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The Pain Men Hide, And Why It’s Destroying Us: Kobby Kyei || Masterminds Podcast EP27 · Masterminds Podcast

0:01
SPEAKER_05: Growing up as a child, two things.
0:03
SPEAKER_05: I just love media and I love music.
0:05
SPEAKER_05: I'll stand in front of a mirror and I'll be reading.
0:08
SPEAKER_05: Hi, my name is Chayee.
0:09
SPEAKER_05: Ask yourself, growing up as a boy now becoming a man, have you ever heard about empowering the boy child?
0:16
SPEAKER_03: Never.
0:17
SPEAKER_05: At a point, I wasn't just doing it with so much joy.
0:20
SPEAKER_05: Finding your purpose should also align with making a significant impact in the lives of people.
0:25
SPEAKER_05: I pray that every young boy or every young girl who gets closer to his or her purpose and align with it.
0:31
SPEAKER_05: Your goal is that all the things that you've acquired, what are you doing to give back to society?
0:35
SPEAKER_05: The impact that you're creating.
0:36
SPEAKER_01: Because believing in who you are is the first step to success.
0:40
SPEAKER_05: When a man tells you that I love you, it is even more valuable.
0:45
SPEAKER_01: A man's contribution is seen as default.
0:48
SPEAKER_05: Man's mental health should be paid attention to.
0:54
SPEAKER_01: Welcome to the Masterminds podcast.
0:56
SPEAKER_01: The conversation I'm going to have today is very exciting for me personally.
0:59
SPEAKER_01: There's a man that I knew to be in entertainment space, and next thing I saw, he started to move different.
1:06
SPEAKER_01: Started to move with more purpose, making impact, being of more social value.
1:12
SPEAKER_01: And I was like, wow.
1:13
SPEAKER_01: I respect the journey where he decided not to take the easy path, but take a longer path.
1:18
SPEAKER_01: And he still got to success even bigger than what I would have anticipated, or most people would have even thought possible.
1:24
SPEAKER_01: Kobice is my guest today.
1:29
SPEAKER_05: I can't believe I'm sitting in front of you.
1:33
SPEAKER_05: I never imagined that.
1:36
SPEAKER_05: I'll be in this seat and you'd be like, Yeah, I never I never imagined.
1:39
SPEAKER_05: I never imagined.
1:40
SPEAKER_05: I just want to say a big thank you to God for how far He's brought me and how far he's also brought you yourself.
1:45
SPEAKER_05: I've seen the revolution of everything you've done.
1:48
SPEAKER_05: And I want to say congratulations.
1:50
SPEAKER_05: And a lot of us out today are proud of you.
1:52
SPEAKER_05: Sometimes as men, we highly you know call our fellow brothers to say that yo, I see what you're doing.
1:58
SPEAKER_05: I'm so proud of you.
1:59
SPEAKER_05: I love you, Mr.
1:59
SPEAKER_02: Bichi.
2:00
SPEAKER_05: But I think that I have to use this opportunity to say that you've you have you have impacted a lot, and I wouldn't want to see you sorry to say die before I celebrate you.
2:08
SPEAKER_05: So I want today on your platform, I want to say God bless you so much.
2:10
SPEAKER_05: Oh, thank you.
2:11
SPEAKER_05: What you've achieved for yourself, your family, the whole of the continent of Africa.
2:14
SPEAKER_01: Thank you.
2:15
SPEAKER_01: It means so much to me.
2:16
SPEAKER_01: And just know I am also so super proud of you.
2:19
SPEAKER_01: It's like I was saying, you know, I started watching the Switch and I was like, oh, that's interesting.
2:24
SPEAKER_01: Thank you.
2:24
SPEAKER_01: You know, I didn't see it coming.
2:26
SPEAKER_01: And what I liked was how you did it successfully, you know, and I could tell from when you were working and when you were shooting like social impact stories and everything, there was no um motive.
2:40
SPEAKER_01: Like you were just doing this because you wanted to impact people's lives, and I believe that is what keeps blessing you more and more.
2:49
SPEAKER_01: Because as you give to people, you know, I always say the universe takes care of people who take care of the universe.
2:57
SPEAKER_01: True.
2:57
SPEAKER_01: So your journey is a very, very nice one, and I know this is just the beginning.
3:01
SPEAKER_01: You know, this video in 10 years' time, man.
3:05
SPEAKER_05: We're revisited, yeah.
3:06
SPEAKER_05: And people say, hey, challenge, that global guy.
3:11
SPEAKER_01: Amazing, true.
3:12
SPEAKER_01: You're doing a very good job.
3:13
SPEAKER_01: Thank you.
3:13
SPEAKER_01: Thank you.
3:14
SPEAKER_01: Let's let's take you back.
3:15
SPEAKER_01: Let's start from the beginning.
3:17
SPEAKER_01: The the young boy in Agunaduakwa.
3:19
SPEAKER_01: Can I pronounce it?
3:20
SPEAKER_05: Aguna duakwa, yes.
3:21
SPEAKER_05: Thank you.
3:22
SPEAKER_05: That's where uh the Gokuya boy is from.
3:23
SPEAKER_05: Oh, okay.
3:24
SPEAKER_01: So it's a place of greats.
3:26
SPEAKER_01: So tell me what that young boy, what your life was like, that led you on this path.
3:31
SPEAKER_05: Thank you.
3:32
SPEAKER_05: So um I was born in Aguna Duakwa.
3:34
SPEAKER_05: Uh, I'm young, 1990.
3:35
SPEAKER_05: I'm 35 years.
3:36
SPEAKER_05: Okay.
3:37
SPEAKER_05: Yes.
3:37
SPEAKER_05: So yes, young, I'm young.
3:40
SPEAKER_05: So uh born to a parent.
3:42
SPEAKER_05: My mom, now she's on retirement.
3:44
SPEAKER_05: My mom uh was a nurse at Aguna Duakwa Salvation Hospital.
3:48
SPEAKER_05: And then my dad also used to work with Salvation Rehabilitation Center.
3:53
SPEAKER_05: So my dad was actually in charge of the people who were building calipers crotches for people who are physically challenged.
3:59
SPEAKER_05: Okay, and had cerebral posse.
4:01
SPEAKER_05: So I grew up I grew up amongst or in the midst of children who were sick, who were suffering.
4:07
SPEAKER_05: And my mom as a nurse to anytime I close from school, I called, mom, where are you?
4:11
SPEAKER_05: So I know she had afternoon shifts, I have to go or evening shift, I'll go there.
4:14
SPEAKER_05: And I saw her mom.
4:16
SPEAKER_05: My mom was literally every day, you know, taking care of patients.
4:19
SPEAKER_05: And anytime when we're home, they would just call my mom, hey, there's an accident, I have to rush.
4:24
SPEAKER_05: So I saw that sort of humanity growing up.
4:26
SPEAKER_05: Oh wow.
4:26
SPEAKER_05: I had yes, so my dad currently work works with uh Ghana Fire Service.
4:31
SPEAKER_05: Uh so he's at the regimental band.
4:33
SPEAKER_05: So my dad taught me how to play the trumpet.
4:35
SPEAKER_05: So I don't know if you've seen me play trumpet because.
4:36
SPEAKER_05: No, I haven't.
4:37
SPEAKER_05: I have to go and find those videos.
4:38
SPEAKER_05: Just go on YouTube and type Kobiche plays trumpet.
4:41
SPEAKER_05: Amazing.
4:41
SPEAKER_05: Like, yes.
4:42
SPEAKER_05: So I thought my I played trumpet.
4:45
SPEAKER_05: I went to um Greenfield Priest School at Ground Swedro.
4:49
SPEAKER_05: And then I was our time was when they started the computer placements.
4:51
SPEAKER_05: I think we're the second batch.
4:52
SPEAKER_05: I was posted to uh Fancy Yankasa.
4:56
SPEAKER_05: Yankumasa in co senior high school.
4:57
SPEAKER_05: It was a school that I've never chanced on before.
5:00
SPEAKER_05: Because I chose the fancy pen, the agri memorial, and all these businesses.
5:04
SPEAKER_05: But apparently I was posted there, and my dad told me that you need to go there.
5:07
SPEAKER_05: Just stayed, I don't have money to change it for you.
5:10
SPEAKER_05: So stay there, make me proud.
5:12
SPEAKER_05: And uh from senior high school, I went to University of Education Winnipeg to do my degree in music education.
5:19
SPEAKER_05: So 2016 I completed with my first degree.
5:23
SPEAKER_05: And then um recently I also uh completed uh University of Professional Studies.
5:28
SPEAKER_05: I had my master's in uh media digital communication management.
5:32
SPEAKER_05: So the transition has been a humble one.
5:34
SPEAKER_05: I came from a very, you know, not poor, not rich, a balanced home, but God-fearing home.
5:40
SPEAKER_05: My my purpose was just divine because I noticed that my parents wouldn't want to uh compromise our vision and what they wanted us to achieve.
5:48
SPEAKER_05: I'm the first of four siblings amongst four siblings.
5:51
SPEAKER_05: So I just what I needed to just make it protecting my mind not to fail my generation and uh the entire world.
5:58
SPEAKER_05: So that has been my background.
6:00
SPEAKER_05: And um I'm married with two beautiful girls.
6:03
SPEAKER_01: Wow.
6:06
SPEAKER_01: But I'm starting to connect the dots now, you know, from hearing what your parents do, I'm starting to see the social impact side.
6:13
SPEAKER_01: And my music side, which is and you see, now I understand your journey is the reverse of a lot of people in entertainment.
6:22
SPEAKER_01: A lot of people in entertainment were in a different world and then jumped into entertainment because that was their their their core purpose.
6:32
SPEAKER_01: Yours was because of the trumpet and the music that you learned in school and everything, you entered entertainment and then went back to your core purpose.
6:40
SPEAKER_05: Exactly, absolutely.
