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Episode #309: Break Free from Old Patterns · Tea Time w/Amie & Bev

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Speaker 1: Hi, everybody, Welcome to see time with Amy and BEV.
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Speaker 1: Good day, Good day.
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Speaker 2: Now me first, gosh, well, I guess I could speak
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Speaker 2: to a lot of things I've I've recently gone through
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Speaker 2: some changes.
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Speaker 3: I don't know exactly how it transpired, but recognizing in
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Speaker 3: the mind at first, I was saying, oh, that's me,
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Speaker 3: that's that's me talking, so to create discernment, that's my
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Speaker 3: conversation versus the receiving of the real information. And then
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Speaker 3: I even kind of separated more from it and called
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Speaker 3: it patterns. It's just patterns. These are patterns that I'm
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Speaker 3: familiar with, and it doesn't mean that they are true
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Speaker 3: and accurate. It just means that's my template. That's the
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Speaker 3: only patterns that I'm familiar with in order to create
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Speaker 3: other patterns. But it totally like disables the thoughts when
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Speaker 3: I when I just acknowledge it like it's a pattern.
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Speaker 3: So with all that being said, I'm noticing that I
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Speaker 3: don't have an attachment to outcomes for a lot of
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Speaker 3: things anymore that I was having before. And it's and
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Speaker 3: I find it fastening. It feels very freeing. A lot
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Speaker 3: of weight has been taken off my shoulder. I actually
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Speaker 3: I feel like my energy was bottlenecking and it wasn't
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Speaker 3: being able to go anywhere very fast, and now all
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Speaker 3: of a sudden, there's a float like I feel like
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Speaker 3: the floodgates are going to be there open now, and
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Speaker 3: now I'm just gonna wait and see how that shows up.
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Speaker 3: Even to the point where I went to a baby
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Speaker 3: shower yesterday and in winning a diaper raffle that I
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Speaker 3: didn't plan on, and it was a pretty substantial gift
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Speaker 3: card that I want on that I was like, holy smokes,
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Speaker 3: like that's freaking awesome, but wasn't expecting it had I
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Speaker 3: wasn't even paying attention to it. I was just noticing
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Speaker 3: energies and stuff while I'm at this party, because we
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Speaker 3: were sitting together Freeman night and we were noticing I
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Speaker 3: felt like all this dizzyness or this weird feeling in
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Speaker 3: my head area, and it's like we were kind of
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Speaker 3: like briefing it down and looking around and noticing how
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Speaker 3: everyone's like in these spaces and they're not. It's supery, superficial,
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Speaker 3: and then it's like then then you could feel when
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Speaker 3: it transition to some other energy. So that's been fun,
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Speaker 3: been playing with that kind of stuff, even to the
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Speaker 3: point of if I think about somebody, i'll think about them,
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Speaker 3: I'll think about my niece. I'll think about my niece.
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Speaker 3: And then she sends me a message, so I know
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Speaker 3: she's paying attention to her intuition. I'm getting ready to
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Speaker 3: send someone else a message, and I tell them I'm like, good,
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Speaker 3: good job paying the attention to your intuition. And then
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Speaker 3: I don't know someone else. I'm doing all this little
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Speaker 3: playing and stuff because this stuff is so it's very easy,
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Speaker 3: and it's just showing up, and there's the synchronicities are
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Speaker 3: showing up, confirmations are showing up. It's been kind of fun.
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Speaker 1: Yet, how girl, all the things you're just saying, I
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Speaker 1: could go multiple directions with this, but things showing up quickly,
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Speaker 1: absolutely happening. In fact, my h one of my people
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Speaker 1: that I spend a lot of time with every day,
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Speaker 1: she was thinking how She's like, this is so bizarre.
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Speaker 1: She goes, I was this morning, not today, but the
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Speaker 1: other day. This morning, was thinking about how I needed
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Speaker 1: to pick up bananas for the house. And then we're
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Speaker 1: at the office and somebody walks in with a bundle
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Speaker 1: of bananas. Things like that are happening all the freaking time.
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Speaker 1: The other day, I swear to you, you know you
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Speaker 1: have I have glimpses of what I call deja vu.
