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Your Appointment Got Canceled. Now What? · Voices for Voices®

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  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: Hi everyone, it's Justin here, Voices for Voices.
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  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: Uh, so welcome.
• 1:29
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: Glad to have you with us, glad to be here for another show.
• 1:34
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: Uh it's uh it's Friday, uh a lot going on.
• 1:44
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: Uh we talk about this uh this term, you know, adaptability or pivot or whatever we want to call it.
• 1:55
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: And that just means we're able to change as events happen or don't happen.
• 2:06
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: So for example, right, we have an appointment of some sort, and we find out maybe a half hour, 40 minutes, 20 minutes before our appointment that the power went out in the whole building, and the appointment that we originally had scheduled uh needs to be rescheduled.
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  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: And and so it takes a lot to takes a lot to process that because for me I mean when we have an appointment, I don't want to say we're always looking forward to it, but there's some appointments that can help us and be more beneficial than others, and this was one of them.
• 3:10
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: So no big deal.
• 3:13
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: Um, but it just goes to show that you know, for anybody that's saying, like, oh Justin, you know, it's easy for you to say, it's easy for you to say.
• 3:29
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: Well, it's not easy for me to say, especially at this time, because it was an appointment uh appointment I was looking forward to, uh, had it in my mind, uh, was ready to again ready to to go there, part part way on the way.
• 3:51
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: So I had driven a distance and then found this information out.
• 4:00
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: And so you go through the whole rescheduling process uh and can't get back in the same day.
• 4:10
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: So that's what I wanted to share here at the outset is we can't control, especially the electricity or other things that help make a business go and work.
• 4:41
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: So we can't really I mean we can, but we we shouldn't really blame ourselves for that.
• 4:53
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: Um, because there's nothing we can do, right?
• 4:56
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: Acts of God, hurricane, an earthquake, you get it.
• 5:04
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: Um for anybody who has ever had an appointment changed at the last minute, canceled, rescheduled, and that rescheduled date is further out than what we would like.
• 5:24
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: This is this is me sharing my story that I am not immune to things like this happening or occurring.
• 5:44
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: Right?
• 5:45
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: I mean everything isn't always the uh Yeah, it's uh it's not always not always fun, right?
• 6:07
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: I mean looking forward to an appointment and some of you might might be like, well, what kind of appointment what was this?
• 6:16
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: And it was completely illegal uh at the the appointment, and it was uh again, it was it was disappointing because I had been I'd been looking forward to it.
• 6:35
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: Uh whereas if you asked me 20 years ago, I would probably have a different answer.
• 6:45
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: More than likely, I would have a different answer, like, oh, thank goodness.
• 6:52
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: But that's not how it is.
• 6:55
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: So that's that.
• 6:58
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: So we just have to learn and take our minds and not beat ourselves up about it, because there's nothing we could do about it.
• 7:12
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: I mean, we can get upset and bummed about it, but if it's outside our control, it's outside our control, and so this was one of those uh, you know, a time like these where when it occurs, just have to be ready to reschedule, be flexible, and then to show up for that rescheduled appointment.
• 7:51
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: Yesterday I was pretty pretty toasty outside.
• 7:56
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: It's over ninety degrees, and it's summertime.
• 8:03
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: It's amazing how how summer here in the United States seems to only last a very short amount of time, and it may be like that where you live too.
• 8:24
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: It's like once you get kind of used to it in a little bit, in like a sense, then all of a sudden, you know, snap of a finger, summer's over, it's fall.
• 8:43
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: And so where we live, we have winter, spring, summer, fall.
• 8:50
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: We have four seasons.
• 8:54
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: Not every location does.
• 9:00
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: Like for instance, uh I think Hawaii, they very rarely have a winter and very rarely have snow.
• 9:13
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: They have had snow in recent memory.
• 9:22
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: But those are those are things that are far and few between.
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  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: So there's no plows or salt trucks or in a location like that.
• 9:41
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: It's gonna snow once every 30 years or once every 20 or 10 years.
• 9:49
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: But the getting back to the appointment, it takes a toll a little bit on the mental health.
• 10:02
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: Because, right, like our mind's in motion of going to an appointment, and so then we have to kind of stop and tell ourselves this is not my fault, I couldn't control it, and and mentally that can be a challenge, right?
• 10:47
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: Like, oh, here we go.
• 10:49
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: Just another thing that is going wrong.
• 10:56
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: Oh, I I I needed to go to this, and now I have to reschedule, and I have to reschedule, and that's maybe a month down the road, or a period of time that's longer than usual.
• 11:19
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: So then our minds have to go into you know, that coping.
• 11:26
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: How do we cope with learning about not having an appointment?
• 11:36
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: So, how do we do that?
• 11:38
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: Do we ground ourselves?
• 11:41
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: I'm sitting here, I feel my eyes blinking.
• 11:50
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: I stick my tongue out.
• 11:54
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: But Joe, by the way, is sticking the tongue out.
• 11:57
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: Uh I was uh it's hard to believe some some some some social media posts that I saw this one said, you know, reducing cortisol, which comes along with stress.
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  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: Our body doesn't know a difference between good stress or bad stress.
• 12:22
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: Anyways, the ideal state is to have cortisol as low as possible so you have the least amount of stress and anxiety.
• 12:33
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: And so the social media post I saw said that if you stick your tongue out for 40 seconds, it will lower your cortisol more than any.
• 12:50
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: I forget what I should have written down, should have written down what they compared that to.
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  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: But apparently it's on the list, and apparently somebody tried it.
• 13:07
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: That's that's that's what I find interesting.
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  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: You get these different studies, and say, man, somebody had to try this for it to get to the point where it's actually being inserted into a social media post.