6:42
SPEAKER_01: Interesting.
6:43
SPEAKER_01: So, what got you into journalism and everything?
6:45
SPEAKER_05: So, um, growing up as a child, two things.
6:48
SPEAKER_05: I just loved media and I loved music.
6:51
SPEAKER_03: Okay.
6:51
SPEAKER_05: So um I remember I used to buy, I don't know your era.
6:57
SPEAKER_05: I mean, Richie, okay, kakra.
6:59
SPEAKER_05: But our era, we used to buy junior graphic.
7:01
SPEAKER_05: Remember junior graphic?
7:02
SPEAKER_05: Every Wednesday, I was buying junior graphic and I remember going by it's even the day I don't go to school.
7:08
SPEAKER_05: The teacher knowing Mr.
7:09
SPEAKER_05: Techi, big shout out to him.
7:11
SPEAKER_05: Knowing that Che will always buy junior graphic, we'll just keep mine for me till I come to school the next day.
7:16
SPEAKER_05: And I'll be reading, I'll start in front of a mirror and I'll be I'll be reading hi.
7:19
SPEAKER_05: My name is Che and reading this.
7:21
SPEAKER_05: And again, I used to listen to Abekus Antenna at Adobe FM.
7:24
SPEAKER_05: So I used to find my mom anytime.
7:26
SPEAKER_05: Mommy, I don't know if I want to listen to Abekus Anton.
7:28
SPEAKER_05: I just love media.
7:29
SPEAKER_05: I watch TV3 mentor, I watch all the reality shows.
7:33
SPEAKER_05: Like I so much love um media so much and music.
7:37
SPEAKER_05: So after uh university, I think that was when social media was becoming like very huge.
7:43
SPEAKER_05: I I I search on the internet as some of your Deborah blogging, and I'm like, and my friends were like, you know what?
7:49
SPEAKER_05: Um you read music, you can interpret music and you speak well.
7:54
SPEAKER_05: So why don't you start blogging by now writing about music, breaking music down?
8:02
SPEAKER_05: You know, I I've seen what Cody Sheldon is doing, what Nikki is doing, but my when I started was about looking at this the key signature, the tempo, the syncopations, the the moderation, like trying to break music.
8:13
SPEAKER_05: I remember I I I I did a lot of reviews on my website for Stone Boy at Edmund, and they were blown away.
8:19
SPEAKER_05: Like how I was able to see the key they were singing, the dimensions, everything.
8:23
SPEAKER_05: And you know, so it was a real talented breakdown.
8:27
SPEAKER_05: Breakdown, exactly.
8:28
SPEAKER_05: And so I was doing it, and then I started talking about I started interviewing, I don't know who I've interviewed.
8:33
SPEAKER_05: I've interviewed literally almost everyone, everyone in the space.
8:37
SPEAKER_05: And then um, like you mentioned from your preamble, I just noticed that this wasn't just my calling, uh, especially.
8:44
SPEAKER_05: I mean, entertainment is good, the creative space is a very big economy.
8:47
SPEAKER_05: But then at a point, I wasn't just doing it with so much joy.
8:52
SPEAKER_05: So I one time I went to document a story.
8:55
SPEAKER_05: I was just driving, I just saw some issue of community not having water.
8:58
SPEAKER_05: They said, Oh, we've seen your blocker, can you document it for us?
9:01
SPEAKER_05: I documented the story, and then a lot of NGOs reached out and they said we want to build a borehole for the community.
9:08
SPEAKER_05: And we ended up getting four boreholes in that community just through my blogging, that story.
9:13
SPEAKER_05: And I said, No, I think this is something that I need to revisit because growing up, I saw my dad, you know, with fiscally challenged children, my mom has so that fulfillment, that joy that I experienced that very day of my life was like, yo, I need to create an impact.
9:34
SPEAKER_05: It's amazing.
9:35
SPEAKER_05: And it wasn't it wasn't just about money because you know, mind you in entertainment, we're getting questions, we invited all over the place, but I just needed to fulfill my purpose, and it became history.
9:47
SPEAKER_01: Every great person, for every great person, the turning point is always when they identify their purpose.
9:53
SPEAKER_05: So I I mean when I sleep and I wake up every time, I tell God that thank you for allowing me to allow myself to identify my purpose.
10:03
SPEAKER_05: Yeah, because sometimes the purpose is right in front of you, but you don't allow yourself to align with the purpose, yes.
10:09
SPEAKER_05: So I allowed myself and I told God that this is it, this is my purpose.
10:13
SPEAKER_05: In fact, this is it.
10:14
SPEAKER_05: So I wake up every morning with smiles and joy, even when my account is zero, yeah, and eventually I'm fulfilled, yeah.
10:21
SPEAKER_05: Because trust me, Richie, there are a lot of people who are who are driving the biggest car, they have the mind shades, but there's no fulfillment.
10:28
SPEAKER_05: They are sad.
10:30
SPEAKER_05: So waking up every morning knowing that I've impacted communities, I've impacted these individuals with my platform is just something that is just worth a billion dollars.
10:39
SPEAKER_05: Yeah, that's beautiful.
10:41
SPEAKER_05: So, purpose.
10:42
SPEAKER_05: I pray that every young boy or every young girl, everyone watching me today will get closer to his or her purpose and align with it.
10:50
SPEAKER_05: And trust me, when you align with it, those of experiences is just amazing.
10:58
SPEAKER_01: Your world just transforms, exactly.
11:01
SPEAKER_05: And the doors will open for you, and you do it without stress, even though psychologically they are stressed, but you do it uh not knowing you are even stressed.
11:10
SPEAKER_01: Yes, because whatever you do is hard.
11:12
SPEAKER_01: Every job is difficult, every job.
11:15
SPEAKER_01: So if you you are fulfilling your purpose, then it gives you a reason to do the hard parts.
11:22
SPEAKER_01: You know, there's a reason to wake up.
11:24
SPEAKER_01: Like it's like I always say the thing about entrepreneurship is you need a reason to wake up.
11:30
SPEAKER_01: When that alarm rings and your eyes open, if you don't have a reason to wake up, you will close it and sleep exactly because it's too stressful.
11:38
SPEAKER_01: But when you are fulfilled with what you're doing, like I I tell people that of all the things I've done in my life, masterminds is what I feel most proud of.
11:47
SPEAKER_05: Wow, really?
11:48
SPEAKER_01: Yes.
11:49
SPEAKER_05: Wow, this is quite shocking.
11:50
SPEAKER_01: I know, and I've done things that have brought me big money, done big moves and everything.
11:56
SPEAKER_01: But having these meaningful conversations, knowing how these conversations are affecting people, knowing the fact that 10 years from now, there's going to be a 25-year-old man who will tell me when I was 15, I watched your podcast and it gave me this idea, and that's what's made me who I am today.
12:16
SPEAKER_01: It means the world to me.
12:17
SPEAKER_01: Humanity.
12:18
SPEAKER_01: Yeah.
12:19
SPEAKER_05: So I just realized that finding your purpose should also align with making a significant impact in the lives of people.
12:26
SPEAKER_01: 100%.
12:27
SPEAKER_05: If what you are doing, your purpose doesn't affect change in your immediate, direct, indirectly, doesn't affect people.
12:35
SPEAKER_05: It's not, it's not, it's not just a purpose.
12:37
SPEAKER_01: It's not a purpose.
12:38
SPEAKER_01: Then that's just passion.
12:39
SPEAKER_05: Exactly.
12:40
SPEAKER_01: Yes.
12:40
SPEAKER_05: Because what you just said, yeah.
12:42
SPEAKER_05: I and anytime I move into schools to speak, I ask them, I know my great, my great uh, my grandparents.
12:49
SPEAKER_05: That they are the last of my uh generations that I know.
12:53
SPEAKER_05: My grandparents.
12:54
SPEAKER_05: I don't know my great-grandparents, I don't know my great-great-grandparents.
12:57
SPEAKER_01: Most of us don't.
12:58
SPEAKER_01: Exactly.
12:59
SPEAKER_05: But in our current dispensation, where we have YouTube, we have podcasts and social media, there's never going to be that ideology or that philosophy or that meant that that mindset of you not knowing your great-grandfather.
13:10
SPEAKER_03: Yeah.
13:10
SPEAKER_05: Because guess what?
13:11
SPEAKER_05: Now you reach your children, we'll just have to just mention your name to their great, yeah, their descendant that just go on use YouTube and check your great-great-grandfather.
13:21
SPEAKER_05: Yeah, or go on YouTube and check your your grandfather's comic chain.
13:24
SPEAKER_01: I've never thought about it like that.
13:25
SPEAKER_05: And anytime I go there, I go to, I was speaking to some big, you know, I went to Texas to speak, um, Texas University.
13:31
SPEAKER_05: When I was speaking, I mentioned this.
13:32
SPEAKER_05: Most of the white students went back deleting most of their content.
13:36
SPEAKER_05: And they were shocked that how to reorient their mindset.
13:39
SPEAKER_01: That's true, actually.
13:40
SPEAKER_05: Because my children, I have two girls now.
13:42
SPEAKER_05: My children will just tell their children that your grandfather was coming or is coming.
13:47
SPEAKER_05: Just search, it's just a search away.
13:49
SPEAKER_05: Imagine my great-great-grandparent uh children searching on the internet, knowing what they are oh god, they cannot know every single thing about everything that their great their grandparents or their grandfather community came to do in this world.
14:03
SPEAKER_01: So whether they feel proud as your descendant or not, it's up to you now.
14:07
SPEAKER_05: So our current dispensation of we having the internet, if you are intentional about what you are doing, it is going to make you and it's going to omake you.
14:17
SPEAKER_05: Yeah.
14:17
SPEAKER_05: So when I see people go on TikTok, their TikTok live and Instagram and misbehave and post all these things, I ask myself, what are you going to tell your grandchildren, your great-grandchildren, if they search about it?
