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HHBSO 123: 50 Topics · He's Hot but Something's Off...

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Hello, welcome to He's hot but something is off OK, it is very
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early by my standards. It is 853.
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AMI usually record these in the afternoon, 5-6 PM.
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Usually I have my regular work day doing whatever, and then I
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usually will do the podcast sometime before dinner.
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So that's why I'm cooking. Wow, something's in the oven.
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But today it's going to be a busy day.
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And sometimes when it's a busy day, when there's like one big
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thing I need to do, but then I have some of the smaller things
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that are less important but needs to get done anyways, I
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kind of want to get that stuff out of the way first.
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It's a little like, I don't know, it's, it's just so that I
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can have a clearer mind because if I'm trying to do like the one
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big thing, but then in the back of my head I still have to worry
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about, oh, I've got three other little things that I have to
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worry about later. Sometimes it can be a little
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distracting. So I just finished breakfast and
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I thought, OK, it's a Wednesday. These go up on a Thursday.
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I have to record it later on. So that was the thought I had
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the in the back of my head and I just thought, why don't we just
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record it now, get it over with. And then for the rest of the day
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I can just focus on working on like the big thing and the big
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thing. I don't think I've talked about
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it that much. It's just a work thing.
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But the in in, if everything's on track in a couple weeks, I'll
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talk more about some work stuff that I've been working on.
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But I'm just telling a friend, just messaging on WhatsApp last
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night. I'm just bonkers busy right now
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for, for the next couple of weeks.
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So between now and like right before Thanksgiving, it's going
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to be pretty busy. But in, in two or three weeks,
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you will know why. So we're doing a launch.
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That's I'll just leave it at that for now.
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I don't want to talk about work stuff all the time on the
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podcast. But anyways, it's quite early
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morning here in West Hollywood. It's Thursday now, so I was also
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talking to some of my friends and I was just messaging them
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for Tuesday on Tuesday. And I was just messaging them.
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It is crazy pants in the US today.
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You know, Tuesday the 4th was crazy.
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And they're like, why? Because they're they're not from
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here. They're like, oh, why is this so
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crazy? I was like, OK, the government
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shutdown is, I think as of Tuesday, it was tied for the
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longest government shown we ever had.
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And then on Wednesday it became the longest one hit like 36 days
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or something. And then on Tuesday,
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unfortunately, I saw on the news there was a plane crash.
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So that's obviously bad. And, you know, I'm reading about
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some of the benefits that are starting to go away from some
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people because the government has been out for so long.
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So, yeah, not it wasn't a not that all those things were bad.
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Elections are not bad things. But, you know, it's just a lot
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of stuff going on in the US. So it's not it's not a policy
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for me to not talk about politics on the podcast.
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But I don't, I do keep up on news in bits and pieces.
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I don't spend most of my time reading what you would consider
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traditional news topics like events around the world.
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And I'm not. I don't usually care that much.
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I read car news, I read tech news.
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I keep up on Formula One things I care about.
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And then for World News, U.S. news, things going on with
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politics, I just get once in a while I just read some headlines
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just to kind of sort of know what's up a little bit.
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Oh, I do keep Yahoo Finance open on the tab.
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And I do check in on just generally what's going going on
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in the markets. So I do read up on that as well.
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Yeah, it is, It is. It feels like sometimes when you
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live in the US, you live in the eye of a storm, you know,
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Because locally where I am in my everyday life, things seem sane
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ish. But then you read about the news
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at like the countrywide level, at like the government level
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with all the stuff that's going wrong to politics and it's like,
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it's a bit of a shitstorm, isn't it?
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I don't know if you heard that, but my neighbors are doing
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something upstairs. I was just thinking the other
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day, by the way, this is going to be one of those.
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I think every episode is podcast.
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It's just very random. Like I just switched topics
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every 5 minutes. I know last week I did, I tried
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to, I, I thought about re recording last week's episode,
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but last week's episode I thought, oh, it'd be a good idea
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or it'd be fun to talk about how to hit on me.
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And I went into it just with the idea because this doesn't have
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an outline. If you want a podcast episode
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for me that has structure and an outline, you have to listen to
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the gay crews and travel podcast.
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Well, that was an unintentional plug.
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I did not meant for that to be a plug.
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Listen to the Gay Crews and travel podcast because like 95%
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of those episodes I will sit down about an hour before
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usually and then I will actually write out an outline for, OK,
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here are the main sections. Here are the main points.
