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Ep273. Stop Playing Defense: Go on Offense and Start Living (Buyer's Club Speaking Engagement.) · The Inner Wealth Podcast

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SPEAKER_01: Alright, guys, go ahead and stand up real quick.
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SPEAKER_01: Everybody, stand up.
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SPEAKER_01: If you're standing up and you got drinks, put your hands up and put your drinks down.
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SPEAKER_01: Put your hands in the air.
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SPEAKER_01: Both out.
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SPEAKER_01: Spread them out.
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SPEAKER_01: Repeat after me.
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SPEAKER_01: I take up more space in this world.
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SPEAKER_01: I take up all the space in the world.
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SPEAKER_01: The world is.
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SPEAKER_01: Go ahead and put your hands down.
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SPEAKER_01: Go ahead and sit down.
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SPEAKER_01: Now why?
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SPEAKER_01: Because your beliefs drive your life.
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SPEAKER_01: And why wouldn't you believe all those things?
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SPEAKER_01: Our beliefs create our reality.
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SPEAKER_01: Our beliefs literally determine what kind of outcomes we're going to create in the world.
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SPEAKER_01: Why wouldn't you want to feel those and believe those on a daily basis?
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SPEAKER_01: People that believe the opposite are often playing defense.
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SPEAKER_01: And people that believe those empowering beliefs, they go on offense.
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SPEAKER_01: And they don't just go on offense, they stay on offense.
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SPEAKER_01: And when natural things come up in their body, in their mind, anybody ever like have any worries, doubts, fears, anxieties, stress, right?
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SPEAKER_01: Like Brian was talking about.
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SPEAKER_01: What do you do in that moment?
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SPEAKER_01: Do you believe it?
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SPEAKER_01: Do you let it own you?
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SPEAKER_01: Do you let it run your life?
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SPEAKER_01: Or do you manage it in the moment?
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SPEAKER_01: Take a deep breath, drop into your body, recognize what you're feeling, inquire.
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SPEAKER_01: Why am I feeling this?
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SPEAKER_01: Where did this come from?
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SPEAKER_01: Listen to it.
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SPEAKER_01: What is it saying?
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SPEAKER_01: And then let it go.
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SPEAKER_01: And then do the thing.
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SPEAKER_01: And then do the thing.
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SPEAKER_01: So many people get to the signing line, closing day, and they pick up the pen and they put the pen back down and walk away.
1:52
SPEAKER_01: Because they're playing defense.
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SPEAKER_01: They get right to the one-yard line and they play defense.
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SPEAKER_01: They back up.
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SPEAKER_01: They don't move forward.
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SPEAKER_01: And most people, if you look in at the world, most people are playing defense.
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SPEAKER_01: Have you ever gone to the grocery store?
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SPEAKER_01: You ask the grocery store clerk, how do you do it?
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SPEAKER_01: And how's your day?
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SPEAKER_01: And they say it'd be better in two hours.
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SPEAKER_01: Defense.
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SPEAKER_01: They're not living.
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SPEAKER_01: They're just trying not to lose.
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SPEAKER_01: That's it.
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SPEAKER_01: They're not really living.
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SPEAKER_01: Most people are like that.
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SPEAKER_01: Tonight I want to teach you the difference between playing defense, playing offense.
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SPEAKER_01: I'm going to explain why somebody plays defense.
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SPEAKER_01: And then I'm going to give you, start to give you tools of how you can shift from defense to offense.
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SPEAKER_01: Because the really wealthy, the successful people in this world, they play offense and they don't let what's happening in here control their destiny or drive their behavior.
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SPEAKER_01: Does that make sense?
2:49
SPEAKER_01: Yes, sir.
2:49
SPEAKER_01: Awesome.
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SPEAKER_01: So how many of you raise your hand if you were raised in a house where somebody told you just to get a good job and with good benefits and stack cash?
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SPEAKER_01: Me too.
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SPEAKER_01: How about um rich people are greedy?
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SPEAKER_01: Yeah.
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SPEAKER_01: How about money is the root of all evil?
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SPEAKER_01: Remember those belief things, right?
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SPEAKER_01: They keep cropping up.
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SPEAKER_01: When when we're holding those types of beliefs, we play defense and we let we dull.
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SPEAKER_01: We don't play to win, we play to not lose.
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SPEAKER_01: And what defense is, is trying not to lose something.
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SPEAKER_01: Okay?
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SPEAKER_01: That's the frame.
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SPEAKER_01: Playing defense means that you're just trying not to lose something or you're trying to avoid something.
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SPEAKER_01: All right.
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SPEAKER_01: You're trying to avoid something.
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SPEAKER_01: How many people um try to avoid being judged?
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SPEAKER_01: How many, how many people don't ask for what they want because you feel selfish?
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SPEAKER_01: Raise your hand.
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SPEAKER_01: It's not just me.
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SPEAKER_01: How about you don't want to be seen because you're embarrassed of your body?
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SPEAKER_01: When you're on the beach, you hide yourself.
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SPEAKER_01: Yeah.
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SPEAKER_01: Right?
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SPEAKER_01: This is defense.
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SPEAKER_01: How about you don't show off, you don't show your wins because you're you're trying not to make others feel bad.
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SPEAKER_01: You don't you don't talk about the good parts of you, you don't talk about the the good parts.
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SPEAKER_01: You don't talk about where you're winning.
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SPEAKER_01: And when somebody says, when somebody expresses that they're losing and they're having a hard time, then you just commiserate with them and tell them all the plays all the ways that your life is shitty because you don't want to make them feel bad.
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SPEAKER_01: Instead of inspiring them to higher elevations.
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SPEAKER_01: Playing defense is all about avoiding something, avoiding judgment, avoiding failure, avoiding loss, avoiding relations or losing relationships, right?
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SPEAKER_01: Being criticized, going broke, just waking up to try to avoid going broke.
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SPEAKER_01: Offense or defense?
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SPEAKER_01: It's defense.
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SPEAKER_01: It's defense.
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SPEAKER_01: Can you see places in your life, areas in your life?
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SPEAKER_01: And and Brian said, you know, this when Rachel, when we talked about the title of this, it was originally called Stop Playing Defense, Go on Offense and Real Estate Investing.
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SPEAKER_01: It works in real estate investing, but it works everywhere.
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SPEAKER_01: It works in your relationships, it works in your health, it works in your business, your impact, your money, all of it, how much space you take up in the world.
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SPEAKER_01: Okay?
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SPEAKER_01: That's why we started with take up more space in the world.
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SPEAKER_01: Because there's people trying to take up as little space in the world as possible, not be seen, not lose, not go broke, not be judged, not be criticized, and then guess what happens?
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SPEAKER_01: They die.
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SPEAKER_01: Ha ha.
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SPEAKER_01: And then they take their last exhale, but they've never really lived because they were playing defense their whole life.
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SPEAKER_01: Does that sound fun?
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SPEAKER_01: No.
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SPEAKER_01: My father taught me to get a good job, great benefits, work for the man, stack some cash, don't lose, go on a vacation every year.
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SPEAKER_01: And then my mom just kind of piggybacked on that.
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SPEAKER_01: And guess what?
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SPEAKER_01: They're both dead.
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SPEAKER_01: And they never, they never really.
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SPEAKER_01: The only time my father ever got on a plane, two times, one to see me graduate Marine Corps boot camp, and a second time to come see me when I graduated my schooling in the Marine Corps.
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SPEAKER_01: That's it.
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SPEAKER_01: Twice.
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SPEAKER_01: Always loved, always wanted to travel and see places playing defense.
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SPEAKER_01: He died, left my mom with$2,000 playing safe.
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SPEAKER_01: Play it safe.
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SPEAKER_01: Defense.
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SPEAKER_01: You know anybody like that?
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SPEAKER_01: That's just playing to not lose.
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SPEAKER_01: That's not what that's not why we were born.
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SPEAKER_01: We were born to win.
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SPEAKER_01: We were born to go on offense.
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SPEAKER_01: And it takes feeling things that you'd rather not feel.
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SPEAKER_01: Saying things that you'd rather not say.
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SPEAKER_01: Doing things that you'd rather not do.
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SPEAKER_01: And I'm gonna explain why we play life on defense.
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SPEAKER_01: The nervous system, your nervous system.
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SPEAKER_01: If you're in my mastermind or you work with me, raise your hand.
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SPEAKER_01: You're not allowed to say anything.
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SPEAKER_01: Because they can repeat it like they repeat it in their sleep.
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SPEAKER_01: The nervous system has one job and one job only.
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SPEAKER_01: What is it?
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SPEAKER_01: No.
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SPEAKER_01: No.
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SPEAKER_01: Keep you alive.
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SPEAKER_01: You know why it try you know how it tries to keep you alive?
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SPEAKER_01: Part of it, maybe?
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SPEAKER_03: Fight or flight.
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SPEAKER_01: That's that's a that's one of the techniques, that's one of the tactics.
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SPEAKER_01: It tries to keep you in familiar circumstances.
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SPEAKER_01: Nervous system is one job, one job all-you try to keep you alive, tries to keep you alive by keeping you in familiar circumstances.
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SPEAKER_01: Do you know why it tries to keep you in familiar circumstances?
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SPEAKER_01: Because it knows how to keep you alive there.
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SPEAKER_01: That's it.
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SPEAKER_01: Does your nervous system care if you're wealthy?
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SPEAKER_01: No.
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SPEAKER_01: Does your nervous system care if you're successful?
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SPEAKER_01: No.
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SPEAKER_01: Does it care if you're loved?
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SPEAKER_01: Does it care if you actually like feel a sense of self-worth and self-value and self-esteem in the world?
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SPEAKER_01: Does your nervous system care about any of that?
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SPEAKER_01: No.
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SPEAKER_01: It's not your ally in expansion and creation.