14:27
SPEAKER_05: Mind you, anytime even Snapchat and Facebook reminds us of the things we posted, you get shocked.
14:36
SPEAKER_05: Why did why did I post this?
14:38
SPEAKER_05: Why did I say this?
14:39
SPEAKER_05: Yeah, so you have to be there, should be some intentionality in documenting everything you do.
14:45
SPEAKER_05: I lost, I was just pressing my phone, I just lost over 7,000 phones, uh, pictures on my phones and videos.
14:51
SPEAKER_05: Guess what?
14:52
SPEAKER_05: I wasn't worried because I've literally documented everything.
14:55
SPEAKER_05: I I'll just go there, search, and I'll just I just went back to re-download all of them.
15:00
SPEAKER_05: Yeah.
15:01
SPEAKER_05: So everything that you are posting on your social media platform, you are documenting it.
15:05
SPEAKER_05: If you see Kwame Chrome's old videos, look at how proud we are, even though we're not we're not in existence.
15:10
SPEAKER_01: Yeah, so imagine someone could be proud of us like that.
15:13
SPEAKER_05: Yes, one we are no more.
15:15
SPEAKER_05: So everything that we are opening our mouth to say as radio presenters, as pandits, as influencers, as content creators, you should think about your generation of how they can celebrate some of the things that you wrote in the sense that you said because words are powerful.
15:32
SPEAKER_01: Yeah, somebody hundred years from now will be working in you know Latvia, and they say, My name is Kwame Che.
15:40
SPEAKER_01: Wait, are you related to Kobiche?
15:43
SPEAKER_01: That could either be, oh wow, are you related to Kobiche, or ah, are you related to Kobiche?
15:48
SPEAKER_01: And that is all dependent on what we do now.
15:50
SPEAKER_01: That's so powerful.
15:52
SPEAKER_05: You remember when growing up, our parents were telling us good name is better than riches.
15:55
SPEAKER_05: Yeah, we never I never understood.
15:57
SPEAKER_05: I never understood that that's some quick bread to do it.
15:59
SPEAKER_05: Because now the youths want to demolish that quote by saying that you can't walk to a provision store and say that your father is crime despite or at a mouse, and then they will give you food because you bear the name Atamouse.
16:11
SPEAKER_05: They want to, you know, the youth of these days want to destroy that quote, yeah, but it is very powerful because just by the name Mensa, I remember I was watching or mentor, and one of the contestants is um Mr.
16:21
SPEAKER_05: Mensah Mr.
16:22
SPEAKER_05: Mensah, and you you were like, um, is it make sure you protect the name, don't disgrace the name or something.
16:28
SPEAKER_05: So you see how that connection was.
16:30
SPEAKER_05: If anybody just walked through here and say, Want to work, use your studio, and just my name is Kwame Mensa.
16:35
SPEAKER_05: Just by the name Mensa, yeah, it is going to calm you down to find a way to help the person.
16:40
SPEAKER_05: Exactly.
16:41
SPEAKER_05: But imagine if you are not even Mensa, but someone destroyed your family called Mr.
16:46
SPEAKER_05: Mensa, never allowed your family to achieve Mr.
16:48
SPEAKER_05: Mensa.
16:48
SPEAKER_05: Whenever you mention your name, just the name Mr.
16:50
SPEAKER_05: Mensa, even though the person is not related to Mensa, but that mensa can go and re-awakening some bad experience.
16:57
SPEAKER_01: Yeah.
16:58
SPEAKER_01: And it's true.
17:01
SPEAKER_01: Yes, good name is better than rich.
17:02
SPEAKER_01: Good name is better than riches.
17:04
SPEAKER_01: Yes.
17:04
SPEAKER_01: I think we are living in a very monetized world right now.
17:08
SPEAKER_01: Everybody thinks that making money is the only important thing.
17:13
SPEAKER_01: They don't understand that true wealth, you know, the term wealth is not a monetary thing.
17:19
SPEAKER_01: Wealth is about so much more than that.
17:21
SPEAKER_01: Yes, it's about finances, but it's about good health, it's about good reputation, it's about good relationships.
17:28
SPEAKER_01: Yeah.
17:28
SPEAKER_01: So for you to be wealthy, you need to be living a good life.
17:33
SPEAKER_01: And if you are rich and you are being chased by the police and the people in your neighborhood are insulting you, and your family doesn't want to talk to you, you are not wealthy.
17:42
SPEAKER_05: If you are rich and have mansion, people are scared to even come and take a picture in front of your house.
17:47
SPEAKER_05: Thank you.
17:47
SPEAKER_05: They see your car coming and they are running away.
17:49
SPEAKER_05: Yeah.
17:50
SPEAKER_05: And you see, so, like you mentioned, rich in health, rich in impact, rich in everything.
17:55
SPEAKER_05: Because I remember there are cars that are packed at garages and um fitting shops that was trending years ago.
18:03
SPEAKER_03: Yeah.
18:04
SPEAKER_05: But now it is dusty.
18:05
SPEAKER_05: So the same way, I mean, let me even talk about houses.
18:08
SPEAKER_05: Look at the houses where they were building some years ago, and it is rechanging.
18:12
SPEAKER_05: So our our children's children see the tiles.
18:15
SPEAKER_01: Exactly.
18:16
SPEAKER_01: See those tiles that used to be luxurious.
18:18
SPEAKER_01: Right now, you see it.
18:19
SPEAKER_01: We call it landlord tiles.
18:20
SPEAKER_05: Landlord, exactly.
18:21
SPEAKER_05: So all those modern houses that we even claim that they are nice, that we we want to, you know, in 40 years' time.
18:28
SPEAKER_05: I put it in 40 years' time, a lot of ideas are people are going to build modern, and then oh, DNA will see now, Philippe said, because you are boss, because you are rich, you know.
18:36
SPEAKER_05: Yeah, now you can't even stand there to take pictures anymore.
18:39
SPEAKER_01: I can't remember his name.
18:40
SPEAKER_01: There's this Nigerian, very rich man who died a while back.
18:44
SPEAKER_01: And recently they did like a an they went to his house, and you know, after he died, there was a whole Wahala with the will and stuff.
18:53
SPEAKER_01: So his house is still there, his plenty cars and everything are still there.
18:58
SPEAKER_01: And in his time, these were the best and richest cars and the biggest house, and it's there right now collecting dust.
19:06
SPEAKER_05: You saw Pele, legendary Brazil Pele.
19:08
SPEAKER_05: Yes, his house was also trending.
19:10
SPEAKER_05: His house that he he he bought when he was um on his peak, and now influencers went there to visit in Brazil, and the whole place is just in shambles.
19:19
SPEAKER_05: Yeah, you see, so if people will come to realize that, and like you mentioned, we in Ghana, in Africa and in the world at large, people seem to idolize money.
19:31
SPEAKER_01: Yeah, and we need uh to educate the youth to shift their mindset that it's not just the physical money because when I think about Einstein, when I think about Nkroma, when I think about these people, I I don't even know if they were rich or not, but I respect the impact.
19:49
SPEAKER_05: You don't even know their houses.
19:50
SPEAKER_05: There's a car in Krom's house, it just left rotten at in Zima somewhere.
19:54
SPEAKER_01: I don't know.
19:54
SPEAKER_05: You don't know where.
19:55
SPEAKER_05: Yeah, you haven't even come to our current dispensation, the people that we came to meet, like um Davidonto.
20:00
SPEAKER_05: I don't know where David Donto lives.
20:01
SPEAKER_05: Yes, the car Davidonto is driving, but the impact is the impact, Mammy Dokuno, all these people ifre Mamu.
20:07
SPEAKER_05: Efre Mamu, you don't know where you don't know their car you were driving.
20:09
SPEAKER_05: Yeah, so I keep saying I don't want people to know the name Kobiche and think about the car I'm driving or where I live.
20:16
SPEAKER_05: Yeah, I want to think about the name Kobiche and then bam, you think about the impact he's making.
20:21
SPEAKER_05: Yeah, Richie Mesa.
20:22
SPEAKER_05: Oh, what car is Richie Mesa?
20:23
SPEAKER_05: No, I don't want to, we don't want to build that.
20:25
SPEAKER_05: Mika, I know consent exactly you, and the people who are who think about impact don't even show their cars, don't even show yeah, impact is something that generations will celebrate.
20:35
SPEAKER_05: Yeah, because the cars and the house that you have, it is good.
20:37
SPEAKER_05: Um we are not saying, or I am not saying that it's not good to buy the mansions, it is good because sometimes if you have worked for you, you need to celebrate yourself, it's like a reward to yourself to yourself, however, that shouldn't be there on the scale of preference.
20:49
SPEAKER_05: That shouldn't be number one, that shouldn't be your goal.
20:51
SPEAKER_05: Yeah, your goal is that all the things that you've acquired, what are you doing to give back to society?
20:55
SPEAKER_05: The impact that you are creating.
20:57
SPEAKER_01: Money is a byproduct of value.
21:02
SPEAKER_01: So when you get the value, the money will come automatically.
21:06
SPEAKER_05: You don't have to wake up thinking about money, thinking about no.
21:08
SPEAKER_05: No, wake up every morning thinking about which communities like and which communities I can put value, I can go there to create stories.
21:16
SPEAKER_05: And all these years that I've been blogging with my community uh impact stories, and I didn't know I was literally contributing to the SDGs, the sustainable development goals of the UN.
21:27
SPEAKER_05: I didn't know.
21:28
SPEAKER_05: So last year I just got an email hi or you've been invited to speak at a side event at the United Nations because you're contributing to blah blah blah.
21:37
SPEAKER_05: Nice on Monday, they asked me, Do you have a visa?
21:40
SPEAKER_05: I said yes.
21:42
SPEAKER_05: Can you come to New York on Thursday?
