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The path of growth · Good Morning From The Chicken Coop!

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  Welcome to the good morning from the chicken coop, podcast with
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  Kim Johnson, your creative strategist and master mindset.
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  Coach filled with inspiration, distinctions, perspectives and
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  possibilities. We help you to cultivate a
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  mindset that leads you to create the best version of yourself.
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  You could ever imagine join Kim every morning from one of her.
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  Favorite happy places for chicken coop, along with all her
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  chickens. Hey everybody.
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  Good morning from the chicken. To.
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  So today we are talking about the path of growth and how being
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  on that path can be sometimes extremely challenging and just
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  disruptive to what you may know as a normal life.
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  When you make the decision to say, okay, I'm going to grow and
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  I'm going to change myself and I'm going to become something
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  other than the person I am or I'm going to expand the person.
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  I am often times those around us, struggle.
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  With that and they struggle with the choices because we're
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  becoming different people and the more you shift yourself, the
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  more, the people around, you have to learn who you are
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  becoming, and they have to figure out how to interact with
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  you and often times that just doesn't work for people.
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  Because remember, just because you're changing doesn't mean
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  they're changing. So years ago in the event
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  business people would come in to a big event.
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  They would not be the the hole. Family coming.
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  It's just they would be that one person in the house that decided
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  to come to the event. They would go, I tend to
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  four-day event learn all different things about mindset
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  and eating and how to just shift your life and create this, you
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  know, plan of Massive Action, so to speak.
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  And then they would go home and nothing in the home world has
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  changed, right? Nothing has changed.
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  They their life is the same at home.
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  The people in the house of the same at home.
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  Soon, figure out how hard that must be because if you're, if
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  you're I'm going to an event like that and you decide, okay.
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  I'm going to become completely clean eater and you go to an
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  event, change your mind about your food, make that decision.
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  Go home All of a sudden the people around you aren't doing
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  that. Nobody's just changing their
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  mind. Nobody's just decided.
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  Hey I'm going to do this with you and you are in a position
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  where you're the only person who's eating clean, you're the
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  only person who's you know, in this it is this quest for
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  health. That's going to be an
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  interesting dynamic in your house because other people maybe
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  bringing in the snacks that you don't want other people maybe
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  pushing like hell. On have some it's okay blah blah
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  blah and it's not okay if you want to do it and they don't
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  want to do it and vice versa. So we have to recognize that our
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  quest for whatever we're working on.
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  Does not mean that those around us will be on the same Quest.
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  It does not mean that they're going to readily accept it.
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  It does not mean that they're not going to give you push back
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  or feedback or criticism. Whatever language they might
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  want to use with it and you have to make a decision about how you
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  want to show up with that. Because quite frankly, it's
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  quite interesting. When you have one person growing
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  and another person not growing and it gets even more
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  interesting. If you're doing it and it's in a
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  relationship because the relationship piece is so hard.
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  Like you think you're in a relationship with someone and
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  you're just like, well we're going to be the same as we are
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  forever and then one person starts to grow and another
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  person is not growing. Well, holy cow that makes a
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  tremendous difference because You're not your no no longer
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  aligned and you have to either learn to accept each other for
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  the way you are, or you have to make a decision about whether
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  that's right for you. And this happens across the
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  board, it happens in our work relationships, that happens in
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  our business relationships, beyond that Partnerships.
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  It happens in our personal World, it happens with our
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  children and it's like, you know, like right now I have a
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  teenager and this he's always been such a great kid and he is
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  a great kid. It, but he's going through that
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  smart-mouth stage, which we all love so much.
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  And I have to think back and remind myself, listen who he is.
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  At his soul is very different than this person that's being
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  presented to me. And he still has his moments
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  most of his moments of being great.
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  And then he has his moments of being not so great.
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  So for me, I just have to keep reminding myself.
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  Oh, I'm not giving up on this and as he transforms into this
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  person, I will be able to work with this.
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  I will be able to guide it. I will be able to do it because
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  that's the role of the mother not giving up.
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  If I'm in a relationship with someone in business and they
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  start to act a certain way and I recognize that this is not good
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  for me and it's misaligned to where I am and I'm on a growth
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  path. And this other this this company
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  or this person that I'm working with is not on that and the
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  misalignment is so great that I just can't take it.
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  I have the right to walk away. I have the right to shift myself
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  and I have to right to pull myself out of the relationship.
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  And the point of this is one today you've got to Cognise
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  where these rubs are showing up so that you have to make a
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  decision about. Do you want to align or not
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  aligned? Do you want to just say, it's
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  okay, or it's not? Okay.
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  Do you want to shift how you are showing up?
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  So, it makes it comfortable for other people, or do you want to
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  just let it all go and say, you know what, I'm willing to take
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  the road that is less traveled. Meaning, there are fewer people
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  on it. So think of it like this,
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  sometimes the more you grow the fewer people you fit in with
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  because nobody's showing up the way.
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  You're showing up, nobody's willing to do the work that
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  you're willing to do. I mean, I can tell you threw out
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  my path of being on self-development.
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  I have lost a lot of quote-unquote, people, friends,
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  whatever you want to look at in my life because I was no longer
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  willing to show up the way they wanted to.
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  You know, this usually comes into play when you decide.
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  I don't want to party the way somebody else parties and over
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  the years. Even as an adult that was
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  presented to me people saying making comments.
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  Oh you don't want to have fun. You don't want to have a drink
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  and the answer is no actually I don't because that's not fun for
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  me and you recognize when you hear it a few times, listen,
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  these people are just not where I want to be in my life.
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  I have to move Beyond this. And does that mean the path can
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  feel a little lonelier? Sure.
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  But only if you're focused on the loneliness instead of the
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  greatness and focused on Note, be you know what?
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  I'm never lonely. Always tapped into what is
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  around me in the universe. I can always tap into higher
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  energy, I can always choose something different.
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  I just have to make those choices.
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  So I'm encouraging you to look at this part of self development
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  and growth for yourself and recognize that the path doesn't
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  have to feel bad. It doesn't have to be lonely.
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  It doesn't have to feel isolated and you don't have to feel bad
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  about moving forward for yourself while you leave others
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  behind because sometimes, they need to be left behind.
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  And so that they can find their way.
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  So I hope this is helpful. I hope this gives you some food
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  for thought and I hope you guys have a very blessed day and I
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  will see you tomorrow. Bye.