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I ANONYMOUSLY sent flowers to my sister... now her husband thinks she's cheating! -r/BORUpdates | Reddit Stories | EP3123 · ok storytime

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  Speaker 1: Hey, this is Keon. And this is your host, Riley,
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  Speaker 2: I anonymously sent flowers to my sister, and now her
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  Speaker 2: husband thinks she's cheating. Ooh, that backfired. I, male 37,
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  Speaker 2: have always been close to my sister, female 35. We
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  Speaker 2: talk regularly, and during one such conversation, she told me
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  Speaker 2: she's been feeling really depressed.
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  Speaker 3: And overwhelmed lately.
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  Speaker 2: As we were talking, I could tell she was holding
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  Speaker 2: back tears, so I decided to do something nice for her.
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  Speaker 2: I contacted a local florist and put in an order
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  Speaker 2: for some flowers. I had them delivered with my sister's
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  Speaker 2: place of employment with a note reading, Thinking of you.
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  Speaker 3: Why did you add your name? Why didn't you say,
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  Speaker 3: I see sister. I'm thinking of you.
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  Speaker 1: You just left it blank?
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  Speaker 3: You just said thinking of you? Who's thinking of her? Alvin,
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  Speaker 3: a blank space baby, put your name. Put your name.
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  Speaker 3: You read this before.
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  Speaker 2: Alvin!
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  Speaker 3: Alvin! No, we didn't.
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  Speaker 2: A few hours later, the florist called me up and
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  Speaker 2: told me a man has been calling them nonstop and
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  Speaker 2: demanding they tell him who sent his wife flowers. They
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  Speaker 2: tried to explain that it was against their policy to
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  Speaker 2: reveal that information, but the man wouldn't take no for
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  Speaker 2: an answer. Apparently, he became so aggressive and threatening over
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  Speaker 2: the phone, the shop called me up and asked my
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  Speaker 2: permission to reveal the name of the sender to the man,
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  Speaker 2: the man being my brother-in-law. It turns out my sister
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  Speaker 2: had called her husband and thanked him for the flowers.
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  Speaker 2: He told her he hadn't sent any flowers and accused
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  Speaker 2: her of having an affair. By the way, this comes
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  Speaker 3: I'm Savannah. I'm Sophia.
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  Speaker 1: I'm Skion.
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  Speaker 2: Ooh, and we're here to give some good advice goofily,
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  Speaker 2: but we don't have all of your answers. We don't
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  Speaker 2: want to tell you what we would do, which, take
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  Speaker 2: that with a grain of salt, and we would love
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  Speaker 2: to hear what you would do.
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  Speaker 3: Down in the comments.
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  Speaker 2: As OP says, he believed her affair partner had sent
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  Speaker 2: them to her, which is why he called the florist
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  Speaker 2: like a lunatic demanding names. Now my sister is more
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  Speaker 2: depressed than ever, and she's been fighting with my brother-in-law
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  Speaker 2: ever since. My friends think I should have included my
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  Speaker 2: name on the card. Had I done that, they say,
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  Speaker 2: this blow up would have never happened.
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  Speaker 3: Like, yes, should you have put your name on the
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  Speaker 3: card just because, I don't know, they're from you. It's
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  Speaker 3: nice for your sister to know who these are from. Yes. However,
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  Speaker 3: I don't think, you know, you sending the flowers should
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  Speaker 3: mean that her husband blows up To an insane degree,
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  Speaker 3: I think that's a him problem. Sounds like.
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  Speaker 2: I say it's my brother-in-law to blame, as he was
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  Speaker 2: the one who can't control his temper. So, Reddit, am
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  Speaker 2: I the a-hole?
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  Speaker 3: Do they know that you're involved yet? Wait, there's an edit.
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  Speaker 1: Oh.
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  Speaker 2: Edit. Oops, I totally forgot to explain that I gave
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  Speaker 2: the floors permission to tell my brother-in-law it was me.
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  Speaker 2: So he knows my sister knows. Everyone knows at this point.
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  Speaker 2: Sorry for the confusion.
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  Speaker 3: Did he yell at you? What's going on? I need
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  Speaker 3: to know.
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  Speaker 1: Tell your brother.
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  Speaker 3: Tell your brother.
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  Speaker 2: He let me. he's the a-hole i agree reacting the
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  Speaker 2: way that he did i obviously he has trust issues
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  Speaker 2: or something oh 100 that makes him insecure to blow
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  Speaker 2: up on the florist and like threaten them to demand
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  Speaker 2: who sent these flowers like who said grow up like
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  Speaker 2: have the conversation with your wife and and also your wife.
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  Speaker 3: Doesn't know she's really i don't know also it's just
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  Speaker 3: like could have been there are a You're in an affair.
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  Speaker 3: She's already having a bad day.
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  Speaker 2: The consensus here is everyone sucks.
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  Speaker 3: Yay. I feel like the sister doesn't suck.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, I feel like the sister did a nice thing.
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  Speaker 2: She just didn't sign the card and then... Oh, I
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  Speaker 2: meant OP's sister.
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  Speaker 1: She's an innocent bystander.
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  Speaker 3: Oh, yeah.
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  Speaker 2: OP's sister, yeah, didn't do anything. Yeah, but I also
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  Speaker 2: agree with it, OP. Yeah, I think the only a-hole
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  Speaker 2: here is the husband. Like, to react that way?
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  Speaker 3: Like, grow up. 17 days later.
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  Speaker 2: Thank you all for your kind words and honest judgment.
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  Speaker 2: I acknowledge that my momentary lapse in judgment has wrought
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  Speaker 2: much instability. Your concern for my sister's well-being truly touched
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  Speaker 2: my heart. I would, however, like to take this time
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  Speaker 2: to explain that it was not my intention to foul
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  Speaker 2: up my sister's marriage by way of my anonymous gift.
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  Speaker 2: Nor have I ever harbored any weirdly loving feelings towards
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  Speaker 2: my sister.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, who said that? Yeah. That's crazy. You sent your
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  Speaker 3: sister flowers? You freak. My dad has given me Valentine's
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  Speaker 3: Day cards.
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  Speaker 1: My flabbers are gassed, dude.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, why are y'all jumping to the fact that anytime
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  Speaker 3: someone sends a nice card or flowers, that's automatically romantic interest?
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  Speaker 2: My mom gives all of us cards, and my dad
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  Speaker 2: gives all of us flat, er, chocolates.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, my dad always gives me a card and chocolates.
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  Speaker 1: What's up, Hoy?
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  Speaker 3: What's up, boy? Hoy hoy!
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  Speaker 1: Hoy hoy!
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  Speaker 2: Hoy!
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  Speaker 3: Hoy hoy came back in. All right, let's freaking get
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  Speaker 3: to it. Now the update. You guys were right.
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  Speaker 2: It turns out her marriage has been on the decline
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  Speaker 2: for a long while now, and her depression is largely
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  Speaker 2: the result of that. My sister is now getting divorced.
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  Speaker 3: Shocker.
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  Speaker 2: That's what it took? Honestly, if that's what it took,
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  Speaker 2: then good. Ugh, that's so sad, though. Now your sister sucks.
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  Speaker 1: Was this that broke? Was that, like, the last straw?
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  Speaker 1: The straw?
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  Speaker 3: The straw that broke the camel's back? What's the straw?
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  Speaker 3: And his back was a camel's?
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  Speaker 2: I feel like they were definitely headed in that direction,
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  Speaker 2: but my actions probably sped things up. My brother-in-law has
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  Speaker 2: moved out. And in with another woman.
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  Speaker 3: Well, whoever said projection was right.
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  Speaker 2: So I tend to agree with those commenters who speculated
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  Speaker 2: some degree of projection on his part when he accused
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  Speaker 2: my sister of having an affair. In talking with my sister,
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  Speaker 2: she explained that he was always mean with an explosive temper.
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  Speaker 3: All in all, my sister's disappointed.
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  Speaker 2: At the failure of her marriage, she seems cautiously optimistic.
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  Speaker 2: I'll be sure to support her going forward and want
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  Speaker 2: to thank you all again for your concern. And that's
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  Speaker 2: the end of this story.
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  Speaker 3: We're gonna go on to the next one. My sister-in-law
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  Speaker 3: pulled my wedding photographer away to shoot her own engagement photos. Whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa.
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  Speaker 3: My wedding first, babe. So my husband and I got
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  Speaker 3: married in June. That's my birthday month. That's our birthday month.
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  Speaker 1: Thank you.
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  Speaker 3: So very happy. Beautiful wedding, and it was simple among
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  Speaker 3: today's standards, but was perfect for us. My husband and
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  Speaker 3: I saved up for over three years for our wedding
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  Speaker 3: and reception.
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  Speaker 1: Wow.
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  Speaker 3: I had my bridesmaids come with me to choose their
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  Speaker 3: dresses because I could not afford to buy them. And
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  Speaker 3: let's be honest, seldom does the, and you'll be able
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  Speaker 3: to wear it again, apply classic 27 dresses moment. We
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  Speaker 3: paid for everything except bridesmaid dresses and groomsmen tuxedo rentals.
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  Speaker 3: We also asked my bridesmaids and his groomsmen to have
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  Speaker 3: the dresses and tuxedos as their wedding gift to us
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  Speaker 3: from them. We did not ask our parents to spend
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  Speaker 3: anything on our wedding. reception, etc., because neither of us
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  Speaker 3: have come from families of means, and it meant more
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  Speaker 3: to us to not burden them when we were extremely
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  Speaker 3: happy with a simple, low cost, compared to many weddings
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  Speaker 3: of our generation, wedding. Even the bridesmaid dresses were $ 100 each,
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  Speaker 3: and I believe, beautiful. Personally, I think I just want
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  Speaker 3: to give my bridesmaids a color. One color? Yeah, one color.
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  Speaker 3: I don't know. Maybe like a fabric. I saw this
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  Speaker 3: one girl.
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  Speaker 2: recently one of my friends from back home she got
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  Speaker 2: married and she.
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  Speaker 3: Did a bunch of different colors yeah she did like
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  Speaker 3: little pastels and it looked really cool i was like
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  Speaker 3: wait i didn't even think about different colors i like
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  Speaker 3: same dress different colors or same color different dress i
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  Speaker 3: think it would literally just be like green and then
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  Speaker 3: you could do any shade of green my friend did
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  Speaker 3: like purples and lab like lavenders and blues okay so
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  Speaker 3: like shades of like A cooler color. I feel like
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  Speaker 3: that's where I would be.
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  Speaker 1: I've been to weddings with both. So it's different colors
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  Speaker 1: and different dresses. I was like green, which is more
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  Speaker 1: like a sage because it's like a very neutral.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, like any type of green they wanted, it would
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  Speaker 3: just be like long dress, maybe this type of fabric.
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  Speaker 3: Black dress.
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  Speaker 1: But honestly, I don't even know if.
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  Speaker 3: I care about type of fabric. Anyway, I'm not my
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  Speaker 3: nature a complainer and I make a daily conscientious effort
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  Speaker 3: not to be. Raised to always be grateful for the
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  Speaker 3: things you have and not focus on what you do
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  Speaker 3: not have. So while I'm new to Reddit, I would
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  Speaker 3: like advice from you. Because I feel like asking those
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  Speaker 3: closer to the situation not only would put them in
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  Speaker 3: an uncomfortable situation, but may cause more strife. Okay, that
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  Speaker 3: all being said, here is my situation dilemma. By the way,
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  Speaker 3: this comes from LakerGirl06. com. And if you want to submit
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  Speaker 3: your own stories, go to the r slash showcase story
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  Speaker 3: time subreddit. I'm Sophia. I'm Savannah.
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  Speaker 1: I'm Keon.
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  Speaker 3: And we're here to give good advice goofily, but we
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  Speaker 3: don't have all the answers. We only know what we do.
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  Speaker 3: So let us know what you would do in the comments.
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  Speaker 3: Opie says, after our wedding, we had our reception. I
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  Speaker 3: did not realize until much later when we were to
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  Speaker 3: have photographs taken of the toast, garter taken off, first dance,
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  Speaker 3: father bride dance, etc. That we couldn't find the photographer's
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  Speaker 3: we hired later the photographer reappeared my sister also my
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  Speaker 3: matron of honor approached him and asked where he had
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  Speaker 3: been he responded that the groom's sister my now sister-in-law
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  Speaker 3: and her recent fiance had requested him in another room
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  Speaker 3: of the venue were they paying you dude Were they
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  Speaker 3: paying you? Otherwise, you don't have to listen to them. Yeah,
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  Speaker 3: this is, like, a tough situation, especially for the photographer.
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  Speaker 3: I mean, what are you supposed to do?
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  Speaker 2: It's like you're getting paid to take pictures, but then, like,
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  Speaker 2: someone pulls you aside and.
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  Speaker 3: Is like, can you take pictures of us really quick? Like,
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  Speaker 3: it'll just be one second. It'll be a second.
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  Speaker 1: What if they slid the photographer, like, this is my
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  Speaker 1: friend Benjamin.
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  Speaker 3: No, are you going to take it? This is mom. Generally,
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  Speaker 3: I think if you want to maintain your, you know,
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  Speaker 3: reputation as a wedding photographer, I would not risk that
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  Speaker 3: for people who weren't paying me.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah.
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  Speaker 3: Oh, Purple Trader Texas Roadhouse time.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah. Roadhouse.
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  Speaker 3: Roadhouse. We finished our beautiful special day slash night and
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  Speaker 3: we're so happy. My sister gave me a heads up
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  Speaker 3: about the combo between her and our photographer, but she
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  Speaker 3: didn't know why my husband's sister had asked him to
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  Speaker 3: go with her. So after a couple of weeks, we
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  Speaker 3: received our wedding proofs from the photographer. In the middle
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  Speaker 3: of the book was several pics of my sister-in-law and
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  Speaker 3: her fiancé. Hmm. So I proceeded to call our photographer
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  Speaker 3: and ask him about the many photos of them. He
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  Speaker 3: responded that my sister-in-law and her recently engaged fiance had
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  Speaker 3: requested he go with them to get separate pictures taken.
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  Speaker 3: When he suggested that he needed to stay at the reception,
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  Speaker 3: they lied to him and said my husband and I
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  Speaker 3: had told them it was our wish. I was so upset. Oh, wow. Okay,
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  Speaker 3: so he was lied to. I probably would have checked
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  Speaker 3: still with OP and husband just to make sure.
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  Speaker 2: I'd be like, hey, let me just follow up with them.
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  Speaker 2: So they literally were like, oh, no, like, they sent
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  Speaker 2: us over here. They wanted to get pictures of us specifically.
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  Speaker 2: It's like a gift to us.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, they said they wanted you over here. I don't know.
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  Speaker 2: I would still be like, hey. I'd be like, well, after,
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  Speaker 2: you know, we could take them later. But just not
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  Speaker 2: right now. I need to get the ceremony or the
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  Speaker 2: reception or.
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  Speaker 3: Wherever it is. I'm being paid for this part. Yeah. Oh, wow.
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  Speaker 3: What a B.
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  Speaker 2: What a freaking B.
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  Speaker 3: But there's more. First, we definitely did not know about
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  Speaker 3: this or say it was fine with us. Secondly, it
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  Speaker 3: made the photographer that we paid deposit, sitting fees, wedding
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  Speaker 3: ceremony and reception for not be there for us for
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  Speaker 3: the cake cutting, garter belt taken off by my husband,
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  Speaker 3: my father-daughter dance, etc. Wow.
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  Speaker 2: And those are all like really highlighted moments. Like I
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  Speaker 2: thought it was just going to be like, oh, everyone's
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  Speaker 2: just dancing. But still, you want that as well. But
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  Speaker 2: Not to get my father-daughter... Oh, that gives me chills
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  Speaker 2: because I would hate that.
