beach. That's what I'm saying.
• 1:47:06
  It creates the tsunami wave and it's going to be higher because
• 1:47:10
  I don't have a chance to dissipate now.
• 1:47:14
  Now, what's really cool about Tsunami?
• 1:47:15
  I thought it was is small sound wave and then it gets bigger as
• 1:47:20
  it goes farther and then when it hits ground that's when it.
• 1:47:24
  Starts to well, what actually happens is as the ground starts
• 1:47:27
  going up, the wave that's underneath starts to get pushed
• 1:47:31
  out of the water. No, it gets pushed out of the
• 1:47:33
  water. And depending on how much force
• 1:47:35
  is behind it will determine how far it goes and and do you know
• 1:47:38
  how to tell if you're on the beach now to tell if there's a
• 1:47:41
  tsunami is coming. Let's see if JJ knows the
• 1:47:42
  answer. Do you know how to tell if
• 1:47:44
  there's a tsunami coming if you're standing on the beach?
• 1:47:48
  Yeah, I know how, but I want to see you, JJ.
• 1:47:50
  And of course, it goes away from you because the earthquake's
• 1:47:53
  there and it goes again. But if you're standing on the
• 1:47:55
  beach and there's a tsunami coming in, how can you tell
• 1:48:06
  that's it? You know what she means?
• 1:48:10
  Yeah. You're literally on the beach
• 1:48:11
  and the water is going away from you.
• 1:48:14
  So what's happening is this tsunami is pushing the water up
• 1:48:17
  and it's sucking. All the water, yeah.
• 1:48:19
  And then takes it back to you. Yeah.
• 1:48:21
  Right. So, yeah, so if you're on the
• 1:48:23
  beach and you see that happening, run that.
• 1:48:25
  That's your warning. Get out of there.
• 1:48:28
  In 2004, when the tsunami hit Indonesia, I was even born.
• 1:48:40
  December 2004 tsunami There was nothing where that was 2, 1000.
• 1:48:48
  4 tsunami and it's an Indian. Phuket, PHUKUKET.
• 1:48:57
  No, Indonesia. Sumatra.
• 1:49:00
  OK. What's the date on that?
• 1:49:04
  December 26th. OK, 2004, this is not funny.
• 1:49:08
  Let me let me preface this, it's not funny.
• 1:49:11
  Our father, well, my father was murdered over Christmas.
• 1:49:14
  Yeah, I'm like our father. And we, we found out on December
• 1:49:17
  26th and we got to the city and we got there and they're like,
• 1:49:20
  it'll be the second story on the news tonight.
• 1:49:23
  And I'm like, what's more important than someone being
• 1:49:25
  murdered? And they said this tsunami, they
• 1:49:27
  killed 100,000 people. That's why I know the date. 8.8
• 1:49:32
  magnitude. It was huge.
• 1:49:33
  It was huge. It was huge and.
• 1:49:37
  It's like 10 minutes. Wow.
• 1:49:38
  Yeah, and people saw it coming and they didn't do anything.
• 1:49:42
  They just did all the resource that were on the beach there.
• 1:49:45
  Yeah, that's why so many people like no one did anything. 227
• 1:49:49
  what? 2028 What 228,000 to.
• 1:49:53
  Casual no yeah, but I'm saying that at first it was like
• 1:49:56
  100,000 just poof with so yeah December 26th 2004 I remember
• 1:50:01
  that very that day in my mind will live in infamy all right so
• 1:50:05
  anyway use technology to do some of this stuff here and the final
• 1:50:10
  burn for today is. The final take from today's
• 1:50:22
  discussion is your boss isn't a mind reader.
• 1:50:26
  Manage up by being the most reliable, proactive and
• 1:50:29
  solutions oriented person on their team.
• 1:50:32
  Let's get back to the Murph Man and Connor and wrap up the show.
• 1:50:37
  Your boss is not a mind reader. Manage up by being the most
• 1:50:42
  reliable, proactive and solutions oriented person in the
• 1:50:45
  room. If you guys follow that advice,
• 1:50:48
  you'll, you'll see a lot like you'll learn a lot.
• 1:50:51
  So let me tell you, that's it for today's show.
• 1:50:53
  You guys, we will see you next week.
• 1:50:58
  Next week we will be here live again every 12:00 PM Eastern, 10
• 1:51:04
  AM mountain on military broadcast radio.
• 1:51:09
  And next week's episode is hold on.
• 1:51:13
  Oh, jeez, I had it and I closed the window when I was moving to
• 1:51:17
  it. It's not letting me go to it.
• 1:51:28
  That's crazy. What?
• 1:51:30
  I can't go to my episode 49? Wow.
• 1:51:38
  Well, it's the professional development plan, charting your
• 1:51:41
  career growth. So we'll talk about that next
• 1:51:43
  week, you guys. All right, For now, I'm the
• 1:51:46
  Murphin signing off. This is Connor.
• 1:51:48
  I am Connor signing off also. Deuces.
• 1:51:51
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• 1:51:56
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