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SPEAKER_01: Your nervous system is fighting to keep you the same.
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SPEAKER_01: And somebody gets right to the right to the one-yard line, getting ready to cross that threshold of the biggest deal that they've ever signed, and they go, whoa, no, too much.
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SPEAKER_01: It's too uncomfortable.
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SPEAKER_01: What's the nervous system trying to keep you do?
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SPEAKER_01: Yeah, keep you from doing.
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SPEAKER_01: Expand your circumstances.
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SPEAKER_01: It's not your ally.
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SPEAKER_01: Does that make sense?
9:06
SPEAKER_01: Okay.
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SPEAKER_01: It's important to understand that things that happen when you were a very little child have an impact on who you are and decisions you make right now.
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SPEAKER_01: If you were told that money is the root of all evil, then you're nervous and you started to believe that, then your nervous system is fighting to keep money out of your life.
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SPEAKER_01: Because that belief is built into your nervous system.
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SPEAKER_01: Does that make sense?
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SPEAKER_01: That time that you got, that time that you got rejected or dumped by your second grade sweetheart, and you felt like like you were nothing in the world and you were ashamed of yourself and all that stuff.
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SPEAKER_01: That's why you're afraid of being abandoned now.
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SPEAKER_01: And that's why you're codependent.
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SPEAKER_01: Because that's now a mechanism that your nervous system is trying to use to try to keep you from getting back into that circumstance.
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SPEAKER_01: And I like to call these apps.
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SPEAKER_01: You know, when you're phone, you have an operating system and you have apps.
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SPEAKER_01: I like to call these apps, adaptive, protective programs, apps.
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SPEAKER_01: And what I'd like to ask when somebody is afraid of taking up more space in the world or asking for what they want or receiving what they want, what I like to ask them is what apps running right now?
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SPEAKER_01: What apps playing?
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SPEAKER_01: Is that the don't want too much app?
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SPEAKER_01: Greed is bad app?
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SPEAKER_01: What is that app?
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SPEAKER_01: What apps play it?
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SPEAKER_01: And when they see that it's just an app, it's not reality, then we can start to move forward.
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SPEAKER_01: Then we can start to go on offense.
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SPEAKER_01: Is this making sense?
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SPEAKER_01: Is this relatable?
10:51
SPEAKER_01: It lit it.
10:52
SPEAKER_01: Is it relatable?
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SPEAKER_01: Give me an if it's not, I'll just put the microphone down and walk away.
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SPEAKER_01: Because my goal here is for you guys to be positively impacted and for you to go out there and make a lot of money.
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SPEAKER_01: Not just for me to give you a couple tactics, strategies, you use them and your life's not better.
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SPEAKER_01: My role is for you to go out in the world and expand in real estate investing, in your relationships, in travel, in whatever you want to experience in life and taking up more space in the world.
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SPEAKER_01: That's what I want.
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SPEAKER_01: I wake up every day with a dream that people that I work with and people that I know look at their calendar and it's all I get to's and know I have to's.
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SPEAKER_01: No obligations.
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SPEAKER_01: That's playing offense.
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SPEAKER_01: When you own your time.
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SPEAKER_01: And if you own your, if you don't own your time, you don't own your life.
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SPEAKER_01: And my goal is to get everybody that I work with in come in contact at that point.
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SPEAKER_01: But in order to do that, we have to understand what playing defense is, and we have to understand what playing offense is.
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SPEAKER_01: Okay.
11:56
SPEAKER_01: So it's not, if it's not relatable, I'm wasting your time.
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SPEAKER_01: And I don't want to waste your time.
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SPEAKER_01: All right.
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SPEAKER_01: Does everybody understand the concept of defense and offense?
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SPEAKER_01: Well, let's defense.
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SPEAKER_01: What have I not mentioned so far that maybe you guys are struggling with and trying to avoid?
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SPEAKER_01: Raise your hand if there's something.
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SPEAKER_01: I I mentioned judgment, I mentioned criticism, I mentioned being seen, being like failure, going broke, go going bankrupt, right?
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SPEAKER_01: Not being able to pay your mortgage.
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SPEAKER_01: These are things we try to avoid.
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SPEAKER_01: What else?
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SPEAKER_01: What else is there?
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SPEAKER_01: Is there anything else that I'm missing?
12:37
SPEAKER_01: There you go.
12:39
SPEAKER_01: Good one.
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SPEAKER_01: Good comparison.
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SPEAKER_01: How about what else?
12:44
SPEAKER_01: Come on, guys.
12:45
SPEAKER_01: We're all human beings together.
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SPEAKER_01: We're all we're all dealing with apps.
12:48
SPEAKER_01: All right.
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SPEAKER_01: There's nothing, there's nothing wrong with anybody.
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SPEAKER_01: Nobody's broken and nobody needs to be fixed.
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SPEAKER_01: Just the people are running different apps.
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SPEAKER_01: What apps are you running?
12:57
SPEAKER_01: Nothing.
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SPEAKER_01: Too many apps.
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SPEAKER_01: I love that.
13:02
SPEAKER_01: Can you name just wine?
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SPEAKER_01: There you go.
13:09
SPEAKER_01: There you go.
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SPEAKER_01: I I I've got it.
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SPEAKER_01: How about how about the I've gotta be busy app?
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SPEAKER_01: I can't I I gotta avoid being still.
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SPEAKER_01: I can't be still and be at peace because that's lazy.
13:19
SPEAKER_01: How about that?
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SPEAKER_01: That's a good one.
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SPEAKER_01: All right.
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SPEAKER_01: That's an app.
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SPEAKER_01: You got that from somewhere.
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SPEAKER_01: And I'm just making shit up.
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SPEAKER_01: But at some point your father said, hey, if you rest, you're lazy.
13:30
SPEAKER_01: You had you had parents, you had family, you had somebody in your life that just taught you that sitting still is means you're lazy and you're wasting your time and you're and you're good for nothing, or blah, blah, blah, blah, blah.
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SPEAKER_01: And now you're running the I always have to be in action in Malian app.
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SPEAKER_01: And I can't sit still because if you sit still and you're lazy, I'm lazy.
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SPEAKER_01: And this is running inside of your body.
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SPEAKER_01: So you sit still and you feel like a piece of garbage because you're sitting still.
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SPEAKER_01: And it's just an app.
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SPEAKER_01: It's an adaptive protective program.
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SPEAKER_01: That's defense.
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SPEAKER_01: Is that living?
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SPEAKER_01: No, you're just trying not to die.
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SPEAKER_01: Ha ha.
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SPEAKER_01: Fun, right?
14:05
SPEAKER_01: When Brian said, the reason I had Brian um introduce me is because we sit down and we we chat every every week.
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SPEAKER_01: We call it our church.
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SPEAKER_01: And this is the stuff that we talk about.
14:17
SPEAKER_01: We don't talk about tactics and strategies of real estate investing.
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SPEAKER_01: We talk about real life stuff, what's happening inside our mind and bodies, worries, doubts, fears, anxieties, how to overcome anxiety, how to overcome all these things, how to return to a place of peace.
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SPEAKER_01: And then when we return to a place of peace, boom, you go.
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SPEAKER_01: Go on offense.
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SPEAKER_01: Get after it.
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SPEAKER_01: All right.
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SPEAKER_01: So we got defense, and defense is just trying to avoid stuff, right?
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SPEAKER_01: Loss.
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SPEAKER_01: Everybody got it?
14:49
SPEAKER_01: All right, give me some energy.
14:50
SPEAKER_01: I'm giving you my energy.
14:51
SPEAKER_01: I need it back.
14:53
SPEAKER_03: Woo!
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SPEAKER_01: All right, going on offense requires.
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SPEAKER_01: Have you ever heard growth or comfort?
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SPEAKER_01: Have you guys ever heard that?
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SPEAKER_01: Growth or comfort.
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SPEAKER_01: You can't have both.
15:07
SPEAKER_01: You'll never be able to have both.
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SPEAKER_01: Growth and comfort doesn't exist.
15:11
SPEAKER_01: It's an or growth or comfort.
15:13
SPEAKER_01: We all agree.
15:15
SPEAKER_01: Because who said uh discomfort?
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SPEAKER_01: Like it your body makes you uncomfortable, and that's that's a mechanism because that's a tactic that your body uses, right?
15:26
SPEAKER_01: When when your body, when you're starting to do something different that's unfamiliar, your your nervous system doesn't like it, and it throws up these discomfort fricking signals, these flares, these, these distress, anxiety, worry, doubt, fear.
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SPEAKER_01: That's your nervous system saying, hey, this is unfamiliar.
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SPEAKER_01: Unfamiliar means I I don't know how to keep you alive.
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SPEAKER_01: So I gotta throw out all this noise, all these flares.
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SPEAKER_01: I gotta make you really, really uncomfortable.
15:55
SPEAKER_01: So you stop what you're doing and get back to something familiar.
15:58
SPEAKER_01: Because your nervous system has one job and one job only.
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SPEAKER_01: What is it?
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SPEAKER_01: Keep you alive.
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SPEAKER_01: How's it try to keep you alive?
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SPEAKER_01: Keeping you in familiar circumstances.
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SPEAKER_01: And it keeps you tries to keep you in familiar circumstances because it has proven effective.
16:14
SPEAKER_01: And then maybe at some point you have the courage to grow and to go through the discomfort, and then you get on the other side of it and you set in new familiar new circumstances and they come become familiar, then that's not uncomfortable anymore, right?
16:32
SPEAKER_01: So offense requires getting really, really intimate and really comfortable being uncomfortable and going into and through the the inevitable discomfort of growth and expansion.
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SPEAKER_01: That's offense.
16:51
SPEAKER_01: Where defense is all about trying not to lose something and trying not trying not to lose something in your life.
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SPEAKER_01: Offense is about expanding your life, living more of life, whatever life has to offer, but it requires going into and through discomfort, which means when you're afraid that that deal might go south, but the numbers are there.