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Speaker 1: To me, deja vu is that something is happening, but
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Speaker 1: I know like I've done it before, like I've already
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Speaker 1: done this, So to me, that's a deja vu. Almost
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Speaker 1: the entire day felt that way. Almost every conversation, almost
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Speaker 1: everything I did, I'm like, I have done all of
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Speaker 1: this already. It was such a weird day because one
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Speaker 1: thing after another felt like that. People just showing up
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Speaker 1: right after you think about them or talk about them
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Speaker 1: or And there are certain people, certain people's in our
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Speaker 1: community that cause us grief so to speak. They let's
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Speaker 1: let's just say, they make things difficult. So and every
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Speaker 1: once a while their name will come up in conversation
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Speaker 1: and I will immediately I'm like, stop talking about them,
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Speaker 1: just stop, end of conversation, don't mention their name, don't
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Speaker 1: give them the time and energy. Like I'm like no,
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Speaker 1: because in the past, every time and that one person's
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Speaker 1: name comes up, guaranteed within twenty four hours, something go
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Speaker 1: sideways with them. And I'm like, you guys, have to
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Speaker 1: stop making this person a topic of conversation you just
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Speaker 1: and in that is it doesn't matter if it pertains
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Speaker 1: that person or anybody else. When you are talking about
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Speaker 1: somebody in a negative way, that's what you're focused on
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Speaker 1: in that moment. So guess what They're going to live
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Speaker 1: up to your expectations and something's gonna pop up with
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Speaker 1: them involved with it. That's gonna cause discord. Guaranteed happens
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Speaker 1: more times than I can count. And so yeah, let's
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Speaker 1: talk about and focus more on the things that we
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Speaker 1: want and manifest that instead, because it's a lot more fun.
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Speaker 1: On another note, which you're talking about is like patterns
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Speaker 1: and expectations and things like that. I have a very heavy, interesting, fun,
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Speaker 1: huge responsibility at work. And one of the patterns and
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Speaker 1: it's funny that you said patterns to start out with
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Speaker 1: is me feeling inconvenienced. And yesterday was Saturday, and I
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Speaker 1: worked for six hours because of this project. I went
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Speaker 1: to work to work on this project, and in communicating
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Speaker 1: with people about this project, and I was like, not
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Speaker 1: like angrily, but in frustration, just pick up my phone,
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Speaker 1: send a text and like toss it down a little
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Speaker 1: more aggressive than I would usually because I was just
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Speaker 1: like fuck you guys, come on, you know, getting super
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Speaker 1: frustrated and irritated. And yes, every time I start feeling
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Speaker 1: those heavy emotions like that, I will take the time
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Speaker 1: to kind of dissect, analyze, review what where is this
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Speaker 1: really coming up from? What is this really actually triggering?
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Speaker 1: And it It's one of those patterns or subconscious programmings
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Speaker 1: that when I was younger, I had a stepdad who
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Speaker 1: was a complete jerk mentally emotionally abusive.
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Speaker 3: Just it was.
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Speaker 1: It wasn't physical, however, Yeah, it doesn't negate the abuse
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Speaker 1: that my mom and I did endure from him. And
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Speaker 1: there was this one particular time when he told me
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Speaker 1: to do my chores and clean up the living room,
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Speaker 1: and you know, he's very abrupt and aggressive in his
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Speaker 1: tone and stuff. And I started to do what he
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Speaker 1: told me to do, and then everything I touched He's like, no,
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Speaker 1: just leave that there. And then I go to pick
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Speaker 1: up something, No, leave that there too, don't touch that.