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  Speaker 3: I need that. I love my dad. Are you asking
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  Speaker 3: the photographer for a refund? Like, yes, sister-in-law's fault, but
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  Speaker 3: photographer didn't do.
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  Speaker 2: I would ask my sister to pay for her photos
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  Speaker 2: and then I'd... I don't know if you can... Because
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  Speaker 2: you can't really blame the photographer. You can blame him
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  Speaker 2: a little bit.
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  Speaker 3: Didn't check in with you guys. I mean, but also, they're,
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  Speaker 3: you know, you're hosting.
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  Speaker 2: a wedding where you're, you know, everyone's coming up to
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  Speaker 2: you and doing stuff.
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  Speaker 3: It's not like the photographer is going to come and
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  Speaker 3: be like, Hey, sorry. Could I, um, excuse me. Could I, yeah. Like,
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  Speaker 3: I don't know. Dang. This is hard. We've had some
• 13:42
  Speaker 3: hard ones. We've had to think about today. So much thinking. Oh,
• 13:47
  Speaker 3: so after contemplating and allowing time to calm down and reflect,
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  Speaker 3: I'm still really upset. I did call my sister-in-law. She
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  Speaker 3: seemed very comfortable with what she and her fiancé did.
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  Speaker 3: And what that was? Having my photographer take their engagement
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  Speaker 3: pictures at my expense. Anne, in fact, was quite angry
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  Speaker 3: at me for, at minimum, for my being upset and
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  Speaker 3: for not being willing to pay for their engagement pictures.
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  Speaker 3: I definitely do not want to start my newly married
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  Speaker 3: life having problems with his family. I mean, they made problems.
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  Speaker 3: But I also know how long we work to pay
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  Speaker 3: for our own special day. and to have my husband's
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  Speaker 3: sister take advantage, corner my photographer, and then expect that
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  Speaker 3: we will pay for her engagement photos, because I'm assuming
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  Speaker 3: she just wanted the proofs, and to do heaven knows
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  Speaker 3: what with. She thought, well, you'll pay all the proofs anyway,
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  Speaker 3: and said I was being selfish for being upset about
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  Speaker 3: her photos. I realize this is a long post, but
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  Speaker 3: I'm hoping for some clarity. My family thinks it's all BS.
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  Speaker 3: His family is split, but most of his family feels
• 14:50
  Speaker 3: like we should just let it go. Are they paying? Yeah. Oh,
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  Speaker 3: are they paying?
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  Speaker 1: I love when people do that. I love when people
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  Speaker 1: do that. They're like, OK, then pay for it.
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  Speaker 3: I mean, oh, no, no, no, no, no.
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  Speaker 1: Sorry.
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  Speaker 3: I can't pay for it.
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  Speaker 1: I'll give you my two cents, but I won't actually
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  Speaker 1: give you my two cents.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah.
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  Speaker 3: Honestly, Alvin says I would ask for a separate price
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  Speaker 3: on the engagement photos. I I would specifically go to
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  Speaker 3: the photographer and say, hey. You can either say, like,
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  Speaker 3: can I have a refund? Or you can say, hey,
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  Speaker 3: I didn't ask you to do that. I understand. Again,
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  Speaker 3: I understand. Tricked. Can I pay for the photos that
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  Speaker 3: I asked you for and not get the ones that
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  Speaker 3: the engagement... I don't even want the engagement photo proofs. Like,
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  Speaker 3: don't even give them to me.
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  Speaker 1: You can charge them separately to my sister.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, I'll give you my sister's contact. And then sister
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  Speaker 3: can be like, well, where are the photos? And you're like, oh, well...
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  Speaker 3: They weren't at my wedding.
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  Speaker 1: You have to pay for it.
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  Speaker 3: I didn't pay for them. Yeah, that's true.
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  Speaker 2: I wouldn't even give her the photos. Yeah, don't give
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  Speaker 2: her the photos.
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  Speaker 3: What? Regardless of whether or not you get all the
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  Speaker 3: photos or not, don't give them her. Please help me
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  Speaker 3: out here. Am I being out of line? Should I
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  Speaker 3: just pay for the engagement photos and let it go?
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  Speaker 1: No.
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  Speaker 3: No. Update. Woo. So a couple of weeks ago, my
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  Speaker 3: husband and I met with my sister-in-law and her fiance
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  Speaker 3: for dinner. I wanted to meet in a public place
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  Speaker 3: to try and minimize the level of what may take place.
• 16:14
  Speaker 3: The evening started out tense but civil. Eventually, I brought
• 16:18
  Speaker 3: up the photos. She rolled her eyes and said, You're
• 16:21
  Speaker 3: not bringing that up again, are you? I told her
• 16:23
  Speaker 3: I was. I began trying to explain how much what
• 16:26
  Speaker 3: she did hurt me and how hurt and sad I
• 16:30
  Speaker 3: was that we missed having photographs taken of special important
• 16:33
  Speaker 3: moments and memories because of her actions. She scoffed at
• 16:37
  Speaker 3: what I was saying and said, OMG, get over it.
• 16:40
  Speaker 3: Then my husband stood up and angrily said to her,
• 16:43
  Speaker 3: I'm so sick and tired of you being such a
• 16:45
  Speaker 3: witch to everyone. And as soon as anyone calls you
• 16:48
  Speaker 3: out on your crap, you turn it around and make
• 16:50
  Speaker 3: it like you're the victim. It's sad that you can
• 16:53
  Speaker 3: be so nasty. He told me, come on, let's go.
• 16:58
  Speaker 3: I said I'd be right there, hoping I could salvage
• 17:00
  Speaker 3: a little of this. We've got a little bit left
• 17:02
  Speaker 3: to the story. Any final thoughts? I would go low
• 17:06
  Speaker 3: contact with sister-in-law.
• 17:08
  Speaker 2: Yeah. I'd be like, screw you, girl. You actually, like,
• 17:12
  Speaker 2: you ruined some of my wedding. And we can't even, like,
• 17:15
  Speaker 2: I'm sure people may have gotten, like, amateur pictures, like,
• 17:17
  Speaker 2: on their phone or something like that or maybe, like,
• 17:19
  Speaker 2: a video. But, like, we paid someone to get those,
• 17:22
  Speaker 2: to have these professional memories so we can look over
• 17:25
  Speaker 2: them and be like, oh, remember this? You know, like,
• 17:28
  Speaker 2: these are cherished memories that I will never get now.
• 17:31
  Speaker 2: So thanks for ruining that.
• 17:32
  Speaker 3: Thanks. No, I wouldn't be. yeah I'd be so upset
• 17:35
  Speaker 3: if I hired a photographer and didn't get any photographs
• 17:40
  Speaker 3: for my wedding or not any but you know a
• 17:43
  Speaker 3: big chunk she turned to me and yelled are you
• 17:46
  Speaker 3: satisfied look at what you've done I hope you're happy
• 17:49
  Speaker 3: we gotta regret this I wanted to say something back
• 17:53
  Speaker 3: but I knew from the lump in my throat that
• 17:55
  Speaker 3: if I stayed one second longer I would start crying
• 17:58
  Speaker 3: ooh yes I'm a crier me too girl I left
• 18:02
  Speaker 3: as quickly as I could My husband had paid for
• 18:04
  Speaker 3: our meal anyway. I cried all the way home. We
• 18:08
  Speaker 3: didn't talk about it and haven't talked about it since.
• 18:11
  Speaker 3: He did, however, get a check in the mail from her.
• 18:13
  Speaker 3: I think it cleared. With holidays coming up, I'm at
• 18:16
  Speaker 3: level 100 with anxiety. My husband doesn't want to go
• 18:20
  Speaker 3: to his family's Thanksgiving, but I'm trying to change his mind.
• 18:23
  Speaker 3: Because although she's not speaking to us, I don't want
• 18:26
  Speaker 3: to miss our Thanksgiving with his family or to make
• 18:29
  Speaker 3: this whole thing bigger than it already is. And that
• 18:32
  Speaker 3: is the end of that story. It is not you
• 18:36
  Speaker 3: making a deal about anything. No. It's all her.
• 18:40
  Speaker 2: Anyone in your position would make a huge deal about
• 18:43
  Speaker 2: this because you paid to have something done and it
• 18:46
  Speaker 2: wasn't done because of your sister.
• 18:48
  Speaker 3: Well, sister-in-law. But still, like, what is your issue? Like,
• 18:51
  Speaker 3: what is your problem? Like, how dare you do that?
• 18:53
  Speaker 3: It's pretty straightforward. Why?
• 18:56
  Speaker 2: This is like never happened to me, but. I like
• 18:59
  Speaker 2: keep getting chills from like being angry.
• 19:01
  Speaker 1: This has never happened to you. You've never had a wedding.
• 19:05
  Speaker 3: I've never had a wedding. I don't know what this means.
• 19:08
  Speaker 1: And that's the end of this story. We're going to
• 19:10
  Speaker 1: go on to the next one.
• 19:12
  Speaker 2: My sister-in-law exploited my husband for her wedding. Then threw
• 19:17
  Speaker 2: us out after she got married.
• 19:19
  Speaker 3: Make up your mind.
• 19:20
  Speaker 2: My husband's brother was getting married. Husband is 38. Brother
• 19:24
  Speaker 2: is 34.
• 19:25
  Speaker 3: They asked him to be best man. He accepted.
• 19:29
  Speaker 2: The fiancé, 33, female, asked me to be a bridesmaid
• 19:33
  Speaker 2: and to make the wedding cake and desserts, and I
• 19:35
  Speaker 2: respectfully turned those down, citing my pain, disabilities, and physical
• 19:40
  Speaker 2: limitations that I've been dealing with lately. I haven't been
• 19:43
  Speaker 2: able to work for over a year now. They understood
• 19:45
  Speaker 2: and were accepting. They asked husband to do many things,
• 19:49
  Speaker 2: design and handcrafts. the invites fiance turned into a bridezilla
• 19:53
  Speaker 2: over this one by itself smooth out massive vinyl decals
• 19:58
  Speaker 2: on top of huge wooden cornhole boards very labor intensive
• 20:02
  Speaker 2: and hubby has a horrible back because he broke it
• 20:04
  Speaker 2: in a serious car accident years ago video the wedding,
• 20:08
  Speaker 2: take bridal portraits, etc. I mean, are you paying him?
• 20:12
  Speaker 3: Or is this just all, like, he's supposed to be.
• 20:13
  Speaker 1: This is all in good faith and all in good favor?
• 20:15
  Speaker 3: He's like, well, could I just, could I have this?
• 20:17
  Speaker 3: Could you give me all of this?
• 20:19
  Speaker 2: That is so much responsibility for one person to do.
• 20:21
  Speaker 2: That's why, like, you know, they say it takes a
• 20:24
  Speaker 2: village to raise a child. It takes a village to
• 20:27
  Speaker 2: plan a wedding as well.
• 20:28
  Speaker 3: For real. For real.
• 20:30
  Speaker 2: Despite being adamant that he couldn't apply the cornhole decals
• 20:34
  Speaker 2: any better than they could, the next weekly dinner... There
• 20:37
  Speaker 2: they were, waiting for hubby to apply them. He did,
• 20:41
  Speaker 2: as they watched. Husband turned down the bridal portraits. And
• 20:45
  Speaker 2: then the last request, they asked him to drive them
• 20:47
  Speaker 2: to the airport, two hour drive one way, the following
• 20:51
  Speaker 2: 3 a.m. after partying and pick them up later in
• 20:54
  Speaker 2: the week after working a full week and being exhausted.
• 20:57
  Speaker 2: I was genuinely concerned for his safety, having not slept
• 21:01
  Speaker 2: much and having to drive.
• 21:02
  Speaker 3: At least four hours on top of that.
• 21:04
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• 21:08
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• 21:09
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• 21:11
  Speaker 3: I'm Savannah. I'm Sophia.
• 21:13
  Speaker 1: I'm Keon.
• 21:14
  Speaker 2: And we're here to give some good advice in a
• 21:16
  Speaker 2: little goofy way, but we don't have all your answers.
• 21:18
  Speaker 2: We'd only tell you what we would do. Let us
• 21:21
  Speaker 2: know what you would do down in the comments. As
• 21:23
  Speaker 2: Opie says, I expressed my concern. Husband voiced it to
• 21:28
  Speaker 2: his brother. The other couple kept pushing hubby to do it,
• 21:30
  Speaker 2: stating that they'd be choice-ted. and unable to drive, or
• 21:35
  Speaker 2: claiming they didn't want to park at the airport and
• 21:37
  Speaker 2: let her car get vandalized. Not a new or fancy car,
• 21:41
  Speaker 2: and vandalism isn't at all common at this airport. Husband
• 21:46
  Speaker 2: stayed firm. I explained how it felt like he was
• 21:49
  Speaker 2: being taken advantage of, that they were asking a lot
• 21:52
  Speaker 2: of him, even if he was best man.
• 21:55
  Speaker 3: Anyways... They found someone else to drive them. Good. Okay.
• 21:58
  Speaker 3: That's one less thing. Yeah. But too bad you still
• 22:01
  Speaker 3: have five. The list still goes on.
• 22:03
  Speaker 2: Yeah. You still have those 15 other things on the
• 22:06
  Speaker 2: back burner. So, and also you have to redo the
• 22:09
  Speaker 2: vinyl on the decal because that didn't work.
• 22:11
  Speaker 3: Oh man. Oh man.
• 22:16
  Speaker 2: Yesterday afternoon, I was feeling bad that I hadn't done
• 22:19
  Speaker 2: much to help them with their wedding. So I reached
• 22:22
  Speaker 2: out to the bride and said, Hey, I wanted to
• 22:24
  Speaker 2: sincerely apologize for things. Working through my own issues seems never-ending,
• 22:28
  Speaker 2: and there appears to always be new learning curves. Let
• 22:32
  Speaker 2: me know if there are any last-minute winning details or
• 22:35
  Speaker 2: anything that I can help with. If there was any
• 22:38
  Speaker 2: tension from the airport discussion, I hope to smooth it out,
• 22:42
  Speaker 2: take full blame since we'd clearly grown up differently, and
• 22:45
  Speaker 2: just offer an olive branch. Last night, we were supposed
• 22:49
  Speaker 2: to go to the pre-wedding dinner. It was going to
• 22:51
  Speaker 2: be about ten of us. Bride responded, I would have
• 22:54
  Speaker 2: rather you not apologized at all than to give me
• 22:57
  Speaker 2: an insincere backhanded apology.
• 23:00
  Speaker 1: Oh.
• 23:01
  Speaker 3: Okay.
• 23:02
  Speaker 2: And the brother called husband and informed him that I
• 23:05
  Speaker 2: wasn't allowed to be at the dinner and that my.
• 23:07
  Speaker 3: Invite had been pulled from the wedding.
• 23:09
  Speaker 2: What?
• 23:10
  Speaker 3: Well, okay. All right, then. I guess that's that.
• 23:14
  Speaker 1: I guess who's going to be doing the rest of
• 23:16
  Speaker 1: the crap?
• 23:17
  Speaker 3: Yeah, it's like, oh, I'm uninvited. I guess I'm not
• 23:19
  Speaker 3: helping you anymore.
• 23:21
  Speaker 2: No, OP isn't uninvited, but the husband is still best man.
• 23:25
  Speaker 1: He's not doing anything.
• 23:27
  Speaker 3: Are you kidding me? You think he's going to drop out?