21:44
SPEAKER_05: I said yes.
21:44
SPEAKER_05: Boom.
21:45
SPEAKER_01: Just like that.
21:46
SPEAKER_05: Thursday, I was I was in New York to speak at the at a UN.
21:49
SPEAKER_05: And I'm like, God, I didn't thought about it.
21:52
SPEAKER_05: That moving to communities where my car was always in trouble, my team is struggling, I was going to, and that was my first time.
22:00
SPEAKER_05: And I was, you know, my friends are in the US and they're saying, 'Cobby, want to come and visit, Charlie, come and visit, let's enjoy.' And I always tell them that I want to travel to the state with a purpose.
22:07
SPEAKER_05: Yeah, I want to come there with something significant.
22:10
SPEAKER_05: And eventually, what I did took me to the UN.
22:13
SPEAKER_05: And I never taught a boy from Agunadu, and I never envisioned that what I'm doing, the values that I'm creating.
22:19
SPEAKER_05: So it's not just about money, it's good because you need to also buy your money is good.
22:24
SPEAKER_01: Yeah, however, someone like me, I like food, I need to have money to eat plenty, you know.
22:28
SPEAKER_05: So, but let's think about how we can impact the next generation in creating values, and then eventually the matter will come.
22:34
SPEAKER_01: Yeah.
22:34
SPEAKER_01: Speaking about impact, I've seen you talk a lot about this.
22:38
SPEAKER_01: And every time I'm like, wow, somebody's somebody's saying it for me.
22:43
SPEAKER_01: Boys' lives matter.
22:45
SPEAKER_01: Please talk to me.
22:46
SPEAKER_01: What does that mean?
22:47
SPEAKER_05: Before I go on, I want to ask you a simple question.
22:50
SPEAKER_01: Yes.
22:51
SPEAKER_05: How did you feel, or how was a feeling when we started the interview?
22:56
SPEAKER_05: And I said, I'm so proud of you.
22:58
SPEAKER_01: So good.
23:00
SPEAKER_01: People underestimate how good it makes you feel to be appreciated.
23:05
SPEAKER_01: You know, it's it's this world is very tiring and you slave away and you work and you suffer.
23:13
SPEAKER_01: And sometimes it feels like it's all for nothing.
23:16
SPEAKER_01: So when somebody takes a second to make you realize that I see you, it is so powerful.
23:23
SPEAKER_01: There's there's this sigh of, oh my god, it's worth something after all.
23:29
SPEAKER_05: So, and as men, as boys, we hardly receive that.
23:33
SPEAKER_03: Oh, yeah.
23:34
SPEAKER_05: As a young boy growing up, it was difficult to hear my surroundings paying attention to boys.
23:42
SPEAKER_05: I don't want this campaign to be a movement where we pitch boys against girls.
23:49
SPEAKER_05: Because I've already seen that.
23:51
SPEAKER_05: I want to establish that on this platform that it is not a campaign to pitch boys and girls.
23:57
SPEAKER_05: My campaign campaign is simple, my campaign message is simple.
24:01
SPEAKER_05: The vision and the mission is simple.
24:03
SPEAKER_05: It's how we can allow boys to speak up when they are going through psychological problems, emotional problems, physical problems.
24:12
SPEAKER_05: Because growing up as a boy child, I remember any time NGOs and churches visit our school and they want to communicate, they'll ask the boys to go for PE and then they will educate the girls.
24:23
SPEAKER_05: And my question is it was actually boiling up some anger because we felt like sometimes when we come back to the classroom, the girls will tell us we're taught how to shave, we're taught our menstrual circuit how to do this, we're we're taught how to speak to boys, we're taught how to, you know, do things at home clean.
24:42
SPEAKER_05: And as young boys, after P and when I started this boy's life, that was when I went back into my thinking to remember all these things.
24:50
SPEAKER_05: And I remember our boys going and we're like we were like, ah, but don't we also need some of these things?
24:55
SPEAKER_05: Nobody taught us boys how to shave, nobody teaches us how to respect women.
25:02
SPEAKER_05: So I started on joy that we are grooming and growing, men, we are having a we are building a generation of heartless men because we ignore the boy child.
25:11
SPEAKER_05: You saw the man who was beating his wife, yeah, quite unfortunate.
25:15
SPEAKER_05: If you should track back into his genesis as a boy child, you notice that this is somebody who is heartless because he wasn't giving attention when he was a boy child.
25:24
SPEAKER_01: Yeah, because how are trained on how to behave, how to behave, yeah.
25:29
SPEAKER_05: So if you are training the girl child on saying that teenage pregnancy, you don't get pregnant, don't do this, Richie.
25:36
SPEAKER_05: But you don't train the man who will get her pregnant.
25:44
SPEAKER_05: So the government and NGOs and the women's empowerment will still dominate and still work hard and will still get money funding from the UN and all government supporting agencies, it won't end because they are figuring out the boy child.
26:00
SPEAKER_04: Yeah, the moment they use the same energy to empower the boy child, there's gonna be a balanced society.
26:09
SPEAKER_05: I will know how to respect my wife at home.
26:11
SPEAKER_05: And guess what?
26:12
SPEAKER_05: On my wedding day, on my engagement, there was when I had my my parents and my uncles tell me that don't beat your wife, don't do this.
26:21
SPEAKER_05: I was never taught it's too late now, it was too late.
26:23
SPEAKER_05: You can use one hour.
26:24
SPEAKER_05: Yeah, you can you can use one hour to to groom my mindset on how I should take care of a woman.
26:30
SPEAKER_05: Yeah, you can do that, you know.
26:33
SPEAKER_05: So the purpose of the campaign is to allow boys again, and in our um circle, or in Ghana, in Africa, or in I mean, maybe the the world as large, we don't think we don't teach the boy child emotional intelligence.
26:47
SPEAKER_01: Yes, we we make a man feel like your job is to only provide.
26:53
SPEAKER_01: And when I say provide, I don't just mean money, I mean protection, shelter, support.
27:00
SPEAKER_01: So a man is only as valuable as what he brings to the table.
27:06
SPEAKER_01: So it doesn't feel good just being a man.
27:11
SPEAKER_01: You know, like when you're a woman, you're a queen.
27:15
SPEAKER_01: You're a queen, girl.
27:17
SPEAKER_01: Yeah, you're queen, we are proud of you.
27:19
SPEAKER_01: Thank you.
27:21
SPEAKER_01: But if you are a man and you've not added some exceptional value to yourself, if you are not super book smart, or you are wealthy, or you are super strong, or if you've not added something to yourself, or you're a superstar, or you're a superstar driving, thank you, you have a passion, thank you, you're empty.
27:37
SPEAKER_01: Just by being a man, you are empty.
27:40
SPEAKER_01: Like the term man has almost become an insult.
27:45
SPEAKER_01: Oh, but he's a man.
27:47
SPEAKER_05: Oh, I love them.
27:48
SPEAKER_05: Oh, he's a boy.
27:48
SPEAKER_05: He's a boy.
27:49
SPEAKER_05: Oh, you can figure it out.
27:51
SPEAKER_01: Thank you.
27:52
SPEAKER_01: But if we started to change things around and let men, let boys understand that you are valuable too.
28:01
SPEAKER_01: You are valuable just for being you.
28:04
SPEAKER_02: True.
28:04
SPEAKER_01: Do you get me?
28:05
SPEAKER_01: You were born.
28:06
SPEAKER_01: I watched a very powerful video that um, I think it's Neil deGrasse Tyson who was talking about the improbability of you being alive.
28:15
SPEAKER_01: Like the odds against you being formed.
28:19
SPEAKER_01: So the fact that you are here makes you special.
28:24
SPEAKER_01: It's not what you've achieved, it's not what you've done, it's not the food you put on the table, just the fact that you are here makes you special.
28:32
SPEAKER_01: And then the rest of your life is how to add on to that.
28:36
SPEAKER_01: But when I saw your campaign, I got it instantly because we are made to feel like we're we are not.
28:43
SPEAKER_05: Our life is not matter, man.
28:45
SPEAKER_05: We don't we don't matter in society.
28:47
SPEAKER_05: But I mean, ask yourself, growing up as a boy now becoming a man, have you ever heard about empowering the boy child?
28:55
SPEAKER_03: Never.
28:56
SPEAKER_05: My dad called me and said, Hey, how did he get this idea?
28:58
SPEAKER_05: Because as a boy, as a boy, as a man now, I am as your father, nobody actually we had to learn it the hard way.
29:05
SPEAKER_05: Yeah, and a lot of I remember um Reagan, um my friend who does podcast.
29:12
SPEAKER_05: So he does this thing where he would just randomly call his friends and say that oh, it's been a minute.
29:16
SPEAKER_05: I'm proud of you.
29:17
SPEAKER_05: Yeah, I saw that, and and the and the boys were also and something was saying that oh Charlie, you made my day.
29:26
SPEAKER_05: You made I just said I just got an email that someone said uh he sent me a story and asked me to just post it so that people can just motivate him.
29:32
SPEAKER_05: And I posted a story, and on X, people were just like, Charlie, B, you're gonna be fine, we love you.
29:38
SPEAKER_05: And the guy sent me a message that you have no idea what the message that I read has done to me.
29:43
SPEAKER_05: I'm healed, God bless you.
29:44
SPEAKER_05: I can't wait to meet you.
29:45
SPEAKER_01: Let me shout out one person, George Britton.
29:48
SPEAKER_01: You know, so when I started doing my posting advice and all these kinds of inspirational things on social media, one day George Britton just messaged me out of the blue.
29:57
SPEAKER_01: No reason, it's not like we're having a conversation.
29:59
SPEAKER_01: Just message me and said, Richie, I see what you are doing, I love it, it's inspiring, keep going.
30:05
SPEAKER_01: And I was like, Thank you.