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Within each section I will highlight things I need to
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emphasize things like that. So a lot of those episodes do
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have a structure. Some of the ones over on that
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podcast are more just here's a topic, it's more conversational
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and just give my opinion and I can just free form those ones.
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But especially if there's some particular topic that's more
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informational, like there's a episode coming up that I want to
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talk about travel insurance. That's going to be a lot very
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informational. It's going to be a lot of facts.
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I'm definitely going to do quite a long outline.
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It's going to take more than just 30 minutes to throw
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together. It's going to probably take on
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and off the course of a day or two, just like gather all the
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facts and put everything together whenever a new Atlantis
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cruise launches. That's also where I have to get
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obviously the key stats and numbers and like the itinerary
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and all that kind of stuff to dates.
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Yeah, but this is not a structured podcast.
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And I just do this for fun. Just in case you're joining me
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more recently, I this podcast is purely for my enjoyment and some
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I was just thinking, I was thinking this morning while I
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was eating, Oh, what should I talk about on today's podcast?
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There are a lot of topics I want to talk about, but there's so
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many topics I want to talk about right now that I think, oh, it's
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going to be almost like one of those radio talk shows.
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Those of you that are younger won't know what a radio talk
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show is. But for those of you that are a
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little older, back in the day when no MP threes, no streaming
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CDs, not even all cars had CDSCD players, you don't even know
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what if you're young, you don't even know what ACD is.
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All you know is Spotify and YouTube.
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OK, back in the day, there's no before Internet was a thing, but
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Internet was something that you got for like a few hours in a
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week. And before you had laptop
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computers, when computers were gigantic things had to sit on
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the desk. Nothing was wireless except for
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radio. Radio.
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It's a we would have, we would listen to radio all the time,
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especially in the car, because that was like the primary former
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entertainment. Yeah, you can have cassette
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tapes and things like that, but a lot of the times it was
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probably easier and sometimes better because the radio would
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just broadcast current things like current music Top 40 and,
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you know, different radio stations for different things.
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And talk radio was something I never really listened to.
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I always listened to music talk radio, but I imagine my I just
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wanted to thinking, oh, my podcast in a way, a lot of
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podcasts in a way is the current day equivalent of talk radio,
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you know, because clearly with the popularity of podcasts,
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people like hearing other people talk and audio books are a thing
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too. And it's basically what people
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used to do with radio because a lot of radio stations would just
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be talk. So I feel like podcasts are the
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modern day equivalent. I'm pretty sure I'm not the
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first person to have that thought, but it just occurred to
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me. OK, cut me a break.
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But anyways, yeah, today's today's podcast episode.
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It's just gonna be me randomly talking about whatever, as
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usual. I hope you know you find my
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podcast somewhat interesting. It helps you kill, I don't know,
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20-30 minutes out of your day. One random thing I'm going to
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talk about is this book that I just got, which you can see if
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you're watching the video version of this podcast, which
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is on my YouTube channel, Just Joey.
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TI can also do the video podcasts on Spotify because
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that's where I usually upload. That's the platform I use for
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hosting my podcasts and Spotify delivers it to all the different
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apps that you might be using. But then I can't run ads on them
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and YouTube lets me run ads. It's just capitalism.
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There you go. But I was getting my, I just got
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a new car and it's not a fancy new car I got.
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I got the cheapest car I could lease.
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If you're interested, join my I did a little thing on my
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Patreon. I was saying, Oh, I'm in the
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last uncut episode that's only available on my Patreon.
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I was telling them my Patreon subscribers oh I'm really into
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lease hacking lately so if you are interested in lease hacking
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let me know. It's something I'm kind of into
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lately but I just got a new car but it was like the cheapest car
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I could lease. It cost so little money to
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lease. I was able to just make one
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single lease payment to cover the full term of the lease.
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It's called A1 lease pay. The whole thing fed on my credit
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card. And my credit card I thought is
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going to be like, oh, with this amount be like a little, do you
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know, sometimes you put a particularly large purchase on a
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credit card that's out of what you normally spend.
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And then the credit card issuer is like, oh, we just got this
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fraud alert. We think we'd have suspicious
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activity on your card. I was half expecting that to
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happen on a credit card, but my credit card, they even blink
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half an eye. It just went right through.
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That's how cheap the car was. Anyways, I took the car to get
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tinted, the windows tinted because, you know, for UV
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protection basically. It's why I get it tinted.