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SPEAKER_01: But what if, what if, what if, what if?
17:20
SPEAKER_01: Drop into your body, recognize what you're feeling and what's happening in there, inquire and investigate what it's telling you, listen to it, and then let it go and sign the papers.
17:31
SPEAKER_01: And not everybody has the ability and the willingness to be that courageous.
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SPEAKER_01: That in that moment you master your nervous system instead of you're letting your nervous system master you.
17:43
SPEAKER_01: Because if you don't master your nervous system, it will master you and you'll be on defense.
17:49
SPEAKER_01: And then you'll get to the end of your life, you'll get ready to take your last exhale, and you'll go through all the regrets of all the things that you didn't that you wanted that you didn't have the courage to do.
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SPEAKER_01: Making sentence?
18:01
SPEAKER_01: We're here to go on offense.
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SPEAKER_01: That's the whole goal.
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SPEAKER_01: Because the successful real estate investors, hi Alexis.
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SPEAKER_01: The the successful people in this room, the successful people that you know, they're on offense.
18:16
SPEAKER_01: You don't you don't become successful and wealthy by playing defense.
18:20
SPEAKER_01: But this is why you'll stay in in a loop, in a pattern, and stay stuck and keep doing the same thing over and over, expecting and hoping for different results, because that's defense, right?
18:29
SPEAKER_01: Does it make sense?
18:31
SPEAKER_01: All right.
18:32
SPEAKER_01: I want to show you some things about offense.
18:34
SPEAKER_01: All right, some of this is gonna get a little gnarly, all right?
18:38
SPEAKER_01: I am here we go.
18:44
SPEAKER_01: So I'm a marine veteran.
18:47
SPEAKER_01: Uh one thing I one of the greatest things that I ever saw uh and experienced in in my Marine Corps time was was basic training.
19:01
SPEAKER_01: So Marine Corps boot camp.
19:03
SPEAKER_01: It's the stupidest thing I ever did, but it's the most beneficial thing I ever did.
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SPEAKER_01: Because the first day you get there, any other Marines in here?
19:10
SPEAKER_01: There we go.
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SPEAKER_01: Seven or five, brother.
19:12
SPEAKER_01: Anyone else there?
19:12
SPEAKER_01: Oh yeah, you are.
19:14
SPEAKER_01: So the first day, and and probably the other the other boot camps too, but I wasn't there, so I can speak to Marine Corps boot camp.
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SPEAKER_01: The first day you're there, you get off the bus and you've got these four or five guys around you, and they're screaming at you.
19:27
SPEAKER_01: One of them says stand up, one of them saying sit down, one's saying get dressed, one's saying get undressed, one's saying jump, one's saying squat.
19:34
SPEAKER_01: They're just yelling, there's they're all around you, and they're just yelling all this stuff, and there's absolutely no way you can win.
19:42
SPEAKER_01: And they don't want you to win.
19:44
SPEAKER_01: They want you really, really uncomfortable.
19:48
SPEAKER_01: They want you really, really stressed out.
19:50
SPEAKER_01: Because you've never been that in that situation before, right?
19:53
SPEAKER_01: So it creates anxiety, it creates panic.
19:56
SPEAKER_01: You start to feel it inside, right?
19:58
SPEAKER_01: Justin, right?
20:00
SPEAKER_01: Uh you start to feel it.
20:01
SPEAKER_01: You you've never felt these things before.
20:03
SPEAKER_01: You've never been so, you've never felt such terror.
20:06
SPEAKER_01: You've never felt such anxiety.
20:08
SPEAKER_01: There's no way to win.
20:10
SPEAKER_01: I'm just trying to win, and you're trying to make them happy, and you're trying to please them so they'll leave you alone, but there's literally no way to win because they don't want you to win.
20:18
SPEAKER_01: And they do that every day for 90 days.
20:21
SPEAKER_01: And guess what?
20:23
SPEAKER_01: On the last day, when they do it, you don't even react.
20:28
SPEAKER_01: The insides of you are at peace, at calm.
20:33
SPEAKER_01: In fact, and the and the Marines that that that were at boot camp, you know, at the end you're laughing at them because they're just idiots.
20:41
SPEAKER_01: Right?
20:41
SPEAKER_01: It's literally you're these guys are around you and they're screaming at you, and you're just kind of like getting a chuckle out of it.
20:47
SPEAKER_01: Why is that?
20:49
SPEAKER_01: Because your nervous system is now rewired around something that's now familiar.
20:54
SPEAKER_01: Does that make sense?
20:56
SPEAKER_01: It's a it's a reconditioning process, but you have to be exposed to it in order for that same craziness to become familiar.
21:06
SPEAKER_01: So now your nervous system knows how to operate in there.
21:09
SPEAKER_01: And literally, there are people, the Marines like or recruits, you kind of chuckle at the tro instructors because they're running around or they are idiots.
21:17
SPEAKER_01: But that's their job.
21:19
SPEAKER_01: Then you get into a combat situation.
21:20
SPEAKER_01: I'm not a combat vet, but then you get into a stressful situation in a world and you can maintain a peaceful presence inside while all hell is raising, uh raging around you.
21:30
SPEAKER_01: And that's why they do it.
21:32
SPEAKER_01: That's why Marines can handle stress.
21:34
SPEAKER_01: Because we were exposed to high levels of stress as as high as you can get in a peacetime environment.
21:40
SPEAKER_01: Does that make sense?
21:42
SPEAKER_01: But you got to go into and through the discomfort of what is not familiar.
21:49
SPEAKER_01: Got it?
21:49
SPEAKER_01: Got it.
21:51
SPEAKER_01: All right.
21:53
SPEAKER_01: This was the most fun, one of the most fun days I ever had for my 51st birthday.
22:00
SPEAKER_01: 51st, 52nd, something.
22:02
SPEAKER_01: Um, my wife, my wife signed us up for a trip to go to uh Monterey Bay, California and go skydiving.
22:10
SPEAKER_01: Bucket list, right?
22:12
SPEAKER_01: And I'm a Marine.
22:15
SPEAKER_01: I was on the ground, and these guys are like, hey, you're nervous?
22:18
SPEAKER_01: I'm like, not yet.
22:19
SPEAKER_01: I will be.
22:20
SPEAKER_01: Well, I'm not yet.
22:21
SPEAKER_01: You know, I wasn't in that moment.
22:22
SPEAKER_01: I wasn't on the ground, getting suited up.
22:24
SPEAKER_01: I wasn't.
22:25
SPEAKER_01: But as you start to take off on the plane, I can start to feel the nerves.
22:30
SPEAKER_01: I can start to feel the nerves.
22:31
SPEAKER_01: And the guy that that's my tandem, we used to in the in the Marine Corps, we call it nuts the butt.
22:36
SPEAKER_01: He's right behind me.
22:38
SPEAKER_01: We're nuts the butt.
22:39
SPEAKER_01: Yeah.
22:40
SPEAKER_01: See, these guys know.
22:42
SPEAKER_01: I'm not making this step up.
22:45
SPEAKER_01: But as we start to go up, I see him start to check his altimeter more and more.
22:49
SPEAKER_01: And I felt the anxiety.
22:50
SPEAKER_01: I felt it brewing, and I felt it.
22:54
SPEAKER_01: And like right, I guess we got to a certain distance, and he reached around me.
23:01
SPEAKER_01: And and that's and that's when you're like, you're tied to like you're literally one person in that moment.
23:09
SPEAKER_01: And I've stopped the flare just went crazy.
23:12
SPEAKER_01: It went crazy.
23:13
SPEAKER_01: And then there were two lights on the on the plane, and one said uh no go, and the other said GTFO.
23:25
SPEAKER_01: And when that green light came on, my whole body went numb.
23:29
SPEAKER_01: And I am not joking.
23:31
SPEAKER_01: I am not joking.
23:33
SPEAKER_01: And he stood up and he was about this tall.
23:36
SPEAKER_01: And right.
23:37
SPEAKER_01: So so he's trying to pick me up, and and he can't like pick me up, and literally I'll take in my legs, and I'm trying to pick my legs up and get under the frickin' door.
23:47
SPEAKER_01: And my legs are kind of numb.
23:48
SPEAKER_01: And I'm not joking.
23:51
SPEAKER_01: Now, why is that?
23:53
SPEAKER_01: What happened?
23:55
SPEAKER_01: What was my nervous system trying to do?
23:57
SPEAKER_01: Keep me alive?
24:00
SPEAKER_01: That's it.
24:01
SPEAKER_01: Your nervous system is one job.
24:03
SPEAKER_01: I hope you guys never ever forget this.
24:05
SPEAKER_01: Your nervous system is one job only to keep you alive.
24:07
SPEAKER_01: He tries to keep you alive by keeping you in familiar circumstances.
24:10
SPEAKER_01: Was jumping out of a plane familiar to me?
24:13
SPEAKER_01: Now look at that dude.
24:16
SPEAKER_01: That guy, he's from first of all, he's from uh New Zealand.
24:19
SPEAKER_01: That's a sexy shit.
24:21
SPEAKER_01: It was a sexy dude.
24:22
SPEAKER_01: That dude, that dude gets chased every day, I'm telling you.
24:25
SPEAKER_01: He's got the job of a lifetime.
24:27
SPEAKER_01: He jumps out of that plane six times a day, right?
24:30
SPEAKER_01: Look at that.
24:31
SPEAKER_01: He's been out of that thing hundreds of times.
24:33
SPEAKER_01: You think he has any discomfort jumping out of that plane?
24:36
SPEAKER_01: Why?
24:38
SPEAKER_01: Because it's familiar.
24:40
SPEAKER_01: The first time he jumped out, I bet he wasn't that comfortable.
