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No 2 narcissists are exactly alike · The Mental Healness Podcast

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  What is going on? Beautiful people.
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  Welcome to another episode of deed narcissist code.
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  I'm your favorite self-aware, narcissist mr.
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  Lee hammock better known as mental illness across all social
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  media platforms. This your first time seeing my
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  face and hear my voice. I'm a clinically diagnosed
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  narcissist and I use my platform on social media to raise
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  awareness for MPD. Get more people into therapy and
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  also validate the victims, survivors and thrivers of say
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  this order said talk to people, say tax and trade show.
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  Today's episode is going to be about how no to narcissists are
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  exactly alike. Like no to narcissists are
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  exactly alike before we happen in today's episode.
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  Seriously. Yeah.
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  Back to the topic at hand. No narcissistic.
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  People are kind of like fingerprints show.
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  No. You know there's no to
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  fingerprint there's no to set of fingerprints in the That match.
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  No two fingerprints than I don't know.
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  If I didn't do identical, twins have finger prints that match.
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  I don't, that's what we're that's a different.
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  That's a different Dynamic right there.
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  So excluding identical twins. No, two fingerprints, you no two
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  fingerprints. No, two fingerprints, all the
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  same, just like narcissistic people.
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  I looked it up, lady out but yeah, no two cents.
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  No two sets of fingerprints are the same but they're they're
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  both fingerprints. You say I'm saying that's what
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  it kind of like you get to similar narcissist.
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  Like you get like let's say I don't know if y'all follow Ben
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  Taylor. Ben Taylor overall motivations.
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  He's another cell phone nurses that does very similar things
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  that what I do promoting healing growth change, what not?
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  We're in this growth, healing change and development.
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  That's been being promotes. But me and him are both
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  self-aware narcissist, but we are very very different at the
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  same time. You know, we both have
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  narcissistic personality disorder but we present them in
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  very, very unique, different ways, you know, being cool Yeah
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  cool. Why do I may just cool?
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  Black. Do you know if we just we just
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  we are alike but we're so different.
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  Thought I minds work very, very similar but we present that we
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  presented in different ways you know.
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  So he'll he'll act like I'm more of a I can be more of an overt
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  narcissist. A lot of time, like my social
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  media platform, I look like an over a narcissist when I'm out
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  in the world. I look like an overt outgoing.
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  Narcissistic person being this more along the lines of more
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  covert, you know. So You can get to like, and this
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  happens a lot sometimes to yo, you're groping a toxic household
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  with a toxic parent. Like I said, you have a toxic
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  father, right? You grow up in a toxic household
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  with a toxic narcissistic father and you'll find a man that act
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  or woman or person, the acts just like them.
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  I said, they act, they are two traits are similar but they're
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  like two different peoples like, oh, they were, they remind me of
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  my dad but my dad didn't do this.
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  My dad didn't do that. And so that's why just saying
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  like that's why I don't like to because no two narcissists are
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  exactly the same or behave exactly the same.
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  Yeah, I can do videos. I'll see my videos.
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  I can do it. I can do a skit where some
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  people will be like my narcissistic X on my husband.
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  My wife, they do exactly that right there early.
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  But then some people just like, oh no my narcissistic - my
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  partner doesn't do that right there because no, but that
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  doesn't necessarily mean that they're not a narcissist.
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  I do this, I drink I do this. When I heard you might get a
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  narcissistic person, that's a vegan health health, health,
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  health, person, or whatever. It doesn't drink, doesn't smoke.
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  But that this does that not make them a narcissist.
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  You say I'm saying, You get two, you get narcissistic people who
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  have the same. Like the traits are going to be
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  at the same. A lot of times y'all to did
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  narcissistic traits are going to be the same but they're going to
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  present themselves in different ways because people have
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  different upbringings people, different races, different
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  ethnicities, different religions, different heights,
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  weights different jobs. This different socio-economic
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  standing different certain were raised in different
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  socio-economic households and things like that.
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  You hit that it happens. Right there.
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  Yeah, you don't say they happen. So much in these in these toxic
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  relationship Dynamics, you like they're going to present
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  differently. Y'all can you can have
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  back-to-back narcissist? You can be married to an over
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  malignant toxic as narcissist divorced.
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  That person in Merit at covert narcissist they nobody, you got
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  too loud, you got. You get the loud boisterous,
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  toxic a snorts is right but then you go marry somebody like being
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  who's a covert our sins. But people wouldn't people with
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  no people were not know. That person is a narcissist
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  people in. My real life wouldn't know that.
