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#163 - How to Keep Going When My World is Falling Apart? · Brandon Fogal Evolution

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  So what's up everyone yeah a lot of things have been going on lately i've just
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  it's kind of a chaotic time do you ever find yourselves in chaos yeah you might
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  be like why what are you wearing man why are you wearing,
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  no i like i had a regular shirt on it didn't it didn't fit with like how i just
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  at the last second just changed where i was going with this and i was like i'm
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  i gotta toss it i gotta toss So you got me down to my wife, my wife,
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  bless her, my wife, bless her.
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  And how do we how do we keep going when life is falling apart?
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  I'm not talking about when life feels like it's falling apart,
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  when life is really just going to hell, going to crap.
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  You know, nothing is going good. Nothing works out.
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  Everything is going in the wrong direction. How do we keep going?
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  I mean, this is this is the internal struggle that everyone has,
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  you know, and if you if If you don't have it, you might just be suppressing it.
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  You might just be suppressing it. You might just have a wonderful life,
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  but eventually things usually turn in a topsy-turvy direction and don't go as sweet as you think.
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  We all go through our roller coasters. We all go through our valleys.
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  Everybody goes through stuff, you know?
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  I searched chaos on X and my video pops up.
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  Maybe it's because it might have had something in the title.
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  I don't know, but it popped up. It was one of the top ones on there.
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  So I had to switch it to that, you know.
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  Do you ever feel like chaos? There's nothing but chaos in your mind.
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  And so that just goes into all your life.
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  Everything you interact with, everything you go towards, it feels like nothing is smooth.
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  Nothing comes easy. Everything always just...
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  I think of the movie The Devil by M. Night Shyamalan.
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  It's hard to say his name normally. But the point at the very beginning when
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  he's describing, when is the devil around you?
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  You feel his presence because you drop something, you drop a sandwich,
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  it falls on the side of the peanut butter and jelly, that side of the sandwich,
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  as opposed to on the regular bread side.
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  Or I find this every now and then, like I throw something, I miss the trash
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  can, or I'm perfect, I just drop it, it just doesn't land, you know?
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  It just there's like little and you can say it's just there's these powers out
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  there that are influencing it it feels like that it feels like that sometimes.
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  You might not have that. You might not even be aware of that.
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  That might be a figment of my imagination.
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  I don't think it's always a figment. I don't think it's always just insanity.
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  But sometimes it can feel like that. It can feel like that.
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  Everybody, you might be going through the worst time in your life.
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  You might be going through just hell right now. So how do we get out?
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  How do we just cope with this emotional roller coaster that we have going on?
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  We all got to get up. We all got to go to work.
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  We all got to do things to pay the bills and just do regular things and interact with people.
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  But you might, and it just becomes this regular, normal, how you doing.
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  Chip? How you doing, Betty?
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  I don't know. Like, just regular people you run into and you just got to,
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  we just say normal things because we can't really, and nobody wants to hear.
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  We got enough problems of our own. It's hard to listen to someone else sometimes.
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  Is that why there's therapists out there?
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  Is that why people just pour out money and just unload the bank on therapists?
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  I found that having a therapist and just like doing that kind of thing and just
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  uncovering everything in your subconscious can sometimes do more harm than good.
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  It can sometimes do more devastation than good, but maybe it can,
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  you might've found that it's a good thing for you.
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  It's a good thing to just vent to someone, to just tell them what's really going
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  on behind those eyes, behind your eyes, what you're really experiencing.
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  Maybe it is good for you to just unload onto somebody.
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  And maybe that's why some people have to be paid for that to be able to get
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  that and to be able to actually try to find a solution,
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  try to find a way to fix what you're going through to make it make it make sense
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  you might your your life might be perfect right now and i hope it is i really hope it is.
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  But I just know that everybody's going to go through crap. Everybody's going to go through pain.
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  And it's like, how do we deal with it? How do we deal with it?
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  Because I could say, oh, the nice Sunday school answer is we go to God with it.
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  We pray about it. We go to the Bible.
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  But a lot of times for me personally, this might be the opposite for you.
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  But for me personally, if I want to get on my knees and pray,
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  I come out more confused and more lost than if I didn't do that.
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  It feels like, and I don't know if that is the enemy that just wants to keep
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  me from that, but it's like I get more disillusioned because when I'm talking
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  to God, I'm like, God, you know everything that I'm going to say.
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  You know everything that's on my mind. It feels stupid to voice it and actually
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  say it because you already know.
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  And then things can just start becoming uncovered in my heart and things that
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  I just don't want to think about.
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  And then I come away feeling like more crap and all that, you know,
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  and it's like, but maybe that is a needed thing. Maybe that is a needed thing.
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  That is one thing I've, I've wanted to really focus in on.
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  And because in, for me, prayer is one of the most difficult things in the world.
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  I can go about my day and talk to God and like, just pray to him and all that.
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  I'm trying not to bring all my mess to him all the time, because a lot of times
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  I got so much mess. I don't even know if God can handle it.
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  I know that's really silly, but it's like, I got, I feel like if I just,
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  I say things, so many things, I'm trying to simplify my problem,
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  my problems to God and just talk about what is.
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  What's the heart of the issue? That's why I've tried to change it to not praying
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  about everything because it's hard to pray about for everyone else.
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  I'm so me-centric, you know, instead of praying about, please help me with this today.
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  Help me with that today. Help me with this. Pray that goes well.
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  I'm trying to simplify it to just, God, can you give me wisdom? Can you give me wisdom?
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  And I've went through different periods of my life. There was one year that
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  I could not pray anything.
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  If I came to God, the only thing I could pray to him was saying the Lord's prayer.
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  I couldn't do anything. I couldn't just say anything regular or off the top
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  of my head or just how I was going.
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  I had to just go through the Lord's prayer and just say it and not even just
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  like dissect it and try to like apply it to what, like how that applies to me
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  currently or anything like that.
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  I just had to say it almost in just repetitious going through the motions and kind of thing.
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  It felt like, because it's like, I couldn't say anything.
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  There's nothing I could actually bring up to him that like would be feel genuine.
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  It's just like, God, I'm in this black darkness. You are, you already know it
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  feels like you're not helping me.
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  And that's, that's what it always feels like. It feels like in the moment,
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  God's not helping you. Feels like he's not there.
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  It feels like you're just on an island and you're praying to him.
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  And that's the struggle.
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  That's the struggle, at least for me. Maybe it's different for you,
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  but I think the only thing I can do is just in faith, keep going.
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  Just keep going. I think that's the call to endurance, the call to perseverance.
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  Keep persevering, you know? And I think when we get to the end,
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  we're going to find out that he was the one carrying us through the whole way. That's how I see it.
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  So if you're going through an emotional roller coaster, wherever you are in
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  life, I'd say just keep going.
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  Don't give up and lean on God. All right. Have a great day, everyone.