24:43
SPEAKER_01: Because your nervous system has one job and one job always to keep you alive and tries to keep you alive by keeping you familiar circumstances because it is proven to be able to keep you alive there.
24:52
SPEAKER_01: Does that make sense?
24:53
SPEAKER_01: Are you guys seeing into and through the discofer?
24:57
SPEAKER_01: You gotta be willing to go into and through.
25:00
SPEAKER_01: Courage is not the absence of fear, it's the presence of fear and the ability and the willingness to go into the fear.
25:09
SPEAKER_01: Okay?
25:10
SPEAKER_01: Make sense?
25:11
SPEAKER_01: Awesome.
25:12
SPEAKER_01: I've been told I say that too often.
25:16
SPEAKER_01: All right, this was my crowning at Jeep.
25:18
SPEAKER_04: Bravey.
25:21
SPEAKER_01: Stand up if you were in the room when I did this.
25:24
SPEAKER_01: Reluctant.
25:26
SPEAKER_01: You guys, they don't want to admit it.
25:29
SPEAKER_01: So I had my mastermind retreat, and I used it as an avenue and and as a as an opportunity to take another step in life to recon start to recondition my nervous system.
25:42
SPEAKER_01: Anybody in here deal with body issues?
25:45
SPEAKER_01: Body shame.
25:46
SPEAKER_01: Yep.
25:47
SPEAKER_01: The rest of you that are that aren't like with your hands up and you're liars.
25:50
SPEAKER_01: But anyway, body shame since I'm since a really young boy.
25:56
SPEAKER_01: Like as far as I can remember, boobs and belly, right?
26:00
SPEAKER_01: As far as I can remember, and I just never wanted to be seen.
26:03
SPEAKER_01: So me and my wife would go down the beach.
26:05
SPEAKER_01: We I'd try to hide my body.
26:06
SPEAKER_01: I wouldn't take my shirt off.
26:08
SPEAKER_01: All these things, anything for that to not have my body be seen.
26:12
SPEAKER_01: And I started teaching going on offense.
26:14
SPEAKER_01: And I said, What?
26:16
SPEAKER_01: I'm the leader.
26:17
SPEAKER_01: I'm the mastermind leader.
26:18
SPEAKER_01: I gotta, I gotta lead.
26:19
SPEAKER_01: I gotta show them what this looks like.
26:21
SPEAKER_01: So they had no idea.
26:23
SPEAKER_01: The only person that knew was my wife.
26:25
SPEAKER_01: So I said, guys, I want to show you what going on offense is.
26:27
SPEAKER_01: And I started shaking.
26:28
SPEAKER_01: They could see it.
26:29
SPEAKER_01: They could see that I was visibly visibly anxious.
26:32
SPEAKER_01: True.
26:33
SPEAKER_01: I was a nervous wreck.
26:35
SPEAKER_01: I said, I don't and my voice is cracking.
26:37
SPEAKER_01: And I said, I got to do this for my benefit and to show you what going on offense is.
26:42
SPEAKER_01: So I took off all my clothes and I taught like that.
26:45
SPEAKER_01: And and by then about an hour in, the nerves were gone.
26:51
SPEAKER_01: Into and through.
26:52
SPEAKER_01: Be willing to do what most people aren't.
26:55
SPEAKER_01: Go on offense.
26:56
SPEAKER_01: Into and through.
26:57
SPEAKER_01: Don't try to avoid it.
26:58
SPEAKER_01: Try to avoid being seen as defense.
27:01
SPEAKER_01: Taking your clothes off in front of people.
27:03
SPEAKER_01: Right?
27:04
SPEAKER_01: When you're when you have body shame.
27:06
SPEAKER_01: I was like, what can I do legally?
27:08
SPEAKER_01: The least amount of clothes that'll keep me from going to jail.
27:13
SPEAKER_01: That's what that was.
27:15
SPEAKER_01: And it it was an act of courage because I don't want my nervous system to own my life and to create my life.
27:22
SPEAKER_01: And my wife and I just got back from Oktoberfest bucket list.
27:28
SPEAKER_01: It was never the right time.
27:29
SPEAKER_01: Yeah, but it was.
27:31
SPEAKER_01: It doesn't mean it was like the most comfortable decision to make because that was a good bit of money.
27:36
SPEAKER_01: But we went over to Munich Journey, Germany, spent five days there, went to Oktoberfest, took a train to Vienna, spent four days there, took a train, went, went for a day trip to uh Bratislava, um, Slovakia, then jumped on a train and went to when spent four days in in Prague.
27:54
SPEAKER_01: A lot of money, uncomfortable, but man, I want to live.
27:58
SPEAKER_01: Go on offense.
27:59
SPEAKER_01: All right, makes sense.
28:01
SPEAKER_01: Can you see how this not what it'll show up in like your life and your quality of life and your inner quality of life, but it can also have a massive impact on your wealth.
28:12
SPEAKER_01: Because in order to accumulate wealth, you need to ask for what you want.
28:16
SPEAKER_01: You need to ask for what you want.
28:18
SPEAKER_01: At the end of this, I'm gonna ask you guys for what I want.
28:21
SPEAKER_01: All right, because I want stuff too.
28:23
SPEAKER_01: And pretending that we don't want anything or need anything, what is that?
28:27
SPEAKER_01: Offense or defense?
28:29
SPEAKER_01: Pretending that we don't have wants and needs is playing defense.
28:33
SPEAKER_01: All right?
28:34
SPEAKER_01: Makes sense.
28:34
SPEAKER_01: And a lot of people are trying to pretend, like trying to show they they want they have no wants and oh, I don't need anything.
28:39
SPEAKER_01: It's okay, I'm a helper.
28:41
SPEAKER_01: Bullshit.
28:43
SPEAKER_01: You're a helper because you'll want something.
28:45
SPEAKER_01: And maybe it feels good to want something, or maybe it feels good to help.
28:49
SPEAKER_01: But at the end of the day, your needs and wants matter too.
28:52
SPEAKER_01: But if you don't ask for what you want, you're not gonna get it.
28:54
SPEAKER_01: But you gotta know what you want.
28:57
SPEAKER_01: Any questions about that?
28:59
SPEAKER_01: Are we good so far?
29:00
SPEAKER_01: You track it with me.
29:02
SPEAKER_01: Okay.
29:03
SPEAKER_01: I don't know how I am on time, but I okay, good.
29:08
SPEAKER_01: All right, guys.
29:10
SPEAKER_01: One of the things about offense is anything you get clear about, anything that you get super, super clear about and you focus on can become a reality in your life.
29:29
SPEAKER_01: But you're gonna have to do different things, you're gonna have to say different things, you're gonna have to feel different things, and your nervous system is gonna fight that.
29:36
SPEAKER_01: Brian, do you agree?
29:37
SPEAKER_03: Yes.
29:38
SPEAKER_01: Okay.
29:38
SPEAKER_01: He's sitting there shaking his head, so I set him up as a softball.
29:42
SPEAKER_01: You're gonna have to, you're gonna have to be a different person and act different and say different things in order to expand and to get what you want, which you're ultimately after.
29:54
SPEAKER_01: And most people like they don't want that discomfort in their life, so they just keep settling for the same thing over and over, and then they take their last exhale and die.
30:03
SPEAKER_01: And they just played it safe and secure their whole life, and they're dead.
30:08
SPEAKER_01: And I'm gonna keep beating on that because you guys, you're gonna die.
30:15
SPEAKER_01: You're gonna die.
30:17
SPEAKER_01: No, we all are, but not everybody's living.
30:22
SPEAKER_01: A lot of people are just trying to stay alive until they die.
30:26
SPEAKER_01: Does that make any sense?
30:28
SPEAKER_01: That doesn't sound like a fun life to me.
30:30
SPEAKER_01: But guys, one of the things that Brian taught me a long time ago, one of the first things he said, we've been friends for about 10 years now, and we meet every week and we have church, and one of the first things he asked me is, What do you want?
30:45
SPEAKER_01: And back then I was like, I don't know.
30:49
SPEAKER_01: I don't really know what I want.
30:51
SPEAKER_01: And he said, Mike, that's the biggest impediment to success and wealth, is everybody knows what they don't want and play defense to avoid it.
31:00
SPEAKER_01: But not many people know what they want and go get.
31:05
SPEAKER_01: Is that not what you told me?
31:07
SPEAKER_01: Everybody knows what they don't want, and everybody wakes up every day to avoid it.
31:14
SPEAKER_01: Defense.
31:15
SPEAKER_01: Sound familiar?
31:16
SPEAKER_01: You know anybody like that?
31:18
SPEAKER_01: Everybody, if I say, hey, what don't you want to experience?
31:21
SPEAKER_01: People can give me a laundry list.
31:22
SPEAKER_01: What do you want?
31:23
SPEAKER_01: I don't know, never thought about it.
31:26
SPEAKER_01: And whatever you focus on grows.
31:28
SPEAKER_01: So if you if you're not clear about exactly what you want, you're gonna keep repeating the pattern still avoiding what you don't want.
31:36
SPEAKER_01: So it's really, really critical that we get clear about what we want.
31:44
SPEAKER_03: How do you go so far?
31:51
SPEAKER_01: Okay.
31:53
SPEAKER_01: Thank you for holding my mind.
31:58
SPEAKER_01: Brian and I often talk about having a vision for your life.
32:03
SPEAKER_01: And my mastermind folks and people that I work with, they get tired.
32:07
SPEAKER_01: I'm sure they get tired of me asking, what's your vision say?
32:10
SPEAKER_01: Do you have a vision?
32:11
SPEAKER_01: Do you have a vision?
32:12
SPEAKER_01: Are you clear?
32:12
SPEAKER_01: Do you know exactly what you want?
32:14
SPEAKER_01: What do you want?
32:15
SPEAKER_01: Document it, write it down.
32:16
SPEAKER_01: Don't just tell me, show me.
