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My boyfriend FARTED in my face in front of all our friends... and never once apologized! -r/BORUpdates | Reddit Stories | EP3135 · ok storytime

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  Speaker 1: in my face in front of all of our friends
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  Speaker 1: and never once apologized.
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  Speaker 3: That's gross.
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  Speaker 1: My boyfriend, 21 male, and I, 22 female, were hanging
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  Speaker 1: out with a group of friends at someone's house. Everyone
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  Speaker 1: was joking around and some of the guys were farting
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  Speaker 1: and burping as dumb jokes. What do you mean dumb jokes?
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  Speaker 3: They're the best kind of jokes.
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  Speaker 1: Those are classic.
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  Speaker 3: Comedy gold.
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  Speaker 1: I wasn't a fan of it, but I laughed along
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  Speaker 1: because everyone else was. I was lying on the floor
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  Speaker 1: and my boyfriend was sitting next to me. He started
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  Speaker 1: farting for fun. Whoa. I looked disgusted and told him
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  Speaker 1: to stop. But instead, he leaned over and farted directly
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  Speaker 1: in my face. That's so good. I would have been like, ah!
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  Speaker 1: But also, I would have been like, you got me.
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  Speaker 3: Basically asked for it. Yeah. Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: I'm not going to hold that against you. I think
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  Speaker 1: that it's so funny. Some people are probably like, oh
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  Speaker 1: my god, what's wrong with you? You're so immature. I
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  Speaker 1: think that is the funniest thing you could do to someone. Truthfully.
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  Speaker 4: Especially after they were like, don't.
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  Speaker 1: Stop. Don't do it. Everyone burst out laughing. I immediately
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  Speaker 1: yelled at him, pushed him away, hit him in the chest,
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  Speaker 1: and hid under a blanket because I felt completely humiliated.
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  Speaker 1: People kept laughing and saying things like, he.
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  Speaker 5: Farted in his girlfriend's face.
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  Speaker 4: Is that they were only saying things like that?
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  Speaker 6: He farted in his girlfriend's face.
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  Speaker 1: Everyone point and laugh.
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  Speaker 7: He farted in his girlfriend's face.
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  Speaker 1: What hurt me the most was that my boyfriend was
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  Speaker 1: laughing too. Yeah.
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  Speaker 3: Because it's funny.
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  Speaker 1: It's a joke. Huh? If there was something left on
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  Speaker 1: your face, that's a different story. But this was just
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  Speaker 1: a little puff. A little air. Just a little dusting.
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  Speaker 1: A little stinky air. He tried to hug me and
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  Speaker 1: call me babe right when he saw I hid under
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  Speaker 1: the blanket, but I pushed him away again and went
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  Speaker 1: to sit alone in another room.
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  Speaker 8: I like to imagine that under the blanket the whole time.
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  Speaker 8: It never came out from under the blanket.
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  Speaker 1: That is literally the stupidest thing. That is just so dumb.
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  Speaker 1: I don't even think Her acting this way is more
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  Speaker 1: immature than what he did.
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  Speaker 3: I think OP must not have grown up with brothers
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  Speaker 3: because that is a daily occurrence.
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  Speaker 1: He never came to me to apologize that day. On
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  Speaker 1: the drive home, he didn't speak to me at all
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  Speaker 1: and acted like I was the one who had done
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  Speaker 1: something wrong for yelling at him in front of everyone.
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  Speaker 3: And I'm Adrian.
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  Speaker 4: And I'm Dakota.
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  Speaker 1: And we're here to give some good advice, but we
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  Speaker 1: don't have all your answers. We're only going to tell
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  Speaker 1: you what we would do, and I would do exactly.
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  Speaker 3: What- I was going to say, we might not be
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  Speaker 3: mature enough for good advice on this one.
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  Speaker 1: But I would do exactly what the guy, what OP's
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  Speaker 1: boyfriend did. And if you have a problem with that,
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  Speaker 1: say it in the comments. As Opie says, when I
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  Speaker 1: got home, I blocked him on the app we normally
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  Speaker 1: use to chat. I was so mad because he was
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  Speaker 1: giving me this silent treatment the whole time instead of apologizing.
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  Speaker 1: He only did it once and when I pushed him away,
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  Speaker 1: he stopped and never came to me again and acted
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  Speaker 1: like I was the one to blame. I didn't block
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  Speaker 1: his phone number or my other social media accounts, so
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  Speaker 1: he still had plenty of ways to contact me if
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  Speaker 1: he wanted to. I also unfollowed his Instagram too. It's
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  Speaker 1: been a week now and we still haven't spoken. He
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  Speaker 1: hasn't made a single attempt to contact me. I only
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  Speaker 1: had two of his friends, not those from that day,
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  Speaker 1: and both of them have unfollowed and removed me from Instagram.
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  Speaker 1: Less than four days after everything happened, he started following
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  Speaker 1: three new girls and they had private accounts and they
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  Speaker 1: followed him back. Since then, he's continued following more girls
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  Speaker 1: and today I noticed another new one. I unfollowed and
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  Speaker 1: removed him the day we argued, but I can still
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  Speaker 1: tell who he's following because they keep showing up in
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  Speaker 1: his Instagram suggestions. I honestly feel like there's nothing inside.
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  Speaker 1: I've done nothing but cry this entire week while it
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  Speaker 1: feels like he's already moved on and is talking to
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  Speaker 1: other girls as if our relationship meant nothing. I'm gonna
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  Speaker 1: pause there. Girl, you don't even want to talk to him,
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  Speaker 1: so why are you being mad that he's not talking
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  Speaker 1: to you? Like... he tried to apologize and you're like, no,
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  Speaker 1: get away from me. And he's like, okay, I guess like, yeah,
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  Speaker 1: maybe he should have like tried again to apologize, but
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  Speaker 1: also this is weird.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah.
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  Speaker 3: It's a two way street. You know, it feels like
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  Speaker 3: you also don't want to talk, get him back. So yeah,
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  Speaker 3: it feels like a mutual sort of discombobulation.
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  Speaker 1: Is that a word? Discombobulated.
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  Speaker 8: He's just a, he's just a farts first fella, you know,
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  Speaker 8: he's a, he's a, he's a fart centric kind of guy.
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  Speaker 1: And, You should be. If you're not, I don't want
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  Speaker 1: to talk to you. I like, yeah. Okay. So everyone's like,
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  Speaker 1: Oh P like you broke up, blah, blah, blah. And
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  Speaker 1: it is because you're, yeah, you're like being like really
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  Speaker 1: big baby about it. And like, you know, it's fine.
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  Speaker 1: It's not like it ruined your entire life.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: It was probably embarrassing, but why don't you bring that
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  Speaker 1: up then to him instead of him? Like, you're like,
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  Speaker 1: he needs to apologize. He needs to bring it up. Well,
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  Speaker 1: you're the one with the issue. So you need to
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  Speaker 1: be like, Hey, that wasn't cool that you did that. The, the, the,
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  Speaker 1: Next time, I'm not going to be cool about it.
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  Speaker 1: All this stuff. It's like, I don't know. And you
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  Speaker 1: guys haven't talked for a week. You're broken up. Sorry
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  Speaker 1: to say, but you're broken up.
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  Speaker 3: And I feel like his sense of humor is probably
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  Speaker 3: a big part of his personality. So it sounds like
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  Speaker 3: you don't even vibe on that level. Exactly.
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  Speaker 1: So that's like incompatibility now.
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  Speaker 3: Find you a man who holds in his farts. Good luck.
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  Speaker 1: And good luck.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, good luck.
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  Speaker 1: Until yesterday, I refused to follow any guys because I
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  Speaker 1: didn't want to become the kind of person I thought
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  Speaker 1: he was becoming.
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  Speaker 8: Okay?
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  Speaker 1: I wanted to respect what we had. What you had. Like,
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  Speaker 1: notice that it's past tense.
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  Speaker 3: Already past tense.
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  Speaker 1: Because you're done. Like, you know, you're fighting about farts.
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  Speaker 1: Why don't you just bring that up to him? Be like, hey,
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  Speaker 1: I didn't appreciate blah, blah, blah. And he could have
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  Speaker 1: been like, oh, hey, I'm sorry about that. But instead
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  Speaker 1: you're like, he hasn't apologized. And so I'm still mad.
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  Speaker 1: And now he's following other girls and he hasn't talked
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  Speaker 1: to me in a week.
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  Speaker 6: Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: Cause you just did not bring that up that that
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  Speaker 1: was a big deal. Like if you have, if you
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  Speaker 1: have something wrong, just say it, just say it. But
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  Speaker 1: now it feels like to him, the relationship is completely
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  Speaker 1: over and he's never coming back. Part of me wants
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  Speaker 1: to start following guys just to see if he'd react.
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  Speaker 1: But another part of me feels like that would only
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  Speaker 1: make me no different from him. I genuinely don't know
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  Speaker 1: what to do anymore. I'm completely heartbroken. I can't believe
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  Speaker 1: it's over. I just can't. We didn't just have a
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  Speaker 1: normal relationship. We were really close and he was my everything.
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  Speaker 1: I saw my future with him and he also did.
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  Speaker 1: We were just going to celebrate our anniversary next month
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  Speaker 1: and invite everyone. How am I supposed to accept this
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  Speaker 1: and move on? And there are some comments.
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  Speaker 2: But.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, you just got to be like, listen, I guess
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  Speaker 1: we're done here. Like, you know, that's it. If you
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  Speaker 1: want to talk about it, talk about it. But, like,
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  Speaker 1: you're trying to leave the door open for him. I
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  Speaker 1: think he's done.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, like, if you're serious about getting him back, have
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  Speaker 3: a conversation with him. Don't be, like, waiting for him, playing, like,
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  Speaker 3: mind games with Instagram follows. Go have a conversation. Or,
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  Speaker 3: if you really want to get him back, go and
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  Speaker 3: fart on him.
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  Speaker 1: And that's also true.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: And then boom, even. Even and you're back together.
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  Speaker 3: It's like a rom-com. Imagine if the third act of
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  Speaker 3: a rom-com, someone just shows up and farts.
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  Speaker 1: It's like, I love him.
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  Speaker 4: It's like the end of Jerry Maguire, but he just,
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  Speaker 4: she just comes back and goes, I.
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  Speaker 1: Poop, you poop me. There are some comments. Training Laugh
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  Speaker 1: 4304 says, pretty sure you're broken up. OP, OP's response
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  Speaker 1: was downvoted. How am I supposed to accept this? Our
• 9:00
  Speaker 1: relationship wasn't just some casual relationship. We were incredibly close.
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  Speaker 1: We saw each other every single night because neither of
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  Speaker 1: us could stand going even one night without seeing the other.
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  Speaker 1: We made the best memories together and experienced everything together,
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  Speaker 1: just the two of us. We had even just come
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  Speaker 1: back from a trip together, and after that trip, I
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  Speaker 1: felt even more in love with him. I honestly can't
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  Speaker 1: handle this amount of pain. I don't know how I'm
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  Speaker 1: supposed to accept that someone who was my whole world
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  Speaker 1: just disappeared from my life like this. Listen to yourself.