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It's not to make it look dark. I don't like it when cars have
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that really dark tint to look. You know what one of the things
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I don't like is as a pedestrian, when I'm about to like across an
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intersection or something like that and there's like a stop
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sign. And The thing is, I want to be
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able to make eye contact with the driver to confirm that the
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driver has seen me. Because depending on the
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intersection and where you are in relation to the car, like
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literally when I walk to the gym, half the time I'll be at a
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stop sign, like about to cross and a car would just like come
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right through the stop sign making a right turn and don't
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know that I'm there. Because when they're making a
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right turn at a stop sign, they're looking left.
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They're not looking right. That's not you need to look both
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ways. OK.
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Like when you're at a stop sign, you need to, there could be
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pedestrians. But in LA, people don't expect
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there to be pedestrians ever. So I got to this stop sign.
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I didn't step off the curb, but like this guy just like, you
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know, like was making a right turn and didn't like stop, stop
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for the stop sign and like didn't check that there might be
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pedestrians. So I just like by the time you
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recognize I was there, I was like just standing right beside
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his passenger window. I just like threw up my hands.
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It's just annoying. But anyways, that's why I don't
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like it when cars have their front side windows tinted really
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dark because I can't see the driver and I can't confirm that
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the driver has seen me. And it's only barely.
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It's not even a mile to walk to the gym each way.
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It's not a super long walk, it's like 1520 minutes.
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And I do that walk like 3 or 4 times a week.
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But even that short little walk because it's in the middle of
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Lai can't rely on drivers to see me as a pedestrian exists at a
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stop sign anyways. But I'm getting my cart into not
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to tint the dark just to give some UV protection because I'm
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very into that. For your skin and everything.
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And you know, it takes them like a couple hours to tint in your
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car. So I brought it to this tent
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place and nearby was a Westfield, a shopping mall.
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And I was like, OK, I'll drop my car off.
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It would take him, you know, hour and a half, two hours,
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whatever and I just go to the Westfield and kill some time.
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Originally, I was going to bring my laptop and try to do a little
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bit of work, but I ended up just not doing that much.
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Dropped off the car, grabbed a little Starbucks, grabbed a
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little Shake Shack, and then I just walked around a little bit.
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And then, you know, before I knew it, the car was done.
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I only talked about like barely, barely an hour, hour and a half,
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but I was just walking around the mall a little bit.
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It has been a long time since I've been in the mall and I was
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thinking, what am IA high school?
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Kidding. Class in a Monday.
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It was like a Monday afternoon and there's a surprising amount
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of people, but I thought the mall would be kind of dead on a
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Monday afternoon, like 3:00 PM on a Monday afternoon at a mall.
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Like it's only, it's only kids cutting class and people who are
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not employed, right? But anyways, I just had a little
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drink, had a little food, walked around a little bit, and I
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randomly walked into the Target for no particular reason.
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And in the target, I walked by the stationary out and I was
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just looking at some, I was just looking at random things at the
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target. Seriously.
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And then I just looked at some station.
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You know what really like when I saw the stationary sign as you
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walk down a target of warm or whatever, you see those big
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giant signs that tells you what section of items you're in.
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And I passed by like the stationary section.
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And I first thought was I could use new scissors.
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I don't know why I was just browsing just to kill time.
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And then they had a section of notebooks and I was just, and I
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just walked by this section of notebooks and then they had some
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books that were part notebooks and part books.
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And I picked up this book again. If you're on the video version
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of the of the podcast, you can see it and it's and it's 3000
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questions. Is he going to focus?
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It's 3000 questions about me and it was where all the notebooks
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and journals are. And it's basically 3.
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There's 3000 questions here. I'm curious to see if they
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repeat any questions. There must be some repeats in
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here that the editors didn't catch.
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But there's 3000 questions in here.
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And I thought it's only like 10 bucks.
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And I thought, oh, this might be useful for the podcast.
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And so today we're going to use it.
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I'm going to randomly pick out. I'm going to grab a I'm going
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to, I want to grab like that. OK, I'm just going to randomly
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pick out a page. OK, so we're on.
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OK, so all these are numbered. So I'm just going to pick up
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like I'm just going to go through a few of these questions
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just for entertainment purposes. I think we just pick out a few.
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OK, all these number question 1330, question 1366.
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What's the biggest area in your life in which you need to
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improve? Oh, procrastination for sure.
