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Unapologetically Shia - Eid Al-Ghadeer Special 💚 (ft. Sheikh Mustafa Akhound) · After Maghrib 🌙

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  Smila Rahmad Raheem Assalamu Alaikum, and welcome back to
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  another episode on your favorite Shia Muslim podcast after Muslim
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  Al Hamdulillah. Week in, week out, we've been
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  having consistent conversations, ones relating to shaping our
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  identity, our faith, strengthening our Iman.
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  And of course, we discussed topics relating to social
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  issues, even at times political issues.
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  And this week is no different. You know what?
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  In fact, this week is even better because it's a week that
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  means a lot to us. It is the week where we
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  celebrate Aid Allah al Akbar, aid al Ghadir, who are hundreds
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  of Muslims all there are hundreds of millions of Muslims
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  all around the world will be celebrating this joyous occasion
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  and wishing their brothers and sisters believers in faith.
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  And we say the same words year in Yera al Hamdulillaha Levi
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  Jalena when al muta masakin biola at Saydhi Umoli Ali
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  Abdallah Emir al Mukmanin Ali hiss Salaam now marking this
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  magnanimous day, a day that many she has.
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  The hearts wake up, the hearts filled with joy.
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  Smiles come to their faces. It's only fair and only right.
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  We have a discussion surrounding the life of Imam Ali.
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  Ali is Salaam, what it means to be a mulwali, the willai of
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  Amira Mumminin and Eid al Ghadir.
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  But in particular with a certain twist, one where we reflect on
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  al Hamdallah. I'm a parents, many of you are
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  listening around the world. You are parents yourselves and
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  insha'allah, you are raising righteous children.
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  I ask myself all the time, what's the point of having love
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  and wilayah of Imam Ali AB Nabiat Aliab if I can't pass it
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  on to my offspring? And this is a conversation we're
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  going to heavily focus on, on how to nurture the love of Amir
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  Al Mummaneen the right way, instilling values, certain
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  principles of the ehlenbait and our children.
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  And I can't have this conversation alone.
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  I am joined by the amazing, the wonderful, no stranger to after
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  Maghrib, a great friend of this podcast and a familiar face
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  which you all tuned in a few weeks ago.
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  And that's not another then the respected chef, Chef Mustafa,
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  our honed Assalamu Alaikum chef. Alaikum Salaam Allah to you and
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  to all the viewers. Of.
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  Aftermath of podcasts. Thank you for being here on the
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  second time. Three months.
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  If I'm not mistaken. So this is going to become a
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  tradition. You're in the UK.
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  This, this, this is your podcast.
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  I want to ask a question. We have a lot to go through
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  today. And I ask myself sometimes, you
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  know, what does the edelweit mean to me?
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  What does the the progeny, the Immaculate progeny of Rasul
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  Allah, Muhammad Sallalla, Hawaii of Salaam mean to me personally?
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  And I think, and I wonder sometimes I can spend an hour
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  reflecting, am I learning from them?
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  Am I following in their footsteps?
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  But being an idol, Hadir, if I can just focus for a moment on
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  Imam Ali, I'm sure there are sayings, stories, life lessons
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  that stand out to everyone. Everyone has their unique
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  connection, their unique bond, their unique relationship with
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  their emir. What is your relationship with
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  the Imam Ali Ali Salah? Salahat Allah, Salam Ali,
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  commander of the faithful, Amir and Mormineen.
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  It's a topic especially Hadir that as much as I want to
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  control myself, not to get emotional joy and anger at the
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  same time joy to be al Hamdallah the greatest I eat and that
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  Rasul Allah did not leave his ummah without Khalifa.
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  As he said my nation will divide into 73 sects and one will
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  attain salvation. And he did his job what Allah
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  commanded him to do on Haid al Qadir.
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  So that brings me joy that his Omaha will not be left in
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  darkness. At the same time brings me very,
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  very severe anger that OK, why did the Omaha leave him?
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  And only on 70 days after the martyrdom and shihad of Rasul
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  Allah, Allah we see Amir momina adiab.
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  Now we talk about Salaam doesn't have 40 people.
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  So that feeling of joy and anger, especially around the
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  Khadir, I think everybody should feel that happiness and sorrow,
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  grief and happiness just very, very mix between them too.
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  And seeing the same time the burden and responsibility that
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  we have upon our shoulder by Rasulullah for all of us.
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  Our Santom Shechner and you know, if we're going to lead the
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  conversation onto raising righteous children, in fact
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  raising Shia children in particular, some may ask why
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  don't you just say Muslims? But we'll get to that.
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  I think during the conversation, if I can just ask because I know
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  for a fact that we will have many people tuning into this
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  episode and believe it or not, Shechner, I didn't believe this
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  myself, but we have a growing audience who are not Shia who
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  tune into the podcast. And I, I generally believe they
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  TuneIn because they communicate with us at times.
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  They ask us questions at times they say back your sources.
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  So there's that dialogue happening behind the scenes.
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  And one thing that came to mind recently, and I thought I'll
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  mention this to you. They always say, you know, we
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  say the crow Aliyun Ebadi to them.
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  They can't understand this. How do we make them understand
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  what is meant by the vicar or the remembrance of Amir al
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  Mumminian as a form of worship? Why?
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  Remembrance of Amir al Mumminian is remembrance of the holy
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  Quran. He's the embodiment of the whole
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  Quran. He is nefsura Sol Allah.
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  So when we remember the whole Amir al Mumminian, we remember
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  Assuallah, remembering Quran, remembering their teachings, we
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  remembering their legacy, the fava al of Amir al Mumminian in
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  and out, that we have to think and bring it to our life will
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  change our perspective to our life.
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  How he lived, how he managed his own family, himself.
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  He said what I did to myself, what I did for my community,
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  what he did for the society, only five years that he was
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  Khalifa, political Khalifa. I mean, he's Khalifa to law on
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  earth. People like it or not like it.
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  People follow him like sun, people don't.
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  People don't want to say, OK, we don't want to accept the sun.
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  OK, the sun is going to be there, it's going to shine and
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  it's going to have its own blessings.
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  Well, in London, you guys sometimes or actually I think
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  more often you complain about the rain or is Rachman from a
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  loss of Hana. People say why rain?
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  Well, rain will come, Blessing of a loss of Hana will come.
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  We like it or we don't. Amir, Mummy and Ali if we want
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  to see politically and society. He said within four years and
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  nine months that he was, he had the leadership of the OMA in his
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  hand. He said in these four years and
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  nine months, I did three things which until today we don't see.
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  Anyone can argue in any government, any individual
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  within the political system, that they have done it.
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  He said, number one, I provided water for every constituent
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  until today we have millions and millions of people are dying not
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  having clean water. 1400 years ago, Amir Momentum, I provided
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  for every constituent of mine drinkable water.
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  Al Hamdallah, we see right now a lot of organization within our
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  Shiite community that they dig wells in Africa, here, there.
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  1400 years ago, he did it #2 He said there was no homeless man
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  within my government. Everyone had a shelter.
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  And 3rd, I provided the means for everyone to have a job.
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  So there was no unemployment. Unemployment was 0.
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  Find me one government today that can say, OK, unemployment
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  is 0. Yeah.
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  You're right, they say poverty was eradicated.
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  Completely four years and nine months.
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  So imagine if he would have had this, if we would have, people
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  would have followed him, people would have supported him, people
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  would have defended him and the Calafa wouldn't be taken away
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  from him those 25 years where we would have been today.
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  So that's I think is what we have to remind ourself,
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  everybody who reads about Amira Mamini, which we really need to,
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  about his life, his legacy, his hadith is Najid Balara, his oral
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  hakam. Sometimes people can, I can
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  understand Nigel Balara becomes really, really deep oral hakam.
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  2 words, 3 words, 5 words and it's a life changing.
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  A hadith from Amiran woman in the book of I.
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  Sent beautiful, beautiful advice and it's it's you know, I think
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  you've taken me to the seven heavens already.
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  When I say this is this is this is the meaning Shekhna it is you
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  know I think for me personally being a father, something I
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  reflect on a lot and I think and Subhan Allah, I think just a few
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  weeks ago I was speaking with the with my wife about this.
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  I was like, I, I, I, I know I have certain responsibilities
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  towards my children. I know for example, they have
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  certain rights over me the way I have rights over them.
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  But I never thought of the long term.
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  Like I'm seeing them now. My eldest is 7 and I only saw
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  like what's going to happen now or next week.
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  But the other day I was thinking I was like, I am responsible as
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  a father. So my daughter all the way to
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  Anusha Allah, a righteous husband and such responsibility.
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  So that's where I. Stand as a father between a.
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  Daughter So for me, this topic is huge.
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  It's big. And I have so many questions
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  that I want to ask you, so much clarifications that I want to
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  get regarding certain discussion points that I want to inshallah
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  bring forward in today's topic. One thing I want to focus on
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  that I feel like maybe I can improve on, it's how do I
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  instill the Willaya, the love of Imam Ali, Emir and Mumini into
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  my daughters. I know it's important because I
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  grew up on this. I feel like majority of the time
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  it wasn't forced on to me. It was rather shown towards me,
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  right? And so naturally I built this
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  and the day I grew up was different to the days now we
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  grow up. So there's different challenges,
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  there's different societal confusement that goes around the
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  world. Right now the world is more
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  open, there's more access. For example, my daughter has the
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  ability to open up, I don't know, use her iPad when daddy's
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  no, next time go on Google and write who is your mum?
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  And you're like, these questions may come to her.
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  And I need to make sure as a father and as a Muslim that I
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  have firstly the right answers, that I can answer correctly, not
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  just with the right answers, because sometimes we can force
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  something down to our kids, but if we don't provide enough
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  clarity, and I've seen this happen, people grow up later on,
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  they become teenagers, young adults, they leave religion,
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  they start questioning a few things and something that's
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  scary. I've realized that I think in a
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  way has come into our communities.
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  It's people beginning to question our 12th Imam.
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  Where is he? Why is he not here with all the
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  suffering happening around the world?
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  And I feel like had they had the right clarity and answers when
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  they were young, they wouldn't reach the stage of confusement.
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  But now just refocusing back on the theme, which is idol Khadir.
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  And it's only fair that we stick, I think, within the
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  parameters of ulai and Imam and Yamir al Muminian.
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  For those listening for the first time, they probably have
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  no idea what is idle idea. How was it even 8?
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  Why do she Akola Aidallahu Akbar?
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  What is all the fuss about? What is Wellaya?
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  And just a brief breakdown to mind.
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  That was a Shia as well, the significance?
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  Of a brief. I know it's always.
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  Aidallah Akbar Aidal Wellaya Well, if we look at the history
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  of idle idea very within a couple of minutes we don't we
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  see it. It's not an ordinary event.
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  Until that day a lot of has happened with Rasulullah and
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  with him teaching the ummah what needs to be done.
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  And he said to people before Hajj time that this will be my
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  Hajj because never did Hajj before with people to teach
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  them. So this is the Hajj only Hajj
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  that he was able to teach people what needs to be done.
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  So the message went around the whole Muslim nation that this
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  will be the Hajj, that Rasullah will teach us exactly what needs
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  to be done, all the rituals of the Hajj.
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  Me Allah bless all the viewers to go Hajj inshallah as soon as
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  possible. So aftermarket podcast will
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  sponsor us and we go hatch together inshallah.
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  Salaam Allah and we will have a podcast in Hadir inshallah.
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  We go there with our equipment inshallah.
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  So when he finishes the rituals of hygiene he comes back.
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  We know the famous ayah within the Holy Quran that in Jibra it
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  comes to him and tells him delivered the message and we
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  have a lot to do with this word tabligh.
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  And then he says, no, I mean that he doesn't.
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  He's kind of always hesitant knowing what will happen, what
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  will happen and the people who don't want this tabligh to be
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  done, this message to be delivered and the enmity that
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  this will bring toward this the mission of this Tabligh again
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  second time and a third time and then Jibra it says when Lambda
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  file for mobile that's. A huge.
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  See, if we want to, let's step back.
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  Yeah, Baler, it's supposed to be for Enlam to Baler Tablier.
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  It's when you deliver a message. Right now, they call us the
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  shares, they call us mobile. We deliver a message of Dean
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  Tablier. We spread the knowledge Allah
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  has some actions to it. So it's not only delivering a
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  message, no, there's actions with it that needs to be done
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  that if you don't do it, you're 23 years of whatever you have
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  done down. The drain.
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  It's on a drain. It's gone ma ODI Nabi and Muslim
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  ma ODI. You say no Prophet was bothered
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  and hurt and harmed the same way that I was.
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  Still this last is the signature.
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  It's like you have a, you can that tell you, you have a letter
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  from the president. Well, what makes it a letter
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  from the president is a signature presidential seal
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  sealed. So if it's not, it's just normal
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  letter. Everybody can with all the fancy
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  letters and all the fancy papers, the last seal and the
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  last signature makes it valid. So in order for the message of
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  the Holy Prophet to be valid, that needs to be complete
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  justifiable new name it use the term that you want.
