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Days 15 and 16 of the 30 Days to Maintaining Your Badassness! · Maintaining Your Badassness!

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  Are you true to yourself and have your strong
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  boundaries in place? I mean really, really true
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  to yourself. Do you have the freedom to choose
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  your attitude, beliefs, and morals in your life?
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  Do you have the freedom to choose what's important
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  to you? Do you create boundaries for non -acceptable
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  behavior for others around you? If you don't,
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  you're far. from being badass. You create those
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  boundaries, it is up to you to adhere to those
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  boundaries. Ask yourself lately, is there anything
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  or anyone that I need to remove from my life
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  that does not align with my values? Did you hear
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  that? Ask yourself, is there anything or anyone
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  that I need to remove from my life that does
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  not align with my values I hear some of you thinking
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  yeah that person you let hold on to you which
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  you should have deleted a long time ago is still
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  there and you need to get rid of that person
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  mainly talking to you ladies you know that Negro
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  that you let keep letting back into your life
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  after he fucked up screwed up, screwed your best
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  friend, screwed your sister, you several times.
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  What I mean by that is they keep talking to their
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  exes while they think it's on the low -low because
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  we have our intuition ladies and we know what's
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  going on without even asking those questions.
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  We just choose to ignore it and hopefully maybe
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  it'll go away. Hopefully maybe their exes will
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  go away. Their exes will get tired of playing
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  the ex games. Maybe your boyfriend or spouse
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  will get tired of being a snake. He will all
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  of a sudden grow some morals. Think about that.
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  You need to get rid of those people who are holding
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  you down. Kind of grew to this melody. Pick it
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  up. Like you need to pick up your soul. Here
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  we go. Ready? You feel your soul picking up?
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  Who can live without music? The music is the
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  key to life. That's my laundry. Music. Someone
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  wants to stream. You need to do that. That's
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  your situation and the people around you. This
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  is an act of self -love and self -respect. Telling
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  you. I ain't even telling you. You need to do
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  this. For peace of mind. You need to hang around
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  those loud mouths, big mouths, people that are
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  always putting each other down, putting everybody
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  else around them down. They're not doing much
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  in their lives anyway. Do you notice that the
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  people that find something wrong with somebody
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  else are not doing as well themselves and are
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  fighting with themselves internally to be better.
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  They want to be like you. That's why they put
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  you down. That's why they're laser focused on
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  you to find something that you're doing wrong.
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  Something they want to catch you. Somebody say,
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  oh I know something about you. Okay. And everybody
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  else does because I wrote it in my book. What
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  you got for me? What else you got for me? teens
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  and twenties what about now focus on yourself
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  and this person a person on the outside but her
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  soul let me give you a hint what she does she
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  lives off married men seeks married men to pay
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  her rent to pay her car note she lives off not
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  only married men but she uses people and she's
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  like one of those people that always have something
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  Negative to say about somebody always trying
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  to destroy somebody's Okay Welcome to day 15
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  and 16 of maintaining your badassness since we
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  are in our third week. We're going to start doubling
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  days So you can get your information quicker,
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  and you don't have to worry about listening to
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  this podcast every day day 15 Hey, these are
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  questions to see If you have badassness, got
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  badassness, this is a survey. Do you find yourself
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  in secret competition with others? Hey, just
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  what I'm talking about. That lady I was talking
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  about is in secret competition with others. The
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  other people don't know, but she knows it. Friends,
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  co -workers, family members, or yourself. Your
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  mate. Some people are in secret competition with
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  their mate. That's an unhealthy relationship.
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  I've had relationships where I do something good.