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Sometimes I have dreams that I am trying to go somewhere, like
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walking. I'm trying to walk to go
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somewhere and my legs feel super, super heavy.
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Have you ever had that dream? I had this recurring dream where
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I'm trying to go somewhere, walk somewhere, get from A to B, and
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like I'm trying to just even walk at the normal speed and
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like I can't. I'm moving so slowly but some of
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my legs are super super slow. So I googled it one day and
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apparently it's basically me telling myself I'm
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procrastinating too much and to get off my lazy fucking ass.
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So I think procrastination. I think I'll be so much more
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efficient if I didn't spend 40 minutes in bed in the morning
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when I wake up on my phone before I got out.
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It's like little things like that.
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It's very, it's kind of easy for me to waste time.
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I think if I was more efficient, you know, just like went and did
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stuff, I would get so much more stuff done.
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So I think that's the biggest area of my life where I need to
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prove Question 1367. Are you comfortable learning new
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things? What was the last new thing you
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learned? I don't sit down and think, oh,
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I'm going to go learn German. Nothing big like that.
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I feel like I learn tiny little things all the time, kind of
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half out of necessity, half out of curiosity.
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For example, when I'm doing a work thing and I'm always
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thinking, oh, is there like a way to do this?
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Is there a way to do that? You know, I was trying to take
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some photos of some products and there was this product bottle I
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was taking a photo of and it's shiny, it's plastic, glossy
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plastic on the outside and it reflects the photography lights
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that I have. And then I just try to look up,
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oh, is there a way to remove those reflections on glossy
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product bottles in product photograph?
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And there is, there are some ways in like Photoshop, for
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example, there are few tools you can use to actually do that.
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So I'm always learning tiny little new things like that.
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That's, you know, it's like, it's also work thing.
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It's like a work thing. I'm doing these photos and I was
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like, OK, well, it's, it's, I'll Google something and I'll learn,
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Oh, it is possible to, to do that.
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Sometimes I'm curious about how to do some other things.
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I don't know. But usually it's because it's
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like a work thing or like a house thing that I'll like
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Google something. It's like, oh, is this possible?
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Or like how to fix that? And that's kind of how I learn
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new things, but I'm comfortable with it.
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OK, I'm going to skip question 1368, which is what is your
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favorite mystery series? Because I don't like mystery.
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OK, And this will be the last one, Question 1369 describing
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one word. How do you want your retirement
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to be stress free? That's one word, right?
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It it's a hyphenated word. Is it?
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It's it's stress free, a hyphenated word.
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I'm going to say it's one word. So there you go.
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Whenever I run out of topics to talk about on the podcast, I'm
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going to keep this book right here in my podcasting station.
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So when whenever I I'm I'm out of topics or just to switch it
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up, I can go reach I can go reach for the book and I can
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give you guys a a few questions out of that.
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But anyways, I did want to talk about the podcast I did last
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time, which I realized I was trying to talk about 15 minutes
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and I had this idea to talk about how to hit on me after I
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did a podcast. I'd said I wanted to re record
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it because after I did that podcast again, but I didn't have
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the outline. I was like, oh, I didn't
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actually talk about what I really wanted to talk about.
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So here are some of the things I thought about on how do, how I
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like to be hit on after I stop recording, if that makes any
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sense. Because one time this was, oh,
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this is many years ago, I was on a trip, I went on a trip to
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somewhere. I think I was in Vegas, not to
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like party or you know, whatever, but like Fran was
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having, I think a Fran was having some sort of like
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volleyball, like gay volleyball tournament.
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I think it was in Vegas many, many years ago.
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And he's like, oh, I'm going to be in Vegas doing this thing.
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You wouldn't like come out for like a weekend.
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It was like something like that. Forgot something along those
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lines. And then I remember we were at
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like some sort of house gathering.
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It wasn't like a party per SE. It was like some house gathering
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during the day. And I remember we were like
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sitting by the pool in the in the background of this house.
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So it was like a Airbnb or something like that.
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And like they're like, like various people there obviously.
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And I didn't know most of them. So I was just talking to random
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people. And like this one guy, he was
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hitting on me, but not not like super obvious, like he was
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interested in me. And he was like, you know, we
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were like just talking, just making conversation.
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And I have this autographic memory of this one moment.
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I guess I had, I just, I cracked some joke apparently, because
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the next thing he said to me was you're really funny.
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But he said it in like a very like a very sincere way.