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Speaker 1: And then I go to pick and it was like
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Speaker 1: that over and over and I just I lost. I'm
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Speaker 1: talking nine years old, I lost my shit. Man. I
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Speaker 1: was pissed, Like I threw the F bomb at nine
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Speaker 1: years old. Because I was that mad. I won't tell
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Speaker 1: you what happened, and there was no abuse that happened
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Speaker 1: after that, but there was there's stuff that happened after that,
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Speaker 1: But that memory came up for me. I'm like, Yeah,
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Speaker 1: when I'm feeling inconvenient, inconvenienced by other people like that,
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Speaker 1: it stirs that up in me and I get I
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Speaker 1: just I start to push that edge of starting to
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Speaker 1: feel angry about it. I've reached frustration and irritation, which
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Speaker 1: is super good. There's still more work to be done
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Speaker 1: within myself, but going along with patterns. Patterns will keep
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Speaker 1: as long as it's stored in our body, will keep
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Speaker 1: showing up. And when we recognize that and take the
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Speaker 1: time to do whatever healing modalities that it takes for
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Speaker 1: us to release that or soothe it, or bring love
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Speaker 1: and compassion to it, then yeah, then you start to
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Speaker 1: feel that sense of freedom. It's no longer controlling or
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Speaker 1: consuming us. And then you also get to that point,
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Speaker 1: like I will get to the point with this project
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Speaker 1: where I don't have any expectations anymore, Like right now,
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Speaker 1: I have expectations. People are going to follow rules, They're
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Speaker 1: gonna let us know what they need in a timely
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Speaker 1: manner so that we can you know, prepare and plan
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Speaker 1: and do our part in a organized way like this
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Speaker 1: is my thought process, and then things go sideways. Somebody
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Speaker 1: throws a wrench in the you know, just makes it
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Speaker 1: all wonky, and it's just super frustrating, and that's all
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Speaker 1: on me and remembering that things happen for a reason,
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Speaker 1: and maybe it's going to turn out because this happened
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Speaker 1: because people are being inconveniencing me. But however, it could
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Speaker 1: turn out better than expected the way I wanted it
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Speaker 1: to be done, right. So there's different modalities to that
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Speaker 1: space of no expectations and freedom because of what we
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Speaker 1: already have stored within our brain, our body, our subconscious
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Speaker 1: mind that we have to re unwind. We have to
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Speaker 1: unwind it, we have to reprogram it. We have to
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Speaker 1: be flexible, learn learn to see things differently, learn to
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Speaker 1: go with the flow, learn to be more mindful of
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Speaker 1: how we show up with our own emotions and our
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Speaker 1: own thought processes. So there's just so many, so many
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Speaker 1: components to us that we would love to say it's
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Speaker 1: a one and done, but it's not. Because this story
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Speaker 1: I just told you about my stepdad has many layers
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Speaker 1: to it, and every once in a while it ops
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Speaker 1: up and there's still more clearing and cleansing and healing
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Speaker 1: to be done around it. So, yeah, that's so much around.
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Speaker 3: That nice And then it goes to the being the
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Speaker 3: master creator, right, recognizing how we can play with it
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Speaker 3: if we think about whoever we want to think about,
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Speaker 3: Like you were saying, am I thinking about that person
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Speaker 3: and fondness? Or am I thinking about that person and angst?
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Speaker 3: And it's like recognizing, how do you feel well? If
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Speaker 3: you're feeling inks, probably don't think about that person so much.
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Speaker 3: Maybe send them some love at that point, and maybe
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Speaker 3: send yourself some love at that point. But there there's
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Speaker 3: pretty much not much more I think that needs to
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Speaker 3: be done at that point, just being aware of or
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Speaker 3: what feels good it doesn't feel good. I have an
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Speaker 3: interesting little story one of my clients, she was trying
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Speaker 3: to find the you know those little telescoping wands or
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Speaker 3: whatever that have like magnet on the end of it
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Speaker 3: so you can pick something up. Well, she couldn't find hers,
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Speaker 3: and she knew she had it, so she sat there
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Speaker 3: and she kept envisioning it and she's like like noticing
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Speaker 3: it whatever, well, she ends up remembering it, finds it.
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Speaker 3: Then the next day someone's walking by this she sees
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Speaker 3: a man out in a dressed nice and she thought
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Speaker 3: someone was gonna come to solicita at her front door
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Speaker 3: walking their dog. And he comes up to the front
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Speaker 3: door and he says, hey, I found this in your
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Speaker 3: front yard. And she said it was exactly what she saw,
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Speaker 3: like within less than twenty four hours later. So the
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Speaker 3: manifestation how we can create it? She said, I just
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Speaker 3: sat there and I just thought about it, and I
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Speaker 3: could visually see it in my eye, mine's eye, like
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Speaker 3: the whole thing. And then that I said, that's how
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Speaker 3: fast we can create. That's us being master creators. Now,
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Speaker 3: it's mastering that information that you just supplied, and like,
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Speaker 3: what else do you want to create? But a lot
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Speaker 3: of times I think we get into these tendencies of
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Speaker 3: getting wrapped up in our environments or our patterns, and
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Speaker 3: we can stay there for a long time and it
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Speaker 3: doesn't feel good. And I and I, yes, you're right.
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Speaker 3: There are layers to it. There are so many layers
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Speaker 3: to it, and each time you get through those layers,
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Speaker 3: you get more freedom, But and it gets less and
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Speaker 3: less and less, like it gets less heavy. It doesn't
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Speaker 3: feel so heavy as we're walking through it, and I've
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Speaker 3: been asking questions, you know, and myself like where did
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Speaker 3: that come from? That come from my mom or my dad?