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  Speaker 1: Read that back, like, three times. Hopefully, you would get
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  Speaker 1: it by the second time, but I'm just gonna say,
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  Speaker 1: read it a third time. And understand what you're trying
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  Speaker 1: to do here, because this is cray-cray. Like, what? She's
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  Speaker 1: literally just like, No, we're supposed to be together. We
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  Speaker 1: were soulmates. And I can't believe, like, he's making such
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  Speaker 1: a big deal out of me making such a big
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  Speaker 1: deal out of it. It's like, oh, my God. Legitimate
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  Speaker 1: Raspberry says, he humiliated you in public, gave you the
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  Speaker 1: silent treatment instead of apologizing, and is now playing mind
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  Speaker 1: games by following other girls. This shows a complete lack
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  Speaker 1: of respect. Move on and F that guy. I mean, yeah,
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  Speaker 1: there's also that side.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: Like, I'm not... I think... truthfully everyone kind of sucks
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  Speaker 1: here because no one's communicating but if i had to
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  Speaker 1: pick a side i'd pick his because you you just
• 10:24
  Speaker 1: sound very very desperate for this and just lp has
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  Speaker 1: a downvoted comment you're right i keep trying to remind
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  Speaker 1: myself that he humiliated me in front of his friends
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  Speaker 1: for fun and never said sorry but also i feel
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  Speaker 1: like i overreacted because everyone told me to calm down
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  Speaker 1: and stop making a big deal out of it it's
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  Speaker 1: been a week since that day He hasn't tried to
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  Speaker 1: reach out and he followed a bunch of pretty girls
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  Speaker 1: and it's just tearing me apart. The thing is, it
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  Speaker 1: shifted the focus away from what he did to me
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  Speaker 1: and turned it into a discussion about the girls he followed.
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  Speaker 1: Now all I want to do is know if he
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  Speaker 1: is doing it on purpose or he just never loved me.
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  Speaker 1: Lord Commander Minis says you block him and he is
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  Speaker 1: giving you the silent treatment? Yeah, what he did was reprehensible.
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  Speaker 1: but you are playing games too. Break up and grow up.
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  Speaker 5: Ooh, I like that.
• 11:21
  Speaker 1: More Kittens says, that's how I read it too. Both
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  Speaker 1: of them are a little immature, but they are young.
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  Speaker 1: OP with another, every time OP comments, it's downvoted. It's
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  Speaker 1: so funny. OP responds, may I ask you, how am
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  Speaker 1: I young? Wouldn't you get mad if the person you
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  Speaker 1: love and respect farted in your face in front of
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  Speaker 1: everyone for fun? Wouldn't you want an apology? Wouldn't you
• 11:45
  Speaker 1: block them for giving you the silent treatment instead of
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  Speaker 1: asking for your forgiveness? I'm just asking though.
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  Speaker 8: Also, yeah, no, I would. I hate the silent treatment
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  Speaker 8: so much. I would also, I would be very done
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  Speaker 8: on both sides.
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  Speaker 1: And then also OP adds, I'm not playing games at all.
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  Speaker 1: When we were on our way home, it was just
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  Speaker 1: the two of us. He didn't say a word to
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  Speaker 1: me and he didn't even look at me. I was
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  Speaker 1: expecting him to apologize to me at least, but he
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  Speaker 1: just gave me the silent treatment. And when he dropped
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  Speaker 1: me off at home and I got out of the car,
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  Speaker 1: he sped off like he was the one who had
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  Speaker 1: every right to be angry. As if I was the
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  Speaker 1: one who had done something wrong. Would you not have
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  Speaker 1: blocked him? Or would you have gone home and politely
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  Speaker 1: asked him to respect you and not fart in your
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  Speaker 1: face again? Was that an option? I did not see
• 12:35
  Speaker 1: that option in here. But that sounds like a pretty
• 12:37
  Speaker 1: good option. Politely asked him to respect you and not
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  Speaker 1: fart in your face again? Yeah, instead of not communicating
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  Speaker 1: at all and now you're broken up because you haven't
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  Speaker 1: talked in a week and now you're stalking his Instagram followers.
• 12:49
  Speaker 1: I think, yeah, I think if I had to choose
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  Speaker 1: two lanes, I'd probably go with the one that involves
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  Speaker 1: communicating about it.
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  Speaker 3: Remember, kids, 90% of relationship problems can be solved with communication.
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  Speaker 1: There you go. And farts sometimes.
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  Speaker 2: And farts.
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  Speaker 3: That's the other 10%.
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  Speaker 1: There is an update here.
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  Speaker 3: My God.
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  Speaker 1: Nine days later, I still can't believe this. I gave
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  Speaker 1: an entire year of my life to this man. He
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  Speaker 1: wasn't just my boyfriend. He was like my father.
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  Speaker 3: Whoa.
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  Speaker 1: My best friend. My family. My safe place. We spent
• 13:24
  Speaker 1: almost every night together, and every single corner of my
• 13:28
  Speaker 1: life is filled with memories of him. Every memory hits
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  Speaker 1: me out of nowhere, and I just start crying. He
• 13:34
  Speaker 1: always talked about our future. Just two or three days
• 13:37
  Speaker 1: before we broke up, we went on a three-day trip
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  Speaker 1: together and made some of the happiest memories of my life.
• 13:43
  Speaker 1: He kissed my hand and said, I'm so happy I
• 13:45
  Speaker 1: have you. Please never leave me. Whenever we argued before,
• 13:50
  Speaker 1: we'd make up within a day or two, even if
• 13:52
  Speaker 1: he blocked me. I'd call him several times and apologize
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  Speaker 1: and try to fix everything. So this was doomed from
• 13:58
  Speaker 1: the start because that's so toxic. Even if he blocked me,
• 14:01
  Speaker 1: I would just continue to call him 70,000 times so
• 14:04
  Speaker 1: that he'd pick up and know that I was sorry.
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  Speaker 4: I'd love to get this story from this guy's perspective.
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  Speaker 1: Three weeks ago, we had an argument about him farting
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  Speaker 1: in my face in front of our friends for fun.
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  Speaker 1: And I snapped and yelled at him and he gave
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  Speaker 1: me the silent treatment. And he was angry as if
• 14:20
  Speaker 1: I was guilty for yelling at him. For the first time,
• 14:23
  Speaker 1: I blocked him when I got home because I wanted
• 14:25
  Speaker 1: to see if he would fight for me the way
• 14:27
  Speaker 1: I always fought for him. That is so toxic. Oh
• 14:33
  Speaker 1: my God. OP, there's no way you're 22. You had
• 14:37
  Speaker 1: to have lied about that because if a 22-year-old is
• 14:39
  Speaker 1: acting this way, someone needs to do something.
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  Speaker 4: Hey, you know, some people are really fart sensitive.
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  Speaker 3: Okay?
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  Speaker 2: No. No.
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  Speaker 1: You're not allowed to be. That's crazy. Instead, within four days,
• 14:53
  Speaker 1: he started following a bunch of girls. He even messaged
• 14:55
  Speaker 1: one of my friends and sent her spicy-related messages, saying
• 14:59
  Speaker 1: he'd been lonely for a long time, asking her to
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  Speaker 1: have spicy sleep with him and telling her he'd do
• 15:04
  Speaker 1: anything for her if she got with him. Okay, well,
• 15:08
  Speaker 1: that's a D-bag move.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, I don't know what is happening. Both of you
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  Speaker 1: are toxic... You need help. Professional help, not help from us.
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  Speaker 8: This guy's built to be a fart friend, not a
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  Speaker 8: fart father, you know?
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  Speaker 3: Not daddy material yet. I don't know why I said
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  Speaker 3: it like that. That was a little too saucy.
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  Speaker 1: He's not the father. He's the farter. There's a difference.
• 15:36
  Speaker 1: You mixed it up. That's type of one isn't.
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  Speaker 4: Farther.
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  Speaker 1: I only found out about that two weeks later. So
• 15:44
  Speaker 1: I unblocked him and texted him.
• 15:47
  Speaker 3: This should go real well.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah. All I said was, whatever you're doing, please leave
• 15:51
  Speaker 1: my friends out of it. His response completely destroyed me.
• 15:56
  Speaker 1: He immediately insulted me and my mother and called us
• 15:59
  Speaker 1: very bad names, cursed at me, told me to get lost,
• 16:02
  Speaker 1: called me horrible names, threatened to come to my house
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  Speaker 1: and hurt me if I ever contacted him again, and
• 16:08
  Speaker 1: then sent me a photo of himself sitting at home
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  Speaker 1: with another girl. They were cuddling and drinking booze together.
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  Speaker 1: Right after sending the picture, he blocked me. I was
• 16:18
  Speaker 1: in so much shock that I couldn't even reply. Well,
• 16:20
  Speaker 1: you couldn't because he blocked you. There is a little
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  Speaker 1: bit left here. Any final thoughts?
• 16:27
  Speaker 3: I wish I had a fart in me right now
• 16:30
  Speaker 3: to really punctuate the episode.
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  Speaker 1: Any final farts?
• 16:34
  Speaker 3: Got rid of them before getting on this couch. You're welcome.
• 16:36
  Speaker 1: Yeah, honestly, thank you, but also.
• 16:38
  Speaker 3: Is that a disappointment noise?
• 16:41
  Speaker 8: Yes.
• 16:41
  Speaker 1: All right.
• 16:42
  Speaker 3: Next time I'm... Come locked and loaded. I'm putting beans
• 16:46
  Speaker 3: in an IV. I'm just feeding them into my body.
• 16:49
  Speaker 1: I need farts in this room. I know Dakota House.
• 16:52
  Speaker 4: How do we make this poetic, you know?
• 16:54
  Speaker 3: Are you going to fart in iambic pentameter?
• 16:58
  Speaker 4: One man's fart is another woman's freedom.
• 17:04
  Speaker 1: Oh, that was Mars. One man's fart is another woman's freedom.
• 17:08
  Speaker 4: One man's... is another woman's... Oh, well, I'm going to
• 17:14
  Speaker 4: finish this up.
• 17:15
  Speaker 1: It's been five days since that happened, and I'm still
• 17:18
  Speaker 1: in complete shock. I keep asking myself, what did I
• 17:21
  Speaker 1: do to deserve this?
• 17:23
  Speaker 3: Why?
• 17:24
  Speaker 1: What happened to all those conversations about our future? What
• 17:29
  Speaker 1: happened to all those memories? How can someone change this
• 17:32
  Speaker 1: much in just a few days? The worst part is...
• 17:35
  Speaker 1: Despite everything he did, I still miss him. Part of
• 17:40
  Speaker 1: me still wants to message him and ask, why did
• 17:43
  Speaker 1: you do this to me? I didn't deserve this. I
• 17:46
  Speaker 1: did not deserve that fart in my face. I know
• 17:50
  Speaker 1: I'll probably never get an honest answer, but I can't
• 17:52
  Speaker 1: stop wondering how someone who once begged me not to
• 17:56
  Speaker 1: leave could become so cruel so quickly. And there are
• 17:59
  Speaker 1: some final comments. Comment number one says, He was like,
• 18:03
  Speaker 1: my father, what the F? Yeah, same girl, same.
• 18:08
  Speaker 3: Same reaction.
• 18:10
  Speaker 1: Literally, we all went, whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa. Slow down.
• 18:14
  Speaker 1: What's going on here? There was a reply. It was
• 18:18
  Speaker 1: messed up from fart to finish.
• 18:22
  Speaker 3: You could say their relationship went up in a puff
• 18:24
  Speaker 3: of smoke. Or fart.
• 18:29
  Speaker 1: It was ruined from part to part.
• 18:30
  Speaker 8: Depending on how strong it was, you might say it
• 18:32
  Speaker 8: went out with a bang or it went out with
• 18:34
  Speaker 8: a whimper.
• 18:35
  Speaker 1: All I know is thank God you guys aren't together
• 18:38
  Speaker 1: because I think the world would have fallen apart.
• 18:41
  Speaker 3: Fallen apart?
• 18:42
  Speaker 1: Fallen apart.
• 18:43
  Speaker 3: Okay, now we're reaching.
• 18:46
  Speaker 4: That's a bridge too far.
• 18:48
  Speaker 5: And that's the end of this story. We're going to
• 18:50
  Speaker 5: go to the next one.
• 18:52
  Speaker 1: I came home early to surprise my girlfriend and found
• 18:56
  Speaker 1: her with my roommate.
• 18:58
  Speaker 3: How could she?