• 23:30
  Speaker 3: I would. If my partner was uninvited, even if I
• 23:34
  Speaker 3: was made of honor somewhere, and let's say you're made
• 23:38
  Speaker 3: of honor, and you're like, Your boyfriend is uninvited. I'd
• 23:41
  Speaker 3: be like, okay, well, I'm not coming. Yeah, then I'm
• 23:44
  Speaker 3: not going then. Especially for petty reasons like this. Yeah, yeah.
• 23:47
  Speaker 2: If it was because, like, maybe they didn't have enough
• 23:49
  Speaker 2: room or something.
• 23:50
  Speaker 3: Yeah, different. You know, yeah. Like, a respectable reason.
• 23:53
  Speaker 1: It was like, you know, from the communicated at the beginning.
• 23:56
  Speaker 1: But Opie was invited already. Stupid. This is stupid.
• 24:00
  Speaker 2: We were totally stunned. Completely last minute.
• 24:03
  Speaker 3: Literally.
• 24:04
  Speaker 2: Hubby explained that he wouldn't be attending the dinner. Brother
• 24:07
  Speaker 2: said he would try to talk with bride to get
• 24:09
  Speaker 2: her to change her mind about not allowing me at
• 24:11
  Speaker 2: the wedding.
• 24:12
  Speaker 3: Any advice, please? Go get a massage. Go get a massage.
• 24:20
  Speaker 3: Take your husband out to get massages. Can we just
• 24:23
  Speaker 3: have massages? I want a massage. I'm done. I just
• 24:28
  Speaker 3: really would, like, I'm not going. I'm not going. My
• 24:31
  Speaker 3: husband's not going. We're going to get a massage. I
• 24:34
  Speaker 3: would just be like, listen, guys, you don't, You don't
• 24:37
  Speaker 3: care about us. No.
• 24:39
  Speaker 2: You obviously don't care. So we're just going to pull
• 24:42
  Speaker 2: ourselves out. We're going to pull ourselves out. So have
• 24:44
  Speaker 2: fun with it. You know, good luck in the future.
• 24:48
  Speaker 3: But also screw you. There's an update here.
• 24:50
  Speaker 2: The next morning, hubby changed the batteries to the cameras
• 24:54
  Speaker 2: to prep for recording. Brother called and said that I
• 24:58
  Speaker 2: could come to the wedding. Even if she wasn't happy
• 25:01
  Speaker 2: with me for whatever unknown reason, at least we had
• 25:03
  Speaker 2: a chance to enjoy the night and be there for
• 25:06
  Speaker 2: the brother and relatives who drove so far to visit.
• 25:09
  Speaker 2: Not two minutes later, Bridezilla sent me a text saying
• 25:14
  Speaker 2: how she told me she'd informed her brother I could come,
• 25:17
  Speaker 2: but really preferred I didn't, and that it would take
• 25:20
  Speaker 2: time to rebuild trust.
• 25:21
  Speaker 1: Well, the clock's ticking. The wedding's happening real soon.
• 25:25
  Speaker 3: It's right around the corner. Okay, bye. Wait, so she's
• 25:29
  Speaker 3: saying now, the person's saying now, oh, well, okay, maybe
• 25:32
  Speaker 3: you can come to the wedding? She was like, well.
• 25:34
  Speaker 1: She's not happy about it.
• 25:35
  Speaker 2: Yeah, she said, well, I told my husband to tell
• 25:41
  Speaker 2: your husband that you can come, but I still, like,
• 25:46
  Speaker 2: really don't want you to be there.
• 25:47
  Speaker 1: I'm doing it for my future husband.
• 25:48
  Speaker 3: Yeah, I told my husband you can come, but I
• 25:50
  Speaker 3: still don't like you, so it'd be better if you didn't. Yeah,
• 25:54
  Speaker 3: she's like, I don't want you there, but, I mean,
• 25:56
  Speaker 3: I guess you're still invited. I guess you can... If
• 25:59
  Speaker 3: you really must.
• 26:00
  Speaker 2: I love being invited slash uninvited at the same time.
• 26:05
  Speaker 3: I think I'm going to stick this one out and
• 26:07
  Speaker 3: get my massage.
• 26:09
  Speaker 2: She warned that while she couldn't control her hot-tempered family
• 26:12
  Speaker 2: who likes to fight, she really didn't want anyone to
• 26:16
  Speaker 2: go to jail today.
• 26:17
  Speaker 1: What the.
• 26:19
  Speaker 3: F- What? I didn't know that was on the table.
• 26:22
  Speaker 3: Is that a threat? I didn't know jail was on
• 26:24
  Speaker 3: the table. Is that a freaking threat? She's like, I
• 26:27
  Speaker 3: don't want anyone to- I don't want anyone to have
• 26:31
  Speaker 3: an accident. You're like, what? That's crazy. She said, well,
• 26:38
  Speaker 3: I just can't guarantee your safety if you come.
• 26:40
  Speaker 1: Screenshot that. You just screenshot that.
• 26:42
  Speaker 3: Yeah. And if anything happens, you know it's that girl.
• 26:45
  Speaker 3: And you say, what do you... Sorry, what do you
• 26:47
  Speaker 3: mean by that? I think you just literally said, what
• 26:49
  Speaker 3: do you mean by that?
• 26:50
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 26:51
  Speaker 1: Is that a threat?
• 26:51
  Speaker 3: Excuse me?
• 26:52
  Speaker 1: No, no, no.
• 26:52
  Speaker 3: Don't even say it's not a threat because I feel
• 26:54
  Speaker 3: like that'll be like... You just say, what do you
• 26:56
  Speaker 3: mean by that?
• 26:57
  Speaker 1: No, yeah, just act like you're dumb.
• 26:59
  Speaker 3: Yeah, I don't actually know what that means.
• 27:01
  Speaker 1: Go into full detail.
• 27:03
  Speaker 3: Explain.
• 27:04
  Speaker 2: She told me to stop using mental health as a shield.
• 27:07
  Speaker 2: Claimed that as a therapist, she saw through it.
• 27:10
  Speaker 1: She's a therapist?
• 27:11
  Speaker 3: Oh, God. Bad one. Who is going to hurt? I
• 27:14
  Speaker 3: feel so bad.
• 27:15
  Speaker 2: And said she didn't think I had OCD, but rather
• 27:18
  Speaker 2: borderline personality disorder.
• 27:20
  Speaker 3: Okay, way to diagnose me.
• 27:22
  Speaker 2: She closed by saying that since hubby was about to
• 27:25
  Speaker 2: be her brother and she'd hurt people over family, I
• 27:30
  Speaker 2: should treat him better and it would improve my life too.
• 27:33
  Speaker 1: Again, what are these threats?
• 27:36
  Speaker 3: Again, like, what?
• 27:38
  Speaker 2: But what I heard was at least two threats, one
• 27:42
  Speaker 2: of her family and one from her. So hubby reached
• 27:45
  Speaker 2: out to brother, then met up with him. Brother was
• 27:48
  Speaker 2: unaware that bride sent that text and seemed unable to
• 27:51
  Speaker 2: calm her down. Hubby stepped down from best man.
• 27:54
  Speaker 3: Good.
• 27:55
  Speaker 2: We agreed to go and he offered to look out
• 27:57
  Speaker 2: for my safety.
• 27:58
  Speaker 3: I wouldn't even go. I'd be like, why are we
• 28:01
  Speaker 3: going if you feel the need to look out for
• 28:05
  Speaker 3: your safety? If I feel so threatened that I'm worried
• 28:12
  Speaker 3: about my safety somewhere, my boyfriend's not going to be like, hey,
• 28:16
  Speaker 3: let's go. Let's go. I'm good. Actually, let's go. We're
• 28:21
  Speaker 3: not going to do that anymore.
• 28:23
  Speaker 2: Hubby opted to leave the cameras at home, but still
• 28:26
  Speaker 2: agreed to walk Mom down the aisle and to do
• 28:29
  Speaker 2: the best man's speech that he'd worked hard on. We
• 28:33
  Speaker 2: got dressed up and showed up for the ceremony. Hubby
• 28:35
  Speaker 2: walked Mom down the aisle, then came and sat with me.
• 28:38
  Speaker 2: For family wedding pictures, Hubby was in a total of two.
• 28:42
  Speaker 2: One with Mom and brother, and one with Mom and
• 28:46
  Speaker 2: brother holding a picture of his late father. We socialized
• 28:49
  Speaker 2: with family that traveled from far away, whom we never see,
• 28:52
  Speaker 2: and acted totally happy and normal, sweeping issues under the
• 28:55
  Speaker 2: rug to try and enjoy their evening.
• 28:58
  Speaker 3: Well, bride was pissed.
• 29:00
  Speaker 2: So much so that brother came over to us and
• 29:03
  Speaker 2: said she was livid we were there and stated that
• 29:06
  Speaker 2: hubby and I had to leave.
• 29:08
  Speaker 3: Oh, brother.
• 29:09
  Speaker 1: I go, who's going to make me?
• 29:11
  Speaker 3: This guy stinks. I'd be like, well, I'm taking a
• 29:13
  Speaker 3: piece of cake on the way out. What are you
• 29:16
  Speaker 3: going to do about it? Nothing! Smack! I brought a
• 29:20
  Speaker 3: shovel to the wedding. We walked over to mom.
• 29:23
  Speaker 2: Gave her a hug, let her know we were being
• 29:26
  Speaker 2: kicked out, and you just saw her face sink. Straight
• 29:30
  Speaker 2: disbelief and disappointment. The aunts and uncles, who had driven
• 29:34
  Speaker 2: from far, were confused as to why we were leaving,
• 29:37
  Speaker 2: so we had to gently explain that it wasn't our choice.
• 29:40
  Speaker 2: that the bride had a problem with us being there.
• 29:42
  Speaker 2: Some of his extended family said we should have stayed,
• 29:45
  Speaker 2: but with the threats that had already been made, we
• 29:48
  Speaker 2: weren't looking for an issue.
• 29:49
  Speaker 1: You'll have witnesses.
• 29:52
  Speaker 2: Yeah, but I also am afraid for my safety.
• 29:57
  Speaker 3: I'm leaving. We left.
• 29:59
  Speaker 2: Hubby sent a text to mom and brother that said,
• 30:02
  Speaker 2: first act as wife was to punt your brother out
• 30:06
  Speaker 2: of the wedding. I've never in my life heard of
• 30:10
  Speaker 2: such a thing. Dad would have been so embarrassed. What's
• 30:14
  Speaker 2: worst is she engaged before brother to Adam. They moved
• 30:19
  Speaker 2: in together, 3-2020, and then Adam passed away in 12-2020.
• 30:25
  Speaker 2: She wrote the obituary claiming to be his wife, And
• 30:27
  Speaker 2: she used to brag about how there are YouTube conspiracy
• 30:31
  Speaker 2: theories about people believing that she unalived her ex.
• 30:34
  Speaker 1: Wait, what?
• 30:35
  Speaker 3: Wait, what? Sorry, what?
• 30:38
  Speaker 2: So, basically, the bride, Bridezilla here, was supposed to be married.
• 30:45
  Speaker 3: Like, she was engaged earlier.
• 30:47
  Speaker 2: Like last year, from March 2020, and then was going
• 30:52
  Speaker 2: to get married, but then her fiancé passed away.
• 30:56
  Speaker 3: In December of 2020. Oh, and now she's getting.
• 30:58
  Speaker 2: And there's a conspiracy theory online that's like, oh, she
• 31:02
  Speaker 2: unaligned her husband.
• 31:05
  Speaker 3: How do people know about her? I don't know. But
• 31:07
  Speaker 3: she was bragging and saying that there was YouTube videos
• 31:10
  Speaker 3: about it. Somebody looked that up? YouTube videos about a
• 31:12
  Speaker 3: random person. Is she effing Carole Baskin? Is she? She's like,
• 31:21
  Speaker 3: you know, I can't guarantee your safety. The Tigers might just... Gotcha.
• 31:27
  Speaker 2: Yeah, this has just gone to like, you know, okay,
• 31:31
  Speaker 2: a little disagreement.
• 31:33
  Speaker 3: Then it's gone into threats.
• 31:35
  Speaker 2: Now it's gone into conspiracy theories.
• 31:38
  Speaker 4: You come to me on the day of my wedding.
• 31:41
  Speaker 4: You don't do what I ask you. You're going to
• 31:44
  Speaker 4: be sleeping.
• 31:45
  Speaker 3: With the fish.
• 31:46
  Speaker 1: You'll be sleeping where Adam's sleeping.
• 31:47
  Speaker 4: You're going to be sleeping where Adam's sleeping.
• 31:49
  Speaker 3: Which is?
• 31:49
  Speaker 4: Which has never been proven. It's never been proven. You
• 31:53
  Speaker 4: don't know how to ask me to prove it. I've
• 31:55
  Speaker 4: never done anything wrong. No ties to me.
• 31:59
  Speaker 2: This chick is a mental health counselor. She is a therapist.
• 32:04
  Speaker 3: The perfect alibi.
• 32:05
  Speaker 2: How do we as a family move forward with weekly
• 32:09
  Speaker 2: dinners at mom's or holidays? This seems beyond repair and
• 32:13
  Speaker 2: they literally got married not even.
• 32:15
  Speaker 3: Four hours ago.
• 32:16
  Speaker 2: What? Mom spent their honeymoon worried that sister-in-law would throw
• 32:21
  Speaker 2: brother-in-law overboard.
• 32:22
  Speaker 1: Okay.
• 32:25
  Speaker 3: This is kind of crazy. Do we know where they are? No.
• 32:28
  Speaker 2: Mom heard our concerns and understood that I was leaning
• 32:31
  Speaker 2: towards reporting her for ethical misconduct, feeling that she should
• 32:35
  Speaker 2: not be in such a position with highly vulnerable people
• 32:38
  Speaker 2: underneath her. I had discussed getting a restraining slash no
• 32:42
  Speaker 2: contact order, but that's a frustrating process in my state,
• 32:45
  Speaker 2: so I've been leaning against it. Mom understood and agreed.
• 32:49
  Speaker 2: Hubby demanded to speak to brother the day after they got.
• 32:52
  Speaker 3: Back from their honeymoon.
• 32:54
  Speaker 2: Brother-in-law was a particular level of dense. Everything hubby said,
• 32:59
  Speaker 2: brother-in-law would spin around and it honestly sounded like gibberish
• 33:03
  Speaker 2: straight from sister-in-law's mouth. Brother-in-law was adamant that if hubby
• 33:08
  Speaker 2: was still the best man, we would have been permitted
• 33:10
  Speaker 2: to stay at the wedding.
• 33:12
  Speaker 3: We know that's BS.
• 33:13
  Speaker 2: Yeah, because they literally, he was the best man at
• 33:15
  Speaker 2: first and OP still wasn't invited.
• 33:20
  Speaker 3: So I've been looking up Possible therapist that could have
• 33:25
  Speaker 3: unalived their husband. I have yet to find any leads.
• 33:28
  Speaker 2: The day after, hubby sat down with brother-in-law and sister-in-law together.
• 33:32
  Speaker 3: Uh-oh.
• 33:33
  Speaker 2: That was another whole bag of dense craziness. Sister-in-law's first
• 33:39
  Speaker 2: thing was, I stand by my text. I don't regret
• 33:42
  Speaker 2: a single thing in there.
• 33:43
  Speaker 4: I stand by my text.
• 33:46
  Speaker 3: I don't regret a single thing.
• 33:49
  Speaker 4: You can't prove I regret anything.
• 33:51
  Speaker 3: Hubby.
• 33:52
  Speaker 2: laced into her. She began screaming and physically lunging at Hubby.
• 33:59
  Speaker 2: Brother is an officer of sorts and had to actually
• 34:02
  Speaker 2: tackle her and sit on her at times in order
• 34:05
  Speaker 2: to restrain her.