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Speaker 3: Like why is that there? Is it?
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Speaker 1: What?
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Speaker 3: So I'm looking at patterns. I'm looking at a lot
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Speaker 3: of that stuff because it's I don't want something. I
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Speaker 3: don't want to feel like I'm controlling myself or trying
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Speaker 3: to motivate myself in a different way from patterns. So
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Speaker 3: it's like really looking at a lot of the things
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Speaker 3: and really just wanting to feel good. I don't want
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Speaker 3: to If I start noticing I'm doing that walking down
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Speaker 3: that path, I'm like, no, no, this doesn't feel good.
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Speaker 3: It just doesn't feel good. Why am I putting myself
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Speaker 3: in this in a place that doesn't feel good? Why
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Speaker 3: am I trying to make myself feel these things that
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Speaker 3: don't feel good? Who freaking cares about that? I mean,
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Speaker 3: I don't in my mind, because it's like I've been
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Speaker 3: going through this process probably a big majority of my
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Speaker 3: whole life with my mind talking saying all kinds of things.
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Speaker 3: But now I'm in such an awareness of it. Occasionally
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Speaker 3: it gets a little can get a little bit wonky,
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Speaker 3: but it's like I can rule it back in a
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Speaker 3: lot faster, I can recognize it. Sometimes I might have
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Speaker 3: to throw a temper tantrum in my privacy, at my
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Speaker 3: own head, but it happens, And then burning up papers
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Speaker 3: happened again right after that. So because I don't want to,
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Speaker 3: I want to feel good, and there's no reason we've
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Speaker 3: been I think we've been trained to, you know, think
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Speaker 3: that we have to be a certain way or feel
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Speaker 3: a certain way about things. And I don't think that
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Speaker 3: that's true. It's not. All it was is patterns that
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Speaker 3: we watched around us, from other people, how they manage
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Speaker 3: things or how did they feel. And with this whole conversation,
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Speaker 3: it's all intuition. We were filling all this intuitive steps
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Speaker 3: since children. We've always felt it, since a baby, since
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Speaker 3: we were before we were even born. We've always felt it.
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Speaker 3: But we've learned how to ignore it. We've learned how
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Speaker 3: to ignore those feelings, ignore that we're being we're master creators,
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Speaker 3: but we're still creating. We just may not be creating
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Speaker 3: the things we want.
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Speaker 1: Yeah, it's all true.
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Speaker 2: I just.
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Speaker 1: As you were talking, and I was thinking about even
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Speaker 1: you saying, but the people around us. We've had these
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Speaker 1: conversations lots and lots of times, and it can feel
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Speaker 1: like a roller coaster that things are going really well.
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Speaker 1: But then something catches your attention, that like the irritation
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Speaker 1: and frustration that I've been experiencing lately, and then your
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Speaker 1: world seems to shift and nothing seems to go right. Well,
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Speaker 1: it took that one thing to get your attention and
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Speaker 1: focus on it, and then it affects your energy, affects
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Speaker 1: everything else in line with that, and people will frustrate you.
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Speaker 1: People will cut you off in traffic, people will even
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Speaker 1: maybe your finances get you know, take a hit it
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Speaker 1: until and then you want to blame all the other
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Speaker 1: people for all the situations instead of recognizing and remembering
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Speaker 1: that you're the master creator and that you have the
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Speaker 1: ability to shift that energy and change your direction of focus.
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Speaker 1: And and then you know, and then see things seem
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Speaker 1: to just magically all go well, and you get gifts,
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Speaker 1: you get unexpected gift carding it right, So we do
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Speaker 1: want to take the time to blame other people for
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Speaker 1: our mishaps, but really it's a well, I've been in
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Speaker 1: irritation and frustration for a couple of weeks now and
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Speaker 1: nothing seems to be going right and people are irritating
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Speaker 1: the fuck out of me, and like, right, so this
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Speaker 1: is this is If this is my focus, then it
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Speaker 1: affects everything else around me, and it just seems like
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Speaker 1: nothing is going well, when in fact, if I sat
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Speaker 1: with it, my life is like one hundred times better
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Speaker 1: than it was when I was younger. And then we
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Speaker 1: now we lean into gratitude, which is a whole other conversation,
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Speaker 1: and so it's like you're really taking the time to
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Speaker 1: take an internal analysis of yourself of what are you
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Speaker 1: thinking about, how are you feeling, how are you perceiving things?
