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Game Episode: Juliet Mayhew: Posh or Tosh? Housewives, Frenemies & Social Climbing · The Iconic Midlife with Roxy Manning

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  The name of the game is Posh or Tosh.
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  Ooh, it's posh.
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  It's fabulous.
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  Acceptable.
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  That is Tosh.
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  Tish tosh.
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  Yeah, it's like rubbish calling someone darling when you absolutely cannot stand them.
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  I don't think it's posh.
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  I think it's clever.
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  I don't think it's a classy thing to do.
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  It's a clever thing to do.
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  What's your favorite tweet?
• 0:17
  Well, at the moment, collagen injections are fantastic.
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  I don't know if you can have all these things in America, but we do a lot of salmon sperm peptides.
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  Is the new thing at 49 becoming louder, more ambitious and more visible instead of gracefully fading into the background.
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  Sure, it's totally posh.
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  Cuz that's totally me.
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  Honey, you are cool.
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  To your best life and claim it, live it, do it.
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  That's what I say.
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  Definitely not Tosh.
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  That means I have to fade away.
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  I'm not fading anywhere.
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  I'm just getting started.
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  Before the guest leaves, we usually play a game if you're up for it.
• 0:49
  I'm up for games.
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  You know I love a game.
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  Okay, okay.
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  I'm excited for this one.
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  Okay.
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  This one was written with you, especially in mine.
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  Okay.
• 0:57
  The name of the game is Posh or Tosh.
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  Ooh, it's if it's posh, it's fabulous.
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  Acceptable.
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  And is Tosh.
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  Tish.
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  Tosh.
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  Yeah, it's like rubbish.
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  Oh, okay.
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  Tosh.
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  Rubbish.
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  Yes, yes.
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  So I will read the scenario to you and you tell me what you think.
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  Okay, here we go.
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  Calling someone darling when you absolutely cannot stand them.
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  Posh or tosh,.
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  That's difficult for me.
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  I don't think it's posh.
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  I think it's clever.
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  So I don't think it's a classy thing to do.
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  It's a clever thing to do.
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  So maybe, you know, let's put it in the tosh.
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  You're like, that goes into the tosh bin.
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  Okay?
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  Forgiving a friend, but keeping the receipts just in case.
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  Posh or Tosh.
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  Again, I think it's tosh.
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  Because if you forgive, you've got to let go.
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  Okay, and are you good about that?
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  Like, can you really let go if you forgive?
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  If I've forgiven, yes.
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  Because I think that you've got to give forgiveness is, and I think I even said this in my reunion is I'm sorry, I won't do it again.
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  Then that is stopped.
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  You reference it if someone's hurt you and you think, okay, there's a bit of a boundary and trust has to be earned.
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  But you don't, like, dig it up and dig it up and dig it up.
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  Where's that gonna go?
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  That's not gonna.
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  Nothing can thrive from that.
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  Right.
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  You just gotta think about your children.
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  You have to forgive them unconditionally.
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  Oh, every day.
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  Every day.
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  Every freaking day.
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  Yes.
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  And they will say some pretty cutting things.
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  Right.
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  And you still have to forgive them because you're their mama.
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  Yes.
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  And you're like, okay, tough, tough skin.
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  And you know they're only going to say it to you because they love you, right?
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  Apparently, that's what they say.
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  Yeah.
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  We will see.
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  Yeah.
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  A hostess secretly googling the price of wine her guest brought.
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  Oh, my gosh.
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  That's.
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  That's definitely Tosh, right?
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  Who does that?
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  That's really.
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  It's like googling people.
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  Yes.
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  I mean, who does that?
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  That is like the lowest class thing to do.
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  Like, because then you're, like, trying to categorize people.
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  Like, do I give them attention or not give them attention?
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  For me, that's like absolute social climbing.
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  Yes.
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  That's a no.
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  No.
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  Going to the same cosmetic doctor as your frenemy and refusing to tell her what you had done.
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  Posh or tosh?
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  That's tosh.
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  Like, just say it.
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  Just say it.
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  Like, I'm very open about my treatments.
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  Okay.
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  What.
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  What's your favorite treatment?