• 34:06
  Speaker 1: Just sitting on her just looks like.
• 34:08
  Speaker 3: A funny picture.
• 34:08
  Speaker 2: Stop.
• 34:09
  Speaker 3: Stop it. I'm sitting on you. Stop. Stop.
• 34:12
  Speaker 1: You're being restrained.
• 34:14
  Speaker 2: Hubby said to Brother, this is who you chose to marry?
• 34:18
  Speaker 3: These behaviors are acceptable to you?
• 34:22
  Speaker 2: She explained to the family, me not present, that her
• 34:25
  Speaker 2: text was not one of threats, that the perceived threats
• 34:30
  Speaker 2: were warnings.
• 34:31
  Speaker 1: You know what that is. That's still a threat.
• 34:33
  Speaker 3: I never threaten anyone. I warn them.
• 34:35
  Speaker 2: What's the difference between a threat and a warning?
• 34:38
  Speaker 3: Warning is usually like, you're not. Hey, don't do that. Hey,
• 34:41
  Speaker 3: don't do that. Don't do that. Someone else is going
• 34:43
  Speaker 3: to hurt you. Or like, you will get hurt if
• 34:46
  Speaker 3: you do that. A threat is like, I'm going to
• 34:49
  Speaker 3: get you. The family bought it.
• 34:52
  Speaker 2: She also said the diagnosis were meant to be helpful
• 34:55
  Speaker 2: and eventually said she should have worded that part differently.
• 34:59
  Speaker 2: Sister-in-law absolutely lost it knowing she should be reported for
• 35:03
  Speaker 2: her ethical misconduct. She went on a tangent about how
• 35:07
  Speaker 2: she's worked for everything she has, how that would look
• 35:11
  Speaker 2: really bad on her record, and all hubby replied with was,
• 35:16
  Speaker 2: if you stand by your text as you say you do.
• 35:18
  Speaker 2: and that your text was only filled with warnings and
• 35:21
  Speaker 2: helpful remarks, then you should have nothing to be concerned
• 35:24
  Speaker 2: about if it did get reported. Yeah, a warning is like, hey,
• 35:28
  Speaker 2: watch out, that stove is hot.
• 35:30
  Speaker 3: A threat is like, hey, watch out, I'm going to
• 35:34
  Speaker 3: put your hand on that hot stove. Watch out.
• 35:37
  Speaker 2: I feel like a warning is like you're concerned for
• 35:39
  Speaker 2: their safety, and the other one is like I am
• 35:42
  Speaker 2: threatening your safety.
• 35:43
  Speaker 3: You better watch out. Oh, wait, here. You better not cry.
• 35:46
  Speaker 1: Ow.
• 35:47
  Speaker 3: Yeah, it kind of hurts.
• 35:49
  Speaker 2: Sister-in-law and brother-in-law started turning things around, and one of
• 35:52
  Speaker 2: the many things included that my reasonable response to submit
• 35:56
  Speaker 2: unethical claims against her was a direct threat against family.
• 36:01
  Speaker 2: About an hour into the convo, sister-in-law sobbed herself out
• 36:05
  Speaker 2: to the car, where she chain-smoked for another hour.
• 36:09
  Speaker 3: Girlie Pop, what? Who is this woman? I hate it
• 36:13
  Speaker 3: in here.
• 36:13
  Speaker 4: I hate it in here.
• 36:17
  Speaker 3: Ah, I just need to take a little load off.
• 36:19
  Speaker 3: It's too stressful.
• 36:22
  Speaker 2: Brother asked hubby what sister-in-law could say to get them
• 36:24
  Speaker 2: moving towards some form of resolution. Hubby said her taking
• 36:29
  Speaker 2: responsibility for sending that text would be a starting point.
• 36:33
  Speaker 2: Of course, brother-in-law went out to the car, eventually came
• 36:36
  Speaker 2: back with her, where she parroted back what hubby wanted
• 36:39
  Speaker 2: to hear.
• 36:40
  Speaker 3: None of it was sincere.
• 36:42
  Speaker 2: Hubby decided to call mom that night. Towards the end
• 36:45
  Speaker 2: of the conversation, she voiced, And get rid of that paperwork!
• 36:50
  Speaker 2: Talking about the paperwork to report sister-in-law acting unethically.
• 36:54
  Speaker 4: Don't call her out for that.
• 36:57
  Speaker 2: Monday morning, I decided that a way to keep a
• 37:01
  Speaker 2: door open for potential resolutions would be to drop a contract.
• 37:05
  Speaker 2: Knowing that sister-in-law is so heck-bent on not wanting to
• 37:09
  Speaker 2: be reported, so that she has mom supporting that.
• 37:13
  Speaker 3: I felt this was a solid option.
• 37:15
  Speaker 2: The contract basically outlined that she had to take responsibility
• 37:18
  Speaker 2: for her actions, that her actions were malicious and caused harm,
• 37:22
  Speaker 2: that with her threats, she had forfeited her right to
• 37:25
  Speaker 2: be at family gatherings where I am in attendance, that
• 37:28
  Speaker 2: she and her family will not contact me or show
• 37:30
  Speaker 2: up at my house, and that so long as it
• 37:33
  Speaker 2: was upheld, I would follow through with her desire to.
• 37:35
  Speaker 3: Not be reported.
• 37:37
  Speaker 2: Facebook's People You May Know section had sister-in-law's cousin as
• 37:41
  Speaker 2: the first one on the list. which typically means the
• 37:43
  Speaker 2: person was searching me, especially since the cousin and I
• 37:46
  Speaker 2: have zero friends in common. Wait, is that.
• 37:49
  Speaker 3: How that does that? I don't know.
• 37:51
  Speaker 2: Here it is, nine days later, the day after the
• 37:54
  Speaker 2: threat of reporting, and the cousin was suddenly showing up.
• 37:58
  Speaker 3: Didn't like that.
• 37:59
  Speaker 2: Hubby felt bad that he had been occupied with this
• 38:02
  Speaker 2: nonsense all weekend, so he asked to take me out
• 38:05
  Speaker 2: on a date night, and we invited Mom.
• 38:08
  Speaker 3: That's not a date night!
• 38:10
  Speaker 2: I told hubby about the contract and the cousin showing up.
• 38:13
  Speaker 2: He informed me that the cousin had many felonies and
• 38:16
  Speaker 2: looked her up.
• 38:17
  Speaker 3: Oh my.
• 38:18
  Speaker 2: So she's not lying how she didn't want to be
• 38:21
  Speaker 2: like taken to jail.
• 38:22
  Speaker 3: She's like, please don't report me. I will be sentenced
• 38:27
  Speaker 3: to prison. I am on the run. If you report me,
• 38:32
  Speaker 3: the police will find out that I've been living under
• 38:34
  Speaker 3: a false identity for ten years.
• 38:36
  Speaker 2: This girl has two young children that she had no
• 38:39
  Speaker 2: custody over, and she's been arrested multiple times for breaking
• 38:42
  Speaker 2: and entering, fighting, theft, stealing a firearm, and a few
• 38:47
  Speaker 2: other things.
• 38:48
  Speaker 1: This is a therapist, by the way.
• 38:50
  Speaker 3: No, this is the therapist's cousin. So, check again. So, actually,
• 38:55
  Speaker 3: you're wrong?
• 38:55
  Speaker 1: Maybe she's also a therapist.
• 38:57
  Speaker 3: Maybe they're all therapists. At the end of the day,
• 38:58
  Speaker 3: aren't we all therapists? If you're really thinking about it.
• 39:02
  Speaker 2: She had actually been arrested four days earlier for punching
• 39:04
  Speaker 2: and fighting another girl at the girl's apartment.
• 39:08
  Speaker 3: So four days ago she was arrested. She's misunderstood. And
• 39:11
  Speaker 3: now she's out now. She's just misunderstood. You don't get
• 39:14
  Speaker 3: her like I do. You know what? She mad too.
• 39:18
  Speaker 1: She mad.
• 39:18
  Speaker 3: She's just mad too.
• 39:20
  Speaker 2: That same night, feeling even more threatened by how loose
• 39:23
  Speaker 2: of a cannon the cousin is, hubby sent a text
• 39:26
  Speaker 2: to his brother letting him know that sister-in-law can stop
• 39:29
  Speaker 2: stressing about being reprimanded that we drew up a very
• 39:31
  Speaker 2: reasonable contract, and he really hoped to just put her
• 39:34
  Speaker 2: mind at ease so maybe her family would lay off me.
• 39:37
  Speaker 3: Tuesday, mom had her scheduled art class with sister-in-law.
• 39:42
  Speaker 2: Huh?
• 39:43
  Speaker 3: It's art therapy class. Okay, cool. No, I'm just joking.
• 39:47
  Speaker 3: I was like, did I miss that? I'm just joking.
• 39:51
  Speaker 2: After class, my mom called hubby and said she wanted
• 39:54
  Speaker 2: to speak with us the following afternoon. Wednesday, hubby got
• 39:57
  Speaker 2: out of work, picked me up, and we went over.
• 40:01
  Speaker 2: She was waiting in the driveway with a letter folded up.
• 40:04
  Speaker 2: She refused to speak to us, wouldn't let us in,
• 40:06
  Speaker 2: handed it over, and told us to leave.
• 40:08
  Speaker 3: Uh-oh. What do you think the letter is? This is
• 40:12
  Speaker 3: so mafia. She just made it in her art class.
• 40:16
  Speaker 3: She said, here you go. Take that letter.
• 40:18
  Speaker 2: Maybe it's a sorry letter that she made in her
• 40:20
  Speaker 2: art class. Guys, we're being too.
• 40:22
  Speaker 3: Hard on her. Okay, so inside the letter, I see you.
• 40:26
  Speaker 3: It's a macaroni necklace. There's a piece of paper that
• 40:32
  Speaker 3: is a bunch of magazine cuttings. And it says, you
• 40:38
  Speaker 3: messed with the wrong lady. I'm crazy. I'm coming after you.
• 40:45
  Speaker 3: They'll never believe it was me. P.S. This is your sister-in-law, Kathy. P.P.S.
• 40:55
  Speaker 3: This is not a threat. This is a warning. This
• 40:57
  Speaker 3: is a warning. When I said coming after you, I
• 41:01
  Speaker 3: meant coming... Later, I'm coming after you. You're going first,
• 41:05
  Speaker 3: and then I'm coming after you. Legally, I had to
• 41:10
  Speaker 3: say that. PPS, this is a threat.
• 41:14
  Speaker 2: The letter stated that the wedding should have been the
• 41:17
  Speaker 2: happiest day of brother-in-law and sister-in-law's lives. That I've ignored
• 41:21
  Speaker 2: her twice never happened. That talk of the contract is
• 41:25
  Speaker 2: absolutely not going to happen. That sister-in-law's family doesn't care
• 41:28
  Speaker 2: what I do now.
• 41:29
  Speaker 3: They just won't.
• 41:30
  Speaker 2: Didn't want us to ruin her wedding day, and that
• 41:33
  Speaker 2: this feuding needed to end immediately. The letter very much
• 41:36
  Speaker 2: attacked the.
• 41:37
  Speaker 3: Two of us.
• 41:38
  Speaker 2: It felt like she wanted this whole thing swept under
• 41:40
  Speaker 2: the rug. We do so much for mom. Extensive yard work,
• 41:44
  Speaker 2: painting and repairing things, dishes after every weekly dinner. Hubby
• 41:49
  Speaker 2: wires up her artwork and helps her set up at shows,
• 41:52
  Speaker 2: calls her daily. Brother-in-law and sister-in-law do nothing for her.
• 41:57
  Speaker 2: They only ask her for things that they benefit from.
• 42:00
  Speaker 2: Hubby dropped me off and went back to mom's house.
• 42:04
  Speaker 2: She wouldn't listen to him. She was shaking. He described
• 42:07
  Speaker 2: it as appearing to be a panic attack. She mentioned
• 42:11
  Speaker 2: how the cousin showed up on her Facebook too and
• 42:14
  Speaker 2: that sister-in-law told her the recent arrest took place at
• 42:17
  Speaker 2: a concert and was only a verbal altercation that never
• 42:20
  Speaker 2: turned physical. Hubby said she was in a weird state
• 42:24
  Speaker 2: going off on him, so he didn't stay. He reached
• 42:28
  Speaker 2: out to brother and told him to call him. It's
• 42:31
  Speaker 2: been going on five days now, and brother-in-law is still 100%
• 42:34
  Speaker 2: ignoring hubby. We definitely have the exact copy of the
• 42:38
  Speaker 2: police report. Though I'm sure with how strong the denial is,
• 42:42
  Speaker 2: they'll just assume the police lied about it. Friday, hubby
• 42:45
  Speaker 2: tried to stop by mom's again. Again, she was in
• 42:48
  Speaker 2: a weird attacking state, so he did not stay long.
• 42:51
  Speaker 2: Why is she in a weird attacking state?
• 42:53
  Speaker 3: What does that mean? Oh, just like anonymous critter. Meow, meow, meow. Meow, meow, meow. Meow, meow, meow.
• 42:59
  Speaker 3: We're finally at the homestretch, ladies and gents.
• 43:03
  Speaker 2: So, manipulative sister-in-law somehow got mom to turn against us.
• 43:07
  Speaker 2: Hubby has preferred us not to move due to the
• 43:10
  Speaker 2: proximity of his family, but now, with mom turned against us,
• 43:14
  Speaker 2: I definitely want to move far away. Hubby is in agreement.
• 43:18
  Speaker 2: I did some very light baking today. Hubby asked if
• 43:21
  Speaker 2: he could take some to mom, and I felt so horrible,
• 43:24
  Speaker 2: but I said absolutely not. If she wasn't against us
• 43:28
  Speaker 2: like she is, you know I'd be the first person
• 43:30
  Speaker 2: sending stuff over, but I just can't with how she's
• 43:32
  Speaker 2: viewing us.
• 43:33
  Speaker 3: That is still sitting like a pit in my stomach.
• 43:37
  Speaker 2: I think aside from being viewed as the villain, my
• 43:39
  Speaker 2: biggest frustration has been that mom doesn't feel sister-in-law needs
• 43:42
  Speaker 2: a consequence for her behaviors. And by her thinking that way,
• 43:47
  Speaker 2: it feels as though mom even condones those behaviors.
• 43:50
  Speaker 3: What a mess. And that's the end. Yikes. Dang. Yeah,
• 43:57
  Speaker 3: that's pretty not good. Well, guys, I don't know. That
• 44:01
  Speaker 3: story was pretty insane. It's a lot.
• 44:03
  Speaker 1: Honestly, put her in jail.
• 44:04
  Speaker 2: Jail.
• 44:05
  Speaker 3: I think you do, reporter.
• 44:07
  Speaker 1: Also, why is your brother-in-law, your husband's brother, allowing any
• 44:13
  Speaker 1: of this? And that's the end of this story. We're
• 44:16
  Speaker 1: going to go on to the next one. Hey, it's Keon,
• 44:19
  Speaker 1: your favorite short king. We're going to get back to
• 44:21
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• 44:24
  Speaker 2: My new coworker was caught stealing from the company.
• 44:28
  Speaker 3: Somehow she still has a job. Well, I guess they
• 44:32
  Speaker 3: liked her spunk.
• 44:33
  Speaker 2: We have a new coworker who just started like three
• 44:37
  Speaker 2: months ago and puts her name on everything. We just
• 44:40
  Speaker 2: realized that she put her name on the bottle cases
• 44:42
  Speaker 2: of water that we keep for everyone.
• 44:45
  Speaker 3: She's like, oh, that's mine.
• 44:47
  Speaker 1: That's my spit.