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Not like you're really funny, not like that.
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He said it in like a very honest, sincere way.
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And that I, I, I definitely noticed.
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I still remember that moment, but he was kind of like he was
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facing me like straight on. And he said it in just like a
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very, just like a very direct, honest, like kind of endearing
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ways, like you're really funny and that and then I thought that
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was that was really sweet. So that that worked.
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They hit on me. I think compliments generally
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work, but most of the time when guys hit on me and they give a
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compliment, for whatever reason, it doesn't feel genuine.
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So I don't know, maybe maybe it's I, I want to say it's them,
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I want to say it's not me. But I feel like if you go into
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hitting on someone and your thought process is I have to
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give them a compliment as part of hitting on them, it's, it's a
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chance it won't come off genuine, right?
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Because I don't know, to say like, oh, the all the typical
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compliments you can give someone you're trying to hit on.
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It's like, oh, you're, you're cute, you're hot, you're pretty,
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you're funny, you're smart, you're whatever.
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It's like, it has to be befitting the moment.
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Apparently in this memory that I have with this guy I had, I'm
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sure I had just cracked a joke. And then like right after that
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he's like, oh, you're really funny.
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Like, so like that worked for him to say that in that moment
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sometimes for someone to randomly just say, oh, you're
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like, oh, you're, you're really pretty.
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Just out of nowhere. It's not that I it's not that I
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don't believe them. It's a little narcissistic,
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isn't it? But it's like out of nowhere for
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someone to say like in the middle of a random conversation
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for them, it's like, oh, you're really pretty.
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I don't know. It just feels.
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Is that a little try hard? I guess maybe I maybe just that
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particular compliment doesn't resonate with me for whatever
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reason. Not because I yeah, yeah, I know
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I'm pretty well. It's not like that.
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It just, it just, I don't think it does anything for me to for
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someone to to say. I think I've had people tell me
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sometimes like, oh, like not not that much in person, but like,
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you know, grinding. You get any kind of message that
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you can imagine. I don't know, I think it's half
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the battle is about the delivery.
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You're going to give someone a compliment to hit on them.
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So it has to feel like sincere and genuine for it to work.
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It's a vibe of how it's delivered.
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And yeah, I've had people tell me that, you know, like they,
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they find me physically attractive somehow.
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But most of the time it just comes off as like you're saying
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it just to say it. It's like, yes, I I believe that
25:27
they do believe what they're saying.
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They're not lying, but it just feels like just just, you know,
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they're just following the hitting on someone one O 1
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textbook. It doesn't feel like I don't
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know it it didn't work. Let let's put it that way.
25:48
So I think like that's yeah, that's like I, I don't don't
25:52
remember why compliments didn't make its way into the last
25:56
podcast episode, but they should have should it's a it's a very
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common and usually pretty effective, I think way to hit on
26:04
someone, something else that I think works for me, not in terms
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of like hitting on me, but if it, one of the things for me is
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like being a considerate person, especially in terms of like your
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surroundings to like other people around you in public.
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That's like a thing for me. And if I can, if I observe
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someone not being particularly considerate of others in the
26:31
public setting, yeah, their their value goes down in my
26:36
book. Like at the gym, It's where I
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observe this a lot. It's like, are you the kind of
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person to like wipe up the bench after you've been using it?
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I noticed as I went down my bench.
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Oh, you know what's so annoying? It's people that use equipment
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as a table to put their stuff on.
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If you do that, like I, I'm already, I already found you not
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attractive like from the off. So for me, one of the things is
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I need to see that you are you're considerate of your
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surroundings, like you're aware and consider of your
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surroundings. That's probably something I'm a
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little pickier on than most other people.
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Hey, babe, you want to get with me?
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Like that's just how it is. I don't think there's anything
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you can say or do to demonstrate that.
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It's like in a job interview, you know, you can't just say
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whatever you think I want to hear to get the job because it's
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it doesn't work. I give it.
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I guess maybe that's why when people tell me like, oh, like
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you're like you're you're cute or you're good looking or
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whatever. I just feel like it's not that
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they don't mean it, but they're trying to just say the things
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that I, they think I want to hear, like in a job interview.
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By the way, in a job interview, if you, especially if you are
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younger in your career, when you are saying things to, if you're
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saying things that you think the interviewer wants to hear, it's
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usually quite transparent. Any remotely skilled interviewer
28:08
can see right through that. And when I used to interviews,
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like I can always pick up when it's not even the little words
28:15
that they say. It's a lot of body language as
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well. And it's also like the tongue
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and like the inflection, like the little things like that.
