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EP. 46: Achieving Your 2025 Goals: Vision Boards, Goal Setting, and the Power of Intentions · Ambitious Podcast

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Hello and welcome back to Ambitious I Today I'm talking
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about something that I think is going to be truthfully the game
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changer for you this year when it comes to achieving the goals
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that you want to achieve, not only for your business, that can
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be one of the buckets, but also just in general for your life.
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Today we're talking about setting vision, setting
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intentions, setting goals and what that really looks like to
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do and have that be achieved successfully.
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And I think a lot of the time, you know, many of our lives have
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been centered around different goals.
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The goals might be to, you know, for some of us get into a
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certain school when we were younger.
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It could be to get married, to own a home one day, to have a
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certain type of career, to achieve something with our
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health or in the specific sports.
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There's so many different goals that we go for, but what really
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is the differentiator between the goals that we say we want
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and that we want to achieve versus those that actually come
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to fruition? And so for me, if you know me,
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you know that I am somebody who is who is not going to let
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something just happen just out of intention.
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But I want to really have a structure, a way to know how I
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can be successful at it. You know, I talk about
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frameworks non-stop on this podcast, and that's because they
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give us a road map. And So what I wanted to do today
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is I wanted to break down how can we take vision and the
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destination of where we want to go and how can we take the goals
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that we're going for in 2025 and really make sure that we have
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that road map, that we have that plan of how we're going to go
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and do that. And so before we dive in today,
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first, I want to say a massive thank you.
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If you are coming back to today's episode and you were
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listening last week and the week before, if you've been binging
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some of our other episodes, I want to say thank you so much
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for coming back and I'm excited to have you here.
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And also, if someone potentially has sent this to you or if this
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is your first time listening to Ambitious, I also want to
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welcome you to the family and we're beyond excited to have you
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here. This is a place where I want you
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to be able to grow into the version of yourself that you
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know you can become. And actually this week we
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announced on social media that we were starting a new series
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called the becoming. And this was because in 2024 was
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a very short story intro here. In 2024, I had a really hard
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year. It was definitely a year that
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tested me in almost every bucket, if I'm going to be
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honest. It tested me in friendships, in
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health, in business, in frankly everything.
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And so going into 2025, I feel like I was, you know, 10 times
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more invested in goals and vision than I ever have been
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before. And so the becoming was
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something that, you know, when I thought about all the things I'm
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going to teach you today and I started to map this out for
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myself, I realized I don't want to do this alone.
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I want to share this with other people.
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I want to help other people to also step into the version of
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themselves that they know that they could be in 2025 and to
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give them the tools that would help them to do that.
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And also the same tools that I myself am using and have used in
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past years for other goals that I've had.
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In today's episode, we are going to be covering a variety of
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different things. We're going to be covering
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vision and understanding of what is the difference between a
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vision versus a goal. We're going to be talking about
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vision boards and actually breaking down some of the
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science of why vision boards and creating vision boards are so
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effective for you and for your goals.
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We're going to be talking about the different 5 steps that
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you're going to want to follow to achieve any goal in any
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bucket of your life, whether financial, career,
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relationships, health, it doesn't matter.
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These are five steps that will lead you to success.
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And along the way, I'm also going to be sharing a couple of
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different stats that will help you to start to normalize what
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is the difference maker of things that we say we want to
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do, that we say we want to accomplish versus those we
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actually do. And I don't know if I would
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assume you're like me if you're here listening to this and you
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probably have had goals that you've set year after year.
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I can't tell you if I'm going to be honest, how many years I have
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set my goal to be like, this is the year that I'm going to get
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into the best shape. And to be transparent, it hasn't
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happened. It's a goal.
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There's some goals that I have that I crush and I knock them
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out every year. And there's other goals like
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getting healthy that have been something I have every single
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year struggled with. And So what I realized was when
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I started to go back through, why have I not achieved my
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goals? Now, the goals that I have
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achieved, why have those come to fruition?
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And I started to really chunk it down.
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It became very apparent there were parts of these steps that I
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was doing and certain goals that I achieved that I wasn't doing
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and those that I didn't achieve. And so today I'm going to break
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those downs that I can also help you to learn from some of those,
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you know, journeys that I had and some of those mistakes and
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also to teach you how I was able to be successful in the things
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that I have done. So I want to start off with, you
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know, vision versus goals because a lot of the time we
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hear these words kind of like thrown out, right?
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Here's the vision of what I want for my life and creating a
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vision board. I've got goal setting.
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We hear about SMART goals, right?
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Like we hear about all these things of like, what's your
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target, what's your goal, what's your vision?
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And I think it's really important that we understand the
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distinction between what it means to have an intention or a
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vision or a manifestation, if you will, for our life versus
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what it means to have a goal. A vision or an intention is
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something that you're setting out as your North Star.
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So really, this is something that you're setting as an
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intention. And the way I almost think about
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it is a set of bumper lanes, OK? So I almost want you to picture
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literally as how I think about it.
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I think about it like a path. And so there's an overall
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destination that I'm generally speaking, trying to get to.
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That's vision. It's getting the clarity of
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where is it that we're heading? Where do we want to go?
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What are we looking to achieve? And to describe that, and I find
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in general, vision is a little bit more in the creative, more
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emotional bucket. So vision is something that is
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not always going to feel tactical.
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It's not always going to feel like, you know, I have this
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vision for my life, but I don't have a plan of how I'm going to
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do it, right? So like for me, I have a vision
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of what my life's going to look like and what my home will look
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like and how many kids I'll have and, you know, being married and
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all of these things I see for my life how I'm going to do that,
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that is a totally different story because that is goals.
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Vision is the emotional tie to the intention of what it is we
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want to achieve. And so you want to ask yourself,
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what is your vision versus what is your goal?
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And how are you maybe potentially grouping all those
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together? And could that be a reason we're
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lacking clarity and lacking movement?
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So vision is really about setting the intention in the
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North Star, whereas goals are very much a matter of getting
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clarity of the tactics or the stepping stone.
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So it go back to that analogy of the pathway.
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The vision is the bumper lanes and that destination that's
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going to help you to get there. Whereas goals, those are
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literally the physical steps, right?
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The stones we're walking on that lead us to that North Star at
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the end. So goals and vision are not the
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same thing. And I do feel that it's because
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we often group them together that we usually lose when it
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comes to achieving because we're trying to play in the emotions
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of our heart at the same time that we're in our head thinking
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the logistics of how we're going to get there.
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So no wonder we're having a difficulty trying to make a road
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map or a plan for ourselves. So we want you to separate them
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instead. So vision, the destination or
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North Star goals, the stepping stones, that's going to help to
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build that pathway in that walkway to letting you get
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there. OK, so one of the things that
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was a little different this year going into 2025 that I haven't
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taken as seriously in the past years was a vision board.
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And as I say this, I know that your mind is gonna be like Kate,
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you mean to tell me that I'm gonna get a Bristol board and
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some magazines and that's gonna be the difference of how I
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achieve my goals this year. Yeah, Right.
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And I'm right there with you because I was not somebody who
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was super into making vision boards.
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Like it wasn't like I was like nerding out on doing this and
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it's like jazz and excited about it.
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I just was like, OK, if I need to make a vision board, why do
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we need to make it like, show me the reason?
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Show me the why. And so I literally started as my
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nerd brain does, and I started to research vision boards.
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And I was like, what's this all about?
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And I listened to a podcast that happened to talk about vision
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boards. And I was like, oh, my goodness,
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I'm doing a vision board. So I went to the store, I got
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all the stuff, and I did the vision board.
