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5-MINUTE FRIDAY: On The Opportunity Of Making New Memories · Hurdle with Emily Abbate

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  Speaker 1: Hey, everybody, Emily a body coming to you, not from
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  Speaker 1: the AG studio, but rather from my Boston hotel room.
• 0:25
  Speaker 1: I mentioned this before, but I am doing a fair
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  Speaker 1: amount of traveling this month, and I have been in
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  Speaker 1: Boston for the week. I'm here through the marathon on Monday,
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  Speaker 1: heading back home on Tuesday, and really enjoying the change
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  Speaker 1: of scenery. The energy up here is electric. I want
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  Speaker 1: to wish well wishes, good luck, happy running to everyone
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  Speaker 1: that's going to be heading out there this coming Monday.
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  Speaker 1: I believe I'll be cheering around mile twenty five, but
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  Speaker 1: if you want to know exactly where I will be,
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  Speaker 1: I will make sure to post that on Instagram as
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  Speaker 1: I get a better idea.
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  Speaker 2: Closer to the race. But I'm so excited to be
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  Speaker 2: up here.
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  Speaker 1: And if you don't have plans tomorrow evening and you
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  Speaker 1: want to be entertained, I'm going to be sitting down
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  Speaker 1: with Des Linden live and you can stream it, so
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  Speaker 1: I will include the link to do that. Thanks to
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  Speaker 1: my friends at Inside Tracker for connecting us. I'll put
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  Speaker 1: that link in the show notes. So for today's episode
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  Speaker 1: of Five Minute Friday, I want to talk a little
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  Speaker 1: bit about reframing, which is something that I have spoken
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  Speaker 1: about here in the past and relevant to my experience
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  Speaker 1: this week. I am currently reframing and making new memories
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  Speaker 1: based on my time in Boston. So for two reasons,
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  Speaker 1: first and foremost, when I ran the Boston Marathon, it was,
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  Speaker 1: I believe, twenty eighteen notoriously known as the worst weather
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  Speaker 1: conditions goodness, I mean from a cold perspective. I know
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  Speaker 1: it's been quite hot here many times, but the year
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  Speaker 1: that I ran the Boston Marathon, there was hail like
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  Speaker 1: sixty mile an hour, gust of wind, elites had dropped
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  Speaker 1: out because of hypothermia, like, the conditions were just awful,
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  Speaker 1: and it was a very very very hard day to
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  Speaker 1: run a marathon. And I did the thing, and I
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  Speaker 1: was so and am still so proud of that effort.
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  Speaker 1: But because of that effort, I always joke that although qualifying,
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  Speaker 1: although I have qualified for the Boston Marathon, at this point,
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  Speaker 1: I just don't think that I have.
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  Speaker 2: An interest in doing it again.
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  Speaker 1: And then I remembered, upon coming and checking into one
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  Speaker 1: of two hotels that I'm saying in this week, I
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  Speaker 1: remembered that the last time I was at the first hotel,
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  Speaker 1: was the weekend that I got out of my last relationship.
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  Speaker 1: We had come up here, I me and my partner
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  Speaker 1: at the time to go to a run with the
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  Speaker 1: Midnight Runners and Rebok, and we toured around the city
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  Speaker 1: and made a whole weekend of it. And then when
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  Speaker 1: we got back to New York, he like sat me down,
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  Speaker 1: he was like, We're done. And you know, I guess
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  Speaker 1: you could say, considering those two stories, that I don't
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  Speaker 1: have the fond.
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  Speaker 2: Memories of spending a lot of time in Boston, but
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  Speaker 2: I recognize that, you know, every single day we have
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  Speaker 2: an opportunity to reframe and to make new memories.
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  Speaker 1: And this is also something that I talked with earlier
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  Speaker 1: this week with Rebecca Sofer from Modern Loss about when
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  Speaker 1: she was chatting about the memories that we have with
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  Speaker 1: people who we may not have in our lives anymore,
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  Speaker 1: maybe they have passed, or perhaps the relationships have just dissolved,
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  Speaker 1: and rather than thinking about everything through a negative lens
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  Speaker 1: or thinking about how things aren't the same anymore, we
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  Speaker 1: have that chance to then reframe and to rejigger and
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  Speaker 1: to redo. And so for me in Boston this week,
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  Speaker 1: I have a lot of really great things going on.
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  Speaker 1: I'm here, like I said, through Tuesday, and I'm just
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  Speaker 1: really looking forward to kind of reclaiming some of this
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  Speaker 1: space and some of my energy and smiling maybe a
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  Speaker 1: little bit more and getting to see people I haven't
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  Speaker 1: seen in a really long time coming together in community
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  Speaker 1: and that feels really, really nice. So my question for
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  Speaker 1: you this week is what's going on in your life
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  Speaker 1: that maybe you can look at through a different lens.
