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90 Day Fiancé Season 12 Episode 12 “So Help Me God” Part 1 · Vanity Farah with Chris Farah

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Speaker 1: Hello, Welcome back to Vanity Farah. My name is Chris Farah,
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Speaker 1: and today I'm talking ninety Day Fiance, Season twelve, episode twelve,
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Speaker 1: So help me god. It's a you know, very fun
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Speaker 1: probably two part recap because I have a lot to say.
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Speaker 1: Thank you guys so much for being here. What's been happening,
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Speaker 1: How are you everything good? I know that I've been
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Speaker 1: a little behind on my love after lock up and
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Speaker 1: my this is Polly is coming and I'm so sorry.
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Speaker 1: I just you know, ebbs and flows of life. However,
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Speaker 1: I hope all is well with you. It's hot everywhere
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Speaker 1: mostly and so if you're hot, you know, like be
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Speaker 1: drinking water. That's what I'm going to say. As your
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Speaker 1: doctor and also friend, I have some fun things coming up.
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Speaker 1: I'll be traveling in the end of July and August,
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Speaker 1: La for a second and see this beautiful country. Anyway, exactly,
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Speaker 1: I have a lot to say about this episode, and
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Speaker 1: your things, think about them, and then we'll get in.
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Speaker 1: I sincerely hope that you're doing well and I'm excited
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Speaker 1: to talk about these crazy as people. Okay, so and
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Speaker 1: all my love to Hannah, Armando and Kenny. So I
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Speaker 1: there's kind of from where I record this. From what
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Speaker 1: we know, there's like been daily updates and supposedly, right,
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Speaker 1: I mean hopefully right now she's out of the hospital
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Speaker 1: and everything is good, not everything, you know. I'm sorry.
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Speaker 1: My heart is with them, is what I'm trying to say. Okay,
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Speaker 1: let's get someone just like out of the way, you
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Speaker 1: know what I'm saying just like get them, let them
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Speaker 1: get them done. That's Paala and Thomas. Okay, so let
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Speaker 1: me just say this. I love Pala a lot, like
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Speaker 1: I think she has a very great personality, and she's
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Speaker 1: sort of like someone had asked her if she was
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Speaker 1: like trans on her social media and she answered in
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Speaker 1: a way that was like really classy. It's almost like
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Speaker 1: she I think she almost said she is, and or
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Speaker 1: she doesn't even or she didn't even answer in a
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Speaker 1: way that is clear, in a way that like lets
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Speaker 1: people think that she doesn't want to be late trans.
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Speaker 1: Does that make sense? So I think it's like weird
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Speaker 1: to ask someone, you know that, So she doesn't have
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Speaker 1: to owe anyone an answer or not. But the way
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Speaker 1: she did answer was I thought, great, So we think
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Speaker 1: she's great. Do we do we love? Do we think
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Speaker 1: this storyline is just so interesting? No? No, I mean
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Speaker 1: maybe you know God bless so because it's like do
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Speaker 1: we care about his weird smell allergy? And for some reason,
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Speaker 1: they had really set up the fact that she was
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Speaker 1: vegan and that he only eat meat. He only eats meat,
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Speaker 1: and it's like come up not that much. You would
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Speaker 1: think it would come up more, but like suddenly there
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Speaker 1: was this monkey wrench of like his family's situation, his
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Speaker 1: family dynamic, and then there was also like a turn
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Speaker 1: that happens in this episode. First of all, let's start
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Speaker 1: Paula gets you know, Thomas's stepmom, Reeni, re re could
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Speaker 1: you if she was like Rihanna Renie to invite her
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Speaker 1: to a beautiful day of planting seeds, plant the seeds
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Speaker 1: of the friendship and listen. I paid attention because I
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Speaker 1: feel like Renee probably knows how to keep a plant
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Speaker 1: alive because she kept Thomas alive and Thomas had a
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Speaker 1: bad mom. And you know, I kill plants. I desperately
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Speaker 1: need just like a normal houseplant to exist in my
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Speaker 1: apartment because A it's like good functui, but also b
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Speaker 1: because I have corners that could really use, you know,
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Speaker 1: just a beautiful, high level, you know, piece of decor
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Speaker 1: that takes up space vertically. That's why I said high
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Speaker 1: level that it makes sense, but like you know, sitting
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Speaker 1: in a corner that's like vertical. So I would love
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Speaker 1: a plant, but I will kill it, like I there's
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Speaker 1: like every basil plant that comes home with me like shivers,
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Speaker 1: Like it's like the opposite of taking a child home
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Speaker 1: from an orphanage, like they know what's coming, you know,
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Speaker 1: I feel bad. So anyway, having said that, we can
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Speaker 1: learn from Renie. Renie. Also, I spent the first like
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Speaker 1: episode just staring at her face, being like, who do
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Speaker 1: you look like? To me? Like what is your face?
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Speaker 1: To me? And to me, Renie looks like Amelda Staunton.