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And I want to share some of the things that I learned about
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vision boards and specifically why I'm recommending you to do 1
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and how already just in a few weeks of 2025, I already feel a
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shift in the way that my mindset and perspective has been around
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my goals. And I truly believe it's based
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off of what I'm going to share with you.
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So one of the reasons why vision boards are really effective is
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because of our Ras system, which is basically reticular
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activating system. And so this is how do we think
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about your brain. And we've talked about this.
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If you want to go to really understand this in depth, I
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recommend going to TJ Fry's episode.
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It's a guest episode and he is a absolute master at the
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subconscious mind and he talks about this at length.
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But the reticulate activating system is really the filter
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through which your brain filters information.
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And so in an average 2nd, and yes, I said second, our brain is
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sorting through around 11,000,000 bits of information.
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Of that 11,000,000 bits of information per second, you're
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only consciously aware of 40 to 50 bits per second.
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OK, so I wanted to show you we go from a million per second to
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40 to 50 bits that you actually become consciously aware of.
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And so the thing that we want to look at and why this is
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significant when it comes to vision boards is that when you
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are creating a vision board, what you're ultimately doing is
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that you're programming your reticular activating system to
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pick up on the information and put more attention on the bits
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that get through to be on the things that you want that you're
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going for in your life. And so if you're like, Kate,
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what the heck are you talking about reticular activating
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system? So I want to give you an
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example. Have you ever gone to look at
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something that you want to buy? So maybe you are thinking about
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buying a car. Maybe you're somebody who's
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eyeing a specific trip somewhere and you feel like everyone ends
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up going to that destination all of a sudden.
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Or you see that car everywhere on the street, or you're looking
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at a specific something that you want to invest in and before you
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know it, you're seeing it everywhere.
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That's not a fluke. That is literally your brain
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rewiring and resorting re filtering, if you will, to show
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you the bits of information that you have prioritized to
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determine are valuable. And so TJ Fry talks a lot about
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this in his episode, much, much more in depth.
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So if you want to learn a lot about that, I highly recommend
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going to that episode. But the reason this is important
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is because when we create a vision board, what's happening
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is our filter is going to start filtering differently.
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It's going to start letting things through and allowing our
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awareness to become consciously aware of the opportunities and
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the resources around us that have always been there.
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Just like that car, it's always been there, but our brain will
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start to sort our environment and our reality to bring that to
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the forefront so we become consciously aware of it.
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And so when we create a vision board, what we're doing is we're
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setting an intention of what do I want to have come through my
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filter? What do I want to have presented
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to my conscious awareness everyday?
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What kind of resources, what kind of awareness do I want to
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have come forward as a result of my goals versus what might be
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coming through right now. And so your brain is literally
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designed, It is created with the intention to focus in on
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opportunities, people, and resources that help you to
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achieve the things that you want, that you have determined
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in your mind are valuable. So in summary, your brain will
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take the things that you've determined are valuable and
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meaningful to you, and it will sort the environment based off
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of whatever that thing is. So for example, should you
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decide that a red Jeep is something that you find
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meaningful to you or you're considering buying, you're going
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to start to see not only a lot of Jeeps everywhere, but you
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might even see more red Jeep specifically than you ever have
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before. And So what we want to look at
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is, well, why? Why is this going to help me
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achieve my goal, right? So yes, I've got more
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opportunities being brought to me.
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Well, how is that going to impact me?
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There was a study that was done and it actually showed that
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mental imagery on something like a vision board and visualizing
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your success can increase goal based behavior by 80%.
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This was like a study done in 2009 in Chicago, and it
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literally showed that if you have mental imagery of your
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goals in your surrounding environment and you can
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visualize what it means to achieve those in your
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environment, that you have the ability to increase your
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behavior around your goals by 80%.
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Can we just take a second 80 percent, 80%?
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If you hear nothing else I say today, that's the reason to go
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pick up some magazines, a Bristol board and some glue.
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OK? So like, This is why when I
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drove into this, I'm like, oh, OK, to the store we go because I
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didn't want this to just be something that I was doing that
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was just going to sit in the side of my office.
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I was like, is this really going to help me?
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And as soon as I saw that, I was like, oh, OK, here we go.
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The other thing that I found was interesting as well was how our,
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our vision boards are actually creating and reinforcing what we
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want in our lives. And so basically when you have a
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vision board, you are programming your goals in your
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environment every single day. So with this, the affirmations
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you have around your goals, the positive reinforcement of your
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goals in your environment, implanting those in your
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environment increases what they call self efficacy.
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And basically studies found that people who have high senses of
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self efficacy are more likely to persist through challenges and
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stay motivated through their goals.
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So self efficacy, for anyone who's not familiar with this, is
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basically the belief that you can accomplish and achieve the
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things that you desire to do. So let's simplify this even
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more. If you have a vision board,
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you're increasing self efficacy. If you increase self efficacy,
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it means you're increasing your belief in your ability to
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achieve the things that you want to do.
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And by doing that, studies have shown that it is those
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individuals who are more likely to persist through challenges
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and stay motivated. So just by having your goals in
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your environment, you're going to increase your belief system
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that you can do it. And as a result, when you're
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faced with a resistance along the path which you and I both
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know is going to happen, you're more likely to persist through
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those challenges and persist through those resistances
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because you have that belief. But that belief got there
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because of the vision board. The vision board and planting
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those positive affirmations in your environment is what created
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the self efficacy. So vision boards reinforce the
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belief of what you're capable of achieving.
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They are the constant daily reminder of what you have the
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potential and the ability to achieve.
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OK, so I'm sure by this point you're starting to pick up and
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why I was like, OK, vision boards, here we go.
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Because this was something that blew my mind about literally how
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it changes our behavior, how it changes our psychology, how it
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changes our brain and to changing our brain.
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This was the last one that put me over the edge as in like I
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couldn't get to the store fast enough.
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Neuroplasticity and this I'm not going to get into the nuts and
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bolts of all the science side of it.
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I want to talk about the impact of it and the basics of it being
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that visualization, such as seeing your goals on a vision
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board, can actually rewire the brain and strengthen behaviors
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and habits that support achieving that goal.
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IE to simplify, the more that you have the ability to see and
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tune into the vision and the goals that you have.
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Neuroplasticity is basically the process of your brain changing
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the way that it's wired because of that to tune into your goals.
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Is this not mind blowing? Like when I dove into this, I
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had no words. You mean to tell me that when I
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dive into my goals and my vision, my brain is literally
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going to rewire itself? The more reps I put in, the
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deeper and deeper wiring I'm going to be creating in my brain
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to help me to achieve those things.
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Like it's just such a no brainer.
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It's such a no brainer. And so again, we go back to it's
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sorting your environment, it's deepening the belief that you
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have, which helps you to have a higher level of belief when
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challenges occur. And it's literally changing the
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wiring of your brain. And so here's what I did.
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I heard all of this. I read about this and I was
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like, OK, so I went to the store and I went to an area where they
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had a big rack of magazines and I just pulled anything that
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spoke to me and I didn't judge it.
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This is the most important thing for all of you analytical,
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logistical ladies. And you know who you are, you
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may go in and say, well, I don't know if there's something in
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that magazine for me or I don't know if that if, if I desire,
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you know, home and garden, what's that going to be about?
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Maybe I don't want anything there.
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Try not to think about it as a plan.
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We're just allowing. We're just going to be, we're
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going to allow the emotions to come up as they need to.
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And So what I did is I went into a store.
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I looked at the rack and I just picked out any magazine that
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spoke to me, could be a cover, skimmed through a couple of
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them. I just picked out probably about
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six different magazines. And I got these magazines, I got
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some glue, got some scissors, and I got a big Bristol board.
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And I also, as a side note, would recommend getting a bigger
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Bristol board than you think because you're going to fill it
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up quicker than quicker than you really probably imagine.