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  Speaker 1: What opportunity can you take hold of to rewrite your
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  Speaker 1: narrative to reclaim your story? Again? My prompt for you
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  Speaker 1: this week, what opportunity can you take hold of to
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  Speaker 1: rewrite your narrative to reframe your story with something that's
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  Speaker 1: going on right now for you? And now a listener question.
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  Speaker 3: Hey, Emily, this is Amber from Nashua, New Hampshire originally
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  Speaker 3: Worcester and my question is based off of the hats
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  Speaker 3: question that you got for last week. I would like
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  Speaker 3: to know where you get your style inspiration from. You
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  Speaker 3: always look so classic and functional, like you'd be able
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  Speaker 3: to I don't know New York, but fifty blocks to
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  Speaker 3: go somewhere to get a coffee and your nails are
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  Speaker 3: always so on point, Like what's your where do you
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  Speaker 3: get your outfit ideas from? And like, what does your
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  Speaker 3: closet look like? Could we see your closet? Like, I
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  Speaker 3: have so many clothes and I feel like I can
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  Speaker 3: never find any outfit in the idea of paring down
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  Speaker 3: just terrifies me. Thanks so much.
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  Speaker 2: What up Amber?
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  Speaker 1: Okay, So admittedly this question came through a little while ago,
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  Speaker 1: but I'm just getting to it. So style inspiration, I
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  Speaker 1: definitely will save things that I like when I'm scrolling
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  Speaker 1: or whatever and think about what a situation might be
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  Speaker 1: where I could use this outfit at a later time.
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  Speaker 1: Like sometimes I'm shopping very far ahead, especially like I mentioned,
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  Speaker 1: I'm traveling right now, so I like to know, you know,
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  Speaker 1: what's going on in my schedule a month out, sometimes
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  Speaker 1: in the best case scenario, a little more than that,
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  Speaker 1: and all like just advanced plan so to speak. So,
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  Speaker 1: for example, I saw someone wearing a cropped blazer a
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  Speaker 1: few months ago. I loved the look. I knew I
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  Speaker 1: had that talk in DC coming up last month, and
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  Speaker 1: so I bought that blazer with that talk in mind.
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  Speaker 1: I very rarely buy clothes to just buy clothes. I
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  Speaker 1: almost always buy clothes because I know of a thing
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  Speaker 1: that I can use that particular item for. I am
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  Speaker 1: back on rent the Runway right now, although I'll admit
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  Speaker 1: I'm not totally sold on a lot of the stuff
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  Speaker 1: that I've been seeing on there lately, but I have
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  Speaker 1: been finding it very useful for things that are like
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  Speaker 1: one and done when it comes to weddings or events.
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  Speaker 1: I don't have, you know, endless amounts of cash just
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  Speaker 1: to put things in my closet only to wear them once.
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  Speaker 1: So the things that are coming into my closet these
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  Speaker 1: are more staple items, items that I'm more like on
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  Speaker 1: board with investing in, and then I just figure out
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  Speaker 1: how to repurpose them and use them for all different moments, occasions,
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  Speaker 1: et cetera. When it comes to functionality, I mean, I'm
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  Speaker 1: a queen of functionality. I will wear a lot of
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  Speaker 1: different sneakers. As you know, you asked if you could
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  Speaker 1: see my closet. Obviously on a podcast you can't really
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  Speaker 1: see things, but painting a picture. There are literally like
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  Speaker 1: seventy pairs of sneakers stored in over the door sneaker
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  Speaker 1: holders and above the shelf, and a lot of clothes
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  Speaker 1: which I now need to switch out based on seasons.
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  Speaker 1: But for me, it's all about pairing like comfortable basics together.
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  Speaker 1: I do have, you know, some heels and like not
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  Speaker 1: sneakers in the rotation, but I my god, I feel
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  Speaker 1: like the last two times I've worn heels, I've like
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  Speaker 1: blistered immediately. For me, it's all about comfort. It's all
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  Speaker 1: about what I feel good in my body with. It's
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  Speaker 1: all about saving stuff to use later for style inspo.
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  Speaker 1: I guess that's it for this week. Thanks for hurdling
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  Speaker 1: with me. I feel like I'm in such a weird mood.
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  Speaker 1: I am so grateful for all of you, and I
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  Speaker 1: just yeah, I'm really grateful for you. Thanks for keeping
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  Speaker 1: up with me. Make sure you're following along to do
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  Speaker 1: more of that over at Hurdle Podcast. I'm over at
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  Speaker 1: emily A Baddy another hurdle conquered. Catch you guys next time.