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Your child tells you their teacher is crying at school almost every day. Do you contact the teacher? · Anele and the Club on 947

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  Speaker 1: Wake up with a bang.
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  Speaker 2: Hey wake up and the club on 947 it is
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  Speaker 2: a monday morning that your last monday of september just
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  Speaker 2: by the way yeah almost almost into october dude i
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  Speaker 2: cannot believe that the salary we got last week is
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  Speaker 2: the one that has.
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  Speaker 3: To finish what did we get a salary it's gone.
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  Speaker 2: I was like no keep it with you until next
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  Speaker 2: week i'm gonna blow it and blow it i did Listen,
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  Speaker 2: when we got this message, I immediately remembered a fellow
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  Speaker 2: by the name of Mr. Adams, who was my Afrikaans
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  Speaker 2: teacher when I was in, what standard seven?
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  Speaker 1: Grade nine. Grade, yeah, grade nine. Grade nine. No, grade six, seven. No,
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  Speaker 1: seven is grade nine. Okay, thank you, Tim. The standards are.
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  Speaker 4: Always too less than what it is in grades.
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  Speaker 2: Okay, so when I was in grade nine, my Afrikaans
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  Speaker 2: teacher was a guy called Mr.
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  Speaker 1: Adams.
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  Speaker 4: And Mr.
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  Speaker 5: Adams.
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  Speaker 2: cried once a week. And then I remember the one time,
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  Speaker 2: I need to give you a reason to why he cried.
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  Speaker 2: The class wasn't listening and then he was storming out
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  Speaker 2: and he said, go to hell. And then we hadn't
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  Speaker 2: rehearsed it, but the entire class said.
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  Speaker 1: See you there. And then he started crying. And he
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  Speaker 1: just like cried.
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  Speaker 2: So when we got this message from this mom who
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  Speaker 2: says that her child has come home four times in
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  Speaker 2: the last two weeks to say, my teacher's always crying
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  Speaker 2: in class. And now the mom doesn't know what to do.
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  Speaker 2: Does she go to the school? Does she speak to
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  Speaker 2: the headmaster? Does she send an email?
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  Speaker 1: Yes.
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  Speaker 3: Actually, if my child comes home and I'm not going
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  Speaker 3: to mention names, but it happened to us. And I
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  Speaker 3: literally went to the school and I said, I think
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  Speaker 3: you need to check in on your teacher. Like, you
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  Speaker 3: need to do a mental health check on her because
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  Speaker 3: if she's crying in class, like just crying and just
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  Speaker 3: putting on a movie for the kids.
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  Speaker 1: And then she's crying. And then she's crying.
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  Speaker 3: Firstly, the kids are going to wonder, like, Kids, teenagers,
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  Speaker 3: they're like, oh, then they're going to deep dive and wonder.
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  Speaker 1: What's wrong with her.
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  Speaker 3: But the school should also be offering the teacher the
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  Speaker 3: mental health support she needs because clearly something is going on.
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  Speaker 3: Maybe she just needs a two-week time out, eh?
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  Speaker 2: You see, and this is the thing, because with us,
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  Speaker 2: we knew why Mr. Adams was crying.
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  Speaker 1: It's because we were terrible children.
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  Speaker 2: You were the reason. Yeah, we were the reason. So
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  Speaker 2: we would never go home and tell our parents that Mr.
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  Speaker 2: Adams was always crying because then the jig would be
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  Speaker 2: up is that we are terrible people, right?
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  Speaker 5: Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: So we kept quiet. But if you have a teacher, unprovoked, unprovoked,
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  Speaker 2: they just cry you a river. I think you must
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  Speaker 2: let the school know.
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  Speaker 1: And obviously this is not because of the work. The workload.
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  Speaker 1: An English teacher saying how beautiful it is. Reading it. Poetry.
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  Speaker 1: Poetry and going, guys.
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  Speaker 3: It's so beautiful.
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  Speaker 1: A tale of two cities. We actually had an Afrikaans teacher.
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  Speaker 3: We had to do a pot full winter in Afrikaans.
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  Speaker 1: And then it's a very deep, dark book. She chose it.
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  Speaker 3: And then she used to cry at the one scene.
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  Speaker 3: I was like, oh this touch of court.