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  You could have did better. You could have did
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  better than that. Well, that's messed up right
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  here. And you should have did that. Question
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  44. Do you find yourself wanting revenge on those
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  who wrong do? Ooh. Did we talk about revenge
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  in the last couple of sessions? Don't do revenge,
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  baby. Do not do revenge. After this, I'm gonna
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  go back what I wrote about. Revenge. Dig two
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  graves one for your enemy and one for yourself
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  if you plot revenge Dig two graves one for your
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  enemy and one for yourself revenge is not the
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  way to go Revenge is not the way to go like Revenge
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  is a curse try to get revenge in my 20s I learned
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  a hard way revenge is a curse like leave it alone,
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  honey leave it alone and they would eventually
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  get there through karma through their own messiness
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  leave revenge alone and then it was something
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  that if you constantly seek revenge your soul
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  is green with envy or something I need to read
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  my own writing do you? do you forgive and move
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  on? like when a spouse or a mate has wronged
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  you mainly Cheated. If somebody has cheated on
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  you, do you forgive them and move on? Or do you
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  cheat back for revenge? Ooh, I'm gonna cheat
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  back on them and give revenge. Or do you say,
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  okay, that's our last straw. Go on about your
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  business, and if you don't try to seek revenge,
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  that's forgiveness. If you don't have to say,
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  I forgive you, just move on. You're forgiving
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  yourself for being a fool. Because I know you
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  saw the red flags and you fit giving him or her
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  for cheating on you Just move on after a breakup.
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  Do you get rid of the excess memories? I learned
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  to do in my probably early 30s the purse you
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  gave me Why would I keep the necklace or bracelet
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  whatever you gave me? Trying to get over you
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  sell it give it away throw it back in his face
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  here you can keep it give it to your next girlfriend
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  you don't have to keep that because that just
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  reminds you of them and what they did and then
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  it gives you false sense of happiness that ooh
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  they bought this for me they actually wouldn't
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  bought this for me it's a gift oh it's expensive
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  no that's false it's not in the gifts they give
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  you it's in the way they treat you question 47
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  do you maintain your Best look without trying
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  to impress other people. Like, when you're single,
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  do you look decent all the time, whenever you
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  go out? Like, you just don't get dressed up on
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  certain occasions to try to impress people. Every
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  day, you take care of yourself. Some people say
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  to me, when we were so dressed up, I'm not dressed
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  up, I'm looking decent for work. Even though
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  you're on camera. doesn't mean that you have
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  to wear job instance t -shirts graphic t -shirts
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  like why would I put on a t -shirt going to work
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  and we have meetings and the last question for
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  the day how often do you rotate your clothing
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  so people she wearing that again it's clothes
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  I wear it as many times as I want notice what
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  people wear what people wore all the time. And
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  she was a negative person that had to get out
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  of her mouth. She was so focused on what people
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  did, what people wear, that she lost her job
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  because she couldn't complete school in her sixties,
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  fifties or sixties when she lost her job. But
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  she was steady talking about what other people
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  wore. She wore no sour pants again. And the woman
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  she was talking about. And the woman she was
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  talking about. Let me look out for her. She just
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  rose up. because she wasn't thinking about what
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  other people were. She was thinking about her
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  job. So while this person lost her job because
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  she couldn't finish school while she kept filming
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  this certain class, this other person that wasn't
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  worried about her rose up and she became everybody's
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  supervisor. Oh my goodness. That goes back to
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  how often do you rotate your clothing? Don't
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  care about what nobody thinks. Clothing is made
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  to be worn over and over again. As long as they're
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  clean, you can wear the same damn pants every
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  day. We're gonna go to work for day 15 and 16.
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  To play your intermission. Ooh, let me see. To
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  manage, it can be weights. Do three sets of these.
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  Because you can't have a strong mind without
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  having a strong body. Trash can, if the trash
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  is too heavy for you to lift, drag that sucker
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  in the trash can out to where the outside trash
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  cans are. And lift it. Homework for 16. It's
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  also body. Go outside. 30 minute walk outside.
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  No podcast. No phone. No interruptions. No gossiping.
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  Go outside. You can sit in your freaking backyard
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  if you want. For 30 minutes. Just take in the
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  tunes of nature. Nature, ooh. Nature? You don't
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  know how powerful nature is. Nature is so powerful.
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  I mean, I love outside. I love outside. Go to
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  the park. Don't jog by yourself because these
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  crazy assholes are stalking you or just waiting
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  in the bush to get their next victim. Go to a
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  park where there's a lot of people. Go with a
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  friend. No phone. No podcast. Walk. Jog. Run.
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  Sit there. And enjoy the sound of nature. People!
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  Thanks for joining me. Maintain your badassness
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  in a day or two. Good weekend everybody for day
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  17 and 18 in a day or two.