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How Did The Narcissist BLAME You For Everything! · The Mental Healness Podcast

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  Boom, narcissist blame you for everything.
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  I know y'all feel that. I know.
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  When I said that statement at the beginning, your hearts just
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  fluttered a little bit right? You were like, you know what,
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  Lee, you're right, The narcissist in my life, the toxic
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  person in my life always found a way to put the blame on me.
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  How do they do it so well? What goes on the side of their
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  minds? How do they?
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  Are they doing it on purpose? That's the question that I get a
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  lot. And that's what we're talking
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  about today. Y'all, Of course, if you're new
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  here, I'm Lee Hammock, I'm a diagnosed narcissist.
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  And today we're talking about the blame game, how narcissists
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  always find a way to point the finger back at you.
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  No, it's just for instance, y'all for It's just for
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  instance, just saying for for general purposes, I got to ask a
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  question to the chat. How did they blame you?
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  How did they find a way to put it on to you?
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  How? I asked this question on
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  Facebook, I asked it on Instagram, I asked it
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  everywhere. And there were so many answers
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  that came into play that it was kind of crazy.
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  It was literally crazy how so many people had a different
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  answer for the same court for the same question.
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  All I asked were the same. How did the narcissist make you
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  feel like you were the problem? How did they make you feel like
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  you or the the reason everything is going wrong?
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  How did they put it on to you and so many people like came
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  through it had it had three 338 comments on Facebook alone and
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  one of the top comments is the per like the narcissist
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  answered, I didn't know how to communicate like the narcissist.
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  The narcissist in their life said the the survivor, the
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  victim didn't know how to communicate.
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  So that's what they ended up having to deal with.
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  The survivor didn't know how to communicate with the narcissist
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  who was lying, Who is cheating? Who is being manipulative?
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  Like the survivor didn't know how to communicate, which sounds
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  crazy. Doesn't doesn't that sound
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  crazy? What you think about it?
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  The person who is abusing you is trying to convince you that you
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  don't know how to communicate with them.
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  Isn't that crazy? Who said this?
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  Jin Shu says they found my insecurities.
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  That's a good one right there. A lot of narcissists will attack
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  your insecurities to make it feel like your it's your fault
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  for whatever has happened. They could cheat on you, like
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  right? You go through their phone to
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  discover their affair. You found out that they cheated
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  on you because you went through their phone, right?
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  They'll put it on you. Doesn't you're so insecure that
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  it made you go throughout my phone and it made you figure out
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  that I was cheating on you? What?
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  Huh? Isn't that crazy as hell?
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  They'll put it directly onto you like any crazy how they go by
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  doing it right there. You even though they are
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  cheating right? They are cheating.
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  They'll put it on to you. They'll find a way.
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  But you, you discovered it and what not.
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  Edda says said I complained about something so it gave him
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  the OK to be pissed, not his lack of communication.
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  Yep Yep Yep Yep. They'll use your valid
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  complaints as a reason to give you the silent treatment and the
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  disconnect, which is so crazy. Isn't it crazy how it works?
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  So the number one tactic that a lot of narcissists will use,
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  right? It's called DARVO.
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  Y'all know DARVO right? DARVO deny attack, reverse
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  victim, offender. Yes, they deny it.
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  The D in DARVO stands for deny. I didn't do it.
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  Hey, attack. You're just looking for a reason
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  to be mad. They attack you, it's your
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  fault. You're insecure.
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  See how it works in the right there, RVO reverse victim
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  offender. You're the one who's actually
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  hurting me right now because you went through my phone and
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  discovered my cheating. You went you.
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  You called the police and got me arrested for putting my hands on
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  you. It's your fault.
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  You're the bad guy here. You're ruining the family.
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  You're ruining the relationship. You're going to get me in
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  trouble. You see how that goes?
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  Right there in a narcissist's mind.
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  Really. Realistically, DARVO just means
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  I don't have to take accountability.
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  If I can make your reaction the main event here it is going
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  right here. You know what I'm saying?
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  That's the that's the mindset. Like I don't have to take
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  accountability if I can put it on YouTube.
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  That's why a lot of narcissists get so good at doing exactly
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  what I'm saying. Get, get so good at DARVO.
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  Get so good at DARVO, Angela said.