30:08
SPEAKER_01: It will change your mood the entire year.
30:11
SPEAKER_01: Thank you.
30:12
SPEAKER_01: It is so powerful.
30:14
SPEAKER_01: We need to appreciate boys too.
30:17
SPEAKER_01: We need to let people know that they are being seen.
30:19
SPEAKER_01: And and I like how you're saying it's not a boys versus girls thing.
30:23
SPEAKER_01: Like, let's appreciate both.
30:25
SPEAKER_01: Both genders.
30:26
SPEAKER_01: You know, every time we see somebody, and this is what you know, one of the terms being thrown around these days a lot is toxic masculinity.
30:35
SPEAKER_01: But what we don't understand is that comes from the neglect.
30:39
SPEAKER_01: Absolutely, it comes from bottling up the emotions.
30:43
SPEAKER_01: You know, a man feels like he can't say what's on his mind, he can't admit to being afraid, and we're all part of it.
30:52
SPEAKER_05: We are all part of it.
30:54
SPEAKER_01: You know, let's let me show you something.
30:55
SPEAKER_01: The last time at my workplace, a fire almost started, right?
31:00
SPEAKER_01: And when the fire almost started, and I heard that two of the guys were running.
31:07
SPEAKER_01: I was like, ah, but you know, be man.
31:16
SPEAKER_01: Why why why did I think that it is okay for the women to save their lives, but the men should sacrifice and be in the fire?
31:26
SPEAKER_01: Is the man worthless?
31:29
SPEAKER_01: We're all we're all a part of it.
31:31
SPEAKER_01: Look, like I'm I'm I'm calling myself out.
31:34
SPEAKER_01: Let's say we are at work right now and we've been working for the past 10 hours straight, and everybody is tired, and we are buying maybe there's only one meal left, and there's a boy and a girl.
31:46
SPEAKER_01: I'll give it to you.
31:47
SPEAKER_05: And you allow the boy to go yeah, because I we're a bherma, we're being do that.
31:51
SPEAKER_05: You you you bore hang anger, not hunger, anger in the heart.
31:56
SPEAKER_01: Yes, because you'd be thinking, why her, not me?
32:00
SPEAKER_05: Because I've just said I just share the food.
32:02
SPEAKER_01: Thank you.
32:02
SPEAKER_01: We we will never think about that.
32:04
SPEAKER_05: The girl, and you see, I asked my seven-year-old daughter, she saw my interviews all over the place, and on uh anytime she picks my phone, she'll see boys' life matter, my shirt, and said, So one time I said, Um, Kendra, do you understand Boys' Lives Matter?
32:19
SPEAKER_05: Maybe I said, What is it?
32:21
SPEAKER_05: He said, So in our class, anytime we are all talking, the teacher will ask the boys to nail down and the girls will sit down.
32:28
SPEAKER_05: Meanwhile, all of us are talking.
32:31
SPEAKER_04: And I was like, Damn, wow, I was a crack of business here.
32:36
SPEAKER_04: Wow.
32:37
SPEAKER_04: This is a seven-year-old.
32:38
SPEAKER_04: Like, that's wrong programming from that.
32:42
SPEAKER_05: So from till now, she'll come home and said, Daddy, the boys, I don't know what is wrong.
32:49
SPEAKER_05: The boy anytime the teacher asked the boys to know down.
32:51
SPEAKER_05: Meanwhile, the boys have not done anything.
32:53
SPEAKER_05: So, my my daughter is now getting some love.
32:56
SPEAKER_05: Yesterday said, I want to grow, get money, and support the boys on the streets.
33:01
SPEAKER_05: So, when you go to the prisons, a lot of the youth boys are there.
33:06
SPEAKER_05: The government is trying to push wood in red to you know advocate and for the boys to stop doing drugs.
33:11
SPEAKER_05: It is a good idea.
33:13
SPEAKER_05: But the government must also make sure that we build that we uh uh intensify and enhance uh the psychology and the counseling units in our various schools.
33:26
SPEAKER_01: Yeah, because believing in who you are is the first step to success.
33:32
SPEAKER_01: Even before you go on the streets to do the drugs, let me tell you guys a secret today.
33:36
SPEAKER_01: Do you know one of the things that made me have self-belief?
33:39
SPEAKER_01: When I was very young, my mom told me that she had a dream and she believes I'll be great.
33:48
SPEAKER_05: Wow.
33:48
SPEAKER_05: That's what your mom told you.
33:50
SPEAKER_01: Yeah, she told me from when I was a child she doesn't know what I'm going to do, she doesn't know what the future is, but she knows I'm going to be great.
33:58
SPEAKER_01: And you kept that.
33:59
SPEAKER_01: I kept that in my head.
34:00
SPEAKER_01: Wow.
34:01
SPEAKER_01: So I grew up knowing that I am going to be great.
34:04
SPEAKER_01: I don't know what I'm going to do, but me, Richimenta.
34:08
SPEAKER_01: I am not.
34:08
SPEAKER_05: But it was reminding you all the time.
34:11
SPEAKER_05: That was some big motivation.
34:13
SPEAKER_05: Yeah.
34:14
SPEAKER_05: So imagine every parent calling their sons, say, hey, I see what you are doing, I see their struggles.
34:19
SPEAKER_05: Don't worry, you're going to be fine.
34:20
SPEAKER_05: I'm so proud of you.
34:21
SPEAKER_01: Thank you.
34:22
SPEAKER_05: Now let me ask you something.
34:24
SPEAKER_05: Share with all of us something that you've not been able to share with the world.
34:31
SPEAKER_05: That was very painful.
34:34
SPEAKER_05: You kept it, but now you want to share it.
34:37
SPEAKER_05: Hey, I want to share something that something that you didn't share because you felt like you're a man, so you don't have to share it.
34:42
SPEAKER_05: It's plenty of you.
34:44
SPEAKER_01: So just give me one.
34:46
SPEAKER_01: I mean, one of the toughest parts I always say about being a male leader.
34:50
SPEAKER_01: This one is quite, you know.
34:52
SPEAKER_01: Okay.
34:53
SPEAKER_01: One of the toughest parts is especially someone like me who's got it all figured out is nobody actually ever cares how I'm doing.
35:05
SPEAKER_04: That's a simple statement, but very powerful.
35:07
SPEAKER_01: Yeah.
35:08
SPEAKER_01: Everybody knows Richie will take care of it.
35:12
SPEAKER_01: Richie will take care of me.
35:13
SPEAKER_01: Richie will figure it out.
35:16
SPEAKER_01: But nobody ever checks how's Richie doing?
35:20
SPEAKER_01: Is Richie okay?
35:22
SPEAKER_01: Is Richie tired?
35:24
SPEAKER_01: Does Richie need help?
35:26
SPEAKER_01: Those things don't occur to people because they are used to me swooping in to save the day.
35:34
SPEAKER_01: But who saves the savior?
35:39
SPEAKER_01: And I know a lot of men are going through this.
35:44
SPEAKER_05: Oh, that's so powerful.
35:46
SPEAKER_01: Like a father has to think about the home.
35:51
SPEAKER_01: They have to think so hard about how to put food on the table, they have to think about making their wife okay, making the kids okay.
35:58
SPEAKER_01: But at what point does somebody say let's take care of daddy?
36:05
SPEAKER_01: I've seen so many um broken homes where the kids don't talk to the father again because he was an absentee dad.
36:16
SPEAKER_01: When they say absentee dad, he was never at home.
36:19
SPEAKER_01: He didn't come to a school play, he didn't come to a football match, but he was slaving away to pay for the school fees.
36:29
SPEAKER_06: So let me say this one time I just had this whole idea.
36:38
SPEAKER_06: I won't illustrate it.
36:42
SPEAKER_06: You see, animals, so one time it was raining when it was raining, the male, which is the father of the animal kingdom when it was raining, anytime it rains, the father will go for an umbrella to shelter the wife and the children.
37:05
SPEAKER_04: Anytime when it rains and the dad does that, the children will ask the mom where is daddy?
37:12
SPEAKER_05: Where is daddy?
37:13
SPEAKER_05: Because they can't see, they can't see daddy, daddy is the one holding the umbrella.
37:17
SPEAKER_05: And guess what?
37:18
SPEAKER_05: The mother is supposed to tell the children that daddy is the one holding the umbrella, yeah, but the mom doesn't do that, so the children have harped some pain in them because daddy is always not present, yeah, forgetting that it's daddy who has always been the leader holding the umbrella for them.
37:37
SPEAKER_01: And you see, it's not it's not the mother's fault because what happens is the woman or the girl child is also trained to believe that men are only valuable based on what they provide.
37:50
SPEAKER_01: So if you fault today, you are weak, you're empty, you're not strong.
37:56
SPEAKER_04: Go out today, go figure it out.
37:58
SPEAKER_04: So I was having a conversation.
38:00
SPEAKER_04: I was having a conversation with my mom.
38:01
SPEAKER_05: My mom, until I became a father, I understood my dad.
38:08
SPEAKER_05: Yeah, because yes, because my my mom would just call and say, When you were in school, your dad wasn't around, and so my mom was literally trying to let us love her and not pay attention to the contribution that our dad did.
38:25
SPEAKER_05: So when I became a man and I started traveling and I'm not available, and knowing my dad very well, if in their time they had smartphones, my dad would be calling video call all the time, just like I'm doing.
38:39
SPEAKER_03: Yeah.
38:39
SPEAKER_05: So I had to pause and say, Mommy, you know what you did?
38:43
SPEAKER_05: When I became a father was when I realized that if it wasn't my divine wisdom, you you would have just destroyed my mindset and allowed me to hit my dad for no reason.
38:55
SPEAKER_01: It's it's it's it's just because a man's contribution is seen as default, a woman's contribution is seen as bonus.
39:03
SPEAKER_01: Let me give you an example.
39:05
SPEAKER_01: If a man is working and getting a salary, is it special?