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And so I went home and I really decided to make a night of it.
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OK, So I sat down, I poured myself a glass of wine, I put on
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some music in the background and I got these magazines out and I
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set the intention and I just sat back for a second.
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And I remember saying like, this is the year that it's just going
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to be different. And it's just a decision you
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make. You just decide that I'm, I'm
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not doing this anymore. I'm not talking about my goals
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anymore and allowing them every year just pass me by.
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Like this is this is the year. This is my year, this is my year
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and we're making it happen. This is the first step.
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So I gave myself that permission that I was done with the beliefs
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that, you know, last year was bleeding into this year.
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No, this is a new fresh slate. This is a new opportunity for me
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to set intention and I'm done with the stories of what I used
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to tell myself. I am done with all the history
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of, but it's always been this and it's always been that great.
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That's how it was, but not how it's necessarily going to be.
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And so I just decided in that moment that before I ever cut
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out anything, that each thing that I was going to cut out of
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that magazine was me choosing a different reality.
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And it meant that I had to Createspace.
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I had to realize that I wasn't going to be carrying the
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previous baggage with the new things.
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I had to try to set the intention that this was a fresh
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slate. And so I opened up those
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magazines. I, I first started by just
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cutting out a bunch of things. There was no, you know, I'm
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going to use it. I'm not going to use it.
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I just literally went through and for no rhyme or reason, I'm
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just picking out images that speak to me.
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And your brain is going to go somewhere very specific, which
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is that it's going to say, well, like, well, can we achieve that?
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Is that realistic? Is that probably going to happen
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this year? And I was like, thank you,
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brain. We're not worried about the plan
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right now. We're worried about setting the
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intention. You're just going in with what
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speaks to you. And so I went in and I clipped
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up a bunch of images and I put them in a big pile on the table.
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And then once I felt like I kind of pulled through all the images
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that made sense to me and that felt like they hit home for me.
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I put the magazines away. And so I spread all those images
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on the table. And I'd say I probably used
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about 60% of them. And there was some that by the
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time that I came back to them, I didn't feel like they hit home
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for me anymore. And I think there's a big factor
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here, which is only to use things that have an emotional
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activation in you, because this is meant to be, as we talked
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about the earlier part, right? Vision is emotion.
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Goals are tactical and strategic.
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This is meant to be emotional. This is not meant to be the plan
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of how you're going to do all these things.
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It's meant to be something that you're doing to be emotional and
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to be connected to what your vision is and to emotionally
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connect with where you want to go.
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And so I, I laid them all out on this Bristol board and I started
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to glue them down and I started to see it come to life.
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And as I was going through, there was some that I wanted to
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leave or something I wanted to keep.
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And when I saw it at the end, you know, to be honest, it made
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me emotional because I've never had more faith in the fact that
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it could happen and the fact that it would happen.
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I know that it's all in process already in some way, shape or
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form. And my heart was so clear on
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what I wanted. And you know, my, my vision
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board had things like travel on it.
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It had, you know, the desire to be a mom.
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I really desire to be a mom one day.
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And I low key want to have like a small baseball team.
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I had, you know, having a really connected family and having an
22:56
incredible supportive partner and getting married one day.
23:00
I had, you know, growing and, and resilience and expansion
23:04
around business on there. I had Forbes on there.
23:08
I had so many different buckets of my life on this vision board,
23:11
but it was an all-encompassing of like a snapshot of what I
23:15
value and I'm like, there it is. There's my life and you know,
23:19
it's changed over the years and it's something I will be doing
23:22
consistently every year now that I've done it because I realize
23:25
how much, if I think back to my old vision boards, it used to be
23:29
these big mansions and fancy cars and all of these things.
23:32
And maybe for you, that's what your vision is and there's
23:35
nothing wrong with that. But for me, what I've realized
23:37
was my visions changed. And if I don't acknowledge the
23:43
new vision and plant that new vision in my mind, I might be
23:46
operating off of an old iOS system, OK, Like we might be
23:50
operating off of an old vision, which is why some of the things
23:53
are feeling difficult. And so getting this new
23:56
intention and getting this new clarity made me feel so insanely
23:59
motivated. And I was sharing with the girls
24:02
in the becoming group that we started on Instagram, which by
24:04
the way is free. So if you just message me the
24:06
word becoming, we can add you. And it's literally, I think at
24:09
this point we're like at 80 something or 90 something girls
24:12
in there. And it's just all girls working
24:15
toward their goals. And it's just, it's incredible
24:18
supportive community of women who are going for goals in every
24:20
bucket. Some are looking to date and
24:23
find the love of their life. Some are looking to, you know,
24:25
take their health next level. Some of it's careers, some of
24:27
it's mental health. It's just amazing, supportive
24:30
women helping women community, No commitment, no expectations,
24:33
just a free community to support you that we're doing
24:35
specifically for the year of 2025.
24:37
S anytime you're listening to this in 2025, you're absolutely
24:40
free to join. And so I did this vision board
24:42
and you know, I, I now have this in my bathroom.
24:45
And that's the thing that I also want to say the vision board is
24:48
not meant to be something that you do when you stick in a
24:50
random closet, OK? The vision board is something
24:54
that you need to have in your environment.
24:56
You need to have it around you so that it can do and work the
24:59
magic that we just talked about of the science of why it works.
25:03
But it needs to be in your environment.
25:04
It needs to be something you're actively consuming day in, day
25:07
out in order for you to have the benefits and the outcomes that
25:10
are possible with it. And so, you know, we've gone
25:13
over a little bit of vision boards, right?
25:15
We've talked about why they're impactful.
25:17
We've talked about the different science of why they work and the
25:20
impact truthfully that it has on you being able to achieve the
25:23
goals that you want to do. But then comes, as we talked
25:27
about earlier, the difference between vision and goals.
25:30
And so goals are very different because goals are more a matter
25:34
of the actual way in which we achieve an outcome.
25:36
So again, intention and vision is the emotional, you know,
25:40
North Star, if you will, of what we want to try to do.
25:44
And then goals are the way in which we're going to help
25:46
ourselves to act in accordance with doing it.
25:49
One of the things you'll often hear in the manifestation space
25:52
is that it's one thing to set an intention.
25:53
It's one thing to manifest what you want for your life, but you
25:56
can't manifest having like the body of your dreams and then sit
26:00
on the couch and never move. You can't manifest having this
26:04
big, big business where you just want to, you know, make tons of
26:07
money in your business, have massive impact in your business
26:09
and be a micro celebrity. But you never leave your house
26:12
and you don't connect with anybody and you don't show up
26:14
and you're not doing any of the things that are needle movers.
26:17
So the thing we know with any goal is that there's one thing
26:20
to have in North Star. There's another thing to act in
26:22
accordance with that goal that you want to achieve or the
26:25
vision you want to achieve. And so that brings me to goals,
26:28
which is the five steps I'm going to be walking through with
26:30
you of how basically you can achieve any goal at any time.
26:36
One thing that I want to note before we dive into the steps is
26:39
that if I have learned anything about the goals that I've
26:44
achieved, it's the fact that you really kind of have to fake it
26:49
till you make it. And what I mean by fake it till
26:54
you make it is not necessarily you have to be fake, but to this
26:58
extent that you have to do before you are in order to be
27:05
the person you want to be. You have to act in accordance
27:08
with that person before you become her.
27:11
And I think the thing that I see time and time again with a lot
27:15
of people that I help and that I support and that I work with is
27:18
that they often times have this belief that they're like, oh,
27:21
but I'm not there yet. So like once I get there, then
27:24
I'll do that. You don't start working out once
27:26
you have the ABS, you start working out and along the way
27:29
you get the ABS and then you become the person who works out
27:31
and you maintain those, right? So same thing with business.