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  Narcissists never want to solve any conflict.
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  Yeah, unless somehow the conflict involves them winning,
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  right? Unless it's a valid conflict
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  that involves that you you have actually done something
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  incorrect, then they want to get to the bottom of it, right?
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  What is something that they can finally put on to you now?
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  They want to get to the bottom of it right now.
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  They want to have a chat about it right now.
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  We're not leaving this room till we come to a conclusion, right?
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  I know how crazy that sounds, y'all, Because like it it really
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  it really does. They only want to have
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  conversations that benefit them directly.
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  That really is who said that? It has to benefit them in some
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  way. That's literally that.
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  That right there, that sentence right there can go for every
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  type of interaction you have with a narcissist.
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  It has to benefit them in some way.
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  How do I get a narcissist to do what I want them to do?
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  It has to benefit them in some way, shape or form.
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  There is no other. There are no ends in the there's
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  no other way around it. There has to be a benefit in it
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  for them. Very rarely will you ever find a
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  narcissist. There's going to be like there's
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  going to sacrifice and be kind, caring and compassionate enough
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  to do something that they cannot and do not and will not benefit
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  from. Boom.
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  Isn't that a wild minds right there?
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  It absolutely has to benefit them in some way, right?
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  But again, another method, another good way I say good like
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  this with a posture right? Another good way that narcissist
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  will put the blame on you is reactive abuse.
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  Now y'all reactive abuse. They poke you, poke you, prod
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  you for hours, days until you finally snap, scream, cry, swing
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  at them. Now you're attacking them.
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  And guess what happens once you react?
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  They get calm. They whip out their phones and
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  record you and point and point and click at you and say look,
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  see, you're the unstable 1 here. They use your own reaction as
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  evidence that you are actually the problem here.
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  And that's why it's like so many people nowadays, y'all?
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  Reactive abuse is kind of getting tossed around to make
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  excuses with some people's behavior, like reactive abuse or
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  not, you have to. Yeah, reactive abuse or not, you
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  can't do certain things and not respect consequences.
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  Like somebody, like I saw a video of somebody the other day,
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  a woman put out a gun on a man, right.
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  And the man was just sitting there and they was like, oh,
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  Lee, that's right. That's got to be reactive abuse.
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  She's put on a gun and threatened him.
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  I'm like, then she got arrested. I'm like, yo, you can't, even if
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  it is reactive abuse, you can't pull a weapon out on him.
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  He's just sitting there and he got it on camera.
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  Then you're now you're menacing. You see what I'm saying?
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  It's just like it it can get to a point, man.
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  It gets to a point. It gets to a point.
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  It gets to a point. And yes, narcissists love
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  controlling your emotions for their direct benefit.
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  You have that right, Michael. Absolutely true.
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  Absolutely true. Right.
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  And as I said, when you are reactive, you're easy to
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  control. Yeah, absolutely.
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  And that's why I tell people that's why it's important, so
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  important for people to control your reaction.
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  I know I say it time and time again, but it's so important,
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  man. You have to get control of your
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  reactions. If you don't, you're just going
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  to be the victim of a narcissist, worse and worse and
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  worse. You're going to look horrible.
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  That narcissist is going to make you look like the bad guy and
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  it's going to work. Just be real.
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  It's going to work when you are, when you, when you have no
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  control of your emotions or your reactions, you're going to look
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  like the bad guy. You just are.
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  There's no ifs, ands or buts about it.
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  You're going to look like the aggressor here.
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  You're going to look like the bad guy here.
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  And it's only benefit them, benefits them, right?
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  You got to watch out for that right there, y'all.
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  And another thing that narcissists get really good at,
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  y'all, I know everybody can attest.
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  A lot of people can attest to this right here.
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  It's like narcissists love moving the goal posts.
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  I know y'all feel that right there, didn't you?
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  You can actually meet the demands or their crotch fit
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  their criteria, right? And once you do, they'll just
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  move the goal posts. They'll change the rules.
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  They're they're changed the they will change the criteria, right?
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  They will convince you that you are failing in the relationship,
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  making you work 2345 times as hard to please somebody who
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  can't be pleased. You're trying to please this
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  person and in all actuality, they really cannot be pleased.
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  There's nothing that you can do for them.