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Speaker 1: And you know, going down the list of how am
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Speaker 1: I showing up in my life and how is it
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Speaker 1: affecting my world? And you know, if you listen to
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Speaker 1: anything about you know, we're living in a dream or
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Speaker 1: the matrix or anything like that, then that totally puts
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Speaker 1: the control within yourself. And then then we have choices.
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Speaker 3: We do well all of it is. And it's like,
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Speaker 3: even if you were saying gratitude, because I'm thinking while
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Speaker 3: you were saying that stuff, even the stuff when we
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Speaker 3: go through that doesn't feel good, it's thank you, because
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Speaker 3: if it, if it didn't feel bad, we wouldn't recognize it,
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Speaker 3: we wouldn't stop and look at it. We'd still carry
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Speaker 3: it around with us. We'd still have that as a
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Speaker 3: layer of mud laying on us of something, the layer
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Speaker 3: of dirt. I don't know, because it it kind of
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Speaker 3: feels a little bit heavy, doesn't feel light and fluffy.
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Speaker 3: And so it's thinking that too. It's thinking on all
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Speaker 3: those moments because because I don't want to walk through
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Speaker 3: the life carrying all that stuff. Still it doesn't feel good,
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Speaker 3: It doesn't make sense. It doesn't even make sense that
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Speaker 3: I've carried it for as long as I have. Honest honestly,
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Speaker 3: I don't. I didn't know until I knew. So it's
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Speaker 3: just part of the part of the process.
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Speaker 1: Yep. And an added piece to the story about my stepdad.
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Speaker 1: It comes down to if things are not in alignment
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Speaker 1: and working well and organized and you know, working out
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Speaker 1: in orderly fashion, then that's a reflection on me because
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Speaker 1: I didn't do a good enough job. And if I
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Speaker 1: don't do a good enough job, now I'm not loved
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Speaker 1: or accepted or I'm gonna get in trouble. Yeah, right,
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Speaker 1: And are any of those three things true. No, my
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Speaker 1: boss knows I'm doing the best I can. She knows
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Speaker 1: I'm overloaded. She knows that I will do what I
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Speaker 1: can with the time and energy I have to get
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Speaker 1: it done. She knows that people are are interrupting that
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Speaker 1: process by their wants, needs and desires that creates us
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Speaker 1: to feel unorganized and out of sorts. Like, She's still
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Speaker 1: gonna accept me. Everything's gonna be okay. I know she
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Speaker 1: loves me. It's like, yeah, and that's my boss, right,
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Speaker 1: It's like to say that is easy to say because
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Speaker 1: we have a great relationship and we're both blessed to
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Speaker 1: be in each other's lives and helping each other in
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Speaker 1: this time at this time, and so and even so,
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Speaker 1: it doesn't matter if if she or anybody else outside
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Speaker 1: of me loves me or accepts me or not. So
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Speaker 1: it's a matter of do I love me, and do
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Speaker 1: I accept me? And do I honestly and truthfully believe
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Speaker 1: that I am doing the best I can at my
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Speaker 1: job with what I have. Yes, And that is what matters.
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Speaker 1: And so when I take that in and focus on that,
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Speaker 1: people can say and do whatever they want because they're
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Speaker 1: gonna do it. Anyways, I can't stop that, nor can you,
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Speaker 1: nor can anybody else. They are gonna do and say
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Speaker 1: anything they want, when they want, how they want. That's
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Speaker 1: a reflection of them, it's not a reflection of me.
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Speaker 1: They're not sitting at my desk going through what I'm
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Speaker 1: going through to be in charge of this project and
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Speaker 1: have an understanding of every detail that is involved with it.
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Speaker 1: So it's like when I take that off of me,
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Speaker 1: that pressure, that responsibility or those sensations and not feeling
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Speaker 1: loved accepted, and then I'm gonna get in trouble. Now
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Speaker 1: everything's easy. Right now I can take a breath and
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Speaker 1: be like, Okay, well, we're just gonna keep putting one
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Speaker 1: foot in front of the other and get this done
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Speaker 1: the best way we can and see how it shows
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Speaker 1: has to see how it works out whatever. Now we're
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Speaker 1: stepping into that sense of freedom like you were talking
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Speaker 1: about at the beginning. Now that sense of freedom comes
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Speaker 1: because now I'm feeling more relaxed about it.