• 18:59
  Speaker 1: My last class of the day was canceled, so I,
• 19:02
  Speaker 1: 22 male, decided to come home and surprise my girlfriend,
• 19:06
  Speaker 1: 21 female. I went to the store and grabbed everything
• 19:09
  Speaker 1: to make her favorite meal, lasagna. I was carrying the
• 19:14
  Speaker 1: bags up the stairs and put them down in front
• 19:16
  Speaker 1: of the door to fish my keys out of my pocket.
• 19:19
  Speaker 1: And then I heard my girlfriend moaning. I thought she
• 19:24
  Speaker 1: was taking care of herself. Boink. Because I know that
• 19:29
  Speaker 1: she likes to do that sometimes when I'm not around. Crazy.
• 19:34
  Speaker 1: So I didn't have a sudden aha moment or anything.
• 19:39
  Speaker 1: I walked in and there were her and my roommate
• 19:42
  Speaker 1: 22 male on the couch. I opened the door and
• 19:46
  Speaker 1: kind of just froze when I saw it. She looked
• 19:49
  Speaker 1: up at me and he turned around and saw it
• 19:51
  Speaker 1: was me and I just saw red. As much as
• 19:55
  Speaker 1: I wanted to, I didn't throw down. I just dropped
• 20:00
  Speaker 1: the bags and walked away. As I was getting into
• 20:02
  Speaker 1: my car, they both came running out and yelling at
• 20:05
  Speaker 1: me to stop, but I just floored it and got
• 20:07
  Speaker 1: out of there as quickly as I could. I called
• 20:09
  Speaker 1: my best friend and talked to him about it. He
• 20:12
  Speaker 1: offered to come throw this guy on his butt. I
• 20:16
  Speaker 1: told him no. I didn't want him to get in
• 20:19
  Speaker 1: trouble from it. I even had the engagement ring that
• 20:22
  Speaker 1: I planned to use to propose to her this summer
• 20:24
  Speaker 1: when we went on vacation. It's in my safe that
• 20:27
  Speaker 1: I keep in the closet, so I know that she
• 20:30
  Speaker 1: doesn't know about it. But I plan to spend the
• 20:32
  Speaker 1: rest of my life with her.
• 20:35
  Speaker 2: Ugh. Dang.
• 20:38
  Speaker 1: This sucks.
• 20:39
  Speaker 3: Just once I want a story where they don't plan
• 20:42
  Speaker 3: to spend the rest of their life. Where they're like,
• 20:43
  Speaker 3: I was on the fence. Honestly, it could have gone
• 20:48
  Speaker 3: either way.
• 20:49
  Speaker 1: Why didn't I see this coming? By the way, this
• 20:51
  Speaker 1: comes from NowWhat8989. And if you want to submit your
• 20:54
  Speaker 1: own stories, go to the r slash okay story time subreddit.
• 20:57
  Speaker 1: I'm Savannah.
• 20:58
  Speaker 3: And I'm Adrian.
• 20:59
  Speaker 4: And I'm Dakota.
• 21:00
  Speaker 1: And we're here to give some good advice goofily, but
• 21:02
  Speaker 1: we don't have all your answers. We're only going to
• 21:04
  Speaker 1: tell you what we would do. Let us know what
• 21:06
  Speaker 1: you would do in the comments. As OP says, my
• 21:11
  Speaker 1: last class was supposed to start at 12, but since
• 21:14
  Speaker 1: it was canceled, I was home by 1230. So it's
• 21:17
  Speaker 1: been four plus hours. My phone has been blowing up
• 21:21
  Speaker 1: from both of them. I haven't looked at any of
• 21:23
  Speaker 1: the messages or answered any of the calls. I called
• 21:25
  Speaker 1: my bank and made sure that she wasn't on any
• 21:28
  Speaker 1: of my accounts for anything. I'm going to go back
• 21:31
  Speaker 1: later tonight and pack up all of our stuff and
• 21:34
  Speaker 1: drop it off at her place tomorrow. Then I'll probably
• 21:37
  Speaker 1: take a bag of clothes to my friend's house and
• 21:39
  Speaker 1: stay there until school ends in three weeks. What do
• 21:42
  Speaker 1: I do next? Oh, this sucks. And what would you do?
• 21:47
  Speaker 3: Oh, man. I mean, yeah, there doesn't seem like there's
• 21:51
  Speaker 3: really any coming back from that. You know, it's was
• 21:55
  Speaker 3: it going on for a while? Do we know from
• 21:57
  Speaker 3: the story if it's happened in the middle of the day?
• 22:00
  Speaker 1: I mean, yeah, this happened in the middle of the day.
• 22:02
  Speaker 6: He died.
• 22:03
  Speaker 1: Didn't know that any of this was going on and
• 22:05
  Speaker 1: he just caught them red handed. And then he's like,
• 22:07
  Speaker 1: Oh God, now I have to figure out my entire life.
• 22:10
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 22:11
  Speaker 1: So, and now his question is, what do I do next?
• 22:14
  Speaker 1: Just block both of them. Don't talk to him. Just,
• 22:17
  Speaker 1: you know, it's what they want. If that's, yeah, if that's,
• 22:21
  Speaker 1: I don't know, there's not really like a right or
• 22:23
  Speaker 1: wrong way to, well, I guess there is a wrong
• 22:24
  Speaker 1: way to go about it, but there's not really a right.
• 22:27
  Speaker 5: You know?
• 22:28
  Speaker 6: Yeah.
• 22:28
  Speaker 3: Give yourself some time to process that. That's a dramatic
• 22:32
  Speaker 3: thing to experience.
• 22:33
  Speaker 1: Exactly. Especially since you just bought like the ring and everything.
• 22:36
  Speaker 1: And it's like, I meant to spend the rest of
• 22:38
  Speaker 1: my life with this person. Oh yeah. Yeah. It's a
• 22:42
  Speaker 1: horrible situation. I truthfully would just not talk, but I
• 22:45
  Speaker 1: would just block them and try like to limit contact
• 22:48
  Speaker 1: as much as you can. Just give her like pack
• 22:50
  Speaker 1: up all her stuff, give her stuff back and be
• 22:52
  Speaker 1: done with it. Just be like, whatever. There was an
• 22:55
  Speaker 1: edit here. I'm at my best friend's house. Him and
• 22:58
  Speaker 1: his sister have been super awesome to me. Their doorbell
• 23:01
  Speaker 1: rang about five minutes ago. It was her. His sister
• 23:05
  Speaker 1: witched me out. I wanted to go yell at her,
• 23:08
  Speaker 1: but I started drinking fireball instead. It's going to be
• 23:12
  Speaker 1: a long couple weeks until school gets out. There's an update.
• 23:16
  Speaker 1: I think we should just go.
• 23:17
  Speaker 8: Go on.
• 23:18
  Speaker 1: After my first edit, many of you messaged me and
• 23:21
  Speaker 1: asked me not to drink slash that I was better
• 23:24
  Speaker 1: than that slash that this wasn't the thing to do.
• 23:27
  Speaker 1: I sincerely appreciate that. My friend and his sister took
• 23:31
  Speaker 1: me out to dinner to try to get my mind
• 23:33
  Speaker 1: off of everything. At first, I wasn't really up to going,
• 23:36
  Speaker 1: but I figured that it would be better to try
• 23:38
  Speaker 1: to focus my mind on something different. My friends called
• 23:41
  Speaker 1: up a couple of my other friends and the six
• 23:44
  Speaker 1: of us went out to dinner. At first, I wasn't
• 23:46
  Speaker 1: really into it. I was kind of down. But my
• 23:48
  Speaker 1: friends did anything and everything that they could to cheer
• 23:51
  Speaker 1: me up. I can honestly say that I love my
• 23:54
  Speaker 1: friends and everything that they've done for me. My best
• 23:57
  Speaker 1: friend's sister, Emily, went through all the messages on my
• 24:01
  Speaker 1: phone from the both of them and deleted anything that
• 24:04
  Speaker 1: didn't need to be on there. She texted both of
• 24:07
  Speaker 1: them from my phone telling them that it was her
• 24:09
  Speaker 1: that was texting and told her that a friend would
• 24:12
  Speaker 1: be by at a certain time to pick up my
• 24:15
  Speaker 1: stuff tomorrow. and she told him that I would be
• 24:17
  Speaker 1: by tomorrow to grab some things that I was going
• 24:20
  Speaker 1: to try to get out of the lease by talking
• 24:22
  Speaker 1: to my landlord. I want you all to know that
• 24:24
  Speaker 1: I've read through each and every one of these comments,
• 24:27
  Speaker 1: and that I've read through every message that's been sent
• 24:29
  Speaker 1: to me on here. I plan on replying to a
• 24:32
  Speaker 1: couple tonight or tomorrow. I'm really tired, but wanted to
• 24:36
  Speaker 1: let you all know how much you've helped me. Finally,
• 24:39
  Speaker 1: to the people that have been in the same position
• 24:41
  Speaker 1: as I'm currently in, or to those that have been
• 24:43
  Speaker 1: in a situation even relatively similar, I have a couple things. First,
• 24:49
  Speaker 1: none of what your ex-significant other did says anything about you.
• 24:55
  Speaker 1: It tells what kind of person they are. Your reactions
• 24:58
  Speaker 1: tell the kind of person that you are. Secondly, all
• 25:02
  Speaker 1: of you are much stronger than you realize. Many of
• 25:05
  Speaker 1: you have given me such amazing advice and you know
• 25:07
  Speaker 1: exactly where I'm coming from. Talking about it isn't always
• 25:10
  Speaker 1: the easiest. And many of you did try to help
• 25:13
  Speaker 1: an internet stranger. So thank you. Finally, many of you
• 25:16
  Speaker 1: have much greater things to look forward to. Like one
• 25:19
  Speaker 1: of my old teachers says, it's like moving on to
• 25:22
  Speaker 1: the next book in the sequence. Yeah, you may have
• 25:24
  Speaker 1: to wait a little bit for the author to release it,
• 25:26
  Speaker 1: but it's worth the wait.
• 25:28
  Speaker 3: Wow.
• 25:29
  Speaker 2: Bars.
• 25:30
  Speaker 5: Bars.
• 25:31
  Speaker 3: And sometimes those authors are George R.R. Martin and you
• 25:33
  Speaker 3: will never see the next chapter.
• 25:36
  Speaker 1: One day.
• 25:37
  Speaker 3: I'm holding out hope for you, buddy.
• 25:40
  Speaker 8: I mean, he's already got that guy lined up to
• 25:42
  Speaker 8: finish it in case he croaks.
• 25:44
  Speaker 3: Really?
• 25:44
  Speaker 8: Yeah, it was the same guy who made the Wheel
• 25:47
  Speaker 8: of Time. Brandon Sanderson is slated to finish Game of
• 25:49
  Speaker 8: Thrones if George R.R.
• 25:51
  Speaker 4: Can't do it. I'm a dork.
• 25:53
  Speaker 3: No, it's cool that you know that.
• 25:56
  Speaker 1: Kim Foyne says, your reaction told us you're very sad
• 25:58
  Speaker 1: and very cinnamony.
• 26:00
  Speaker 4: Very cinnamon.
• 26:02
  Speaker 1: There is a second update here. Emily, my best friend's sister,
• 26:07
  Speaker 1: texted both of them informing them that I'd be coming
• 26:10
  Speaker 1: by to get stuff. Emily would be going to my
• 26:12
  Speaker 1: ex-significant others. I went with my best friend Trevor and
• 26:16
  Speaker 1: Emily to get some stuff from my apartment. My roommate
• 26:18
  Speaker 1: wasn't there, but he left me a note saying that
• 26:21
  Speaker 1: he's sorry and attempting to explain the situation. I threw
• 26:24
  Speaker 1: it away after reading it, grabbed some stuff, and loaded
• 26:27
  Speaker 1: it into my car. I drove back to their house
• 26:29
  Speaker 1: while the two of them then went to my ex's
• 26:32
  Speaker 1: apartment to grab my stuff. My ex was there and
• 26:34
  Speaker 1: at first she wouldn't let them in. She yelled at
• 26:37
  Speaker 1: them to go away through the door and after about
• 26:39
  Speaker 1: 15 minutes of them sitting there, she eventually opened up
• 26:42
  Speaker 1: and let them in to collect my things. They grabbed
• 26:45
  Speaker 1: my PS4, movies, cookware, clothes, and some random other things.