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  Speaker 1: So it's not that though not like no it's not
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  Speaker 1: that do we call.
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  Speaker 4: No you have to call the school i mean we
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  Speaker 4: knew why our teacher was crying our technology teacher because
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  Speaker 4: she was always like on chat rooms you know like
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  Speaker 4: backward before there were dating sites remember people used to
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  Speaker 4: yeah you have to meet then those things never used
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  Speaker 4: to last and then she'd have a cry you're like
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  Speaker 4: my marks can't be that.
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  Speaker 3: Bad babe So she was crying because she was dating
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  Speaker 3: online and it was going sour.
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  Speaker 1: Yes, because she got on dates and it wouldn't work out.
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  Speaker 4: And then we debrief on Fridays because then she'd look
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  Speaker 4: after us in the free period.
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  Speaker 1: But you know what?
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  Speaker 3: It's just a case of to do any job, you
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  Speaker 3: have to be at your best mentally. We're not expecting
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  Speaker 3: teachers to be sunshiny and tap dancing every day. But
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  Speaker 3: if a teacher's crying every day for no reason in
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  Speaker 3: your class, how much learning is your child doing?
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  Speaker 2: 011-8838-947 This is our point How much learning are your
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  Speaker 2: kids doing If there's a teacher crying all the time
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  Speaker 2: I need so many people to call in I need
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  Speaker 2: four pupils to call in And if your teacher was
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  Speaker 2: crying Would you tell your parents? I need for teachers
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  Speaker 2: to call in and be like, if you are constantly crying,
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  Speaker 2: do you think our kids should rat you out and
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  Speaker 2: then we go to your headmaster?
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  Speaker 6: Yeah, and how many cries are we talking, teachers? Like
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  Speaker 6: one cry, a term, is that okay?
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  Speaker 4: I think anything more than two random episodes requires intervention.
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  Speaker 2: Guys, do you know how traumatizing it is to see
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  Speaker 2: somebody cry? Because it's traumatizing because you're never going to
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  Speaker 2: know why they're crying. So you're nosing this. You're like,
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  Speaker 2: why was Mrs. Vanderbilt crying? Do you know what I'm saying?
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  Speaker 2: And you just never know.
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  Speaker 7: 011-8838-947.
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  Speaker 2: You're sending us a voice.
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  Speaker 3: Note.
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  Speaker 1: 084-0000947.
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  Speaker 2: Let us know if your child's teacher cries.
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  Speaker 1: Four times a week. Your child comes home four times
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  Speaker 1: a week. She cried again.
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  Speaker 2: Would you just finally go to the school and be like, guys...
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  Speaker 2: What's going on?
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  Speaker 1: Help her or stop this.
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  Speaker 2: Like, is she watching Grey's Anatomy again?
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  Speaker 1: What's going on?
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  Speaker 8: I think it's important the parent reaches out to the
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  Speaker 8: principal because that's not good on all levels. Not good
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  Speaker 8: for the teacher themselves and not good for teaching children.
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  Speaker 1: 084-0000947. What's your take on it?
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  Speaker 2: If your child's teacher, if your child reported that the
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  Speaker 2: teacher was crying every second day, for a month straight,
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  Speaker 2: would you step in?
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  Speaker 1: Would you be nosy?
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  Speaker 2: Or would you use this opportunity to teach a child that,
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  Speaker 2: in this family, we mind our own business?
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  Speaker 1: Just take Mrs. DeVette a piece of chocolate. Just, here's
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  Speaker 1: a chocolate. Just take her a chocolate. Just say we
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  Speaker 1: love her. Lynette, you're in Boxburg. Good morning.
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  Speaker 7: Good morning, team. How are you?
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  Speaker 1: We're great, Lynette.
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  Speaker 2: How are you, babe?
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  Speaker 9: Fine yourself. I'm coming for the defense of teachers. I
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  Speaker 9: was a teacher for two and a half years. I
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  Speaker 9: worked at a private school. Just to note, private school
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  Speaker 9: parents are the absolute worst.
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  Speaker 7: I agree.