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Speaker 3: Yeah. So I think she just walked through another thing
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Speaker 3: and it's remembering to be our I'm sure leader. I
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Speaker 3: wrote that down a while ago, and then you talked
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Speaker 3: about all this stuff basically it's the same thing is it's,
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Speaker 3: like you said, loving and accepting your self. It's being
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Speaker 3: your own cheerleaders, not being it's taking your power back.
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Speaker 3: That is taking your power back. Everything that we've talked about,
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Speaker 3: I feel like it has been. It's taking power back,
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Speaker 3: it's taking responsibility back, it's taking That's where our control is.
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Speaker 3: It's not the controlling of the things that are outside
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Speaker 3: of us. It's the maybe not even so much controlling insight,
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Speaker 3: but it's more an awareness. It is controlling a lot
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Speaker 3: of ways because we're navigating our own way. We're creating
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Speaker 3: our own path instead of instead of us throwing our
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Speaker 3: energy at things that make us feel unhappy.
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Speaker 1: Yeah, all right, friends, Well you got things to do.
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Speaker 1: First of all, recognize what you're focused on. Let's put
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Speaker 1: it that there. And you know, if you are feeling
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Speaker 1: those heavy emotions and things that you know, we're like
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Speaker 1: Bev was talking about, I do this too, and I
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Speaker 1: shared that today. Where is this really coming from? Because
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Speaker 1: it's not the person or situation that's in front of you.
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Speaker 1: It is stirring up something that happened, most likely in
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Speaker 1: your childhood. And you know, don't don't worry about if
23:15
Speaker 1: you don't can't pinpoint what exactly it was, maybe other
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Speaker 1: situations or experiences that may have been similar to whatever
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Speaker 1: you are experiencing right now, and just start clearing that
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Speaker 1: energy and you know, soothing and loving and yourself through
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Speaker 1: the process of maybe changing the perspective of that experience
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Speaker 1: years ago. Because what we have and guaranteed on a
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Speaker 1: regular basis is that whatever is sitting within us, good, bad,
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Speaker 1: or in different it similar situations are going to keep
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Speaker 1: showing up different name, different faces until we sit with
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Speaker 1: it and recogniz ey, oh, they remind me of my stepdad,
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Speaker 1: or they remind me of this situation, or they remind
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Speaker 1: me of and start clearing that energy up. Then your
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Speaker 1: environment starts to shift and change. And hoping that right
24:19
Speaker 1: that it's shifting and changing in a in a better
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Speaker 1: direction when you're clearing that stuff up. So jemy, final words.
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Speaker 3: It really depends on you. It's this is your journey.
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Speaker 3: It's not just yours, ours, it's all of ours. It's
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Speaker 3: it's it all starts with you. No one else can
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Speaker 3: do it for us. We have to do it. It's
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Speaker 3: our journey.
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Speaker 1: Yeah, And that's the suck part, and it's the amazing part.
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Speaker 1: Nobody can do it for you that statement alone, right,
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Speaker 1: Like I go back to saying, it's easy to blame
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Speaker 1: everybody else, No it isn't, because now you're giving them
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Speaker 1: the power and you're taking the power out of your hands.
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Speaker 3: So it's your responsibility, it really is.
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Speaker 1: So we you we I am the one, and I'm
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Speaker 1: the person who has to change in this situation of
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Speaker 1: this irritation and frustration. That's on me because nobody else
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Speaker 1: is gonna change. They're gonna keep doing what they're doing
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Speaker 1: how they're doing it, and I have no control over that.
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Speaker 1: But I have control over me. And so that's the
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Speaker 1: point is do the things and change the things within
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Speaker 1: yourself that you have control over. Because even though you
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Speaker 1: think you have control over other people, I will tell
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Speaker 1: you you are wrong, even a two year old, you
25:37
Speaker 1: do not have control over just saying.
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Speaker 3: And thankfully because I don't want people to mold to me,
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Speaker 3: because that doesn't that doesn't promote my growth, That just
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Speaker 3: enables me or makes me co dependent on something to
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Speaker 3: change outside of myself that I think I have the
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Speaker 3: influence over that I don't.
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Speaker 1: Yeah right, yeah, all right, friends, thanks for hanging out
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26:32
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Speaker 3: Bye.