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You can tell when someone when you ask a question and someone
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is scrabbing a little bit in their head to come to like come
28:30
up with the fully formed answer. And that's OK.
28:33
But sometimes you ask a question and like, no, the the person
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being interviewed, they don't know what questions you're going
28:38
to ask. So every question you ask is a
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surprise under the bag, Right. But I was at a Starbucks
28:46
recently just grabbing a coffee and then apparently the the
28:50
store managers interviewing someone at the Starbucks just so
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they were at a table off off in the corner.
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But I was just waiting for at the bar, waiting for my drink to
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be to come out. So it's only like, I don't know,
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6 feet away. And I can, I didn't hear exactly
29:07
word for word what they said, but I can tell like the manager
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asked some question and like the person being interviewed, I can
29:14
just tell in like their tone of voices like, oh, you're, you're
29:18
trying to think, OK, what does this person want to hear?
29:21
And what should I actually say? Because I don't think I have a
29:23
actual answer for that person. I can't just say like whatever
29:28
and get away with it. I I could just tell from that
29:30
tone. That's one of the parts of the
29:32
job that I actually enjoy when I was doing the nine to five was
29:35
actually hiring and interviewing people.
29:38
I just, I just felt like it was it came naturally to me.
29:41
Some people don't like doing interviews and things like that,
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but I actually liked it. I like hiring people.
29:46
I mean, I didn't really have to fire anyone, but it wasn't
29:50
comfortable with fire people. I think nowadays I'd be
29:52
comfortable with just letting someone go.
29:54
But nowadays I'm so much more like business minded with like
29:57
running my own businesses. I actually really would love to
30:00
have an employee, but if the businesses get that successful
30:05
to have for me to have an employee, I just need to make
30:09
sure my employees are not hot. They don't need to be.
30:13
I just can't be distracted. You know, this attempt, I feel
30:17
like I'm thinking about that episode of Friends when Rachel
30:21
hires Tag as her personal assistant or office assistant
30:27
because he's just hot. I don't want that because yes, I
30:32
like to Google hot guys, but only in the appropriate context.
30:38
Like if you're hot and you are good at your job, fine.
30:43
But like, if, if you're someone that I need to work with,
30:46
especially some if you're my employee, you really need to be
30:51
able to get shit done. It's like I, I can't have it.
30:54
I can't hire income if I'm, if I'm paying you like, I don't
30:57
know, 6080. However, whatever the job is,
31:01
whatever the pays for like that. If I'm paying you like 678090,
31:04
however many fat 10s of thousands of dollars and also
31:08
probably give you insurance and whatever other benefits.
31:11
It's like you need to, you need to be good at your job.
31:15
You don't need to be like the absolute best at that particular
31:19
job that everyone, anyone has ever done in the world.
31:21
But it's like you have to be like pretty good at that job.
31:24
Like whatever that thing I hired you for, you got to be like
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pretty decent at that. So looking pretty, it's not
31:31
going to get you the job because I'm not.
31:33
So if I want to look at pretty guys, I'll go to my gym.
31:38
I'll I'll go down to the bars in West Hollywood.
31:40
I'll look at some Google boys. I'll go watch some porn.
31:42
You know, I'm not going to, I don't need to, I don't need to
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pay you $80,000 a year for you to look pretty.
31:49
It's like you need to do actual stuff.
31:52
But it's like, yeah, I recorded. Anyways.
31:54
I was, yeah. Getting back to last week's
31:56
episode, I was like, Oh yeah, I should have, I should have
31:59
talked about compliments because I did have this like 1
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photographic memory of like when, when this guy gave me a
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compliment. Yeah.
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And someone who's someone who demonstrates just them being
32:11
like considerate of others doesn't mean they have to go out
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of their way to like, open a door for someone.
32:16
It's more about, you know, like not leaving, like not leaving
32:21
trash behind and like cleaning up after yourself.
32:24
It's not like going out of the way to help others, if that
32:27
makes any sense. You know, like like tucking your
32:30
chair in when you, when you're, when you leave, when you, when
32:33
you leave the restaurant or something like that.
32:36
So that's not in like someone else's way, like wiping up and
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putting your weights away at the gym.
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I don't know why people don't put weights away at the gym.