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  It had to have this last signature.
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  What is that as tabligh and fell over idol Khadir as we know the
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  sort of locking part of the fail bring people back that was left
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  us people wait for people to achieve to get to us and then
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  put saddles of the camels and horses on top of one another.
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  Get the area ready. More than 100,000 people
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  gathered and right now, OK, I'm going to go on top of the
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  pulpit. The last ceremon by the last
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  prophet was ceremon of Hadir. So you have 124,000 prophets.
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  Everyone has given ceremons and lectures and so on and so forth.
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  I'm 950 years. He lectured and lectured and
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  lectures and ceremon. Russell Allah himself, those 23
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  years, he did lectures and ceremonies one after one after
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  one, but his last by the last Prophet, a sermon of Kadir,
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  which action plan We will definitely ask the viewers right
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  away. After they finish this, they go
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  and they write sermon of Kadir and download it.
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  And we read the last will, kind of last ceremon, last speech of
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  famous people. That's true because normally we
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  focus on then kuntuma or not. True, true.
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  Yeah, Yeah. It's almost two hours is the
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  lengthiest ceremon given by the prophet and the last ceremon so
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  he lectures and man control Allah.
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  It's part of it before it how much father alif Amir al Mumin
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  after how much father alif Amir al mumin how many verses of the
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  Holy Quran. It's in it about the virtues of
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  Emir Al Mumini and Russell Allah is a mass again, 100,000 people
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  plus that had he said narration that there I did cut their by in
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  half half above their head because of the sun half beneath
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  their feet because it's sand is heat.
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  So you have to keep this context in mind.
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  You give two hours lectures people in the heat right now.
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  I mean, imagine the attention span of people.
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  Prasola. You keep dragging people two
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  hours and you don't have microphones.
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  So you have people every couple of meter they hear you and they
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  make sure everybody hears it. Make sure everybody sees me.
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  This is it. No, I'm going to gain.
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  I'm going to bring Emeril Momini idea of not be thought about it
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  said I'm next to me, I'm going to raise him and I'm going to
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  say Quran and progeny that I'm leaving behind is not this.
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  I'm not going to do like this. I'm going to do like this
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  because this makes one bigger than the other one more
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  valuable, more virtuous. Now I'm going to make this
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  equal. Then I'm going to raise the hand
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  of Emeril Momini. This all part of the fat action
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  of Amir Rasool Allah Don I come down.
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  Is it enough? No, let's bring a tent.
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  Three days. Nobody goes home until everybody
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  personally pledges allegiance with Emir Al Momini.
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  Hand, Shake hand, everybody. I did make announcement.
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  I told you he's your Mullah. I told you everything.
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  Right now you have to come shake hand.
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  And as we know within the history, the first couple of
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  people to be about back and Omar and Osman and Omar said back and
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  back and Nikki Ali, congratulation, congratulation
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  as back the mola mola call the moment.
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  So he already you become the masters.
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  Oh yeah, it's there within the non Shia books and the Shia
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  books. Definitely only men, no women.
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  Also, you should come bring a curtain and the tan put it on
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  top of the bowl. There is water.
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  I mean a moment you place your hand on the side, the woman will
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  everybody pledge allegiance. 3 days and I did all the fail that
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  was needed. So somebody comes.
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  It's mesmerizes me what a righteous mind will come say.
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  It was about him telling for us to befriend him.
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  Habibi, seriously, I don't want to befriend someone.
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  Can you force someone to befriend someone like I told you
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  right now for example, I could I'm quite you come to us in
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  state. I said this, this person is
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  friend of mine. I want you to be friend him.
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  You see some things from this person.
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  You say I don't want to be friend him.
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  No, you must be friend him. We cannot force people.
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  So Rasulullah best creation of Allah Subhanahu ta'ala Angel
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  Jabra in message of Rasulullah. Your message is not everything
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  to be friend in there bringing it right now idol Hadid.
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  So that makes it that the mission of Rasul Allah, his
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  mission finished, but he didn't leave his ummah in darkness.
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  As we mentioned in it, it brings a very important point failure
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  baller. I was researching today to see
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  if this word tablier has been given responsibility to everyone
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  in any part of the religion other than Wilayah.
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  I didn't see this that tablier which is command failure baller
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  make sure everybody and harder. Al haib, everyone who were
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  present, who was present today, make sure anyone who was absent,
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  make sure you go to Tablou of the Willai.
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  I didn't see Tablou of Salah. Akama to Salah.
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  We have Yuki muna Salah establishing Salah, yes, Akama
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  to zakat establishing zakat. But when it comes to Tablou,
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  everybody must become mobeler of Ghadir, Everyone.
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  It's a responsibility al habra, al habra wal Walid, al Walid.
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  Every father must do tablir of Ghadir to his children.
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  So we can say, well, it's the responsibility of a Sheikh and
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  ulama and maraj. No tablir of Ghadir is the
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  responsibility of every father to their children.
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  So in a way every father is mobile.
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  Mobile of what? Ghadir no teaching them about
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  the will I of Albert Ali hamster until the day of judgement.
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  Wonder more than 100,000 people came and pledged allegiance with
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  Emir Mumminin. I was researching also today the
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  only hadith that we have more than 100 people narrating it and
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  it's detailed as the hadith of a qadir.
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  You will not find people talking about Salah, rasool, Allah,
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  zakah, about Hajj. You find 10 people, 20 people,
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  50 people Max. The only hadith and events
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  within the history that more than 100 people narrated it and
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  they wrote about it. It's only event of a hadith, but
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  unfortunately our own Shia community first and the non Shia
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  second, we don't read the ceremony of Ghadir.
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  So again, action plan, everybody must read.
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  And we owe it to Amir al Mumini Sara Mullali, we owe it to
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  Rasulullah, to Fatimah Tzara Sara Mullali to read the event
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  of Ghadir, to read the ceremony. At least no more question will
• 22:11
  be left for anyone. Maybe he said this, maybe
• 22:15
  friendship will no will be no have no place in your mind after
• 22:19
  reading the ceremony of Ghadir to your question back again
• 22:22
  right now, how can we do this with our kids love of Amir
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  Mumminian love of albeit alayam Salaam.
• 22:29
  You mentioned very good point, which is hadith that we were
• 22:32
  raised differently and Amir Mumminian said raise your
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  children different than the way that you were raised because
• 22:39
  they are created a different time than the time that you were
• 22:42
  born created. What I have done Al Hamdulillah,
• 22:46
  it's a blessing Allah. And albeit that I have this tofu
• 22:49
  inspiration all by the teachings of albeit Alayah Musaram.
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  First of all, it's the importance of the names, making
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  sure that we give the names of albeit Alayah Musaram to our
• 22:58
  children. And that is one of the hack of
• 22:59
  our children upon the parents to give them a good name.
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  And we read in Zar JAMA al Kabir, there is no more beauty
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  than the names of albeit Alayah, Musaram and I from the beginning
• 23:14
  Hamdullah with all my four children's.
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  I told them your birthday doesn't matter.
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  I think we talked about this or no, I don't know.
• 23:21
  I told them each one of you, we will celebrate by the birth of
• 23:24
  your Imam, the name of that Imam.
• 23:26
  We start from the 8th Imam, the first son of mine, his name is
• 23:30
  Ali Radha. I said we will celebrate your
• 23:33
  your birth is October 8th. OK, we just move it and we put
• 23:36
  the birth of Amarava. Islam doesn't matter.
• 23:38
  It's about celebration. We celebrate our Imam Ayram's
• 23:41
  birth and I'm Muhammad Jawad, Fatima Rokaye, my daughter and
• 23:45
  Ali Hadi Allah for Jimmy Allah. I'm Saddam Muwalin, who have
• 23:51
  been a little bit and I told them every birth of them I will
• 23:55
  go out for lunch. Every people typically go for
• 23:58
  lunch out. They lunch out at least once a
• 24:00
  month, every other month. So we give it purpose every
• 24:06
  birth of them I'm so they're waiting on the calendar.
• 24:08
  Is there any occasion coming up near and gift will be done, will
• 24:15
  be purchased? Whatever you want to buy, it
• 24:16
  will be purchased on the day of the birth of the Imam.
• 24:19
  Amazing. So love of Alibait from young
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  age because how much you can teach them about the teachings
• 24:24
  of Alibait. First you have to instill the
• 24:26
  love of Alibait in their heart. Knowing this from the historical
• 24:31
  events, how we implanted the hatred of Emeril Mohammedin and
• 24:36
  the children of Sham, famous story that he will send a very
• 24:40
  nice, handsome looking guy and he will bring for them small
• 24:44
  goats, baby goats, small baby lamb, and he will give it to
• 24:47
  them after they get used to it. People in Sham, after they get
• 24:52
  used to it for a couple of months, he will send a very big,
• 24:56
  ugly, gigantic look, ugly monster person.
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  He goes and he snatches them from them, the sheep and the
• 25:04
  baby goat and he slaughters them in front of them.
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  And he said I am Amir al Momin, Alib Nabi Talib.
• 25:10
  I am Alib Nabi Talib. So peep kids when they come on
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  the day of Ashura Nukati Luka Borvan le Abiq.
• 25:19
  This boat has been there for past years and years and decades
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  from young because they haven't seen Amir al Momini.
• 25:27
  So they will know this. So we have to reverse engineer
• 25:29
  it. OK, How can we plant the seed of
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  love of Amir al Momini? We have a hadith that on a day
• 25:35
  of Hadir, whatever you spent Allah give you hundredfold back.
• 25:41
  They know my kids they know that on the devil Kadir is open check
• 25:46
  to idol kadir and idol and idol you have open check.
• 25:53
  I mean, of course you know we're going to watch is buy like
• 25:55
  $100,000. But within your own, you want
• 25:58
  iPad and idol kadir, you want iPhone idol Hadir, you want this
• 26:02
  best jersey, Idol Hadir, best shoes idol had, everything you
• 26:06
  want. Throughout the year you get all
• 26:08
  the smaller things that you need.
• 26:10
  But idol Hadir comes, you will remember it.
• 26:13
  For my daughter, the first wife, when I bought her, she's to
• 26:16
  remember it idol hadir. My sons won Apple Watch idol
• 26:20
  hadir. So they are waiting for idol
• 26:23
  Hadir. Throughout the year they ride
• 26:24
  there and from their golds. OK, I want to get this thing
• 26:27
  when idol Hadir and slowly, slowly bring it to Imam and
• 26:32
  Zaman when we are eating. I really see your point to be
• 26:38
  very valid. When they don't have that love
• 26:42
  and connection with Imam Zaman and they don't see Imam Zaman,
• 26:47
  they will ask then what is the benefit of Imam Zaman?
• 26:50
  I thought OK, I have to do something because Aya Qurania
• 26:53
  says chapter 66 verse 6. I have to start with my own
• 27:00
  family or you who have faith. Save yourselves and your
• 27:05
  families from fire, OK? If I want, when I go and preach
• 27:09
  to other people, first I have to make sure that my own children
• 27:12
  that are either every time that they are happy that I bought
• 27:16
  them something or they're eating something, they say thank Mama,
• 27:21
  thank Baba. I say thank a lot, Hamdullah
• 27:23
  Bahalami, thank Mama Zaman. Because of him we get our risk.
• 27:29
  Like when my kids if we go out or at home, my wife cooks good
• 27:33
  meal. Alhamdulillah, when they're
• 27:34
  eating it and they say shukran Mama, I say shukran Allah,
• 27:38
  shukran Mama, shukran Mama zama. Yeah.
• 27:42
  And keep saying Allah Allah Mubarak while we are eating
• 27:48
  because this is a hadith that one day person.
• 27:50
  I think during time of Salaam or Imam Al Baqar, one of the imams,
• 27:55
  it was the servant of the Imam. He was eating and he was saying
• 27:59
  Allah Mubarak limo lie, Allah bless my mother.
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  Mom said, what did you say? He said I'm saying Allah Mubarak
• 28:07
  to you because because of you I have all of these blessings and
• 28:09
  all of this risk. And mom said you are free.
• 28:11
  For the sake of a loss of heart. He kept eating.
• 28:13
  He said Allah Mubarak limo lie. And mom said this farm is all
• 28:17
  yours and everything that is in it.
• 28:21
  So action plan will be #1 make sure you give your children the
• 28:26
  names of #2 take him out for lunch or dinner on every birth
• 28:31
  of the imam and while you are sitting and eating.
• 28:33
  OK, while we are celebrating birth of XMM, one story it
• 28:39
  doesn't need. When we think about upbringing,
• 28:41
  we think it needs. OK, let me sit and give them one
• 28:44
  hour lecture. No one story. 1 hadith, second,
• 28:49
  third Aidal hadir. They see this on Thursday, so
• 28:54
  Saturday, Sunday is Aidal Hadir. If you are children watching
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  this, if you are young, tell your parents we are going to go
• 29:02
  out and we are going to buy gifts.