• 44:47
  Speaker 3: That was mine.
• 44:48
  Speaker 1: That's my spit. That's not yours.
• 44:50
  Speaker 3: And this is my microwave. And this is my freezer.
• 44:52
  Speaker 2: And this is mine.
• 44:52
  Speaker 3: And that's my chair.
• 44:53
  Speaker 1: It's claimed. Thank you.
• 44:55
  Speaker 3: This is my fork. This is my spoon. Every day
• 44:56
  Speaker 3: she leaves with a box full of items.
• 44:58
  Speaker 1: Actually, I'm the boss now. I claim this job.
• 45:02
  Speaker 3: Yeah, there's a little boss tag on the boss's desk
• 45:05
  Speaker 3: and it has their name and she just crosses it
• 45:07
  Speaker 3: out and she says mine. And she just puts a
• 45:09
  Speaker 3: label or like sticker.
• 45:11
  Speaker 2: The punter is that she can put her name on
• 45:14
  Speaker 2: everything but takes what I'm using while I'm still using
• 45:18
  Speaker 2: it and then gets mad when I hide both items
• 45:21
  Speaker 2: from her so I can still use them. Even my
• 45:23
  Speaker 2: boss was like, well, she's the only one here right now,
• 45:27
  Speaker 2: so she's probably using both. Mind you, it's the company's supplies,
• 45:31
  Speaker 2: not hers. I'm seriously thinking of putting my name on
• 45:34
  Speaker 2: the most absurd objects just to point out her ridiculous entitlement,
• 45:38
  Speaker 2: but I'm also worried that it could be seen as
• 45:41
  Speaker 2: a hostile work environment. And yes, we've complained to multiple
• 45:45
  Speaker 2: bosses about it. By the way, this comes from Bikini
• 45:48
  Speaker 2: Girl Out. And if you want to spend your own stories,
• 45:50
  Speaker 2: go to the r slash okay story time subreddit.
• 45:52
  Speaker 3: I'm Savannah. I'm Sophia.
• 45:53
  Speaker 1: I'm Keon.
• 45:54
  Speaker 2: And we're here to give some good advice, Goofly, but
• 45:57
  Speaker 2: we don't have all your answers. We're only going to
• 45:58
  Speaker 2: tell you what we would do. Let us know what
• 45:59
  Speaker 2: you would do down in the comments.
• 46:00
  Speaker 3: Please do.
• 46:02
  Speaker 2: As Opie says, oh, just kidding. There are some relevant comments.
• 46:06
  Speaker 2: Comment number one says, what kind of objects does she
• 46:09
  Speaker 2: take while you are using them? If it was something
• 46:11
  Speaker 2: quick like a stapler, then I can understand. But if
• 46:14
  Speaker 2: it's anything more needed, then maybe you should talk to
• 46:16
  Speaker 2: her about it. Opie responds, it's something I need until
• 46:18
  Speaker 2: the end of my shift. I don't care if people
• 46:20
  Speaker 2: use them when I'm done, but to take it while
• 46:23
  Speaker 2: I'm working is a whole other thing. It was a
• 46:25
  Speaker 2: common courtesy to wait until we were done to take
• 46:28
  Speaker 2: these items and I've never had an issue with letting
• 46:30
  Speaker 2: people use them if they asked. I've had other co-workers
• 46:34
  Speaker 2: need them and by the time they asked I was
• 46:36
  Speaker 2: done so it never bothered me to hand them off
• 46:39
  Speaker 2: to the next person. Until she came along and she
• 46:42
  Speaker 2: wouldn't ask. She would just be like oh I'm taking
• 46:45
  Speaker 2: them and never bring them back. Com number two says,
• 46:48
  Speaker 2: have you asked your boss if they can buy more
• 46:50
  Speaker 2: of those common items needed to work with? And I
• 46:53
  Speaker 2: would have called her out on it. I'm still using that.
• 46:56
  Speaker 2: OP responds, I feel like ordering more just plays into
• 46:58
  Speaker 2: her game because we never had these issues until she
• 47:01
  Speaker 2: started working for us. It was just common courtesy to
• 47:04
  Speaker 2: wait until we were done. Then it was first come
• 47:06
  Speaker 2: first serve. I had no problems loaning them out if people.
• 47:09
  Speaker 3: Asked, but she never asked. She just takes. It's just
• 47:12
  Speaker 3: a wiener move.
• 47:14
  Speaker 2: The first time, I was just genuinely so shocked that
• 47:16
  Speaker 2: she even took it from me while I was still
• 47:18
  Speaker 2: using it. Then I was just pissed. The second time
• 47:21
  Speaker 2: she did it, my other coworker called her out directly
• 47:23
  Speaker 2: in front of our boss. The third time she tried,
• 47:25
  Speaker 2: I put my foot down and said I was using
• 47:27
  Speaker 2: them and to basically get over it. The thing is,
• 47:30
  Speaker 2: she can't even use them until after a certain time,
• 47:32
  Speaker 2: and she just hides anyway, so I'm not sure why
• 47:35
  Speaker 2: she can't wait 45 effing minutes. She's still hoarding other
• 47:39
  Speaker 2: items too. We actually had to tell on her again
• 47:42
  Speaker 2: because she took two items when she really needed one.
• 47:45
  Speaker 2: She's overstocking on items for her and her only. She's
• 47:48
  Speaker 2: also spreading rumors that we're all going to lose our jobs,
• 47:51
  Speaker 2: so needless to say, my boss isn't happy with her
• 47:53
  Speaker 2: right now. I just want to know what the items are.
• 47:56
  Speaker 3: Just tell me what the items are. Stop beating around
• 47:59
  Speaker 3: the bush. Stop beating around my bush. And tell me
• 48:00
  Speaker 3: what these freaking items were. Stop beating my bush. Stop
• 48:04
  Speaker 3: beating your bush and tell me what the items were.
• 48:06
  Speaker 3: I'm using that. Stop beating around my bush. Stop shaving
• 48:14
  Speaker 3: your bush and tell me what the items were. So good. Oh,
• 48:20
  Speaker 3: there's an update.
• 48:21
  Speaker 2: Coworker is spreading rumors that we're all going to lose
• 48:24
  Speaker 2: our jobs six days later. We have a new person
• 48:27
  Speaker 2: trying to start rumors that we're all going to be
• 48:29
  Speaker 2: losing our jobs when we won't know until the summer.
• 48:32
  Speaker 3: Oh, so like you could actually be losing your jobs.
• 48:35
  Speaker 3: You just don't know. Yeah, it'll be fine.
• 48:36
  Speaker 2: And she's been telling others that we're going to be
• 48:39
  Speaker 2: losing our jobs. So, of course, it's starting to cause panic.
• 48:42
  Speaker 2: She said she heard rumors from others who aren't involved
• 48:44
  Speaker 2: in the decision-making process and it was a few months ago.
• 48:47
  Speaker 2: So I'm assuming when she just started. So things could
• 48:50
  Speaker 2: have changed in the meantime as well. I've heard rumors
• 48:52
  Speaker 2: in the past, but I'm not as worried as I
• 48:55
  Speaker 2: would have been back in September. Ask me in September
• 48:58
  Speaker 2: and I would have said absolutely. However, we've turned a
• 49:02
  Speaker 2: lot of our problems around and have been working insanely hard.
• 49:06
  Speaker 3: To turn these problems around.
• 49:08
  Speaker 2: I've been doing extra things when I have time, so
• 49:10
  Speaker 2: it actually looks like we're doing work during.
• 49:13
  Speaker 3: The day when people can see it.
• 49:14
  Speaker 2: Not to brag, but that's one of the things I
• 49:17
  Speaker 2: always get compliments on.
• 49:19
  Speaker 3: Good for you.
• 49:20
  Speaker 2: Busy and that i'm always doing something for this reason
• 49:23
  Speaker 2: mind you i've been there for 10 plus years and
• 49:26
  Speaker 2: i still don't know the whole truth so how would
• 49:28
  Speaker 2: someone who just started three months ago know the truth.
• 49:32
  Speaker 2: We brought it up to our boss that she shouldn't
• 49:34
  Speaker 2: be spreading rumors like this considering she just started. All
• 49:37
  Speaker 2: I said was, me and my coworkers have been here
• 49:40
  Speaker 2: the longest and we still don't know what's going on,
• 49:42
  Speaker 2: so why she feels the need to spread rumors is
• 49:45
  Speaker 2: beyond me when she just started. She has no right
• 49:49
  Speaker 2: to fearmonger. It's one thing when me and my other
• 49:52
  Speaker 2: coworkers talk amongst ourselves, but I still don't mention it
• 49:55
  Speaker 2: to anyone else just because I don't want to start panic.
• 49:58
  Speaker 3: That's so funny. Wait, I'm sorry. So OP is also
• 50:01
  Speaker 3: engaging in this gossip, but she's like, it's one thing
• 50:05
  Speaker 3: when I say it, but it's another thing when this
• 50:07
  Speaker 3: girl I hate says it.
• 50:09
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 50:09
  Speaker 3: And she's telling everyone. And she's telling everyone. At least
• 50:12
  Speaker 3: I'm keeping it to myself. I wanted to tell everyone.
• 50:14
  Speaker 3: And like three other people. Yeah. And then, of course,
• 50:17
  Speaker 3: those three other people are telling. There are three people. Yes. So, like,
• 50:20
  Speaker 3: so on and so forth.
• 50:22
  Speaker 1: She's just telling too many dreams. If she keeps taking
• 50:24
  Speaker 1: your things, just take away her life.
• 50:26
  Speaker 3: Just take away her bush. You have to. You take
• 50:30
  Speaker 3: my stapler, I take your bush. You have to make
• 50:32
  Speaker 3: some difficult calls, OP, if you want to be a leader.
• 50:37
  Speaker 1: They're going to see that and they're going to commend it.
• 50:41
  Speaker 1: yeah maybe they're testing.
• 50:42
  Speaker 3: You yeah they're testing you op this is like when
• 50:44
  Speaker 3: they do the scam like when a business does like
• 50:46
  Speaker 3: sends out those fake scam emails and if you click
• 50:50
  Speaker 3: on them then uh you get written up so like
• 50:53
  Speaker 3: you fell for the scam wow they do that scam
• 50:56
  Speaker 3: like i don't know i just learned about this that's
• 50:59
  Speaker 3: stupid yeah they'll send out fake scam emails and they're
• 51:01
  Speaker 3: like gotcha.
• 51:02
  Speaker 2: I do have safety plans, but I planned on leaving regardless.
• 51:06
  Speaker 2: It's not doing her any favors, considering we've been having
• 51:09
  Speaker 2: issues with her since she started, and my boss was
• 51:12
  Speaker 2: not happy when we told them about the issue either.
• 51:14
  Speaker 2: Update two, coworker damages property and steals stuff from the building,
• 51:18
  Speaker 2: yet somehow still has a job.
• 51:20
  Speaker 3: One month later.
• 51:21
  Speaker 2: It's super frustrating that within the last week, we've caught
• 51:24
  Speaker 2: this coworker stealing items and damaging property, and we have
• 51:28
  Speaker 2: evidence of her.
• 51:28
  Speaker 3: Doing both on camera.
• 51:30
  Speaker 2: Yet, she somehow still has a job. We've had issues
• 51:33
  Speaker 2: with this coworker in the past.
• 51:35
  Speaker 3: You mean you? I think so. Yeah, I think me
• 51:37
  Speaker 3: thinks it's just you.
• 51:38
  Speaker 2: Me thinks it's just you. It's just you and maybe
• 51:42
  Speaker 2: your bush. She's felt entitled to other coworkers' work supplies
• 51:47
  Speaker 2: and takes them while they're actively using them. I've had
• 51:50
  Speaker 2: to hide items from her just so she won't take
• 51:52
  Speaker 2: them while I'm using them.
• 51:53
  Speaker 1: That's not solving the problem. That's just putting a bandaid
• 51:56
  Speaker 1: over the boo-boo.
• 51:57
  Speaker 3: You're just hiding them. Yeah, it's stupid. OP, just ask
• 52:01
  Speaker 3: your boss to buy more.
• 52:03
  Speaker 1: Or just tell her, stop.
• 52:05
  Speaker 3: Yeah, sorry, I'm using that.
• 52:06
  Speaker 1: You do it, I'm going to spray you with your water.
• 52:09
  Speaker 1: It's your water, but I'm going to spray you with it.
• 52:11
  Speaker 3: Literally, I'm just telling my boss, hey, could you order
• 52:14
  Speaker 3: double so that I can... have this and then she
• 52:18
  Speaker 3: can have her own. So everyone has their own. You're
• 52:20
  Speaker 3: not going to fire her.
• 52:21
  Speaker 1: Give her like a fidget spinner or something. That'll calm
• 52:23
  Speaker 1: her mind.
• 52:23
  Speaker 3: Give her a fidget stapler.
• 52:25
  Speaker 2: Everyone can just get their own and then you can
• 52:27
  Speaker 2: put like stickers on it and be like, oh, this
• 52:28
  Speaker 2: one's mine. You know, like laptops or something. Like everyone
• 52:31
  Speaker 2: gets one and then you just kind of make it
• 52:33
  Speaker 2: your own.
• 52:33
  Speaker 3: And then no one has to complain.
• 52:34
  Speaker 1: You know what it's giving?
• 52:36
  Speaker 3: Stupid.
• 52:37
  Speaker 1: Well, yes. It's giving only child.
• 52:39
  Speaker 2: Yeah, she's like, well, it's all mine. It's giving Bush entitlement.
• 52:43
  Speaker 2: I'm not liking that. She's taking partial cases of water
• 52:47
  Speaker 2: that are meant for everyone and hoarded them for herself.
• 52:50
  Speaker 2: We've complained to our bosses about her doing so as well.
• 52:54
  Speaker 2: Other co-workers have complained about her doing other stuff that
• 52:56
  Speaker 2: we shouldn't be doing. But I mean one time in
• 53:00
  Speaker 2: a chat, and I get a write-up for that. Yet,
• 53:02
  Speaker 2: the two things we fire people for on the spot,
• 53:06
  Speaker 2: aside from spicy related intimidation... She doesn't get fired.
• 53:10
  Speaker 3: Relevant comments.
• 53:12
  Speaker 2: OP says it's sort of like why bother actually bringing
• 53:15
  Speaker 2: up issues when you have issues with someone if nothing
• 53:18
  Speaker 2: is going to happen, especially for major things like theft.
• 53:21
  Speaker 3: It just feels like theft is selective here. It also
• 53:24
  Speaker 3: doesn't feel like she's actually stealing things from the company.
• 53:27
  Speaker 1: It's a loose term of borrow.
• 53:29
  Speaker 3: Yeah, it feels like she is taking things from other
• 53:32
  Speaker 3: people that OP is saying, well, I was using that.
• 53:35
  Speaker 3: And then just keeping it at her desk. That's what
• 53:37
  Speaker 3: I'm thinking. Like not returning it after you're done using it.
• 53:40
  Speaker 3: And then being like, well, I'm going to use it again,
• 53:42
  Speaker 3: so I don't want to keep getting up. It would
• 53:45
  Speaker 3: be a huge issue if she was taking it home. Yes.
• 53:50
  Speaker 3: And then claiming it as her own. I feel like
• 53:53
  Speaker 3: she's not doing that.
• 53:54
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 53:55
  Speaker 3: Based on everything we've learned.
• 53:56
  Speaker 1: But I feel like the company's like, it's for the company.
• 53:58
  Speaker 3: Yeah.
• 53:59
  Speaker 2: No, it's the fact that like someone actually like, Said, oh,
• 54:02
  Speaker 2: you just have the company by now.