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Speaker 1: Now you're like, who's Amelda Stonton? Now some people are like, oh,
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Speaker 1: I definitely know who she is, Chris, and I'm like, yeah, yeah, yeah,
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Speaker 1: she's a British actress. Who you know who you absolutely know,
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Speaker 1: like you've seen her a billion times. In fact, it's
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Speaker 1: kind of hard to pick pictures of her from the
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Speaker 1: internet because she looks so wildly different in all of
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Speaker 1: her characters. She is a brilliant actress. She's a brilliant actress,
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Speaker 1: English actress. Uh you know, just look her up. They'll
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Speaker 1: be like, oh my god, it's Rene's face. It's so
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Speaker 1: interesting because like, you know, one person is from the
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Speaker 1: UK and is a dame. She's a dame, and one
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Speaker 1: person is Reenie. Okay, so anyway, this is weird. So
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Speaker 1: here we are. Now we know the crux of what
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Speaker 1: happened in the past, which is that Paula had met
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Speaker 1: Reenie met Thomas's dad, they had informed Paula or Paula
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Speaker 1: maybe got informed from Thomas. How shitt he Thomas's mom
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Speaker 1: was in the fact that they were abandoned by her
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Speaker 1: or whatnot. Reenie raised Thomas and is like sibling. So
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Speaker 1: then after they meet Greenie Thomas's dad, then Paula and
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Speaker 1: Thomas go and meet with Thomas's mom and for whatever reason,
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Speaker 1: Thomas's relationship and vibe with his mom isn't so awkward
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Speaker 1: or cold that Paula just didn't take some pictures and
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Speaker 1: then just decide to post them and then Thomas's stepmom
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Speaker 1: saw it and then got mad at her, like social
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Speaker 1: media drama and this kind of way is so dumb. Okay,
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Speaker 1: So this is That's one thing. Also, it's like, well, Thomas,
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Speaker 1: if why isn't Thomas at all talked about in this situation,
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Speaker 1: because I guess my question is and this is why
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Speaker 1: I was confusing until this episode. Was Thomas also having
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Speaker 1: fun with his mom at that time, like the time
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Speaker 1: of all three of them hanging out. Was Thomas having
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Speaker 1: a good time with his mom? Was he upset that
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Speaker 1: Paula was taking pictures or was he okay with it?
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Speaker 1: Was he upset that she was posting the pictures or
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Speaker 1: was he okay with it? If he was okay with it,
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Speaker 1: I would like to know, so okay. So there are
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Speaker 1: dual conversations, Like I said, there's going to be a
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Speaker 1: Pala Amelda just kidding Reeny conversation, and there's gonna be
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Speaker 1: a Thomas and Thomas's dad conversation. Now when Thomas is
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Speaker 1: talking to Thomas's dad and I don't know why, I
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Speaker 1: don't know his name, obviously I don't. There are two
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Speaker 1: parts of that conversation. One is like, so sorry about
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Speaker 1: the drama with my mom coming to the wedding. It's
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Speaker 1: palace choice. Pala did that. Pala just doesn't understand that
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Speaker 1: other families are different from hers and not everyone's super
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Speaker 1: happy and wants to be around each other, and you know,
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Speaker 1: can tolerate that. You know, her family is super close.
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Speaker 1: There's all these people and they dance every weekend. We're like, oh,
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Speaker 1: is that how you feel? Because up until this point, Thomas,
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Speaker 1: I thought you were feeling you know what my mom,
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Speaker 1: you know, was going through it during my childhood. But
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Speaker 1: now we're trying to reconnect. I thought like that was
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Speaker 1: what you were coming with energetic wise, Arge was so
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Speaker 1: to put this all on her now, being like I
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Speaker 1: don't really want this, but she's pushing it is quite
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Speaker 1: a change. And then Thomas is like, but you know what, Dad,
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Speaker 1: I'll never forget who really took care of me. It
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Speaker 1: was you. Whenever I had a problem, I knew I
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Speaker 1: could call you and you would fix it. You're very secure, man,
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Speaker 1: and you know what, I felt that from my own
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Speaker 1: life as well, so I resonated with that. My dad
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Speaker 1: also is someone who I know I could count on
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Speaker 1: and not you know, and it really made a big
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Speaker 1: difference in me feeling secure as a child. Okay, He's like, yeah,
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Speaker 1: my dad is always my first call. I always felt safe.
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Speaker 1: And then you know Thomas's Dad's like, that's what being
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Speaker 1: a dad is. The highest calling is being able to
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Speaker 1: know that you're gonna be trusted. You're like, oh, that's sweet,
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Speaker 1: that's lovely. That's a lovely thing. That's like positive masculinity,
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Speaker 1: non toxic, organic masculinity. It's natural masculine. You know, I'm
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Speaker 1: trying to make a joke based upon like or you know, toxic. Okay,
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Speaker 1: we got us. I'm gonna move on, and you know
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Speaker 1: what we are from them, not a lot to say
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Speaker 1: because you know, this is a Shay Annabelle free episode,
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Speaker 1: no shame, no Hanna about So we'll do with that
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Speaker 1: what you will, which is, you know, maybe take some
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Speaker 1: time off and enjoy it, because I think that as
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Speaker 1: this season moves on, surely they have given us a
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Speaker 1: lot of crazy, fun couples, but for some reason, as
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Speaker 1: it marches forward, I can see some of the strings
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Speaker 1: or some of the producer pushed storylines that makes it
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Speaker 1: not as fun. And that's going to come up in
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Speaker 1: a couple of ways, but you know, not necessarily with
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Speaker 1: our next couple, Marissa and Edward or maybe so I'm
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Speaker 1: not quite sure, but I'm going to talk about it
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Speaker 1: a little bit with Mallory and Rashet. So but let's
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Speaker 1: talk about Marissa and Edward. Okay, So, as we know,
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Speaker 1: they've been having some problems, and mostly it's based upon
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Speaker 1: the following things. Marissa has always been preoccupied with the
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Speaker 1: fact that there is cultural differences and lifestyle differences between
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Speaker 1: her and Edward, and she was also somewhat fixated on
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Speaker 1: the financial aspect of that, and like even to the
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Speaker 1: point where her kids were kind of cognizant of it
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Speaker 1: in a way till you know, till now, once he
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Speaker 1: came she's been trying to almost in her mind, fill
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Speaker 1: the gap of how she perceives their relationship to be
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Speaker 1: with ways in which he can make her feel like
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Speaker 1: they're equal. Like in her mind, she's like, well, he
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Speaker 1: doesn't have a lot of experience. I'm going to be
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Speaker 1: paying for everything, so when he gets here, he better
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Speaker 1: do the He better do the following things really well.
