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Tips for Dating After Divorce! · Secrets They'll Only Tell a Matchmaker with Gina Hendrix

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  I'm going to give you 3 tips for dating after divorce.
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  What to do to get back in the game, right, Tip one.
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  Hell, I may give you more than three today.
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  Who knows? Tip one that comes to my mind is
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  don't be fearful. That's number one.
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  OK? Because mindset is everything,
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  and if you're afraid, then that's going to translate to
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  absolutely everything you do. And if you're afraid to get on
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  the dating apps or afraid to go out and meet people, it's going
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  to be just obvious in your vibe and energy #2 and this is some
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  good advice I'm going to give you here, have your story set,
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  have some go to answers for when that person is going to ask you
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  questions. Because there are natural dating
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  questions that are going to come up.
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  Like how long have you been divorced?
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  Have you dated much? Do you and the ex get along?
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  What's the custody arrangement? Why did you get divorced?
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  And if you don't want to talk about those things, then have a
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  set answer so that you briefly answer.
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  They don't deserve to know everything they don't deserve.
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  Even if they ask, they don't deserve to know everything until
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  you know if you really, really like them.
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  So if you had a really hard, shitty divorce and you were
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  married to a psycho, you are not going to say that.
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  You're going to say, you're going to say, well, the divorce
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  took a little longer than we'd hoped, but it's done.
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  And we've both moved on, learned a lot during the marriage, grew
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  apart. Those are very easy.
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  Go to things and then and then you have a thing where you're
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  already ready to change the subject.
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  So tell me about you. What's the best restaurant
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  you've been to lately? You know, I mean, just come up
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  with something. So have things at the ready so
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  that you're not caught off guard.
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  All right, hang on. When getting back in the game,
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  you want to make sure that you are picking partners that are
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  appropriate for you. All right?
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  So just remember, if they're fit, they want somebody fit.
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  Usually if they have kids at home.
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  You'd be a better match. If you have kids at home.
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  If you're an empty nester, you want to find an empty nester?
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  Want to find somebody who looks like they're realistic for you,
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  for your lifestyle. You know you don't want to pick
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  anybody that, like, is super inappropriately young or looks
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  like they have a party lifestyle if that is not your lifestyle.
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  So be realistic. Oh, I'm going to give you
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  another one. What the hell?
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  All right? Make sure that you treat dating
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  not like a chore, like it's fun because you get the opportunity
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  to now meet new people. So now your possibilities are
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  endless. So your glass is not half empty,
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  your glass is half full. So when you go out on dates, do
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  not be the sad sack that's down in the dumps.
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  Who wants to date that person? No one.
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  OK, you will always want to, even if you have to plan it
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  ahead of time. Some things that you want to
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  talk about that you find interesting, that you find fun
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  because you got to go on dates and be upbeat, happy, and
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  looking forward to the future. Oh, I just thought about one
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  other one. Hang on, I got one more for you.
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  Last but not least, don't talk about your past.
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  Do not get tricked into being pulled into a rabbit hole of
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  talking about your past, talking about your ex, talking about
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  your past life in the good old days.
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  No, somebody dating you wants to talk about what the two of you
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  might be able to do together in the future.
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  So people want to date people who are optimistic and happy
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  about the future, not stuck on the past.
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  OK, OK, I hope it helps.