• 54:04
  Speaker 3: And she's like, that's not the point. That's not the point.
• 54:06
  Speaker 3: I feel like that's just letting her win. No, no, no.
• 54:08
  Speaker 3: That's too easy. That can't be the solution. I'm building
• 54:13
  Speaker 3: a Trojan bush. Just wait.
• 54:15
  Speaker 2: Opie says she's also making our lives harder by taking
• 54:18
  Speaker 2: our stuff while we're actually working. She hides for an
• 54:20
  Speaker 2: hour and doesn't need what we're using until a certain time.
• 54:24
  Speaker 3: She can wait. She doesn't even seem to use it either.
• 54:28
  Speaker 2: She won't let others use the item either. She makes
• 54:30
  Speaker 2: them hunt for another item. She gets witchy when you
• 54:33
  Speaker 2: even ask to use it. I'm generally pretty flexible. I
• 54:36
  Speaker 2: have no problem handing this item off when I'm done.
• 54:40
  Speaker 2: What is it?
• 54:40
  Speaker 3: One week later. One week later.
• 55:09
  Speaker 2: I made a post a few months ago about how
• 55:11
  Speaker 2: this coworker loves to put her name on company supplies
• 55:14
  Speaker 2: and how she takes items from others without asking. Including
• 55:17
  Speaker 2: my own supplies and the bottled water that's reserved for everyone.
• 55:20
  Speaker 2: I'm pretty sure that same coworker is a hoarder.
• 55:23
  Speaker 3: Sounds like it.
• 55:24
  Speaker 2: We were talking about it yesterday where she takes supplies
• 55:26
  Speaker 2: she doesn't need and how messy her area is because
• 55:29
  Speaker 2: she takes too many supplies. One of my other coworkers
• 55:32
  Speaker 2: is an obsessive neat freak, and even she was commenting
• 55:35
  Speaker 2: on how messy their location was due to the hoarding.
• 55:38
  Speaker 3: Well, yes, obviously. Makes sense.
• 55:42
  Speaker 2: My obsessive compulsive friend really says that her desk is dirty.
• 55:46
  Speaker 3: She's like, it's pretty messy. She's hoarding.
• 55:49
  Speaker 2: Uh, she also has more than two supplies.
• 55:52
  Speaker 3: Uh-oh. Unbelievable.
• 55:53
  Speaker 2: I understand having a backup for when you're almost out.
• 55:56
  Speaker 2: I used to do something similar, where if I knew
• 55:58
  Speaker 2: I was going to be out but didn't want to
• 56:00
  Speaker 2: run back to the supply closet, I'd have a backup
• 56:03
  Speaker 2: for that reason. But she'll have five big jugged bottles
• 56:07
  Speaker 2: of certain products, and she doesn't need them and doesn't
• 56:11
  Speaker 2: go through them as fast.
• 56:12
  Speaker 3: Jugs? What is this job? Jugs? Jugs? Are you like...
• 56:18
  Speaker 3: tie dyeing. What are you doing? What are you doing?
• 56:23
  Speaker 3: I'm really annoying.
• 56:24
  Speaker 2: This morning, I walked in to see her name on
• 56:27
  Speaker 2: sticky notes on a product that's only for one of
• 56:29
  Speaker 2: our machines. And that machine only. She doesn't need this
• 56:32
  Speaker 2: product at all. So I took a picture of it
• 56:34
  Speaker 2: and let my other coworker see it just so I
• 56:37
  Speaker 2: had another witness and told her that it was only
• 56:39
  Speaker 2: reserved for one machine only. And she ripped the sticky
• 56:42
  Speaker 2: note off and put it back.
• 56:43
  Speaker 3: What do we got? I mean, I really don't know
• 56:46
  Speaker 3: what you do, what's going on, or why you hate
• 56:49
  Speaker 3: this woman so much. I think you know that your
• 56:53
  Speaker 3: business is not going to do anything about it. So
• 56:55
  Speaker 3: just get more. I ask for more items. Say, hey,
• 56:58
  Speaker 3: like I brought this up. It is impeding my ability
• 57:01
  Speaker 3: to do my job. So give me more, give me more,
• 57:05
  Speaker 3: give me more. Christina says, now we got jugs and bushes.
• 57:09
  Speaker 3: Where does this place happen? Yeah, they work in heaven.
• 57:12
  Speaker 3: These are angels. Oh boy. Staplers and jugs. I don't
• 57:19
  Speaker 3: know what you're working with, but that's my advice. I
• 57:21
  Speaker 3: just don't really. I don't know. What else could you
• 57:25
  Speaker 3: possibly do? Do you want to hurt this woman? I
• 57:28
  Speaker 3: don't know. What do you want? What do you want
• 57:29
  Speaker 3: us to tell you? Yeah. What do you want, OP?
• 57:33
  Speaker 3: What advice do you want? Do you just want to rant?
• 57:35
  Speaker 2: It just, yeah, to me, it just seems like you
• 57:38
  Speaker 2: kind of just want to go on a rant about
• 57:39
  Speaker 2: this new girl and how she does all these annoying things, blah, blah, blah.
• 57:41
  Speaker 3: And obviously, since you hate her, you're going to nitpick her.
• 57:43
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 57:44
  Speaker 2: And I feel like that's what you're doing when, you know,
• 57:47
  Speaker 2: just be like, hey, could.
• 57:49
  Speaker 3: We just get more supplies for everyone, please?
• 57:52
  Speaker 2: Is that weird?
• 57:53
  Speaker 3: Is that crazy?
• 57:54
  Speaker 2: Is that crazy? Crazy idea here, but maybe everyone should
• 57:57
  Speaker 2: have their own things.
• 57:57
  Speaker 3: I don't know. That's a little crazy. Anyway, OP continues.
• 58:01
  Speaker 2: Besides, only two of us know how to use this machine,
• 58:04
  Speaker 2: and I'm one of them. As far as I'm aware,
• 58:07
  Speaker 2: she does not know how to use this machine, and
• 58:09
  Speaker 2: because of her age, I don't think she's capable. We
• 58:12
  Speaker 2: don't use this machine as much as others. It pretty
• 58:15
  Speaker 2: much sits dormant until summer. Uh, there's no need for
• 58:19
  Speaker 2: her to have this product. Because she took this specific product,
• 58:23
  Speaker 2: I have a small theory she might be stealing these
• 58:26
  Speaker 2: products to bring home. She's already been caught stealing already,
• 58:28
  Speaker 2: so I wouldn't be surprised. There are some relevant comments.
• 58:31
  Speaker 2: Comment number one says, get her caught stealing. That'll solve
• 58:34
  Speaker 2: the problem eventually if she keeps getting caught. OP responds,
• 58:37
  Speaker 2: the sad part is we have caught her on camera
• 58:39
  Speaker 2: stealing and she still has a job. Honestly, signing products
• 58:43
  Speaker 2: out isn't a bad idea.
• 58:44
  Speaker 3: We're going to.
• 58:44
  Speaker 2: Talk to my boss about it again today and I
• 58:46
  Speaker 2: might bring this up as she has to sign items
• 58:49
  Speaker 2: out instead of whatever this is. Yes, we have an
• 58:52
  Speaker 2: abundance of supplies, but it's also not fair that she
• 58:55
  Speaker 2: can claim items, take hours, and we can't do the
• 58:57
  Speaker 2: same to her because otherwise she'll pull.
• 58:59
  Speaker 3: The old lady card. She's an old lady. Oh, she's
• 59:02
  Speaker 3: an old lady. I thought she was young. I thought
• 59:04
  Speaker 3: she was young too. Oh, and that's all.
• 59:07
  Speaker 1: And that's the end of this story. We're going to
• 59:09
  Speaker 1: go on to the next one.
• 59:11
  Speaker 3: A rival supervisor has a vendetta against me. Now we
• 59:15
  Speaker 3: have to meet. Ooh, I'll bring cheese. I, 22 female,
• 59:19
  Speaker 3: have been working with my company for five years. Recently,
• 59:22
  Speaker 3: the past two months, I've been complaining about a recurring
• 59:25
  Speaker 3: issue at work and got the most validating phone call
• 59:28
  Speaker 3: I've ever received from a supervisor. It will explain a
• 59:31
  Speaker 3: little about my job. so that it isn't very confusing,
• 59:34
  Speaker 3: but I cannot give too much information. Come on! Just
• 59:39
  Speaker 3: say it! For context, I work in an airport operations
• 59:42
  Speaker 3: role that involves coordinating with multiple people and completing time-sensitive
• 59:47
  Speaker 3: tasks before departures. My work takes place near the end
• 59:50
  Speaker 3: of the process, so when delays, mistakes, or scheduling issues
• 59:53
  Speaker 3: happen earlier on, the pressure often gets passed down to
• 59:56
  Speaker 3: the people handling the final stages. My company has a
• 1:00:00
  Speaker 3: contract with another company, and we work in their building.
• 1:00:02
  Speaker 3: We have an office, but it's in an airport, and
• 1:00:05
  Speaker 3: this company we have a contract with, their location is
• 1:00:08
  Speaker 3: near the airport, not directly inside. For these two months,
• 1:00:11
  Speaker 3: I've been saying that one particular flight or process has
• 1:00:15
  Speaker 3: unrealistic timelines. The issue isn't the work itself. The problem
• 1:00:19
  Speaker 3: is that delays keep happening almost every day, which leaves
• 1:00:23
  Speaker 3: the people at the end scrambling to make up for
• 1:00:25
  Speaker 3: lost time. They also tend to schedule their people to
• 1:00:27
  Speaker 3: come to work an hour before the flight arrives, which
• 1:00:30
  Speaker 3: is the main issue I have brought up multiple times.
• 1:00:34
  Speaker 3: By the way, this comes from Sleepin' Tammy. And if
• 1:00:36
  Speaker 3: you want to submit your own stories, go to the
• 1:00:38
  Speaker 3: r slash showcase story time subreddit. I'm Sophia. I'm Savannah.
• 1:00:41
  Speaker 1: I'm Dakota.
• 1:00:42
  Speaker 3: And we're here to give good advice goofily. That's not Dakota. Wait,
• 1:00:45
  Speaker 3: I want to be Dakota. No. I'm Dakota.
• 1:00:48
  Speaker 1: Neither of you are Dakota.
• 1:00:49
  Speaker 3: I'm Dakota.
• 1:00:49
  Speaker 2: Shoot.
• 1:00:51
  Speaker 3: Anyway, if you know anything or who these people are
• 1:00:54
  Speaker 3: that I'm working with, put it down below.
• 1:00:56
  Speaker 1: I'm Dakota.
• 1:00:57
  Speaker 3: OP says, I've repeatedly pointed out that when this flight
• 1:01:00
  Speaker 3: arrives early, equipment isn't ready. Items are missing. Probably the
• 1:01:05
  Speaker 3: girl from the last story. Uh-oh. She's taking them. And
• 1:01:08
  Speaker 3: I'm usually rushed and paperwork isn't complete or people from
• 1:01:12
  Speaker 3: the other company will start later than their schedule. And
• 1:01:15
  Speaker 3: because of that, the timeline becomes almost impossible. Also, I
• 1:01:19
  Speaker 3: do a lot of physical work as well, and this
• 1:01:21
  Speaker 3: is very important because these equipments go inside the aircraft,
• 1:01:25
  Speaker 3: and if not checked or handled correctly, it will put
• 1:01:28
  Speaker 3: my job at risk, and I could even end up
• 1:01:30
  Speaker 3: with a criminal record. Holy crap. Oh. Oh, airport operations.
• 1:01:36
  Speaker 3: Airport jail. Airport jail. You're going to be like Tom Cruise.
• 1:01:39
  Speaker 2: Ooh.
• 1:01:40
  Speaker 3: In that movie where he's stuck in the airport. Bush jail. Oh, no,
• 1:01:44
  Speaker 3: he's stuck in the airport. Oh. Yeah, they don't let
• 1:01:47
  Speaker 3: him leave.
• 1:01:47
  Speaker 1: Not the right actor. Right name.
• 1:01:50
  Speaker 3: I meant Tom Hanks.
• 1:01:52
  Speaker 1: There you go.
• 1:01:53
  Speaker 3: Sorry. Oh, she got the wrong Tom. I meant Tom Hanks.
• 1:01:56
  Speaker 3: I said Tom Cruise. Put him up here. Tom Hanks,
• 1:01:59
  Speaker 3: right here. Sorry, I went plain Tom Cruise. But I
• 1:02:03
  Speaker 3: meant airport Tom Hanks. There he is. Wait, here he is.
• 1:02:07
  Speaker 3: Tom Hanks. Tom Hanks in the airport movie. He lives
• 1:02:12
  Speaker 3: in an airport and they don't let him leave. This
• 1:02:14
  Speaker 3: is so funny. There he's gone. Every time I brought
• 1:02:18
  Speaker 3: it up, it felt like nobody really took it seriously.
• 1:02:20
  Speaker 3: My supervisor told me that he would handle it, or
• 1:02:23
  Speaker 3: maybe I'm not able to handle stress. I have been
• 1:02:25
  Speaker 3: doing this particular work for three years and have trained
• 1:02:28
  Speaker 3: other people as well. Yesterday, I took a day off.
• 1:02:30
  Speaker 3: A newer employee, let's call her Mia, female 30, who
• 1:02:33
  Speaker 3: I didn't train and was trained by someone else, ended
• 1:02:37
  Speaker 3: up handling that same flight and process. And apparently everything exploded. Uh-oh.
• 1:02:42
  Speaker 3: Multiple people complained. The new employee got accused of being
• 1:02:45
  Speaker 3: too slow and not handling... The pressure well. One of
• 1:02:48
  Speaker 3: my colleagues, let's call him John, male 44, from the
• 1:02:51
  Speaker 3: other company, criticized her performance. While another supervisor, let's call
• 1:02:55
  Speaker 3: him Paul, male 59, from that said company, later said
• 1:02:59
  Speaker 3: that John had started late in the first place, which
• 1:03:01
  Speaker 3: contributed to the situation. But he basically threw Mia under
• 1:03:05
  Speaker 3: the bus and said she was extremely disorganized, unlike me,
• 1:03:08
  Speaker 3: where I finish everything perfectly.
• 1:03:10
  Speaker 1: Yes. Gold star.
• 1:03:12
  Speaker 3: He's like, unlike me, I'm perfect. This is what John
• 1:03:16
  Speaker 3: told me today when I came to work. I know
• 1:03:18
  Speaker 3: how John works and he's known to be extremely lazy
• 1:03:21
  Speaker 3: as well. We have become closer in the years and
• 1:03:23
  Speaker 3: he sees me like a kid because I'm the youngest
• 1:03:25
  Speaker 3: in both the companies, but I still keep my guard
• 1:03:28
  Speaker 3: up since he can throw me under the bus anytime,
• 1:03:31
  Speaker 3: even though he claims he would never do that. My
• 1:03:33
  Speaker 3: supervisor called me last night and basically said, everything you've
• 1:03:37
  Speaker 3: been saying for months is happening. Other people are finally
• 1:03:40
  Speaker 3: complaining about it too. Honestly. I'm irritated about this whole
• 1:03:43
  Speaker 3: situation and hopefully steps are finally being taken. And we've
• 1:03:47
  Speaker 3: got an update three days later. Do you think those
• 1:03:49
  Speaker 3: steps have been taken? Three days?
• 1:03:51
  Speaker 1: No.
• 1:03:52
  Speaker 3: Three days. Do you think any steps have been taken?
• 1:03:54
  Speaker 1: No.
• 1:03:56
  Speaker 3: No one is handling this very well. Nothing. You know what?
