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Speaker 1: Welcome to We Talk Back Podcast, the production of iHeartRadio
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Speaker 1: and the Black Effect Network.
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Speaker 2: So we're just two unapologetically black women with an opinion
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Speaker 2: who talks.
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Speaker 3: What's up, y'all?
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Speaker 1: Thank you for tuning in for a new episode if
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Speaker 1: We Talked Back, the show dedicated to you dreamers and chasers.
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Speaker 1: This is your co host, AJ Holiday. What's up tam Bam?
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Speaker 3: Yeah? Hell, let's be tam Vam. I love y'all. What's up? AJ?
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Speaker 2: How you doing?
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Speaker 1: We up? We wake you woke?
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Speaker 3: Amen? Amen?
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Speaker 1: Thank you god?
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Speaker 3: Okay, period, how was your weekend?
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Speaker 1: It was eventful. I was hanging out with Tam Bam
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Speaker 1: this weekend. Child. We uh, we did some much needing,
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Speaker 1: catching up on visuals. I want y'all to know how
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Speaker 1: expensive it is, Okay. I see the comments on YouTube
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Speaker 1: saying we want to see y'all go price some of
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Speaker 1: this ship. Go see how much or send us some
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Speaker 1: money exactly out your fucking pocket. Yeah, it's expensive, but anyway,
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Speaker 1: we got it done and we'll try to produce more
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Speaker 1: visuals going forward for y'all. Okay, so y'all can see us,
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Speaker 1: We'll just be running out of fucking clothes and shit.
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Speaker 3: I'm about to start recirculating some of that shit. I
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Speaker 3: ain't gonna.
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Speaker 1: I just betch I order a Budet shit out fashion Over,
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Speaker 1: and it'd be throwaway clothes. So it just be like
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Speaker 1: I hate burn clothes to throw away, though, Like I
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Speaker 1: just like even quality to where I can just re
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Speaker 1: wear it. Sometimes I put cotton right into on fashion
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Speaker 1: Over so I can get one hundred percent. Because most
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Speaker 1: of that shit is polyester. It's gonna come apart, so
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Speaker 1: I try. Anyway, did you order that body that body
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Speaker 1: dress I sent you?
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Speaker 3: You didn't send me the link?
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Speaker 1: It's back up to twenty nine ninety nine on Amazon.
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Speaker 1: I'm like, god, damn, I meant to order two more. Yeah,
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Speaker 1: it was cute and a couple of different colors. Now
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Speaker 1: and the price don't went up. Price don't want today's
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Speaker 1: price is not today's What else we did this weekend? Tam,
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Speaker 1: We recorded, We got We went to dinner and got drunk. Okay,
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Speaker 1: I didn't get drunk, y'all. I don't be drinking like
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Speaker 1: that no more.
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Speaker 3: For real, I was fucked up. I took like six
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Speaker 3: shots of Don Julia.
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Speaker 1: Maybe every time I hear people say I'm fasten off
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Speaker 1: liquor for a month, and so I'm like, y'all drink
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Speaker 1: that much to where you just gotta not drink.
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Speaker 3: I guess I don't. I don't drink.
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Speaker 1: Listen, I'm a social drinker. I don't drink at home, right,
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Speaker 1: and I really don't socialize that much.
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Speaker 3: So when I do, I do.
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Speaker 1: I keep wine at the house, though, but I don't
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Speaker 1: drink it. Like I just been a bottle of wine
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Speaker 1: last night because I just wanted to get freaky, so
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Speaker 1: I drunk a little bit of wine. Is that life, though,
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Speaker 1: Like when you get older and cohabitating and shit like that. Like,
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Speaker 1: I don't know that I can have sex sober, like
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Speaker 1: completely sober. Try tonight now that I think about it.
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Speaker 1: I haven't had like good sober sex in a long time.
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Speaker 1: It's like the weed go with it, the wine go
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Speaker 1: with it, like the dick come with drugs, not the
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Speaker 1: dick come with when's the last time you had sober sex?
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Speaker 1: Like completely? Because you smoke smoke, I only smoke. What
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Speaker 1: I'm going to say, Hey, I don't know what you're
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Speaker 1: talking about. I only smoke when I know I'm about
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Speaker 1: to have sex. Okay, that's the.
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Speaker 2: Only time I really wanted to hate.
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Speaker 3: I'm a paul that you would say such.
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Speaker 1: Unless shrew me. Okay, that's I do that by myself
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Speaker 1: once in a blue when there's nothing to do and
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Speaker 1: the tchi gets too thick for my soulful mind to
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Speaker 1: cut through, he said. But I don't know.
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Speaker 3: Come on, bro, I don't know that it's j Z
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Speaker 3: feeling it.
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Speaker 1: Oh that's that shit.
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Speaker 3: Yeah, I don't know.
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Speaker 1: I typically do the same, but it's not to have sex.
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Speaker 1: It's just I'm already happen to be high and the
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Speaker 1: sex is gonna happen. That's what I'm saying. So when
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Speaker 1: is the last time you actually had intercourse without being
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Speaker 1: under the influence of anything. Well, you know, I've been
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Speaker 1: celibate until Marrow, like around my birthday, so I can't
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Speaker 1: remember anything in twenty twenty three, that's what you're asking.
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Speaker 3: It's too far back, so.
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Speaker 1: Yo, control all delete period. Let's get it a stupid news, Okay.
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Speaker 1: I wanted to start with this. I saw this on
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Speaker 1: the Daily Mail. Destiny's Child star LaToya Luckett's second ex
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Speaker 1: husband shaved her after she marries for the third time
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Speaker 1: of eight years. So, uh, tamikus, I guess that's how
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Speaker 1: you say his name Walker. He posted to his social
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Speaker 1: media a picture of Tom Brady wearing three Super Bowl
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Speaker 1: rings and he said three and seven years that that dynasty.
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Speaker 1: And he shared this with his one hundred and sixty
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Speaker 1: eight thousand followers to see, and the fans were quick
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Speaker 1: to defend the LaToya Luckett who with t Laya Coles. Yeah,
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Speaker 1: they just got married recently on the twenty seventh of July.
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Speaker 1: And someone said, obviously she's surprised all three of y'all
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Speaker 1: popped the question take the ail my boy period.
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Speaker 3: That's how I feel, Corns, Why are you? Why are
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Speaker 3: you hating?
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Speaker 1: And obviously he's still single because if you weren't a relationship,
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Speaker 1: like you can post that, your woman wouldn't feel like
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Speaker 1: okay with you posting about your ex being married again.
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Speaker 1: And I mean like maybe she wanted some Mariah Gary shit.
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Speaker 1: If she's gonna pop that pussy Betty for her husband,
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Speaker 1: who knows, But why is that your business? Why are
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Speaker 1: you still bothered? He's not okay with them breaking up.
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Speaker 1: He's still hurt and you're the reason why they broke up. Okay,
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Speaker 1: he was cheating, so yeah, he was cheating and doing
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Speaker 1: all types of wild ship to her. She's a beautiful woman.
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Speaker 1: She looked beautiful for her third wedding, okay than the
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Speaker 1: first in the second. Yes, girl, keep getting married. You're
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Speaker 1: looking better every time. You know what I'm saying, Because
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Speaker 1: we do glow up outside of bad relationships every time.
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Speaker 1: So I don't have a problem with LaToya Lucket marrying
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Speaker 1: five different men, ten different men. How many ever times
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Speaker 1: over do it?
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Speaker 3: Write a book for us, because I ain't. I ain't
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Speaker 3: here one proposal, not to one.
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Speaker 1: Yeah, I'm happy for her, Like how many ever times
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Speaker 1: you have to do it? Do it? Shit, fuck it.