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  Speaker 9: I cried every single day. If it was not in
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  Speaker 9: my car, it was at break. If it was not
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  Speaker 9: at break, it was on the toilet. And shout out
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  Speaker 9: to my ex in Joburg. Jayden, you broke my heart
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  Speaker 9: next to a rugby field. And I cried so much
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  Speaker 9: that a mom had to console me because I couldn't
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  Speaker 9: do it.
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  Speaker 2: Is Jayden also a teacher?
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  Speaker 7: Yeah.
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  Speaker 9: No, I'm going to say something else. No, he works
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  Speaker 9: in HR.
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  Speaker 1: But now, hang on.
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  Speaker 2: Why did he come break up with you at work?
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  Speaker 7: No, he didn't have the board.
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  Speaker 6: He broke up with me on WhatsApp.
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  Speaker 7: Okay.
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  Speaker 2: He broke up with you on WhatsApp, which you read
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  Speaker 2: at school.
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  Speaker 1: So you were on your phone at school. You see,
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  Speaker 1: if you weren't reading your phone.
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  Speaker 2: At school and looking after the children, you wouldn't know
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  Speaker 2: that you were broken up with until you got.
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  Speaker 1: In the car.
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  Speaker 9: I was WhatsAppping where my one player was and then
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  Speaker 9: I saw his message and then it was a train smash.
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  Speaker 3: And was it a private school mom that comforted you?
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  Speaker 9: You're ashamed. She like held me. I was like 22.
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  Speaker 9: She held me and then the other moms tried to
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  Speaker 9: coach my match.
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  Speaker 1: Which they do anyway, right?
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  Speaker 3: Because they're private school moms. Oh, my word.
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  Speaker 9: But my point being, you know what? Management never helped me.
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  Speaker 9: Parents actually helped me get through it. And then, yeah,
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  Speaker 9: at the end, I left teaching and I don't regret it.
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  Speaker 2: Where are you now? I'm worried about where these waterfalls
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  Speaker 2: are flowing now.
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  Speaker 9: I'm actually in the beauty industry.
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  Speaker 1: A beauty industry. Okay. Oh, that's a great place to
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  Speaker 1: go cry.
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  Speaker 6: Yeah, it's easy to cry there. Lynette, was it only once?
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  Speaker 6: Did you only cry during that match or was it
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  Speaker 6: like a week? Because obviously it takes long to get
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  Speaker 6: over heartbreak, right? So every day you're in class.
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  Speaker 9: It was a bunch of things. I was miserable at work.
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  Speaker 9: I didn't have management support. And then it was just
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  Speaker 9: that nonsense. So it was kind of just constant crying.
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  Speaker 9: The one mom did report me. And then I told her,
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  Speaker 9: you know what? Please try being my shoes.
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  Speaker 10: Please.
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  Speaker 4: No, she wants to keep her husband as an aside.
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  Speaker 4: But anyway, did the kids ask you what was wrong?
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  Speaker 4: Because we always ask the teachers. There was always a
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  Speaker 4: voice like, ma'am, why are you crying?
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  Speaker 2: No shame.
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  Speaker 9: The kids were actually so sweet. I taught grade 8
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  Speaker 9: to 12. And all the nines, They had bought me
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  Speaker 9: one day about seven or nine bushes of flowers, chocolates.
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  Speaker 9: They were absolutely the sweetest kids.
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  Speaker 2: Babe, that means they were talking about you saying that
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  Speaker 2: woman is not going.
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  Speaker 7: To make it.
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  Speaker 10: Oh, no, 100%.
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  Speaker 5: We need to do something.
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  Speaker 9: No, my matrix had a bet how long I would last.
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  Speaker 9: In the end, they won.
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  Speaker 6: I was going to say, because four of them pitching
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  Speaker 6: up with flowers means that there's a whole organization happening.
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  Speaker 1: Have you seen grade eights trying to organize anything?
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  Speaker 7: Sorry.
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  Speaker 1: Seriously.
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  Speaker 2: Useless. Five people rocking up with flowers at the funeral, hey?
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  Speaker 2: I'm just telling you now.
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  Speaker 5: I don't think it will help reaching out to the
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  Speaker 5: management or to the principal because I have a friend
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  Speaker 5: who had a friend who was a teacher and the
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  Speaker 5: principal was making the teacher's life a living hell.