32:18
SPEAKER_01: In detail, I want to know exactly what it is.
32:21
SPEAKER_01: And 10 years ago, I filed for divorce from a wife, from this wife.
32:26
SPEAKER_01: This one.
32:27
SPEAKER_01: Not another one, but I filed for divorce from this one.
32:30
SPEAKER_01: And Monday is our 25th wedding anniversary.
32:39
SPEAKER_01: And 10 years ago, I filed for divorce.
32:42
SPEAKER_01: And I'm going to get emotional because I love my wife.
32:47
SPEAKER_01: And I love my wife with my wife.
32:49
SPEAKER_01: She's my best friend and she's the best travel partner in the world.
32:54
SPEAKER_01: And when we were going through the shit, and after I filed for a divorce, I wrote on a piece of paper what I actually wanted in a relationship.
33:05
SPEAKER_01: And it was something really, really close to this.
33:07
SPEAKER_01: This is revised since then, but it was very close to this.
33:11
SPEAKER_01: Our relationship was garbage.
33:14
SPEAKER_01: Okay?
33:15
SPEAKER_01: You got to realize it was physically, mentally, emotionally abusive.
33:19
SPEAKER_01: She was in active drug addiction.
33:21
SPEAKER_01: I was drinking a frickin' 10 gallons of beer every day.
33:26
SPEAKER_01: It was our relationship was garbage, and we were not in a good space.
33:30
SPEAKER_01: And our something very similar to this.
33:32
SPEAKER_01: And I am going to cry.
33:35
SPEAKER_01: Anchie and I enjoy and experience a deeply connected, bonded, committed, peaceful and loving relationship rooted in our friendship and our natural, authentic enjoyment of each other.
33:52
SPEAKER_01: The world watches us and sees us as a model of a healthy partnership, showing others a possibility that many believe doesn't exist.
34:04
SPEAKER_01: We travel multiple times each month.
34:07
SPEAKER_01: At that point, we were traveling none, very little, to places we enjoy, while Inner Wealth Global now, this is one of the additions because back then Inner Wealth Global, my business, our business, it didn't exist.
34:20
SPEAKER_01: While Inner Wealth Global continues to run and create exceptional impact in this world, Angie and I support, encourage, and inspire each other to new levels of personal power, expansion, and familiar uh fulfillment in life.
34:35
SPEAKER_01: We model this for our children by living in our own integrity and demonstrating uh now the kind of life and relationship they didn't experience growing up.
34:53
SPEAKER_01: Not anymore.
35:01
SPEAKER_01: Creating a lasting impact on them through the fullest expression of ourselves long after we die.
35:07
SPEAKER_01: Angie and I always have more than we need, and all of our children's needs are met at all times.
35:12
SPEAKER_01: In all of my relationships, I've remained true to myself and live from personal power, personal authority, personal sovereignty, and personal integrity.
35:21
SPEAKER_01: I take full accountability for myself while allowing others to take full accountability for themselves.
35:27
SPEAKER_01: Codependent?
35:29
SPEAKER_01: Recovering codependent?
35:31
SPEAKER_01: My relationships are an opportunity to experience authentic love, deep connection, and the fullest and depth of life.
35:41
SPEAKER_01: Does this sound pretty awesome?
35:43
SPEAKER_01: I wrote most of that when my life was shit.
35:48
SPEAKER_01: But I got clear about what I wanted.
35:50
SPEAKER_01: And most people know exactly what they don't want, but very few people know it know what they want.
35:56
SPEAKER_01: You can have anything you want, but you gotta know what you want.
36:00
SPEAKER_01: And you gotta believe that you can have it.
36:03
SPEAKER_01: And you gotta believe in yourself and you gotta trust yourself.
36:07
SPEAKER_01: And God, you gotta stop playing defense.
36:11
SPEAKER_01: You gotta go on offense.
36:14
SPEAKER_01: It took courage to write that down.
36:16
SPEAKER_01: That was going on offense.
36:18
SPEAKER_01: And sometimes when I ask my clients and my students, have you wrote down your vision?
36:22
SPEAKER_01: They say no.
36:23
SPEAKER_01: And I'll say, why?
36:24
SPEAKER_01: And they say, because I just haven't committed to time.
36:26
SPEAKER_01: And I'm inside I'm thinking, no, you're not courageous enough.
36:30
SPEAKER_01: Because you got to pace yourself.
36:33
SPEAKER_01: And you don't have the courage yet.
36:36
SPEAKER_01: And then I get them to sit down and do the exercise and write something.
36:41
SPEAKER_01: It's not going to sound like that.
36:42
SPEAKER_01: It's going to sound like what they want from their authentic place.
36:47
SPEAKER_01: And after they finish, they're like, that feels great.
36:51
SPEAKER_01: I'm like, okay, now here's what I want you to do.
36:55
SPEAKER_01: Tomorrow when you wake up, I want you to read it.
36:58
SPEAKER_01: And I want you to visualize yourself in that life.
37:01
SPEAKER_01: And I want you to feel the existence of that life.
37:04
SPEAKER_01: And then they don't do it because they're still in the old pattern.
37:10
SPEAKER_01: And in order to be different, in order to have different, you gotta, you gotta like, you gotta do something different.
37:16
SPEAKER_01: Because if you always do the, if you always do what you always did, you always get what you always got.
37:20
SPEAKER_01: So we gotta pattern interrupt that thing somewhere.
37:23
SPEAKER_01: And when, when you're on offense and you start to, you're you're going forward and you start to experience that internal turmoil, that worry, doubt, and fear, that's the perfect time to break up, break out the vision and remind yourself of what you want and stop focusing on what you don't want.
37:43
SPEAKER_01: Stop worrying about failure and start reminding yourself of why you're existing, that vision.
37:49
SPEAKER_01: You're that's why you're here.
37:52
SPEAKER_01: That's God's dream inside of you.
37:55
SPEAKER_01: You are a powerful creator.
37:57
SPEAKER_01: God put that dream inside of you.
38:00
SPEAKER_01: It's not just yours.
38:02
SPEAKER_01: God wants to experience it with you.
38:04
SPEAKER_01: He wants to create it with you.
38:06
SPEAKER_01: God wants to live that vision, that dream with you.
38:11
SPEAKER_01: But you gotta get out of God's way.
38:15
SPEAKER_01: You got to get your nervous system out of God's way.
38:19
SPEAKER_01: And that's what the pattern interrupt is for.
38:22
SPEAKER_01: To remind yourself of what you want and stop focusing on what you don't want.
38:27
SPEAKER_01: And what I've noticed is most people, probably 98% of people's uh lives are spent organized, they organize everything around their problems.
38:38
SPEAKER_01: They don't organize their life around their vision, they organize it around their problems.
38:43
SPEAKER_01: And they go from problem to problem and never feel like they're getting anywhere.
38:47
SPEAKER_01: Because their life is organized around problems because they don't really know what they want.
38:52
SPEAKER_01: They're just doing stuff, hoping to feel something different.
38:56
SPEAKER_01: Does any of this sound familiar?
38:59
SPEAKER_01: Yeah, good.
39:01
SPEAKER_01: Good.
39:02
SPEAKER_01: Because in order, in order for anything to get better, you gotta face reality, you gotta face facts, and you just gotta be honest and truthful with yourself.
39:10
SPEAKER_01: And until you are honest and truthful, you're just gonna keep this doing the same thing over and over, expecting different results.
39:18
SPEAKER_01: Defense.
39:20
SPEAKER_01: The vision, the vision is the greatest toll that I know of to get you out of defense, to get you focused back on to your intentions, what you want, your desires, that dream that God put in your heart when you were born.
39:40
SPEAKER_01: Because your dream looks different than mine.
39:42
SPEAKER_01: My dream looks different than yours because they're not supposed to be the same.
39:47
SPEAKER_01: And sometimes we build our life around what everybody else wants for us, and we never really live what we what's true for us, what's authentic for us.
39:57
SPEAKER_01: You feeling me?
40:00
SPEAKER_01: Any questions about that?
40:03
SPEAKER_01: Hopefully, this was a little shock therapy.
40:08
SPEAKER_01: Because if you leave the same person, then I haven't done my job.
40:13
SPEAKER_04: How do you decide what you're doing?
40:15
SPEAKER_01: You gotta you gotta great question.
40:18
SPEAKER_01: You gotta sit the hell down with no distractions and focus.
40:24
SPEAKER_01: And most people won't do that.
40:26
SPEAKER_01: They keep coming up with distractions because it's hard to face yourself.
40:30
SPEAKER_01: It truly is hard to face yourself.
40:34
SPEAKER_00: Okay.
40:37
SPEAKER_01: Is that I I know you gotta, I know you got does that answer?
40:41
SPEAKER_01: The first step is to sit down with a piece of paper and and just start like writing.
40:45
SPEAKER_01: That's it.
40:46
SPEAKER_01: I I mean it it it doesn't get any uh simpler than that.
40:50
SPEAKER_01: You just gotta sit down and start writing.
40:52
SPEAKER_01: What do I want?
40:53
SPEAKER_01: Ask yourself the question, not what have I settled for, not what do I have?
40:56
SPEAKER_01: And don't try to get from here to there.
41:00
SPEAKER_01: Pretend this doesn't exist.
41:02
SPEAKER_01: If I were to build my life right now, what would it look like?
41:06
SPEAKER_01: And you know what?
41:06
SPEAKER_01: I've had people say, I don't want to be married to the person that I'm married to.
41:14
SPEAKER_01: And they start crying because it's the first time they ever got real with themselves and admitted it.
41:22
SPEAKER_01: Key to a great vision, I got you, bud.
41:23
SPEAKER_01: Brand Brandon, the key to a gray vision is not worrying about how it's going to happen and not worrying about when it's gonna happen.
41:34
SPEAKER_01: That's God's business.