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Speaker 1: That's what Look, that's what the process is for. That's
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Speaker 1: why divorce is available. It's not working on to the
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Speaker 1: next one. But I do hope that this one works
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Speaker 1: for her though. I hope this one is her for
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Speaker 1: ever partner. So is this the third marriage or the
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Speaker 1: fourth marriage?
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Speaker 3: This is the third?
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Speaker 1: Like one was young one midlife, kind of middle well
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Speaker 1: not even middle thirties away.
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Speaker 3: Yeah, thirties, and he wasn't acting right and now.
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Speaker 1: Yes, yeah, and they look very happy, nice looking couple.
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Speaker 1: I'm happy for them. Oh, Tomacus, whatever your name is,
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Speaker 1: you're a hater boom. So apparently Lo Wayne his his
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Speaker 1: notebook is on sale. His like rap notebook from the
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Speaker 1: nineties is on sale for five million dollars after legal
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Speaker 1: saga which I'm just so confused about this. It says
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Speaker 1: the rapper's old lyric book notebook from the nineties is
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Speaker 1: now officially on the market. The sale comes after a
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Speaker 1: dragged out legal dispute over its ownership, which was finally
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Speaker 1: resolved earlier this year. Initially listed for two and fifty
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Speaker 1: thousand dollars five years ago, the price is now shot
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Speaker 1: up to five million due to the rarity and significance
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Speaker 1: of the notebook. It said that low Wayne is considered
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Speaker 1: to be one of the greatest rappers of all time.
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Speaker 1: You think so making making his handwritten knows extremely valuable.
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Speaker 1: My thing is, how does somebody else own that if
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Speaker 1: he is the author of this book?
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Speaker 3: Yeah? Like, how are you in the dispute over your ip? Basically?
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Speaker 1: Yes, Like I didn't know you have how to copyright notebooks?
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Speaker 1: That you know? Just like I got my little so
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Speaker 1: I gotta copyright my spell book cause one hundred years
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Speaker 1: orm now somebody might get a hold of it.
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Speaker 3: Well with that book, your bitch ass might still be.
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Speaker 1: Alive, y'all. That's my evil laugh. So Ego is live
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Speaker 1: spell backwards? Okay, but this.
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Speaker 3: Exactly, Yeah, that's weird his notebook. How can you be
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Speaker 3: in a legal battle over a note?
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Speaker 1: So do you think the baby owns it? Who owns it?
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Speaker 3: Right? Maybe? And not the baby? Baby baby? Because you know,
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Speaker 3: because I didn't even know that.
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Speaker 1: You think baby owns it? Because does Lowayne own himself?
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Speaker 1: Is what I'm thinking?
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Speaker 3: Like?
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Speaker 1: Who owns low Wayne?
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Speaker 3: A white girl? Now that's who he?
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Speaker 1: Helltle Chunky, he like the white girls?
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Speaker 3: Now?
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Speaker 1: Like who owns him to where his intellectual property could
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Speaker 1: be up for auction? Like that where he no longer
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Speaker 1: owns it? And who was a dispute? Who's the disputing
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Speaker 1: party like in court? I'd like to know. I guess
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Speaker 1: you'll do a little bit more research into that.
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Speaker 3: But and what rich white man gonna buy it?
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Speaker 1: Because it's gonna be Drake. Drake is gonna be the
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Speaker 1: rich white man that buys lo Wings. Obviously he's a
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Speaker 1: collector of all things rap, right, so he can show
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Speaker 1: off to all the other rappers that he owns all
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Speaker 1: the rap. Para familiar from overtime Because I just saw
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Speaker 1: another video where he has Cameron's pink jacket and hat.
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Speaker 3: Okay, yes, so I guess it would be a good idea.
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Speaker 1: He has Tupac's ring. I have a problem with this, Like,
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Speaker 1: y'all sit right there, drake a whole fucking warlock. Okay,
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Speaker 1: this niggas doing spells with these people. Shit. Listen, you
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Speaker 1: remember when Kim K got Marilyn Monroe's dress and they
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Speaker 1: gave her a lock of Marilyn Monroau's hair. She's on
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Speaker 1: her show going into her little closet like, oh, what
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Speaker 1: can I do with this? She had a whole altar
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Speaker 1: set up in her closet, a lock of her hair, yes, yes,
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Speaker 1: and the dress so no, I know what the fuck
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Speaker 1: I'd be looking at.
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Speaker 3: It's one thing to dress, but the hair is like
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Speaker 3: what you need with.
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Speaker 1: Her hair exactly. See when you mentioned hair, people automatically
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Speaker 1: think it's on which shit because that's what the fuck
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Speaker 1: it is. Right. Anyway, how did y'all get a lock
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Speaker 1: of her hair? People don't be owning themselves. They be commodities.
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Speaker 1: They might have took it when she died probably mm hmmm.
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Speaker 3: It's scary.
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Speaker 1: It's weird. And then you give it to Kim K
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Speaker 1: for what reason.
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Speaker 3: Let's talk about Cardi. Mmm.
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Speaker 1: I love Cardi B. She's pregnant. She's pregnant again. Congratulations
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Speaker 1: to her. She looks beautiful. Yeah, they say her all set. Well,
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Speaker 1: she filed for divorce. They're not saying. They're saying, you know,
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Speaker 1: because it's public record. M and he got some financial
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Speaker 1: battles with RS I think like Texas, and it's like
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Speaker 1: into the tune of a million dollars, which I think
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Speaker 1: they have over a million between the two two.
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Speaker 3: Yeah, but who want to give it up?
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Speaker 1: Right? That part? That part, that part I really think.
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Speaker 1: I hope that they're not really splitting up, that they're
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Speaker 1: only legally splitting up so he can transfer his assets
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Speaker 1: to her and not pay that million dollars. That could
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Speaker 1: be it, or she's just tired, she's citing error reconcilable
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Speaker 1: differences with no chance of patching things up. So there
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Speaker 1: wasn't anything in particular name as to the reason why
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Speaker 1: they're getting this divorced. But we've seen it in the
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Speaker 1: tabloids over the years, like that Nigga would be fucking okay,
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Speaker 1: he'd be cheating. It's an ex home, ex girlfriend, ex homegirl,
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Speaker 1: is somebody else pregnant right now? He's saying, ain't his people,
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Speaker 1: But I mean, why is the why do people saying
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Speaker 1: that's your people?
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Speaker 3: Right?
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Speaker 1: And this is like almost the same day that she
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Speaker 1: revealed that she filed for divorce, she also, you know,
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Speaker 1: showed the world she was pregnant. I knew she was
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Speaker 1: pregnant when they did those pictures last month at Disney World.
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Speaker 1: She looked pregnant. And I mean Cardi always wanted the
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Speaker 1: kids like she won. I remember her being in the
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Speaker 1: breakfast club and she was telling La Mane like, I
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Speaker 1: want to have babes by Tom twenty five, like she
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Speaker 1: was younger then, and she did all the things. She
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Speaker 1: got a career, popping, she had her kids, and maybe
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Speaker 1: they are they are supposed to mate. You know, obviously
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Speaker 1: they got three whole babies out this relationship, so they
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Speaker 1: are mates. That Nigga's fertile as hell, because remember his
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Speaker 1: album was father of father of four. I think, now
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Speaker 1: you're a father of seven in a couple of years,
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Speaker 1: within just a couple of years. And I love those
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Speaker 1: little girls are so sweet, man, They are so precious, beautiful,
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Speaker 1: precious beautiful baby seen them at on disney World. At
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Speaker 1: Disney World with Cardi b I'm like some cute little girls, man,
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Speaker 1: So I don't know, they look like a pretty good
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Speaker 1: family to me, and maybe this is all they were
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Speaker 1: supposed to do together.