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  Speaker 2: Ah, you see now, which is why I believe parents
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  Speaker 2: must speak out because for the teacher who is employed
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  Speaker 2: by the headmaster, right, and the headmaster is making the
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  Speaker 2: teacher's life a living hell, The teacher cannot.
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  Speaker 1: It's the authority thing, right? Yeah, now you're going up.
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  Speaker 2: But now if I'm coming, I'm saying, hey, your teacher's
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  Speaker 2: always crying here, then all of a sudden the spotlight
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  Speaker 2: is on you and the environment that the teacher works in.
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  Speaker 2: And then you have to check yourself because sooner or
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  Speaker 2: later it's going to come to light that you treat
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  Speaker 2: your teachers badly.
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  Speaker 1: Well, I mean, that was my question, right?
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  Speaker 6: So does it matter why the teacher's crying? So let's
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  Speaker 6: say you find out they're going through a tough time
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  Speaker 6: at home, maybe, or is it just the school?
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  Speaker 1: So what makes it worse?
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  Speaker 2: I just think you let the school know so that
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  Speaker 2: if it is them, you're kind of saying, I'm checking you.
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  Speaker 1: I see what you guys are doing.
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  Speaker 2: I see what you guys are doing. Teresa's always crying.
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  Speaker 2: You guys figure it out. Why is she always crying?
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  Speaker 2: Because then they have to look at themselves.
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  Speaker 1: Bradley, you're in Germiston. Good morning, my guy.
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  Speaker 7: Good morning.
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  Speaker 10: How are you guys?
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  Speaker 2: We are fantastic.
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  Speaker 7: How are you?
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  Speaker 10: I'm doing perfect.
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  Speaker 9: I'm doing perfect.
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  Speaker 1: So what do you think?
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  Speaker 10: Yeah, no, I'm completely against it. I'm completely against crying.
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  Speaker 10: in class. I mean, because it's a business transaction.
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  Speaker 1: That is it.
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  Speaker 10: I educate you. I pay you to educate my kid.
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  Speaker 10: I pay you to educate them. That's what you should
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  Speaker 10: be doing in class. Yeah, there was a caller that
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  Speaker 10: said she's a teacher, she was a teacher, and she
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  Speaker 10: was crying because of some boyfriend thing and stuff like that. Like,
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  Speaker 10: I'm completely against that. Do that on your breaks. Don't
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  Speaker 10: do that while you're supposed to be teaching my kids.
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  Speaker 10: Because here's the thing, here's the thing. If it comes
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  Speaker 10: to my kid that's maybe misbehaving in class or my
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  Speaker 10: kid beat another kid, the very first thing they're doing
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  Speaker 10: is calling my kid to the boardroom and I'm receiving
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  Speaker 10: a call at work that I need to attend and whatnot.
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  Speaker 10: So when it comes to me ratting out a teacher,
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  Speaker 10: I would not do that. I mean, I would not
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  Speaker 10: hesitate at all.
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  Speaker 2: Because also, do you know how we always stress that,
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  Speaker 2: especially during exams, right? Tips for children during exams. The
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  Speaker 2: learning environment is important.
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  Speaker 1: Calm environment.
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  Speaker 2: You need to make a calm environment as they go
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  Speaker 2: into exams.
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  Speaker 1: Environment, environment.
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  Speaker 2: What kind of environment are you creating for children when
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  Speaker 2: you as a teacher are constantly crying in class?
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  Speaker 10: Exactly, I mean, and just picture this, when you get home, right,
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  Speaker 10: and then maybe you're cooking, your kid is in the,
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  Speaker 10: like maybe in the living room, kid is doing their homework,
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  Speaker 10: and you tell your kid, tell me what you've learned today,
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  Speaker 10: or just say what you've done today in class, and
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  Speaker 10: the kid is telling you that she was crying again
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  Speaker 10: the whole class through. We only learned 5% of what
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  Speaker 10: we're supposed to learn in that entire session.
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  Speaker 1: Because she was just crying.
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  Speaker 10: Because she's crying there. She's stepping out and looking at
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  Speaker 10: her through the window. She's crying, weeping there while she's
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  Speaker 10: supposed to be crying.
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  Speaker 1: Not weeping.