• 13:28
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: So I guess what I've done the last couple of days, I've stuck my tongue out for 40 seconds, and I don't know if it's lowered my cortisol or lowered my anxiety or stress, but it's just it's a little bit a little bit funny, a little bit cheeky.
• 13:57
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: So give it a shot, it might work again.
• 14:01
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: I'm not not advertising this, it's not a sponsor at all.
• 14:07
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: Uh, it was just something that made me laugh, and we all could use more time laughing than being serious, right?
• 14:18
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: I mean, so much of what we do in society is gotta be professional, we have to talk a certain way, we have to dress a certain way, and there's all these rules or unwritten rules.
• 14:43
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: Why don't we why can't we just be ourselves?
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  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: And even if a joke or something seems far out, we should be able to laugh at it.
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  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: And not take a not take a personal.
• 15:04
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: And that's that's another hard hard uh spot to be in.
• 15:12
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: Trying not to take the work we do home each day, so to have a little bit of boundaries where we're not gonna flare up about something work-related when we're spending time with our family.
• 15:35
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: And I know I can do a better job of that, most certainly.
• 15:41
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: I can definitely do better.
• 15:48
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: Yeah, stick your tongue off for 40 seconds.
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  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: Hopefully, your anxiety and stress uh due to lower cortisol will be helpful for you.
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  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: Uh again, I thought it was caught my attention, and right, isn't that what you know social media and that's supposed to do is to catch our attention.
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  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: There's so many, so many posts, so many reels, stories, tick tocks, whatever tickles your fancy.
• 16:31
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: And so to capture a person's attention means more reviews, more clicks, and more money for who has posted a particular informational post?
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  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: Some will be in video form, some will be in like a static photo, like a point in time that this picture, this photo was taken.
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  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: So how do you react when an appointment is changed at the last minute or close to the last minute?
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  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: You kind of just roll with the roll with what's going on, or does it does it bother you?
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  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: Let us know in the comments.
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  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: There's just a lot of activity that's that's going on, and it's trying to share as much as we can uh as early as we can.
• 18:55
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: But as you I think can appreciate, is if we talk about something too early, then our competitors use that against us.
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  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: And we've seen this time and time again, where that's exactly what happens.
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  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: Take some information and it's like, wait a minute.
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  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: I didn't I didn't know we shared that.
• 19:31
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: And then we we talk and we're like, we didn't share that.
• 19:40
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: Well, just let your mind wander on that.
• 19:46
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: What's your plans for the weekend?
• 19:49
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: What are you and your family?
• 19:52
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: You and your friends, what are you up to?
• 19:55
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: Whatever it is, you know, I hope it's uh safe.
• 20:02
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: We're sending our love and support to you, whether you are a believer or not.
• 20:14
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: Positive vibes are better than negative vibes.
• 20:21
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: So if we never come out of that so serious mindset and talking, it's gonna be I don't know.
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  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: It's gonna be something.
• 20:40
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: But it's not gonna be anything like I mean that you know, from a girl's and woman's standpoint they they say, you know, let your hair down.
• 20:56
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: You know, just be yourself.
• 20:59
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: Same things from a guy perspective, even if we don't have long hair, just be yourself.
• 21:11
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: I already know a lot of my flaws, and I'm okay with it, because my flaws might match somewhat or a lot with a person or persons out watching and listening to this particular episode where that individual says, you know what?
• 21:39
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: I'm not the only one that does this or has this.
• 21:45
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: There's somebody else, and they're talking about it.
• 21:51
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: Again, I'm no superhero, I'm no, I'm just a human being.
• 22:02
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: Yeah, we live or we were born, we live, and we die.
• 22:09
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: And so as much as I've at times earlier in my life wanted to kind of speed up the time, like make time go faster.
• 22:24
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: Now I sit here at the age of 44, wishing that the time goes slower.
• 22:36
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: But as we talked about on a at least one previous episode, time doesn't stand still.
• 22:44
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: There's something you want to do, something you want to try, somewhere you want to go, an experience, an event.
• 22:57
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: Man, you gotta do it.
• 23:00
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: You just got you just have to do it.
• 23:05
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: You might say, oh, it's easy for you to say.
• 23:07
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: No, it's not.
• 23:09
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: It's not easy for me to say.
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  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: Yeah, we do.
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  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: We have a lot.
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  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: We have 555.
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  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: This episode, 556.
• 23:26
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: But we started at zero at one point in time.
• 23:31
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: And then we started after that at one.
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  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: All the way up to a hundred, two hundred, three hundred, four hundred, five hundred, five hundred and fifty, five hundred and fifty five, and now five hundred and fifty six.
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  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: It's not easy to do.
• 23:57
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: It's it's a chore.
• 24:03
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: But we're helping people.
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  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: We pray for others.
• 24:09
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: We pray for ourselves.
• 24:18
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: And if somebody's upset that we're praying for them, they have that they have that ability to do that.
• 24:27
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: They can be upset.
• 24:29
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: But when we pray for people, it's to help.
• 24:38
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: That's what that's what it's there for.
• 24:42
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: It's the help.
• 24:46
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: So if you're upset, we prayed for you at one point in time.
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  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: Well, before I go to bed and in the morning, I pray for me and the whole world.
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  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: And including the whole world are people who may be considered enemies.
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  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: But we still pray for.
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  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: Still all human beings.
• 25:41
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: So thank you for joining us in this episode.
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  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: And we hope and pray that you are prosperous, whatever that looks like for you.
• 26:24
  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: So we'll see you next time on the show.
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  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: Until then, let's celebrate the voices of the world.
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  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: And let's not just be a voice for ourselves, but maybe somebody, somebody else in need that might not be able to share their voice so easily.
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  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: Thank you, and we'll see you on the next show.
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  Justin Alan Hayes, Voices for Voices: Bye bye for now.