• 29:04
  Have your parents to buy whatever you want for you.
• 29:07
  Feel free to send the invoice all the way to across the
• 29:10
  Atlantic. If you find me where I am, send
• 29:13
  it to me. I would love to inshallah if I'm
• 29:17
  idol. Hadir has so much importance.
• 29:19
  So this is the way. Slowly, slowly, while they're
• 29:21
  eating, while I buy them something, clothes, shoes, Al
• 29:24
  Hamdullah. Thank you Baba, thanks to Mama
• 29:26
  Zaman, thank Allah. So you build the connection.
• 29:29
  From young age, when they grow up, they owe themselves to Mama
• 29:33
  Zaman. That every blessing, every
• 29:36
  share, every good was from Mama Zaman, from Aiden Hadir, from
• 29:40
  Wilayah, from albeit. Right now you owe albeit how to
• 29:45
  fulfill your responsibility. Learn about their teachings.
• 29:48
  Well, this is this is amazing. And I think it's it's great
• 29:50
  advice for us parents as well. And you know, as you're
• 29:52
  mentioning all the things that you do with your children, I was
• 29:55
  remembering things my late father used to do with me.
• 30:01
  I'd recall, generally I'd recall.
• 30:02
  I'm just thinking now, like literally in our chef and I'm
• 30:05
  thinking when I was young, I think the age definitely I was
• 30:12
  like between I would say 7 and all the way I think to like 12
• 30:17
  or something. I can't remember a night or a
• 30:21
  day where we didn't discuss the Ehlul Bates, where we didn't
• 30:25
  have a conversation regarding the Ehlul Bates.
• 30:29
  Like everything was. When we say Ehlul Bates, I don't
• 30:31
  want people to get confused when we're mentioning the Ehlul Bates
• 30:34
  mentioning Allah, We're mentioning Allah because I know
• 30:37
  we have people listening just to clarify on that.
• 30:39
  But it was those little intercals of like seeds of it
• 30:44
  creates this magic. It creates this thing where when
• 30:47
  you grow up, and I'm thinking now I'm do this to my children
• 30:50
  and that's thanks to how I was raised.
• 30:53
  Al Al Walid, Al Walid, you got to you right now.
• 30:55
  It has to continue. Yeah, and and this is how I
• 30:57
  think like raising Shia families should be is like from a young
• 31:02
  age you as much as you can. And when I speak with my
• 31:06
  daughters, I mainly do our nights just before bed, like
• 31:11
  before they go to bed. Yeah, honey.
• 31:13
  And I find it's the best way where they feel like asking 100
• 31:15
  questions. And I have all the time in the
• 31:17
  world for them. And shall I always have the all
• 31:19
  the time in the world for them? And we always have this, like,
• 31:21
  small discussions to them. It means the world to me.
• 31:24
  It's like, you know, did I say it right?
• 31:28
  Then I have a convo. Then the next day I may go
• 31:29
  correct myself. I really think twice about why I
• 31:32
  say to them because I know the importance it has at the end of
• 31:34
  the day. And I tell them hadith, I
• 31:38
  mentioned stories of the Halil Bay to them.
• 31:40
  We even read Quran together. Like we have this routine, not
• 31:46
  that we chose to just automatically happens.
• 31:48
  And this is a blessing. And Charlotte does continue, but
• 31:51
  it shows the emphasis of the impact it has down the line.
• 31:54
  Because I know 100% I'm not saying I'm a good person, shall
• 31:59
  I am. I know this is all thanks to my
• 32:02
  father. No doubt.
• 32:03
  And the work of my mother as well.
• 32:05
  No doubt. And Shalom, the fruits of the.
• 32:08
  You bring you, you mentioned good .2 points that I want to
• 32:11
  bring hardest. With that comes number one,
• 32:13
  identity. Our kids this day and age,
• 32:16
  everybody wants to give them an identity and that identity not
• 32:20
  only as an individual, it comes with a package.
• 32:24
  It has color to it. We know that whatever right now
• 32:27
  the West wants to do with our kids, it has given it color.
• 32:32
  Well Allah Subhanahu Ta'ala says also I have a color Sabratallah
• 32:35
  sabrah Sabrah. The painting have that identity
• 32:40
  of divine well. Imam Rasulullah says
• 32:43
  Rasulullah's word is the word of Allah.
• 32:48
  Everything that Rasulullah utters as the word of Allah,
• 32:51
  when Allah is telling Rasulullah tell people value by the Allah.
• 32:54
  Allah meaning I have to give my kid a Shia identity.
• 33:00
  I understand in some countries having that identity though
• 33:02
  where Shias are under oppression, I understand we have
• 33:07
  to be careful when we go out and so on and so forth.
• 33:09
  And I have people who lived there on those countries until
• 33:12
  they were 8/19/20. They didn't know they were Shia
• 33:15
  until they moved to West and their parents were OK.
• 33:17
  Right now we are Shia because of what they were going through in
• 33:20
  those countries, unfortunately still exist until today.
• 33:23
  But we living in the West, we have the freedom, we tell our
• 33:27
  kids you have the Shia identity, we respect non Shia and
• 33:30
  non-muslim. But you have this identity, be
• 33:33
  proud of it. You are following a person who
• 33:37
  is the best creation of Allah after Rasulullah.
• 33:40
  Everything about him is perfect. Everything about him teaches you
• 33:44
  the right way of living. Why be afraid of it?
• 33:47
  That's number one what you are doing as the hadith of Imam
• 33:51
  Sadhar Aliya Salam Imam says Badr hadathekum hadith kabla and
• 33:58
  tespeka come elohim al murja during time when I saw the Ali
• 34:04
  Salaam there was a sect called Murja.
• 34:07
  OK. And they have their own wrong
• 34:10
  arcada. I don't want to go to the detail
• 34:11
  of the wrong arcada, which is against the Shia of Alibi.
• 34:14
  I understand my teaching of Alibi, Imam says you initiate
• 34:18
  the teaching of your kids before murja.
• 34:20
  I come and they teach them that's.
• 34:22
  So true. So what are you doing exactly?
• 34:25
  You are doing Mubadara, You are rather than waiting for my kids
• 34:29
  to come home. Oh, and they've been shaped.
• 34:31
  Unfortunately, majority of the parents, they come to us when.
• 34:35
  It's too late. When it's too late, they come
• 34:37
  for a medicine. They want cure, Estam says.
• 34:42
  Work on prevention, prevention. The stories of Adibe Italian
• 34:45
  Saddam when my kid goes around, I know I'm here with my wife.
• 34:50
  I message my kids as OK you have devices, you're alone,
• 34:53
  supervision. Remember Allah is watching you,
• 34:56
  Rasulullah is watching you and the amount of our time is
• 34:59
  watching you according to the Holy Quran 1 moment on.
• 35:05
  So I remind them, since they have that love connection with
• 35:08
  Imam, since it's OK Imam, someone has done everything for
• 35:12
  me. Allah gave his.
• 35:14
  Allah gave my risk to Imam Zaman.
• 35:16
  He's a Razak. He gave them my risk to Imam
• 35:18
  Zaman and Imam Zaman distributes it.
• 35:20
  I have the risk from him. He's the means of my risk.
• 35:24
  Well, I need to keep him happy. I am loyal to him.
• 35:28
  His satisfaction is my most importance in life.
• 35:32
  So parents must work on prevention.
• 35:35
  Do whatever you can. Bah Drew Imam is commanding
• 35:39
  right now. Morja Ali, replace Morja, make
• 35:41
  it all of these. Society currently today.
• 35:44
  Society with all the ISM, all the negativity and you,
• 35:49
  everybody knows about it. We don't have to go there.
• 35:52
  All of it, all of it socially, politically, every US parents,
• 35:56
  we have to be responding, taking the responsibility, not only
• 36:03
  feeding them, clothing them. No, they're actually there.
• 36:07
  Their clock, their morality. Where are they getting it?
• 36:10
  If my, if I'm sending my kid to public school, well, my job is
• 36:14
  doubled because they go 8 hours, 9 hours more or less.
• 36:20
  I shouldn't be happy. Unfortunately, I see a lot of
• 36:22
  the parents are happy with one Saturday school, one Sunday
• 36:25
  school. Yeah, it gives them peace.
• 36:27
  Yeah, Al Hamdulillah, a father came to me one day when I was in
• 36:32
  my ID center or. Maybe in the same boat, yeah.
• 36:36
  He said, Chef, I want my son to become like you, Marjata Plead.
• 36:42
  Within this one year. I said the whole sentence is
• 36:45
  wrong. I'm not Marjata plead #2 once a
• 36:49
  week, Saturday, 4 hours, you give him to give him to me in
• 36:53
  our Saturday school. How much I can teach, how much I
• 36:59
  can teach parents. It's responsibility of the
• 37:03
  parents to teach them about this.
• 37:05
  Small little bits, Khalid, but continuous as you're doing it
• 37:09
  perfectly. And some parents are doing also
• 37:12
  small stories. Time of lunch, one hadith,
• 37:15
  dinner time 1 hadith. They leave the faraj.
• 37:18
  Don't forget. They come back home.
• 37:21
  They see mom is playing Haditha Kesai in the house while she's
• 37:24
  cooking. Mom's playing is the Jamal
• 37:26
  Khabira, Zyad Ashura, Surat Yasin, Surat Rahman.
• 37:30
  All this becomes a package. Impacts them positively, no
• 37:34
  doubt because you know, sadly, you know, chef, there are homes
• 37:37
  where, for example, they may be Muslim households, but it's not
• 37:42
  the best environment for the children.
• 37:44
  True be it for example Haram music being played, discussions
• 37:50
  of things that take you away from a lot.
• 37:53
  These things do happen. Everyone makes errors, everyone
• 37:55
  makes mistakes, but not in fun of the children, you know?
• 37:59
  Sometimes I feel like as parents, even sometimes some
• 38:02
  friends we have like discussions, they say, I wish I
• 38:05
  didn't say that in front of my kid.
• 38:07
  Or they say, I wish my my son didn't see what I done or what I
• 38:11
  was doing. I was like, but you have
• 38:13
  children. Yeah, you need to not even think
• 38:15
  twice. You need to think 10 times.
• 38:17
  True. Because they they in in many
• 38:19
  ways, they become a mirror of us, right, chef?
• 38:22
  And if they're not in the right environment, they don't have the
• 38:24
  right to be at the right upbringing.
• 38:26
  I think it's a recipe for disaster.
• 38:28
  They're always the mirror of us. Yeah, I always tell the parents.
• 38:31
  You, you brought a good point, I tell the parents.
• 38:33
  Unfortunately our kids, they don't hear us.
• 38:37
  They see. Us, yes.
• 38:39
  And and and I was going to come to this point when I was young.
• 38:42
  I I was in Bali. I was like 9.
• 38:45
  I was like 10. But my dad would always want me
• 38:48
  to get up and pray Salah. But he never told me get up.
• 38:51
  You would never tell me girl, do you believe it?
• 38:53
  Even honey, until I passed. He passed away when I was 15.
• 38:57
  He never ever told me. He told me Salah.
• 39:02
  And he would say avan. Yeah.
• 39:03
  Or for example, it's it's prayer time and he goes, OK, it's
• 39:06
  prayer time. He's not going to come tell me,
• 39:09
  you know, he'd come pray in the same room I am at about I do get
• 39:12
  up and pray. So it's more like showing rather
• 39:14
  than telling. Yeah.
• 39:15
  And, and I love that. Yeah.
• 39:18
  And it's like an indirect terribly air where you, you, you
• 39:22
  don't want to force it and make it feel like a routine or a
• 39:25
  habit or something heavy on young children, Right?
• 39:29
  Because we all want to play. We all want to have fun.
• 39:31
  We all want to go out, ride on the bike in the streets.
• 39:33
  And that's what we're doing back in the day.
• 39:34
  Now everyone's glued on their. Phones at home.
• 39:37
  And that's a discussion we'll come to soon during today's
• 39:39
  episode. But just the reality is, look, I
• 39:42
  see it this way. There is more than just, I
• 39:45
  think, instilling the love of a debate as well.
• 39:47
  If I look today I see on average each household I I would say
• 39:53
  will have roughly or approximately 2 children.
• 39:57
  May Allah bless us with more inshallah.
• 39:59
  But I think right now on average people are having two.
• 40:01
  And what's the excuse? Let me see, I've heard this so
• 40:04
  much times honestly how they grow up and if they came out
• 40:08
  good I'll make more children for example.