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Speaker 3: It's just create life.
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Speaker 1: Yeah, some thing's come to an end, man, And why
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Speaker 1: force the situation that could be like real crazy in
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Speaker 1: fun of children when you guys can probably cohabitate better separately. Yeah, yeah,
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Speaker 1: I hear some kids crying in your background.
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Speaker 4: Y'all.
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Speaker 3: I'm transitioning starting over.
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Speaker 1: So I'm at my friend, my best friend's house, and
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Speaker 1: she's the mother of two. So here we are, so listen,
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Speaker 1: We're going to get into a conversation about starting over
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Speaker 1: as soon as we come back from this commercial break,
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Speaker 1: sharing all my bits. All right, y'all, we're back, and
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Speaker 1: this we wanted to talk about starting over, okay, because
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Speaker 1: as adult, you know in your mind where you're young,
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Speaker 1: you think things are going to go a certain way, right,
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Speaker 1: But there are the ebbs and flows of life, and
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Speaker 1: sometimes things just don't work out how you think you're
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Speaker 1: supposed to. So I know me personally, I've started over
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Speaker 1: a lot of times.
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Speaker 5: I've started over so many times I'm actually tired. I'm
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Speaker 5: starting over again right now. You know, I'm starting over
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Speaker 5: again right now.
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Speaker 1: Hard to reset.
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Speaker 2: Hard.
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Speaker 5: I'm living out of a suitcase right now. Right now,
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Speaker 5: I'm living at my best friend's house with my god kids,
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Speaker 5: which has been absolutely great.
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Speaker 2: I got the bond with him in a real way.
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Speaker 2: But having kids that you're not used to having kids.
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Speaker 1: Around, you're a lucome into close and I love them,
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Speaker 1: but God, I'm talking as soon as they wake up
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Speaker 1: in the morning, is agreement having fun? They living kids,
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Speaker 1: lived the best life you. I just seen a post online.
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Speaker 1: You spend the post with this this girl somebody's baby
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Speaker 1: daddy flew her and her son out at the Disney World.
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Speaker 1: But somebody in the comments was like, kids just be
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Speaker 1: doing carkwheels in the middle or anything chaos. I'd be
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Speaker 1: a sacked. The niggas don't know what be going on?
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Speaker 1: Like la la la la. I want to be like that.
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Speaker 5: Yeah, me too, I want I want to live my
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Speaker 5: life like that. All right, So let me get back
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Speaker 5: to my starting number. So I just decided I no
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Speaker 5: longer felt Charlotte.
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Speaker 2: Didn't feel like where I needed to be anymore. And
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Speaker 2: then I just.
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Speaker 5: Thought about where in the world do I want to go?
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Speaker 5: And I just pretty much end the globe and put
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Speaker 5: my finger down and now I'm.
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Speaker 2: Going to La.
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Speaker 5: I'm kind of nervous about it because everybody, like anytime
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Speaker 5: I mention it, everybody you know, puts their energy of
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Speaker 5: what they feel about LA onto me.
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Speaker 2: So I've been trying to I mean now until the
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Speaker 2: whole world.
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Speaker 5: But I wasn't sharing with a lot of people just
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Speaker 5: because of how people were putting their feelings.
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Speaker 1: Like, oh LA is expensive, Oh LA is you can you.
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Speaker 5: Weren't your jewelry you know, just all kind you got
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Speaker 5: your jewelry out there, like just all kind of things
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Speaker 5: like that. So it made me, really it added to
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Speaker 5: how nervous I was about Meg, Yeah, about making this
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Speaker 5: huge change because it is across the country. It's not
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Speaker 5: like I can just drive to my mama's house if something.
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Speaker 2: Goes wrong, you know. So it is nerve wrecking.
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Speaker 1: So I'm excited to see this list of tips that
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Speaker 1: you have for us for starting over, because maybe some
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Speaker 1: of these kings they're going to help. Well, maybe it
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Speaker 1: might just some Google shits, Okay, yeah, well sometimes that
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Speaker 1: Google shit. Hell here, I've moved several times, and I've
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Speaker 1: always moved by myself. And I remember when I moved
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Speaker 1: to Saint Louis. When I got to my place, I
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Speaker 1: didn't have none of my stuff because it wasn't coming
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Speaker 1: until the next day. So it's just me and my
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Speaker 1: two dogs, Bell and Honey, sleeping on a blood mattress
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Speaker 1: that my landlord gave me until my stuff got in
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Speaker 1: the next day. And I cried all night long. Why
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Speaker 1: because I drove there all day long. It took me
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Speaker 1: to get to Saint Louis, And I'm like, Yo, what
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Speaker 1: the fuck that I did? Why did you choose Saint Louis. Well,
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Speaker 1: I was the company I was working for at the time.
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Speaker 1: I took a promotion and moved to Saint Woods. Okay,
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Speaker 1: so it was a work yeah, work thing, and I
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Speaker 1: lived there for about four or five years. But every
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Speaker 1: morning I would wake out like, yo, I'm still in prison.
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Speaker 1: I'm still here. That's how I think.
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Speaker 5: So so so, was that the only place out of
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Speaker 5: South Carolina that you, like, let's get out.
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Speaker 1: Saying here were you lowing? You left Charleston? When was
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Speaker 1: the first you went to Columbia Columbia College? How long
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Speaker 1: I might've been in Columbia.
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Speaker 2: B you was in college about two years.
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Speaker 1: Got the fuck up. But I remember I was not
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Speaker 1: in college hotel. I was working, and that's the I
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Speaker 1: was chasing fucking money when I should have just been
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Speaker 1: a bum ass college student. Instead I was chasing money.
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Speaker 2: Oh, college was so poor. I remember.
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Speaker 5: I remember who was sharing like wind these chicken niggas
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Speaker 5: with somebody like the dollar minue.
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Speaker 1: You chicken niggas is sharing it. That's how poor dude. Now,
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Speaker 1: I kept a boyfriend in college. I remember when I
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Speaker 1: asked my mom for some money for toilet trees and
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Speaker 1: she was like, I'll see what I can do type
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Speaker 1: shitm So then I just I went to Augusta with
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Speaker 1: my friends that I met in school, and then she
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Speaker 1: popped up in Colombia mad because I wasn't there. I'm like, girl, like,
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Speaker 1: you didn't tell me he was coming. You're coming to
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Speaker 1: give me cash money. So from that point on, I
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Speaker 1: stopped asking people for shit. I just kept the man,
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Speaker 1: so fuck, somebody gonna give it to me if you can't, mama.
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Speaker 1: So you went to Columbia. Then after Columbia, that's when
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Speaker 1: you went to Saint Louis. After Columbia I went to
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Speaker 1: Atlanta running from a nigga. Atlanta wasn't far enough, so
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Speaker 1: I moved to Saint Louis.
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Speaker 2: He was running from a nigga.
19:57
Speaker 1: Yes, he was like trying to cut tie.
20:00
Speaker 2: Oh man.
20:01
Speaker 1: So most of my moves have not been for me, right,
20:07
Speaker 1: They haven't been because I wanted to or because I
20:10
Speaker 1: want to see this place so bad. I really was
20:13
Speaker 1: moving because of relationships, either even either moving from somebody
20:17
Speaker 1: or moving to them.
20:18
Speaker 2: Oh girl, me too.
20:19
Speaker 1: And that's some bullshit, but not ever they show if
20:23
Speaker 1: you're doing any changes, it's for you.
20:25
Speaker 2: I think this is my very first move in my
20:28
Speaker 2: life that did.
20:29
Speaker 1: It wasn't with somebody.