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Speaker 1: A anything I ask of him, manual labor, taking care
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Speaker 1: of the boys, like jumping in like a pseudo parent
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Speaker 1: that knows the entire schedule and are specific and I
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Speaker 1: mean very particular ways of doing things, the absolute methodology
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Speaker 1: without any sort of handbook given to him, and to
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Speaker 1: like never embarrass me, but instead further my mental agenda
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Speaker 1: at all times. Like if he can do all that,
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Speaker 1: he can make up for the perceived, my perceived lack
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Speaker 1: of what he has. Like it feels like he came in.
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Speaker 1: This is what I guess I'm trying to say in
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Speaker 1: a lot of words. In her mind, he came in
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Speaker 1: with a debt that he had to repay in all
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Speaker 1: of these weird micro ways better obviously not just like
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Speaker 1: giving someone money, and obviously does not like other stuff
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Speaker 1: like sex. Like she's like, I want you to be
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Speaker 1: able to fix things around my house, and I want
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Speaker 1: you to make my life just easy, and I want
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Speaker 1: to feel good around you at all times. And I
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Speaker 1: haven't seen a way in which Edward hasn't done that.
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Speaker 1: Besides like something very obviously did he fix the gate? Right?
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Speaker 1: No he didn't, did she though, like give him the
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Speaker 1: materials to do so, or tell him what she wanted
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Speaker 1: or and also I guess in my mind, like if
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Speaker 1: you want him to do handiwork around your home, I
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Speaker 1: would assume that you would hire a professional handyman at
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Speaker 1: first and be like, hey, Edward, watch how he does things,
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Speaker 1: or get to know him so that like, if you
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Speaker 1: know we need something, I can just ask you to
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Speaker 1: do it. But like she had great expectations in certain
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Speaker 1: situation suations like her expectations of him knowing their morning
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Speaker 1: routine with her sons, or that she would want him
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Speaker 1: to wear matching outfits to her, or that he would
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Speaker 1: be expected to powerwalk at a middle aged suburban mom
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Speaker 1: power walk pace that wears the weights around her ankles,
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Speaker 1: all that stuff. You know what I'm saying, Like, I
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Speaker 1: wouldn't expect someone to know those things she does, and
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Speaker 1: she wants him to not just know it, perform it
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Speaker 1: perfectly because he should understand. He's at a debt and
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Speaker 1: he just thought that he was going to come be
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Speaker 1: with someone who he's like, enjoyed, who makes him feel like,
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Speaker 1: you know, probably very sexual and very successful sexual, and
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Speaker 1: she doesn't. And she's mad at herself and like mad
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Speaker 1: at him, but also like mostly mad at herself. But
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Speaker 1: instead of wanting to change anything about herself, she wants
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Speaker 1: him to change or for him to understand her better,
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Speaker 1: or for him to leave one of those things truly.
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Speaker 1: But until then, here we are. This is the episode
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Speaker 1: of people trying on dresses. Maybe we'll get more episodes
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Speaker 1: of that, Like, yeah, I'm assuming that at some point
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Speaker 1: Annabelle's gonna have to try on a dress in you know,
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Speaker 1: Paducah with her best friends Angie and Alison and Nicole.
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Speaker 1: But you know, here we are, So Marissa is trying
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Speaker 1: on her dress at guess what place, Kleinfeldt where she
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Speaker 1: no longer works. So I'm like, is that awkward. Anyway,
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Speaker 1: we have to get Dorothy on the tell, all right,
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Speaker 1: because Dorothy makes an appearance. Dorothy's obviously her work wife.
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Speaker 1: You know, we know her, we know what she looks like,
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Speaker 1: you know, we know her defining feature. I'm not going
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Speaker 1: to say it. She has her final fitting for her dress,
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Speaker 1: and besides Dorothy, she has her other friend there. And
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Speaker 1: both friends aren't like super calm and super you know,
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Speaker 1: secure in this, and you know neither is Marissa. Marissa
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Speaker 1: Shirley is and Marissa just is hot on the heels.
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Speaker 1: I'm telling all of her Pennsylvania friends how she's over
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Speaker 1: it and she's made a mistake, and she's embarrassed that
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Speaker 1: she made a mistake. And now she has to tell
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Speaker 1: her New York friends that she guess what is seventy
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Speaker 1: five percent sure, twenty five percenture, She's made a mistake.
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Speaker 1: I'm say I'm a quitcher, mathis Hart. They're like, we
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Speaker 1: don't know if she's gonna want to do it. Now.
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Speaker 1: When we see her dress, she says it's sexy and sophisticated.
