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#HURDLEMOMENT: Feeling Overwhelmed? Listen to This, ASAP · Hurdle with Emily Abbate

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  Speaker 1: We all tackle hurdles on a day today basis, and
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  Speaker 1: getting over them starts with being honest with yourself. If
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  Speaker 1: you feel overwhelmed, and hey, we all do at times.
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  Speaker 1: Step one to getting through the fog is to admit
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  Speaker 1: to yourself what's going on, have some grace, and then
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  Speaker 1: push forward with an action plan.
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  Speaker 2: Hey, Hurdler's Emily A. Badi here bringing you another installment.
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  Speaker 1: Of Hurdle Moment from Hurdle this week, I am chatting
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  Speaker 1: about how to handle the feeling of overwhelm. Listen, I
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  Speaker 1: have been there. In fact, I kind of feel as
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  Speaker 1: though I am there right now. It always happens this
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  Speaker 1: time of year. People are really excited to get back
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  Speaker 1: into the swing of things after perhaps checking out a little.
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  Speaker 2: Bit for the summer.
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  Speaker 1: And I feel like it may be extra big this
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  Speaker 1: feeling this year because some people are getting back into
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  Speaker 1: the swing of things for the first time all year.
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  Speaker 2: Because twenty twenty and so here we are.
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  Speaker 1: Our inboxes are boppin', people are enthusiastic, People want to
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  Speaker 1: make deals, get answers, be a little bit aggressive, and
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  Speaker 1: it can feel like a lot. Yeah, sounds familiar, right.
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  Speaker 1: Here's the deal. First and foremost you are not alone,
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  Speaker 1: and that's why I am chatting about it on this
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  Speaker 1: week's installment of Hurdle Moment. And second of all, before
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  Speaker 1: I get into this, I just want to put out
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  Speaker 1: an essential reminder into the universe that you can be
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  Speaker 1: the bigger person in this situation. So although it may
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  Speaker 1: be instinctive to feel a little bit reactive or get
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  Speaker 1: a little defensive when people demand things of you during
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  Speaker 1: this time, have some grace ease into it.
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  Speaker 2: Understand it's all going to be okay.
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  Speaker 1: We can handle hard things, and it's onward and upward
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  Speaker 1: from here.
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  Speaker 2: Anyway. Of course, now is not the.
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  Speaker 1: Only time of year where you may be feeling a
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  Speaker 1: little bit overwhelmed. In fact, overwhelmed can come at any
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  Speaker 1: time in many forms. But what's important, regardless of when
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  Speaker 1: these feelings of uneasiness pop up, is that you have
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  Speaker 1: the tools that you need to get through it. And
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  Speaker 1: so that's what I'm offering up for this week's Hurdle Moment.
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  Speaker 1: If you are joining in for the Hurdle book Club tonight,
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  Speaker 1: in these show notes here. If you happen to be
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  Speaker 1: listening to this episode on release day. Also, if you
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  Speaker 1: love for you to do that.
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  Speaker 2: The link to do that as well is also in
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  Speaker 2: the show notes.
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  Speaker 2: So yesterday I am sitting at my desk.
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  Speaker 1: I realized that it had been about twelve minutes give
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  Speaker 1: or take since I had done anything, and I was
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  Speaker 1: just blankly staring at my screen feeling completely stuck. Sounds familiar,
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  Speaker 1: I'm sure it does, because we've all been there this
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  Speaker 1: time of year, super overwhelming, and I knew in that
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  Speaker 1: moment that I needed to get up and change something
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  Speaker 1: about the circumstance. So I took a walk around the block.
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  Speaker 1: The walk may or may not have ended in my
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  Speaker 1: local grocery store. I grabbed two different types of ice
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  Speaker 1: cream and a bag of Peda chips, came home, had
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  Speaker 1: some of said ice cream and a couple of said
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  Speaker 1: Peda chips, poured myself a tall glass of water, and
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  Speaker 1: got back into the swing of things. And listen, everyone
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  Speaker 1: is going to have different strategies that work for them.
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  Speaker 1: But here I am today to share some of my
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  Speaker 1: full proof strategies that helped me navigate that ever popular,
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  Speaker 1: often loathed feeling of feeling overwhelmed. My first strategy get
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  Speaker 1: up and move without fail. Even in the height of COVID.
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  Speaker 1: If I needed to get out of my own way,
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  Speaker 1: the first thing I would do would be put on
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  Speaker 1: some shoes, walk down the stairs, and take a walk
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  Speaker 1: around the block. Now, granted, not every walk ends at
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  Speaker 1: the grocery store with ice cream in hand, and that's okay.
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  Speaker 1: Sometimes just changing your venue, changing your circumstance, shifting a
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  Speaker 1: little bit, can help you get your brain going in
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  Speaker 1: a different direction and can help you think more clearly.
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  Speaker 1: For me, this break, it might only be ten minutes,
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  Speaker 1: But those ten minutes are my opportunity to give back
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  Speaker 1: to myself. My next strategy for handling that feeling of
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  Speaker 1: overwhelmed talk to someone about it. I think oftentimes when
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  Speaker 1: we feel this way, we feel as though we are
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  Speaker 1: the only person that is feeling this way, and that
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  Speaker 1: is so not true. So nine times out of ten,
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  Speaker 1: I bet if you were to reach out to a
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  Speaker 1: friend and say, oh, today is just not my day, they.