• 26:49
  Speaker 1: She cried the whole time and asked them if they
• 26:51
  Speaker 1: would tell me that she's sorry. It was a one-time thing.
• 26:55
  Speaker 1: I would do anything to change it. They didn't say
• 26:58
  Speaker 1: a word, although she was crying into an older hoodie
• 27:01
  Speaker 1: of mine, so they left that there. I'm not too
• 27:03
  Speaker 1: torn up about that. I told a few select friends
• 27:06
  Speaker 1: what happened and asked if they would watch the doors
• 27:08
  Speaker 1: to my classroom when I had classes as I didn't
• 27:11
  Speaker 1: want to cause a scene. Nothing on Wednesday, but she
• 27:14
  Speaker 1: stood outside one of my teaching classes on Thursday. I
• 27:17
  Speaker 1: went in through a different door and thankfully she didn't
• 27:19
  Speaker 1: see me. Friday is the day that really upsets me.
• 27:23
  Speaker 1: As I said in the last post in a reply,
• 27:25
  Speaker 1: I'm an education major and I have my practicums this semester.
• 27:31
  Speaker 1: Our education building has two floors and the first floor
• 27:33
  Speaker 1: is a laboratory school, an elementary school that has a
• 27:37
  Speaker 1: lot of education students come in and do their practicums
• 27:40
  Speaker 1: or observations. While the second floor has classrooms for education students.
• 27:46
  Speaker 1: My practicum is with third graders and she stood outside
• 27:50
  Speaker 1: the the door to my third grade classroom waiting for me.
• 27:54
  Speaker 1: We have name tags and only have to show those
• 27:57
  Speaker 1: to the desk to get in. She used to be
• 27:59
  Speaker 1: an education major, but switched majors. Therefore, it wasn't too
• 28:03
  Speaker 1: uncommon for her to be in there. I saw her
• 28:06
  Speaker 1: and my heart immediately sank. I decided to just walk
• 28:10
  Speaker 1: by her and ignore her. She saw me and started
• 28:12
  Speaker 1: crying and trying to talk to me. I didn't say
• 28:15
  Speaker 1: a word, but just walked into the classroom. My cooperating
• 28:18
  Speaker 1: teacher asked her to leave, but all my students that
• 28:22
  Speaker 1: were there had already seen it. They started bombarding me
• 28:25
  Speaker 1: with questions, and I just stuck with, it's nothing important
• 28:28
  Speaker 1: right now. We can talk about it later, but we
• 28:30
  Speaker 1: need to focus on our learning right now.
• 28:33
  Speaker 4: Good response.
• 28:35
  Speaker 1: I mean, that's just, that's horrid to have to deal.
• 28:38
  Speaker 1: I mean, because I've dealt with teaching kids and all
• 28:41
  Speaker 1: of that stuff, and it's just like, when something happens
• 28:43
  Speaker 1: in a relationship, and they're all aware of it or something,
• 28:46
  Speaker 1: it's just like.
• 28:48
  Speaker 1: Like, you don't need to talk about it.
• 28:51
  Speaker 3: It's fine.
• 28:51
  Speaker 1: We're not here to focus on that. We got other
• 28:53
  Speaker 1: things to go. We got to learn some... What do
• 28:57
  Speaker 1: we have to learn? Put the Pythagorean theorem today.
• 28:59
  Speaker 3: We got to learn who's on the $ 2 bill. That's
• 29:01
  Speaker 3: what we got to learn.
• 29:02
  Speaker 1: It's time to go over presidents and what bills they're on.
• 29:06
  Speaker 1: But honestly, it gutted me inside. I explained the situation
• 29:10
  Speaker 1: to my cooperating teacher and asked her to watch out
• 29:14
  Speaker 1: for if she came back again. She said that she would,
• 29:17
  Speaker 1: and would ask her to leave if she saw her again.
• 29:20
  Speaker 1: I received a few text messages this weekend from her
• 29:22
  Speaker 1: and her roommate. That was extremely annoying. I got an
• 29:27
  Speaker 1: insane amount of phone calls and got a ton of
• 29:29
  Speaker 1: Facebook messages. Trevor and Emily also received quite a few
• 29:33
  Speaker 1: as well. I worked all weekend and threw myself into
• 29:36
  Speaker 1: lesson plans and projects due. I also went and played
• 29:39
  Speaker 1: a round of golf.
• 29:30
  Speaker 2: What?
• 29:30
  Speaker 1: I am not going to believe that for a second.
• 29:32
  Speaker 1: There's no way. Do you think she's telling the truth?
• 30:01
  Speaker 3: It seems so suspicious, right? Like, oh, you wouldn't talk
• 30:07
  Speaker 3: to me. What can I do to make you talk
• 30:08
  Speaker 3: to me?
• 30:09
  Speaker 1: Yeah, what timing we have here? Hmm, interesting.
• 30:14
  Speaker 6: Liar!
• 30:15
  Speaker 1: I screenshotted the conversation. I'm trying to stay calm, but
• 30:19
  Speaker 1: if she truly is pregnant and the baby is mine,
• 30:21
  Speaker 1: then that throws a whole wrench into everything. Can anybody
• 30:26
  Speaker 1: give me some advice on what to do next? I'm
• 30:28
  Speaker 1: trying to remain as calm as I can, but this
• 30:30
  Speaker 1: is really big and I'm starting to freak out. Thank
• 30:32
  Speaker 1: you all. So I wouldn't believe this. I would very
• 30:37
  Speaker 1: much be like, let me see the test. Or, I
• 30:41
  Speaker 1: don't know, take the test in front of me or something. Like,
• 30:43
  Speaker 1: I don't know. I really don't think she's pregnant, truthfully.
• 30:47
  Speaker 3: And we've already established there's probably, there's two potential cases.
• 30:53
  Speaker 3: baby daddies so yeah at the very least gotta get
• 30:57
  Speaker 3: a dna test just for that.
• 30:58
  Speaker 1: Yeah exactly especially yeah one if she actually is pregnant
• 31:03
  Speaker 1: then you have to get the dna test because you
• 31:05
  Speaker 1: don't know that could have literally just happened a week
• 31:09
  Speaker 1: ago or so i don't know but oh let's finish
• 31:15
  Speaker 1: it up here's the text conversation her i'm sorry for
• 31:19
  Speaker 1: what i did i'm sorry that i messed up our
• 31:21
  Speaker 1: future but I think that we just got a second chance.
• 31:25
  Speaker 1: I know that this isn't what you wanted to hear,
• 31:27
  Speaker 1: but I'm pregnant. Maybe this is why I made my mistake.
• 31:31
  Speaker 2: Me.
• 31:32
  Speaker 1: You can't use a pregnancy to explain cheating. It doesn't
• 31:35
  Speaker 1: work like that. I want a pregnancy test. Not one
• 31:38
  Speaker 1: from the store, but to actually go to the doctor
• 31:41
  Speaker 1: and have them do that. If it turns out that
• 31:43
  Speaker 1: you are pregnant, then I want a paternity test.
• 31:46
  Speaker 2: Her.
• 31:46
  Speaker 1: Fine. I'll call the doctor tomorrow and set up an appointment.
• 31:50
  Speaker 1: But if I am pregnant... Can we have a second chance? Okay,
• 31:54
  Speaker 1: now she just totally went back. If I am pregnant, girl!
• 31:58
  Speaker 1: So you're not. But if I am.
• 32:04
  Speaker 8: She's going to go to the doctor, get that negative test,
• 32:06
  Speaker 8: and be like, this is because you stressed me out
• 32:09
  Speaker 8: by not wanting to stay with me after I cheated
• 32:11
  Speaker 8: on you.
• 32:12
  Speaker 1: She's going to just draw another plus, just another line.
• 32:16
  Speaker 3: Just Photoshop. She'll be like, look. Google image positive test.
• 32:21
  Speaker 1: His face is on the other end. She's like, it's yours.
• 32:26
  Speaker 5: Me. No.
• 32:28
  Speaker 1: All I want to know from you is when and
• 32:31
  Speaker 1: where the appointment is. She seems too calm for this
• 32:34
  Speaker 1: to be just a joke. She's been bat crap crazy
• 32:38
  Speaker 1: for almost the past week and now she's extremely calm.
• 32:42
  Speaker 1: I'm honestly extremely scared. And that's the end. Can you
• 32:45
  Speaker 1: check if there's an update?
• 32:46
  Speaker 2: Oh. Oh.
• 32:48
  Speaker 1: Oh, piss me off. Oh, this just leaves you on
• 32:52
  Speaker 1: a cliffhanger. I really hope there's an update because, oh
• 32:56
  Speaker 1: my God.
• 32:59
  Speaker 4: Guys, it's 11 years old.
• 33:01
  Speaker 1: It's 11 years old.
• 33:03
  Speaker 3: The child's 11 by now.
• 33:05
  Speaker 1: Dang, that child could be 11.
• 33:07
  Speaker 4: There is an update. Let me see. Hold on. Oh,
• 33:10
  Speaker 4: it's archived. Oh, come on.
• 33:13
  Speaker 3: Oh, okay.
• 33:14
  Speaker 4: Please tell me this one's not archived. No, no, no!
• 33:18
  Speaker 1: They're both archived.
• 33:19
  Speaker 4: It's archived, but I have the title.
• 33:22
  Speaker 8: My ex has moved closer to me with the baby
• 33:25
  Speaker 8: from the guy she cheated on me with and won't
• 33:28
  Speaker 8: leave me alone.
• 33:29
  Speaker 2: Oh, my God.
• 33:30
  Speaker 3: That's the most dramatic option possible.
• 33:33
  Speaker 1: No. So she was pregnant. It's the roommates. And now
• 33:39
  Speaker 1: she still wants to get with him. No. What a
• 33:44
  Speaker 1: horrible story. I hate this for you, OP. I'm so sorry.
• 33:48
  Speaker 1: You just wanted a normal life and she's hurting you. Oh,
• 33:53
  Speaker 1: I can't. I... Darn.
• 33:58
  Speaker 9: Gee lickers.
• 33:59
  Speaker 8: Darn.
• 34:00
  Speaker 3: That's what I say if it's devastating life news. Ah, darn.
• 34:05
  Speaker 4: Oh, bang it.
• 34:06
  Speaker 5: And that's the end of this story. We're going to
• 34:08
  Speaker 5: go to the next one.
• 34:10
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• 34:14
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• 34:19
  Speaker 1: My best friend for years... confessed his feelings, and it
• 34:23
  Speaker 1: made me panic for days. Uh-oh. My 23 female best friend,
• 34:29
  Speaker 1: 23 male of seven years, told me that he had
• 34:32
  Speaker 1: feelings for me and asked if I would be okay
• 34:35
  Speaker 1: with exploring those feelings if I felt the same way.
• 34:38
  Speaker 1: He had been acting weird for the past few weeks,
• 34:41
  Speaker 1: so I kind of had an inkling this was coming.
• 34:44
  Speaker 1: And I at least had a response sort of planned out.
• 34:47
  Speaker 1: I was upfront about the fact that I didn't want
• 34:49
  Speaker 1: to ruin our friendship, but Connor, not his real name obviously,
• 34:53
  Speaker 1: made some good points. He basically said that dating might
• 34:57
  Speaker 1: make us even closer and that if we date, we'll
• 35:00
  Speaker 1: probably be less likely to drift apart after college. Oh, great. Awesome.
• 35:06
  Speaker 3: That's such a weird... Sorry, I'm trying to process this.