39:10
SPEAKER_01: That's normal.
39:11
SPEAKER_01: What else?
39:11
SPEAKER_01: What else are we supposed to do?
39:13
SPEAKER_01: Yes.
39:13
SPEAKER_01: If a woman can pay her own bills, do you see how it's celebrated?
39:16
SPEAKER_01: I pay my own bills.
39:18
SPEAKER_01: Yes.
39:18
SPEAKER_01: I'm independent.
39:19
SPEAKER_01: Exactly.
39:20
SPEAKER_01: Uh I bought my car.
39:21
SPEAKER_01: I bought my car.
39:24
SPEAKER_01: Isn't that what the guys are doing too?
39:26
SPEAKER_01: So ours is seen as default.
39:28
SPEAKER_01: The fact that you pay your own bills, you take care of your parents, you take care of your wife, you take care of your kids, that's what you are supposed to do.
39:36
SPEAKER_01: Whereas a woman gets praised.
39:39
SPEAKER_01: You see a 25-year-old girl with a job, earning a good salary, she's rented her own place, you're like, you go, girl, you're independent.
39:48
SPEAKER_01: You're a go-getter, you are this.
39:50
SPEAKER_01: A boy is doing the same thing and it's a standard.
39:53
SPEAKER_01: So the moment when a girl slips small, we give her the grace to get back up.
40:02
SPEAKER_01: When a boy slips, you are now less than.
40:06
SPEAKER_01: Because what we've done is uh achieving, succeeding has become the standard for men.
40:12
SPEAKER_01: So once you are not succeeding, you are less than.
40:15
SPEAKER_01: Whereas existing is the standard for women.
40:19
SPEAKER_05: Powerful.
40:20
SPEAKER_01: So once you elevate from existing to succeeding, you are above the standard.
40:26
SPEAKER_05: Powerful.
40:26
SPEAKER_01: We need to allow men to exist, to share their emotions.
40:32
SPEAKER_01: Yes, it's going through it.
40:34
SPEAKER_05: And again, sometimes we have a certain misconception that just provided physical money is the strength of the man.
40:43
SPEAKER_05: Sometimes it's not just about let's look beyond what the man brings to the home.
40:48
SPEAKER_05: Yeah, some people don't have the monetary power to build their homes, but guess what, Richie?
40:55
SPEAKER_05: They are there.
40:56
SPEAKER_03: Yeah.
40:57
SPEAKER_05: So let's not just look at the fact that the person is not providing in the monetary value before we can appreciate what men are doing.
41:03
SPEAKER_03: Yeah.
41:04
SPEAKER_05: And I I mean, I mean, I have a um a friend who told me that one time the wife woke um him up at 2 a.m.
41:13
SPEAKER_05: and said, Since we got married, have you teached out on me?
41:17
SPEAKER_05: And the man started crying.
41:18
SPEAKER_05: He said, Cobb, I started crying because mind you, when I'm married to my wife, I'm literally doing everything and I'm building a house, I'm doing this.
41:27
SPEAKER_05: My wife has never woke me up at 2 a.m.
41:30
SPEAKER_05: to ask me how I'm figuring things out, how I'm I'm able to buy cement, how I'm able to build a house, how I'm how I'm able to pay the school fees.
41:36
SPEAKER_05: I was expecting my wife to ask me, How am I able to do all these things?
41:42
SPEAKER_05: And so he asked the wife, why haven't you asked me that's not the case, cool fees?
41:47
SPEAKER_05: What I'm doing, why shouldn't that be your priority in asking me how I manage the family?
41:52
SPEAKER_05: But asking me your focus is on me, too.
41:55
SPEAKER_05: They had a conversation and the wife apologized and the wife started crying.
42:00
SPEAKER_05: So we need you to also use your platform to educate the girls and the women out there, that's it.
42:06
SPEAKER_05: Don't overlook the strength of your husbands and your boyfriends.
42:11
SPEAKER_05: Don't be thinking thinking so much about the negative, think about the positive impact that your boyfriends and your your husbands and your fathers bring to the table.
42:19
SPEAKER_05: Let's view and appreciate it.
42:21
SPEAKER_05: Just test your father, Daddy, I love you.
42:24
SPEAKER_05: And I said on one podcast that when a man tells you that I love you, it is even more valuable and very it hits you even more than your wife even telling you that I love you.
42:33
SPEAKER_05: Yeah, trust me, Richie.
42:35
SPEAKER_05: You see the way you felt when George Britain sent you a message.
42:38
SPEAKER_05: Yeah, let any of your male friends just send Richie.
42:41
SPEAKER_05: I see what you do.
42:42
SPEAKER_05: I just watched your interview, your podcast with Kobiche, I love you.
42:45
SPEAKER_05: Yeah, that I love you statement from your male friend is priceless as long as it doesn't add emojis.
42:50
SPEAKER_05: Exactly.
42:51
SPEAKER_05: That one yeah, I'm gonna suspect.
42:54
SPEAKER_05: I don't say this in a funny way, but also this same opportunity to say that we need to be there for ourselves as boys, yeah.
43:01
SPEAKER_05: Because girls, girls can meet and have fun and say, what do you need?
43:04
SPEAKER_05: Actually, what do you need?
43:05
SPEAKER_05: Come on, come on.
43:06
SPEAKER_05: Let's go.
43:06
SPEAKER_05: But as boys, we we are always timid and rigid.
43:09
SPEAKER_05: Let's open up to our fellow brothers.
43:11
SPEAKER_01: You can't you can open up like boys, boys will meet maybe they're playing video game.
43:17
SPEAKER_01: Bro, you chat oh yeah, my puppy died yesterday.
43:20
SPEAKER_01: Oh, sorry, bro.
43:21
SPEAKER_01: Tell me then they continue.
43:23
SPEAKER_05: It'd be normal.
43:23
SPEAKER_05: Yeah, have issues with my wife.
43:26
SPEAKER_05: It'd be normal.
43:26
SPEAKER_05: They won't sit down to have telling what's the problem.
43:28
SPEAKER_03: No, no, no.
43:29
SPEAKER_05: If you're trying to call you, Charlie, I'm going through a lot to then know they're going to insult you.
43:33
SPEAKER_05: Why they call me?
43:33
SPEAKER_05: Why they call me?
43:34
SPEAKER_05: What's what you know what's me to do?
43:37
SPEAKER_05: I mean, just listen to them, just have a conversation.
43:39
SPEAKER_05: I mean, I've seen your camera, guys.
43:40
SPEAKER_05: Let them come and say, rather than come and say one problem they are going through.
43:43
SPEAKER_05: You'll cry.
43:44
SPEAKER_05: Who's ready?
43:46
SPEAKER_05: You know, and as CEOs like yourself, let's have mentorship training for the boys in our workplaces.
43:53
SPEAKER_05: Yeah, I have uh a woman CEO um in Kunim, so she's a young CEO, CEO.
44:00
SPEAKER_05: And she takes care of a lot of boys in her yard.
44:03
SPEAKER_05: And I said, you know what?
44:05
SPEAKER_05: One time, organize a mentorship for your boys here.
44:08
SPEAKER_05: Talk to them, listen to them.
44:10
SPEAKER_05: And she did it.
44:11
SPEAKER_05: And the feedback the boys were crying, they were sharing their emotions, some of the issues with their wife.
44:18
SPEAKER_05: And it's not sometimes not even about the money.
44:20
SPEAKER_05: It's about their wife and their partners and their family not appreciating the little effort that they are bringing to the table.
44:26
SPEAKER_05: Call your boys and just do this exercise and give me feedback.
44:30
SPEAKER_05: Sit down with all Tigon Studio Links.
44:33
SPEAKER_05: Bring all your you're having a session with only boys.
44:36
SPEAKER_05: I did one of the biggest, you know, boys' mentorship program at Presek.
44:40
SPEAKER_05: All the boys, and a lot of boys said, come and see the way boys were speaking.
44:44
SPEAKER_05: Boys who was who were sexually abused.
44:47
SPEAKER_05: Because if a man is sexually abused, you can't go and talk about it.
44:50
SPEAKER_05: I was seeing message.
44:51
SPEAKER_05: People said message call me when I was 13 years.
44:53
SPEAKER_05: Oh, where's my phone?
44:54
SPEAKER_05: Maybe you can catch and just join.
44:56
SPEAKER_05: But let me read.
44:57
SPEAKER_05: Please please bring my phone.
44:58
SPEAKER_05: Let me read some of the someone said I was abused 13 years.
45:01
SPEAKER_05: Charlie.
45:03
SPEAKER_05: My auntie was raping me.
45:05
SPEAKER_01: My maid.
45:06
SPEAKER_01: No, but I know a lot of boys with this.
45:08
SPEAKER_01: Yes, but who's nine, who's nine years, and his maid started raping him.
45:14
SPEAKER_05: So this person, do you think that if this person survives and marries one day, this person will value women?
45:18
SPEAKER_05: Exactly.
45:21
SPEAKER_05: Thank you.
45:22
SPEAKER_05: Yeah, I have to come and show your problem.
45:23
SPEAKER_05: Yes, so um, Rich, let me let me let me read this message that I will I will not I will not mention the person's name.
45:32
SPEAKER_05: So this is the message.
45:33
SPEAKER_05: He said that I was abused, but I thought I was loved.
45:38
SPEAKER_05: In a compound house, a woman made me sorry for the purposes of this, lick her private parts.
45:45
SPEAKER_05: I was nine to ten.
45:47
SPEAKER_05: We lived in a compound house at a Shantiba Kwai.
45:50
SPEAKER_05: It didn't occur once or twice, a lot more to talk about the right time or come.
45:57
SPEAKER_06: So bro, this one says, Bro, it has happened to me before.
46:03
SPEAKER_05: So she came to my dad's funeral.