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  There really is nothing you can do for them but you want to try
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  and try and try because you want to keep the relationship
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  together. You want to try and try and try
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  and give up so much your time, effort and energy.
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  And you like I said and you sacrifice so much to be with
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  this person and then when they completely destroy you, they'll
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  move on and leave you broken. They will move on and leave you
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  broken and what not. Hi I'm new here I need the vent.
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  Well you can shoot down. I try to do everything to ask.
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  It was never enough. Yep, you nothing you like.
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  This is the thing right here y'all.
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  Nothing that you do will ever be enough for a narcissist.
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  Nothing you do will ever be enough for this person because
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  they cannot be pleased. You can try, you can bend over
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  backwards, forwards, sideways, kamasutra, cartwheel, backflip
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  splits, everything. But nothing you do would ever be
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  enough. You'll just be doing more and
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  more and more and getting less and less and less.
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  And it's crazy, like the more you do, the less you get.
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  The more you do for them, the less you get out of it, right?
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  The more you do for them, the less you get out of it.
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  Like a how the the people who get treated worse with
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  narcissist, the more the more empathy you have, the worse you
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  will get treated. They'll use your empathy against
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  you. And it happens time and time
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  again. Yeah, it's like clockwork.
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  It really will. It.
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  It really is like clockwork. The more empathy you have, the
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  more they weaponize it against you, right.
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  Because you have a conscience. You're willing to look at
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  yourself. You're willing to look inside.
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  The narcissist is not because they try to convince you that it
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  is your fault. You will actually take time to
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  think about it and like, well, maybe it is my fault.
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  Maybe I could have said this differently.
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  Maybe I could have did that differently.
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  Maybe I could have went about this a different way.
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  No, you couldn't have because they had already had made their
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  minds up. Their minds were already made-up
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  before. I promise you they were.
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  The mind was already made-up before you said anything.
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  But you're going to look inside of yourself and you're going to
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  start to have these questions and then guess what?
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  They're going to be able to manipulate you.
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  They're going to do that type of stuff right here.
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  They will use your own, your like, if you have the
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  willingness to grow, they will use that against you.
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  They'll say some crazy, they'll say some crazy, they'll say
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  something crazy to you. Like if you really love me, you
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  work on your anger issues that they caused, right?
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  They caused you the anger issues and they tell you do you need to
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  work on them? Think about this right here.
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  Y'all, who were you before you got into this relationship with
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  this narcissistic person, right? It's of course it's going to be
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  different if it's a family member, right?
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  But who were you before you got into this relationship?
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  Who were you? Were you an angry, lying,
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  cussing person that snapped all the time that was crying and
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  highly reactionary? Were you or did this
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  relationship cause you to become that person, that type of
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  person? And then another question you
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  have to ask yourself, if I even if there is true that I had, I
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  became this different type of person, am I willing to stay in
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  this relationship dynamic because nothing is going to get
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  better. Nothing is going to change and
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  then you're going to be the same person.
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  You are right, it's crazy. Put it in your face that you
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  went to college. That's crazy that yeah,
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  weaponize your education to get you is crazy.
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  But a lot of time you get narcissist that they'll
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  weaponize your education against you because they themselves
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  don't didn't go, didn't go get an education.
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  You know college like the college situation.
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  You know college is for stupid people, right?
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  Only dumb people pay for an extra education.
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  Like most people go to school for free.
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  Yeah, it's free school. Like in school we had to pay to
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  go to high school and stuff like that, right?
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  That's the best kind of school because it's free.
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  People who pay for college, people who pay for education are
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  stupid. Is that is that crazy?
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  That sounds like that. Yeah.
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  It's insane. It really is insane.
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  I hate the way that I lost myself.
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  Yeah, so many people do y'all So they will end the informational
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  part of y'all. If y'all have some questions,
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  like I said, you can drop some questions and some answer
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  questions in the comment section right now.
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  I do a short Q&A and then I got to hop off and get my son.
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  My ex has my ex has herpes, but I don't.
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  But I doubt he's disclosing the information and I'm 100% he knew
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  he had it when we met. But I can't prove it.
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  I gave him proof, my test results before and after, but he
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  refused to show me his refusal. His refusal to show you is
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  pretty much the answer right there, right?