41:35
SPEAKER_01: That's none of your business.
41:37
SPEAKER_01: Your job is what you want.
41:40
SPEAKER_01: You focus on the what he's next.
41:44
SPEAKER_01: You you focus on the what you don't worry about the how and the what.
41:49
SPEAKER_01: All right, Brandon, what's up?
41:51
SPEAKER_00: What if you know your dream, but you don't know the first steps to take?
41:56
SPEAKER_01: Great question.
41:57
SPEAKER_01: That's a great question.
41:58
SPEAKER_01: You don't do you know, do you know any step?
42:02
SPEAKER_01: Even small.
42:03
SPEAKER_01: Something different than yesterday.
42:05
SPEAKER_01: It is even something small.
42:08
SPEAKER_01: Me showing up here, right?
42:11
SPEAKER_01: That's it.
42:11
SPEAKER_01: Did you hear that?
42:13
SPEAKER_01: He he said, he said, What what if you if you know what you want, but you don't know what to do, the first or or the first or or second step.
42:21
SPEAKER_01: I said I said, You don't be well, what do you do if you don't know the next steps?
42:25
SPEAKER_01: And I said, You don't know it all?
42:26
SPEAKER_01: How about a small step?
42:28
SPEAKER_01: What's a small step?
42:29
SPEAKER_01: And he said, Well, I'm here.
42:30
SPEAKER_01: There you go.
42:32
SPEAKER_01: There you go.
42:34
SPEAKER_01: If you always do what you always did, you always get what you always got.
42:38
SPEAKER_01: I'd love to have a conversation with you, man.
42:40
SPEAKER_01: Because we can we can unlock it, brother.
42:42
SPEAKER_01: All right.
42:42
SPEAKER_01: That there's nothing better than having an ally, and that's why he and I meet.
42:46
SPEAKER_01: Friends waste time with you.
42:48
SPEAKER_01: Allies, you pour into each other so you level each other up.
42:51
SPEAKER_01: You don't waste time together.
42:53
SPEAKER_01: That that's right.
42:55
SPEAKER_01: If I this is my ally because when when we converse, he leaves better and I leave better.
43:02
SPEAKER_01: We don't just waste time together.
43:03
SPEAKER_01: All right.
43:04
SPEAKER_01: Thank you.
43:05
SPEAKER_01: Great question.
43:06
SPEAKER_01: I'd love to have a conversation.
43:07
SPEAKER_01: I'm gonna give you an opportunity to as well.
43:09
SPEAKER_01: Go.
43:09
SPEAKER_04: All right, great talk.
43:11
SPEAKER_04: So I had a question.
43:13
SPEAKER_04: Um we were talking about getting out of being uncomfortable.
43:18
SPEAKER_04: And I'm curious, how like what is the difference between like I don't know, discernment of like like you're feeling like you really shouldn't be doing something, but just that inner feeling like not be doing this?
43:33
SPEAKER_04: Or you know, you need to get up at that.
43:35
SPEAKER_04: So how did how do you disburn those two things?
43:38
SPEAKER_04: Like, you're really not supposed to decide that, or you're supposed to get out of here comfortable, design it.
43:44
SPEAKER_04: Does that make sense?
43:47
SPEAKER_01: Is it going to move me closer to my to my vision?
43:51
SPEAKER_01: Is this thing going to move me closer to my vision or is it is it for something else that I don't plan and intend?
43:58
SPEAKER_01: This is your guiding document.
44:00
SPEAKER_01: Okay.
44:01
SPEAKER_01: Does that make sense?
44:01
SPEAKER_01: What's your name?
44:02
SPEAKER_01: Joy?
44:03
SPEAKER_01: Joy, this is your guiding document.
44:05
SPEAKER_01: If you don't have this or something like this, then you'll never know if it's the right decision or the right thing to be focused on.
44:11
SPEAKER_01: All right.
44:12
SPEAKER_01: But inspired action, you're inspired by this.
44:17
SPEAKER_01: And then the action might be uncomfortable because it's it's unfamiliar.
44:22
SPEAKER_01: But creating this and achieving this and experiencing this, it's going to be uncomfortable.
44:28
SPEAKER_01: So if it's if it's the next thing in here that can move you closer, it's the right thing to do.
44:35
SPEAKER_01: Does that make sense?
44:37
SPEAKER_01: There's there's things that you're that are going to come up that are going to be hell no's because they're not being driven by an inspired vision.
44:46
SPEAKER_01: And there's a big difference between a hell no and some discomfort that we just have to navigate.
44:52
SPEAKER_01: And if you get really, really clear, you'll you'll you'll discern the difference.
44:56
SPEAKER_01: But you gotta listen.
44:57
SPEAKER_01: And you you gotta be just like I said before, you gotta be willing to sit down, like without distraction, and get really, really into yourself and clear and start to contemplate what's really going on inside of you.
45:07
SPEAKER_01: It's a hard thing for people to do.
45:10
SPEAKER_01: God, I'm a blowering mess.
45:14
SPEAKER_01: I haven't started like I haven't stopped draining ever since I started crying.
45:20
SPEAKER_01: Any other questions?
45:22
SPEAKER_01: Boom.
45:24
SPEAKER_01: Mr.
45:25
SPEAKER_01: Beard.
45:26
SPEAKER_01: I love this man.
45:28
SPEAKER_01: We me and thank you so much.
45:33
SPEAKER_01: Ready, watch this.
45:43
SPEAKER_03: Oh yeah, but so smart.
45:45
SPEAKER_03: Alright, so 2022, I was running W2 job full time.
45:50
SPEAKER_03: He knew I wanted to be a real estate ambassador.
45:52
SPEAKER_03: I joined Mike's massive mic.
45:54
SPEAKER_03: I was with Mike for about a year.
45:56
SPEAKER_03: He really helped me get out of my old way to get like move forward.
46:00
SPEAKER_03: I also go for seven-year-old apple that might be zero in A of 2043.
46:04
SPEAKER_03: You have one?
46:05
SPEAKER_03: So I should.
46:07
SPEAKER_03: I don't know.
46:08
SPEAKER_03: And you want to know what's also spoken?
46:10
SPEAKER_03: Right?
46:10
SPEAKER_03: That vision is like creating a destination on the it is.
46:16
SPEAKER_03: So why not tributary is sort of destination?
46:18
SPEAKER_03: And that is where your destination, where you go and where you end up moving.
46:24
SPEAKER_03: For here, there it's not the straight line, it's got linear, it's the ups and downs.
46:28
SPEAKER_03: Or I can tell you what, from that as you roll this car, you're gonna light, you're gonna get there.
46:32
SPEAKER_03: And my vision's pretty dumb close.
46:34
SPEAKER_03: So while I wrote three years.
46:35
SPEAKER_01: As long as you hold true to it, as long as you hold it and be clearly in your mind, man.
46:40
SPEAKER_01: If what do you focus on grows, it did this guy had a job.
46:43
SPEAKER_01: He was a we well, we we call him W-2s, right?
46:46
SPEAKER_01: It's almost like it's almost like a shameful word in the in the investor space, right?
46:51
SPEAKER_01: But but he had a W-2 and he wanted to leave his W-2, and and and he could have left it a lot a lot sooner, but he finally left it.
46:59
SPEAKER_01: And now he has time freedom and freedom in his business.
47:01
SPEAKER_01: And he's married to a wonderful woman who's not there.
47:04
SPEAKER_03: She's a lot of drinking also fear.
47:06
SPEAKER_01: Oh, that's right.
47:08
SPEAKER_03: So again, fear, regarding fear.
47:10
SPEAKER_03: It took me years to eat my W2.
47:12
SPEAKER_03: By the time I get it, I left it.
47:14
SPEAKER_03: Four months later, I'd replaced my income.
47:17
SPEAKER_03: This stuff is and uh 90% of this is ruining legitimate.
47:25
SPEAKER_03: Like I I since that's all gone as his uh T things involves many.
47:31
SPEAKER_01: I love you, man.
47:32
SPEAKER_01: You man, I love P Mun.
47:35
SPEAKER_01: I've sat down.
47:36
SPEAKER_01: Does anybody know Melanie Touche?
47:39
SPEAKER_01: You guys know who Melanie Toucci is?
47:40
SPEAKER_01: Yeah, yeah, and Enzo.
47:43
SPEAKER_01: Those are two of my favorite human beings.
47:45
SPEAKER_01: Because I sat down with Melanie Tuscy and Enzo, and it was it, they weren't even in my mastermind.
47:51
SPEAKER_01: They joined this shortly after.
47:53
SPEAKER_01: And I asked Melanie, I say, what do you love?
47:56
SPEAKER_01: Like that's the question I ask.
47:57
SPEAKER_01: I love to ask.
47:58
SPEAKER_01: What do you love?
47:59
SPEAKER_01: And she said, I love to travel.
48:01
SPEAKER_01: I was like, ah, me too.
48:03
SPEAKER_01: It's my favorite thing.
48:04
SPEAKER_01: Like it's medicine, right?
48:05
SPEAKER_01: Me and John were just talking about that.
48:07
SPEAKER_01: Going to Munich, going to Oktoberfest and leaving sober.
48:10
SPEAKER_01: That's crazy.
48:13
SPEAKER_01: But me and Angie were the only people in the tent sharing beers.
48:17
SPEAKER_01: And we like we share.
48:19
SPEAKER_01: But anyway.
48:20
SPEAKER_01: I asked Melanie, I said, what do you love?
48:23
SPEAKER_01: And she said, I love travel.
48:24
SPEAKER_01: I said, do you travel a lot?
48:27
SPEAKER_01: She's like, not as much as I want.
48:28
SPEAKER_01: I'm like, why not?
48:29
SPEAKER_01: She said, because I don't have the money to travel as much as I want.
48:33
SPEAKER_01: Like, well, what do you do?