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  I'm an arson. You something.
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  Unless I told them that they see my stuff now.
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  Do they have your nurse? I didn't know that, you know,
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  me, but people like that. He just, you just don't know.
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  Yo, a lot of people just don't know what they're dealing with.
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  And that's like, saying it's understandable that you don't
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  know what you're doing. Because how would you, you know,
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  babe you can go from a toxic malignant as nurses to a covert
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  narcissist but they're still nurses.
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  They both act differently but it's the same, it's the same
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  traits. They just act differently.
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  Was it themselves differently when my old best friends super
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  over it narcissist. I'm more of like, when I'm
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  around him. When I'm with him, I'm over
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  covert our sins. God, I just like his person, his
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  person, I think it just takes over and I can go and kind of
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  go. I kind of float beneath the
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  surface has, it was not, so he's super over.
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  I'm super Cofer. We have the same goals, we just
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  go about them differently, so you get narcissistic people.
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  They we have the same type of goal in mind, control power
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  control. Defense and all the other stuff
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  but we just go about getting them in a different way.
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  You know, you don't get your I said you might have a your dad
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  or your mom might have presented a lot of narcissistic rage, your
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  husband or your wife or your boss doesn't do that your best
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  friend doesn't do that. They give you the silent
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  treatment. You some say some narcissist
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  rage, some some nurses have quiet, raise the silent
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  treatment. Some narcissist pretend you
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  don't exist some narcissistic, people will put their hands on
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  you. Some of them would just yell and
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  scream at you, some of them won't do any of that.
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  Some of them just be subtle, they'll control you with subtle
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  subtle movements, settle intent, and things like that.
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  You see, I'm saying, but no, no, two are the same as ours and
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  that's the message. I try to present to a lot of
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  people didn't know to or going to be exactly the same, you
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  know, he's going to like, sit the personality attracted to
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  trait. The traits of narcissism will be
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  the same how they present themselves are going to be
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  different. You don't mean yes.
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  I'm outside again. Yeah, it's beautiful outside.
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  It's just like what? It's just them days.
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  Days. Like to get my day started and
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  doing different things or is it say, or is this is this the same
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  day from yesterday? You don't know?
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  Do you but yeah, but that's how it goes.
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  Are y'all? That's like I said, people are
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  going to present themselves in different ways.
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  Like some narcissist can do a little bit of both depending on
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  who they're with, you get one you.
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  If I'm a narcissist, if I can use narcissistic rage to control
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  this person, I might do that. But narcissistic, rage might not
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  work on this new person. So, Had to get it inside a
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  treatment. So some narcissistic people the
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  to. So look like out.
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  This, this can help you as well. Look up the ninth rates of
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  narcissistic personality disorder.
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  Do you nine diagnosable criteria from criteria criteria about
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  narcissistic personality? Disorder, look it up y'all.
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  You have to have five out of the out of the nine, do big
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  diagnosed. So you have five out of the nine
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  traits to be diagnosed, right? So five out of nine Any
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  combination of those five out of nine.
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  So you said I'm saying, some people are going to have more
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  than five. Of course with like the minimum
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  is five and some people don't have that, you can mix those
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  five up. So some of the traits are gonna
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  be different you some say but no to narcissists are going to be
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  exactly alike. Yeah that's why I just try to
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  get the message and people like just because this person behaves
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  differently than that person doesn't mean that they're not a
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  narcissist or not toxic as hell. You see?
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  I'm saying just because they don't lie to you and Gaslight
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  you You doesn't necessarily mean that they're not a narcissist,
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  you say it just is this presented in a different
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  package. Like I said, yeah.
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  It's a, it's a, it's just the same thing in a different
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  package, you know, that that's just how it goes in a lot of
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  these Dynamics. A lot of these situations, the
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  same thing just in a different more unique type of package,
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  different mindset, different type of thing right there.
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  Yeah, so if I just tell people y'all just be very weary and
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  it's the mindset of whatever it is.
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  I said, just because this person doesn't present Your ex or does
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  it present like your mom or your dad?
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  Whoever you bet whoever you were raised around, there could be
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  narcissistic just because they don't present the same way that
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  person does. Doesn't mean that that person is
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  not a narcissist again just because they present differently
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  does not mean that that person is not in our church.
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  Our church is not sound like James Bond, John Connor and
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  archers. But as I go, the yeah Emily.
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