46:05
SPEAKER_05: Okay, so after that the thing happened when when when he was um young, he said she came to my dad's funeral and I was looking at her, thinking she thinks I don't remember.
46:17
SPEAKER_05: We watched porn together.
46:18
SPEAKER_05: I got addicted to porn at an early age.
46:22
SPEAKER_06: And I'm still addicted to porn because the woman introduced it to me when I was young.
46:30
SPEAKER_06: How do we how do we help?
46:32
SPEAKER_01: How do we help all these people?
46:34
SPEAKER_05: Because maybe it was just divine for me to come on this platform.
46:37
SPEAKER_05: Maybe with your platform, with your influence, with your logistics, we can partner, we can do something together for boys.
46:45
SPEAKER_05: And it's just on my heart, and I pray it touches you too.
46:48
SPEAKER_05: Let's go set the podcast, the same setup, let's say at a ghetto and invite all boys randomly to come and sit down and share their problem.
46:58
SPEAKER_01: Because the problems deal.
47:00
SPEAKER_01: And the and the worst part about when you have problems and you are made to feel you are not allowed to have the problems, to speak up, to share it.
47:14
SPEAKER_05: A lot of boys are being sexually abused.
47:16
SPEAKER_05: You know, when you go to police station to say that, imagine I go to the police station and say that my wife, my wife has abused me.
47:22
SPEAKER_05: Even a woman who went to report that the husband is fiscally abusing her, the police people didn't take it serious.
47:29
SPEAKER_05: You remember the story?
47:30
SPEAKER_05: Yeah, so imagine how much more a boy, a boy, yeah, or a man, they won't take it seriously.
47:35
SPEAKER_05: They had to train on social media before they took it serious.
47:39
SPEAKER_05: They took it serious.
47:39
SPEAKER_05: So imagine a lot of men.
47:41
SPEAKER_05: Someone sent me a message yesterday that could be I live in the house, but I asked them, can you send me videos?
47:45
SPEAKER_05: I normally live there.
47:47
SPEAKER_05: The wife is always beating the husband, so it's not just about the women are also beating their husbands.
47:53
SPEAKER_05: But how who are you going to complain to?
47:57
SPEAKER_05: And macron or beyond to me complaining or background to me.
48:00
SPEAKER_05: So imagine what boys are going through.
48:02
SPEAKER_05: So we need, if you want to have responsible husbands, responsible leaders, we need to pay attention to the boy child.
48:11
SPEAKER_05: We have Ministry of Gender.
48:13
SPEAKER_05: Sometimes, I stand to correct it, but most of their programs is geared towards the girl child, which yeah, which is not a problem.
48:21
SPEAKER_05: They should keep empowering the girl child.
48:23
SPEAKER_01: It should be balanced.
48:24
SPEAKER_01: You know, I thought the fight was for equality.
48:27
SPEAKER_01: So that's what I'm saying.
48:28
SPEAKER_05: Even with the UN, yes, even with the UN go, they said equality.
48:31
SPEAKER_01: Yeah.
48:32
SPEAKER_05: But all the funding that they bring, it goes directly to the girl child.
48:35
SPEAKER_05: And it's going to be actually, they are still going to do it because they've left the boy child.
48:40
SPEAKER_05: Who impregnated the girl child?
48:41
SPEAKER_05: It's the boy child who's left unattended.
48:43
SPEAKER_01: Yeah.
48:44
SPEAKER_01: And we need to stop thinking men are always to blame for everything.
48:47
SPEAKER_01: It's so sad.
48:48
SPEAKER_01: Like, let's be honest.
48:49
SPEAKER_01: If you and I are here and we hear that this married couple has gotten divorced, what did he do wrong?
48:56
SPEAKER_01: That's the first thought.
48:58
SPEAKER_01: That's the first thought.
49:00
SPEAKER_01: So it just makes you feel so irrelevant as a man.
49:05
SPEAKER_01: And we don't realize that a lot of people get into bad habits, do the wrong thing, because they feel it doesn't matter anyway.
49:12
SPEAKER_05: Exactly.
49:13
SPEAKER_05: A lot of guys are committing suicide.
49:14
SPEAKER_05: What if you check the suicide rates?
49:16
SPEAKER_05: It's it's literally almost the percentage, the highest is from the boys.
49:20
SPEAKER_01: Yeah, I think it's like 62% for men.
49:23
SPEAKER_05: All the time they're committing suicide.
49:25
SPEAKER_05: You go inside the relationship, problems, a medical student, a LEGO, committed suicide because they said he was depressed.
49:34
SPEAKER_05: So my question is that he didn't have anybody around to even communicate.
49:39
SPEAKER_05: Because in his mind he's thinking, who is even going to listen to me?
49:42
SPEAKER_05: And anytime I post about Boys' Lives Matter to say that speaker boys, the question they asked back is that Kobe, who is going to listen to us?
49:51
SPEAKER_01: 100%.
49:52
SPEAKER_01: Let me let me let me use two people as an example.
49:54
SPEAKER_01: Um, remember when Miss V went through depression?
49:58
SPEAKER_01: When she mentioned it, everybody was sympathetic, everybody understood what she was going through.
50:04
SPEAKER_01: When Papi Kojo mentioned being depressed, what happened?
50:07
SPEAKER_05: They were insulting him.
50:08
SPEAKER_01: Ah, we laugh out.
50:09
SPEAKER_01: Myself, I laugh something.
50:10
SPEAKER_01: Exactly.
50:11
SPEAKER_05: You see?
50:11
SPEAKER_05: Oh, but you be ah, you be mad, are you depressed?
50:14
SPEAKER_05: Look at Funny Face.
50:15
SPEAKER_01: Thank you.
50:16
SPEAKER_05: People were just making fun after what Funny Face was going through.
50:19
SPEAKER_01: Yeah.
50:20
SPEAKER_01: A lot of people.
50:21
SPEAKER_01: So when a man is going through depression, going through mental problems and everything, he can't open up because he'll be ridiculed.
50:29
SPEAKER_05: Nobody's going to listen to us.
50:30
SPEAKER_05: And a lot of men are like men's mental health should be paid attention to.
50:35
SPEAKER_05: Yeah.
50:35
SPEAKER_05: And not just men's mental health.
50:37
SPEAKER_05: Women and men, generally, in our part of the world, we don't pay attention to our mental health in general.
50:42
SPEAKER_01: Yeah.
50:42
SPEAKER_05: At all.
50:43
SPEAKER_05: A lot of people are mad.
50:44
SPEAKER_05: They are just wearing clothes.
50:47
SPEAKER_01: No, no, true though.
50:48
SPEAKER_01: Yes, true.
50:49
SPEAKER_01: A lot of people.
50:50
SPEAKER_01: Yeah.
50:50
SPEAKER_05: And you know, we have ADHD.
50:52
SPEAKER_01: You know, we have bipolar.
50:54
SPEAKER_05: Yes.
50:54
SPEAKER_01: We have schizophrenia.
50:55
SPEAKER_01: We have so many things that affect you.
50:57
SPEAKER_05: Sometimes you'll be holding your phone and you forget that the phone is even holding.
50:59
SPEAKER_05: You forget.
51:00
SPEAKER_05: It means while you're holding the phone.
51:01
SPEAKER_05: Yeah.
51:02
SPEAKER_01: But I'm and I've seen people space out.
51:05
SPEAKER_01: Like somebody's having a big problem in their life, and they can space out for a number of days, and nobody even notices it.
51:11
SPEAKER_01: Nobody.
51:12
SPEAKER_01: You know, one song that uh meant a lot was people.
51:18
SPEAKER_01: I've been drinking more alcohol.
51:21
SPEAKER_01: Yes, I know.
51:22
SPEAKER_01: Because I know some people that is like, why are you drinking so much now?
51:27
SPEAKER_01: Something is going on, and the bottle feels like their only friend.
51:32
SPEAKER_01: We need to be there for people.
51:34
SPEAKER_01: I mean, what is the what is the point of community if we can't be there for people?
51:39
SPEAKER_05: I like that.
51:40
SPEAKER_01: We live in such a world of the society.
51:43
SPEAKER_05: Yeah.
51:44
SPEAKER_05: What's the point of a society if we are not there for each other?
51:47
SPEAKER_01: We call it social media, but there's there's no society in social media now.
51:52
SPEAKER_01: It's just it's just bullying and bullying and bullying.
51:56
SPEAKER_01: Chadwick Bozeman.
51:58
SPEAKER_01: You you saw when he posted pictures and he had lost weight and he was trolled on social media.
52:05
SPEAKER_01: And then when he died, all these people came out and said, Oh, we didn't know.
52:09
SPEAKER_01: Did you need to know?
52:11
SPEAKER_05: Absolutely.
52:12
SPEAKER_01: You see him going through something and you are trolling him.
52:17
SPEAKER_01: Like I come on social media, and it's cool to laugh at somebody for what they are through.
52:24
SPEAKER_05: We have normalized cyberbullying our country, we have normalized um making fun of people.
52:30
SPEAKER_05: And I think there should be a sense of responsibility.
52:36
SPEAKER_05: You know, and everyone out there, let's learn to check up on each other.
52:39
SPEAKER_05: Yeah, let's just learn to just check up.
52:42
SPEAKER_05: Sometimes when I check up on my friend, you're like, oh wow, it's good to hear from you.
52:45
SPEAKER_05: Let's not wait till we need something before we can.
52:48
SPEAKER_05: It should be our lifestyle.
52:49
SPEAKER_05: Like you mentioned, it's a social platform.
52:51
SPEAKER_05: Yeah.
52:51
SPEAKER_05: So let's not.
52:52
SPEAKER_05: I remember when Facebook started, it was just having conversations, meeting new people.
52:56
SPEAKER_05: Now the whole social media space has become something that needs a new reorientation.
53:02
SPEAKER_05: Ghana Education Service must make sure that they inculcate social media in the syllabus so that we can teach the young girls and the young boys how to have social media.