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Speaker 1: It's surely very Panina Tourney looking unlined body con kind
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Speaker 1: of like pillar. I mean, yeah, like you know it
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Speaker 1: does look unlined. It's just the kind of unlined, kind
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Speaker 1: of lacey dress that looks like lingerie, but specifically like
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Speaker 1: two thousand and ten, twenty eleven. It's so funny. There's
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Speaker 1: a couple of dress styles right that like have taken
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Speaker 1: us over in the past, like twenty five years, and
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Speaker 1: we'll talk about Malory's dress style too, and why that
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Speaker 1: had a resurgence. You know, don't worry, but it's interesting. So,
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Speaker 1: I mean, her dress wasn't bad Marissa's, but you know,
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Speaker 1: she just really is like a big fan. She's like,
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Speaker 1: it's just like me, sexy and sophisticated or like, okay, yeah,
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Speaker 1: she really has an idea of herself and so when
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Speaker 1: things don't further that idea in that image in her mind,
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Speaker 1: she's upset about it. And she liked the idea of
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Speaker 1: just having someone who fucks her really well, who makes
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Speaker 1: her feel super sexy and it's hot and you know,
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Speaker 1: hot younger than her like be around. But at the
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Speaker 1: same time, she can't manage what feels like herringsnxiety day
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Speaker 1: by day in his presence, nor does she like appreciate
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Speaker 1: whatever he's doing in his life, nor is he you know,
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Speaker 1: like given the space to do something I guess productive enough.
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Speaker 1: She doesn't find him a productive and I need to
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Speaker 1: know what his idea of productive or productivity is or
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Speaker 1: what they had talked about. It feels like she wishes
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Speaker 1: she could just give him a list of chores around
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Speaker 1: the house. I wonder if she has. I wonder if
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Speaker 1: it's on a whiteboard. Anyway, So back to her friends
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Speaker 1: at clin Fel's, They're like, listen, we know why you're
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Speaker 1: in him. It's for the sex. And she's like, yep,
18:49
Speaker 1: you're like I know, we get it. So basically she
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Speaker 1: starts to have a conversation where she wants them to
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Speaker 1: validate something, which is this, she's working in New York
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Speaker 1: for a long time. She decided not to bring him,
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Speaker 1: so there is obviously some space between them, and she's
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Speaker 1: happy about it. She's happy about a little bak. Meanwhile,
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Speaker 1: we're like, he's just stuck in Pennsylvania with her kids?
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Speaker 1: Are the kids with her ex? Is he just in
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Speaker 1: that big ass holm by himself? Also, can we see
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Speaker 1: what that looks like? Is he having the time of
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Speaker 1: his life? Is he power walking? Anyway? So, but in
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Speaker 1: you know, New York, where we are with her she's like, yeah,
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Speaker 1: he's just so demanding, so needy. It's like, he knows
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Speaker 1: I'm working, so I've been busy, so I haven't been
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Speaker 1: like texting him a thousand times a day. We're like, okay,
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Speaker 1: but have you texted him at all? And she's like,
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Speaker 1: and he's mad that I haven't called him at night. So,
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Speaker 1: you know, like I just was about to go to
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Speaker 1: bed and then I get this text being like, well,
19:49
Speaker 1: hope you had a good day, And I know what
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Speaker 1: it means with the tone. I'm like, but the way
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Speaker 1: you're sounding, it makes it seem like you straight up
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Speaker 1: just didn't come unicate at all with your fiance all
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Speaker 1: day or that if you did, it was like once
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Speaker 1: in the very beginning and it was very short and
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Speaker 1: you didn't ask any questions about them. It was just like, yeah,
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Speaker 1: I'm going to work, and then you just didn't text
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Speaker 1: them later. So yeah, at the end of the day,
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Speaker 1: they're like, oh, I hope you had it, because that
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Speaker 1: person knows you're laying in bed, like we're you know,
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Speaker 1: at some points you're laying in bed or you're just chilling,
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Speaker 1: you're just you know, waiting for something, you're just putting
20:28
Speaker 1: on teeth, like you do have some downtime. You can't
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Speaker 1: just be always like working out. You're not just in
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Speaker 1: your one bedroom Upper West Side doing keegels maniacally into
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Speaker 1: the night until you pass out, like without any moment
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Speaker 1: to just text this man back. I don't know. I'm
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Speaker 1: just like not on her side obviously, and not about
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Speaker 1: you know completely. I just think that you didn't use
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Speaker 1: she was digmatized. I think she wanted her cake to
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Speaker 1: and eat it too. Okay, So basically next scene is
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Speaker 1: that she's dressed up super fancy and she is by
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Speaker 1: the bay. You know, I'm not quite side of the
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Speaker 1: She's on one of the sides of Manhattan. I'm not
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Speaker 1: quite sure. And he is coming to that place to
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Speaker 1: meet her, and we're like, wait, that's goa say, like
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Speaker 1: it sounds like she sent for him and he's just
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Speaker 1: going to come by himself. But then we realized that
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Speaker 1: he had asked her if they could meet up and
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Speaker 1: he got himself to New York. That part was interesting
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Speaker 1: because remember how like last time, he didn't know anything,
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Speaker 1: he even have his walle and she drove him there.
21:37
Speaker 1: So what he just took the train and by himself,
21:40
Speaker 1: and now he knows how to use like the turnstiles
21:41
Speaker 1: and all that stuff. Or did the producers drive him.
21:44
Speaker 1: I mean he came from the metro, so at some point,
21:46
Speaker 1: I don't know if the producers like, we'll drive you there.