27:35
Like I didn't become a 7 figure business owner as a byproduct of
27:41
just like, oh, once I get there, I'll change what I want to do
27:44
and who I'm going to be. I started to be like, OK, like
27:46
how does that person operate? How does that person go about
27:49
their day? How does that person deal with
27:52
challenges? What do they do with their
27:53
mindset? How do they navigate their life?
27:56
And it was only once I started to act in accordance with the
27:59
version of myself that I wanted to become that I actually became
28:02
that person and I started to achieve those goals.
28:05
And so, you know, I often talk to clients and, and even friends
28:09
and peers. And, you know, the constant
28:11
quote that I say is show me what you're doing today and I'll show
28:15
you where where you'll be this year.
28:18
Show me what you're doing today and the actions you're taking,
28:22
and I will show you who you'll be this year.
28:25
And that is because the easiest evidence that we need to
28:31
determine where we're going to end up is who we are and what
28:34
we're doing and the actions we're taking day in and day out.
28:38
And so the thing I will assure you of is you're going to have
28:41
to do the actions before you ever become the thing.
28:46
You're going to have to go to the gym and hate every second of
28:49
it. And I'm right there with you
28:49
right now. You're going to have to go to
28:51
the gym and hate every second of it before you become that fits
28:54
Bo that you want to become. You're going to have to, you
28:57
know, go and put in the grind at school.
29:00
For example, if you're somebody who wants to have that specific
29:03
career that you need a education for, you're the person who's
29:07
going to have to put in the reps.
29:08
If you're somebody who wants to be that 7 figure business owner,
29:11
it doesn't matter what it is you're going to have to do
29:16
before you become. And so it's not a matter of be,
29:22
do, have, it's a matter of do, have, be.
29:28
And so it's really looking at, well, OK, how do we do that?
29:32
What are the steps that we take to achieve that?
29:34
And So what I am breaking down today is I'm breaking down the
29:39
five steps to achieving any goal.
29:42
And these five steps are going to be everything that you need
29:46
as your road map to achieve really any goal that you have
29:48
for yourself in 2025, regardless of the bucket that it's in.
29:51
Step one is to actually be clear on what is your why around your
29:56
goal and the amount of superficial surface level.
30:00
Why is that? I hear, you know, when someone
30:02
comes to me in business and they say like, hey, I want to be
30:04
$1,000,000 business. I'm like, great, why $1,000,000
30:07
is a surface level number. That is not why you want
30:10
$1,000,000. You want it because of something
30:12
much deeper inside. Could it be because of, you
30:15
know, fame and being acknowledged?
30:17
Could it be because of, you know, wanting to have more
30:20
impact? Could it be the fact that, like,
30:21
I really see myself like being an author and being like this,
30:24
like mass celebrity, Like, what is that thing?
30:27
But there's something deeper than just the surface level of
30:29
like, oh, I want to hit X amount of money, right?
30:32
So having a deeper Y is really, really important.
30:35
And I actually was pulling up a stat on this.
30:38
Research has found that goals that are tied to intrinsic
30:41
motivation, IE having more emotionally meaningful goals,
30:45
had a 55% higher chance of being achieved.
30:49
That was a study that was done in 2000 and a 55% higher chance.
30:56
Let's just take a second. OK.
30:57
So when you have an actual why that is emotionally motivated
31:01
around a goal that you have and you tap into what that is, you
31:05
are 55% more likely to achieve the goal that you're stating
31:13
55%. It's a lot.
31:18
And so I want you to ask yourself literally why.
31:22
Why do you want to achieve the thing that you want to achieve?
31:26
So for me, when I think about, for example, I'll just share
31:29
some of mine. When I think about the kind of
31:32
financial revenue that I want to make in the business, it's been
31:35
something I've been toying with because I don't need more money
31:42
like I don't like. I have a very, I'm very happy
31:45
and fulfilled with my life and more resources to me are not
31:51
really necessary for my life to drastically change.
31:57
Like I don't need my life to change from where it is.
31:59
I'm very happy with my life, but the thing that I am actually
32:05
motivated by when it comes to money is the fact that if I want
32:09
to have the life I want, when I have children, there's a certain
32:14
life that I want to have. I want to be able to have them
32:18
be able to go on trips and not be worried about anything
32:21
financially. I want to be able to have
32:24
somebody who helps me at the house because I, as I said, I
32:27
want to have a small baseball team.
32:28
I want to have somebody who can help me at the house so that I
32:30
can, you know, maybe not always be running ragged all the time
32:35
trying to get everything done between, you know, laundry and
32:38
cleaning and and being a parent and, and parenting your kids and
32:42
then also working and then being a partner.
32:44
Like I just I definitely want to have the ability to have help.
32:48
I for my business, want to dial it in in such a specific way
32:51
that like I want to be structured around my kids
32:53
schedule. I want to literally drop them
32:55
off at school every morning and I want to pick them up every day
32:57
after school. And that is my dream business so
33:01
that my kids, I have a present mom like that's what I desire as
33:06
like my main goal and intention for my business and for my life.
33:10
That's my why. It's not about funnel, it's not
33:13
about followers. It's not about any of that
33:15
stuff. It's about the fact that the
33:18
business I create and the resources that I can use and and
33:21
develop right now are the things that are going to allow me to
33:24
have that life. And so that's my why.
33:28
And so when we think about hitting a certain number, it
33:31
should be about, well, why do you want that number?
33:33
If you want to have a, a book, why do you want to have a book
33:37
when you are like, I want to have a top performing podcast?
33:39
Why do you want have a top performing podcast?
33:41
Why do you want what you want? Why do you really want it in
33:47
your heart? And you know, this is not
33:50
something that we necessarily have to peel back.
33:52
If you say you want $1,000,000, my first question will be, well,
33:55
what are you going to spend the $1,000,000 on?
33:57
That's your why, right? OK, well is the why?
34:01
Because, you know, I want to buy a fancy car or maybe for some of
34:04
the people that I talked to, it's because they want to buy a
34:08
home for their parents and to retire their parents.
34:11
And now their parents are their actual why?
34:13
OK, great, we're getting somewhere, but the money is not
34:15
the thing. And just like, for example, you
34:18
know, another bucket might be health.
34:20
If you're like, I want to get healthy.
34:21
Well, why do you want to get healthy?
34:22
You want to get healthy because OK, well, I want to have ABS.
34:26
Well, why do you want to have ABS?
34:27
Like let's peel it back. Is it really about that?
34:30
Or is it about the fact that you want to be able to look back and
34:33
really be proud of yourself and knowing that you pushed yourself
34:36
to get uncomfortable and to challenge yourself for growth,
34:40
that you don't want to settle in the way you take care of your
34:42
health? Or maybe for some people, health
34:45
is about the fact that has nothing to do with physique and
34:47
has everything to do with just performance and function.
34:50
Maybe it's about the fact that you want to be able to, you
34:53
know, run around with your kids and be able to feel like you can
34:56
go at their warp speed when they have all the energy going and
35:00
they're an endless battery and that you can keep up with them.
35:03
Like that's a real why. That's a deep why not just I
35:06
want this thing because. And so I want to challenge you
35:08
first to start with, what is the actual why behind your goal?
35:13
What is your goal? And with this, what is the why
35:16
around it? Why do you even want to achieve
35:17
that? And you have to have that
35:19
because if you don't, as I said earlier, 55%, if you do so do
35:24
you really want to be the other half, right?
35:29
Do you want to be the other 45% of people who are not likely to
35:33
achieve their goal because they haven't really connected it to
35:35
any deeper? Why?
35:38
So Step 2 is to define success and define the outcome.