48:34
SPEAKER_01: She's like, I wholesale.
48:36
SPEAKER_01: Do you love wholesaling?
48:37
SPEAKER_01: She said, no, I wholesale to pay for my travel.
48:40
SPEAKER_01: I said, why don't we start a travel business?
48:43
SPEAKER_01: And guess what?
48:44
SPEAKER_01: She does now.
48:45
SPEAKER_01: She runs about eight trips a year.
48:47
SPEAKER_01: Brian's been on.
48:48
SPEAKER_01: She she takes about what 12 people, eight, eight, 10, 12 people on an adventure.
48:54
SPEAKER_01: They go over to Europe, they go down to South America, and she's making money and she's monetized her passion.
49:00
SPEAKER_01: Isn't that crazy?
49:02
SPEAKER_01: And Enzo, I turned my attention to Enzo and I said, Enzo, what do you love?
49:06
SPEAKER_01: He's like, Man, I love comedy.
49:07
SPEAKER_01: I've always wanted to do comedy.
49:09
SPEAKER_01: So I pulled out my phone and I got a comedian friend named Will O'Dono in the local area.
49:13
SPEAKER_01: And I said, Will, I got a friend I want you to meet.
49:15
SPEAKER_01: I've made a connection.
49:16
SPEAKER_01: Now he's doing comedy shows around the friggin' around the state.
49:19
SPEAKER_01: Like this stuff is not that hard.
49:21
SPEAKER_01: We just got to know what we want and ask for it.
49:24
SPEAKER_01: Does that make sense?
49:26
SPEAKER_01: Corey Boyles.
49:28
SPEAKER_01: Corey Boyles, he's a photographer, local photographer.
49:30
SPEAKER_01: Does a lot of real he used to do a lot of real estate photography.
49:33
SPEAKER_01: Here having a conversation.
49:35
SPEAKER_01: Said, what do you love?
49:36
SPEAKER_01: He said, photography.
49:37
SPEAKER_01: I said, why don't we start a photography business?
49:38
SPEAKER_01: He said, You think I could be a successful photographer?
49:41
SPEAKER_01: Now he's the best photographer in that was, I didn't say the F-word.
49:44
SPEAKER_01: That was the bet, he's the best photographer in St.
49:46
SPEAKER_01: Louis area.
49:47
SPEAKER_01: Like, this stuff's not that hard.
49:49
SPEAKER_01: We just got to get clear about what we want and start focusing on it.
49:52
SPEAKER_01: Make sense?
49:54
SPEAKER_01: All right.
49:56
SPEAKER_01: It won't be certain.
49:59
SPEAKER_01: You won't know how.
50:00
SPEAKER_01: You won't have all the clear steps.
50:02
SPEAKER_01: We just need to keep taking this the next step, the next logical step, the next step, the next step.
50:07
SPEAKER_01: And some of them are going to take a step so we can realize it wasn't really the step, so we can actually find the right step.
50:13
SPEAKER_01: But the what is up to you, the how and the when is not.
50:17
SPEAKER_01: The goal is putting what you want on the on that piece of paper and letting that being you be your guiding principle instead of the worry doll fear inside of you.
50:26
SPEAKER_01: That's why we're here.
50:28
SPEAKER_02: What other questions?
50:32
SPEAKER_00: You know, the you know the other question.
50:34
SPEAKER_00: Missletter Marks.
50:35
SPEAKER_00: Yes, sir.
50:36
SPEAKER_00: So I'm gonna piggyback up on that second.
50:38
SPEAKER_00: He was at my expression for three years because we fed this with and I I love telling this story.
50:46
SPEAKER_00: I just absolutely love tang story.
50:49
SPEAKER_00: So we're in a mastermind in San Antonio.
50:54
SPEAKER_00: Uh, where fool about Mike is there's poke the pear, then there's Mike Kitko.
50:59
SPEAKER_01: That's right.
51:00
SPEAKER_01: I I do I beat you in and tell you I love you.
51:04
SPEAKER_00: I I know, I know.
51:05
SPEAKER_00: He's the one he's the one person that uh he's not afraid to tell you what you don't want to hear when you need to hear it.
51:12
SPEAKER_00: Like there was that meme that was going on.
51:15
SPEAKER_00: I saw that it's Mike.
51:17
SPEAKER_00: I was like, look like he's punching his thumb out.
51:19
SPEAKER_00: I'm like, yeah, Mike's the guy that likes to punch it in the face that will chew you on at the same time.
51:24
SPEAKER_01: I wasn't I wasn't gonna tell the story, but there's one guy in this room that I made really, really uncomfortable in a retreat, and in that moment, he was pissed.
51:35
SPEAKER_01: That was yours.
51:36
SPEAKER_01: He was pissed and it was tense.
51:40
SPEAKER_01: But after after he realized why I was doing that, right, we're still friends, and I I was I'm full of love.
51:48
SPEAKER_01: I just wanted to see him achieve what he wanted to achieve.
51:51
SPEAKER_00: What's cool about what you help me with, Mike, and I've seen her bring up about this is go big grandco Matt said is still using those techniques to this day, is I what I learned I didn't know how to feel.
52:02
SPEAKER_00: I realized that I didn't even know how to do that.
52:06
SPEAKER_00: And then two, you know, I learned and you know, I had a plenty of conversations with Brian about this is you know, that's cool to create division, that's easy.
52:15
SPEAKER_00: But it's like, what do you need to let go that's holding you back from doing it?
52:20
SPEAKER_00: And me was letting go a BAM and a rejection for being at the opposite I'm expert.
52:25
SPEAKER_00: I don't know who my real parents are.
52:27
SPEAKER_00: And you know, I learned that being a delivered with Mike, and over time continuing to do his teachings.
52:34
SPEAKER_00: What's cool is like his teachings make like a thousand times more sense afterwards, you know, than during.
52:41
SPEAKER_00: And using those techniques, I've let that go.
52:44
SPEAKER_00: I just had a very inspirational conversation with Mike and Ryan like out of here.
52:48
SPEAKER_00: Just I wrote a uh business plan, bitch to deport banks, I got four yeses.
52:52
SPEAKER_00: Let's go.
52:53
SPEAKER_00: You know, so it's like, yeah, it's like I totally, I totally get that.
52:57
SPEAKER_00: And one of the cool things I remember about being your group, Mike, I think one of the best conversations I ever had was when I said, Hey Mike, that's time for you to step away.
53:05
SPEAKER_00: And and what's cool about that is Mike supports we support each other even though we're not like spending money.
53:11
SPEAKER_00: Sure.
53:12
SPEAKER_00: That's the level that's the outline he's talking about.
53:15
SPEAKER_01: You're you're just you're just there for the community and and to learn from other people.
53:19
SPEAKER_04: He's coming in a couple days.
53:21
SPEAKER_04: I'm still spending money, I think.
53:23
SPEAKER_01: Dave, I'll send you the check later.
53:25
SPEAKER_05: Okay, yeah.
53:26
SPEAKER_01: All right, all right, guys.
53:28
SPEAKER_01: Um I don't it's it's eight o'clock, so I think it's time to start wrapping up.
53:32
SPEAKER_01: Any other really important critical question that can go unasked?
53:38
SPEAKER_02: Gerardo Hello, Mike.
53:42
SPEAKER_02: Hello, Herrardo.
53:43
SPEAKER_02: Hello, the students.
53:44
SPEAKER_02: Uh Mike, what two things that you tell everybody here that can a practical thing they can do tomorrow to start their journey?
53:52
SPEAKER_02: Because I saw you, of course.
53:55
SPEAKER_02: What are two things that you tell me and do?
53:57
SPEAKER_02: I'll give I'll give you a couple.
53:58
SPEAKER_01: I'll give you more than two.
54:00
SPEAKER_01: One is sit down with a piece of paper and a pen and start dreaming.
54:04
SPEAKER_01: Right?
54:04
SPEAKER_01: Most of us turn off the dream valve.
54:06
SPEAKER_01: The dream valve tur got turned off a long time ago and we just started settling in our life.
54:11
SPEAKER_01: Is that true?
54:12
SPEAKER_01: You had a dream, you have you have this desire inside of you, and every time it comes up, you just say that's impossible and you turn it back off.
54:20
SPEAKER_01: And the the first thing to do is to get and just grab a piece of paper.
54:24
SPEAKER_01: And if it's not written down, it's not a it's not a thing.
54:26
SPEAKER_01: I just want you to know if it's in your mind, it's it's not a thing.
54:29
SPEAKER_01: You gotta write it down.
54:30
SPEAKER_01: You gotta get it clear, all right?
54:32
SPEAKER_01: And we gotta we gotta make sure that it's powerful and it's and it's written in a way where it's you already have it, all right?
54:39
SPEAKER_01: That it's in the present moment because we're gonna rewire your subconscious, we're gonna rewire your nervous system.
54:44
SPEAKER_01: Sit down, get clear, grab a piece of paper, and that vision is never a finished product.
54:49
SPEAKER_01: It's always a work in progress.
54:50
SPEAKER_01: Okay.
54:51
SPEAKER_01: That's number one.
54:52
SPEAKER_01: Number two is start to visualize, start the process of becoming the person who's already living it.
54:57
SPEAKER_01: And it's a process of rewiring the mind and rewiring the body.
55:00
SPEAKER_01: So we've all heard of visualization, right?
55:03
SPEAKER_01: Stuff's real.
55:04
SPEAKER_01: All right, because your nervous system is fighting what's unfamiliar.
55:09
SPEAKER_01: So the process of visualizing starts to starts to reprogram and transform the body to for that to become familiar, because your nervous system doesn't know what's true or false.
55:18
SPEAKER_01: It just knows what it's experiencing in that moment.
55:21
SPEAKER_01: So it it at first, when you start to visualize that vision, your body's gonna reject it because it's unfamiliar.