21:48
Speaker 1: Just run to that metro, come back out, come up
21:51
Speaker 1: the steps like you did it yourself, buddy. I don't know,
21:55
Speaker 1: I need to know. But he comes out, he comes
21:58
Speaker 1: with coffee. She's like, you get this for me. He's
22:01
Speaker 1: like yeah, because he you know, his like defining feature
22:05
Speaker 1: so far is that he thinks of her and loves
22:07
Speaker 1: her constantly, just not to the exact way she wants
22:10
Speaker 1: it all the time. So then it's like, yeah, he
22:15
Speaker 1: wanted to meet with her, and you know, she obviously
22:19
Speaker 1: had let it be known that she was second guessing
22:21
Speaker 1: this situation, and she obviously has let it known, let
22:25
Speaker 1: it be known to two sets of friends and two
22:27
Speaker 1: separate states that she's kind of over it. And he
22:30
Speaker 1: probably has heard that come back to him in some
22:32
Speaker 1: way or something, or by the producers. To imagine to
22:36
Speaker 1: having the conversation with all those women at a party
22:38
Speaker 1: that you are at, how you have made a mistake
22:41
Speaker 1: on stuff, and like now it's like weeks. A week later,
22:44
Speaker 1: she's gone. So anyway, He's like, yeah, you know, how
22:47
Speaker 1: do I don't feel good with you? Not at all,
22:52
Speaker 1: not at all. You certainly haven't helped. She's like yeah, yeah.
23:04
Speaker 1: He's like, you're really cold all the time, and you've
23:07
Speaker 1: changed so much. You know me, I love love, I
23:12
Speaker 1: love affection, and I can't be begging for love and affection,
23:16
Speaker 1: especially because I know you and you've been in a
23:22
Speaker 1: place where you've freely given it to me. There's been
23:26
Speaker 1: parts of our relationship where you've been very touchy feely.
23:30
Speaker 1: Now she likes sort of a is like, and that's
23:32
Speaker 1: just you, that's not me, which is interesting because he
23:35
Speaker 1: just got done saying that he knew that she had
23:37
Speaker 1: that in her. Now, relationships go with the you know,
23:42
Speaker 1: have a flow to them, surely, but it is hard
23:46
Speaker 1: when you have like one person who loves physical attention,
23:50
Speaker 1: physical touch, affection, intimacy and a person who doesn't. But
24:00
Speaker 1: I I can see a world in which she really
24:04
Speaker 1: like turns off. At the same time, you can't be
24:10
Speaker 1: into someone and be attracted to someone if you aren't
24:13
Speaker 1: feeling those vibes, you know, and it's like hard to fake.
24:19
Speaker 1: And I think that's basically what he's feeling. I think
24:21
Speaker 1: that he's I think that she has unfortunately slowly gotten
24:27
Speaker 1: the ick if you you know, let me use that phrase,
24:32
Speaker 1: and he feels it, and so she can't do all
24:36
Speaker 1: the things she used to do when she didn't have
24:38
Speaker 1: the ick, like fuck him, like touch him, like kiss him,
24:41
Speaker 1: like hug him, like play with his penie, you know,
24:44
Speaker 1: like all the things. You know what they are, but
24:48
Speaker 1: you do, like me smelling them out for you. Okay.
24:51
Speaker 1: So he's like, I fell in love with you because
24:59
Speaker 1: you were loving So how about this Now I'm getting
25:03
Speaker 1: the eke ick from you for having the inch from me,
25:06
Speaker 1: I guess, and not giving me you know what I love,
25:10
Speaker 1: which is love. And she really can't say anything because
25:14
Speaker 1: she's right. He's right, like you know, he's right. And
25:17
Speaker 1: at the same time she can be like, well, I
25:19
Speaker 1: wanted to be more productive, and it's like, well, okay,
25:22
Speaker 1: but what was like You would have to really show
25:24
Speaker 1: us what that looked like. The producers haven't showed us
25:28
Speaker 1: like him just laying around on the couch all day
25:31
Speaker 1: playing video games like I would. I would like to
25:40
Speaker 1: think that he does some stuff around the house like
25:42
Speaker 1: you know, maybe not fix the gait perfectly, but I'm
25:46
Speaker 1: assuming that he changes the laundry and like you know,
25:48
Speaker 1: loads the dishwasher and unloads it, and like he says
25:52
Speaker 1: that she cooks. I'm actually surprised that he doesn't cook
25:55
Speaker 1: more because I don't think. I don't believe that she's
25:57
Speaker 1: a great cook. I've seen them hardboiled eggs. Maybe he's
26:01
Speaker 1: just I don't know, I don't know what. Maybe he
26:02
Speaker 1: is just doing nothing then when I would need to
26:06
Speaker 1: know why we haven't seen more of that. Also, I
26:09
Speaker 1: totally blacked out when he did say that he had
26:12
Speaker 1: been married before to an American woman for some reason.
26:14
Speaker 1: I don't know why perimenopause really comes for you. So
26:17
Speaker 1: just you know, just what, That's what life is like,
26:20
Speaker 1: really crazy. Okay, my babes, let's move on. Okay, let's
26:26
Speaker 1: get Meto and Debbie done. Meto and Debbie, this is
26:32
Speaker 1: I mean, this is like a horror film. This is
26:35
Speaker 1: a horror film like back Doors or Obsession has nothing
26:42
Speaker 1: on this Meto Debbie situation. For me, I also feel
26:46
Speaker 1: like I don't know top from bottom and it's giving
26:50
Speaker 1: me unco like it's giving me peril. Okay, So Obviously,
26:59
Speaker 1: she's outside losing her mind because she has brought the
27:05
Speaker 1: love of her life, Meto shakespeare An actor old Globe
27:10
Speaker 1: touring actor Meadow Keneth Bronna could only direct someone as
27:17
Speaker 1: talented as Medo in a production of any Shakespeare play,
27:22
Speaker 1: any play, to a chapel that she's found on Google
27:26
Speaker 1: for them to get married, because they have to get
27:28
Speaker 1: married for him to stay. And the one thing that
27:30
Speaker 1: she has wanted besides you know, I guess she's wanted
27:32
Speaker 1: him to say I love you and for him to
27:35
Speaker 1: propose slash to get married to her. And the entire
27:38
Speaker 1: thing that's happened instead is we've seen him disrespect her
27:42
Speaker 1: entirely and for her to keep groveling and crawling back
27:46
Speaker 1: to him, much to the dismay of us. And we
27:50
Speaker 1: would love and can't wait to hear what her friends think.