• 1:04:00
  Speaker 3: My guess. Yeah. It's gotten way worse. It's gotten way
• 1:04:03
  Speaker 3: out of hand. Update three days later. Things have exploded.
• 1:04:05
  Speaker 3: It's become another one. More things have exploded. Now it's
• 1:04:08
  Speaker 3: really not. Anyway, my supervisor told me he's arranging a
• 1:04:12
  Speaker 3: meeting with a supervisor from the other company involved in
• 1:04:15
  Speaker 3: the process. What I'm a little surprised about is that
• 1:04:17
  Speaker 3: he specifically wants me to attend the meeting as well.
• 1:04:21
  Speaker 3: His reasoning was that I've been raising these concerns from
• 1:04:24
  Speaker 3: the beginning. I've experienced the problem firsthand, and he trusts
• 1:04:27
  Speaker 3: me to explain what's actually happening on the ground.
• 1:04:30
  Speaker 1: You know what we should do? Just have a huge
• 1:04:32
  Speaker 1: sign saying, I told you so. Yeah. Or just a
• 1:04:35
  Speaker 1: hat saying, I told you so. I told you so.
• 1:04:38
  Speaker 3: Yeah, honestly, that caught me off guard. A few weeks ago,
• 1:04:41
  Speaker 3: I felt like I was repeating myself. Now I'm being
• 1:04:43
  Speaker 3: asked to sit in a meeting with supervisors and discuss
• 1:04:46
  Speaker 3: the issue directly. The thing is, this top supervisor from
• 1:04:50
  Speaker 3: the other company, let's call him Sean, male 35, he
• 1:04:53
  Speaker 3: may appear friendly and polite outside, but he literally talks
• 1:04:57
  Speaker 3: down to his own employees in a very nice, condescending way.
• 1:05:01
  Speaker 3: He also, for some reason, has a vendetta towards me
• 1:05:04
  Speaker 3: in particular for God knows why. He once sent a
• 1:05:06
  Speaker 3: nasty email about me to my company two years ago,
• 1:05:10
  Speaker 3: but they ignored it. He never used to greet me
• 1:05:12
  Speaker 3: or even glance at me.
• 1:05:13
  Speaker 1: He's probably jealous.
• 1:05:14
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 1:05:15
  Speaker 1: Oh, yeah.
• 1:05:15
  Speaker 3: I mean, you're a 22-year-old young woman. He's probably, yeah,
• 1:05:18
  Speaker 3: jealous and also just... maybe doesn't take you seriously. Stupid son.
• 1:05:26
  Speaker 3: Him or? That's what he thinks.
• 1:05:27
  Speaker 2: Him.
• 1:05:28
  Speaker 3: He's so, no, that's him. He's son. He's so stupid.
• 1:05:33
  Speaker 3: I'm not here to make friends with the other company supervisors,
• 1:05:36
  Speaker 3: so I was the least bothered.
• 1:05:38
  Speaker 2: Yeah, no, I just, I mean, obviously you're having the meeting,
• 1:05:42
  Speaker 2: so just talk with him and be like, listen, vendetta aside,
• 1:05:46
  Speaker 2: this needs to be done for anyone, not just me.
• 1:05:50
  Speaker 2: Because you saw how it went when another person took
• 1:05:53
  Speaker 2: my spot.
• 1:05:55
  Speaker 3: So let's go. Come on. It's go time. Let's go.
• 1:05:59
  Speaker 3: Let's go. Let's work together. Come on. Let's push it up.
• 1:06:02
  Speaker 3: Put this vendetta aside. I've never been someone who ignores
• 1:06:05
  Speaker 3: mistakes or leaves things out of reports. If something serious happens,
• 1:06:09
  Speaker 3: I document it and send it to my supervisor. That's
• 1:06:12
  Speaker 3: literally part of my job. He's very protective of his
• 1:06:15
  Speaker 3: own department and employees. If something goes wrong, his first
• 1:06:18
  Speaker 3: instinct is often to explain it away, minimize it, or
• 1:06:22
  Speaker 3: redirect attention somewhere else instead of acknowledging the problem.
• 1:06:26
  Speaker 1: Sounds healthy.
• 1:06:27
  Speaker 3: Yeah, he's like, what if we just ignored it? What
• 1:06:30
  Speaker 3: if we just ignored the problem? That's the sign of
• 1:06:31
  Speaker 3: a real leader. Sometimes he doesn't even know half the
• 1:06:34
  Speaker 3: problems that happened under his nose, which make it even
• 1:06:37
  Speaker 3: better because what do you mean you didn't know one
• 1:06:39
  Speaker 3: of your employees damaged a truck and you found out
• 1:06:42
  Speaker 3: two weeks later?
• 1:06:44
  Speaker 1: Wow.
• 1:06:45
  Speaker 3: Anyways, this is my situation right now and I'll be
• 1:06:47
  Speaker 3: having this meeting with my supervisor and him. And that's
• 1:06:51
  Speaker 3: the end of the story.
• 1:06:53
  Speaker 1: I think OP, as long as OP covers their tracks
• 1:06:55
  Speaker 1: and being like, I think you're fine. It's one of
• 1:06:57
  Speaker 1: those things where like, genuinely you can't do anything you
• 1:07:01
  Speaker 1: can tell them and like you've been telling.
• 1:07:03
  Speaker 3: Them yeah if they're gonna ignore it they're gonna ignore
• 1:07:06
  Speaker 3: it yeah it's like I don't know.
• 1:07:10
  Speaker 2: Like it's not on you don't try to blame yourself
• 1:07:13
  Speaker 2: because you're trying to figure this out and you know
• 1:07:16
  Speaker 2: what needs to happen and they're not there they're higher
• 1:07:20
  Speaker 2: ups they're just like oh yeah well it's always worked
• 1:07:22
  Speaker 2: so it should just work it should just work yeah
• 1:07:26
  Speaker 2: no well sometimes it don't work like that And that's true, too.
• 1:07:30
  Speaker 3: Whatever she mad to. And that's true, too.
• 1:07:33
  Speaker 2: Whatever she's mad to.
• 1:07:36
  Speaker 3: That's the end of that story. Hey, it's Carly, your
• 1:07:40
  Speaker 3: favorite Jersey girl here.
• 1:07:41
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• 1:07:46
  Speaker 3: My boss left me alone on the busiest nights, so
• 1:07:50
  Speaker 3: I walked away. Where were you?
• 1:07:52
  Speaker 2: Several months ago, I picked up a side job at
• 1:07:55
  Speaker 2: a local bar slash cafe. It's quite a popular place,
• 1:07:59
  Speaker 2: and my sister and I used to go in a lot,
• 1:08:01
  Speaker 2: since she's friendly with the landlady. We got talking about
• 1:08:04
  Speaker 2: her needing help behind the bar one evening a week,
• 1:08:07
  Speaker 2: and I agreed to give it a go. I was
• 1:08:09
  Speaker 2: going through a bit of a stagnant phase in life
• 1:08:11
  Speaker 2: and thought it could be fun and worth the extra money.
• 1:08:14
  Speaker 2: I already work full-time, but it's hybrid, so I have
• 1:08:16
  Speaker 2: more flexibility around things outside the office. And she said
• 1:08:19
  Speaker 2: she understood if other work commitments needed prioritizing. I'd never
• 1:08:23
  Speaker 2: worked in a bar or done barista before.
• 1:08:26
  Speaker 3: And there was absolutely zero proper training. Oh, they just
• 1:08:30
  Speaker 3: threw you in there? That's not good. They're like, go.
• 1:08:33
  Speaker 3: You can't. How are you supposed to make a drink?
• 1:08:35
  Speaker 3: Figure it out.
• 1:08:36
  Speaker 2: It's like, no one's going to teach. That's like going
• 1:08:39
  Speaker 2: to Starbucks and no one is. Yeah, they're like, oh,
• 1:08:42
  Speaker 2: can I get a drink? And they're like, make it.
• 1:08:45
  Speaker 3: And they're like, yes. Yeah, but you can make it.
• 1:08:48
  Speaker 3: How many scoops? Wait, how many pumps? Sorry, I don't
• 1:08:51
  Speaker 3: actually know how to make your drink. Which one's grande? Ariana?
• 1:08:55
  Speaker 2: My first shift, the landlady showed me where everything was
• 1:08:58
  Speaker 2: and immediately got me serving customers while she disappeared off
• 1:09:02
  Speaker 2: to do other things. I knew next to nothing about
• 1:09:05
  Speaker 2: what wines or... had, how to measure and pour the
• 1:09:08
  Speaker 2: different drinks, enter items correctly on the till, or navigate
• 1:09:12
  Speaker 2: the coffee machine. I burned myself on the steamer more
• 1:09:14
  Speaker 2: times than I care to remember. But the regulars gave
• 1:09:17
  Speaker 2: me plenty of grace and advice... And I muddled through.
• 1:09:20
  Speaker 2: By the way, this comes from Alert Perception 6592. And
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• 1:09:27
  Speaker 3: I'm Savannah. I'm Sophia.
• 1:09:29
  Speaker 1: I'm Sophia as Keon. Whoa.
• 1:09:34
  Speaker 2: And we're here to give some good advice goofily, but
• 1:09:36
  Speaker 2: we don't have all your answers. We'd only tell you
• 1:09:37
  Speaker 2: what we would do, but let us know what you
• 1:09:38
  Speaker 2: would do.
• 1:09:39
  Speaker 3: Down in the comments.
• 1:09:39
  Speaker 2: As Opie says, I stuck it out since the extra
• 1:09:42
  Speaker 2: cash certainly didn't hurt, but it was stressful and physically
• 1:09:45
  Speaker 2: demanding even at the best of times. It was often
• 1:09:48
  Speaker 2: loud and busy with live music or karaoke playing, and
• 1:09:51
  Speaker 2: you'd be on your feet constantly running back and forth,
• 1:09:53
  Speaker 2: bending and lifting heavy crates in and out of the dishwasher,
• 1:09:57
  Speaker 2: getting your clothes and shoes soaked with adult soda. It
• 1:10:00
  Speaker 2: was a tiny space behind the bar, and the landlady
• 1:10:02
  Speaker 2: seemed to have zero spatial awareness, so she'd bustle in
• 1:10:05
  Speaker 2: behind you to grab things while you were in the
• 1:10:08
  Speaker 2: middle of serving. knocking past your elbows while you're trying
• 1:10:11
  Speaker 2: to pour, squashing you into the adult soda taps, blocking
• 1:10:15
  Speaker 2: you in while she stood to talk to people and
• 1:10:17
  Speaker 2: expecting you to contort around her with your hands full
• 1:10:20
  Speaker 2: of pints or hot drinks. She also had a habit
• 1:10:23
  Speaker 2: of telling you off for doing stuff wrong, either something
• 1:10:26
  Speaker 2: she'd never bothered to show you properly or something you'd
• 1:10:29
  Speaker 2: been doing the way she showed you for weeks. She'd
• 1:10:31
  Speaker 2: just decide on a whim she wanted something done differently
• 1:10:34
  Speaker 2: and you were expected to know and immediately correct it.
• 1:10:37
  Speaker 2: She'd pull me aside to lecture me about the most
• 1:10:39
  Speaker 2: random things, like the volume I was talking at over
• 1:10:42
  Speaker 2: the bar, the type of mug I used for someone's tea,
• 1:10:45
  Speaker 2: or the way I arranged the candles on the table.
• 1:10:47
  Speaker 2: My agreed shift was 6 to 11 p.m. close, but
• 1:10:51
  Speaker 2: we often didn't finish until gone half eleven, since the
• 1:10:55
  Speaker 2: landlady would let regulars stay longer or extend later orders
• 1:10:59
  Speaker 2: when it was busy, knowing I'd be at work all
• 1:11:01
  Speaker 2: day and was up for work again the next morning.
• 1:11:03
  Speaker 2: I got added to the staff WhatsApp group to keep
• 1:11:06
  Speaker 2: up to date, and it was mostly a stream of
• 1:11:09
  Speaker 2: passive-aggressive essays from the landlady randomly updating the bar rules
• 1:11:12
  Speaker 2: or calling everyone out for how things were being done
• 1:11:15
  Speaker 2: wrong since she didn't actually train anyone properly, it just
• 1:11:18
  Speaker 2: got ignored.
• 1:11:19
  Speaker 3: Instead of planning.
• 1:11:20
  Speaker 2: Cover for events, she expected everyone to pitch in to
• 1:11:23
  Speaker 2: pick up the slack, frequently asking people to stay longer
• 1:11:26
  Speaker 2: or take extra hours with a constant sense of urgency
• 1:11:29
  Speaker 2: and guilt-tripping, like, we really need everyone to pull together, guys.
• 1:11:34
  Speaker 2: Most of the other staff were part-time with other full-time
• 1:11:37
  Speaker 2: jobs or commitments like me. She'd message me individually, asking
• 1:11:41
  Speaker 2: if I could do extra shifts or wait to pitch
• 1:11:43
  Speaker 2: last-minute requests in person, hoping I'd say yes if she
• 1:11:47
  Speaker 2: put me on the spot. A couple of times, I caved.
• 1:11:49
  Speaker 2: And conveniently, those shifts always ended up being the busiest
• 1:11:52
  Speaker 2: and most stressful. There were a handful of people she
• 1:11:55
  Speaker 2: let in who were barred from everywhere else in town.
• 1:11:58
  Speaker 2: She never seemed bothered and wouldn't really support us if
• 1:12:01
  Speaker 2: staff brought up feeling uncomfortable when they came in. In fact,
• 1:12:04
  Speaker 2: she'd often enable them by giving them what they wanted.
• 1:12:07
  Speaker 3: Yeah, no. I'm sorry. If you're, especially at a bar
• 1:12:10
  Speaker 3: or just any place that owns or is selling out,
• 1:12:14
  Speaker 3: you have to make sure that you are, your employees
• 1:12:17
  Speaker 3: are safe. Yeah, your employees are safe and feel safe. Yeah.
• 1:12:21
  Speaker 2: If there's like a weird person, you know, like coming
• 1:12:23
  Speaker 2: every day and, you.
• 1:12:25
  Speaker 3: Know, it's like, oh, I got banned from all the
• 1:12:26
  Speaker 3: other ones. This is the only one that lets me in.
• 1:12:28
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 1:12:28
  Speaker 3: Red flag. Get out. No, no, no. you're out of here.
• 1:12:31
  Speaker 2: Yeah like go drink at home go drink i don't
• 1:12:34
  Speaker 2: know you can't drink here she started leaving staff on
• 1:12:37
  Speaker 2: their own without notice putting her partner in charge while
• 1:12:40
  Speaker 2: she went off on holiday but she knew nothing about
• 1:12:42
  Speaker 2: running the place and would disappear for ages so on
• 1:12:45
  Speaker 2: a busy shift you were totally on your own there
• 1:12:48
  Speaker 2: were so many times i was forced to do things
• 1:12:50
  Speaker 2: i didn't feel safe doing like leaving the bar and
• 1:12:53
  Speaker 2: till completely unattended to make food in the kitchen or
• 1:12:57
  Speaker 2: or lifting massive crates of drinks in empty glass across
• 1:13:00
  Speaker 2: the slippery paved courtyard in the rain. There was no
• 1:13:03
  Speaker 2: planning for the volume of customers, and we could easily
• 1:13:06
  Speaker 2: have 30 plus people packed into the bar area on
• 1:13:09
  Speaker 2: an evening. The last few months, I was under a
• 1:13:11
  Speaker 2: huge amount of unexpected stress from my regular job, so
• 1:13:14
  Speaker 2: I think the landlady could tell I was getting burnt out,
• 1:13:17
  Speaker 2: but she rarely tried to check in. I went through
• 1:13:20
  Speaker 2: a phase of suffering panic attacks quite badly a few
• 1:13:23
  Speaker 2: years ago, and I had my first one in ages
• 1:13:25
  Speaker 2: in the middle of a shift when.