32:43
So it's like that type of like being considerate.
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That's also like very, that's also very attractive to me.
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Great smile. You know, that's not making
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control. Obviously.
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I think I like a guy that's a little bit, could be a little
32:57
bit wacky. You know, I, I know that
33:01
especially in a place like LA, it's very much about looks and
33:05
appearances and Polish. You know, everybody needs to
33:07
drive a nice car here. You know, I just got a car and
33:10
it's not, it's not a, it's, it's not a luxury badge that's on the
33:16
hood. It's not some BMW, Audi,
33:19
Mercedes, Lexus, whatever. That's very popular here.
33:22
And I've had, I've owned many BMWs, I've had a Mercedes like
33:26
I, I do like cars and I luxury cars are nice, OK.
33:29
So it's nice to have nice things.
33:30
I get it, it and I, I have purchased, I have had several
33:35
Beamers just for Full disclosure, but I just got this
33:39
car and it's not a luxury brand, just a, just a, a mainstream
33:44
name plate. And I thought, oh, it's kind of
33:46
nice not to. It's it's nice not to have a
33:50
showy car for once. I have had like I had a Ford
33:53
Fiesta not that long ago and it was nice because I got it used
33:58
for like really cheap and it was kind of like a beater and having
34:00
a beater is kind of fun. I had a Mini Cooper 1, so I also
34:02
got used for like not not a lot of money.
34:05
And that was also kind of like a beater.
34:07
It's actually a lot of fun. So I just got a card and it was
34:09
like that. But I don't know.
34:10
He's very into appearances, but I think I like a guy who can be
34:14
like a little bit wacky in the sense that they don't.
34:20
I don't want the guy to look like Prim and Popper all the
34:23
time. I don't want that picturesque
34:26
look. Like, yes, I want to find them
34:29
attractive as a whole, including physically.
34:32
But you know, like when I'm with my close friends, you know,
34:36
sometimes when we post our photos, we make like wacky
34:39
faces, you know, as someone, I want someone who can kind of
34:43
sort of let loose and have a little bit of that side to them
34:47
as well. You know, sometimes I think of
34:50
it like Grace Adler on Will and Grace.
34:54
OK, I feel like I'm a little bit like that.
34:58
It's like, yeah, when I'm normally out and about, as we
35:02
all do, we like to be like, you know, we like to have, you know,
35:06
our our hair all in place and we want to kind of, you know, look
35:10
good for the world, you know, before you like, open your door
35:14
and leave the house in the morning.
35:15
I get it. You know, we all do that.
35:17
But I feel like there's, there's, there's definitely a
35:21
bit of messiness as well in my life, I think, as most people
35:26
do. But I feel like most people try
35:27
to conceal it so much. And I'm, I've got to a point in
35:30
my life at least where, yeah, I'm, I'm fine being like a
35:34
little messy. And I don't feel like I need to
35:38
impress people. And I just kind of want to do my
35:41
own thing. And sometimes I'm like a little
35:43
wacky, you know, sometimes I like making like weird faces in
35:47
a selfie. So I would prefer to be with
35:52
someone that also has a little bit of that with them.
35:54
I've dated guys where they just don't, I guess they do probably
35:59
have a little bit of wackiness in them, but like, they, they
36:02
just felt like they couldn't be themselves like that.
36:06
Yeah. And it just didn't work up.
36:07
But I just found that too vanilla.
36:11
I'm kind of a, I'm not like a super interesting person, but
36:14
you know, I, I just like being able to be with someone who can
36:18
be like a little wacky, a little kooky, you know, not all the
36:23
time, but like have those like little wacky, kooky, kind of
36:27
like off kilter moments. I think that would be the type
36:30
of person that I can actually see myself with someone who's
36:33
just like very like straight laced.
36:35
It's never going to work. We need, we need, we need, we
36:38
need a little bit of crazy in there.
36:40
Just a touch. All right, I think we talked
36:43
about 50 different topics today in the podcast.
36:46
But you know, I this is this is what you, if you're still
36:49
listening, I mean, this is what this podcast is all about.
36:54
This is for me and not for you. If you found some enjoyment out
36:57
of it, great. If not, then I got to plug some
37:00
of my stuff, which is great for me.
37:03
What's in it for you? I don't know, but hey, you
37:06
blinked and you've just killed 30 minutes waiting for whatever
37:10
you needed to wait for, So there you go, and I did.
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Next time. Bye y'all.