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Conquering Rudeness with Forgiveness · HAVE FAITH LET IT BEGIN®

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  Music.
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  Hello everyone, this is Angel, and this is Have Faith, Let It Begin.
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  Well, here we are with another episode. And I tell you, as I've been recording
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  these vlogs, I come across so much new memories and new material that I just can't wait to,
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  let's just say I just can't find, I just always find myself wanting to record
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  and just, and share and share and share.
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  And that's what I'm here for. So today I want to talk about encounters with people that are rude.
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  That's right. I said it. Rude.
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  One of the most important things in life they say is that laughter is the best medicine.
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  It's very healthy. It's very, you know, it's joyful.
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  It allows you to escape when things are not going the right way.
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  And on the last episode, we talked about things that, you know, that happen.
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  But you know as you battle storms each and
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  every day as you struggle with certain things that may come up or sidetrack
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  you for some of us that hasn't happened yet but those that are battling the
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  storms they may sit there and
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  go you know i was having a good day today until i ran into this person.
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  I was having a good day until my boss did this.
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  I was having a good day until this telemarketer or salesperson called.
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  I was having a good day before this bill collector called me.
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  You know, the hardest thing that you will ever do in life is learn to forgive
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  someone for their actions, especially when they are rude.
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  Our God that we love so much, that loves you, our God forgives.
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  That's what he does. He forgives. He forgives you. He forgives me.
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  He loves you. He loves me. But it's so hard to forgive someone when they have wronged you.
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  It is so hard to forgive someone when you feel they have hurt you to the point
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  where they have crossed the line.
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  I'm here to tell you, I've had many encounters that way.
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  And you know, I'll be honest, I'll put myself out there and say, you know, maybe it's me.
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  But I know as stubborn as I can be, and some of you right now are giggling because
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  they know me, and I can't be stubborn.
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  But as stubborn as I can be, I can always take a step back.
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  I replay what I did or didn't do and learn that if it is my fault,
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  I either apologize or I ask for forgiveness.
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  I have lost so many friends.
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  To the most dumbest things you could imagine.
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  I've lost friends to rumors, innuendos. I've lost friends due to the fact that
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  I was and always is in a good mood.
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  You're going to encounter people that may come up to you and say,
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  my gosh, why are you always in a good mood?
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  Why do you always see the good in people the
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  world is not made that way it's made of evil no it's
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  not there's a lot of good out there folks there's a lot of good people and you
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  know the old saying is you know one bad apple squalls a bunch you know what
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  it's time to take that one bad apple and not throw it out, but to forgive them.
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  Let's replant the seeds so that when they grow every season,
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  every day, they know there's someone there that is there to nurture,
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  that is there to feed them, that is there to make their day full of sunshine.
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  Again, this is a very hard topic because there's
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  some people out there that just don't change that's where
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  prayer comes in we're not going to just sit there
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  and pray and again for the record i'm not telling
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  you how to pray but we're not going to sit
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  there and pray for this person to change we just
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  ask that the good lord show them the way show them their guidance take away
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  their suffering their pain their misery but it's always important to forgive
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  and don't be surprised if you ask for forgiveness if they look at you and say
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  well, I don't forgive you. That's okay.
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  It's still good to tell them that you forgive them.
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  I have been hurt many times. And if you're young and listening to this show,
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  it's part of your lesson in becoming an adult.
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  I've had breakups, whether that's in a relationship.
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  I've had friendships dissolve in the business world.
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  I was in sales and I had, I had situations where I would go to work.
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  Matter of fact, I'll tell you a story right now. When I was working in Providence,
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  Rhode Island, I worked for a nonprofit organization and, and it was very hard
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  because I had moved there with that company and I found myself at loss.
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  And you're going to hear it later on in other episodes. This is not the first time I've lost my job.
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  In this particular instance, the company was pulling out of the state.
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  They did offer me an opportunity to move forward. But at that point in my life,
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  I didn't feel that that was something I wanted to do. So I stayed.
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  And I took on a new position.
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  I was hired by an.
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  Fortune 500 company, a mortgage company. And they welcomed me with open arms.