• 35:11
  Speaker 3: You should date me not because you're attracted to me
• 35:13
  Speaker 3: or have feelings for me, but because I don't want
• 35:16
  Speaker 3: this thing to end that we have after college. I
• 35:20
  Speaker 3: want to be able to text you.
• 35:22
  Speaker 1: Yeah, it's like, okay, yeah.
• 35:25
  Speaker 3: Yeah, there's one way to go about it.
• 35:27
  Speaker 8: I love how OP's also like, he made a good point.
• 35:30
  Speaker 8: And it's like, did he? I have not seen it.
• 35:33
  Speaker 1: Yeah, I don't know. Where's the PowerPoint? Here it is.
• 35:40
  Speaker 4: Put all my power into that.
• 35:41
  Speaker 1: That was in response to me admitting that us drifting
• 35:44
  Speaker 1: apart was one of my fears.
• 35:46
  Speaker 3: Oh, okay.
• 35:47
  Speaker 1: He also rightly pointed out that even if things didn't
• 35:50
  Speaker 1: work out, we could remain friends because we're both pretty
• 35:52
  Speaker 1: level-headed and neither of us are likely to drop the
• 35:55
  Speaker 1: other person as a friend over a petty breakup. That's
• 35:58
  Speaker 1: what they all say. Until it ends so messy that
• 36:01
  Speaker 1: you can't even look at each other. I was talked
• 36:04
  Speaker 1: into agreeing with him because everything he said was so logical.
• 36:08
  Speaker 1: But I'm still unsure. Girl, if you don't want to,
• 36:11
  Speaker 1: you don't have to.
• 36:11
  Speaker 2: What?
• 36:13
  Speaker 1: Don't make him convince you to be in a relationship
• 36:15
  Speaker 1: with this guy. What?
• 36:16
  Speaker 3: My heart's telling me no, but the logic part of
• 36:19
  Speaker 3: my brain is telling me hell yeah. I'd be dumb
• 36:22
  Speaker 3: not to.
• 36:23
  Speaker 1: It's like, I mean, I did sign the contract, but
• 36:26
  Speaker 1: I don't know. Do I have to stay for 12 months?
• 36:29
  Speaker 3: Listen, he's not the best looking guy, but those profit
• 36:32
  Speaker 3: loss projections were off the chain.
• 36:34
  Speaker 9: For real.
• 36:36
  Speaker 1: I never saw myself dating Connor. I always thought he
• 36:38
  Speaker 1: was cute, but more of an, aw, he's going to
• 36:41
  Speaker 1: make some nice girls so happy one day type of way.
• 36:44
  Speaker 1: I guess I never thought that girl would be me.
• 36:47
  Speaker 1: By the way, this comes from Objective Course 388, and
• 36:50
  Speaker 1: if you want to submit your own stories, go to
• 36:52
  Speaker 1: the r slash ok story time subreddit. I'm Savannah.
• 36:55
  Speaker 3: I'm Adrian.
• 36:56
  Speaker 4: I'm Dakota.
• 36:57
  Speaker 1: And we are here to talk about some stuff, get
• 36:59
  Speaker 1: some advice, but we don't have all your answers. We're
• 37:01
  Speaker 1: only going to tell you what we would do. But,
• 37:03
  Speaker 1: you know, let us know what you would do down
• 37:05
  Speaker 1: in the comments. As OP says, I feel like our
• 37:09
  Speaker 1: chances of keeping the friendship the same as before were
• 37:12
  Speaker 1: already ruined the minute he said he wanted to be
• 37:15
  Speaker 1: more than friends. So I felt like I had no
• 37:18
  Speaker 1: choice but to at least try a couple of dates
• 37:20
  Speaker 1: with him. In my view, I could either reject him
• 37:23
  Speaker 1: and lose him forever if he couldn't stand being around
• 37:26
  Speaker 1: me anymore, or I could agree to date and salvage
• 37:30
  Speaker 1: at least a fraction of what we had. He was
• 37:33
  Speaker 1: so happy when I said yes and it made me
• 37:35
  Speaker 1: really happy to see him smile and to know how
• 37:37
  Speaker 1: excited he was. Girl!
• 37:40
  Speaker 3: That's a mistake.
• 37:41
  Speaker 1: You don't like him. You don't like him. I'm scared
• 37:45
  Speaker 1: of so many things. I'm scared that he'll kiss me
• 37:47
  Speaker 1: on the date and I'll enjoy it and then our
• 37:49
  Speaker 1: whole lives will change. I'm also scared that I won't
• 37:52
  Speaker 1: have fun on the date because it'll feel different than
• 37:54
  Speaker 1: our old friendship hangouts. And I'm scared that he won't
• 37:57
  Speaker 1: enjoy it but I'm even more scared that he will
• 38:00
  Speaker 1: enjoy it. I haven't been able to sleep properly ever
• 38:03
  Speaker 1: since he told me. Last night, I stayed up all
• 38:06
  Speaker 1: night and ate peanut butter straight out of the jar
• 38:08
  Speaker 1: just to distract myself from thinking about what will happen
• 38:11
  Speaker 1: on the date.
• 38:12
  Speaker 3: We've all been there before.
• 38:13
  Speaker 1: So did you. You do that?
• 38:16
  Speaker 3: Have you never eaten peanut butter straight out of the jar?
• 38:19
  Speaker 1: I'm not really a peanut butter girl. Like, I will
• 38:21
  Speaker 1: eat it with other things. It's more like a dip
• 38:24
  Speaker 1: to me or like a spread. Not like, ooh, snack!
• 38:27
  Speaker 3: You can still be a dip, you're just dipping your
• 38:29
  Speaker 3: finger in and going to town.
• 38:31
  Speaker 1: My fingers do not enjoy that.
• 38:32
  Speaker 4: No, like, tell me I did that the last, what,
• 38:36
  Speaker 4: like two weeks ago.
• 38:37
  Speaker 3: Nice.
• 38:38
  Speaker 8: I mean, just like, like, it was, it was shameful
• 38:46
  Speaker 8: and I'm telling you now.
• 38:47
  Speaker 3: I feel dirty just watching you do that motion.
• 38:50
  Speaker 1: I've been psyching myself out on what to wear and
• 38:54
  Speaker 1: whether to get made up like I would for another guy.
• 38:57
  Speaker 1: It feels weird asking my other friends for advice about
• 39:00
  Speaker 1: boy stuff when normally I would just go to Connor
• 39:02
  Speaker 1: about stuff like this. I just wish we could go
• 39:05
  Speaker 1: back to how things were before he dropped that bombshell.
• 39:09
  Speaker 1: We were both so happy and comfortable as friends and
• 39:12
  Speaker 1: now I can feel how nervous we are when we're
• 39:13
  Speaker 1: around each other and it sucks. In an ideal world,
• 39:16
  Speaker 1: we will come back from the date and laugh about
• 39:19
  Speaker 1: it and just agree to be friends again. But I
• 39:21
  Speaker 1: don't think that's realistic. I'm already nostalgic about all the
• 39:25
  Speaker 1: times we spent hanging out in our hometown and just
• 39:27
  Speaker 1: enjoying the friendship. And now everything's going to be so different.
• 39:32
  Speaker 1: And it's making me panic so much. I don't even
• 39:35
  Speaker 1: know where he's taking me on the date. Since he
• 39:38
  Speaker 1: wants it to be a surprise and it's just giving
• 39:40
  Speaker 1: me ridiculous anxiety not knowing. Advice, please? And there's an update. Oh, God.
• 39:48
  Speaker 1: I don't know.
• 39:49
  Speaker 3: Yeah, at first I thought, like, that's an awkward situation.
• 39:52
  Speaker 3: You know, friend asks you out. But then she was
• 39:54
  Speaker 3: also saying, the OP was also saying, like, what if
• 39:56
  Speaker 3: it goes really well? And what if he kisses me
• 39:58
  Speaker 3: and our whole lives change? And I was like, do
• 40:00
  Speaker 3: you maybe, do you want this? I'm confused.
• 40:04
  Speaker 1: I know, it's really weird because I, like, huh? Like,
• 40:08
  Speaker 1: do you, she's so conflicted. I just, I mean, I
• 40:12
  Speaker 1: also wish, like, he wouldn't have dropped a, like, bombshell
• 40:14
  Speaker 1: or whatever. But it's just like, ugh. What can you do?
• 40:18
  Speaker 1: I don't know. You just have to go with it.
• 40:22
  Speaker 1: But it has now. He has changed that friendship for forever.
• 40:26
  Speaker 1: So that's on him.
• 40:27
  Speaker 3: Not on you.
• 40:29
  Speaker 1: And don't try to reciprocate the feelings just for him.
• 40:32
  Speaker 1: Because it's not going to work. You can't fake feelings.
• 40:35
  Speaker 1: There's an update. My head is still spinning from our
• 40:38
  Speaker 1: date last night. I was so nervous that I felt
• 40:41
  Speaker 1: sick and I literally almost canceled last minute. I'm so
• 40:44
  Speaker 1: happy that I went through with it. I told him
• 40:47
  Speaker 1: beforehand that I had anxiety about not knowing where he
• 40:50
  Speaker 1: was taking me and that I didn't know what to wear.
• 40:52
  Speaker 1: He still wouldn't give away the surprise, but he did
• 40:54
  Speaker 1: tell me to dress comfortably, so I just wore one
• 40:57
  Speaker 1: of my nice casual dresses. He made us an outdoor
• 41:00
  Speaker 1: drive-in movie theater, and don't ask me how he did
• 41:03
  Speaker 1: it because I'm hopeless with technology, where we watched my
• 41:07
  Speaker 1: favorite movie, and he brought popcorn and my favorite chocolate. Okay,
• 41:12
  Speaker 1: so I'm immediately making out with them. Like, if you're
• 41:19
  Speaker 1: gonna go through all that, I at least gotta give
• 41:21
  Speaker 1: you something in return. I just feel like it's necessary.
• 41:26
  Speaker 3: It's a transactional experience, Dave. You do this for me,
• 41:30
  Speaker 3: I do this for you.
• 41:31
  Speaker 1: Yeah, and now we're both feeling good. Afterwards, he took
• 41:35
  Speaker 1: me to this new bookstore cafe in our town, which
• 41:38
  Speaker 1: had just opened, and that I had been... wanting to
• 41:41
  Speaker 1: go to. I was so happy when he finally kissed me,
• 41:45
  Speaker 1: even though I had been previously dreading that he would.
• 41:48
  Speaker 1: We actually kissed quite a bit. I found that my
• 41:50
  Speaker 1: heart was beating not from nerves this time, but from
• 41:53
  Speaker 1: genuine excitement. It's still unbelievable to me that this is happening,
• 41:57
  Speaker 1: but it doesn't scare me anymore. I never thought Connor
• 42:01
  Speaker 1: would ever make me feel like this. In my head,
• 42:04
  Speaker 1: it just wasn't a possibility since we were such good friends.
• 42:07
  Speaker 1: I couldn't be happier that I decided to give him
• 42:09
  Speaker 1: a chance instead of just immediately shutting it down out
• 42:12
  Speaker 1: of fear of ruining the friendship. In reality our friendship
• 42:15
  Speaker 1: was never in any danger.
• 42:17
  Speaker 4: I mean it was in a little bit.
• 42:21
  Speaker 3: You were saying goodbye to it about 20 sentences ago.
• 42:26
  Speaker 3: You were like, it's gone forever. It's never coming back.
• 42:30
  Speaker 8: I think she was just mostly conflicted about, because you
• 42:32
  Speaker 8: were right.
• 42:33
  Speaker 4: She was like, oh my God, it's so scary.
• 42:35
  Speaker 8: What if we fall in love and have a life
• 42:37
  Speaker 8: that's so perfect forever?
• 42:39
  Speaker 4: But also what if we don't? And then I never
• 42:42
  Speaker 4: talked to him again.