53:13
SPEAKER_01: I mean, I think you should have a social media license.
53:15
SPEAKER_01: Yes.
53:15
SPEAKER_01: That can be revoked.
53:16
SPEAKER_01: I like this.
53:17
SPEAKER_01: If you write the wrong thing, people revoke your license.
53:20
SPEAKER_01: You can't post again.
53:21
SPEAKER_05: And again, I think that um, you know, there are some countries, they don't use some of the apps and all that.
53:26
SPEAKER_03: Yeah.
53:27
SPEAKER_05: So in our country, what I'm expecting our ministers, our communication minister, and the people responsible for you know um this landscape is that when Facebook and Instagram and TikTok are coming to, you know, uh US, we're going back and forth with US with regards to everything.
53:45
SPEAKER_05: So it means that as a country, we have a power to negotiate with TikTok CEO, yeah, Facebook CEO, Instagram, and say that you know what, this is our values and our culture.
53:55
SPEAKER_05: What you must do is that anybody who signs up on a platform, you have their database because if you are signing acts of your age, your your region, yeah, your demographic, like they ask, they literally ask everything.
54:04
SPEAKER_05: So they have the database.
54:04
SPEAKER_05: Yeah.
54:05
SPEAKER_05: So when they see Richie Mensa, Facebook account misbehaving, you mute the person.
54:09
SPEAKER_05: So can't the our ministers and authorities can never have this conversation with the CEOs of these apps.
54:14
SPEAKER_01: Have you heard what China is doing right now with the influencers?
54:17
SPEAKER_01: No.
54:17
SPEAKER_01: Oh, so currently in China, unless you have proof of having knowledge and something, you are not allowed to teach it or talk about it.
54:26
SPEAKER_01: So let's say you can't just wake up and give finance tips unless you have a background in finance or you've run a business for a while.
54:33
SPEAKER_01: You can't come and do health tips just because you went on this diet and you lost weight.
54:37
SPEAKER_01: So now you are big that they're they're making sure things are done properly.
54:42
SPEAKER_05: Intentionality.
54:43
SPEAKER_05: Yes, this is a country that thinks about generation.
54:47
SPEAKER_05: You know what they are doing, they're not even thinking about the current generation.
54:50
SPEAKER_01: No, they're thinking about the next generation, the next generation.
54:52
SPEAKER_05: And our leaders in Ghana must always think about the next generation, the effects, the ripple effects of this things will have.
54:57
SPEAKER_05: Yeah, so they must sit down with them and say that this is our values.
54:59
SPEAKER_05: Because in Ghana, you can't just wake up and insult Richmansa.
55:02
SPEAKER_05: But because of social media, somebody can just go online just insult which mensa, free, free, what I'll go do.
55:08
SPEAKER_05: So we need we need the system, we need the system to be checked so that nobody can just come in the space and do yeah, we have to amplify themselves.
55:16
SPEAKER_05: We need to amplify the people doing good.
55:18
SPEAKER_05: Yeah, somebody is doing good, and on their social media don't have the likes and engagement.
55:21
SPEAKER_05: So that person, it will discourage him to do good.
55:24
SPEAKER_01: Even you know the dislike button.
55:26
SPEAKER_01: I think dislike button should be removed from all social media.
55:29
SPEAKER_01: Why are you dislikeing?
55:30
SPEAKER_01: Exactly.
55:31
SPEAKER_01: If you like it, like if you don't like it, if you don't like, move on.
55:34
SPEAKER_05: You know, destroy the person's mood.
55:37
SPEAKER_01: You know, when I started doing content, after a while, I did a video and I said that I appreciated all the people who like my content, all those who've been giving me positive feedback.
55:48
SPEAKER_01: I really appreciate them.
55:50
SPEAKER_01: And for all those who don't like it and have been given negative comments and stuff, when you see me scroll, like scroll, it's nothing.
55:59
SPEAKER_01: It's as simple as that.
56:00
SPEAKER_01: I have content I don't like.
56:02
SPEAKER_01: I open my page and I see things and I don't agree with this.
56:05
SPEAKER_01: So I scroll.
56:06
SPEAKER_05: Yes, you don't go and you know put some negative vibe.
56:09
SPEAKER_04: No, it's crazy.
56:10
SPEAKER_05: But let me ask you, do you think that is there'll be a time where Africans can create their own platforms, like Ghana can have their social platforms?
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SPEAKER_01: We can, we will.
56:19
SPEAKER_01: What will change is when Africans, Ghanaians start to believe in us.
56:25
SPEAKER_01: So we have been trained wrong and we believe everything from outside of Africa is better than things inside Africa.
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SPEAKER_01: True.
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SPEAKER_01: So if right now I I release the newest social media platform, the moment they find out it's by a Ghanaian, oh, it's not going to be good.
56:45
SPEAKER_01: We need to be reprogrammed, you know.
56:48
SPEAKER_01: I was talking about this, and it's something I personally believe in that our African stories need to be told.
56:54
SPEAKER_01: And I don't mean African stories from 1825 and colonization.
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SPEAKER_01: Thank you, because science has proven that humanity started in Africa.
57:06
SPEAKER_01: So there was African richness before colonization.
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SPEAKER_01: The fact that there was a Pope in his, I think, 200 AD, who was an African.
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SPEAKER_01: The number of things Africans have done, we've built nations globally.
57:22
SPEAKER_01: Globally.
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SPEAKER_01: The inventions.
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SPEAKER_01: Thank you.
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SPEAKER_01: Like we invented um algorithms before the invention of social media.
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SPEAKER_01: We've done so much, but because we don't share these stories, when people think about Africa, they think we are super.
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SPEAKER_01: So we don't support what comes out of Africa.
57:43
SPEAKER_01: So once we're able to, like, let's start conscientizing our people, let's start letting them understand that you are great because you're an African.
57:52
SPEAKER_01: The moment we do that, you'll start seeing the support for the things from here.
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SPEAKER_05: Amazing.
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SPEAKER_05: Uh, I really enjoyed my coming here.
58:02
SPEAKER_05: It's been really powerful, you know.
58:05
SPEAKER_05: Do something for me, right?
58:07
SPEAKER_01: I want you to look in that camera right there.
58:09
SPEAKER_01: I want you to imagine you had the power to take your hand and enter through the camera and drop one mindset shift into the brain of the person watching you.
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SPEAKER_06: What would it be?
58:25
SPEAKER_06: If you are watching me, I want to say I'm proud of you.
58:28
SPEAKER_05: If you are watching me, I want to say that the little contributions that you are adding to your life is not a waste of time.
58:36
SPEAKER_05: It's not a waste of your life.
58:39
SPEAKER_05: Everything that you are doing, it's not just the time yet.
58:43
SPEAKER_05: Sometimes you see people driving the best car, going to the best restaurants, living in the best mansions.
58:49
SPEAKER_05: You feel you feel that you're supposed to do the same thing.
58:54
SPEAKER_05: You don't skip the process, go through the process and you are going to get to your final destination and never allow your environment to limit you.
59:04
SPEAKER_05: Sometimes you want to say that we are from a poor background.
59:07
SPEAKER_05: The fact that you're from a poor background or the fact that your back is on the ground does not mean you are from a poor background.
59:16
SPEAKER_05: You wake up every morning thinking that God, why did you allow this man and woman to give birth to me?
59:22
SPEAKER_05: Because you feel that they are poor.
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SPEAKER_05: Until I grew up because I was thinking the same thing.
59:27
SPEAKER_05: Why didn't you let some rich man give birth to me?
59:29
SPEAKER_05: Why didn't you let me come from US?
59:32
SPEAKER_05: Until I grew up to discover my purpose.
59:34
SPEAKER_05: That was when I realized that it was good that I came from that poor background.
59:38
SPEAKER_05: Because it shifted my mind, it reoriented my mindset for me to become the man that I that I am today.
59:43
SPEAKER_05: So everything you are going through as a young girl, as a young boy, as a man, as a woman, it is not your just fault.
59:49
SPEAKER_05: It's not, it's not by mistake that you are from a poor background.
59:52
SPEAKER_05: Never allow your environment to limit you.
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SPEAKER_05: Own your life, own your vision, own your purpose, and keep your eye on the road.
1:00:00
SPEAKER_05: Never allow distraction.
1:00:02
SPEAKER_05: Just like the driver is driving with the mates, and the mates will say that driver, I'll buy uh someone wants to buy something, and the driver will stop.
1:00:09
SPEAKER_05: It's traffic light.
1:00:10
SPEAKER_05: But the driver knows that once he moves from Tema and his final destination is Kasua, until the driver gets to Kasua, he would never stop, even with a distraction on the road.
1:00:20
SPEAKER_05: So make sure that everything that you are doing, you never allow your distraction to limit your purpose of your wish.
1:00:28
SPEAKER_05: Love yourself and allow yourself to breathe.
1:00:32
SPEAKER_05: You are just fine.
1:00:33
SPEAKER_05: Never think that you are not doing well.
1:00:35
SPEAKER_05: Be proud of yourself and cherish the little moments of your life.
1:00:39
SPEAKER_05: Thank you.
1:00:41
SPEAKER_01: Thank you so much.
1:00:42
SPEAKER_01: That was so powerful.
1:00:44
SPEAKER_01: Thank you.
1:00:44
SPEAKER_01: I've enjoyed this conversation.
1:00:46
SPEAKER_01: And I hope you have to, and I hope this convoc brings you five steps closer to being the mastermind that you are meant to be.
1:00:54
SPEAKER_01: Thank you very much.
1:00:57
SPEAKER_01: Thanks for watching this episode.
1:00:59
SPEAKER_01: The fact that you stayed all the way through to the end tells me that you're not only curious, but you have the discipline to see what you do all the way through to the end.
1:01:08
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1:01:14
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