• 40:10
  All too late. Yeah, so they already know
• 40:14
  they're not really working hard. And I, I don't know if it's
• 40:18
  society's fault. I don't know if they're busy
• 40:21
  with life and everything, but I feel it's a choice we have to
• 40:25
  make. The same way we make a choice to
• 40:26
  eat, the same way we make a choice to travel, go on holiday,
• 40:29
  the same way we make a choice to inshallah go ziara Arvine, then
• 40:33
  Shia. Same like these are choices we
• 40:34
  have to make and we being Shia, there's an extra level of
• 40:38
  responsibility on us. We're not like everyone else.
• 40:41
  If we say we hold on to Thakalene, we hold on to the
• 40:44
  Quran, we hold on to the hell bait and we never separate from
• 40:47
  them. They have treasures for us on
• 40:49
  how to raise children. So I and I was looking today.
• 40:52
  I've come across this a long time ago, but I, I saw it again
• 40:54
  today. It was the the Treatise of
• 40:58
  Rights. By.
• 41:01
  Ali as Salaam, the rights of your children.
• 41:04
  I've read in Arabic, but it was my first time reading in English
• 41:07
  and I think let me share it here with I bring the English whether
• 41:10
  I for the Afon it's Yeah. So the Imam says when speaking
• 41:17
  about the right of the child towards the father, it woke me
• 41:21
  up towards like, OK, it's not just responsibility.
• 41:25
  No, no, no, you will be held accountable.
• 41:28
  So when you read it and understand it, you see, like
• 41:32
  there is an emphasis of their good, you'll be rewarded their
• 41:36
  bad. The Imam says and the right of
• 41:41
  your child is that you should know that he is from you and he
• 41:45
  will be ascribed to you in this world both his good deeds and
• 41:49
  his evil deeds and you are responsible for what has been
• 41:53
  entrusted to you as an Amana in teaching him good conduct,
• 41:57
  guiding him towards his Lord and helping him to obey Allah,
• 42:01
  Subhanahu at Allah. Then you will be rewarded for
• 42:04
  doing so and you will be punished.
• 42:07
  Then regarding his affairs, act like the one who will be proud
• 42:12
  of bringing him up in this world and one who who is excused by
• 42:16
  his Lord for what is between you and him, for taking good care of
• 42:20
  him and the good results you achieved.
• 42:23
  And there is no God and no power but Allah.
• 42:26
  And there's like. 3-4 keywords. OK, you'll be rewarded if you
• 42:31
  raise good children, you'll be punished if they're not, for
• 42:35
  example. You'll be held accountable, no
• 42:42
  doubt. Your son comes out good, your
• 42:44
  daughter comes out good. You'll be rewarded true if your
• 42:48
  son comes out bad or your daughter comes out bad.
• 42:53
  OK, this is where things get scary.
• 42:55
  See, it comes in a package, Yeah.
• 42:58
  And you, it's, it's hack, another Hadid that I have, which
• 43:00
  is alongside that, which is hack.
• 43:02
  Hack means it's a right. If you don't fulfill it, you're
• 43:06
  going to be responsible. Prasool Allah said the right of
• 43:11
  the child upon his father in the kind of Dakaran how we have also
• 43:17
  the rest of it being the boy being the girl and comfort as a
• 43:27
  father, you have to make sure bring a lot of fathers right now
• 43:30
  in trouble and probably you don't want to see the rest of
• 43:33
  the episode. You might want to pause it.
• 43:36
  If you're single with your wife, probably she's looking at you
• 43:38
  right now. A father's responsibility toward
• 43:42
  his son is or his daughter is to make sure his mom or her mom
• 43:48
  live she lives comfortable. Why?
• 43:51
  Because Terribia and nurturing comes from the mother.
• 43:56
  If she's always occupied with work and businesses and money
• 44:01
  and everything, she won't be able to give that love.
• 44:05
  Father is the fatherly figure as the umbrella, the leader, but
• 44:11
  the pillar of this house is the mother.
• 44:14
  So we have to keep in mind the role of motherhood, which
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  unfortunately has been taken away.
• 44:20
  This is not now. It's not only one hadith.
• 44:23
  Rasulullah said the right of your children and the terribly
• 44:27
  of your children starts when before marriage, making sure you
• 44:32
  pick the right mother for them. So that's the terribly, that's
• 44:35
  when it begins. So this becomes the whole
• 44:39
  package first as a father and comfort is something relative.
• 44:44
  I might be living in a tent and comfortable and I might be
• 44:47
  living in a palace. I'm not comfortable and vice
• 44:49
  versa. It is true also.
• 44:50
  So comfort is psychological comfort, physical comfort,
• 44:54
  whatever we can do. I know unfortunately sometimes
• 44:57
  some people's expectations up to the roof and that's going to
• 45:01
  become difficult to make them live comfortably.
• 45:04
  But realistically, what does comfort mean?
• 45:07
  And everybody, it's the same page, close give or take.
• 45:12
  So that's one aspect of having that comfort for the mother so
• 45:17
  she can plan because every child has their own need.
• 45:23
  Terbia, See, Terbia, when we do jam that we put in the butter in
• 45:29
  Arabic called what moraba, Moraba you have Morabi moraba.
• 45:37
  Terbia, making a jam is nothing easy.
• 45:41
  You bring the fruits, you bring the sugar, you bring water, the
• 45:45
  right amount, the right temperature and in a little bit
• 45:48
  of lime. Maybe not everybody can make a
• 45:51
  jam. So in Moraba, Morabi is the one
• 45:54
  who's doing the act of process of terbia for Moraba to become a
• 45:59
  good jam. I have one of my family
• 46:01
  relative, she said. When I make a jam, for example,
• 46:05
  strawberry, the strawberry is there, the water is there and
• 46:08
  the sugar is there. There's no connection between
• 46:10
  this. Not everybody can make it.
• 46:12
  So Terbia is something that the the our sisters have to spend
• 46:16
  time on. My son or my daughter, they're
• 46:19
  introvert or they're extrovert. They need more time.
• 46:21
  They need less time. How much information is good for
• 46:24
  them? This is not one size fit all
• 46:27
  tabia for all the children. So you can have like 3 is what
• 46:29
  you're saying here. So you can have like two or
• 46:31
  three different children or not everyone.
• 46:33
  Is not the same. They're not.
• 46:35
  Right now, your two daughters are the same.
• 46:36
  No, I have to speak to them differently.
• 46:38
  There you go. Yeah, See.
• 46:40
  So the role of motherhood is very important because we as a
• 46:44
  man, we must go and bring and bring food on the table, have
• 46:48
  this shelter above their head, clothed them.
• 46:51
  This is responsibility. So we have to do our share for
• 46:55
  the Mother Day and night. It's a very difficult job.
• 46:59
  It needs that softness, it needs that touches that femininity is
• 47:05
  needed in the Caribbean that motherly love needed us fathers.
• 47:09
  We have to be tough, but at the same time we have to have that
• 47:11
  mercy and rahma. Unfortunately, I see some
• 47:14
  parents say OK, let's become religious and they become really
• 47:17
  hard. And Mamasada says in Allah azza
• 47:20
  wajal layer hamo A Rajal, the amount of love that fathers and
• 47:29
  parents have told their children and love and rahma rahmu
• 47:32
  saharakum rasul Allah says teaching should not be from the
• 47:37
  perspective of commands. May Allah bless your father.
• 47:42
  It wasn't command Salah, no rahma, time for Salah.
• 47:48
  It's time good, bad, evil was in the form of rahma and mercy.
• 47:54
  Some parents, they want to become religious, they become
• 47:56
  really, really restrict. No simplify easy Rahman.
• 48:02
  How Rasulullah who was treating the people like, let's put our
• 48:05
  mind, how did Rasulullah invite people to the way of Islam isn't
• 48:11
  because of his Rahman and his ahlab that they came.
• 48:14
  I've seen people that sometimes the parents are really religious
• 48:17
  and restrict that the kids become the opposite because of
• 48:21
  all of the restrictions. Do don't sit, don't.
• 48:24
  No, I'll base it until A7 leave them.
• 48:28
  Yeah, there is this 3 stages, yeah.
• 48:30
  Yeah, but how many of us? We do it early, early until
• 48:34
  ASAM. I tell parents what I understand
• 48:36
  from a hadith evaluate Hadi says they are say it in the house
• 48:40
  means the masters. The masters.
• 48:43
  I tell the parents very controversial from for some
• 48:46
  restricted parents until they're harming themselves or harming
• 48:52
  other people. Let them free.
• 48:55
  We can't so difficult because we are, we want everything in the
• 49:00
  house to be in a small place. No, no.
• 49:02
  Until they are calming themselves or harming other
• 49:06
  people, other kids, they have to be free.
• 49:09
  And you let them be, so long as they're not in danger.
• 49:11
  Of course, or danger other people.
• 49:13
  Their kids are their kids. So I see it in the Western
• 49:16
  families. I've I really analyzed this, a
• 49:20
  lot of social experiments why the Western kids age 18, they go
• 49:26
  off, they can't wait for age 18 or 21 because while they're
• 49:32
  young because. They can leave the house.
• 49:33
  And why have freedom And because while they're kids, there's a
• 49:38
  lot of restriction. Bedtime sleep this time, wake up
• 49:42
  this time eat this, don't eat this sit.
• 49:45
  Did you say thank you Open so a. Lot.
• 49:48
  Of restriction. So they can't wait.
• 49:51
  And I've seen religious families that I grew up with them, their
• 49:56
  kids, Allah Akbar, they are all over the place, literally all
• 50:02
  over the place. When they grow up, there are the
• 50:05
  calmest people you can even you can see in your life because
• 50:09
  while they're kids, everything, all of this came out.
• 50:12
  Yeah. So rather than become a child as
• 50:14
  you become an adult, there you go.
• 50:16
  Live your childhood, everything. It's on time.
• 50:20
  Good. She worked there, but we went
• 50:21
  from age 7. Discipline.
• 50:23
  There is no discipline until age 7, so how could rest of the law
• 50:27
  say all of these psychological perspectives to people 1400
• 50:29
  years ago? He says for until A7.
• 50:31
  Leave them as I say it, kissing our kids.
• 50:36
  He had two children, he kissed one of them.
• 50:44
  This is all see we don't need millions of hadith, thousands of
• 50:48
  hadith about 11 hadith can give us a perspective how it should
• 50:52
  be done. General lot he left the other
• 50:56
  one for Carla Nebu for Halasa weight by in a Homer.
• 51:00
  Why didn't you have justice in between them and Adalah and
• 51:03
  Musawah and equality? You kiss one of them kiss the
• 51:06
  other one. Why you kiss 1 you left the
• 51:08
  other one. So make sure between your kids,
• 51:12
  there is no equality in everything and acted women
• 51:17
  oblate Oladico increase the amount of kisses that you kiss
• 51:20
  your children, but we think it OK.
• 51:22
  I want to be a restrict. Parents keep kissing them and
• 51:26
  showing that love and having that mercy.
• 51:28
  While I'm no longer can be tough.
• 51:31
  When was the last time with toughness and hardship and heart
• 51:35
  you're able to convince them it didn't work?
• 51:38
  Find it one way that it worked. It will always have backlash
• 51:47
  every time that you kiss your children.
• 51:50
  Every kiss between this Daraja to other Daraja. 500 years
• 52:00
  journey for one kiss of the children.
• 52:05
  Mercy, kindness needs to be within our Terebia.
• 52:10
  I'll get a Toy Story. I've said the story so many
• 52:12
  times. My second son was young, very
• 52:16
  young. Right now, Mashallah, he's 18.
• 52:19
  Mashallah Hamdullah, blessing of Allah and a little bit he came
• 52:23
  with probably was first grade, 2nd grade.
• 52:25
  It's like that I've done something wrong.
• 52:27
  What? I was hungry and I ate something
• 52:31
  in school which I should not eat.
• 52:36
  I told him do estafar don't do it anymore. 3-4 weeks, one
• 52:43
  month, two months later something happened also.
• 52:44
  He came to his like that. I have built that connection
• 52:47
  with him that he can come back to me when he has an issue.
• 52:52
  Unfortunately, some parents, they have a very big barrier
• 52:55
  between them and their kids. They're afraid to tell their
• 52:58
  parents if something has gone wrong.
• 53:00
  You know how that comes to small things.
• 53:02
  For example, a cup breaks down. Why did you do this on Hamdullah
• 53:08
  Fair? Everything is OK with you.
• 53:10
  Let me help you clean it. Yeah.
• 53:12
  Yeah, yeah. So you.
• 53:13
  See so when when he sees a cup breaks down, you go out of your
• 53:17
  mood. He ain't coming when he needs
• 53:18
  your help. He was riding and he got it on
• 53:22
  the couch. OK, got on the wall.
• 53:26
  Why don't you have finishes if there's painting on the wall?
• 53:31
  They have to be free. Happy be.
• 53:33
  They have to be. Free.
• 53:34
  So this leaves like a psychological yeah, yeah, yeah,
• 53:36
  yeah footprint that if I'm if I'm in a position where I'm
• 53:41
  confused, I'm this may sound wrong in front of mum and dad,
• 53:44
  like I'm not going to go to them.