27:55
Speaker 1: The comments of her fun friends that know this world
28:01
Speaker 1: but Noah Beignet when they see one, they know how
28:03
Speaker 1: yummy Beignet works, and there's lots so we like them. Okay,
28:11
Speaker 1: She's obviously very upset because after she brought him to
28:14
Speaker 1: this chapel where she thought that he would be like, Wow,
28:16
Speaker 1: what a great green mom I can't wait to get
28:18
Speaker 1: married here. You know, we get the way. Thank you
28:20
Speaker 1: for bringing me here. You know. He was like, I
28:22
Speaker 1: think it's time for me to go back to Egypt.
28:24
Speaker 1: And then she ran outside, and what I can only
28:28
Speaker 1: describe now is gave us like a Tennessee Williams style
28:33
Speaker 1: Southern mellow drama performance of like the kind of crying
28:38
Speaker 1: where it turns into coughing. Like it's like so like
28:47
Speaker 1: she is performing in a way where I'm like, mito,
28:50
Speaker 1: are you taking notes? Are you taking this? No? What
28:54
Speaker 1: I think Debbie is an amazing actor. If this is real,
29:00
Speaker 1: and if like, if this is okay, if okay, sorry,
29:04
Speaker 1: if this isn't real, if this is real, this is
29:06
Speaker 1: like emotional abuse in the craziest way, watching like this
29:10
Speaker 1: is crazy okay. So basically having said that, let me
29:13
Speaker 1: get to the point. I'm sorry, I'm like talking around it.
29:16
Speaker 1: She's upset, she's crying, she's really going outside, She's screaming.
29:20
Speaker 1: She can't believe this is happening. She's like, I thought
29:23
Speaker 1: his tone changed quick, and we're like his tone he
29:29
Speaker 1: barely talked the whole time. She's like, I have to
29:34
Speaker 1: get out. I can't breathe. He's coming out and he's like,
29:37
Speaker 1: de dy dd baby looked at me, and we're like, nedy, baby,
29:42
Speaker 1: look at you. And then he like tries to get
29:45
Speaker 1: her to look at him. She won't. She's like stop it. No.
29:48
Speaker 1: He then gets on one fucking knee one knee, takes
29:52
Speaker 1: out a box. There's a ring in it, and we're like,
29:54
Speaker 1: oh my god, this and then he won't. She still
29:56
Speaker 1: won't look at him because she's so so upset. So
29:59
Speaker 1: then he has to put the ring down on the
30:01
Speaker 1: ground and then walk over to her, and then we
30:06
Speaker 1: see affection between him and her, the kind of affection
30:12
Speaker 1: that Edward could only dream of. Anyway, Mito like goes
30:18
Speaker 1: behind her starts kissing her neck. We're like, what are
30:20
Speaker 1: you doing? She's so confused. She's like, no, is stumba
30:27
Speaker 1: or not? You know, You're just like, oh my god.
30:33
Speaker 1: She says, don't do this. She cries. Then he gets
30:41
Speaker 1: back on his knee. He says, I got you. She collapses.
30:48
Speaker 1: She cough cries again. She can't believe that he has
30:51
Speaker 1: done one of his classic Egyptian pranks again, the old
30:57
Speaker 1: It's over JK, will you be my life? That thing?
31:03
Speaker 1: How unsecure? How unstable could you? I can I cannot
31:07
Speaker 1: imagine a world in which I've been waiting for a
31:11
Speaker 1: man to propose to me. A that world Pete alone,
31:15
Speaker 1: b this man is like, it's over, I gotta leave you,
31:22
Speaker 1: and I like, obviously didn't see it coming for some reason,
31:25
Speaker 1: this is not in the same situation because Debbie should
31:27
Speaker 1: have seen this coming. But anyway, God bless Then I'm like, okay,
31:31
Speaker 1: trying to get over that, and then he's like just kidding.
31:33
Speaker 1: I want to be an asshole and I want to
31:35
Speaker 1: marry you. I can't imagine being like good, Oh, I
31:39
Speaker 1: can't wait for you to be my husband, my emotionally
31:42
Speaker 1: abusive will turn on a dime don like sorry dime
31:47
Speaker 1: psycho abusive, crazy husband who doesn't care about me or
31:51
Speaker 1: my feelings at all? What a life? What a future
31:54
Speaker 1: that is like for us? I can't wait for this
31:56
Speaker 1: to be it? I mean I cannot what is why?
32:00
Speaker 1: What world would you say yes to this? But she does?
32:03
Speaker 1: So that is like why. I'm like, is this real?
32:05
Speaker 1: And if this isn't real, then is she not? I
32:09
Speaker 1: think a very good actress. I think a good actress.