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  Tweakman or treatment.
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  Oh, tweak med.
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  I like that.
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  Okay, what's your favorite tweak?
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  Well, at the moment, collagen injections are fantastic.
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  Yeah, yeah.
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  I'm learning the game.
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  Sorry, I'm, like, so interested.
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  I'm like, what do I need to.
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  I need to, like.
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  Because I feel like I want to start incorporating newer things.
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  So tell me.
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  So I've got a great doctor and, you know, she is constantly like, I don't know if you can have all these things in America, but we do a lot of salmon.
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  Sperm peptides is the new thing.
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  Collagen injections.
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  I take my collagen every morning.
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  My vitamin C.
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  Like, I'm intentional about making sure that I continue a glow up.
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  Okay.
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  That is really good.
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  Because why shouldn't you be?
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  And I eat well.
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  Yeah, exactly, exactly.
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  You turn into too much sugar.
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  No, that's good.
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  That's good.
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  Well, if you feel.
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  I feel like you look good.
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  You feel good.
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  It all ties in together, you know?
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  It all does.
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  Knowing exactly where everyone is seated at dinner before deciding whether you're going or not.
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  Oh, that's tosh.
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  A lady doesn't do that.
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  You go and you enjoy wherever you're.
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  Sitting and you make the best of it.
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  And I always think that they were there for a reason and that wherever you've been sat, there is a reason behind it.
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  I have been known to move a placement once, which was.
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  Goes against the grain of everything, I believe.
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  But I was sat next to a woman that had publicly slated me, knowing nothing about my family and, you know, was vile.
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  And I just thought, I cannot do this.
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  I just need to have a little bit of space.
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  That was for my own sanity.
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  And I think the hostess understood in the end.
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  She was, like, apologetic that she'd actually put me there, but I was just trying to keep it.
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  I didn't want to bring any drama into the scenario.
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  I wouldn't anyway, but it was just an uncomfortable scenario.
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  Yeah, you have to do things for your mental health.
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  There's a mental health move, right?
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  You're like, that's a mental health.
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  If it would have been a Bucky in Palace, I wouldn't never have done it.
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  But it wasn't.
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  So I did.
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  You're like, it was done.
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  Okay.
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  A friend telling you an uncomfortable truth about yourself on camera instead of in private.
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  Posh or Tosh?
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  Well, you know, that's part of the course with housewives, because they.
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  They want to see that.
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  So I don't think I would never do that in public.
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  I think that's totally tosh.
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  But I'm doing a TV show where that makes good tv, so I'm not going to hold it against them.
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  I personally don't try and embarrass people.
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  I could, but I don't, because my intention is not to hurt people.
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  So, you know, but each to their own.
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  You know, people get a kick out of it.
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  So what can I say?
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  What can you say?
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  You're making TV, right?
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  Makes good TV.
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  Yeah, there you go.
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  There you go.
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  After 20 years of friendship, deciding one small, spectacular argument is enough to end it.
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  Posh or Tosh?
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  You know what?
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  I think that's tosh, because I think if you've had a spectacular friendship for 20 years, you can work it out.
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  However, I do not personally know.
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  I've some catastrophic circumstances that has ended a friendship overnight.
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  And those things will be, you know, I don't know, marriage, breakup or, you know, a deep lie or, you know, these things do happen.
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  So I think it's circumstantial, but I would always say give people the benefit of the doubt and try and Work it out first.
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  Forgiveness is everything.
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  Right?
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  And we're far from perfect.
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  Look at me.
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  I'm like, got so many flaws and, you know, I mess up and I hurt people and I've.
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  I've got to like, own it and say sorry and move forward.
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  And if.
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  What if they don't give me a second chance?
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  Mort, if it's me that's messed up, I would be really.
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  I've lost someone in my life.
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  That's a grievance.
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  I don't want a grievance.
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  I'm like, very loyal and want my,.
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  You know, your people.
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  My own people.
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  Yes, I agree.
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  Make me who I am.
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  Yes, it's true.
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  And they do call out my flaws and I'm accountable to them and that's important and that's why we are friends.
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  But if they stole my husband, that'd be a big thing.
