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Season 2 - Episode 188 - Give yourself permission · Good Morning From The Chicken Coop!

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  Welcome to the Good Morning From the Chicken Coop Podcast with
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  Kim Johnson, your creative strategist and master mindset
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  coach. Filled with inspiration,
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  distinctions, perspectives, and possibilities, we help you to
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  cultivate a mindset that leads you to create the best version
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  of yourself you could ever imagine.
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  Join Kim every morning from one of her favorite happy places,
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  her chicken coop, along with all her chickens.
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  Hey, everybody. Good morning from the chicken
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  coop. So today we're talking about
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  giving yourself permission. And you know, this is a touchy
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  subject because we as human beings often should all over.
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  Ourselves. I should do this?
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  I should do this. I should do this.
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  And in the process of being that way, we forget that we have an,
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  you know, an opportunity and ability to be able to give
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  ourselves permission to just say, you know what, I really
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  don't want to do this. I've made a mind up.
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  I just don't want to do. Do something or I want to do
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  something. You know this.
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  Doing this podcast was one of those moments for me where I had
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  to give myself permission to do something weird and different
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  because most people don't shoot a podcast from a chicken coop.
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  But because it's one of the places that really inspire me
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  and it's one of the places that I wanted to use.
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  As a. You know, a template for giving
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  everybody permission to do something strange and different
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  as well as saying hey. This is.
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  Weird and it works and it's one of my places that.
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  That I use as a. An absolute, wonderful metaphor
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  of growing. Evolution.
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  Changing things, working on yourself.
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  It's. Just a.
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  Breeding ground. For going into that creative
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  zone and when the idea initially.
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  Came up, I really had to work on giving.
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  Myself Permission to do something so.
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  Different than anybody else was doing.
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  Am I really glad I did it? Oh yeah, big time.
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  Because not only did it free me up, it taught me so much in the
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  process that I can bring to you about being patient, about
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  believing in things that don't seem to make sense.
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  Like right now, as I'm doing this, I have two chickens
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  standing right in front of me, staring at me like they're
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  listening. They're like an audience
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  listening to a speaker. And it makes.
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  Me laugh because I know that the energy that I come in here with
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  is transferred to them. Their energy is transferred.
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  To me. And we have a symbiotic
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  relationship. And that's what this whole thing
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  is about, Giving yourself permission to be different, to
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  do something different, to create differently and stop
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  being part of, you know, the same that everybody else does.
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  I think. What's so tricky about all of
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  this? In in our world is the.
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  So many. People talk about judgment, and
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  so judgment stops us. You know, judgment's driving
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  your bus, and that's actually stopping you from doing things
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  because you don't want to be judged.
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  So you hold yourself back. But giving yourself permission
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  is okay. You know, I had a client tell me
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  today that she's always been weird.
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  And I said, well, I mean, I guess it's, it depends on how
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  you define weird and be okay with being weird.
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  And, you know, I'm like, it's okay to be weird if you're, if
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  it, if it's something that you. Do have embraced and who cares
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  what anybody else thinks. But I think we're still often in
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  our heads. We're still those little kids
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  that got picked on at some point in time.
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  And we forget that we need to give ourselves permission.
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  Stop being so hard on yourself. Be kind and say it's okay, it's
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  okay. I'm going to do something
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  different. I'm going to give myself
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  permission to take the break. I'm going to give myself
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  permission to paint the picture. I'm going to give myself
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  permission to stop and pause. And read a book from cover to
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  cover. I mean, like, what a concept.
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  I'm going to give myself permission to eat the cookie if
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  I want to, or to not eat the cookie and don't get pushed into
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  it. Or I'm going to give myself
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  permission to not drink the drink even though everyone else
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  is drinking. I don't want to.
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  But we feel so much pressure all the time around us and we
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  forget. We hold the cards and we can
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  fold anytime we want. We can walk away, we can deal
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  them, We can change it. We don't have to be in this
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  place of feeling that we are. Stuck.
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  Give yourself permission. So a great exercise in doing
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  this is to stop and pause and actually write it all down.
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  What is the condition that you're struggling with?
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  What's the thing that you feel stuck with right on a piece of
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  paper? And ask yourself, is this real?
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  Or is this perceived? Is it something that I'm just
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  thinking is real, or is it really real?
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  Am I just perceiving this? Once you get that answer, then
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  you say, OK, listen, if it's perceived, then I choose, and
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  it's important to say I choose to do believe this, I choose to
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  do this. And then you move beyond it and
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  it works because you make the choice.
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  And then you say this is what I'm going to do to move beyond
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  it. These are the actions.
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  And you give not one, not two, but three different choices.
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  So if you can't do the first two, you can do the third one.
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  But I promise you, if you stick to the process, you'll get
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  yourself to a better place. And the freedom that you'll feel
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  in it is exponentially better than feeling stuck.
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  So give yourself permission to evolve, feel better, grow and
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  embrace the difference that you feel with joy and Glee.
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  Don't sit there and beat yourself up for it.
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  So hopefully this was helpful and I will see you guys tomorrow
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  and I hope you have all blessed day.
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  Bye.