• 42:43
  Speaker 3: That's a normal feeling to have before every day. Like
• 42:46
  Speaker 3: this could go horribly wrong or horribly right.
• 42:49
  Speaker 4: Terribly, terribly right it could go.
• 42:52
  Speaker 3: Shout out to Connor though. Making it out of the
• 42:55
  Speaker 3: friend zone. It's good to see one for all the
• 42:58
  Speaker 3: hundreds who perish within, you know, gives us gives us
• 43:01
  Speaker 3: all hope.
• 43:02
  Speaker 1: Yes, there are real differences between dating and just being
• 43:06
  Speaker 1: best friends. But there are way more similarities than I
• 43:10
  Speaker 1: was expecting. Conversations still flowed the same way it did
• 43:13
  Speaker 1: when we were only friends and we still have plenty
• 43:16
  Speaker 1: of fun and laughs. I'm overjoyed that our friendship dynamic
• 43:19
  Speaker 1: hasn't changed because I was mainly worried that things would
• 43:23
  Speaker 1: be awkward now and I wouldn't know how to behave
• 43:25
  Speaker 1: around him. Now it feels like we're friends who just
• 43:28
  Speaker 1: happen to be dating. And in my opinion, that's exactly
• 43:31
  Speaker 1: how things should be. Seeing how happy he is just
• 43:34
  Speaker 1: feels like the cherry on top.
• 43:37
  Speaker 3: That's so sweet.
• 43:38
  Speaker 1: Anyway, that's really nice. And I love how you said like,
• 43:43
  Speaker 1: you know, it just feels like we're friends that just
• 43:45
  Speaker 1: so happen to be dating. That's like my dream. I
• 43:48
  Speaker 1: want to be friends with the person and just like
• 43:51
  Speaker 1: be really, really close. Just close with them as friends.
• 43:53
  Speaker 1: Just be like, oh my gosh, I just want to
• 43:54
  Speaker 1: see you all the time because you're such a good friend.
• 43:56
  Speaker 1: And then eventually we're just like, my god, we're actually soulmates.
• 43:58
  Speaker 1: I am in love with you.
• 44:00
  Speaker 3: With that face.
• 44:01
  Speaker 1: Is that too much to ask? I mean, seriously.
• 44:04
  Speaker 4: Come eat this jar of peanut butter with me in
• 44:06
  Speaker 4: the dark.
• 44:07
  Speaker 1: And I have a jar of peanut butter.
• 44:09
  Speaker 4: You can only use your fingers or it's cheating.
• 44:12
  Speaker 5: And that's the end of this story. We're going to
• 44:14
  Speaker 5: go to the next one.
• 44:16
  Speaker 6: My friend accused me of being judgmental just because I
• 44:19
  Speaker 6: refused to engage in polyamory.
• 44:22
  Speaker 1: You're judging me. I know you are.
• 44:24
  Speaker 6: My friend and I argued because she asked if I
• 44:26
  Speaker 6: knew a polyamorous content creator she follows. I told her
• 44:30
  Speaker 6: I did not because I do not engage with polyamory-related content.
• 44:35
  Speaker 6: I also explained that I do not judge polyamorous people,
• 44:39
  Speaker 6: but I do not personally understand that relationship style and
• 44:43
  Speaker 6: have no interest in following content about it. I said
• 44:47
  Speaker 6: I believe we are both justified in existing in our
• 44:50
  Speaker 6: own spaces without hostilities. Instead of accepting that answer, she
• 44:54
  Speaker 6: accused me of being judgmental, I'm not, and called me
• 44:58
  Speaker 6: several names. I explained that I genuinely do not care
• 45:02
  Speaker 6: what consenting adults choose to do with their lives as
• 45:05
  Speaker 6: long as it does not involve me. I am not
• 45:08
  Speaker 6: trying to stop anyone from living the way they want,
• 45:10
  Speaker 6: and I do not think they should have to change
• 45:13
  Speaker 6: for my comfort. She then asked me what I would
• 45:16
  Speaker 6: do if I met a polyamorous person. I said I
• 45:18
  Speaker 6: would greet them, treat them with respect, and be civil.
• 45:22
  Speaker 6: just like I would with any other person. If I
• 45:26
  Speaker 6: did not want to become friends, I would simply keep
• 45:28
  Speaker 6: my distance because I do not think we would have
• 45:31
  Speaker 6: much in common. Nobody is required to be friends with
• 45:34
  Speaker 6: every person they meet, and choosing not to build a
• 45:36
  Speaker 6: friendship is not the same as treating someone with disrespect.
• 45:41
  Speaker 6: By the way, this comes from NoVehicle2893, and if you
• 45:42
  Speaker 6: want to speak on your own stories, go to the
• 45:45
  Speaker 6: r slash okstories on subreddit. I'm Riley Wilson.
• 45:48
  Speaker 1: I'm Savannah.
• 45:50
  Speaker 3: I'm Riley Wilson.
• 45:51
  Speaker 2: And.
• 45:52
  Speaker 6: If you have anything you'd like to say, please add
• 45:53
  Speaker 6: it down below because we're going to read this story goofily.
• 45:56
  Speaker 3: That's our job.
• 45:57
  Speaker 6: So Reddit, am I the a-hole for not engaging with
• 46:00
  Speaker 6: poly communities?
• 46:02
  Speaker 9: It just sounds like there's weird undertones. It's like the
• 46:05
  Speaker 9: weird undertone of like, I don't want to just do it. Like,
• 46:10
  Speaker 9: I don't need it kind of thing. It sounds a
• 46:14
  Speaker 9: little judgy.
• 46:16
  Speaker 1: All right, edit.
• 46:17
  Speaker 6: She says, I wouldn't mind if someone I'm already friends
• 46:20
  Speaker 6: with comes out as poly, but I wouldn't go out
• 46:23
  Speaker 6: of my way to be friends with people who are
• 46:26
  Speaker 6: very expressive about being poly.
• 46:29
  Speaker 1: It's like that statement. I don't want.
• 46:33
  Speaker 6: I don't like being friends with anyone who's too expressive
• 46:37
  Speaker 6: about relationships in general.
• 46:38
  Speaker 3: So there's that.
• 46:40
  Speaker 6: I came off as defensive because I'm nervous of being
• 46:42
  Speaker 6: called an a-hole after all the names I got called
• 46:45
  Speaker 6: by my friend. Also, I'm neurodivergent as F, so I
• 46:50
  Speaker 6: sometimes have a hard time communicating. And yes, I should
• 46:53
  Speaker 6: have left it at a no, but I'm naturally very
• 46:55
  Speaker 6: talkative and said I wouldn't give it. Much of a thought.
• 46:59
  Speaker 6: You and Savannah would be BFFs. Also, yes, I would
• 47:02
  Speaker 6: be friends with poly people if we share things beyond
• 47:05
  Speaker 6: relationships because I don't think I would even know they're poly. Also,
• 47:11
  Speaker 6: I'll talk to my friend later and discuss why she
• 47:14
  Speaker 6: had such a huge reaction because the comments are making
• 47:17
  Speaker 6: me realize things that I didn't initially understand. So thanks
• 47:21
  Speaker 6: for that.
• 47:22
  Speaker 9: Okay, so that makes a lot more sense now.
• 47:24
  Speaker 4: Does it?
• 47:25
  Speaker 9: Well, because she went... Instead of just doing, no, she went, no,
• 47:31
  Speaker 9: and here's why.
• 47:31
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 47:34
  Speaker 9: Which usually when you add more context or details to it,
• 47:36
  Speaker 9: it was never asked. Please tell me why and write
• 47:42
  Speaker 9: me a thesis about it.
• 47:43
  Speaker 3: True.
• 47:44
  Speaker 1: It's just, I don't know. I don't like how... I
• 47:48
  Speaker 1: don't like how they went on and on and on
• 47:49
  Speaker 1: to try to like defend why when they just asked
• 47:53
  Speaker 1: a simple question. But I also understand that they're neurodivergent.
• 47:55
  Speaker 1: So maybe that, you know, didn't come across as like, oh,
• 47:58
  Speaker 1: I have to now defend myself or something.
• 48:00
  Speaker 3: Update.
• 48:01
  Speaker 6: Six days later, we ended up talking. And during the conversation,
• 48:05
  Speaker 6: she came out as polyamorous.
• 48:07
  Speaker 1: Well, yeah, I figured she was.
• 48:11
  Speaker 6: Nothing could have prepared me for that because she is
• 48:14
  Speaker 6: an incredibly jealous person. It took her a long time
• 48:17
  Speaker 6: to accept my other friends and that I'm just a friend.
• 48:21
  Speaker 6: So the idea of her sharing her husband was not
• 48:24
  Speaker 6: something I saw coming.
• 48:26
  Speaker 3: Oh.
• 48:27
  Speaker 6: Honestly, I had no problem with the polyamory itself because
• 48:31
  Speaker 6: it's her business, not mine. The real issue started when
• 48:35
  Speaker 6: I asked her whether her husband knew she wanted to
• 48:37
  Speaker 6: practice polyamory. She admitted... He had no idea. I told
• 48:42
  Speaker 6: her she should probably tell him soon because he deserves
• 48:44
  Speaker 6: to know. But then she confessed that she is already
• 48:49
  Speaker 6: dating someone. Wait, what?
• 48:53
  Speaker 9: Now, wow, we have really unfolded this giant burrito. So
• 48:57
  Speaker 9: it's like, what's going on?
• 48:59
  Speaker 6: So in short, Keon, is she polyamorous?
• 49:03
  Speaker 3: Oh, what is she?
• 49:05
  Speaker 9: She's cheating on her husband.
• 49:07
  Speaker 4: There we go. That's just called cheating.
• 49:14
  Speaker 6: I'm dating someone he has no idea. In a polyamorous relationship,
• 49:19
  Speaker 6: one half of the party can't be polyamorous.
• 49:21
  Speaker 1: Yeah. Because then it's just cheating.
• 49:24
  Speaker 6: Dang. Oh, and she's trying to get OP to sleep
• 49:30
  Speaker 6: with her husband, so it's like, we're even now?
• 49:32
  Speaker 1: Oh, God.
• 49:33
  Speaker 6: That's probably my take.
• 49:34
  Speaker 8: I hope not.
• 49:34
  Speaker 6: That's probably my take.
• 49:35
  Speaker 1: No.
• 49:36
  Speaker 6: I think so. I doubt that.
• 49:37
  Speaker 1: It really is.
• 49:38
  Speaker 9: Along came poly.
• 49:38
  Speaker 5: That's crazy.
• 49:39
  Speaker 3: What a movie.
• 49:40
  Speaker 6: Wait, is there Polly in that movie?
• 49:42
  Speaker 9: No. Ben Stiller gets married to this woman, and she
• 49:46
  Speaker 9: cheats on him immediately.
• 49:47
  Speaker 3: Oh, yeah, yeah, yeah.
• 49:48
  Speaker 9: On their honeymoon.
• 49:49
  Speaker 6: With the throw pillows?
• 49:50
  Speaker 2: No.
• 49:51
  Speaker 6: With the million throw pillows that she has? He hates
• 49:54
  Speaker 6: the throw pillows?
• 49:55
  Speaker 9: That was a scene, yes.
• 49:56
  Speaker 6: She said she was afraid of her husband would not
• 50:00
  Speaker 6: accept her new girlfriend.
• 50:02
  Speaker 9: Gee, I wonder why.
• 50:03
  Speaker 6: Some guys would. So she is actively cheating on her husband.
• 50:09
  Speaker 6: and from what I can tell, it has been going
• 50:11
  Speaker 6: on for a while. She explained that she had been
• 50:14
  Speaker 6: regularly talking to multiple polyamorous couples behind her husband's back.