20:32
Speaker 5: Yeah, centered around some mother somebody else because I left,
20:35
Speaker 5: all right. I left Columbia after college because I was
20:38
Speaker 5: from Columbia, so I went to school there, and then
20:40
Speaker 5: I moved to Atlanta. Everybody from Columbia moved to Atlanta.
20:43
Speaker 5: Body or Charlotte or Charlene. So moved to Atlanta. Is
20:47
Speaker 5: that all of yours before?
20:48
Speaker 1: That's it? Yeah?
20:49
Speaker 2: Yeah, I moved to Atlanta. I lived there. I was
20:53
Speaker 2: I was wilding in Atlanta. Boy, good time, good times.
20:58
Speaker 5: I stayed there for or what three years, and I
21:02
Speaker 5: was just doing too much and I wasn't happy. And
21:04
Speaker 5: I moved to Atlanta because my high school sweetheart he.
21:09
Speaker 2: Was in California, and I was finding out to California
21:11
Speaker 2: to see him.
21:12
Speaker 5: And then he got a job in Atlanta to get
21:13
Speaker 5: closer to home, and I thought that man get closer
21:16
Speaker 5: to me. Oh did so. So I moved out to
21:20
Speaker 5: Atlanta to try to get closer to this men. And
21:23
Speaker 5: he was like, I'm just getting real money. I don't
21:25
Speaker 5: ready to just be a single man. We've been together
21:28
Speaker 5: since we were kids. I want to know what it
21:29
Speaker 5: is like to be by myself, whichy'all understand. You know,
21:31
Speaker 5: we were together since like what seven, sixteen seventeen. It's
21:35
Speaker 5: like twenty I was like twenty five, twenty six now, so.
21:39
Speaker 2: We have been together a long time.
21:40
Speaker 1: And Atlanta's no place to fund in me. Okay. It's
21:43
Speaker 1: a lot of single eligible men, a lot, no excuse me,
21:47
Speaker 1: there's a lot of single eligible women. Okay, But for
21:51
Speaker 1: the men, you might have to share a little bit, yeah,
21:53
Speaker 1: because half of them hobos. The other half is cool.
21:58
Speaker 1: The other moved and then you got you know him, right,
22:03
Speaker 1: that nigga. You got to go to little exactly. So
22:07
Speaker 1: that's the three types of men in a land.
22:08
Speaker 2: He was definitely one of those. Yeah, doing very very successful,
22:12
Speaker 2: you know, getting money, like real money for the first time,
22:15
Speaker 2: you know. So he wanted to be outside. I'm not
22:17
Speaker 2: even mad at him. So I like, I left Atlanta
22:20
Speaker 2: and I moved to Europe. My sister was there military
22:24
Speaker 2: and she's like, come out here with me. We need
22:26
Speaker 2: someone to do our hair. Anyway, get away from that nigga.
22:29
Speaker 5: So I left and I went to Europe and she
22:32
Speaker 5: was I was only supposed to be there a year
22:33
Speaker 5: with her, and then I stayed two more years after
22:36
Speaker 5: she was gone. I was there three years because I
22:39
Speaker 5: fell in love with a man. Ain't shamed. Then I
22:42
Speaker 5: moved to Florida with him, shame yup, moved to left Europe.
22:46
Speaker 5: I still had two more years on my visa. I
22:48
Speaker 5: could have stacked um two more years of money, but
22:50
Speaker 5: I left to be broke in Florida and depending on
22:53
Speaker 5: somebody else. So that's what I did, your dumb ass,
22:58
Speaker 5: big dumb bitch story. I left, I moved to destyby'ch floor,
23:03
Speaker 5: and then I left him, picked all my shit up
23:05
Speaker 5: and moved to Charlotte.
23:07
Speaker 2: So yeah.
23:07
Speaker 5: That was me getting away from a man, and it
23:09
Speaker 5: was like, Okay, I don't want to move back to Columbia.
23:11
Speaker 2: Where can I go? I've been to Atlanta. I want
23:14
Speaker 2: to be closed, but not the in Columbia. So right, Charlotte.
23:17
Speaker 2: And then I've been here for what eighth.
23:21
Speaker 1: You're here because I came in twenty fifteen. I came
23:24
Speaker 1: in sixteen, so okay, yeah sixteen. I got here February twenty.
23:29
Speaker 2: I came.
23:31
Speaker 1: January twenty sixteen.
23:32
Speaker 5: Yeah, I came in February. And then now here I
23:35
Speaker 5: am with Ken picking up and moving nervous about it.
23:39
Speaker 1: Oh, what makes you want to go to La? What
23:41
Speaker 1: you're trying to do right there?
23:43
Speaker 2: Tamn?
23:43
Speaker 1: I don't even know.
23:44
Speaker 3: Man.
23:44
Speaker 2: It's like I wouldn't maybe audition and.
23:46
Speaker 1: Down like a mid life prices to me, I'm gonna
23:48
Speaker 1: be honest with you. Hello, man, get a corvette and
23:52
Speaker 1: then in middle life. I'm not in that at all. Okay, yelp,
23:57
Speaker 1: So listen, he said, I get a corvette.
24:00
Speaker 2: The red carpet.
24:01
Speaker 1: La is always somewhere I've wanted to live ever since
24:04
Speaker 1: I was a little girl.
24:05
Speaker 5: My lease was up, My Salon lease is about to
24:08
Speaker 5: be up. I was like, am I gonna If I'm
24:10
Speaker 5: gonna do it? Now's the time, right? It would be
24:12
Speaker 5: good for our podcast networking. You come out there.
24:16
Speaker 1: You see y'all had this shit. This is what I
24:18
Speaker 1: know is gonna happen, right because Tammy's moving to LA
24:22
Speaker 1: and she's claiming that she's gonna make her way back
24:25
Speaker 1: to the East coast so we can continue business. But
24:29
Speaker 1: I feel like I'm gonna be dragged somewhere and I'm
24:32
Speaker 1: not being dragged. I do not like La. It feels
24:35
Speaker 1: like Atlanta to me. It sucks the energy. I do
24:38
Speaker 1: not like. Literally, I feel sick.
24:41
Speaker 2: Well, you know you don't have.
24:42
Speaker 5: To stay, but you'll have to come sometimes, right Why
24:47
Speaker 5: because there might be some opportunities for us there.
24:49
Speaker 1: Girl By, It was.
24:50
Speaker 2: A good opportunity.
24:51
Speaker 1: You're gonna come though, right, it depends somebody gotta beat
24:54
Speaker 1: my ass out there too, your ass. You might have
24:58
Speaker 1: to stay, Oh La. People like black women in LA.
25:01
Speaker 1: So my thing is this do you really want?
25:04
Speaker 4: Like?
25:04
Speaker 1: This is this is we're talking about starting over now
25:07
Speaker 1: at our big age.
25:09
Speaker 2: What do you want?
25:10
Speaker 1: Family wise? This might turn to a little therapy session, right, This.
25:12
Speaker 3: Is not what we bought.
25:13
Speaker 2: Two Episode big.
25:17
Speaker 1: Do you really want a husband? Do you really want children?
25:20
Speaker 1: You think, la, you're gonna find that there.
25:22
Speaker 2: See, this is why I said I don't be telling people.
25:25
Speaker 1: This is why I don't tell people, because this is
25:27
Speaker 1: the energy i'all are getting. No, it's not.
25:28
Speaker 2: I mean like I'm in alignment where where my life
25:31
Speaker 2: is supposed to go? Right now, That's how I feel.
25:33
Speaker 1: Got it?
25:34
Speaker 2: You can't.
25:35
Speaker 1: That's all I can say. Anything is possible.
25:37
Speaker 2: You know what. I do want a husband, I do
25:40
Speaker 2: want kid, a kid at least one.
