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The Perfect Timing Myth: Why Waiting is Costing You · The Nadia Chapman Show

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  Hey, hey, everyone. Happy Sunday. I know it's not going to be Sunday by the
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  time you listen to this, but today is Sunday and I have such a busy week ahead
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  that I am pre-recording my podcast this week.
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  Between two loaves of laundry, gardening, washing the car, cleaning the house,
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  and just trying to catch a breath.
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  And I decided to stop everything, grab an iced coffee and sit in my office and
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  press the record button.
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  Because today's message is all about that. It is about not waiting for perfect
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  conditions to just show up in your life.
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  Before we dive in, I want to take a quick second to say something that's been
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  really blowing my mind lately.
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  This podcast, the Nadia Chapman Show, has been on for what, a week, two weeks, maybe, max.
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  And it's been listened to across the world, literally, Canada,
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  United States, Australia, France, Germany, parts of Asia.
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  And if you are listening to this podcast, I just want to say thank you.
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  Thank you for pressing play.
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  Thank you for listening since I've launched this thing. And thank you for sharing
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  space with me week after week. It's great to have you. I do not take this for granted.
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  And today's episode, I guarantee we'll lit something within you.
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  I'm hoping it's going to light a fire under you because we're talking about
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  the trap that so many of us fall into without even realizing it.
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  Let me start with this. Let me ask you something. Have you ever caught yourself
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  saying, oh, I'll start when things calm down, or I'll go for it when I'm more
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  prepared, or maybe, oh, I just need more time, or I just need the timing to be right?
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  Does that sound familiar? I'm sure it does, because we've all been there,
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  and today we're going there.
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  The lie we've been sold about this perfect timing thing.
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  This is a very sneaky, very convincing lie that we've been sold.
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  And it's that idea that we need this perfect timing to start something important.
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  That there will be this magical, mystical moment when the fear disappear and
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  our to-do list just shrank and the chaos of, I don't know, our lives settle
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  down and things are just right and things are just ready.
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  But let me tell you the truth, guys. That moment that you're waiting for does not exist.
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  Life will never going to line up perfectly and the timing will never be just right.
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  And if you keep waiting for that flawless window to open, you're going to wait forever.
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  What I see in so many people around me is not the lack of ability.
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  It's that darn hesitation that's disguised as wisdom.
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  You say, oh, you know, I'm being very strategic.
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  But what you're saying is that you're not ready.
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  You say you're not ready, but if we're being real here, what you're actually
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  doing is stalling. You're putting on the brake.
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  You're dressing up your fear in a super cute little outfit that you call planning. That's right.
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  I'm going to say that again. Maybe that's your rider downer for today.
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  You're dressing up your fear in a cute little outfit that you call, quote, planning.
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  And I know, because I've done it, even with this podcast, even with so many
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  things I've done, that I'm like, oh, I'm going to wait after summer,
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  things are going to be better.
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  Or, you know, I'm going to wait till my office is clean, and my whole house is clean.
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  Or I'm going to like launch this company, maybe next year, things are going
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  to be more aligned with the kids being off to college, whatever it is, We've all done it.
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  I know what it feels like to procrastinate under this illusion of preparation,
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  but here's the harsh truth.
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  You don't need more time. You need to decide.
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  You need to take action. And after training to be a coach, I stop doing this
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  and I start stepping into action and amazing things came out of it.
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  The world won't pause for you to feel ready.
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  The timing you're hoping for may never come. And if you're banking on the universe
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  delivering this perfect moment for you, you may just end up watching opportunities
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  pass right by your nose while you're sitting on the sideline of your life. So let me ask you this.
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  What are you actually waiting for?
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  And take a second and think about that. You owe it to yourself.
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  What are you waiting for? Are you really waiting for more clarity?
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  Are you waiting for more confidence or more external validation?
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  Let me tell you something real and raw.
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  Confidence doesn't just show up before the action. It shows up because of the action.
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  And your clarity doesn't fall out from the sky.
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  It's forge in motion, trial and error, showing up, even when you don't feel
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  like it, even when you're shaky.
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  Because waiting might feel safe, but it's costing you a whole lot more than you realize.