• 50:19
  Speaker 6: She was essentially using those interactions to test whether polyamory
• 50:23
  Speaker 6: was right for her before ever having an honest discussion
• 50:27
  Speaker 6: with her spouse. She claimed she did not mean for
• 50:31
  Speaker 6: it to turn into a full relationship, but one thing
• 50:34
  Speaker 6: led to another. And she ended up dating another polyamorous woman.
• 50:40
  Speaker 1: Wow. Okay. So not only is she coming out as poly,
• 50:45
  Speaker 1: she's also J with a G. So she is also
• 50:50
  Speaker 1: bi now. Because she has a husband. So now this
• 50:54
  Speaker 1: is unfolding many layers.
• 50:56
  Speaker 6: There are a lot. I'd probably have a heart attack
• 50:59
  Speaker 6: if I was his husband. Yeah, you would. Would they
• 51:02
  Speaker 6: have like, I don't know, kids?
• 51:04
  Speaker 2: Yes.
• 51:05
  Speaker 6: I wouldn't know what to do then.
• 51:05
  Speaker 9: It'll be soon to be ex-husband, honestly.
• 51:08
  Speaker 6: So, that was the moment I backed off and told
• 51:13
  Speaker 6: her she needed to tell her husband immediately.
• 51:15
  Speaker 3: Oh, my God. Don't even read that.
• 51:18
  Speaker 6: Ming, ming.
• 51:19
  Speaker 9: Don't even read that.
• 51:20
  Speaker 3: That's what made me chuckle.
• 51:21
  Speaker 6: Okay, so, that was the moment I backed off and
• 51:25
  Speaker 6: told her she needed to tell her husband immediately. Things
• 51:28
  Speaker 6: got even worse. when she asked me to help convince
• 51:32
  Speaker 6: her husband.
• 51:33
  Speaker 1: No.
• 51:33
  Speaker 6: I refuse!
• 51:35
  Speaker 9: Why am I involved in this?
• 51:36
  Speaker 3: Yeah, no.
• 51:37
  Speaker 1: She's trying to get you involved so that she, you know.
• 51:40
  Speaker 3: Oh my gosh.
• 51:40
  Speaker 1: It's like, I have other people on my side. It's not,
• 51:42
  Speaker 1: you know.
• 51:43
  Speaker 9: Do you think it's, and she's gonna do the, oh,
• 51:45
  Speaker 9: so you just hate poly people then?
• 51:46
  Speaker 3: Yep.
• 51:47
  Speaker 1: Wow, okay. I hate this person.
• 51:49
  Speaker 6: I generally stay far away from drama, especially relationship drama,
• 51:54
  Speaker 6: so I have no idea why she thought I would
• 51:56
  Speaker 6: agree to get involved in this mess. Also, I don't
• 51:59
  Speaker 6: want to be the degenerate who manipulates their friend's partner
• 52:02
  Speaker 6: to stay with them after being cheated on because that
• 52:06
  Speaker 6: is exactly what she did. She cheated. She got angry.
• 52:10
  Speaker 6: She lashed out at me, accused me of being unsupportive,
• 52:13
  Speaker 6: and started calling me names again. That was the last
• 52:16
  Speaker 6: straw for me. So I walked away and went home.
• 52:19
  Speaker 6: She has been blowing my phone up ever since. I'm
• 52:22
  Speaker 6: sure she is terrified that I will tell her husband,
• 52:25
  Speaker 6: and to be completely honest with it, I am still
• 52:28
  Speaker 6: debating whether I should. Also, I want to clear up
• 52:31
  Speaker 6: something because I don't want this to be interpreted as
• 52:34
  Speaker 6: criticism of polyamorous people. I've learned that ethical polyamory is
• 52:38
  Speaker 6: built on communication, trust, and enthusiastic consent from everyone involved.
• 52:43
  Speaker 1: That's true.
• 52:44
  Speaker 6: Send that video essay to your friend.
• 52:46
  Speaker 1: Yeah, send like the, yeah, you should, truthfully, you should
• 52:50
  Speaker 1: start watching the poly videos and sending them to your
• 52:52
  Speaker 1: friend and be like, actually, this is what it's supposed
• 52:54
  Speaker 1: to look like.
• 52:54
  Speaker 4: Sort of like, We're all poly.
• 52:58
  Speaker 6: Poly workers.
• 52:59
  Speaker 2: No.
• 53:00
  Speaker 3: We're expressive.
• 53:01
  Speaker 6: We're communicative. We're trusting and enthusiastic about reading stories together.
• 53:09
  Speaker 6: We're all in little poly pod.
• 53:11
  Speaker 1: We're in a little poly cube.
• 53:13
  Speaker 6: We read stories together.
• 53:14
  Speaker 1: Yeah, this person sounds like a nightmare. So I would
• 53:19
  Speaker 1: stay far away from them, but I would also give
• 53:21
  Speaker 1: them the ultimatum. Like, you have a week. Not even
• 53:23
  Speaker 1: a week. I'd be like, you have a day to
• 53:25
  Speaker 1: tell your husband. If you don't, I am telling them.
• 53:27
  Speaker 1: Because they deserve to know. He doesn't deserve to go
• 53:30
  Speaker 1: through all of that thinking everything's okay and whatnot when
• 53:33
  Speaker 1: really you're not even thinking about him in this moment.
• 53:36
  Speaker 2: Fair.
• 53:37
  Speaker 3: Like, no.
• 53:38
  Speaker 1: That's not okay.
• 53:39
  Speaker 6: I'll give you that.
• 53:40
  Speaker 1: Thanks.
• 53:41
  Speaker 6: What my friend described wasn't that. It was cheating. I
• 53:45
  Speaker 6: also appreciate the people in the comments who helped me
• 53:47
  Speaker 6: understand that. My issue was never with polyamory itself. My
• 53:51
  Speaker 6: issue was with excessive relationship talks And I've now realized
• 53:55
  Speaker 6: that not every poly person is all about their relationship style,
• 53:59
  Speaker 6: and we can have other things in common, like Disney.
• 54:03
  Speaker 6: This doesn't mean I'm suddenly going to start engaging with
• 54:07
  Speaker 6: polyamory content or the community. That simply isn't where my
• 54:11
  Speaker 6: interests are. I do, however, have a newfound understanding of
• 54:15
  Speaker 6: the dynamic, so thank you so much for giving me grace.
• 54:18
  Speaker 1: Yeah. I don't think... I think it was just worded
• 54:21
  Speaker 1: really weird in the beginning, but I do... believe that
• 54:24
  Speaker 1: obviously you're not like against those people it's just like
• 54:28
  Speaker 1: it's not my cup of tea but you know i'm
• 54:31
  Speaker 1: not i don't hate them.
• 54:33
  Speaker 9: Not yucking the yum yeah i'm not yucking.
• 54:35
  Speaker 1: The yum i'm just that's not my first thing in
• 54:38
  Speaker 1: the morning.
• 54:39
  Speaker 6: There's just too much yums going around.
• 54:41
  Speaker 1: Too many yums not enough yuck.
• 54:43
  Speaker 7: Yikes well that's the end of that story Hey, it's Angie,
• 54:46
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• 54:50
  Speaker 7: get back to the stories, but here's a three-minute ad
• 54:53
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• 54:55
  Speaker 1: My best friend refused to invite my partner to her wedding,
• 54:59
  Speaker 1: and it cost us everything. Like your relationship? I, male 28,
• 55:05
  Speaker 1: have been with my partner, female 26, for a year
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  Speaker 1: and a half. I've known one of my best friends,
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  Speaker 1: female 27, for five years. and I'm also close with
• 55:13
  Speaker 1: her fiancé, male 27. They were some of the few
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  Speaker 1: friends I had when I first moved to a new city.
• 55:20
  Speaker 1: They're getting married in another state, about an eight-hour trip
• 55:23
  Speaker 1: from where I live now, and they asked me to
• 55:26
  Speaker 1: be a groomsman. The issue is my partner wasn't invited.
• 55:29
  Speaker 1: They told me it wasn't personal that other partners and
• 55:33
  Speaker 1: even some extended family weren't invited either due to budget
• 55:36
  Speaker 1: and space limitations. Since they've only met my partner twice,
• 55:39
  Speaker 1: she didn't make the list. I honestly wasn't happy about
• 55:42
  Speaker 1: it because I wanted her to be there with me.
• 55:44
  Speaker 1: I even offered to cover all of her costs, but
• 55:47
  Speaker 1: they said it wasn't possible. They explained there's a waiting list.
• 55:51
  Speaker 1: If someone drops out, she might get an invite. They
• 55:54
  Speaker 1: apologized for the situation. It took me a couple of
• 55:57
  Speaker 1: days to tell my partner, but when I did, she
• 56:00
  Speaker 1: surprised me. She said she understood, even if she was
• 56:03
  Speaker 1: a bit upset. She even offered to come on the
• 56:05
  Speaker 1: trip and stay in the hotel while I went to
• 56:06
  Speaker 1: the wedding. I told her that would be really thoughtful,
• 56:09
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• 56:20
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• 56:23
  Speaker 1: We don't have all your answers, though. We're only going
• 56:25
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• 56:26
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• 56:29
  Speaker 1: OP says, a few days later, she brought it up again.
• 56:33
  Speaker 1: She said after talking to her friends, they suggested a compromise.
• 56:37
  Speaker 1: I could go to the ceremony, but skip the reception
• 56:40
  Speaker 1: to be with her. I disagreed. I plan to spend
• 56:43
  Speaker 1: my life with her and we'll have plenty of moments together.
• 56:46
  Speaker 1: But this wedding is a once in a lifetime event
• 56:48
  Speaker 1: for close friends and they specifically want me there to celebrate.
• 56:52
  Speaker 1: I suggested we plan a special trip together afterwards to
• 56:55
  Speaker 1: make it up to her. Now she says that when
• 56:57
  Speaker 1: we get married, she doesn't want to invite my friend
• 56:59
  Speaker 1: and her fiance kind of as payback for the situation.
• 57:03
  Speaker 1: But I don't feel that way. To me, if I
• 57:06
  Speaker 1: can't invite two of my five closest friends, then what's
• 57:09
  Speaker 1: the point of even having a wedding? I know my
• 57:11
  Speaker 1: partner has every right to be upset and she's under
• 57:13
  Speaker 1: no obligation to sit around while I go to an
• 57:16
  Speaker 1: event she's excluded from. But am I the a-hole for
• 57:19
  Speaker 1: wanting to attend the wedding fully and still planning to
• 57:22
  Speaker 1: invite my friend and her fiance to my own future wedding?
• 57:27
  Speaker 1: And there's a verdict here that everyone sucks here.
• 57:30
  Speaker 9: Again, their rules were like, listen, you're one of our
• 57:33
  Speaker 9: best friends. We want you there. Sorry that she can't
• 57:36
  Speaker 9: be there, but we're also not having family members there.
• 57:39
  Speaker 9: and other people with very important plus ones. It's not
• 57:42
  Speaker 9: like a you thing. It's not we're against her. It's just,
• 57:46
  Speaker 9: it's a very limited space.
• 57:47
  Speaker 6: Yeah, I hope you can understand that.
• 57:49
  Speaker 9: And even, the weirdest thing is, even OP's girlfriend is like,
• 57:53
  Speaker 9: I understand. Like, I'm a little upset, and she has
• 57:55
  Speaker 9: every right to be upset, but now she's like, no,
• 57:58
  Speaker 9: can't invite him to our wedding.
• 57:59
  Speaker 1: Yeah, it just, now that's petty. Like, their thing wasn't petty. Like,
• 58:05
  Speaker 1: the first, like, you know, They just said we don't
• 58:07
  Speaker 1: really have enough room.
• 58:09
  Speaker 6: Yeah.
• 58:09
  Speaker 1: It's not because they were trying to be petty. Be like, no,
• 58:11
  Speaker 1: we don't like her. She can't come. It's like we
• 58:13
  Speaker 1: don't really know her and we don't have enough room
• 58:15
  Speaker 1: to accommodate for her. So like we just want our
• 58:17
  Speaker 1: closest friends there.