• 53:46
  Of course, I may get my answer somewhere else.
• 53:48
  There we go. And then?
• 53:49
  3-4 months later they came to my done something wrong.
• 53:52
  I thought habibi do estafar don't do it anymore something
• 53:55
  else. He grew up, grew up grew up.
• 53:58
  My last son was born and he grew up to be first grader.
• 54:02
  He went to school he came back to me one day he said dad I
• 54:07
  forgot to take lunch at school. I ate something Haram my second
• 54:13
  son standing there before I was about to say anything my second
• 54:17
  son said do a stuff far don't do it anymore.
• 54:19
  I love you. Too, That's how a lot a lot of
• 54:25
  us OK don't do wrong. If you do wrong, do a stuff far
• 54:29
  don't do it anymore. Doesn't some some of the parents
• 54:32
  they will not forgive their kids.
• 54:35
  They were a lot to forgive them. That's so true.
• 54:38
  And you know, when you look at it, chef is like, you know,
• 54:40
  speaking about this forgiveness thing.
• 54:42
  You know, even until today, I think there's families or people
• 54:44
  know of families be in the community or close people
• 54:48
  relatives in that way. They don't speak to each other.
• 54:50
  One parent doesn't speak to his son because why he was 16 and he
• 54:55
  had the girlfriend and he came from out the house.
• 54:57
  Until today, there's never mended relationships, right?
• 54:59
  But if, if we at a certain age, especially a critical age, I
• 55:04
  think as teenage years we should become friends with them.
• 55:08
  But see, that friendship starts from they they want.
• 55:10
  Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. From all of these, that act,
• 55:12
  I'll give you a story, Hamdullah.
• 55:14
  Blessed to have a very open eye to see my second son, young age,
• 55:19
  active, jumping on the couch and everything.
• 55:22
  You know that maybe you're the one now.
• 55:27
  May Allah bless the soul of your father, May Allah bless the soul
• 55:32
  of your father and give long and healthy life to your mother what
• 55:36
  they want to do with you. I can see it.
• 55:39
  I can see it how I see it. Your activeness in serving the
• 55:44
  cause of Arabat and your eagerness to serve the cause of
• 55:47
  Arabat. It comes from something
• 55:50
  Inshallah. And all of this is shala sadaq
• 55:52
  ajaria for your late father, Ahmed Allah.
• 55:55
  And all the more mini moment. So and he would tell me, I've
• 56:00
  told him don't jump on the couch.
• 56:03
  Every time he would, he would say, Baba, I'm jumping on the
• 56:07
  couch. It's probably 5 or 6 kids want
• 56:11
  their parents to see. So he would know that the only
• 56:16
  time that I would see him is when he's doing something wrong.
• 56:19
  When he's doing something right, I'm not paying attention.
• 56:24
  So he will keep doing what he wants to do and he wants this
• 56:26
  father's attention. If as a parent, if I don't give
• 56:29
  attention to my kids because I as a father, I'm busy, Mom is
• 56:33
  busy working, which is the she doesn't, she doesn't have to.
• 56:36
  The father must work. Bring halal income.
• 56:39
  Mothers and the father, they both reduce their expectations
• 56:42
  so they can live humbly, so she can take care of them and give
• 56:45
  all the attention. So when he grows up, he won't go
• 56:47
  into school and try to get attention of that other sex.
• 56:52
  This kept walking my nerve. I traveled to another country.
• 56:57
  I need the parents to see if they have a troublemaker.
• 56:59
  Kids see it from this perspective.
• 57:02
  I went to another country. I was sitting with a friend of
• 57:04
  mine. He was telling me about a very,
• 57:06
  very rare illness of his son. That his son, if he gets small
• 57:14
  head, a bone breaks, small cut the blood won't stop, coughs
• 57:20
  blood, cries blood, anything has to do with blood.
• 57:25
  It's chaos every day, Najas in the house every day it's a
• 57:30
  disaster. And that mind that they had to
• 57:32
  spend on this kid and he was telling me about his scenarios.
• 57:37
  I was like Oh my God, Al Hamdallah, my son is healthy.
• 57:42
  I still remember I left him. I went to 2nd floor.
• 57:45
  I called my wife, I said let him burn the house, let him do
• 57:51
  whatever he wants. He's healthy, He's healthy,
• 57:54
  Alhamdulillah, Let him take the couch and take the knife and
• 57:59
  tear it apart. He's healthy.
• 58:01
  Because I can't manage seeing a kid cries blood.
• 58:05
  Something happens to them, we forget.
• 58:07
  So having this mercy, no restriction, paying attention to
• 58:11
  them from young age when they get to age of maturity and
• 58:14
  having tough conversation with them from young age.
• 58:19
  When you say tough, do you mean like having difficult
• 58:22
  conversations? Yeah, yeah, yeah.
• 58:24
  So if you're open with them, you'll be comfortable.
• 58:27
  Yeah, yeah, yeah. Those topics that's difficult
• 58:29
  for you to talk about it when you and them have that kind of
• 58:33
  bond, you won't feel awkward because a lot of parents, they
• 58:37
  feel awkward because they come OK, you know, I am that fatherly
• 58:40
  and motherly figure up here. They are down here.
• 58:43
  No, if you're together with them and that brings closeness to of
• 58:47
  age, the older I get married. Some of the bills.
• 58:51
  Trust so my kids will always come to school when they were
• 58:55
  they would come from school they would say dad, we're so happy
• 58:58
  why Hezekiah the first they wouldn't go to school.
• 59:00
  Everybody says OK, my parents this and this is this age and
• 59:05
  they will feel really surprised when we are really close with
• 59:08
  one another. So early marriage, feeling them,
• 59:12
  understanding them, understanding their language,
• 59:15
  having mercy, having communication, paying attention.
• 59:18
  This becomes a whole package that you can plant the seed of
• 59:21
  wilaya in them. But if you don't have a good
• 59:23
  relationship everything that they see even wilaya, they will
• 59:26
  start hating wilaya because of the relationship that you.
• 59:28
  Have now these are amazing points and stories and
• 59:32
  experiences. Like your?
• 59:33
  Own life, may Allah. To you and your.
• 59:35
  Family, your children likewise, it's amazing to hear because
• 59:40
  normally we think like, you know, if someone's got a shake
• 59:43
  or a say that, yeah, it's going to be the most boring life ever.
• 59:47
  But no, you can really have fun and raise them within a
• 59:50
  beautiful Islamic Serbia. And, and you know, I, I've seen
• 59:54
  it happen in my own community where, for example, believe it
• 59:58
  or not, like when people look at religious families, for example,
• 1:00:02
  they feel like, you know what, you're missing out.
• 1:00:04
  You know, I know we're having the best fun in the most halal
• 1:00:07
  way possible. And that's what makes it
• 1:00:09
  beautiful is that we raised the children on halal.
• 1:00:12
  The other day I took my daughter, my youngest.
• 1:00:16
  She, I picked her from school literally on Monday, which was
• 1:00:20
  yesterday. Her teacher that they have
• 1:00:23
  recording this episode, her teacher told me she got 10 out
• 1:00:25
  of 10 and her spending, she had a spelling test.
• 1:00:28
  And this was the first time she got 10 out of 10 for me.
• 1:00:31
  That was a very proud moment for her.
• 1:00:33
  She wants the reward. I said, no problem, what do you
• 1:00:36
  want? She wanted a crisp, a Jelly
• 1:00:39
  maraschino. We went to the shop.
• 1:00:41
  It was full of children, chaos. But she went looking around and
• 1:00:46
  Sheikhna wallah this for me, this this moment was like it
• 1:00:49
  reassured me. She picked up something.
• 1:00:51
  It was like a long, I don't know what they call this like in the
• 1:00:55
  UKI think it's called sorbet tongue or something that's like
• 1:00:59
  a colourful long sweet. She's like, can you read if it's
• 1:01:02
  halal? Myself, she knew my how old
• 1:01:06
  she's I think she's she's recently turned 6.
• 1:01:09
  I mean, she's not that and it's not really conversations we've
• 1:01:13
  had. But for me that told me it's
• 1:01:14
  like, OK, there's something happening that's good at that
• 1:01:17
  age. She's telling me Baba checked if
• 1:01:19
  it's halal even like for example, we'd go supermarkets
• 1:01:23
  here in the UK, Tesco's as there's you'll pass aisles that
• 1:01:27
  have alcoholic beverages. Just say Baba, don't look, don't
• 1:01:30
  look. Shay par, the Shay par.
• 1:01:33
  This is alpha and the sunshine. Yeah.
• 1:01:35
  So these things like, I think even as parents, when we see
• 1:01:38
  them having these small things, it's like we have reassurances
• 1:01:42
  in a way, OK, we're doing something right or.
• 1:01:45
  Let me say something to for you to do right now Charlie go home
• 1:01:48
  today grade was good. They need to be rewarded when
• 1:01:55
  you go home today. You said you bring her, you said
• 1:01:58
  her under your lap. Tell her I'm so.
• 1:02:00
  I'm so proud of you that you cared about halal and Haram
• 1:02:03
  yesterday. That was so nice of you.
• 1:02:06
  Leave them. This appreciation will be so
• 1:02:11
  much in their mind because this is next day.
• 1:02:14
  They think you forgot it. And not only they doesn't show
• 1:02:19
  any importance, but you when you reiterate that this will stay in
• 1:02:22
  their mind. Like this is what my father is
• 1:02:25
  looking for. And I'm so proud of that, that
• 1:02:28
  you thought about halal and Haram.
• 1:02:30
  One more thing, a last blessing with one daughter.
• 1:02:34
  Time of hijab came and right now is a good time for you.
• 1:02:36
  Also age 7, slowly, slowly they have to get to know of it and on
• 1:02:40
  and off. Yeah, there time of her job was
• 1:02:43
  my daughter. She's seen my wife always
• 1:02:45
  wearing abaya. So always from young age we buy
• 1:02:49
  abaya for them. And this is what they like,
• 1:02:51
  colorful. They want it themselves like
• 1:02:53
  they they want to see themselves like their mother.
• 1:02:55
  They imitate their mother, correct.
• 1:02:58
  So slowly, slowly she started growing up and she started going
• 1:03:02
  to school and hoodies, very baggy hoodies above knee.
• 1:03:07
  She's still 7-8. Nothing wrong with it.
• 1:03:11
  Loose clothes. Nothing wrong with it.
• 1:03:14
  Well, there's a time for her to go a little bit lower than knee.
• 1:03:17
  Right timing. One day she was the birth of
• 1:03:21
  Zayeda Zaynab. And I was away.
• 1:03:22
  We came back. She's like that.
• 1:03:24
  You didn't take us anywhere for lady Birth of Lady Zaynab.
• 1:03:26
  I was like, oh, you're right. Remember, the plan was only 14
• 1:03:30
  miles home. And now, ladies.
• 1:03:32
  OK, let's go. What do you want?
• 1:03:34
  Let's go to McDonald's. OK, McDonald's.
• 1:03:35
  McDonald's Got a ice cream. Happy moment, leaving the car,
• 1:03:40
  coming back home. I tell her Babati, from now on
• 1:03:45
  the hoodies that you buy, make sure it's blow your knee.
• 1:03:50
  Yes Baba, she's happy she got what she wants.
• 1:03:53
  Right now it's for me to ask for one thing.
• 1:03:56
  From that moment onward, every time she went by outside, she
• 1:03:59
  make sure she bought a hoodie that was beneath her knee.
• 1:04:02
  Couple of years later, OK, right now it's about the time for
• 1:04:05
  shoulder. I buy it.
• 1:04:06
  We went to Costco. She wants some of this big
• 1:04:09
  squishy toy, something like that.
• 1:04:11
  I forgot the name of it was something big squishy toy.
• 1:04:14
  She bought it, she came outside. Thank you, blah, blah.
• 1:04:16
  Thank you, thank you. I said Hamdulillah, said
• 1:04:18
  Hamdulillah and everything. Right now when you go home, have
• 1:04:22
  your mom to give you your shoulder.
• 1:04:24
  I buy it. From now on, you're around 9:10.
• 1:04:28
  It's the time for no longer hoodies.
• 1:04:30
  Nothing. Right now it's the shoulder.
• 1:04:32
  I buy it. The same thing with the head.
• 1:04:33
  I buy it. When we need whatever we need
• 1:04:35
  for our kids. We have to know the right
• 1:04:37
  timing. They're happy.
• 1:04:39
  They're joy. We bought them something.
• 1:04:41
  They feel themselves that I owe it to my father.
• 1:04:43
  Let me do something. Well, one small thing right now
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  with your Salah on time, whatever it is that we want
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  them, that would be very. Important and thank you for
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  sharing this, by the way, because you know, I, I think it
• 1:04:56
  answers a lot of things that we see in our communities.
• 1:04:59
  Maybe I'm just the way I see things.