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  Matter of fact, the very first day I started, I went in and the entire staff
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  greeted me in front of the front door. I've never had that happen to me.
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  And I felt at that moment in time that I had made the right decision.
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  I felt that I was finally at peace. As I was walking in and shaking hands and greeting people.
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  I came across an office to which a man was sitting in.
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  I peeked in and I waved. He looked up at me and then he looked back down and
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  never gave me any acknowledgement.
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  I figured, well, a lot of commotion going on. He may have been busy. Not a big deal.
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  The next day, I walked in.
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  As I walked down the hall I have to walk past this particular office Same gentleman,
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  And I walked past and said good morning He did not acknowledge me Got into my
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  office and I just couldn't figure out why,
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  This went on for three months Some of you would be like Well what's the point.
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  No that bothered me Because I had no problems in this facility I didn't even
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  know the gentleman Never met him So finally I decided that no matter what case
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  scenario, I will always walk by, say good morning.
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  And I walked into my office one of those days and I said, dear God,
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  why is this gentleman acting this way toward me?
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  What have I done? I don't even know the man. All I could do was pray.
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  After three months, which I started in September, we had come across our Christmas party.
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  And it'd be the very first time that I would meet the entire division because
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  we had separate buildings.
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  I was yet again announced at the Christmas party.
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  People greeted me very, very kindly, and at one point in the evening,
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  I went over to grab my date, a drink.
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  I'm not an alcoholic, by the way.
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  I'm just saying. And as I was getting a drink, I felt a tap on my right shoulder.
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  It was a young woman who I didn't recognize.
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  And that's because she was not an employee. She was a wife of an employee.
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  I said, I'm sorry, I don't know your name because I don't see a name tag.
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  So you must be the wife of somebody that works here.
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  She says, I am. And you must be Angel. And I said, I am.
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  She says, well, I am Jim's wife. And I said, oh, Jim's wife.
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  And I couldn't figure out who Jim was.
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  And that's when Jim arrived with a drink for his wife.
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  You see, Jim was the gentleman in that office.
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  The wife looked at me and said to me in front of Jim, I am just so happy that you are there.
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  Because ever since you've been there, my husband has been so excited.
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  He says that you have brought so much joy to this office and that things have
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  gotten better since you've arrived. I was stunned.
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  I looked at Jim and then I looked at her and I said, what is your name, young lady?
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  She said, Allison. I said, Allison, I just want to tell you,
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  it is a true honor to work with your husband.
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  And every morning that I walk in, do you know that as I walk past his office,
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  He's usually the first one that greets me in the morning. Yeah, I said that.
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  Jim's eyes were. They looked at me like, whoa.
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  You know, I can't believe he said that. I said, well, listen,
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  I got to get back to my date. It was nice to meet you, Allison.
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  It was great to meet you and see you again, Jim. I guess I'll see you Monday. Have a great evening.
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  That Monday, when I arrived, I went into the office.
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  Made my left-hand turn, walked past the office, and no, Jim wasn't there.
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  As I opened up the secondary door that leads to my office, I found Jim standing
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  there with his hand out to greet me.
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  That is forgiveness. That is God working.
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  I found out later that the former boss that I replaced was very,
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  very instrumental in being disrespectful,
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  rude to Jim so much that he was so stressed out that he would take his frustrations
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  on his wife, so stressed out that he was contemplating leaving him.
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  That he had for over 10 years, it's important to know that no matter what you
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  do in life, your actions, your actions,
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  whether they're made intentionally or non-intentionally, can affect somebody's life.
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  Remember that each and every day when you go into the workforce,
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  each and every day when you go back home, anytime you interact with anyone, you have a purpose.
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  You are an important individual. And you need to remember that when you are
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  right and you're rude, then you're wrong.
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  God is good. God forgives. And God believes in you.
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  Today, I ask you to go out into the workforce.
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  And if there's someone in there that has been wronged you, if there's somebody
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  out there that you feel you've been rude to, ask for your forgiveness.
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  This is the day that the Lord has made. Let us rejoice and be glad in it. have faith.
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  Music.