• 58:19
  Speaker 6: Anonymous says less than two years may not qualify for them.
• 58:22
  Speaker 6: I like that rule. Long, long term spouse like spouses
• 58:25
  Speaker 6: or long term partners. What if you met someone for
• 58:29
  Speaker 6: three months, got married and you've only been together for
• 58:31
  Speaker 6: nine months, but you're married?
• 58:32
  Speaker 1: I mean, if you're married, then you could come again.
• 58:35
  Speaker 3: What is it, guys?
• 58:36
  Speaker 9: It's their wedding.
• 58:37
  Speaker 3: Their wedding, their rules.
• 58:39
  Speaker 1: There are some relevant and top comments. Commenter number one says, soft,
• 58:43
  Speaker 1: you're the a-hole. You have best friends for five years
• 58:46
  Speaker 1: and girlfriend for a year and a half, and they
• 58:49
  Speaker 1: don't know her? Doesn't seem to jive. Is this a
• 58:53
  Speaker 1: long-distance girlfriend you chat with online or in real life?
• 58:56
  Speaker 1: OP responds, they moved states before we got together. My
• 58:58
  Speaker 1: friends met my girlfriend only twice when they traveled here
• 59:01
  Speaker 1: to visit. There's an update. Ten months later.
• 59:04
  Speaker 2: Oh.
• 59:05
  Speaker 1: After reading all the comments, I reached out to my
• 59:07
  Speaker 1: friend because I didn't want this situation to damage either.
• 59:10
  Speaker 1: my relationship or our friendship. I told her how conflicted
• 59:14
  Speaker 1: I had been. I explained that I felt like I
• 59:16
  Speaker 1: was being pulled between two people I loved and that
• 59:18
  Speaker 1: I had turned to Reddit because I genuinely didn't know
• 59:21
  Speaker 1: what the right thing to do was. I never mentioned
• 59:23
  Speaker 1: anyone's real name, location, or any identifying information, but someone
• 59:27
  Speaker 1: who recognized the story sent it to her. She was
• 59:29
  Speaker 1: understandably very hurt. Reading hundreds of strangers criticizing her wedding
• 59:34
  Speaker 1: decisions and calling her selfish or cheap was something she
• 59:37
  Speaker 1: hadn't expected, and I completely understand why it affected her.
• 59:40
  Speaker 1: People also sent me DMs calling me weak, saying my
• 59:43
  Speaker 1: girlfriend should leave me, and making all kinds of assumptions
• 59:46
  Speaker 1: about my relationship. Neither of us expected that posting an
• 59:49
  Speaker 1: anonymous request for advice would turn into thousands of people
• 59:53
  Speaker 1: judging us personally.
• 59:54
  Speaker 3: Really?
• 59:55
  Speaker 9: Is this your first time on the internet?
• 59:56
  Speaker 1: Yeah. We talked for a long time, and by the
• 59:59
  Speaker 1: end of the conversation, I truly believed we had worked
• 1:00:01
  Speaker 1: everything out. She told me she still valued our friendship,
• 1:00:05
  Speaker 1: still wanted me at the wedding, and asked me to
• 1:00:07
  Speaker 1: delete the Reddit post because she knew she would keep
• 1:00:09
  Speaker 1: coming back to read the comments and that they would
• 1:00:11
  Speaker 1: continue hurting her. So I deleted it. I thought that
• 1:00:15
  Speaker 1: would be the end of it. Instead, over the following months,
• 1:00:17
  Speaker 1: she gradually disappeared from my life. She removed me from
• 1:00:20
  Speaker 1: social media, left the group chats we shared, and stopped
• 1:00:23
  Speaker 1: replying whenever I reached out about completely unrelated things. When
• 1:00:27
  Speaker 1: she visited my city, where she had usually stayed in
• 1:00:30
  Speaker 1: my guest room, she intentionally avoided letting me know she
• 1:00:33
  Speaker 1: was there. After several months of silence, I eventually asked
• 1:00:36
  Speaker 1: a mutual friend if something had happened. That's when I
• 1:00:39
  Speaker 1: found out that she had decided I was no longer
• 1:00:42
  Speaker 1: welcome in her life. Oh, her life?
• 1:00:44
  Speaker 3: Dang.
• 1:00:45
  Speaker 6: Oh my gosh.
• 1:00:46
  Speaker 9: Because, because why? Because the internet? Because of the internet?
• 1:00:52
  Speaker 9: Childish Gambino?
• 1:00:54
  Speaker 1: I don't know. Well, this is, Her life? I could.
• 1:00:59
  Speaker 6: Does she feel this betrayed because he went on Reddit
• 1:01:02
  Speaker 6: and said all this?
• 1:01:03
  Speaker 9: And he didn't say anything negative about his girlfriend. It
• 1:01:08
  Speaker 9: was the internet calling her an a-hole.
• 1:01:12
  Speaker 1: I think, yeah, but he's the one who put it
• 1:01:15
  Speaker 1: out there. And so I think now she has maybe
• 1:01:18
  Speaker 1: developed this bad tendency to look at the comments and
• 1:01:21
  Speaker 1: be like, okay, you know, did I do this right?
• 1:01:23
  Speaker 1: Did I do this right? You know, type of thing.
• 1:01:24
  Speaker 1: Because it kind of does, like, do that. I don't...
• 1:01:27
  Speaker 1: Her life?
• 1:01:29
  Speaker 2: She.
• 1:01:29
  Speaker 6: He was split.
• 1:01:31
  Speaker 1: Yeah. I.
• 1:01:32
  Speaker 6: That's way too far.
• 1:01:33
  Speaker 3: Maybe wedding? Sure. Life?
• 1:01:35
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 1:01:36
  Speaker 6: After what other people were saying? He didn't say anything
• 1:01:38
  Speaker 6: that bad.
• 1:01:39
  Speaker 5: I guess.
• 1:01:39
  Speaker 6: I was like on the girlfriend. I didn't even think
• 1:01:41
  Speaker 6: the couple sucked that much. I thought the girlfriend was
• 1:01:43
  Speaker 6: sucking for making such a big deal out of this.
• 1:01:45
  Speaker 9: I guess OP got an easy decision for the wedding.
• 1:01:48
  Speaker 5: Yeah.
• 1:01:49
  Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, yeah. She never told me herself. I learned
• 1:01:53
  Speaker 1: it through someone else. I won't pretend that didn't hurt.
• 1:01:57
  Speaker 1: She had been one of the people who supported me
• 1:01:59
  Speaker 1: during one of the hardest periods of my life when
• 1:02:02
  Speaker 1: I felt like I had almost no one else around me.
• 1:02:05
  Speaker 1: Because of that, I genuinely believed we shared one of
• 1:02:07
  Speaker 1: the closest friendships I had. Looking back, I realize our
• 1:02:11
  Speaker 1: friendship may not have meant the same thing to both
• 1:02:13
  Speaker 1: of us, but eventually, I accepted it and moved on.
• 1:02:17
  Speaker 1: The positive side is that my relationship with my partner
• 1:02:19
  Speaker 1: became much stronger. The entire experience forced me to rethink
• 1:02:23
  Speaker 1: my priorities. I learned that it's important to value the
• 1:02:26
  Speaker 1: people who consistently choose to be part of your life
• 1:02:29
  Speaker 1: instead of exhausting yourself trying to hold on to relationships
• 1:02:33
  Speaker 1: that may no longer be mutual. We've been together for
• 1:02:36
  Speaker 1: over two years. We're building a wonderful life together, and
• 1:02:40
  Speaker 1: I'm planning to propose very soon.
• 1:02:41
  Speaker 3: Okay, well.
• 1:02:44
  Speaker 1: Last month, I found out through mutual acquaintances' social media
• 1:02:48
  Speaker 1: posts that the wedding had already taken place. Seeing those
• 1:02:52
  Speaker 1: pictures made me think about everything that had happened over
• 1:02:55
  Speaker 1: the past year. I understand why she was hurt after
• 1:02:59
  Speaker 1: finding the post. I was hurt too, not only by
• 1:03:03
  Speaker 1: many of the comments, but also by how everything unfolded afterward.
• 1:03:06
  Speaker 1: But I still find myself wondering... Was anonymously asking Reddit
• 1:03:11
  Speaker 1: for advice really such a betrayal that it justified ending
• 1:03:14
  Speaker 1: a five-year friendship without ever telling me directly? Am I
• 1:03:18
  Speaker 1: the a-hole?
• 1:03:20
  Speaker 6: Everyone sucked here to some degree.
• 1:03:22
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 1:03:23
  Speaker 6: Let's rank them.
• 1:03:24
  Speaker 3: You know what?
• 1:03:24
  Speaker 9: I'm going to say right now, in the words of Kobe, soft.
• 1:03:29
  Speaker 9: Everyone here is soft.
• 1:03:30
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 1:03:31
  Speaker 6: Soft. Did we really have a relationship where we couldn't
• 1:03:33
  Speaker 6: talk this through? I had a hard time with one
• 1:03:36
  Speaker 6: of my friends recently, and I talked to him about it.
• 1:03:38
  Speaker 2: And?
• 1:03:39
  Speaker 6: Yeah, I mean, he kind of saw my point of view,
• 1:03:41
  Speaker 6: but he was like, yeah, it's all good. And then
• 1:03:43
  Speaker 6: we worked through it. That's kind of how things go.
• 1:03:45
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 1:03:46
  Speaker 1: I mean, you just have to have the tough conversations,
• 1:03:49
  Speaker 1: which sucks, but you do. There are some FAQs from
• 1:03:52
  Speaker 1: the original post. Why didn't you want your partner to
• 1:03:55
  Speaker 1: come and stay at the hotel? This was actually a
• 1:03:57
  Speaker 1: translation mistake when I rewrote the story in English. What
• 1:04:00
  Speaker 1: I meant was that I would have loved for her
• 1:04:03
  Speaker 1: to come on the trip with me. But I also
• 1:04:05
  Speaker 1: understood if she didn't feel comfortable traveling just to stay
• 1:04:07
  Speaker 1: alone while I attended the wedding. No, I was never
• 1:04:10
  Speaker 1: planning to cheat on my partner. Some comments somehow reached
• 1:04:13
  Speaker 1: that conclusion, but it was never remotely true. What did
• 1:04:17
  Speaker 1: you mean by saying, if I can't invite two of
• 1:04:19
  Speaker 1: my five closest friends, then what's even the point of
• 1:04:22
  Speaker 1: having a wedding? I was wrong. After reading the comments,
• 1:04:25
  Speaker 1: talking to my therapist, and having several conversations with my partner,
• 1:04:29
  Speaker 1: I realized that statement didn't make sense. The point of
• 1:04:32
  Speaker 1: my future wedding is marrying the love of my life.
• 1:04:35
  Speaker 1: Everything else is secondary. Ironically, after watching so many wedding
• 1:04:39
  Speaker 1: horror stories, my partner and I have decided that we
• 1:04:42
  Speaker 1: don't even want a big wedding anymore. We'd much rather
• 1:04:45
  Speaker 1: have a small intimate ceremony and spend the money on
• 1:04:48
  Speaker 1: things like traveling together.
• 1:04:49
  Speaker 9: So like, you don't want to invite everyone and not
• 1:04:51
  Speaker 9: everyone can get a plus one.
• 1:04:53
  Speaker 6: This whole thing again?
• 1:04:54
  Speaker 9: Holy crap.
• 1:04:55
  Speaker 6: We've been here.
• 1:04:56
  Speaker 1: Huh.
• 1:04:57
  Speaker 6: Been here, OP.
• 1:04:58
  Speaker 1: Huh.
• 1:05:00
  Speaker 2: Huh.
• 1:05:00
  Speaker 7: Huh.
• 1:05:01
  Speaker 5: And that's the end of this story.