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  Because every day that you hesitate, you're not just postponing your dream,
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  but you're feeding that self-doubt.
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  You're telling your brain, oh, I don't believe I'm ready.
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  And that message repeats again and again, and it compounds, and it erodes your self-trust.
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  Do you understand? So you've got to let go of that myth of the perfect timing
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  because it does not exist.
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  Let's talk about being perfect and waiting for the perfect moment for a second,
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  because that's often what's fueling the idea that you're not quite ready because
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  we want the perfect plan. We want the perfect setup.
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  We want the perfect branding. We want the perfect version of ourselves.
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  But no one start that way. I promise you.
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  Every successful person you admire, they didn't start with a,
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  I don't know, polished blueprint when everything was aligned.
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  Even Amazon started in a freaking garage, guys.
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  They started with an idea, a rough plan, a shaky voice, and a decision to move
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  anyway. And that's what you need to do.
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  Make a decision, regardless of where you're at, regardless of your blueprint.
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  I'll be honest. When I started this podcast, I didn't feel ready.
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  I had no idea if people would even listen.
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  I had recording hiccups. I mean, I had technical issue at one point.
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  You know, I'm French Canadian. I don't even pronounce words the right way.
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  So many things. But you know what? I decide one day to press the record button and just show up.
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  And then I did it again and again. And now here we are.
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  You do not have to be fearless to take action. You have to be brave enough to begin.
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  Let's name the cost of waiting. Because waiting is costing you.
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  And not just costing you time.
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  Waiting robs you of your momentum. them. It chips away your self-belief.
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  It causes you to watch other people live the life that you want doing the things
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  that you're afraid of doing while you sit with that little frustration of knowing
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  that, you know, actually, maybe I could.
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  Oh, but I don't. And that kind of stuckness eats your soul because deep down
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  within you, you know that you're able to do it. You know that you can do it.
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  You feel that pull. You feel that vision.
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  It keeps calling you again and again, but you You keep silencing it.
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  No, not yet. I'm not ready yet.
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  So today we're going to reframe this. What if the time is now?
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  What if we flip the script?
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  What if instead of waiting for this perfect timing, you decide that now is the right time?
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  Not because of the perfect condition, because it's never going to be perfect,
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  but because you're finally choosing to believe in yourself. How about we start there?
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  The truth is, the longer you wait, the heavier your dreams become.
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  And I don't want you carrying around that weight anymore. I want you walking
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  lighter. I want you feeling that fire inside. I want you to take risk.
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  I want you to show up. Not because you have all the answers,
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  but because you're done holding yourself back. So here's your coaching moment for today.
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  I want you to pause after this episode and meditate for a second.
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  Grab a pen and a paper or a notebook and do this.
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  First of all, number one, identify one thing that you've been putting off because
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  you're waiting for this right timing.
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  Number two, be radically honest and write down the real reason while you're avoiding it.
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  What fear is hiding, what excuse you're using.
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  Number three, and this is key, commit to taking one imperfect action towards it today.
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  I'm going to say that again. Commit to taking one imperfect.
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  Okay, I'm highlighting in perfect right now. Action towards it today.
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  Send the email, make the call, make that post, write the first sentence,
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  record the first draft, just do the thing.
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  It doesn't have to be big, it just has to be real.
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  Because action is the antidote of fear and momentum is built through movement, not magic.
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  Here's my final thoughts. You don't need permission, you don't need certainty,
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  and you certainly don't need to wait for the perfect timing because it doesn't exist.
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  What you need, my friend, is courage.
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  You need a decision and you need to stop letting that fear write the script of your life.
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  So show up scared, show up completely unpolished, just show up anyway.
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  Because the truth is you're not waiting for that perfect day,
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  you're just waiting on you. And the second that you decide that you're done
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  waiting, that's when the game changes.
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  So let this be your moment. Not tomorrow. Today.
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  Not when it's easy. Just now. Perfectly imperfect.
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  If this episode gave you a push, maybe the push you needed today,
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  do me a favor. Share it with somebody who's playing small.
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  Text them the link. Post it on your story. Like it.
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  Tag me. And remember that you're always, always, always one decision away from changing everything.
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  So go make it. And I'll see you in the next episode. Thanks for listening.