• 1:05:00
  Maybe I'm wrong and people feel free to correct me.
• 1:05:04
  I know that I don't feel it. I know it for a fact that when a
• 1:05:10
  parent nowadays cares may sound wrong, but I'm not saying they
• 1:05:17
  don't have a lot for the children.
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  I don't say their intention is not to raise them with the best
• 1:05:22
  of terribly, and I'm sure they have that intention.
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  I'm sure. But there was the timing because
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  when they care, I've realized this, I've realized this and
• 1:05:31
  they care when it's too late. They care when the when their
• 1:05:34
  children are hanging with their own crowd.
• 1:05:36
  They care when the children are mixing with the wrong people, be
• 1:05:41
  it they've gone and been in an environment that's not
• 1:05:46
  permissible and Nigel Allah, they've walked towards Haram,
• 1:05:49
  they've chased Haram and then they come and say talk to my son
• 1:05:53
  or things like this. But where were you all this
• 1:05:56
  time? I know speaking about daughters
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  as well, and I think this is a very, it's nice, you know,
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  hearing what the Adam Bates encourage us to do, how we
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  should spend time with them and talk with them.
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  A lot of the time, fathers are absent.
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  No doubt. And and and I see they only get
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  involved when it comes to the time of marriage.
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  No doubt. What have you been on this?
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  Yeah, yeah, yeah. And, and when, when I say, for
• 1:06:17
  example, fathers are absent, even has more negative impacts
• 1:06:20
  because when a father and and I believe this is chef, when a
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  father doesn't show love to to the females in his family, in
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  particular his daughters, they're alone as sisters or
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  siblings and whatnot. Or when a father doesn't show it
• 1:06:33
  to his daughter. If Lasama Hala, she becomes, you
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  know, she goes college one day and the male comes to her and
• 1:06:39
  says I love you. She has never heard that say I
• 1:06:43
  love you. True, True.
• 1:06:44
  True. There are some fathers I know.
• 1:06:46
  They've never said I love you to that children I never embraced.
• 1:06:49
  It I put them. I Why is it?
• 1:06:51
  And then when it comes and someone else now Muharram comes
• 1:06:54
  and embraces them or says I love you and then it's too late.
• 1:06:58
  What do you do? He's the man of my life and we
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  have this what you're saying from Hadith, from Rasulullah.
• 1:07:04
  And now whenever Allahabad, the Atfal Fakhalaweido Lauder
• 1:07:08
  Zamatman about him, he was walking, he saw a group of
• 1:07:12
  children. He said woe to the parents of
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  the children of Akhra Zaman, Kale, Arasulullah, mean Abu
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  Ayman mushrikin like woe to these kafar parents,
• 1:07:27
  Khalilahman, Abu Ayman, mumminin believers, woe to these parents.
• 1:07:33
  Why? Why woe to these parents?
• 1:07:35
  Asolah said Lao Alimuna Humshay and Min Al Faradev they don't
• 1:07:40
  teach them any of their watch about in the best of manner in
• 1:07:44
  their action with the recommendation, with gifting,
• 1:07:48
  with rewarding all the that we talked kids.
• 1:07:51
  Alhamdulillah was able to find a good friend.
• 1:07:56
  Kid was able to turn on the YouTube channel.
• 1:07:57
  So after my podcast was able to learn what I'll do an home.
• 1:08:07
  What? You don't have to be this
• 1:08:08
  religious. Whatever you're doing.
• 1:08:11
  Basic, it's OK. Don't take it too seriously.
• 1:08:13
  Menedonia fanna men home Barry on home Mini Bara.
• 1:08:18
  I disassociate myself from these kind of parents that they don't
• 1:08:21
  teach for our health. And they say when it comes to
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  dunya, they look after dunya when it comes to their acara, I
• 1:08:28
  think. And then scary hadis.
• 1:08:31
  Oh yeah. Because it's.
• 1:08:33
  Not saying we should. No, no.
• 1:08:34
  Yeah, yeah, yeah. Emphasize it.
• 1:08:37
  Because he did. They don't teach them.
• 1:08:39
  As a father, I know it's our responsibility to bring food on
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  the table and to provide, no doubt.
• 1:08:44
  But again, one story here, one advice there, one suggestion
• 1:08:47
  here, one reward there. It goes a long way.
• 1:08:50
  They look up to us, no? No, it does.
• 1:08:52
  It does, Chef. No, I, I, I, I, Of course, I
• 1:08:55
  don't want to move from the discussion points, but I think
• 1:08:58
  if we can just move towards another section that I want to
• 1:09:03
  discuss today and that is discussing or having difficult
• 1:09:06
  conversations with your children.
• 1:09:10
  And I'm not talking about, for example, growing up analysis and
• 1:09:14
  things like this. I'm talking about sensitive
• 1:09:16
  times when it comes to dealing with, for example, having so
• 1:09:20
  many friends or at school or dealing with, for example.
• 1:09:25
  Again, it happens. Yeah.
• 1:09:26
  And I, I still remember I was in year 7 and year eight.
• 1:09:29
  That means I was 11 and 12 years old.
• 1:09:32
  I'd have so many friends at school.
• 1:09:34
  We'll be debating about. I'm on heart.
• 1:09:37
  Are you on heart? And, and I don't think we
• 1:09:40
  prepare our children for this. And I think it's out of fear.
• 1:09:48
  It's about we don't want to hurt other people's, we don't want to
• 1:09:51
  reach people's sensitivity, we don't want to cross any lines.
• 1:09:54
  This new rise of unity and just put everything down the table
• 1:09:58
  like there there is a fair of having these discussions with
• 1:10:03
  our children. And I'll say it as blunt as it
• 1:10:05
  is, the events of Sarifa, the biggest thing I think any Shiite
• 1:10:09
  can face growing up is having discussions with other people is
• 1:10:13
  OK. Why don't you Revere 1-2 and
• 1:10:16
  three, if we don't train our children they may become
• 1:10:21
  brainwashed and we see this happen and normally affects the
• 1:10:24
  people. They may not.
• 1:10:25
  They are getting brainwashed. They are 100% I know this and if
• 1:10:28
  not they're getting brainwashed. They're saying you're less a
• 1:10:30
  fitness like they don't. They're mixing hot with bottle.
• 1:10:34
  I know it's hard, like right now I don't know how to tell my
• 1:10:37
  daughter. For example, the the the caliphs
• 1:10:42
  attacked the home of Lady Fatman Zahra.
• 1:10:45
  She knows, for example, when we go Husseinia, it's what
• 1:10:49
  commemorating the martyrdom of Lady Fatima.
• 1:10:52
  Her home was attacked, but I haven't told her who done it
• 1:10:54
  yet. Like how do I have these
• 1:10:57
  conversations to prepare them not just so that they can answer
• 1:11:01
  questions by other people from different sects when they're at
• 1:11:03
  school and protect the owner. How to protect the and to know
• 1:11:08
  they are on hack. That's a tough one because it's
• 1:11:13
  kids. You can tell me and I'll tell
• 1:11:14
  you that was easy children. I think it's.
• 1:11:17
  See, I think tawel D and Tabari, which is part of our food idea,
• 1:11:23
  and then will I to be part of our sort of Dean Mama?
• 1:11:28
  I think it's nothing that we can sugarcoat.
• 1:11:31
  And I argue that we must be completely frank and honest with
• 1:11:36
  them because I've seen parents who have not different
• 1:11:41
  committees that I go, different state, different countries,
• 1:11:43
  different provinces. People come to me young, young
• 1:11:47
  as I mean 2526. And they say, well, the first
• 1:11:50
  and second, we've done some good things.
• 1:11:52
  They were the ones who were the cause of the spread of Islam and
• 1:11:57
  why we are doing this and this, that and the other.
• 1:12:00
  So with our kids in our houses as much as we do Salawat loud
• 1:12:06
  and we have the love of aliabait, cursing the enemies of
• 1:12:10
  Arabic Ali Mussalam and sending land which is Quranic should be
• 1:12:14
  the same. And we explain to them, for
• 1:12:18
  example, I have my kids even a young age.
• 1:12:20
  And so OK, when it comes to discussions, we want to be
• 1:12:24
  academic. No problem.
• 1:12:25
  Academic. Have you become sona.com?
• 1:12:27
  See right now you can read and write.
• 1:12:29
  OK, have you become see, I was, I was there's a way to do it.
• 1:12:33
  I was doing this research, says Rasul Allah said in sunna.com,
• 1:12:37
  in the books of non Shia Fatima Tumba Atom Minim and Adahafakad
• 1:12:40
  Adani. Fatima is part of me.
• 1:12:42
  Anybody who harms her, hurts her, bothers her, angers her,
• 1:12:45
  angers me. It's there not once, not placed,
• 1:12:47
  not 2, not 3, not 5. And see right now also
• 1:12:50
  sunna.com, it says Fatima Tazara died while she was angry at
• 1:12:55
  Ababak and Omar. It's sunna.com.
• 1:12:57
  Literally, I'm not saying anything out of, again,
• 1:13:01
  sunnah.com, sunnah.com. I sent Sawab of Salawa to the
• 1:13:05
  person who did sunnah.com who made all of these books
• 1:13:08
  available. Arabic and English.
• 1:13:10
  It's very easy to search. Also, it's a very easy
• 1:13:12
  translation. All the Saha books are there.
• 1:13:15
  People can research it. See Baba, this is what it says.
• 1:13:18
  I think we have to. I mean, there's nothing to hide
• 1:13:21
  since it's mentioned in them. The event of Salifa, it's
• 1:13:24
  mentioned in them. Razia, Tuyama Chamis is
• 1:13:26
  mentioned in there. It's all in sunnah.com.
• 1:13:29
  Let me just go and tell them every week, once a week when
• 1:13:32
  we're coming back. Well, in my majority, I say it.
• 1:13:35
  I say ABBA back commanded and Omar came and attacked the door
• 1:13:39
  of Fatima tazarasondhna.com. He came and he said if you don't
• 1:13:42
  leave, tell us. It's historical facts.
• 1:13:46
  I'm not saying more or less exactly as the text says within
• 1:13:50
  history. They're reading about the
• 1:13:52
  history of X&Y&Z, of the Western communities and societies and
• 1:13:58
  what happened. Well, this is the history of a
• 1:14:00
  stop. When they teach them the history
• 1:14:02
  and the school today sugarcoat this person, that person, he
• 1:14:07
  didn't do it. No, they don't exactly as the
• 1:14:10
  history. Why don't we do the same thing?
• 1:14:13
  Tell us, be blunt. Tell them what this is what
• 1:14:15
  happened. This is what happened.
• 1:14:17
  Tawadi is this means Tawadi is this.
• 1:14:21
  I think from young age they should see Tawadi and Tawadi
• 1:14:25
  within the life of the parents again.
• 1:14:28
  As much as we emphasize on the love of Alibait Ali Masala,
• 1:14:30
  which we must, Adel Hadir, Adel Zara, Adel Barah also same equal
• 1:14:37
  the same time we teach them, we respect, we respect other
• 1:14:40
  people's belief. We do not unite with them, we
• 1:14:44
  coexist with them. They can't believe whatever they
• 1:14:46
  believe. You have a non Shia friends, you
• 1:14:48
  go out with them, you chill with them, you bring to our house,
• 1:14:51
  we're all Muslims, no problem. But they know this is hack and
• 1:14:55
  that is bothered. They can't believe whatever they
• 1:14:57
  want to believe. Same thing that they have a
• 1:14:58
  Christian friends, so they have non-muslim friends.
• 1:15:02
  We told them OK, they don't believe in their rights.
• 1:15:04
  They believe Jesus is like this. OK.
• 1:15:05
  We told them same thing with a non Shia.
• 1:15:07
  Completely frank and honest. Yeah, no, that's, that's, that's
• 1:15:10
  very good. You know, I think it's a very
• 1:15:12
  practical advice. Now you're comparing it to like
• 1:15:14
  Christians and. Things.
• 1:15:15
  Yeah. You know what?
• 1:15:16
  The the just literally the other day, chef, and I'm I'm happy
• 1:15:20
  asking you these questions because I'm getting answers for
• 1:15:22
  myself, literally. So this podcast is for you, of
• 1:15:26
  course. So I have to charge you double.
• 1:15:32
  Literally the other day my, my daughter's school, they took my
• 1:15:37
  eldest daughter, they took her to one week, they took her to a
• 1:15:40
  synagogue one week they took her to a church.
• 1:15:42
  One week they took her, I think, I'm not sure what the Sikh place
• 1:15:46
  is called the temple. And just a few weeks back they
• 1:15:51
  took her to a mosque and it was a Sunni mosque, which was very
• 1:15:56
  interesting because when she came back home that day, she
• 1:15:59
  told. How old is she?