• 1:13:26
  Speaker 3: Nobody was around to help.
• 1:13:27
  Speaker 2: I also kept breaking out in odd rashes, probably from stress.
• 1:13:31
  Speaker 3: Girl, you gotta quit. You simply must quit.
• 1:13:34
  Speaker 2: You're breaking out in hives, girl.
• 1:13:36
  Speaker 3: Yeah, we're out of here.
• 1:13:37
  Speaker 1: You don't owe them anything.
• 1:13:40
  Speaker 3: Yeah. If you are ever in a situation where literally
• 1:13:43
  Speaker 3: you dread, you dread going to work, or you dread
• 1:13:47
  Speaker 3: doing a certain thing to the point where you're Breaking
• 1:13:49
  Speaker 3: down hives? It's not worth it.
• 1:13:52
  Speaker 1: I guarantee you, OP's getting nightmares.
• 1:13:54
  Speaker 3: Oh, for sure.
• 1:13:56
  Speaker 1: I remember with one of my jobs, it was just like,
• 1:13:58
  Speaker 1: why am I having nightmares or dreaming about my job
• 1:14:01
  Speaker 1: and stressing out?
• 1:14:02
  Speaker 3: In high school, my dad signed me up to be
• 1:14:05
  Speaker 3: part of the church choir. Not like the student choir.
• 1:14:08
  Speaker 3: Your dad? The adult choir. So this was like the
• 1:14:11
  Speaker 3: kind of more professional choir and stuff. And you could just, anyways,
• 1:14:14
  Speaker 3: like volunteer. And I was just, I was not a
• 1:14:18
  Speaker 3: good enough singer to be singing that high of a song.
• 1:14:21
  Speaker 3: And they had me sing, like, it was like, it
• 1:14:24
  Speaker 3: was like high. Yeah, yeah, yeah. I mean, it was
• 1:14:26
  Speaker 3: an opera, but they were high songs and they were
• 1:14:29
  Speaker 3: not in my range. And literally every Sunday, dreaded. I
• 1:14:33
  Speaker 3: was like, oh, this is my, like, weekly humiliation. Because
• 1:14:35
  Speaker 3: it's a big church. I'm singing, and I was always
• 1:14:39
  Speaker 3: so quiet. And everyone in the church band, the church group,
• 1:14:42
  Speaker 3: they were nice. But they're always like, sing a little louder.
• 1:14:44
  Speaker 3: I'm like, no. Yeah, I'm like, I can't hear you.
• 1:14:47
  Speaker 3: I'm not singing. I'm not singing. You're not going to
• 1:14:49
  Speaker 3: hear me.
• 1:14:50
  Speaker 2: And the medication for it was making me incredibly nauseous
• 1:14:53
  Speaker 2: if I didn't eat at regular intervals. Which I wasn't doing.
• 1:14:57
  Speaker 3: Or sleeping.
• 1:14:58
  Speaker 2: I kind of hit rock bottom after a horrendous couple
• 1:15:00
  Speaker 2: of weeks at work around November. Big organizational changes dropped
• 1:15:04
  Speaker 2: on us without warning. Multiple days of overtime, more and more,
• 1:15:08
  Speaker 2: piled on me while everyone else involved was conveniently out
• 1:15:11
  Speaker 2: of office. I asked Landley if I could swap out
• 1:15:14
  Speaker 2: my next shift to give me a break. which I
• 1:15:16
  Speaker 2: absolutely hate doing, and she told me she wasn't going
• 1:15:19
  Speaker 2: to be there, so couldn't help me out.
• 1:15:21
  Speaker 3: Aye, aye, aye. She's the worst. And that's when it's like, okay,
• 1:15:25
  Speaker 3: so no one's going to show up then. Yeah. Like,
• 1:15:27
  Speaker 3: we're just not there. I'm not there.
• 1:15:28
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 1:15:29
  Speaker 3: If you can't help me out, I'm not there.
• 1:15:31
  Speaker 2: No one else was available, so I had to go in,
• 1:15:33
  Speaker 2: and it ended up being one of the busiest nights
• 1:15:35
  Speaker 2: I'd had. Her partner, of course, nowhere to be seen,
• 1:15:38
  Speaker 2: so I was left to drown. Within the first hour,
• 1:15:40
  Speaker 2: some of the regulars kept coming to ask if I
• 1:15:42
  Speaker 2: was okay, because I must have looked on the verge
• 1:15:44
  Speaker 2: of a breakdown. I couldn't hold a glass steady or
• 1:15:47
  Speaker 2: make eye contact when they spoke to me. At some point,
• 1:15:50
  Speaker 2: the landlady's.
• 1:15:50
  Speaker 3: Partner decided to appear to grab his coat, told me
• 1:15:53
  Speaker 3: he was.
• 1:15:53
  Speaker 2: Going home to have dinner, and effed off until closing.
• 1:15:57
  Speaker 2: No more than two days later, I got a message
• 1:15:59
  Speaker 2: from the landlady asking if I was available to take
• 1:16:01
  Speaker 2: an extra shift that Saturday, and that broke me. I
• 1:16:04
  Speaker 2: told her no, but that I'd drop in to see
• 1:16:07
  Speaker 2: her after work. I think she could tell something was up,
• 1:16:10
  Speaker 2: because when I came in and asked for a chat,
• 1:16:12
  Speaker 2: she pretty much immediately and bluntly asked if I wanted
• 1:16:14
  Speaker 2: to quit. I was quite stunned by her attitude, not
• 1:16:17
  Speaker 2: sure if she was angry or if I should be
• 1:16:19
  Speaker 2: angry about her being angry, but I kept my cool
• 1:16:22
  Speaker 2: and we had a brief conversation. She didn't put up
• 1:16:24
  Speaker 2: any fight, just offered to keep me on the group
• 1:16:27
  Speaker 2: chat in case I ever wanted to pick up the
• 1:16:29
  Speaker 2: odd shift here and there. I told her I needed
• 1:16:31
  Speaker 2: some time to think about that. I stayed for a
• 1:16:33
  Speaker 2: quick drink and went home to enjoy my weekend off.
• 1:16:36
  Speaker 2: It's been about a month and a half and I
• 1:16:38
  Speaker 2: haven't been in or heard anything from the landlady. Just
• 1:16:41
  Speaker 2: before Christmas... My sister convinced me to go in for
• 1:16:44
  Speaker 2: a drink where I very briefly saw the landlady who
• 1:16:47
  Speaker 2: immediately goes, oh, hi, so when are you coming back then?
• 1:16:52
  Speaker 2: I just laughed it off and ignored her as I
• 1:16:54
  Speaker 2: currently have no intention of going back.
• 1:16:57
  Speaker 3: Yeah, this is, this is crazy.
• 1:17:00
  Speaker 2: I feel really bad for Opie, but it does seem like,
• 1:17:03
  Speaker 2: you know, you're kind of like me. It's like, I
• 1:17:05
  Speaker 2: don't want to screw you, but I also don't feel
• 1:17:10
  Speaker 2: comfortable doing this. but I'm going to do it anyway
• 1:17:14
  Speaker 2: because I feel obligated to.
• 1:17:15
  Speaker 3: That's me. Yeah. And you really just have to, you
• 1:17:19
  Speaker 3: have to stand up for yourself because no one else will.
• 1:17:21
  Speaker 2: And then at that point, there comes a breaking point.
• 1:17:24
  Speaker 3: And that's exactly what happened at my old job.
• 1:17:26
  Speaker 2: There came a breaking point and he was like, you know,
• 1:17:29
  Speaker 2: it's either you do this or this.
• 1:17:32
  Speaker 3: And I was like, yeah, I'm going to do this.
• 1:17:34
  Speaker 3: I'm going, I'm leaving.
• 1:17:35
  Speaker 1: Very easy OP. You go in for your shift, you
• 1:17:39
  Speaker 1: take a drink and you go, I quit.
• 1:17:42
  Speaker 2: Exactly.
• 1:17:43
  Speaker 3: And then you leave. You leave. And it's just like,
• 1:17:45
  Speaker 3: I don't know.
• 1:17:46
  Speaker 2: You don't owe anyone really anything. Even if you are like,
• 1:17:50
  Speaker 2: you know, working at a job, whatever. But if it
• 1:17:53
  Speaker 2: is costing you your literal health, no.
• 1:17:56
  Speaker 3: No.
• 1:17:56
  Speaker 2: If it's costing emotional and physical health, like you were
• 1:18:00
  Speaker 2: getting a rash, you were having nightmares.
• 1:18:01
  Speaker 3: You couldn't even hold a glass without shaking. If any,
• 1:18:08
  Speaker 3: if any time, that is the time to leave. And also, yeah.
• 1:18:10
  Speaker 3: And also customers asking if you're okay. That's how you know. Oh,
• 1:18:16
  Speaker 3: you guys saw that too.
• 1:18:17
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 1:18:18
  Speaker 3: Now it's not just me. Now it's affecting, you know. Yeah.
• 1:18:21
  Speaker 3: The business.
• 1:18:21
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 1:18:22
  Speaker 3: So it's, yeah. We're gone. We gotta be done.
• 1:18:25
  Speaker 2: I've just got back from a weekend away seeing the
• 1:18:27
  Speaker 2: rest of my family and am straight back at work.
• 1:18:30
  Speaker 2: Then I look at my phone and notice a message
• 1:18:32
  Speaker 2: from the landlady asking if I'm free the next day,
• 1:18:35
  Speaker 2: New Year's Eve, to come in and do a shift
• 1:18:37
  Speaker 2: in the middle of the day because apparently she has
• 1:18:39
  Speaker 2: loads of staff off and can't find anyone and she's desperate.
• 1:18:43
  Speaker 1: It's the meme. It's literally the meme of like, can
• 1:18:45
  Speaker 1: you work this day? No.
• 1:18:47
  Speaker 3: There's a meme.
• 1:18:48
  Speaker 1: There's a meme where it's like, hey, can you work
• 1:18:50
  Speaker 1: this day? No. Wait, I want to see that meme.
• 1:18:53
  Speaker 3: No, I can't.
• 1:18:54
  Speaker 1: Pull that up.
• 1:18:55
  Speaker 3: I can't. Pull that up while I read. I'm sorry,
• 1:18:56
  Speaker 3: I can't. I can't do that.
• 1:18:58
  Speaker 2: No.
• 1:18:59
  Speaker 1: Then.
• 1:19:00
  Speaker 2: She tops it off with, and let's have a chat
• 1:19:03
  Speaker 2: about you coming back the new year. I'm completely dumbfounded
• 1:19:06
  Speaker 2: since she's not even reached out until now and it's
• 1:19:09
  Speaker 2: a normal weekday so she knows I'm working. I just
• 1:19:12
  Speaker 2: ignored the message and later noticed it had been deleted
• 1:19:15
  Speaker 2: from the chat history. My sister went in for a
• 1:19:17
  Speaker 2: drink there last night and messaged me saying the landlady
• 1:19:19
  Speaker 2: was asking about me and that she missed me yesterday.
• 1:19:24
  Speaker 3: Sure thing. Why is she acting like, you know, you
• 1:19:27
  Speaker 3: broke up with her and she's like a, you know.
• 1:19:31
  Speaker 2: I just don't like these people who completely take advantage
• 1:19:37
  Speaker 2: of others. That is my number one pet peeve. Besides
• 1:19:41
  Speaker 2: people complaining and doing nothing about it.
• 1:19:43
  Speaker 3: So this will be my second one.
• 1:19:44
  Speaker 2: Is when people take advantage of people who are kind
• 1:19:47
  Speaker 2: and do a good job. It's like, oh, I can
• 1:19:49
  Speaker 2: exploit that. Now I'm going to have you do this
• 1:19:52
  Speaker 2: since you're really good. Now I'm going to have you
• 1:19:53
  Speaker 2: do this. That has been my entire life. Has been like, oh,
• 1:19:57
  Speaker 2: you're really good at this? All right, let's make you
• 1:19:59
  Speaker 2: do five more things until you're burned out and hate this.
• 1:20:02
  Speaker 3: If you just let them, you know, if they let
• 1:20:07
  Speaker 3: you do it, then, yeah. Oh, I have seen that.
• 1:20:10
  Speaker 3: That's crazy. Good luck, though. Damn, that's crazy. We're short-staffed
• 1:20:13
  Speaker 3: for tonight. Oh, that's crazy. Good luck, though. That's crazy.
• 1:20:17
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 1:20:18
  Speaker 3: Just crazy.
• 1:20:18
  Speaker 2: Personally, I don't think I'll be going back in there
• 1:20:21
  Speaker 2: for a good long while.
• 1:20:23
  Speaker 3: Or ever, OP. Please don't go. So go. Stop. It's just, no,
• 1:20:32
  Speaker 3: it's not worth it.
• 1:20:34
  Speaker 2: Why would you go back to a place that has
• 1:20:36
  Speaker 2: caused you so much trauma, has brought back your panic attacks?
• 1:20:40
  Speaker 3: Like, no, I'm all right, actually. You don't need the job.
• 1:20:44
  Speaker 3: I would never, never. You couldn't pay me enough to
• 1:20:47
  Speaker 3: do that. It really feels like OP, like if OP
• 1:20:50
  Speaker 3: ever did consider it, it would just be because they
• 1:20:53
  Speaker 3: felt so pressured.
• 1:20:54
  Speaker 1: Yeah, exactly.
• 1:20:55
  Speaker 3: And that's me.
• 1:20:56
  Speaker 2: It's like I really like I want to say no
• 1:20:58
  Speaker 2: so bad.
• 1:20:59
  Speaker 3: Yeah.
• 1:21:00
  Speaker 2: But I feel obligated and I feel like, you know,
• 1:21:02
  Speaker 2: I feel bad. She is short staffed. You know, nobody
• 1:21:05
  Speaker 2: else can make it. She just needs help for a
• 1:21:07
  Speaker 2: few hours. Like, no, it would be that bad. It
• 1:21:09
  Speaker 2: would be that I have time. Should I put myself
• 1:21:11
  Speaker 2: in this situation? You know, and the answer is no.
• 1:21:15
  Speaker 3: Yeah. The answer is take care of yourself. The answer
• 1:21:16
  Speaker 3: is no. You're good. You're good. Save yourself the trouble
• 1:21:19
  Speaker 3: and save her the trouble. Save her the trouble.
• 1:21:22
  Speaker 2: Like she's just going to literally what would happen if
• 1:21:25
  Speaker 2: you would have went in, Opie, you would have stayed
• 1:21:27
  Speaker 2: till midnight.
• 1:21:28
  Speaker 3: You would have been there.
• 1:21:29
  Speaker 2: You know, it's like it's supposed to be day shift, whatever.
• 1:21:31
  Speaker 2: You start at 11 p.m. You'd probably leave by midnight.
• 1:21:33
  Speaker 2: And then she'd be like, oh, I'm sorry.
• 1:21:35
  Speaker 3: It just was so busy.
• 1:21:36
  Speaker 2: I had to go do things. And then no one
• 1:21:38
  Speaker 2: else can, you know, help out. So no wonder nobody
• 1:21:41
  Speaker 2: wants to work there. Also, New Year's Eve? Yeah.
• 1:21:45
  Speaker 3: No thanks. That's the worst time to go. Yeah, worst
• 1:21:48
  Speaker 3: time to be working in a bar, too. No, sorry.
• 1:21:52
  Speaker 3: I want to throw a New Year's party. But that's
• 1:21:54
  Speaker 3: the end of this story.