32:19
Speaker 1: How could I mean? Is what please? Just find me whatever,
32:24
Speaker 1: shoot me an email where you're like, I also don't
32:26
Speaker 1: think this is an email, or like a comment where
32:28
Speaker 1: you're like, I can't believe this is real. This is
32:30
Speaker 1: so hard to fathom. I just I know people make
32:34
Speaker 1: decisions like this is what I think. This is hard
32:36
Speaker 1: for me to decipher. Okay, I understand that I overly
32:42
Speaker 1: protect myself from the world, from relationships, from my heart
32:46
Speaker 1: getting broken. All of that I know I do. So
32:50
Speaker 1: is the opposite so wildly confusing to me that I
32:55
Speaker 1: can't think it to be real, Like that someone would
32:59
Speaker 1: put themselves in this kind of peril, that someone would
33:03
Speaker 1: ignore such grave red flags to experience what could be
33:12
Speaker 1: astronomical pain from someone who seemingly doesn't care about your
33:17
Speaker 1: emotional wellbeing. Are you just going to throw up throw
33:22
Speaker 1: caution into the wind and like give all that up
33:25
Speaker 1: for that? Like I just it's that's what I know
33:29
Speaker 1: that I do well too much, but and I know
33:32
Speaker 1: sometin people don't do enough. But like, what is it?
33:34
Speaker 1: Is it just somewhere in the middle that the balance lies.
33:39
Speaker 1: I do need you to tell me or do you
33:40
Speaker 1: think this is fake? Okay? So when he gets the ring,
33:49
Speaker 1: he tries to put it on her, and he's like, oh,
33:51
Speaker 1: I didn't know what size, but it's okay because well, yeah,
33:55
Speaker 1: because she can, you know, get whatever resize. He's like,
33:57
Speaker 1: because you lose weight. His reaction and solution to this
34:04
Speaker 1: is for her to change herself to fit into whatever
34:07
Speaker 1: fucking ring size he bought. You know who probably knows
34:14
Speaker 1: her ring size, her daughter. I wonder if he's ever
34:17
Speaker 1: had a conversation, like a good conversation with Devin, Devin
34:22
Speaker 1: would have been. It would have been really easy for
34:23
Speaker 1: Devin to give him her mom's ring size. Just get
34:27
Speaker 1: one of her many rings. She's been on God's greener
34:29
Speaker 1: for a long enough time. She has rings on her size.
34:31
Speaker 1: She has like a you know, some sort of like
34:34
Speaker 1: jewelry plate slash holder she keeps in her top drawer.
34:39
Speaker 1: You could have just gone in there and get it,
34:44
Speaker 1: but it goes back to something else interesting. So yeah,
34:46
Speaker 1: obviously this is you know, wildly egotistical for him, like, oh,
34:50
Speaker 1: she lose weight. Everyone knows when you lose weight, usually
34:55
Speaker 1: you lose enough weight to lose weight in your fingers.
34:57
Speaker 1: You know how much weight you have to lose to
34:58
Speaker 1: lose weight in your fingers? I mean she'd have to
35:01
Speaker 1: lose like twenty five pounds and she doesn't have twenty
35:05
Speaker 1: five pounds to lose. She's like, you know, a slender lady.
35:10
Speaker 1: I don't know how weight actually works. I mean I actually, yeah,
35:12
Speaker 1: I really don't know how weight works. I know that
35:14
Speaker 1: when I gain weight, it's a lot in my stomach
35:20
Speaker 1: and my arms and face, and then when I lose weight,
35:25
Speaker 1: I get arms and face first, and then I takes
35:28
Speaker 1: a long time for me to lose weight in my stomach.
35:30
Speaker 1: But yeah, but like fingers, no, okay. He then says
35:36
Speaker 1: something nice. He's like I complete her, and we're like, well, yeah,
35:43
Speaker 1: we know that you would feel that way. And then
35:45
Speaker 1: he says, and she completes me. And for a moment
35:51
Speaker 1: where like that's probably the most humble and the most
35:54
Speaker 1: vulnerable you've ever been to ever even consider that you
36:00
Speaker 1: might not be whole, although you might not need something,
36:03
Speaker 1: or that she might do something profound or divine for you,
36:09
Speaker 1: Like I just it felt like a different person, or
36:12
Speaker 1: like who's this? It would be annoying. It's annoying for
36:20
Speaker 1: me to not get the full spectrum of human behavior
36:24
Speaker 1: when there's like a docu series, so I don't want
36:27
Speaker 1: to have like an archetype of a villain if there's
36:29
Speaker 1: like cutting room floor footage of someone being a normal,
36:33
Speaker 1: nice person. I also don't want contrived moments of drama
36:37
Speaker 1: when you know, specifically there could just have been more
36:41
Speaker 1: money in the production to have more hours of them
36:44
Speaker 1: filming and then just catch which is like natural that
36:49
Speaker 1: happens because often on the show we get while the
36:52
Speaker 1: cameras were not filming, or the other night or last
36:55
Speaker 1: night kind of situations where then we get drama that
36:58
Speaker 1: unfolded that we weren't privy to, and it's like, well,
37:00
Speaker 1: then why are we watching the show or whatever. It's like,
37:02
Speaker 1: just this show is doing well enough, is successful enough
37:06
Speaker 1: that I would rather have less seasons and just enough
37:09
Speaker 1: production to get real drama and real people doing real shit.