35:42
This is something we talk about all the time in business.
35:46
And in business we often discuss like, let's just say you have a
35:51
marketing goal. One of the first things that I'm
35:55
going to have you do is say define the outcome.
35:57
So if you're like, I really want to get better at marketing, OK,
35:59
well what is getting better at marketing look like?
36:01
Or if I want to get healthy, what is getting healthy look
36:03
like? Like what does it mean for you
36:06
to have achieved it? So like for me with this
36:08
podcast, like when I wanted to create a podcast and that was my
36:11
intention, the why around it for me was the fact that I wanted to
36:15
have an opportunity to get really personal and just be raw
36:18
and unfiltered with the people who were looking for support and
36:22
looking for help. And that I also wanted to have
36:25
the ability to impact and connect with more women.
36:28
And so to find success, to find success was getting a podcast up
36:32
and having episodes that someone could listen to.
36:34
That meant that I had a podcast, right?
36:36
I was like, I got to be on YouTube, I got to be on audio, I
36:39
got to be on wherever somebody can listen or watch me.
36:42
And that means that boom, I've got a podcast.
36:45
And so you have to define what is success, which basically
36:48
means what does it mean when you have achieved it?
36:51
Give me a picture and paint me a picture of what that looks like
36:54
and as much detail as you possibly can.
36:56
And so, you know, maybe if you're like, I really want to
36:59
become a mom this year, well, great.
37:00
Then success is you're holding a baby of any kind, of any kind.
37:05
It can be yours. You could adopt whatever it
37:07
might be, but it could just be like, I want to have a baby
37:11
that's mine in my arms. OK, great.
37:13
That's defining success. So I want you in Step 2 to
37:17
define what if you were to achieve it.
37:21
Does that look like? And I think a lot of the time,
37:25
because we're so vague with the way that we approach goals, we
37:30
don't really know for making progress toward it because
37:32
frankly, we don't have a pinned destination of where we've been
37:34
looking to go. We don't even necessarily know
37:36
if we've achieved it because we never defined what achieving
37:39
meant. And so we have to know when
37:41
we've achieved it. How do we know we're there?
37:43
And give it as much color as you possibly can.
37:45
So Step 3 is going to be getting a plan and most importantly,
37:51
having a backup plan. So a plan in the sense of a road
37:56
map of how are you going to do it?
38:00
And if I hear one more person who says like, oh, well, I don't
38:05
know how to do that. I don't know.
38:06
Like I have his gold. Like, I have no idea where to
38:08
start. I wonder where we could look.
38:13
Hi, Internet. Hello, ChatGPT.
38:16
Hello YouTube. Hello.
38:18
Possibly if it's still around, TikTok.
38:20
Hello, Instagram. Like there's so much information
38:22
on the Internet that is readily available to you.
38:24
Go to the bookstore, listen to a podcast.
38:27
There are so many resources and information that you can go to
38:32
of other people who've done what you want to do.
38:34
And so even for me, I will be really honest with you recently,
38:37
if you watch our podcast episodes, you'll notice that my
38:40
lighting has changed for the podcast.
38:42
And this is because my podcast original plan that I had of my
38:47
goal, my plan was not a fancy plan.
38:51
It was a get it done plan, right?
38:55
So I had my wire on the podcast, as I said, and I had my defined
38:58
success Get that episodes out. Then it came into having a plan
39:01
and I was like, OK, I have to find a way to record it and film
39:05
it and have lighting for it. And So what did I do?
39:09
I went to YouTube and I said lighting for a podcast setup,
39:13
studio set up for podcasts. And I literally watch YouTube
39:15
videos after YouTube videos about lighting and cameras and
39:19
which camera you're supposed to get.
39:21
And there I found a video of an incredible woman who was like,
39:24
here's my entire podcast studio. And it's like amazing.
39:27
And So what did I do? I pressed add to cart.
39:29
I went through her entire list and I pressed add to cart for
39:33
her entire podcast setup. And I had that shipped to my
39:35
house and it wasn't expensive at the time.
39:38
It was really something that was, you know, the lights were
39:40
probably, I would say like 30 bucks.
39:42
Like they weren't anything crazy, come to find out, hence
39:45
why my lighting setup now is different, 50 something episodes
39:49
in. We have a different setup now,
39:52
but that's because I wasn't looking to get fancy.
39:54
I wanted to be functional. I'm like, I just got to get
39:57
recording. I need to get some episodes out.
40:00
And so my plan. Was to basically go research and
40:04
look at what other people had done for their setups and go do
40:07
that. Look at their blueprint.
40:09
Great go. I went and I researched other
40:12
people's podcasts and said, OK, will the title, like how much
40:15
does SEO impact the title and how much it's discovered?
40:18
And you know, what are the different things that people do
40:21
to get people to subscribe to their show?
40:23
Like I went and I looked at the people who already had the plan.
40:28
The idea that you can't do something because you don't know
40:31
how in this day and age is not an excuse.
40:35
You could literally type in to ChatGPT for a health goal.
40:38
Give me a couch to 5K plan that involves me going on walks three
40:44
times a week or walking or running three times a week and
40:47
has me running a 5K by X date from today.
40:50
Boom. Click submit and it will send
40:52
you a plan. There's no reason that we should
40:55
be stuck on not having a plan when so many people have done
41:00
the thing that we're looking to do.
41:02
And this is the exciting part to me about business, about health,
41:05
about anything. Like I genuinely think for me, I
41:10
just don't really take no for an answer.
41:12
One of my goals was like, it's hard for me to say out loud is I
41:17
really want to run a 10K by the end of this year.
41:19
Can I do that right now? Gosh, no, gosh, no, no, I can't
41:25
run A10 Ki can barely run to the stop sign right now, right?
41:28
Like I'm not going to run a 10K right now, but for me, I just
41:34
built a plan. I literally have a training plan
41:38
to go from couch to run a 10K by the end of the year.
41:41
I've got 12 months to do it. There's no excuse if I stick to
41:46
the plan. And so the plan was not like,
41:50
well I've never run before. What did I do?
41:52
I started searching what kind of shoes do I need for, for outdoor
41:55
running? What kind of gear do I need?
41:58
So over the holidays, what did I do?
42:00
I went and I add to cart, add to cart, add to cart.
42:02
And I think I got like a whole running setup of like coats and,
42:06
and specific thermal this. And I don't even know what the
42:08
heck I I have to be honest. All I know is it keeps me warm.
42:12
And it was like 120 bucks for the entire thing.
42:15
And so now I've got my little setup and I wear the same thing
42:17
every day and I go on my, my 5K in the morning, my 5K at night.
42:22
But like, these are not things that I knew.
42:25
I went and I searched out a plan that somebody else had.
42:29
So you need a plan, You need a plan of how you're going to do
42:34
it. And with this, you also really
42:37
want to make sure in that plan that you're not only looking at
42:40
how have people done it, but how are you going to do it.
42:43
And so for example, back to my goal, if my goal is to run 10K
42:46
by the end of the year, I was like, well, first of all, I
42:48
can't run 10K right now. So I work, you know, typically
42:52
10 to 4:30 every single day right now.
42:55
And so for myself, what I did is I said, OK, well, I'm going to
42:58
walk 5K in the morning and I'm going to walk 5K at night.
43:01
And that became my schedule that I set up for myself.
43:04
And I do that every day of the entire week, 7, seven days a
43:08
week. So I walk 70K in a week right
43:12
now, which I know sounds crazy, but I'm loving it.
43:15
I'm loving it and I'm, I'm feeling like, you know, whether
43:19
the run portion has started yet or not, I'm feeling momentum
43:23
because I'm realizing that I just have to give myself a plan
43:26
and I can't get focused on that big thing 12 months from now.