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  He knows what he got, you know what I mean?
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  He knows that he has Herbies and he knows he's not telling
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  anybody about it. So, and nobody's going to get if
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  he, he won't stop doing it till somebody stops him, right?
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  If he he has this, he's just willfully spreading it around, I
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  think. I think there's a crime in
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  certain states or certain areas. So if he has it, he's not
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  telling anybody. He's not disclosing it, then
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  yeah, he's going to get in trouble.
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  But I mean, he'll only get in trouble if something, if
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  somebody reports him. If you, if we, if you had herpes
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  and you gave it to me. Oh, you try to you try to expose
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  me to it without telling me. Yeah, I'm report.
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  I'm. I'm definitely reporting you.
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  Yeah, yes, I don't. I don't care if he's an
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  influence or not. I'm reporting you.
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  You even by the girl here give me herpes.
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  And I'll say this right here because he this is the thing
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  right here. You said he's a known
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  influencer. Y'all might get mad at me for
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  saying this, but y'all gotta sorry I didn't say that.
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  That was it. Y'all gotta stop fucking just
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  people fucking people just because I'm not saying you the
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  person who's saying this, but y'all have got to stop sleep
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  with people because they just famous or they popular.
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  That blows my mind. Oh, you popular, here's some
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  ass. You popular put that thing in my
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  mouth. That's crazy to me.
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  Difference in popularity. That's crazy to me.
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  Pop out in my mouth. Fuck me.
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  Are you you popular? You don't know my last.
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  I don't even know your real name.
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  Give it to me. That's crazy to me Like it blows
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  my mind. I'm glad my mind doesn't work
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  that way. It just like it just blows my
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  mind because I know you said he's a low and known influence.
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  I know people just throw throwing ass at him.
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  Right, just throwing ass at him. Well, you got you got a million
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  followers. Here's some ass.
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  You want some head to go along with that ass just 'cause you
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  got you might be stupid and ugly, but you popular.
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  Here's some, Here's some head and some ass unprotected.
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  By the way, you don't have to use protection 'cause you're
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  popular. That blows my mind.
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  That shit makes my head hurt, man.
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  That makes my head hurt. They expose him, give his name.
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  If you expose him, you gotta be able to prove it though.
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  So you mean how to make sure you are not the abusive narcissistic
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  one in a relationship? He just keeps reversing the
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  blame and telling me I'm the one that isn't able to take
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  criticism and is disrespectful at to get you have to get clear
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  right here, right? You have to get clear.
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  You have to get clarity on what is actually going on.
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  You have to get clear and clarity because the people, if
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  you stay in a relationship like this, they're going to gaslight
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  you, mess your mind up, right? I'm just afraid of what he'll do
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  to me his resources because I have I have a following as well.
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  I think if you have a following as well like it.
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  So if you're not going to expose him in talking about it, right,
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  It's just I understand talking about it can help you, but if
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  you're not going to expose him, it's just you something he's
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  like talk you, you're talking into the ether.
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  Clarity means understanding what what the actual truth is yes,
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  clarity. What are the facts and believe
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  you're Yep. What are the facts?
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  Not what is he this person is saying to you, not what they're
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  telling you. What are the actual facts of the
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  situation? Remove their opinion from it.
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  Remove their opinion. What are the actual facts?
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  You mean that's a little Nat in here.
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  There's a little Nat. I want to thank you for your
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  videos. You're you basically haven't.
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  I really appreciate it. Appreciate it also.
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  Y'all if y'all just join the live.
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  the beginning of the summer time, y'all.
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  So if y'all want to do a zoom call or a phone call, check
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  are on the website as well. Zoom calls, phone calls.
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  Y'all know I do my zoom calls and my one on ones my phone
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  calls. I'm actually about to start
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  right? But I'm about to start the text
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  things like the hammock. How do you work around and
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  spending time with our kids not in my house.
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  And why do they want to keep you?
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  They want to watch your kids in your house because that keeps
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  that that means they still have access to your house if they
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  don't have their own play. Did you ask this question
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  before? I think somebody, either you or
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  somebody else asked a similar question.
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  I, I, I get a lot of questions, but the last person who asked
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  the last person who asked a similar question was saying
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  something like they, the, the, their narcissistic ex-boyfriend
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  or husband or whatever said that their house was uninhabitable.