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  Speaker 2: I'm not weeping. Bradley, I'm on your side. And here's
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  Speaker 2: another thing. We forget that not all kids come from a.
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  Speaker 1: Like a stable home environment. Yeah, and this kind of
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  Speaker 1: thing will affect kids in different ways. Do you know
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  Speaker 1: what I'm saying?
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  Speaker 7: So.
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  Speaker 2: At most times, and this is why I always even
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  Speaker 2: stress to my son, you have to be kind. Like
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  Speaker 2: you have to be kind because something that's a joke
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  Speaker 2: to you is not a joke to somebody else. Because
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  Speaker 2: not everybody comes from the same home that you come from, stable,
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  Speaker 2: loving and all of that.
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  Speaker 1: And we have to remember.
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  Speaker 2: That, guys. So now imagine a child who comes from
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  Speaker 2: a turbulent household. And then they escape the turbulent household
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  Speaker 2: to be put in a class where there's an adult
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  Speaker 2: always crying.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, he's going through some kind of trauma as well.
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  Speaker 5: That's not fair.
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  Speaker 1: That's not fair. Renee, you and Mayor, what do you think?
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  Speaker 7: Morning, Tim. Morning. So I'm on the other side a
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  Speaker 7: little bit. I don't think the school will do anything
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  Speaker 7: if you say anything. A few years ago, one of
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  Speaker 7: my daughters saw a teacher crying. Apparently, the teacher cried
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  Speaker 7: quite often. They did tell them not to do anything.
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  Speaker 7: She said she couldn't. She went and gave the teacher
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  Speaker 7: a hug and just said to her, I hope you're okay.
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  Speaker 7: Next day, we were called into the principal's office to
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  Speaker 7: actually reprimand my daughter for hugging the teacher.
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  Speaker 1: Oh, man. I was floored. What teacher was this?
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  Speaker 7: I think it was an Afrikaans teacher.
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  Speaker 1: Why was she reprimanded?
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  Speaker 7: And they actually wanted us to reprimand her at home
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  Speaker 7: for showing empathy.
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  Speaker 4: No.
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  Speaker 1: And did you tell them to get lost?
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  Speaker 7: I told them to get lost. I said... The world
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  Speaker 7: needs more empathetic people. Like, focus on the kid that
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  Speaker 7: made the teacher cry or find out why the teacher's crying.
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  Speaker 1: Leave my daughter out of it. And my child is
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  Speaker 1: a child.
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  Speaker 2: There is no way that in this situation that we
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  Speaker 2: are looking for somebody that's wrong and we're making.
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  Speaker 1: It the child, guys. There is no way. That's so weird.
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  Speaker 7: And like you said, we need more kind people in
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  Speaker 7: this world. People that will hug someone when they see
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  Speaker 7: someone crying or actually go and help them.
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  Speaker 2: Is your daughter still in that school?
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  Speaker 7: She is, for the last year.
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  Speaker 1: Final year. That's so weird.
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  Speaker 6: I can't believe you got called in to say your
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  Speaker 6: daughter's not allowed.
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  Speaker 1: What was the issue? You're not allowed to hug a
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  Speaker 1: teacher or you're not allowed to? What is the issue?
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  Speaker 7: The issue was that they told her not to. Or
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  Speaker 7: they told the class not to.
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  Speaker 2: So they told the class to ignore a bad situation
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  Speaker 2: and your daughter said, no, I'm not going to do that.
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  Speaker 1: And that was the reprimand.
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  Speaker 2: Does your daughter have like a, you know, like in
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  Speaker 2: the yearbook, you can write one final quote.
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  Speaker 1: For the school.
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  Speaker 7: I don't know what it is.
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  Speaker 2: Oh, okay, because then outright hugs are free. That would
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  Speaker 2: be my final message to the school.
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  Speaker 1: Hugs are free.
• 14:27
  Speaker 2: Morning, Anele and the club. Please, we must remember that
• 14:30
  Speaker 2: a teacher, he's a human, so a human cries.
• 14:34
  Speaker 9: Take it back now.
• 14:36
  Speaker 1: Back to making your morning. Anele and the club. I
• 14:40
  Speaker 1: love this show.
• 14:41
  Speaker 8: On 947.