25:42
Speaker 1: Why at least gonna get half of one? Gut right
25:45
Speaker 1: in a step?
25:46
Speaker 2: I take a step? Can you too? At this point?
25:49
Speaker 1: Yeah? I would.
25:50
Speaker 5: You know, I don't mind that. But I mean, we're
25:52
Speaker 5: just gonna see where where this rodeo takes me. I'm
25:55
Speaker 5: giving myself so with my moving on, my starting over,
25:59
Speaker 5: I'm doing it smart this time. I'm not packing up
26:01
Speaker 5: all my shit and just putting it in the place.
26:03
Speaker 5: I put my stuff in storage. I got air and
26:06
Speaker 5: b Airbnb for sixty days and a rental card just
26:10
Speaker 5: to see, like, do I even like it here? If
26:12
Speaker 5: I like it, then I'll ship all my shit right.
26:15
Speaker 5: If I don't, then I'll come back, you know, so
26:18
Speaker 5: we'll see what happens. But I don't think I'm doing that.
26:21
Speaker 5: I don't think I'm gonna real lit. We gonna see though,
26:24
Speaker 5: and you're gonna come over there. You gonna come over there.
26:27
Speaker 5: I'm gonna have a good time, and it's gonna be.
26:29
Speaker 1: Some great opportunity, a lot of the both, A lot
26:31
Speaker 1: of the great opportunities everywhere. You just gotta find them.
26:35
Speaker 5: You're gonna see, be optimistic about our our opportunities there.
26:41
Speaker 5: And my shit, I might meet my husbands soon as
26:44
Speaker 5: I get off the plane. He might be flying the plane.
26:46
Speaker 2: Bitch, I hear that. You never know.
26:48
Speaker 1: Make she give me that buddy pass. That's all I know. Yeah,
26:51
Speaker 1: because you're gonna need one coming back from La. Well,
26:54
Speaker 1: I got shout out to all about nine reb girls.
26:57
Speaker 1: I know what tiw it is, No duck, It depends
27:02
Speaker 1: on what uh what tier you at? My d three?
27:06
Speaker 1: Non rev ain't got me nowhere, duck.
27:09
Speaker 2: Yeah, I'm not having a spend.
27:17
Speaker 1: All right, what's the zips? Okay, So this is listen.
27:20
Speaker 1: I just while we were talking, I actually googled and
27:24
Speaker 1: how to start over at forty So we got tutors
27:29
Speaker 1: that girl, that's probably gonna be the same shit. Okay,
27:33
Speaker 1: let's not go over old this diabolical which hard her
27:39
Speaker 1: one time, my little niece. This is when she was younger.
27:41
Speaker 1: She just graduated from high school and it's going she's
27:44
Speaker 1: going to college now. But when I lived in Saint Louis,
27:47
Speaker 1: they came to visit me and my two nieces and
27:49
Speaker 1: my younger niece. She might have been like nine years
27:51
Speaker 1: old at the time, and I was like, girl, you
27:54
Speaker 1: a big as hell for a nine year old, just
27:55
Speaker 1: fucking with her? Why she done sat there and googled
28:00
Speaker 1: how big you support? How much should a twenty seven
28:03
Speaker 1: year old wag at the time I was twenty seven
28:06
Speaker 1: the hyerbolicle Right, well, actually, according to Google, you pretty
28:11
Speaker 1: you pretty big for a twenty seven year old dad,
28:15
Speaker 1: and that should have so aligned with who she is
28:17
Speaker 1: right now. So today that's allied with you. That is
28:23
Speaker 1: your baby, that is your das And she looked just
28:25
Speaker 1: like me, girl, shit you would do. All I could
28:30
Speaker 1: do was laugh, like that's funny?
28:32
Speaker 4: Is fun She can't showed you or yeah I saw
28:34
Speaker 4: that and show me like this time that you supposed
28:38
Speaker 4: to wait at twenty seven, girl, fuck you to this day.
28:44
Speaker 1: I love money anyway. So it says starting over it
28:48
Speaker 1: can be, can be a natural part of life, and
28:51
Speaker 1: it's never too late to do. So, Okay, here are
28:54
Speaker 1: some tips that you may that may help. So it
28:57
Speaker 1: says reflect, examine your values and goals, and consider what
29:01
Speaker 1: you can change. Okay, So and this you're changing your
29:06
Speaker 1: location environment Okay, And sometimes no, you know, I just
29:10
Speaker 1: think I'm gonna reinvent myself in a way too, Like
29:13
Speaker 1: I think I'm just want to be like more. I
29:15
Speaker 1: know I'm going to la where people are more superficial,
29:18
Speaker 1: but I think I'm going to be less superficial, more
29:21
Speaker 1: like concerned with just like the things that really have
29:24
Speaker 1: value to me when they like, you know, recently, people
29:28
Speaker 1: broke in my house and stole a whole bunch of
29:30
Speaker 1: like designer shit bags and shoes and jewelry, and I
29:34
Speaker 1: was like, what is the lesson in getting so all
29:36
Speaker 1: of my stuff stolen?
29:38
Speaker 5: And it's like that shit don't mean nothing. I know,
29:41
Speaker 5: it's nothing at all. Like I maybe God wanted me.
29:44
Speaker 1: To let go of those things because I was putting
29:47
Speaker 1: too much value on the shit that really didn't matter.
29:50
Speaker 2: So now they're gone.
29:51
Speaker 5: I had to find a lesson because other than that,
29:53
Speaker 5: I was just gonna be fucking mad. And if I
29:56
Speaker 5: catch that bitch outside, it's still up.
29:59
Speaker 1: Yeah, we know your answer.
30:00
Speaker 5: Yeah we seem to so anyway, girl, So I think
30:04
Speaker 5: I just want to have like a more holistic healthy
30:09
Speaker 5: I just it is a place of great where people
30:11
Speaker 5: are very healthy. So I think I'll be more into
30:15
Speaker 5: with that part of myself and just being a just
30:18
Speaker 5: a better version of me. That's what I'm looking forward to.
30:21
Speaker 5: We hope LA brings that out.
30:25
Speaker 1: It says take action, stop waiting for the perfect moment,
30:31
Speaker 1: and be willing to make a change. You can try
30:33
Speaker 1: starting new lobbies like joining a group bike ride to
30:37
Speaker 1: help you reach your goals.
30:39
Speaker 2: What I don't know.
30:41
Speaker 5: I mean here right through cycle, but I don't see
30:43
Speaker 5: how that's helpful next to to start.
30:45
Speaker 1: That's not like weight loss the fuck that too, But no,
30:49
Speaker 1: that's not what we really want. But anyway, it says
30:52
Speaker 1: be kind to yourself, practice mindfulness, be gentle with yourself,
30:55
Speaker 1: and allow negative emotions to flow. You can also try
30:58
Speaker 1: creating a positive mantra mantra to counter painful thoughts.
31:04
Speaker 5: That's exciting that you said that, because I just started
31:06
Speaker 5: doing this thing on my phone recently. Where how long
31:10
Speaker 5: when you go to it in my notes? And I've
31:12
Speaker 5: been doing it daily, so I have forgotten a couple
31:16
Speaker 5: of days.
31:17
Speaker 1: But its stuff I write down daily.
31:20
Speaker 5: Yeah, it's it says good things are always happening to me.
31:24
Speaker 2: That's the top and I always and I write.
31:28
Speaker 5: Something down daily that was good, that happened. I ain't
31:30
Speaker 5: did shoot today yet, but I got to see it's been.
31:34
Speaker 2: With my code.