• 1:16:01
  So she was 6 Hanian. So she told me we went to the
• 1:16:07
  mosque, they showed us how to do although and I knew exactly
• 1:16:15
  where I was going to go. I'm like, how did they do
• 1:16:17
  although? So she was explaining and
• 1:16:19
  everything and even like when they were praying, the folding
• 1:16:21
  of the arms I think. And I was like, I'm glad.
• 1:16:24
  Now she's not asking out of confused, being confused.
• 1:16:29
  No, she's curious. Why are there other types of
• 1:16:31
  Muslims out there? Right.
• 1:16:34
  And, and, and I think for me that like set the stage and
• 1:16:36
  where I've been like slowly explaining to her, there's other
• 1:16:40
  sects, people have different interpretations, people have
• 1:16:44
  different readings of history and whatnot.
• 1:16:46
  But however, we are on hack and we can back it by hack.
• 1:16:50
  And I even, I remember even telling her you should go back
• 1:16:52
  to your teacher and start a conversation with her because
• 1:16:56
  her teacher's also Muslim. By the way, she doesn't follow
• 1:16:59
  the path of the island bait. And I was like, you should tell
• 1:17:01
  her also to in the future, for example, you should recommend to
• 1:17:04
  them to explain your the Shia way.
• 1:17:07
  And that was the first time she understood.
• 1:17:09
  So where Shia? Yeah, where Shia was them.
• 1:17:11
  And that's where the whole conversation.
• 1:17:13
  And I was starting to think, OK, now how do I explain other
• 1:17:15
  things? How do I go?
• 1:17:17
  Because we live in a world, in a society where we're side by side
• 1:17:20
  with these people. True.
• 1:17:21
  Of course we. Don't want this with nothing we
• 1:17:23
  get. Along we say Salam.
• 1:17:25
  Nothing wrong with. It we, we, we we.
• 1:17:27
  We go to the We eat at the same restaurant.
• 1:17:29
  The best, Yeah, of course it doesn't mean that we, you know,
• 1:17:32
  mix truth with falsehood and start revering who they.
• 1:17:35
  We are, let me see, right now, even right now, your approach I
• 1:17:38
  think is dangerous. It is.
• 1:17:41
  I think we should be very, very raw and tell them this is hack.
• 1:17:46
  Again, this is black and white when it comes to arcade of Will.
• 1:17:52
  And we do have to use wordings and terminologies and stuff that
• 1:17:56
  they can learn, no doubt. I mean, we have to talk to them
• 1:18:01
  to deliver the interest. So bringing for as a story, how
• 1:18:05
  can I bring the event of Sakifa within story and teach them
• 1:18:10
  that? OK, I've done this with one time
• 1:18:12
  I went to school do one of the massage it young kids and was
• 1:18:19
  doing that far far to me. Yeah, I said, OK, how can I
• 1:18:21
  teach them far to me? Yeah, OK, These people don't
• 1:18:23
  know anything. OK, This is the case.
• 1:18:25
  There was this person who had a big farm.
• 1:18:27
  He established the biggest farm on earth and everybody was
• 1:18:31
  benefiting from this farm and he worked 23 years to make sure all
• 1:18:35
  the walls are there. He planted the best of seeds.
• 1:18:38
  He brought the best of fruits and vegetables and everything is
• 1:18:41
  in this farm. He watered it, gave everything
• 1:18:44
  he was about to leave. Well, he had two, He had two
• 1:18:48
  options. Either there was a person who
• 1:18:50
  was from young age with him, from age 10, every time he went
• 1:18:54
  to this farm, he was with him. Everything that he did in this
• 1:18:57
  farm, he saw him, everything. He's about to give the key of
• 1:19:00
  this farm to someone. Should he give it to this person
• 1:19:03
  who's right now age 30 and he knows all the little detail of
• 1:19:07
  the farm or which the holy world is fed by this farm?
• 1:19:13
  Or should he leave the key in the middle of the square?
• 1:19:16
  It's a circle in the city. And let people decide who will
• 1:19:19
  pick up. And there were people back
• 1:19:21
  before that, they wanted to destroy this farm because they
• 1:19:24
  want to sell their own bad food. OK, So their language, their own
• 1:19:28
  snacks and stuff. So it's all playing together.
• 1:19:31
  Everybody's. Of course you give it to the one
• 1:19:32
  who was with you for past 20 years, OK, Well, he did it.
• 1:19:36
  He did say OK and told people I'm giving it to a person who
• 1:19:39
  knows me, who knows this farm, who knows every little detail
• 1:19:42
  about farming and happily ever after.
• 1:19:45
  He gave him the key and he left this world.
• 1:19:48
  But those people were not happy with this.
• 1:19:51
  This person was living in his household with his family in
• 1:19:55
  this farm and he was protecting this farm.
• 1:19:57
  They came and they said either you give us the key or we will
• 1:20:01
  come and we will burn the whole farm.
• 1:20:06
  And they came and they burned that door, and the lady came.
• 1:20:10
  Well, right now this is the case.
• 1:20:12
  Well, this is the event of Fatimiya Amira Mumini.
• 1:20:15
  Fatimid Zara Rasulullah. The farmer stays in their mind.
• 1:20:18
  Yeah. It's more digestible.
• 1:20:20
  There you go. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.
• 1:20:21
  Rather just being historical, you have to how this says, make
• 1:20:25
  it easy for them. If you have a Sabi kid, be kid
• 1:20:28
  like them. Literally be a kid back.
• 1:20:30
  To them on their level. To the level Rasul Allah, Amir
• 1:20:33
  Morminian, they used to kneel on the ground and the kids will
• 1:20:36
  come on their shoulder and they will play with them.
• 1:20:39
  So when you have that level until tell them everything with
• 1:20:42
  the story. Give them everything.
• 1:20:45
  Hello, just like the Quran, that's all stories, that's it.
• 1:20:47
  You know, adults, we benefit from it.
• 1:20:48
  Yeah. And I think that's that's a very
• 1:20:50
  practical way I'll implementation on the door
• 1:20:54
  Inshallah. Inshallah.
• 1:20:55
  I you know, we live in a day and age where Hamdullah we are
• 1:21:01
  blessed with technology and at times technology can either
• 1:21:04
  become a blessing or it can. Become a curse, right?
• 1:21:07
  Yeah, yeah. We've seen technology ruined
• 1:21:09
  families, We've seen technology destroy children, be it them
• 1:21:17
  coming across inappropriate content or having access to the
• 1:21:22
  world and different ideas and different things that we
• 1:21:28
  shouldn't look at as Muslims, Yes, but at the same time,
• 1:21:31
  there's also benefit in technology.
• 1:21:33
  And one thing is like Charlotte of the Mahara podcast as well,
• 1:21:36
  but the benefits of technology is that we also have access to
• 1:21:40
  reach out to children. And in the world where
• 1:21:45
  technology's part and parcel of every home almost, I don't know
• 1:21:49
  a single child who doesn't own at least one gadget, be it a
• 1:21:53
  watch that's for children, or be it an iPad or an iPhone or have
• 1:21:58
  share of some form of technology.
• 1:22:00
  All right. So there is a way where our
• 1:22:03
  children are consuming content, our children are watching TV,
• 1:22:07
  our children are watching YouTube, our children are coming
• 1:22:10
  across gaming and gaming is a huge, huge thing.
• 1:22:14
  We've seen as much in my, I remember as a kid when it came
• 1:22:20
  to games, we had no choice. We ever had, like in my family,
• 1:22:25
  I ever had to have a game that had no music.
• 1:22:27
  I had to have a game that had. No blood, no gun, no.
• 1:22:31
  Guns no, you know, even if like a few of the skin is that I
• 1:22:36
  can't play even on my I was like, I don't know San Andreas
• 1:22:40
  GTAI remember was 12. I told Baba, you know, let's go
• 1:22:44
  because it had to be 18 plus. Why is the game, the intro was
• 1:22:48
  inappropriate to the game. But these are the things like,
• 1:22:52
  but, but now we can have an option to give our children.
• 1:22:55
  And I know there's a project you're working on, and I'm very
• 1:22:58
  interested to learn more about it.
• 1:23:01
  And I'm sure our listeners and our audience will be very
• 1:23:03
  interested to see an alternative for our kids because we're
• 1:23:06
  tired. I'm tired of constantly, for
• 1:23:09
  example, watching what they're playing constantly, you know OK
• 1:23:12
  what's being played in the background.
• 1:23:14
  For example. What is the genre of the game
• 1:23:17
  like? What is the theme of the game?
• 1:23:19
  Sometimes the games there there is like morals.
• 1:23:22
  No doubt there is subliminal messages.
• 1:23:24
  Subliminal. And very famously, we have
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  something called Rob Roblox. I'm sure you've heard of this.
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  There are different servers and different walls that people can
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  get into. And it's it's, it's a disaster.
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  Basically. There's an entire wall that can
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  become very dangerous. But now I believe we're working
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  towards an alternative for our community in.
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  Particular Al Hamdallah, Yes, it's been Al Hamdallah.
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  It's been a five years journey, a five years university for me
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  actually, that I learned the game industry.
• 1:23:54
  I never was in the industry. I never played games maybe once
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  or twice when I was probably 9:00 or 10:00.
• 1:23:59
  And after that, I never, never find joy in it, never learned
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  anything from it. But five years ago we figured
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  out that unfortunately, our Shia community and the Muslim
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  community at large is missing the transferring of information
• 1:24:13
  to the kids. As much as we want our kids to
• 1:24:16
  learn about Akita ulaya, albeit morality, akhlaq and so on and
• 1:24:19
  so forth, they're not coming to our massages once a week.
• 1:24:23
  Saturday school, as we mentioned, is not enough or
• 1:24:25
  Sunday schooled and there was nothing done as far as terribie
• 1:24:28
  of at what upbringing, raising of children.
• 1:24:32
  There are books here, there from the some books, maybe animation
• 1:24:36
  here, there, 5 minutes here, 10 minutes there, a couple of
• 1:24:38
  books, stories, that's it. But something that will raise
• 1:24:42
  the children and will be A to the parents, will help the
• 1:24:46
  parents through the journey of upbringing.
• 1:24:50
  Hamdullah we started this thing that OK, the only thing that we
• 1:24:53
  can do to affect the kids is to meet them where they are, not
• 1:24:56
  bring them where we are. And that's the game industry
• 1:24:59
  brought a group of psychologists gave us a research, about a year
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  and a half of research of the development of kids from age 7
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  onward. We tell them until age 7, we
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  don't want anything for the kids.
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  They have to be free. 7 onward, they gave us research how how
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  they develop and what age they should learn what.
• 1:25:13
  And it was all a based on the Western research.
• 1:25:17
  And I told them, I'll take this. I brought a group of scholars,
• 1:25:20
  put them together, give us a hadith that will match and we
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  can drive these teachings from the teachings because they're
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  not trial and error basis. Everything is valid. 1400 years
• 1:25:32
  ago today and onward a scenario Hamdallah came together and
• 1:25:37
  after three years the production began 2 years ago and we made
• 1:25:43
  the first ever game that is based on the teachings of albeit
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  Alayhi Musalam and Quran completely the AKA, the
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  subliminal, the surface, all morality and akhlaq and the
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  quality. I told the team of almost 40
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  people, we have technical team that working on it and it hasn't
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  break my back Alhamdulillah breaking my back for the sake of
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  albeit Ali Musalam that I want. We are competing with the West,
• 1:26:13
  so it has to be that when a kid sees it as far as the quality,
• 1:26:17
  they see this game to be something that they really want
• 1:26:19
  to play. It's not that the parents OK
• 1:26:20
  forcing them OK you have to play and they get take the game.
• 1:26:23
  They're bored out of it for the 1st 5 minutes and they just put
• 1:26:26
  it aside. We might sold the game and we
• 1:26:28
  made the money so we can go to the next game, but that's not
• 1:26:32
  the mission. We want to make sure that the
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  kid so the bulk of the story is about these 12 trees that eleven
• 1:26:38
  of them were killed and this kid is going to go to see the
• 1:26:42
  journey to see what happened to these trees.
• 1:26:44
  And through it, we teach them Allah, we teach them morality.
• 1:26:47
  We talk, we teach them no to say to Haram, but none of them when
• 1:26:50
  a kid plays it doesn't think it's Islamic like a non she I
• 1:26:54
  will take the game. You won't understand the Shia
• 1:26:55
  game a Christian will play. They will understand it's a Shia
• 1:26:58
  game because it's morality based.
• 1:27:01
  And when they enter, they have a place for non music and music
• 1:27:03
  like we have given this option. You don't want music to be
• 1:27:05
  played in the game that they I'd say, and it's not a so some
• 1:27:10
  mirage even that music is allowed, but for some mirage
• 1:27:13
  that we understand that is not allowed.
• 1:27:15
  So we gave these two options to our followers and those people
• 1:27:19
  who will buy this game inshallah and they will support the next
• 1:27:22
  game is already the scenario. We're already working on it.