37:15
Speaker 1: So that's why I'm like for him. If he's not
37:18
Speaker 1: a villainous villain that is wildly self serving, and if
37:24
Speaker 1: there's been moments of him being nice or kind or
37:28
Speaker 1: gracious or in love with her or affectionate towards her,
37:33
Speaker 1: it feels like we would be stupid to continue to
37:39
Speaker 1: watch if we found out that existed the whole time
37:45
Speaker 1: and was kept from us, because it does feel like
37:50
Speaker 1: we deserve the full picture, and by we, I mean
37:54
Speaker 1: the audience. I'm just like, what is the plan? It
38:10
Speaker 1: feels like there are two options to this. We now
38:15
Speaker 1: take at face value that this man has a loving
38:17
Speaker 1: heart that has loved her, that feels like very thankful
38:21
Speaker 1: and appreciative that Debbie is in his life and you know,
38:24
Speaker 1: like cares about her and wants to get married, that
38:30
Speaker 1: life began with her kind of coming into his life,
38:34
Speaker 1: which is what that whole completes me kind of means.
38:40
Speaker 1: Or he decides in a fraction of a second what
38:45
Speaker 1: his next move's going to be, or he does yeah,
38:52
Speaker 1: it just it's so interesting, or he yeah, it's like
38:55
Speaker 1: what is his end goal? When they're kissing, she's like,
39:03
Speaker 1: oh my god, baby, say it to me, say what
39:07
Speaker 1: I want to hear he's And then we thought it's
39:10
Speaker 1: like the I love you thing because he was like,
39:15
Speaker 1: will you marry me? But he never really was like
39:17
Speaker 1: I love you. He's like, will you marry me? She's
39:21
Speaker 1: like in Arabic and he's like, whatever had I on
39:23
Speaker 1: how to say will you marry me? In Arabic? But
39:26
Speaker 1: he didn't say on a Behebic, which is how you
39:29
Speaker 1: say I love you, and Arabid is such a flowery language.
39:39
Speaker 1: I think I've said this before. I feel like it's
39:40
Speaker 1: crazy to not have someone like be constantly saying on
39:45
Speaker 1: a behebic and or a bibie to someone that is
39:51
Speaker 1: your fiance, and you feel like, I don't say that.
39:57
Speaker 1: Everyone says it. You don't say no, one says it.
40:03
Speaker 1: That's like being like, yeah, I don't like this is
40:08
Speaker 1: to be someone who speaks Arabic and not say those
40:11
Speaker 1: words to me feels like an American or English person
40:15
Speaker 1: English speaking person being like I don't I don't use
40:18
Speaker 1: that word, the word the that's how much you hear it.
40:23
Speaker 1: You're like, you don't use the word the. I don't
40:26
Speaker 1: use it. I step around it. I need a apple
40:32
Speaker 1: and apple please pass a remote that's around you. To me,
40:37
Speaker 1: you're like, what you side step the word the in
40:41
Speaker 1: the English language. That's how much you avoid that word
40:45
Speaker 1: everyone else says all the time. Makes no sense, Like
40:49
Speaker 1: that's why like mitosole, like, I don't think that Egyptian
40:52
Speaker 1: people play that many pranks. You would have to tell
40:54
Speaker 1: me I'm not Egyptian. Tell me if you are Egyptian.
40:58
Speaker 1: Besides the fact that you know, a lot of Egyptian
41:01
Speaker 1: people have been on my social media, it's being like,
41:04
Speaker 1: we don't know him. We go to the movies a lot.
41:09
Speaker 1: You know what we're doing. We're seeing Odyssey and Imax
41:12
Speaker 1: this weekend. You know what, we didn't see Meto in imax, Honey,
41:16
Speaker 1: not Meto and thirty five millimeter not Meto in any millimeter.
41:25
Speaker 1: I gotta know film more. Isn't it interesting that like
41:29
Speaker 1: seventy millimeter is twice thirty five? So does that you know? Okay,
41:38
Speaker 1: you're okay, you know what I mean? Thirty five millimeter
41:41
Speaker 1: and then seventy millimeter. Okay, so IMAX means seventy millimeter?
41:45
Speaker 1: Is that what it means? Or just no? Two different things.
41:49
Speaker 1: But Odyssey's both both captured in Imax format and also
41:55
Speaker 1: a big screen format. Alison, I'm not quite your but
42:00
Speaker 1: I'm going to find out before when you're hearing this.
42:02
Speaker 1: I've already already found out at least what looks like
42:04
Speaker 1: in that format. But still, God bless Okay, Anyway, that's
42:11
Speaker 1: really what happens for them in this episode, and we
42:14
Speaker 1: know again because we've seen it, that they get married,
42:19
Speaker 1: but they have a marriage license in these streets. So
42:22
Speaker 1: this is how this went down. And I wonder why
42:28
Speaker 1: Meto allowed himself to be the villain. I think it
42:33
Speaker 1: would have been much better for Meadow's career if he
42:36
Speaker 1: had cast himself as the victim. If Debbie had been
42:40
Speaker 1: like a very controlling and she could have been wildly
42:46
Speaker 1: crazy white lady that like you know, is just passport
42:51
Speaker 1: brawing her way I don't know, around and got like
42:53
Speaker 1: a young tour guy to come to America. Like, if
42:57
Speaker 1: he had painted himself as the victim, surely I would
43:01
Speaker 1: think would have a better chance at parlaying that into superstardom.
43:07
Speaker 1: We like to be on someone's side. I just don't
43:12
Speaker 1: really see that like anyone, you know, this is Peace
43:15
Speaker 1: really turned people off. It's funny because him and Katie
43:20
Speaker 1: are the absolute villains of the season, which is much
43:25
Speaker 1: to Allison's dismay. Alison of Shane Annabel but no, but
43:31
Speaker 1: she's really up there though. Okay, So that ends part
43:35
Speaker 1: one of this mega recap, and part two will be
43:39
Speaker 1: coming your way at the same time. It doesn't have
43:42
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43:45
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