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  That would end a friendship.
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  That would end a friendship.
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  They would never manage to do that because they would never win.
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  But I'm just saying that would be a kind of thing that would end a friendship.
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  Right.
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  That would be definitely a deal breaker.
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  That's.
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  Yeah.
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  There's really no going back to that.
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  No.
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  You know.
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  Yeah.
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  No.
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  Although I would have to find a way of forgiving them for your own.
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  Mental health, though, not because you wanted to be a friend to them again.
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  You just have to.
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  I would have to, like, yeah.
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  Can you imagine carrying that?
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  And that's how people get ill.
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  They can't let go.
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  Correct.
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  I totally believe that.
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  Bitterness eats you away from the inside out.
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  Letting your husband know only the edited highlights of the girls trip.
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  Posh or tosh?
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  I would say it's posh because she doesn't need to know the nitty gritty.
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  Why would I upset him intentionally?
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  Like, I think you are wise.
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  If I need to discuss something, I will.
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  But he doesn't need to know, like all the details of like she said, he said, I want to talk to him about important stuff and tittle tattle and upset and drama is.
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  It's like, honey, really?
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  Can we just like talk about important things like us and our future and our children and work like that we're doing together, building our life.
• 8:31
  Like, he's like, I.
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  I'm really not interested in their cat fights unless I need like some therapy from him.
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  But I have girlfriends that I can thrash that out with.
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  He doesn't need to go through all those details.
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  Right.
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  And they get so bored.
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  They get so bored.
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  Yes.
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  They're just like.
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  It's like, kiss.
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  Keep it Simple.
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  Stupid.
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  Do you know what I mean?
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  My favorite Akrom.
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  Oh, true.
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  It's so true.
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  Same with the husbands, okay?
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  At 49, becoming louder, more ambitious, and more visible instead of gracefully fading into the background.
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  Posh or Tosh?
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  Posh, because that's totally me.
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  Honey, you are cool.
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  To your best life and claim it, live it, do it.
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  That's what I say.
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  Definitely not Tosh.
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  That means I have to fade away.
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  I'm not fading anywhere.
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  I'm just getting started.
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  Yes.
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  100 space.
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  Yes.
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  Yes.
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  Oh, Wanting to be the most interesting woman at the table and admitting it.
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  Posh or Tosh?
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  See, I think, you know, I.
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  I think that's Tosh.
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  Because I think you need to.
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  When I go into an environment, I actually find it overwhelming when people just talk at you.
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  And I think the whole point of conversation is to just listen and get to know people.
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  I don't need to be liked, and I certainly don't need to prove myself.
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  People can accept me or not accept me.
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  Doesn't change who I am.
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  Doesn't change where my identity is.
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  So, yeah, I.
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  I think.
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  Why would you need to prove yourself every single time?
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  Like, just be comfortable.
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  And you also don't need to be, like, the main star every five seconds.
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  Like, give it to the host, give it to other people.
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  When you're asked, speak up.
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  But you don't need to dominate.
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  I mean, that is crass.
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  Yeah, that is right?
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  Don't you think?
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  Like, let other people have the spotlight.
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  I mean, obviously, I already have the spotlight, so it's not like I need to try.
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  You have it.
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  My light is shining, so I just am being.
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  I'm just radiating.
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  What can I say?
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  You're like, I've got the show, honey.
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  I'm good.
• 10:29
  Oh, my God.
• 10:30
  Share the love.
• 10:30
  Yeah, share the love.
• 10:31
  Exactly.
• 10:32
  Share the love.
• 10:32
  And I love that you are grabbing life by the horns.
• 10:36
  Yeah, by the horns.
• 10:37
  And just going, so.
• 10:38
  This is going to be so exciting.
• 10:40
  Okay, everybody, follow her.
• 10:41
  Add Juicy Mayhew, and watch the show.
• 10:44
  Watch the show.
• 10:44
  September 7th.
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  Yay.
• 10:46
  Yay.
• 10:47
  Oh, my gosh.
• 10:47
  Thank you so much, my love, for coming.
• 10:49
  Oh, my gosh.
• 10:50
  Thank you for having me.