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does it ever get better? · feel your feelings with Ethan Jewell

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  Does it ever get better? That question is something to
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  hold on to, a glimmer of hope, but also a source of doubt.
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  When you're going through a rough patch, it can feel
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  impossible to see the light at the end of the tunnel.
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  It can feel like the weight of the world will never lift.
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  However, I'm here to tell you it absolutely can and will get
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  better. The key time self-care patients.
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  Today we're going to dive into what better really means, why
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  time heals all and how to take care of yourself while you're
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  struggling. My name is Ethan Jewell and
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  welcome back to Feel Your Feelings.
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  Before we start, I want to remind you I'm not a doctor.
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  I'm not a psychiatrist or a professional in the mental
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  health industry whatsoever. I'm a normal person who, just
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  like you, has experienced some big feelings and wants to start
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  raw conversations to raise real, relatable mental health
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  awareness. So thank you so much for tuning
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  in and let's feel some feelings now.
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  If you're having a hard time and have been struggling for weeks,
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  months, maybe even years, you might find yourself asking, does
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  it ever get better? Does the weight you carry ever
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  get lighter? Will sleep ever come easy again?
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  Will life be enjoyable again? The truth is, the way that life
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  gets better isn't some magical transformation that happens
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  overnight. Instead, it's a gradual process,
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  and a lot of that process involves showing up for
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  yourself, even when it gets hard.
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  Many people have this idea that better means everything will be
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  sunshine and rainbows and you'll never struggle again.
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  But better doesn't mean perfect. It doesn't mean that you'll
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  magically wake up one day and never struggle with your mental
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  health ever again. That's an unrealistic
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  expectation to hold. It'll only lead to
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  disappointment and more struggle.
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  What better means is that the dark days may not disappear
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  entirely, but there'll be fewer and farther between.
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  This journey isn't about finding some magical cure that makes you
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  instantly better. Instead, it's about redefining
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  what better looks like for you. It's about progress, not
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  perfection. It's about giving yourself grace
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  and patience. Time to feel, reflect and hurt.
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  Space to feel all of your feelings without guilt or shame.
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  Getting better isn't a magical cure.
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  It's taking care of yourself until it gets easier.
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  This progress is showing up for yourself, taking care of
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  yourself, saying no to commitments when you're
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  struggling, loving yourself through it all and being
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  prepared and expecting things to get harder before they get
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  easier. Because an unfortunate truth
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  about mental health is that it isn't a linear line upward.
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  Getting better has its ups and downs.
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  You'll have good days, bad days, and everything between, and
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  that's OK. That doesn't mean you're not
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  learning and improving. It means that you're human and
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  you're living through a full range of emotions that you can
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  experience. Progress happens all throughout
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  that range and is often invisible.
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  Even on days where you fall back into old habits or face
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  difficult feelings, you are still progressing.
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  It just takes time. Time is a crucial factor in
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  healing your mental health. As you give yourself time to
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  grow, you become stronger and more equipped to handle life's
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  challenges. Of course, you can't do nothing
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  and expect that growth to happen, but if you at least try,
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  put an effort and give yourself time, you will see slow growth
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  in healing. Time allows for reflection,
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  perspective, and learning. You can reflect and learn about
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  who you are and what you need to heal.
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  When we consider or think about healing often we think we need
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  to have it all figured out before we start to get better.
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  But that isn't true. We have to just dive head 1st
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  and try and try and throw ourselves at it over and over
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  again and we may not see progress right away.
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  Think about how plants grow day by day.
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  They get a little bit stronger, but the progress isn't always
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  visible at first. You'll develop new coping
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  mechanisms as you learn more about yourself.
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  If you allow yourself to feel your feelings, you'll learn what
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  makes you feel better. What once felt overwhelming
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  becomes more manageable with time.
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  As you continue to take care of yourself, giving yourself that
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  space to understand your ability to handle difficult emotions
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  grows. Time is crucial to your mental
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  health growth, but you have to spend that time in a productive
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  way by taking care of you. Things don't just get better
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  instantly, but with time. Through consistent care for
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  yourself, you'll slowly unlock coping mechanisms and knowledge
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  about your mental health. You'll find it easier to hold
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  on, and then one day it won't be so bad.
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  For some, it never truly goes away.
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  You just have to be nice to yourself until it gets easier.
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  So lean on others. Stick to a routine to reach out
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  to professionals, reach out to friends, be kind to yourself.
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  So does it ever get better? The answer is yes, but maybe not
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  in the way we sometimes hope. It doesn't happen overnight, but
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  you will one day wake up and find it all a little bit easier,
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  a little more manageable. The dark days may not disappear
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  entirely, but they will get easier to navigate.
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  If you are struggling right now, it's OK to take it one day at a
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  time. You're doing better than you
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  think, and by showing up for yourself every day with a small
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  act of care or love, you're already on the path of healing.
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  Keep going, keep taking care of yourself, and let time do its
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  work. It will get better.
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  There's no magical cure. Give yourself space and time
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  until it gets a little bit easier.
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  That's going to wrap it up for today's episode.
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  Thank you so much for tuning in. If you need help feeling your
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  feelings, you should check out my music on all platforms under
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  the name of Ethan Jewel and I almost guarantee it'll make you
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  cry. Also shoot me a message on my
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  Instagram at Jewel Boy with an I under score and let me know what
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  you thought about today's episode.
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  So thank you so much for being here, Thank you for
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  understanding that it will get better.
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  And as always, thank you for feeling your feelings.
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  I'll see you next time.