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5-MINUTE FRIDAY: Where Your Focus Goes, Your Energy Flows · Hurdle with Emily Abbate

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  Speaker 1: What's going on, Emily Body Here? You are listening to
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  Speaker 1: five Minute Friday, and it is a good Friday because
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  Speaker 1: I am heading up to Boston for some fun stuff
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  Speaker 1: this weekend that I hope if your local I get
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  Speaker 1: to see you at. I chatted about this last Friday,
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  Speaker 1: but I'll be stopping by a myriad of places, including
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  Speaker 1: the Bandit pop up at one nineteen Mulberry, as well
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  Speaker 1: as Nike's Women's Community Night on Saturday night and a
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  Speaker 1: shakeout on Sunday morning. I'm going to link all of
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  Speaker 1: this goodness in the show notes for anyone else who's
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  Speaker 1: local to the area. With that said, it's also a
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  Speaker 1: good Friday because I am making it a good, good Friday.
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  Speaker 1: That's what I want to talk about for five Minute
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  Speaker 1: Friday Today. I'm seeing how many times I can say
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  Speaker 1: the word Friday in the first minute of this podcast.
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  Speaker 1: Apparently I digress. This morning, I got an email that
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  Speaker 1: really bothered me and I went to text my best
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  Speaker 1: friend to vent about it. And as I opened the
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  Speaker 1: text message in that moment, I made a choice to
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  Speaker 1: tell her about a small win that I had at
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  Speaker 1: the gym where I added weight to my overhead press,
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  Speaker 1: which felt very exciting, and I felt super strong, and
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  Speaker 1: so I told her about that and focused on that
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  Speaker 1: and decided not to give any energy at that moment
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  Speaker 1: to the thing that had been frustrating me. And I
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  Speaker 1: realized by making this choice, by choosing to focus on
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  Speaker 1: the good, that good things started to flow toward me.
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  Speaker 1: I had a really nice morning and really great lunch
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  Speaker 1: with a friend and got back to some unexpected good
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  Speaker 1: news in my inbox later that day and was just
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  Speaker 1: reminded of what I already know. That energy attracts like energy.
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  Speaker 1: I feel like that is the theme of twenty twenty
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  Speaker 1: four here, and I know I say it all the
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  Speaker 1: time on the show, But where your focus goes, energy flows,
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  Speaker 1: I'm going to say this again. I know you've probably
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  Speaker 1: heard it before. Where your focus goes, energy flows. And
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  Speaker 1: so I choose to stay focused on the things that
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  Speaker 1: serve me. And it's not always easy, right in fact,
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  Speaker 1: in this life where most of our thoughts every day
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  Speaker 1: are negative. Seriously, according to a research conducted by the
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  Speaker 1: National Science Foundation, I think the statistic is around eighty
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  Speaker 1: percent of our thoughts are negative. The brain has a
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  Speaker 1: built in negative bias that causes us to focus on
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  Speaker 1: bad things which isn't there kind But you are the
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  Speaker 1: person who gets to break the system. And so this
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  Speaker 1: prompts the question do you want to what is it
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  Speaker 1: that you want and what is within your control to
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  Speaker 1: go after it? There's power in your perspective and you
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  Speaker 1: have that power. Let me empower you on this Friday.
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  Speaker 1: So my thought prompt for you is where are you
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  Speaker 1: focusing your attention and your energy and is that giving
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  Speaker 1: you the result that you'd hoped for? Where are you
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  Speaker 1: currently giving your focus and is it giving you the
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  Speaker 1: results that you want? And now a listener question.
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  Speaker 2: Hey Emily Rachel from New York here. I love your
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  Speaker 2: podcast and was hoping you can help answer my question.
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  Speaker 2: I guess I struggle with motivation sometimes and my everyday
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  Speaker 2: routine can seem repetitive and mundane most days. So I'm
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  Speaker 2: wondering how do you motivate yourself or I guess, how
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  Speaker 2: do you hype yourself up to go about your daily
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  Speaker 2: Monday through Friday routine. Any insight would be helpful.
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  Speaker 1: Thank you, Hi Rachel, thank you for this. I first
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  Speaker 1: want to disclaim that I don't every day wake up
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  Speaker 1: with abundant amounts of energy and everything that feels absolutely
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  Speaker 1: effortless because I have a strong why. That's not exactly
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  Speaker 1: how it works, but what I do have is that
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  Speaker 1: strong why, which helps me show up on the days
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  Speaker 1: where my energy or my motivation also feels like it's
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  Speaker 1: wearing off a little bit. And so I have two
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  Speaker 1: big tips for anyone who feels like their motivation is
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  Speaker 1: going out the window when you're feeling a little bit blah.
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  Speaker 1: The first is what I just mentioned, having a strong
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  Speaker 1: connection to your why with anything that you're doing within
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  Speaker 1: your life. You want to live each day in purpose,
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  Speaker 1: on purpose, right, and so knowing that you certain goals,
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  Speaker 1: ask yourself, what is it about these things that makes
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  Speaker 1: me excited? And perhaps there's something in your life that
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  Speaker 1: you're not all that jazzed about. Maybe you are at
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  Speaker 1: a certain job right now that really does feel like
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  Speaker 1: a job, but that job affords you the opportunity to
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  Speaker 1: do certain things, or perhaps provides you the money that
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  Speaker 1: you need to do the things that otherwise excite you.
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  Speaker 1: There is a why for everything that you're doing, so
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  Speaker 1: find a strong connection to that, and that why will
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  Speaker 1: help you show up day in and day out. And
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  Speaker 1: then the second thing is have some sort of a
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  Speaker 1: regular check in process with an accountability partner. So, yes,
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  Speaker 1: the day to day can get a bit mundane, but
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  Speaker 1: maybe it's a little easier if before you get going
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  Speaker 1: with your workday at nine am, you text a friend
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  Speaker 1: and you tell them to highlights of your morning or too,
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  Speaker 1: highlights from the past forty eight hours. These little gratitude
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  Speaker 1: moments and an accountability buddy combined can be a super
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  Speaker 1: beautiful and helpful force. And you don't need to do
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  Speaker 1: anything drastic. I just said, list two good things from
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  Speaker 1: the past twenty four hours. It won't take that long,
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  Speaker 1: and it'll give you that little extra boost of positivity
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  Speaker 1: to show up and do something that otherwise you're not
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  Speaker 1: all that amped about. There's power in numbers, there's power
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  Speaker 1: in relationships, and trust me, you are worthy of a
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  Speaker 1: climate of support. Make sure you're following along over on
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  Speaker 1: social at Hurdle podcast I'm over at Emily a Body
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  Speaker 1: Another hurdle conquered. Catch you guys next time.