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  They can have kids over there. So they had to watch the kids at
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  your house. No, hell no, you're not coming.
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  Look at the end of the day, you're not coming.
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  You're not keep you're not keep coming to my house.
• 19:30
  We, we're not about to keep doing that right?
• 19:32
  We're not, we, we're not about to keep doing that like you are
• 19:34
  an adult. You want to see the kids, you
• 19:37
  got to get your own place. You're not, you're not about to
• 19:38
  keep coming over here messing up my shit.
• 19:40
  Hell now. Nope, Nope, Nope, Nope, Nope
• 19:44
  Nope hell now. Also, y'all forget about this
• 19:47
  New York City, I'm doing a live in person Q&A.
• 19:51
  Y'all see what we're doing right here?
• 19:52
  Q&A. I'm doing a live in person Q&A
• 19:57
  in New York City on June the 2nd.
• 20:00
  It's called the Foundation June the second New York City Live
• 20:05
  event. Go to mentalillness.net/events
• 20:09
  to get registered. Mentalillness.net/events to get
• 20:13
  registered for my June. Like I said my June in person
• 20:18
  Q&A is coming up June the 2nd. Get registered for that Mental
• 20:22
  illness.net/events. Y'all can check it out.
• 20:26
  New York City coming your way. I've never been to New York
• 20:29
  either so I gained weight. Fact is, it did not make me
• 20:34
  discardable. I was totally worn out trying to
• 20:36
  care for him and kid. Yep, you're, you're going to
• 20:38
  change all you're going to sacrifice so much be in these
• 20:40
  relationships. You will, you will not be the
• 20:43
  same person that walked into that relationship, right?
• 20:47
  They walked out of it. They leaves it.
• 20:49
  You would not be the same person.
• 20:50
  It it just it's impossible. Now that doesn't necessarily
• 20:53
  mean you have to be a worse person or a bad person.
• 20:56
  You just won't be the same person.
• 21:03
  Thank you, Lee, I hope I can join one day in an in person
• 21:05
  event. I'm going to have some more
• 21:06
  coming up here. Y'all New York, NY call that
• 21:10
  cab. Yeah.
• 21:11
  New York City, June the second New York City Mental
• 21:15
  illness.net/events. Whatever.
• 21:19
  I never say anything wrong. I just use the Gray right
• 21:22
  method. And she senses that detachment
• 21:23
  and she becomes aggressive to the point she said, I'll treat
• 21:25
  you like an adult even if it means hitting you.
• 21:27
  Are you, are you not an adult? I know.
• 21:30
  I've seen you. I've seen you writing a lot of
• 21:31
  stuff. I've just there's been a lot of
• 21:32
  other stuff running around as well.
• 21:34
  Let me scroll up real quick. The narc voice is still in your
• 21:41
  head. You.
• 21:42
  You voice is kind. OK.
• 21:44
  Oh, yeah. Your voice is kind.
• 21:46
  Loving and patience. Yeah.
• 21:48
  Yeah. Working with y'all.
• 21:49
  I'm gonna say getting clarity from these people can help you
• 21:52
  heal in ways that you never thought imaginable.
• 21:54
  I promise you, yeah, that clarity is so important.
• 21:56
  It can help you. It can help set you free.
• 21:59
  It can help put you on a pathway to just feeling better.
• 22:02
  Being able to just escape this toxicity and just do what you
• 22:06
  need to do, man. I promise you it will.
• 22:08
  But I promise. Promise.
• 22:09
  Promise. But anyway, y'all, I do have to
• 22:12
  hop off this thing. I had to pick my son up.
• 22:14
  I'll be like check, turn on notifications on YouTube, check.
• 22:18
  Like I said, I'm going to be doing another live.
• 22:19
  I'll probably do another live tomorrow about about 1:00.
• 22:22
  So one 1:00 PM Eastern Standard Time, I'll be here.
• 22:26
  Like I said, mental illness.net for all things Lee Hammock and
• 22:29
  whatnot, my events, my workshops with thehooders.net and y'all,
• 22:33
  be safe, take care of yourselves, take care of each
• 22:35
  other, and we'll try it again later, Y'all, peace to the end.