55:26
SPEAKER_01: But by by continuing the process of visualizing it and the most important part, feeling it in your body, that it's already complete.
55:35
SPEAKER_01: That's gonna start to rewire your subconscious.
55:38
SPEAKER_01: Okay.
55:38
SPEAKER_01: So that's number two, Gerardo.
55:40
SPEAKER_01: Number three is every day revisit that vision and do the same thing.
55:45
SPEAKER_01: And don't stop ever, ever.
55:50
SPEAKER_01: Because if we always do what we always did, we'll always give a wall we we always got.
55:54
SPEAKER_01: And that vision's gonna grow.
55:56
SPEAKER_01: And as the vision grows, that exercise is gonna continue to rewire your internal being and your internal state to be expansive enough to allow that in.
56:05
SPEAKER_01: And when it shows up to perceive it, because your body's familiar with it already.
56:10
SPEAKER_01: Does it make sense?
56:12
SPEAKER_01: It's some woo-y shit, right?
56:14
SPEAKER_01: But guys, this is like this is documented scientifically.
56:18
SPEAKER_01: There's lots of volumes out that uh out there about this.
56:21
SPEAKER_01: Dr.
56:21
SPEAKER_01: Joe Dispenza and Nebel Goddard and Dr.
56:24
SPEAKER_01: Joe, I spent I spent a lot of money with Dr.
56:26
SPEAKER_01: Joe at retreats.
56:27
SPEAKER_01: I framing love Dr.
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SPEAKER_01: Joe.
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SPEAKER_01: And this stuff's real, man.
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unknown: Right?
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SPEAKER_01: Gerardo, is that enough?
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SPEAKER_01: Or you want me to give you 10 more?
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SPEAKER_01: All right.
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SPEAKER_01: And then and then continue to put yourself in in places where your your allies challenge each other and don't let you settle.
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SPEAKER_01: Hey, you're playing defense, and I know this doesn't feel good, but you're playing small, you're backing up again.
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SPEAKER_01: What are you doing?
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SPEAKER_01: And when you're around those kind of people who love letting others voluntarily evolve, right?
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SPEAKER_01: You ever heard that before?
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SPEAKER_01: Love letting others voluntarily evolve, but also making them evolve into the person that they want to be.
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SPEAKER_01: And that vision, when it's on there, and we share our vision.
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SPEAKER_01: Now I've got something to hold you accountable for because it's now my job to help you get there.
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SPEAKER_01: Cool?
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SPEAKER_01: Awesome.
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SPEAKER_01: Guys, I'm gonna move on.
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SPEAKER_01: Are you you you got you got something else, Case?
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SPEAKER_01: All right, look.
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SPEAKER_01: Well huh.
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SPEAKER_01: I want to get I wanted to show you the speedo again.
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SPEAKER_03: Was that in real life?
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SPEAKER_01: Hey, I've got a um, can you tell I love to talk?
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SPEAKER_01: Everybody?
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SPEAKER_01: All right, when I was in my corporate profession, I'm a recovered Fortune 500 executive leader.
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SPEAKER_01: In 2016, I was me and my wife were in absolute chaos.
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SPEAKER_01: My life was in chaos.
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SPEAKER_01: In 2014, I got fired after like 20 years of success and lots of promotions and lots of money.
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SPEAKER_01: I got fired from my uh from a job in 2014.
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SPEAKER_01: I got another one five months later after we drank our severance away.
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SPEAKER_01: I got another job, and in 2016, I got terminated from that one.
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SPEAKER_01: And from there, I rebuild everything in my life.
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SPEAKER_01: And I love to talk.
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SPEAKER_01: And the only thing I ever loved in corporate was developing people and developing teams.
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SPEAKER_01: And today it's all I do.
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SPEAKER_01: And the way I do that is through media and media.
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SPEAKER_01: That's my podcast, the Interwealth Podcast.
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SPEAKER_01: Yesterday, the 272nd um episode launched.
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SPEAKER_01: Been doing this for about five years.
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SPEAKER_01: All right, it's reached.
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SPEAKER_01: It's reached six continents, 122, 122 countries, 1946 cities around the world.
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SPEAKER_01: I'm very proud of it.
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SPEAKER_01: All right.
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SPEAKER_01: My voice is being heard all around the world, and I'm taking on more space, just like I encourage you guys to do.
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SPEAKER_01: Developing people, developing teams.
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SPEAKER_01: There's nothing in there that won't help you in one aspect of your life, right?
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SPEAKER_01: And you can listen to me talk and I love it.
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SPEAKER_01: And me and my wife do a lot of episodes together.
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SPEAKER_01: How we rebuilt our marriage.
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SPEAKER_01: We got a like a 10-part episode or a 10-part series where we actually talk about all the aspects that helped us put our life back together.
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SPEAKER_01: So she comes on there.
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SPEAKER_01: We when we went over, we when we travel, we usually try to do a podcast episode from wherever we are and just talk about our experience and share our life with you.
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SPEAKER_01: All right.
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SPEAKER_01: Makes sense?
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SPEAKER_01: YouTube, Apple, uh, Apple Podcasts, Spotify, major platforms.
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SPEAKER_01: Here's my ask.
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SPEAKER_01: I want you to go in there and like, subscribe, give me five stars, hit me up, give me some love because that helps me reach even more people.
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SPEAKER_01: That's my ask for you guys.
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SPEAKER_01: All right.
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SPEAKER_01: I'm a published author.
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SPEAKER_01: My first book was published in 2019.
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SPEAKER_01: It's called The Imposter in Charge.
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SPEAKER_01: It's about my time in corporate and feeling like an even though I was running$65 million and$350 million exec or corporate uh enterprises, I felt like an absolute fraud and an absolute imposter.
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SPEAKER_01: And that's one of the things that that I had to clean up in my life.
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SPEAKER_01: And this is a story of how I cleaned some of that up, but also how I launched a brand new life.
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SPEAKER_01: Right.
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SPEAKER_01: Last year in this room, we had my book launch party for my latest book, and it's called Inner World, Outer World.
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SPEAKER_01: And uh Brian, Angie has a forward, and so does Brian.
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SPEAKER_01: Angie's is the best part of the entire book.
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SPEAKER_01: And she'll tell you just to read that and throw the rest of it away.
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SPEAKER_01: Um, yeah, she's got a little ego on her, but she's route.
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SPEAKER_01: It is an awesome, awesome forward.
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SPEAKER_01: And Brian did a great job in there talking about basically, let me sum it up.
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SPEAKER_01: All these principles work.
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SPEAKER_01: That's it.
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SPEAKER_01: And it's about how you, whatever exists inside of you, tends to become real in the world.
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SPEAKER_01: Right?
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SPEAKER_01: Good.
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SPEAKER_01: Right.
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SPEAKER_01: We have copies.
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unknown: Yep.
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SPEAKER_01: We got a box, we got a couple copies of each book.
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SPEAKER_01: So if you're interested after after this, get with my my beautiful wife and we'll get you all hooked up.
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SPEAKER_01: All right.
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SPEAKER_01: We don't have a lot of copies, but we got a couple.
1:00:53
SPEAKER_01: So I've got, I do workshops, I do some live workshops, I do some virtual workshops.
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SPEAKER_01: I've got a new virtual workshop coming out, November 9th, I think it is.
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SPEAKER_01: November 9th.
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SPEAKER_01: It's a it's a four-week virtual workshop.
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SPEAKER_01: So we'll meet twice a week for four weeks.
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SPEAKER_01: Thanksgiving week's right in the middle.
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SPEAKER_01: We're gonna take that week off.
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SPEAKER_01: All right.
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SPEAKER_01: But we're gonna meet on Mondays, Wednesdays, spend an hour and a half together, something like that.
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SPEAKER_01: Build a vision.
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SPEAKER_01: I'm gonna give you some more tools.
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SPEAKER_01: I'm gonna help you get clear about what it, what it is, what do you want?
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SPEAKER_01: It's called choose your destiny.
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SPEAKER_01: You don't have to chase your destiny.
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SPEAKER_01: We're gonna choose your destiny because that's what a vision is.
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SPEAKER_01: It's you choosing your destiny.
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SPEAKER_01: All right.
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SPEAKER_01: Uh, eight live sessions, recordings will be available forever.
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SPEAKER_01: And where I said I'll give you a way you can help that we can have a connection is because in there you're gonna get a 60, 60-minute one-on-one with me.
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SPEAKER_01: All right, outside of the the the virtual container.
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SPEAKER_01: Okay.
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SPEAKER_01: Uh charge 500 bucks for it, but buyers club with the coupon buyers club, it's gonna give you half off.
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SPEAKER_01: All right, guys, I've charged$1,000 for a whole lot less.
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SPEAKER_01: So take advantage of this.
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SPEAKER_01: Take advantage of this.
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SPEAKER_01: This is you ever seen, you ever seen um, what is it, Bray Harp, where the guy goes, This is my island.
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SPEAKER_01: Right?
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SPEAKER_01: That's what this feels like.
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SPEAKER_01: This is my room.
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SPEAKER_01: And uh I want to make a make a special offer for you guys.
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SPEAKER_01: I want as many people in this room in that virtual container as possible.
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SPEAKER_01: It will change your life.
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SPEAKER_01: And going, leaving that container, leaving the five five weeks or four weeks, you will have a better understanding of what it is you actually want in your life.
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SPEAKER_01: And you'll have some some actionable tools and techniques, how to accomplish it.
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SPEAKER_01: The what's up to you, the how and the when is none of your business.
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SPEAKER_01: That barcode will take you directly to there.
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SPEAKER_01: There's no limit on how many people that that can fit in there, but I want to encourage you if it gets too big, I'm gonna have to shut it off because I want to have conversations and a relationship with everybody.
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SPEAKER_01: All right.
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SPEAKER_01: What's what's that?