43:29
I got to focus on the 5K in the morning and then my next focus
43:32
is 5K at night and I wake up again and I do it the next day.
43:36
And I think that's where a lot of us get stuck because we're so
43:41
focused on just the destination, the destination, the
43:44
destination. We don't really focus on the
43:46
plan itself. Like what is the plan of how
43:48
we're going to do it? So if you're going to get fit,
43:50
how many days a week are you going to work out?
43:52
Where are you going to work out, right?
43:54
So are you going to work out from home?
43:56
Are you going to go to a gym? What days are you going to go to
43:58
the gym? Are you going to go to a class?
44:00
Are you going to pre book? The classes are going to do the
44:01
last minute, right? Or if you're somebody, for
44:04
example, podcast, I have this podcast and you know, I'm OK,
44:08
great. I want this podcast to be
44:09
successful and I want it to be something that's helpful for you
44:11
and that you come back to every week.
44:13
What's the plan? The plan is that I'm going to
44:16
have twice a month where I batch out episodes that I'm going to
44:19
research in between. I'm going to be listening and
44:20
connecting with all of you who reach out to me and say, how can
44:23
I help you and use those topics to be the base of how we create
44:26
our topics. Like I had a plan of the things
44:30
that I was going to do to have a successful podcast.
44:34
It doesn't just happen. It's because I created a plan.
44:37
So ultimately Step 3 is you have to have a plan and most
44:40
importantly, you have to have a back up plan, which I want to
44:44
explain. I learnt from one of my past
44:47
mentors, George Bryant, and he has this model which is called
44:51
the floor in the ceiling. And if you want to learn more
44:54
about it, just shoot him message.
44:55
His name is it's George Bryant on Instagram and you'll find him
44:58
there. He taught me this model which
45:02
was about floor and ceilings. And basically it means the floor
45:07
is the non negotiable minimum that you will do in a day.
45:12
So like non negotiable, I got to do blank, right?
45:17
And then you've got your ceiling, which is the desired
45:20
perfect. I want to achieve this.
45:22
I have to do like this is the ultimate thing that I would want
45:25
to do goal. So floor is the base of what you
45:28
want to achieve. Non negotiable ceiling is the
45:32
ideal thing you'd love to achieve if you possibly could.
45:36
And his rule was that he taught. His rule was the floor has to be
45:42
something that you're able to do on your worst day.
45:46
OK, so when everything's going wrong and you've never felt more
45:49
overwhelmed or never felt more defeated, what is that thing
45:53
that you can do on your worst day?
45:56
And that's your floor. And when you're thriving and
45:59
you're killing it and you're full of energy and you're just
46:02
really vibrant towards your goals, that's your ceiling.
46:07
When you're feeling top notch and you're crushing it, what is
46:10
the ultimate you'd love to achieve in a day?
46:13
And so you've got your floor, which is the bare minimum, and
46:15
you've got your ceiling, which is the ultimate.
46:18
And So what I did is for anything that I want to achieve,
46:22
I look at creating my floor and I look at creating my ceiling.
46:29
I look to really give myself that spectrum and his unpacking
46:34
of this, and the reason that this is all created is because
46:37
he talks about the fact that so many people plan for their goals
46:42
assuming they're always going to feel how they feel on their best
46:45
day. You have to plan your goals and
46:49
have a plan for the days that you're on the worst day ever and
46:52
still be able to achieve them. Why?
46:54
Because if we only have a plan to achieve our goals on the best
46:58
days, we're only really achieving our goals for a
47:01
portion of the year. Because all of us have those
47:03
days where we don't want to get out of bed, where we end up
47:06
getting the flu and we're sick. What is that bare minimum?
47:10
And then what is the ideal that you ultimately want or desire to
47:13
achieve? And so when we're looking at
47:16
this spectrum, he calls it the floor and ceiling model.
47:19
So as I said, if you want to learn more about it, I
47:21
definitely would recommend reaching out to him.
47:23
I believe he has a training on it actually, where he can kind
47:26
of dive a little bit deeper into it for you.
47:28
But what I do for my plan is I research, I listen to other
47:32
people who've done it before me. I get the resources that I need
47:34
to in my corner and I make a plan for not only what I want to
47:38
do when I'm killing it, but also my bare minimum, my floor when
47:42
it comes to my goal. So example, let's just say you
47:44
want to get healthy and say your, you know, goal is
47:47
movement. Maybe your ideal is you want to
47:49
go to the gym everyday, but your floor is that you go for a 20
47:52
minute walk, non negotiable if you can't go to the gym, right?
47:56
So that gives you something that you have a spectrum depending on
47:59
your level of energy or mental effort you have to give toward
48:03
it. Now, Step 4, which is the most
48:08
important, is managing and measuring your inputs.
48:13
And as I said earlier, I think the biggest disconnect that so
48:16
many people have when it comes to their goals is that they're
48:19
so focused on when they get there, when they get there, when
48:22
they get there, that they're not focusing on where you are, what
48:26
you're doing today. And so one of the shifts that
48:30
I've felt around my goals and those that have been achieved is
48:35
the things that I achieved were based off of me focusing on the
48:40
inputs that I was putting in, not on the end outcome or the
48:44
destination. And it changed everything
48:47
because it really is a matter of the compound effect of those
48:51
inputs that ultimately has you achieving the goals that you
48:54
want. And so it's not about, you know,
48:58
when I get here, when I achieve X, that destination, for some
49:01
people, it might be 3 months away, it might be 6 months away,
49:06
it might be two years away, right?
49:09
Like let's just say you're somebody who I don't know, wants
49:13
to lose 100 lbs. There's different timelines of
49:16
when you can do that. Let's just say you want to do
49:18
that in a year, you want to do it in two years.
49:21
That's a far out destination. And so we can't just be focused
49:26
on the destination, but we have to be focused on, well, what am
49:28
I going to do about it today? And literally every day deciding
49:34
how you're going to act in accordance with that.
49:36
And so for me, as I said, my 10K is at the end of the year, but
49:41
all I can do today is go for the 5K and focus on realizing that
49:45
the 5K in the morning and the 5K in the evening are the
49:47
differentiator of what is ultimately going to help me to
49:51
be able to do that at the end of the year.
49:53
But I can't focus on the 10K. That's way far out from me.
49:56
What I have to focus on are my inputs.
49:58
I'm focused on my sleep, I'm focused on my nutrition.
50:01
I'm focused on my overall like recovery of my body.
50:05
And I'm really focus on following and sticking to the
50:08
inputs. What are the things that I can
50:10
measure? I can measure, you know, and
50:12
focus on the things that I'm eating and how I'm filling my
50:15
body with nutrient dense food. I can focus on the distance that
50:18
I'm doing. I can focus on the hours and the
50:20
amount of sleep I'm getting. Those are things that I can
50:22
actually give myself as a focus every single day.
50:26
So I'm going to ask yourself, what are your inputs?
50:29
What are the things that you're going to deposit in the bank
50:32
every day toward that goal that by the end of the year will give
50:35
you the funds you need to, to claim it, to buy it, to get it?
50:39
What are the inputs? Those are the things that day
50:42
in, day out are going to move the needle for you to achieve
50:44
that thing that you want. It's not just sitting in what
50:48
you want, but doing the actions that align with the things you
50:53
want to achieve. Again, remembering our quote,
50:55
show me what you're doing today and I'll show you who you'll be
50:58
this year, maybe even today as you listen to this.
51:01
Have you acted in accordance with your goals?
51:05
Have you put in the inputs and put in the reps for the things
51:09
that are going to move the needle to eventually get you
51:12
where you want to go? And here's something I want to
51:15
say. The reason I say backup plan and
51:17
that you have to think about not only your best day, but also the
51:20
worst day. They're going to happen.