• 1:27:25
  The first game, it was a heck of a lot of money was needed and
• 1:27:29
  that's why I see no why nobody comes into it.
• 1:27:32
  And Terbia is something that we cannot see the effect right
• 1:27:34
  away. It's a long journey.
• 1:27:37
  So I told the team 3rd, 4th, 5th, 10 games we have to make.
• 1:27:40
  So inshallah the teaser will be the trailer will be released by
• 1:27:45
  you guys and they will be able to see it after the program.
• 1:27:48
  And Sharla, we hope we can sponsor programs that after
• 1:27:52
  matter podcast inshallah. We have good sell inshallah,
• 1:27:54
  inshallah and we have a long way to go together.
• 1:27:58
  Inshallah, no. This is an amazing project.
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  I I think it's something that it's needed.
• 1:28:02
  It's something that I think we should be supporting, especially
• 1:28:06
  in this day and age, in the 21st century.
• 1:28:09
  This is an alternative, no? Doubt.
• 1:28:12
  I would be happy knowing my girls, they're playing this
• 1:28:15
  game. The morality is in check, The
• 1:28:19
  Akhlaq is in check, the storyline, it's.
• 1:28:24
  What else do you want? Yeah.
• 1:28:25
  I mean, you can't go wrong. And it's a safe space.
• 1:28:27
  And I think it's nice to allow our young children to enjoy
• 1:28:30
  life, have fun in a very safe environment.
• 1:28:34
  And this is 1 means I think I'm looking forward.
• 1:28:36
  I'm really looking forward. And Shallah, maybe the maybe.
• 1:28:42
  Am I the first to know? I'm not sure.
• 1:28:43
  Am I the first to know? Yes, I mean we haven't released
• 1:28:47
  a trailer after Merkel would have the exclusive to be the
• 1:28:51
  first channel to broadcast the trailer inshallah and we're
• 1:28:56
  watching it on either idea in Charlotte.
• 1:28:58
  It's about almost 8 hours give or take gameplay that they can
• 1:29:02
  play and they can. You will enjoy it, the quality
• 1:29:04
  and the storyline inshallah. And we love all the feedbacks
• 1:29:07
  that people inshallah when they downloaded to give us the
• 1:29:08
  feedback because we were working on the second game already.
• 1:29:11
  I promised my mom I wouldn't lose my hope.
• 1:29:14
  The world's first game built entirely on Islamic educational
• 1:29:18
  and developmental principles. The first game that lays the
• 1:29:21
  groundwork for deep rooted foundational upbringing from
• 1:29:24
  early childhood. The first game that revives
• 1:29:26
  traditional Islamic upbringing through innovative, entertaining
• 1:29:29
  educational methods. The first game that speaks your
• 1:29:32
  child's language while conveying profound religious and human
• 1:29:35
  values. A game that builds your children
• 1:29:37
  with purpose and care. It nurtures and raises a
• 1:29:40
  generation of faith and commitment.
• 1:29:42
  Our goal is simple, to raise and develop extraordinary
• 1:29:45
  individuals through the power of play.
• 1:29:47
  An upbringing that flows naturally from within
• 1:29:49
  entertainment. An upbringing that's easy,
• 1:29:52
  engaging, Islamic, and purposeful.
• 1:29:54
  A different game for a different generation.
• 1:29:57
  In a world overwhelmed by cultural, moral and ideological
• 1:30:01
  threats to the next generation, we've created the world's first
• 1:30:04
  global game inspired by Islamic Shia upbringing.
• 1:30:07
  A game whose mission goes far beyond entertainment.
• 1:30:10
  It shapes tomorrow's leaders into faithful, responsible and
• 1:30:15
  impactful leaders built upon cutting edge educational and
• 1:30:18
  psychological methods. The future begins today.
• 1:30:22
  Join us on a journey of deep, accessible and inspiring
• 1:30:25
  transformation. A new era of upbringing has
• 1:30:28
  begun. We Allah, we Allah give you the
• 1:30:31
  toffee to continue this work and make more because I I really
• 1:30:34
  think this is this is a gap that's being filled in our
• 1:30:37
  community. And so I'll send to him and
• 1:30:40
  hands out to all the team that you have.
• 1:30:42
  I've got a final question, Chef. Sure.
• 1:30:44
  And and I think it's one that's important, one that allows
• 1:30:48
  myself also to reflect my relationship with the Imam of my
• 1:30:51
  time. I always ask whenever I meet
• 1:30:55
  with learned. Well, I'm a scholars speakers.
• 1:30:58
  I teachers and I I ask almost the same question and they all
• 1:31:02
  have the like the unique way on how to answer it.
• 1:31:05
  But they all have the same answer then, don't they?
• 1:31:07
  If you want so no. So I have a Zimmer.
• 1:31:10
  You need to build them out of it.
• 1:31:11
  You need to build recognition of who the imam of your time is.
• 1:31:15
  But how does it work with children?
• 1:31:17
  Because I like, like I generally I struggle with this to, to
• 1:31:24
  explain because at times I feel like when I sort of explain Imam
• 1:31:27
  Zaman, they sort of compare it to Allah, Azzawajal, the unseen
• 1:31:31
  world, believing in the unseen. But how do we tell them of the
• 1:31:37
  12th Imam correctly? Young children, I'm talking four
• 1:31:40
  years old, five years old, six years old, even as far as 7 and
• 1:31:44
  how do we prepare them in their life journey to have like
• 1:31:49
  similar how you done with your children?
• 1:31:50
  You'd mentioned Sahaba Zaman. Thank a lot.
• 1:31:53
  In that sense, how can we do that to our children, prepare
• 1:31:56
  them to become a Charlotte, part of the Army?
• 1:31:58
  Yes, about 12 and Charlotte. Our kids have to see that the
• 1:32:03
  life of their parents is around service to Mama Zaman.
• 1:32:09
  When they see this, that the priority of my father, priority
• 1:32:13
  of my mother is about Imam and Samad is about reading.
• 1:32:17
  Do I had on daily basis reading Zahad Ali Haseen, reading Do I
• 1:32:21
  not be on Friday and always remembering Imam and Samad
• 1:32:26
  during the day? The kids are watching from young
• 1:32:30
  age, from day one, from all they're in the womb of their
• 1:32:34
  mother. They are hearing us.
• 1:32:36
  So if I always, if I have Imama Zaman always with me and the
• 1:32:41
  focal point of my life is to satisfy him, they're learning
• 1:32:44
  it. We don't have to tell him
• 1:32:46
  anything that right now, whatever I did or what I like to
• 1:32:49
  Allah to satisfy Mama Zaman. Everything I do or how do I know
• 1:32:53
  I satisfy Mama Zaman is a Mama Zaman happy with this.
• 1:32:56
  Every decision I made is about Imama.
• 1:32:59
  The more they hear it, the more they hear that even I'm working
• 1:33:02
  right now. I'm blessed to be serving the
• 1:33:04
  cause of Mama Zaman in this cloth and in this journey that
• 1:33:07
  I'm in. So they know that my kids know I
• 1:33:09
  sacrifice them and I will sacrifice my family for my
• 1:33:13
  service. I'll try to provide and I will
• 1:33:16
  try to do everything for them. The best of life, happy life,
• 1:33:20
  everything. But they know when it comes to
• 1:33:21
  my service and to them, that's a priority.
• 1:33:25
  So they know all this traveling, oh, Baba's traveling again, you
• 1:33:28
  know, as Hamdullah, blessed to travel a lot.
• 1:33:31
  They know they will never complain.
• 1:33:32
  And then they know that at the end, I'm going to serve Mama
• 1:33:35
  Zaman. I'm going to spread the
• 1:33:36
  knowledge of activity on himself.
• 1:33:38
  So our kids must see for all of us as a parent that first, as we
• 1:33:42
  mentioned, all of the blessings that we have is because of Mama
• 1:33:44
  Zaman. Every good happens to us is
• 1:33:45
  because of Mama Zaman. So first is Mahabhat because you
• 1:33:47
  don't have the kind of that much matter of fact, the age 567.
• 1:33:51
  So that's the love first when they grow up right now you know
• 1:33:54
  Imam and Zaman. Let me start reading a couple of
• 1:33:56
  books. Mikhail and Mikharim doing dua
• 1:33:59
  for Imam and Zaman, always doing dua for Imam and Zaman.
• 1:34:03
  You want something for something, do the offer Imam and
• 1:34:05
  Zaman. We go and show all of us.
• 1:34:07
  We take our kids to Arvain and Karbala when we are under the
• 1:34:11
  dawn of Abdullah Hussain. Do offer Imam.
• 1:34:13
  You are sick. You want to get you want to do
• 1:34:15
  the offer yourself first to offer Imam and Zaman your dad is
• 1:34:19
  poor. You want to do the Allah make
• 1:34:21
  him wealthy, do the offer Mama Zaman.
• 1:34:23
  So the more they see that everything we want first we have
• 1:34:25
  to do it for Mama Zaman. They see this, they will learn
• 1:34:29
  it and they will be part of insha'allah.
• 1:34:31
  And actually comes to my mind Hamdullah do all of the father
• 1:34:34
  for the children. Hadith says do all of the father
• 1:34:38
  for his children do all of the mother has his own place no
• 1:34:41
  doubt, but the specific hadith the do all of the father for his
• 1:34:44
  children equals the do all of the prophet for his nation.
• 1:34:50
  So Doha as a father and your father was seeing this plus
• 1:34:54
  mothers both of them Allahu Maja al NI waja al Uladi with the
• 1:34:59
  real team and Hodam and Aja Allah make me and my children to
• 1:35:03
  be part of us to be part of Hodam always in our Doha in
• 1:35:06
  Salah today in that Allah all my generation until the all to be
• 1:35:12
  the servant of about Abdullah al Hussein Imam Zaman Amir Mummini
• 1:35:15
  Doha really matters. Doha really helps.
• 1:35:19
  Sound so beautiful? That's a reminder.
• 1:35:21
  It's a powerful reminder. The fact that sometimes all it
• 1:35:24
  takes is. No doubt, no doubt.
• 1:35:27
  Well, instead of just praying for ourselves, no, we pray for
• 1:35:31
  our children and Charlotte. We pray for the hastening of the
• 1:35:34
  reappearance of the amount of our time.
• 1:35:37
  And it's beautiful to raise them on that love of Imam Net.
• 1:35:40
  Yeah, maybe we can't give them matter for yet.
• 1:35:42
  Yes, but the love to build that love and similar, that's how we
• 1:35:45
  do it with ABBA Abdullah. It's all right.
• 1:35:49
  Even the, the service that we do to all the allebates, I have
• 1:35:52
  love for them, yes, and we will move mountains to serve them.
• 1:35:55
  It's very true, Habib Shekhna. I I, I really thank you for
• 1:35:58
  today. There is.
• 1:35:59
  So much for me to learn from and I'm sure I'm listening and
• 1:36:02
  watching. There's so much tips and tricks.
• 1:36:04
  It's all learned from all the students of.
• 1:36:07
  We all give you the toffee. Continue your service, I would
• 1:36:10
  say, you know, I feel, I feel that for your kids.
• 1:36:13
  Yeah. And you can fly 24/7 before the
• 1:36:15
  imam and so on. I just want you to come back to
• 1:36:17
  London, Inshallah, Inshallah. I don't know if there's any
• 1:36:21
  final words. No, thank you so much.
• 1:36:23
  I really appreciate you after my podcast and the team giving this
• 1:36:27
  opportunity for us to come and give whatever we know and share
• 1:36:31
  it with people knowledge of and the Quran continue.
• 1:36:35
  Don't give up. It's going to be bumpy Rd.
• 1:36:37
  More and more but inshallah bigger projects are coming ahead
• 1:36:42
  and we can collaborate to serve the cause of Mamazawan.
• 1:36:45
  Inshallah, thank you so much for your time, for your wisdom and
• 1:36:50
  your advice to views around the world.
• 1:36:53
  Once again, I want to say congratulations to you on either
• 1:36:56
  the auspicious occasion where we celebrate our master, our molar
• 1:37:01
  and we remember when we say man, Kunta, Mullah, Fahadahani and
• 1:37:04
  Mullah, like even as I'm saying, it brings, it brings joy, it
• 1:37:07
  brings joy, joy to this heart. And this is Charlotte, this joy
• 1:37:10
  and this love and this Muhammad, this will lie that we were
• 1:37:13
  raised on. We passed it down correctly to
• 1:37:15
  our children. So this continues in Charlotte
• 1:37:17
  until the day of judgement. I really hope you enjoyed this
• 1:37:22
  episodes. If you know there are new
• 1:37:24
  parents, if you know there are parents struggling or raising
• 1:37:26
  children, please share this episode with them so inshallah
• 1:37:29
  we can make their life easy. I know I learned a lot and
• 1:37:33
  inshallah we see you again. The next week episode was Salaam
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  Alaikum Allahi.