31:35
Speaker 5: We're regarding and we're recording and we're in person. So
31:39
Speaker 5: that's my good thing for today, okay, and seeing your
31:42
Speaker 5: beautiful smile.
31:43
Speaker 1: Yeah, period, y'all. We got some real good teeth on.
31:48
Speaker 1: We talked about, dude, and I'd be like, really bragging
31:51
Speaker 1: because when you live like in this time that we're
31:54
Speaker 1: in right now, where everybody like our fossils are going
31:58
Speaker 1: to have veneers on them. If anybody has any skin left,
32:02
Speaker 1: there's gonna be a sexy tattooed on the neck of it,
32:06
Speaker 1: lips back, fucked up, a baby bird to brae crooked.
32:11
Speaker 1: You know what else, a baby fat cat girl fuck you,
32:15
Speaker 1: or have Betty boot on my butt?
32:18
Speaker 2: You got baby boop tip. Yeah, let's on break this is.
32:21
Speaker 1: How long I've been aj holiday? Okay, I got this
32:24
Speaker 1: tattoo when I was twenty years old, and on Betty
32:27
Speaker 1: Boop's butt it says holiday like the tattoo and then
32:30
Speaker 1: on her butt it says holiday. So you got a
32:32
Speaker 1: butt a tattoo of a butt on your butt. Yes,
32:36
Speaker 1: it's over this big ass birthmark. Did I say be
32:41
Speaker 1: kind to yourself? Yep? Okay, all right? Ask for help.
32:44
Speaker 1: If you're facing problems in your business, you can consider
32:47
Speaker 1: hiring an expert for advice. In a relationship, you can
32:51
Speaker 1: try a couple's counseling or working on your own personal growth.
32:56
Speaker 5: So asking for help that is a good one. I
33:00
Speaker 5: just I found that once I do tell people where
33:03
Speaker 5: I'm going, a lot of people like I got a
33:05
Speaker 5: friend out there, I can link you. I have had
33:07
Speaker 5: so many people just because of what we posted from
33:09
Speaker 5: last night, so many people in my dms like, oh,
33:11
Speaker 5: I got.
33:12
Speaker 2: A cousin out there, I got a sister out there,
33:14
Speaker 2: I gotta.
33:15
Speaker 5: Friends girl, right, so we need we link me with
33:18
Speaker 5: all of that, A lot of meaningful yeah, yeah yeah.
33:22
Speaker 5: If they don't coke, don't send them fruitful.
33:26
Speaker 1: I feel like LA A lot of the cocaine users
33:31
Speaker 1: a lot of that ship.
33:32
Speaker 2: I don't want no parts of that.
33:34
Speaker 1: It says reward yourself. Rewarding yourself in the moment can
33:37
Speaker 1: help you realize that your efforts are resulting in a
33:40
Speaker 1: positive out them. So you celebrated leaving, you should celebrate
33:43
Speaker 1: getting there. Yeah, that's something you could possibly do.
33:48
Speaker 2: That's a good idea.
33:48
Speaker 5: I think my my friends share is gonna come over
33:51
Speaker 5: with probably like a bottle of champagne, two classes.
33:53
Speaker 1: Then we're gonna clean clean, you know.
33:55
Speaker 2: Yep.
33:56
Speaker 1: Another part that says this is like it says feeling
33:59
Speaker 1: stuck in life. Five tips for how you can start over.
34:03
Speaker 1: First one is assess the situation. The first step to
34:06
Speaker 1: starting over is to step back and take an honest
34:09
Speaker 1: look at your life. So I think people do this
34:13
Speaker 1: just annually, but I feel like quarterly, right, you should
34:16
Speaker 1: do an assessment of your goals, do an assessment or
34:19
Speaker 1: where you are, where you wanna be at like that.
34:22
Speaker 1: It shouldn't be an annual thing. Should daily shit. I
34:28
Speaker 1: struggle daily just to do the basic shit I say
34:31
Speaker 1: I'm gonna do every day. But what I find is
34:33
Speaker 1: I'm quicker to do things for other people than I
34:36
Speaker 1: am for myself. So every day I'm like, man, let
34:39
Speaker 1: me do what I say I'm gonna do.
34:40
Speaker 5: Yeah, well that's not a good habit, though. You need
34:42
Speaker 5: to break that cause you'll look up and you.
34:44
Speaker 1: Yeah, that's what I'm saying. I need to do when
34:47
Speaker 1: people are trying to figure out how to get things done,
34:50
Speaker 1: Just do what you say you're gonna do, and it's done.
34:53
Speaker 2: But if it was that easy the world, just think
34:56
Speaker 2: about how many.
34:57
Speaker 1: Yeah, but if somebody else canna call you and you
34:59
Speaker 1: jump for them, jump for yourself and every day, right,
35:02
Speaker 1: and it's okay to say no to people. No, I
35:05
Speaker 1: can't come to this. No, I can't help you with that.
35:07
Speaker 1: I got a homegirl right now, I'm kind of avoiding
35:10
Speaker 1: because I know you want me to help you with something.
35:12
Speaker 1: Damn I didn't need any help, and I can.
35:15
Speaker 2: You just say no?
35:15
Speaker 3: Though?
35:17
Speaker 2: Uh you get no.
35:20
Speaker 1: I'm not having trouble with saying no. I just don't
35:22
Speaker 1: feel like it because I already know what she wants
35:25
Speaker 1: and I'm not about to do it.
35:27
Speaker 2: She wants to be.
35:29
Speaker 1: People don't want to use your connections that type of shit.
35:33
Speaker 1: So yes, I needed right know, Yeah, just like you know,
35:41
Speaker 1: like this is my lick, Like, why you think you
35:43
Speaker 1: can have like people are so weird? Yeah, okay, but
35:47
Speaker 1: I guess you got to use your connections. That everybody
35:49
Speaker 1: got six degrees of separation, right right, So I don't
35:52
Speaker 1: get mad at people before trying though, because I mean,
35:54
Speaker 1: why not. You know, I guess I don't get fit,
35:57
Speaker 1: so I just don't do it. I like or connections.
36:01
Speaker 1: I like organic relationships. If I happen to be in
36:05
Speaker 1: the vicinity of this person or you know, that's just
36:07
Speaker 1: how I like. I don't force nothing, ever, I will
36:11
Speaker 1: I will force it. Yeah, I know, I know, bitch,
36:16
Speaker 1: I will force it. Okay. So number two says to
36:23
Speaker 1: start with a new job, your career can be daunting
36:27
Speaker 1: to change. I haven't worked for anybody since technically since
36:33
Speaker 1: twenty seventeen.
36:34
Speaker 2: That's another thing.
36:34
Speaker 5: When I get out there, I'm going to have to
36:38
Speaker 5: maybe join the workforce a little bit ill.
36:42
Speaker 1: No saying working, but I.
36:44
Speaker 5: Just you know, I've always I mean, I'll still work
36:47
Speaker 5: for myself, but you know, you know, doing Harry, you
36:49
Speaker 5: still got a bill. You gotta start over, So I
36:52
Speaker 5: might have to, like you know, I used to work
36:54
Speaker 5: for Sophora, I might have to, like gal a part
36:57
Speaker 5: time at Sophora or.
37:00
Speaker 1: I can't imagine myself door dashing food, but could you
37:03
Speaker 1: imagine me pulling me pulling up with your bit y'all?
37:05
Speaker 1: Did any cars for work?
37:07
Speaker 2: I will, though I'm not above it.
37:08
Speaker 1: Like I actually enjoyed grocery shopping already any hustle, right,
37:12
Speaker 1: I'm not above it, but I just couldn't. I still
37:14
Speaker 1: feels weird with be like here's your cheeburger.
37:17
Speaker 2: But you never know, y'all to tell you what you
37:21
Speaker 2: gotta do.