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  Speaker 2: Might be like, actually, today's not my day either.
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  Speaker 1: You are not alone, So open up to a friend,
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  Speaker 1: talk to them about what is going on, and perhaps
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  Speaker 1: that friend can be the person you can bounce an
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  Speaker 1: idea off of maybe there is something in particular with
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  Speaker 1: work that is making you feel stuck, or even help
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  Speaker 1: you just vent on some anxieties. For me, oftentimes that
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  Speaker 1: feeling of overwhelm it's not attributed to one specific incidence
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  Speaker 1: or an event, but rather to a multitude of events
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  Speaker 1: that just feel as though they are boiling over. So
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  Speaker 1: when you vocalize what's going on, when you get something
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  Speaker 1: off of your chest, it can definitely help you a
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  Speaker 1: gain new perspective and be just alleviate some of that
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  Speaker 1: tension that's just built up in there, you know, I
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  Speaker 1: think so often also, we just want to be strong, right,
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  Speaker 1: We don't want to give off the vibe that something
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  Speaker 1: is up. But in this effort of wanting to be strong,
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  Speaker 1: in this effort of trying to quote unquote save face,
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  Speaker 1: you're not necessarily always taking care of your best interests
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  Speaker 1: and perhaps not really valuing your mental health. It's okay
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  Speaker 1: to not be okay. It's okay to feel this way,
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  Speaker 1: and the best thing that you can do to get
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  Speaker 1: out of your own way is sometimes to let somebody else.
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  Speaker 1: In my next strategy for dealing with overwhelm, write things down.
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  Speaker 1: Oftentimes we can't articulate necessarily where this feeling is coming
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  Speaker 1: from or why it is that we are in this
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  Speaker 1: quote unquote rut.
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  Speaker 2: But when you.
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  Speaker 1: Start to write things down, you may be able to identify, Hey,
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  Speaker 1: there's something that's really weighing on me that maybe I
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  Speaker 1: didn't exactly realize. This is a big reason why journaling
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  Speaker 1: is in my regular routine. It's how I start each
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  Speaker 1: and every day, finishing off the journal entry with a
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  Speaker 1: highlight something that was positive for my past twenty four hours.
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  Speaker 1: It helps me start things on an optimistic foot. It
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  Speaker 1: lets me vent, even if it's just to myself on
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  Speaker 1: some white lined pages and a small gray notebook, and
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  Speaker 1: gives me the chance just to be me as I
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  Speaker 1: am unfiltered on the writing things down tip. My next
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  Speaker 1: suggestion for navigating overwhelm is to make some sort of
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  Speaker 1: doable to do list. You know, I love the smart goals, specific, measurable, attainable, realistic,
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  Speaker 1: and time bound. And although your to do list might
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  Speaker 1: have a few of these, what's important is that your
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  Speaker 1: to do list is just that. I can't reiterate this
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  Speaker 1: enough doable. If you feel overwhelmed, I suggest that you
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  Speaker 1: write down three or four action items that you know
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  Speaker 1: you can complete that day, Even the smallest thing like
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  Speaker 1: do the dishes in the sink, or make the bed,
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  Speaker 1: or send XYZ this important email. Those things they might
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  Speaker 1: not take a lot of time, but seeing the check mark,
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  Speaker 1: seeing that action item completed, it's something that makes you
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  Speaker 1: feel productive. It helps you get out of your own
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  Speaker 1: way and enables you to then perhaps check off the
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  Speaker 1: bigger items on that to do list. Once you feel
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  Speaker 1: productive despite your overwhelm, it opens up the doors for
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  Speaker 1: you to take back the control that you feel as.
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  Speaker 2: Though you have lost.
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  Speaker 1: My last tip today for navigating the feeling of overwhelm
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  Speaker 1: is perhaps the most critical.
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  Speaker 2: Admit it to yourself.
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  Speaker 1: If you don't recognize the issue, you cannot take action
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  Speaker 1: against it. Again, if you do not recognize the issue,
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  Speaker 1: you cannot take action against it.
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  Speaker 2: We all tackle hurdle.
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  Speaker 1: On a day to day basis, and getting over them
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  Speaker 1: starts with being honest with yourself. If you feel overwhelmed,
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  Speaker 1: and hey, we all do it times. Step one to
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  Speaker 1: getting through the fog is to admit to yourself what's
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  Speaker 1: going on, have some grace, and then push forward with
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  Speaker 1: an action plan. Approaching this period this anxiety with an
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  Speaker 1: I can attitude instead of feeling as though you are
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  Speaker 1: drowning and you can't. That is what's going to help
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  Speaker 1: you make it through to the other side. I've been there,
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  Speaker 1: You've been there. We're all going through it at one
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  Speaker 1: time or another. Show up, admit, make smart goals, actionable
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  Speaker 1: to do lists, talk to a friend, take.
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  Speaker 2: A break and be kind.
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  Speaker 1: Now, go ahead, kick some butt and let me know
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  Speaker 1: how it goes again. Tag me on Instagram at Emily
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  Speaker 1: a Body at Hurdle podcasts and conquer what the day
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  Speaker 1: has to offer.
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  Speaker 2: Another hurdle conquered. Catch you guys next time.