51:24
It's inevitable, it's coming. It's not a matter of if, it's a
51:27
matter of when the bad days are going to happen, but it's
51:32
actually going in with the mindset of knowing that and
51:35
acknowledging it that's going to help you to achieve your goal
51:39
because now you've gone in to acknowledge that it's going to
51:43
be difficult. I think part of the issue,
51:45
truthfully, in some of the old goals that I had around my
51:48
health was the belief that it was going to be easy.
51:52
And I think so many people, myself included, depending on
51:56
the goal, I struggle with, you know, I, I've talked to even
52:00
other people in my circle about why am I so good at certain
52:05
things and achieving them And it feels so fun and easy and other
52:09
things are so difficult. And I realized my achieving of
52:14
the goals was directly correlated to my perspective of
52:17
the experience. Like in business, I go in
52:20
knowing it's going to be hard. I know I'm going to have
52:22
problems. I know I'm going to have fires.
52:23
I know I'm going to have things that come up that I got to solve
52:25
and got to fix. That's just the game.
52:28
But I was like, wait a second, why am I not taking that insight
52:31
and applying that to the other goals in my life?
52:33
Why am I not applying that insight to getting healthy and
52:35
realizing, hey, yeah, the workouts, they're going to hurt
52:39
and you won't be able to sit down to pee for like 2 days,
52:41
right? Like that's going to be part of
52:43
starting to move your body when you haven't been working out.
52:46
It's going to suck to eat some of the foods that maybe don't
52:49
taste quite as good as the plate of brownies that I ate, but are
52:54
things that are going to help me to get to where my goal, right?
52:57
So I had to change my perspective with the process.
53:00
And what I realized was in business, the things that I was
53:03
crushing, those came from me having the expectation and being
53:07
OK with realizing was going to be hard.
53:09
But yet for some reason, when it came to health and fitness and
53:13
anything in that realm, I just assumed that it wasn't going to
53:16
be hard. It was going to be easy.
53:18
And so then what happens? You get faced with resistance.
53:20
You're like, what the heck is this?
53:21
I hate it. And that was something that, you
53:24
know, I'm going to be honest, I just realized like, I do hate it
53:29
and I want it. Like it's going to sound so
53:34
weird, but like I just, I think what was killing me was this
53:39
toxic positivity about the tough stuff.
53:44
It's freaking hard. Like I, I got up the other
53:47
morning and it was negative 17. What?
53:52
It was negative 17. I couldn't believe it.
53:55
It was negative 17. And I thought, oh, no, we're not
53:58
getting out of bed. I was, like there for like 20
54:01
minutes negotiating with myself. Yeah, I have those mornings too,
54:04
by the way. So I was like, I'm going
54:06
outside. It's -17 this is crazy.
54:08
And I was like, right. But I'm supposed to do the thing
54:11
that I don't want to do, to have the life that I ultimately want.
54:15
Because the things that are easy never give you the life you
54:18
want. And so the things that are hard
54:22
give you the life you want, which tells me that I'm right on
54:24
track. So hence go outside and I got
54:27
all bundled up and I got all my stuff on.
54:29
And I was like, you know, for the 1st 10 minutes I was like
54:31
huffing and puffing. I was like, I don't want to do
54:33
this. This is so stupid.
54:34
I hate this. But then I started kind of
54:37
getting flow and I had a podcast on and I was walking, my body
54:40
started to warm up and I was like, OK, And the snow started
54:42
to fall and I was like, all right, here we go.
54:43
This, this is, this is good. We got momentum, but it took a
54:47
lot. I'm not going to lie, it took a
54:49
lot for me to get there. And that was because I just
54:54
expected it to be easy. Not even easy.
54:56
I expected it to be enjoyable. I knew it was going to be work,
55:00
but I expected it to be enjoyable work.
55:02
And there's just, you know, I've, I've heard this from
55:05
Rachel Hollis, so this is definitely not mine, but she
55:09
talked in a previous piece of content about embrace the suck.
55:13
Realize that it's going to, it's going to suck like the thing
55:15
that you're trying to transform into and the thing that you're
55:18
trying to achieve. If you're like.
55:19
But Kate, it's so hard. Yeah, it sucks, but embrace the
55:24
suck is the motto that she says. Embrace the suck.
55:28
Embrace the fact that it's hard. Embrace the fact like this is
55:30
what we signed up for. And so I will tell you right
55:32
now, I sometimes get up and I, I'm, I just look disheveled in
55:36
the morning. I get right out of bed, throw on
55:38
sweatpants and I go outside and you know, I, as I said,
55:43
sometimes leave the house and I'm like, I don't want to do
55:45
this. I don't want to go this stupid
55:47
walk right now. It's so cold and I let it out
55:49
and I acknowledge it, but then I embrace, you know what, this is
55:52
hard and it's so difficult and it's annoying, but I'm going to
55:54
do it because this is what I want.
55:56
It's what I said I wanted and I'm going to honor it.
55:57
So the inputs matter, right? Like if you want to have the
56:01
savings account at the end of the day, you got to put in money
56:03
every month. If you are somebody who wants to
56:06
see your life change, you've got to put in the reps every single
56:10
day. And so the inputs are the thing
56:11
that you actually want to have super micro focus on that you
56:14
really want to measure. When we talk about SMART goals,
56:17
right? SMART goals have a big aspect of
56:19
them being the fact that they are measurable, meaning that you
56:24
can actually measure your consistency.
56:26
It's like for me, I have an app where I track my progress for my
56:30
health. I have a tracker on my watch for
56:33
I track how many kilometers I have per day.
56:35
And before I lay my head on the pillow, I have to hit 10
56:38
kilometers a day. And so like, I have these ways
56:41
that I'm able to effectively measure the ways that I'm making
56:45
progress on my goal. And so I'm not focused on the
56:47
end thing, I'm just focused on the daily things that I actually
56:49
can move the needle in. Step 5 is to get accountability
56:52
in place. And one of the things that I've
56:55
learned in my journey as a business owner is that
56:58
transforming and having a transformation and having
57:01
clarity and having breakthroughs is one thing, but it's so
57:04
different to be witnessed in it and it's different to have
57:08
someone else in it with you. And so one of the things that I
57:10
often, you know, would really recommend to people is setting a
57:16
goal and being public about it, right?
57:18
And like even the becoming, as I talked about our, our free
57:20
Instagram group, which by the way, if you want to join,
57:23
message us the word becoming. Basically what we do is we add
57:26
you to our Instagram group. It is all women just like
57:27
yourself who want to achieve their goals.
57:30
We state our goals. We support each other, send each
57:32
other resources, podcast and just cheer each other on along
57:35
the way. It's absolutely incredible.
57:37
But the reason that I did that was because I, I know the impact
57:40
of public sharing of goals. And I want to share this with
57:42
you. A study found that people who
57:43
set public or outward goals, they share it with others.
57:47
They have a visual goal that they can share with another
57:50
person or it's public in nature. We're 42% more likely to achieve
57:54
them than those who kept their goals private.
57:59
So I'm going to read that again for you.
58:02
Those who set public goals and share them with others are 42%
58:09
more likely to achieve their goals than those who kept their
58:11
goals private. This was a study done in 2016,
58:14
46%. So I'm like, OK, tell everyone I
58:19
know. Tell everyone I know that I'm
58:21
trying to get healthy, tell everybody I know that I'm
58:23
looking to do XYZ as my goal. Why?
58:25
Because now what I'm doing is I'm planting my goal in my
58:29
external environment for also other people indirectly to hold
58:31
me accountable as well. And so I share with people, I
58:35
tell people like, hey, here's what I'm working on, here's what
58:38
I'm working on. And then I also sometimes have
58:40
people who are in it with me. Like I had somebody who was in
58:43
it with me who was also doing and tracking.