37:21
Speaker 1: Y'all might be watching We Talk Back podcast in LA
37:24
Speaker 1: and order some food, going to bring it to your
37:28
Speaker 1: mother from man, Yo, I'm not above it, baby, like
37:33
Speaker 1: it's just a grind. So we just go see what
37:35
Speaker 1: hand hair up bring to god it do get that
37:38
Speaker 1: bad girl.
37:39
Speaker 2: I just watched it, man, that's what we all know that.
37:41
Speaker 1: Okay, we're talking about LA. We already on the cost
37:43
Speaker 1: of living is astronomical, is out the fucking roof. So
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Speaker 1: I can imagine you probably get paid a little better
37:48
Speaker 1: doing that. You no, see, you're not airpacting. They have
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Speaker 1: like old stag up collar, Like girl, what you're doing? Girl?
37:54
Speaker 2: I pull it up to.
37:57
Speaker 1: And they gonna be yelling at your ass like you
37:59
Speaker 1: be yelling at the goddamn ober eats. They got a dog,
38:02
Speaker 1: they better come to ink girl. Same Okay, it says
38:09
Speaker 1: moved to a new city. That's number three, So relocate
38:14
Speaker 1: if I could think of any place i'd want to be.
38:17
Speaker 1: This is why I just ended up moving back to
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Speaker 1: Charleston because we got palm trees. I don't know if
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Speaker 1: y'all know what do people be sleeping?
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Speaker 4: No?
38:24
Speaker 1: I want to live in Barbados.
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Speaker 2: That all Barnac. That is my.
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Speaker 1: That's why I feel like my soul be walls come
38:32
Speaker 1: to be at home and Charleston. Never the Barbados and Charleston.
38:36
Speaker 1: I've done a lot of research. They have a lot
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Speaker 1: of like close history and it's the same niggas, you
38:40
Speaker 1: know what I'm saying. Like even some of the neighborhoods
38:43
Speaker 1: I looked at in Barbados, it looks like like the
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Speaker 1: hood and my mom grew up in. It's the same shit.
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Speaker 2: I So ultimately that's where you're gonna like go home.
38:53
Speaker 1: That goals, Like I really want a beach house. I
38:58
Speaker 1: could see it, I could see the free I want that.
39:01
Speaker 1: So there's really no place else in America. I'd like
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Speaker 1: to live like I really am working, actively working on
39:07
Speaker 1: getting the second passport. Mm hm, just in case, bitch.
39:10
Speaker 1: I don't know if y'all seen the fucking stock market drop.
39:12
Speaker 1: I don't know how many points today we entered a recession.
39:17
Speaker 1: For sure. I feel like we've been in a recession
39:18
Speaker 1: since twenty nineteen. But for sure just happening. You couldn't
39:23
Speaker 1: even log into your brokerage account this morning. They shut
39:25
Speaker 1: shit down. So this is what happened. When there's a
39:28
Speaker 1: reset or restart the money. You think you having a bake,
39:31
Speaker 1: it's not yours. When shit hit the hand, like, you're
39:34
Speaker 1: gonna be lined up outside with everybody trying to get
39:37
Speaker 1: that money, and they're gonna be like, nah, we ain't
39:39
Speaker 1: got it.
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Speaker 5: That's why I like my great grandmother. She was allowed
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Speaker 5: for the Great Depression, and uh, I said the great
39:44
Speaker 5: because this might be the this might be the greatest.
39:50
Speaker 5: But she would not believe in a bank. She did
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Speaker 5: not believe in putting no money in no bank.
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Speaker 1: And then the cash, the paper of Fiat money have
40:00
Speaker 1: zero value. I don't know if people like I mentioned XRP,
40:03
Speaker 1: but there's more articles coming out. Think of America is
40:06
Speaker 1: now using XRP bitcoin like that shit is already like
40:11
Speaker 1: through the roof. If you're trying to get into cryptocurrency,
40:13
Speaker 1: that might be the next best thing. If you want
40:16
Speaker 1: to wake out one morning and you know you paid
40:19
Speaker 1: fifty cent for this for this coin, and now it's
40:22
Speaker 1: worth a thousand.
40:23
Speaker 5: Like my grandmother all her mother money and a like
40:27
Speaker 5: in a tin can, and she put it in the
40:29
Speaker 5: ground or under the bed.
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Speaker 2: Shame.
40:33
Speaker 5: I know she was a booth in the mattress. She
40:36
Speaker 5: was born in nineteen oh two, though, So let me, Yeah,
40:40
Speaker 5: what do you do?
40:41
Speaker 1: I don't know. Maybe you gotta get some gold or
40:44
Speaker 1: silver or something that's gonna actually have value because we've
40:47
Speaker 1: been off of the gold standard with the US dollar. Okay,
40:52
Speaker 1: it says immerse yourself in new activities. That's pretty much
40:55
Speaker 1: what the other list said. So maybe instead of cycling,
40:58
Speaker 1: you'll get you a ride your bike around.
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Speaker 5: I'll ride my bike and I want to do pilates
41:04
Speaker 5: I ordered. Have y'all seen this pilates core thing.
41:08
Speaker 2: It's like a little matt like a little contraption and
41:12
Speaker 2: the lady has her hand on the flooris she's doing like.
41:14
Speaker 1: Yes, I keep they keep sending me that ship. I'm
41:16
Speaker 1: ordering that thing, man, I want that thing.
41:19
Speaker 2: I can't order ship right now.
41:21
Speaker 1: I'm moving, so I can't order nothing, but I do
41:23
Speaker 1: want to, like, uh, somebody send me, like, hey, my
41:27
Speaker 1: my cousin's in LA and she teaches a pilates.
41:29
Speaker 2: Class, so they send me her Instagram.
41:31
Speaker 1: So yeah, by that, I definitely this gym in Charleston
41:35
Speaker 1: is called High Low. I gotta I still have storage
41:40
Speaker 1: in Columbias, all carlines. I gotta get that ship out
41:42
Speaker 1: of there. But once I do, and I don't have
41:44
Speaker 1: that bill anymore, I'm gonna get this membership because they
41:46
Speaker 1: have hot pilates, hot yoga, and it's a regular city
41:50
Speaker 1: yard gym. But that shit is like two hundred and
41:52
Speaker 1: thirty seven dollars a month to see Highest for a
41:55
Speaker 1: chap Wes just seem like a bad idea. Why just
41:58
Speaker 1: put a band on and keep it moving. Every time
42:01
Speaker 1: I even think I haven't had off, she looked like
42:05
Speaker 1: a hat. Lied and she looked like a hat.
42:07
Speaker 2: By the time I leave that.
42:10
Speaker 1: Sliding back white, I remember I looked.
42:15
Speaker 5: I was up the stair cliff, I was on the StairClimber,
42:18
Speaker 5: I was sweating like perfusely in my hand on the wig.
42:21
Speaker 5: And I was talking this is a planet fitness, And
42:24
Speaker 5: I was talking to that white guy at the desk
42:26
Speaker 5: and he said, you're you're skinned.
42:33
Speaker 2: Oh thank you baby.
42:34
Speaker 1: That ain't just here like I should be looking like
42:36
Speaker 1: Bookers there, your skin is peeling a little bit. White
42:41
Speaker 1: people will be so nice appreciate when they turn out
42:43
Speaker 1: to be load. Bro, You know what else to say,
42:46
Speaker 1: Like I'm going on, bitch, give me kicked right off?
42:51
Speaker 1: That was it?
42:52
Speaker 2: That?
42:52
Speaker 1: That is it for that little less like tips and
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Speaker 1: this this outherless is the starting over at forty No
42:59
Speaker 1: fun there later that No fuck that list are ty
43:02
Speaker 1: If he said five minutes our time is up, No
43:05
Speaker 1: it's not, Sarzoda.
43:06
Speaker 2: At forty you about to be real shady.
43:08
Speaker 1: I can never know. It's a good one. Okay. It's
43:11
Speaker 1: a self assessment. Take stock of your strengths, weaknesses, passions,
43:15
Speaker 1: and aspirations and this can help you make better decisions
43:18
Speaker 1: about your next step. Uh huh, Okay, set goals. Okay,
43:22
Speaker 1: consider what you want to achieve by reinventing yourself.
43:25
Speaker 2: Okay, Okay, I received that one.
43:27
Speaker 1: All right, have you done that yet? Have you done
43:29
Speaker 1: an assessment, like, what is your actual goal for going
43:32
Speaker 1: out there?
43:33
Speaker 3: Yeah?
43:33
Speaker 2: I just want to be happy?
43:34
Speaker 1: Okay, got it? Take risks, Okay. Reinventing yourself can be difficult,
43:40
Speaker 1: but don't be afraid to fail. I ain't never afraid
43:43
Speaker 1: of That's why I gave myself that sixty days, because
43:46
Speaker 1: I done had this going away.
43:47
Speaker 5: And they gonna see me back here your sixty days
43:48
Speaker 5: if I don't like it. And I just didn't like it,
43:50
Speaker 5: So I came bad, right, You.
43:52
Speaker 1: Gave that little disclosure lives that yeah, like, yeah, we're
43:57
Speaker 1: gonna see what happens to baby girl, all right, and
44:00
Speaker 1: brace lifelong learning, consider learning new things continuously planned financially
44:05
Speaker 1: starting over my theory might require some financial adjustment. M m.
44:09
Speaker 2: That's why I said I can't buy nothing new, Okay,
44:13
Speaker 2: I can't.
44:13
Speaker 4: So I.
44:15
Speaker 2: Record another episode in y'all outfit.
44:18
Speaker 1: Don't say shit to be I will never feel no
44:21
Speaker 1: type of way about rewaring. So should I wish a
44:23
Speaker 1: bit you would like in real life? I rewear my clothes? Yeah,
44:26
Speaker 1: me too, Okay, So I don't. I mean, I don't know,
44:30
Speaker 1: but you ain't never wore.
44:30
Speaker 2: The same thing twice to film.
44:31
Speaker 1: Yet I actually yes, I will be. I will be network,
44:40
Speaker 1: use their existing network and look for ways to expand it. Okay,
44:44
Speaker 1: and prioritize, prioritize self care, focus on your physical and
44:48
Speaker 1: mental health.
44:49
Speaker 2: There is like so where my airbnb is.
44:51
Speaker 5: It's a really nice place and there's an Equinox walking
44:54
Speaker 5: distance from it, and I google the Equinox price and
44:59
Speaker 5: then I just that I will use this fitnessend there.
45:01
Speaker 2: Ela stayed.
45:05
Speaker 1: Say, unless somebody want to give me an Equinox membership,
45:08
Speaker 1: that part then out on away gifts. Yeah, that's a
45:11
Speaker 1: great that would be a great gift. So that was
45:14
Speaker 1: that was good.
45:15
Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, that was a good list. I think that'll
45:17
Speaker 2: be some helpful tools for me. I mean some of
45:20
Speaker 2: them was shit had already had in mind. But some
45:24
Speaker 2: of those things, well we'll see what happened.
45:27
Speaker 1: Because specially having my friends visit No, because I was listen,
45:32
Speaker 1: if you don't come to see me, so I be
45:34
Speaker 1: mad because you was just in LA when with that
45:37
Speaker 1: head piece on looking pretty or a lot was two
45:39
Speaker 1: years ago at this point, it was not two year
45:41
Speaker 1: That was two years ago. That was a year before
45:44
Speaker 1: last time is really speeding up. Damn, that was too
45:47
Speaker 1: nine then back to La. Since then I got stuck
45:50
Speaker 1: on a buddy pass thing.
45:53
Speaker 4: Man.
45:53
Speaker 1: I went to the airport like nine o'clock in the morning.
45:55
Speaker 1: I get at that bitch till twelve o'clock at night.
45:57
Speaker 2: It really is the olypics. When you're flying on rip
46:00
Speaker 2: to pivot, you gotta be ready to pivot where you gotta.
46:08
Speaker 1: Or you just gotta buy your damn ticket. That's where
46:10
Speaker 1: I'm at right now until I find a d one player. Okay,
46:15
Speaker 1: I don't have a d My cousin works part time
46:19
Speaker 1: and I need a Delta person.
46:20
Speaker 5: It's on yarney, and I could get a job at
46:22
Speaker 5: the airport part time, and then I'll put you on.
46:25
Speaker 5: Yeah you be my Yeah, you be my spouse.
46:27
Speaker 1: Yeah plus one?
46:29
Speaker 2: Yeah, all right, you got any last last.
46:33
Speaker 1: Enjoy be good, Okay, keep your integrity intact. This is
46:39
Speaker 1: for me, yes, okay, Okay, don't be sucking dick what.
46:46
Speaker 2: I would never.
46:50
Speaker 1: Like. Don't do nothing I wouldn't do. Okay, I'm a
46:53
Speaker 1: whole prude. A motherfucking told me I have an elitist attitude. Okay,
46:58
Speaker 1: that's that supposed to be an all right? I think
47:02
Speaker 1: it was, Yeah, but it's not an insult.
47:04
Speaker 2: To me, you know whatever.
47:08
Speaker 5: I just feel like I'm not really susceptible to peer
47:11
Speaker 5: pressure at whatever age I am.
47:13
Speaker 1: We neither.
47:13
Speaker 2: It was about to say that.
47:15
Speaker 1: I am pressed. I just like I don't like, yeah,
47:17
Speaker 1: I'm way beyond that. I did all the things like
47:19
Speaker 1: that I want to do.
47:20
Speaker 2: Right, me too, me too.
47:22
Speaker 1: So it's just like, no, it's so easy to roll
47:24
Speaker 1: off my tongue at this age way and without a
47:27
Speaker 1: the explanation.
47:29
Speaker 2: You know how sometimes people tell you no and they
47:30
Speaker 2: feel like they.
47:31
Speaker 1: Need to tell you play why you know, period, just no,
47:35
Speaker 1: no complete statement. And that was Nick, and that's it.
47:40
Speaker 1: And I love you and be good.
47:42
Speaker 2: I don't love you too, and I'll see you soon.
47:44
Speaker 1: And don't fuck up our business. I will never, okay,
47:46
Speaker 1: we will never.
47:48
Speaker 2: I would never. I'll be back in three weeks. I'll
47:50
Speaker 2: be back in three weeks. Like I told Jordan, I said,
47:52
Speaker 2: we'll see.
47:53
Speaker 1: Well you're recording next next month. Well i'll be I
47:56
Speaker 1: have to be bad because I heard somebody laught like, bitch,
47:59
Speaker 1: you bad back my hair in three weeks for.
48:01
Speaker 5: The way, it's her wedding, So yeah, I'll definitely be
48:04
Speaker 5: here for sure. And then I have obligation to you
48:07
Speaker 5: into our show into yeah, her wedding, so you'll see
48:10
Speaker 5: me no.
48:11
Speaker 1: Words, may I don't worry. I'll take your as to court.
48:15
Speaker 2: She's not lie.
48:17
Speaker 1: All right, y'all said you got a last last for yourself.
48:22
Speaker 2: Catch me in l a bitches.
48:23
Speaker 1: I'll see you there, all right, y'all. That's all we
48:27
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48:43
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48:47
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