58:46
And I realized they were making more progress for me.
58:48
This was also something that I wanted to share with you, which
58:51
is the, the basis of the social comparison theory.
58:54
This was created a long, long, long, long time ago, which is
58:56
1950s. But basically it states that
58:59
when individuals are in a goal with other people and they're
59:02
working towards similar goals, it is a massive motivator when
59:06
you can see other people progressing toward a goal that
59:08
you also desire. So when you share your goals
59:12
with your friends, when you tell other people, hey, do you want
59:15
to do this with me? Or when you just tell them what
59:18
your goal is or you have any kind of similar goal that you're
59:20
seeing, it is a factor in your motivation.
59:24
So two ways I want you to think about this.
59:25
Either share your goal with someone else who doesn't share
59:28
the goal that you're going for, or get someone else who's in it
59:32
with you who's working toward the same thing.
59:36
And that by seeing each other make progress, what you're doing
59:39
is you're activating your natural competitive nature in
59:42
you and it's causing you to want to push and go and move even
59:46
further to bring each other and challenge one another.
59:49
You can also see this all the time.
59:51
I used to work at AF 45 and you would see like someone would
59:54
pick up a weight beside you and you're like, oh, see, Sarah's
59:57
over there picking up 30s. I'm going to pick up 30s.
59:59
So like you pick up 30s and you start to wrap 30s, even though
1:00:03
you might have previous to that one to pick up the 20s.
1:00:07
Now that's something that is the competitive nature and also the
1:00:12
motivational nature. Of group workouts, right?
1:00:15
When you see other people pushing and you're like, I got
1:00:17
nothing left and you look beside you and they're wrapping it out
1:00:19
and you're like, OK, here we go, right?
1:00:21
Like it really motivates you. That's why people love group
1:00:24
classes. So this is literally based on
1:00:26
psychology. It's not just my opinion.
1:00:28
This is based on psychology. And so it really to me, a Step 5
1:00:32
is giving yourself an aspect of accountability.
1:00:34
Do not keep your goals private. Share it with someone you love
1:00:39
that will hold you accountable to your potential.
1:00:42
Let other people know and talk about it as much as you can.
1:00:44
I'm doing this and I'm doing this and I'm doing this.
1:00:46
Why? Because it's planting it in your
1:00:48
subconscious. It's also because it's in your
1:00:51
subconscious filtering your environment to give you
1:00:53
resources, information, and awareness of the ways that you
1:00:56
could use those things to achieve that goal.
1:01:00
OK, so as a review for you, the steps are #1 set the intention
1:01:06
and get a very clear why #2 define success of your goal and
1:01:10
define what it means once you've achieved it.
1:01:12
Step 3, get a plan and have a backup plan, not only the
1:01:16
original plan and the doing research of how you're going to
1:01:18
do it, but have a backup plan if that plan should not work.
1:01:21
Step 4 focus on the inputs you're putting in daily and
1:01:25
manage those and measure those. And Step 5, get someone in your
1:01:29
corner to be accountable either with you in the process or that
1:01:33
you are accountable to by vocalizing your goal with
1:01:35
others. Do not have your goals be
1:01:37
private. Today was an episode that I was
1:01:40
excited to record for you because I, since doing my vision
1:01:44
board and doing this exact process for my goals, have
1:01:48
genuinely seen so much movement in just the last several weeks
1:01:53
that I was like, OK, like these stats make sense because I'm
1:01:56
moving in a way that I have never moved before.
1:01:59
And it's not, it's not shocking to me because I'm planting the
1:02:03
things in my environment. I'm telling everyone I know
1:02:05
about my goals. I'm sharing it publicly on
1:02:07
social media and I know that everything I'm saying is maybe
1:02:10
potentially something you've never done before.
1:02:12
And hey, yeah, welcome to the group.
1:02:14
I've also done some of these things never before for some
1:02:16
goals I have, but for the ones that I have achieved, what I
1:02:20
realized in reverse engineered is I did all these things for
1:02:23
those things I've achieved. I did this for the seven figure
1:02:26
business that I have, right? I did this for the type of
1:02:30
financial independence that I have.
1:02:32
Like these are things that I've been doing, but not in all
1:02:35
buckets. And so I had a really
1:02:39
interesting pill to swallow to realize that I had to honor in
1:02:41
every bucket, not just in some buckets.
1:02:44
And so this is your opportunity. I want to also say that, you
1:02:47
know, the timing of this episode is great because it means that
1:02:51
you at this moment, this is the time and the season where a lot
1:02:56
of people have already given up on their New Year's goals.
1:02:59
They're like, yeah, 2025, here's what I'm going to do.
1:03:01
And they have already given up on it, and they're not doing any
1:03:02
longer, right? But this is an opportunity for
1:03:06
you to realize you just start tomorrow, start today.
1:03:09
You know, if you're listening to this in the morning, great, I'm
1:03:11
going to start tonight. Listen to it at night.
1:03:13
First thing tomorrow morning. I'm getting right back on that
1:03:14
horse and I'm going to be doing this.
1:03:17
And the thing I want to encourage you to do is don't
1:03:19
listen to today's episode and be like, oh, it's so inspiring,
1:03:23
interesting, and never do anything about it.
1:03:25
If you have a goal and you have not achieved it, this is your
1:03:28
sign and your indication to come back to this.
1:03:32
Run through the five steps. Go drive on your way home today
1:03:36
or going out to get a coffee or whatever it may be and go get
1:03:39
that vision board. Go buy those magazines.
1:03:41
Make it fun. Do it with your partner, do it
1:03:43
with a a friend. Do it with your kids, right?
1:03:46
Like pull images that they feel called to and make it a fun
1:03:49
thing. Like do this and get other
1:03:52
people enrolled in the version of you that you're going to
1:03:56
become. And you'll notice I didn't say
1:03:58
that you could become that you're going to become, this is
1:04:03
something that you have to decide you want and hell or high
1:04:06
water, you're going to do it. And the difference of whether
1:04:09
you achieve it is based off things we talked about today.
1:04:12
And so all of that to be said, you know that I appreciate you
1:04:18
immensely for tuning in every week, listening to these
1:04:21
episodes. And what would mean the world to
1:04:23
me is, of course, if you guys want to subscribe or follow, it
1:04:26
would mean the world to me to have your support.
1:04:27
It really does help us to be able to grow this community and
1:04:31
have an even bigger and bigger impact every single week.
1:04:33
But what I also would love is to hear from you and just to hear
1:04:37
what landed today, what maybe if you want to share with me, what
1:04:40
are some of the goals that you're working toward?
1:04:42
What are some of the things that you're looking to achieve?
1:04:44
And as I said a couple times today, we do also have that free
1:04:47
community. So we have a Instagram messaging
1:04:50
community. If you are somebody who's like,
1:04:52
listen, after this, I realized I'm doing it.
1:04:55
I'm going for the goals. All you have to do is message me
1:04:57
the word becoming. The becoming is a community that
1:05:00
we have that is completely free for women that are looking to go
1:05:03
and tackle their goals this year and really step into the level
1:05:06
of the individual that they want to become in 2025.
1:05:09
And so if you'd love to be added to that, just master me.
1:05:11
The word becoming, I will add you right away and we'll get you
1:05:14
integrated within the group to start to work on those goals
1:05:17
that you have. So all of that to say, my
1:05:19
friend, I love you to bits. Thank you so, so much for tuning
1:05:22
in. I appreciate you listening.
1:05:23
And with all that being said, I will see you next week.
1:05:25
So, as always, stay ambitious.